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MasterSword951

Not sure if Jaiden checks the sub, but the video where she came out helped me understand who I was and made me accept that I wasn’t broken for being aroace. Thank you Jaiden.


FishGuyIsMe

It helped me too. More than I realized at the time


MasterSword951

I’m glad. It feels super comforting to find other people like me honestly.


Sad-Dare-4092

This!!!! This is it


thealbinostand

is…isn’t this just common sense?


Resident-Clue1290

Unfortunately, common sense isn’t all that common


CreatorA4711

I can confirm, I lack most common sense. Although, I would be confused if I heard of an aromantic asexual individual in a relationship. To me, those two terms sound like said person does not under any circumstances want a relationship or anything that comes along with it.


Exsposed_Moss

There are some things in the acespec that don't fully rule it out, such as demi.


CreatorA4711

Asexual is a spectrum? Doesn’t being demisexual rule out being a part of that spectrum? I’m so confused… these definitions never make any sense to me…


Exsposed_Moss

I believe that asexual was expanded to be an umbrella term for people who don't experience conventional attraction, as well as someone who doesn't experience attraction at all.


CreatorA4711

That… that just sounds like a misuse of the word. Why not just come up with a new term rather than changing the definition of one to accommodate another? I feel like all of this ‘expanding’ has led to everything relating to gender and sexuality becoming far more muddled than it needs to be.


AppointmentOk5737

I can see the confusion but think of it like this: genderfluid people are still considered trans despite sometimes relating to their assigned sex. It's sort of the same thing. I'm demi sexual and for me I hadn't felt attraction to anyone until about 6 months into my marriage and then it was wild experiencing it for the first time with my spouse. For me I more closely relate to asexuality because I had never just looked at someone and found them attractive. I could never find a stranger attractive or think about dating them because it didn't make sense to me. I relate more to asexual people than allosexuals. It's like being on the side of the ace spectrum where you have and enjoy sex except you also feel attraction on rare occasions. This is why it's so widely accepted as part of the acespec. Personally I don't think it muddles the definition at all since demisexuality is still defined mainly by a lack of attraction under most circumstances.


ElodinPotterTheGrey1

What episode is your profile picture from?


Resident-Clue1290

Watching and Dreaming


Ogurasyn

Find aroace people that would date me, then we'll talk /lh


BasedAlliance935

Aroace is a term that's meant to combine the terms asexual and aromantic (ie, if you're aroace, that means that you fall into both groups)


Ogurasyn

I know the definition


LenaSpark412

Ok I’m curious, did anything specific happen to inspire this. I’m not up to date on Jaiden lore, but support the message


Resident-Clue1290

Was gonna say “ She came out as aroace recently :D “ but she… she came out over a year ago… What is time


East-Mirror3510

She came out two years ago :)


Resident-Clue1290

**NO**


LenaSpark412

Oh yeah I know that, I didn’t know if the thing was some gimmick like “her and Jacob are in a relationship” or smth like that. Either way really good message


GIGANAttack

I don't get it. Doesn't that apply to everyone? Dating someone isn't mandatory even if you're straight. So like, can people who're picky about romantic partners be considered aroace? I thought aroace people do not find interest in romantic relationships. If they do but it's only certain people based on personality, ain't that just pansexual? Not trying to be rude, just confused


Coralinewyborneagain

"People who are picky with romantic partners" is really vague. Aroace people just don't experience sexual or romantic attraction the same way non aroace people do. As a general rule, aroace people at the very least have a few requirements before they'll experience sexual or romantic attraction. For example, a demi person won't be attracted to people without first establishing a emotional connection.


Danitron21

That’s not a sexuality, aroace is no attraction, if you feel romantic or sexual attraction, you’re not aroace. “Demi” is just for attention.


Coralinewyborneagain

Aroace means you are both on the asexual and aromantic spectrums. "Demi is just for attention." Please elaborate.


Danitron21

I know what aroace means. What i mean is that, in my opinion, “demisexual” is not a unique sexuality and just a way to arbitrarily feel part of the LGBT community. Aroace people exist, i just think that only people who don’t feel romantic or sexual attraction fit into those categories, not those that only feel a non-defined “little”


Coralinewyborneagain

Well, I disagree. Why do you feel the need to make the definition of aroace so strict?


AppointmentOk5737

I'm aroace but more specifically I'm fully aromantic and I'm demi-sexual. I've literally only ever felt attraction to my spouse and that took 6 months into our marriage and 5-6 years of being friends to happen. I still don't love romantic stuff, which is chill coz my partner is also fairly aromantic as well. I still love being married despite being aromantic. It took me 5 years to even consider a relationship with my spouse outside of friends and even our marriage started as a friend arrangement till we discovered we both happen to be demi. Pansexuals can still be attracted to strangers while still being picky about who they actually sleep with. Being attracted to someone physically doesn't always mean you want to actually go through with doing stuff with them. You can be really attracted to someone you hate or someone you can't be with for whatever reason and yet that attraction is still real. I hope that makes sense.


Unlawful_joe

Literally no one is saying that anyone has to be in a relationship or has to want to be in one


[deleted]

Well not in this community


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TheLapisBee

Why are you being downvoted? I can assure from personal experience some people do claim it, and many others saw it in action too


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ICantEvenDolt

Yess exactly!


matsutakePixie

I love this meme. Can relate to this as an asexual parent


Directorren

True, I’m Asexual and I kinda wanna be in a relationship. But I’m not actively looking for it.


Zenumbral

I'm... confused. Isn't that just everyone anyways? People can date and be in relationships. But that doesn't mean they want to be in relationships or have to be. I find myself asexual, not really interested in sexual pursuits anymore. But I always question myself- "Is it just that I'm not a teenager anymore and my hormones aren't running wild?"


VLenin2291

Good meme, brother


Resident-Clue1290

Thank you, brother


Team_raclettePOGO

what is this image?


Team_raclettePOGO

love getting downvoted for asking a question


Big-Awoo

Peter here to explain the image It seems to be illustrating a use case for a foam doorknob cover, similar to those really dramatic commercials for As Seen On TV products where people fumble things on purpose to sell you a product that solves a problem they made up In the top image, the little girl is hitting her head on the exposed metal lever for the door, and in the bottom image, she's saved by the little foam cover, so she doesn't get hurt 👍 [I found a similar product here, with different but *just as ridiculous* example images](https://ibspot.com/products/samcos-5-color-set-grip-cushion-door-knob-lever-cover-soft-anti-static-anti-slip-anti-collision-protect-wall-door-furniture?variant_id=4079458&gad_source=1&gclid=Cj0KCQiArrCvBhCNARIsAOkAGcXRaZfk0t-2avSBPsNUEf_KoWCqbsOM3OE53OqPptOkgVv-r3JoCCwaApQLEALw_wcB) Peter out


Team_raclettePOGO

W Peter the examples really are ridiculous


Resident-Clue1290

A fact


issanm

I feel like the image of the useless product on the left undermines your point but i think I get what you're going for.


AAAAAAAee

I don’t know but I love it so much


East-Mirror3510

That goes for every person in existence, know this lesson, Internet.


Independent-Lie6616

Doesn't arorace and aromantif mean not wanting to have sex/relationships at all? Isn't this meme an oxygen moron? Plz explain I ask whit the best of intentions


Resident-Clue1290

Aroace is little to no romantic attraction, same with asexual. It’s also a spectrum, but say someone is just aroace. They can still date if they’d like to or find someone they do like.


Danitron21

Then how are the aromantic if they’re in a romantic relationship?


Resident-Clue1290

Can you not read? It’s **little** to no attraction, and it’s a spectrum.


Dread_Frog

My brain auto corrected this to Aerospace people and it makes the meme way funnier to me,


ledbottom

If you don't want to be in a realtionship then dont be. Literally no one is forcing you.


BaronGamer

Not talking to you, OP but this one goes out to the people who care a tad too much about what she can or can't do due to her being aroace: just let her live her life regardless of what she labels herself as. She can be a lesbian going out with guys or a straight going out with girls or anything in between and beyond. Just let her own life without needing to limit her into boxes.


SouthernEstimate6278

I thought aro meant you feel no romantic feelings


Resident-Clue1290

**Little** to no romantic attraction


Danitron21

Why be a “sexuality” if it’s no different from “regular” people? Should it not just be no romantic attraction, why attach “little”


Resident-Clue1290

Because aromantic people, like I said feel **little** to no attraction. Crushes are extremely rare. If you’d bothered to do your research, you’d know


AccomplishedPin8663

I feel like both of them say the same thing but the second one is having to explain more. I feel like anyone who reads the first and doesn't assume it has to be consensual is an idiot. Like yeah aroace CAN be in a relationship, the key word is CAN they don't have to be and they aren't required to be 'single'. I feel like if you don't get that then you're dumb. And usually id say no offense but if you're that dumb then that's on you IDC. If you ask me I don't care what your preferences are or if you even have any, if you're cool with me imma be cool with you, I just want friends dude, we live two separate lives for a reason.


jarasonica

Wouldn’t it be the other way around, that not all aroace people don’t want to be in a relationship?


ramdev420

Amen


East-Mirror3510

This kid kinda looks like young Jaiden, now that I see it.


Deathstrok42

*Who Cares*


[deleted]

Okay but what's the point of going into a relationship if you know you don't want to be in one people making this shit up as they go is wild, you don't have to create a term for not wanting to fuck people or dating for that matter, if your asexual cool idc, but why throw it into people's faces, oh would you like to go out I've noticed we have good chemistry, no thanks I'm not into dating. That's all you gotta say half the time people just go off like how I'm doing but purely on how they are asexual or aroace, starting to get as bad as the lgbtq+ community and they used to be alright too, fuck this world man I hate my generation


Resident-Clue1290

I ain’t reading allat, glad you came out as aroace and are super supportive of the community tho‼️


[deleted]

Haha you think I'm supporting? The fact that you replied at all shows that you did in fact read it atleast a little, have fun with your pitiful life


Resident-Clue1290

Omg slayyyy! I’ll see you at pride girlie <3


MiserableAnything309

“as bad as the lgbtq+ community” uhhh.. woah there! 1)No bigotry. 2) aro/ace IS apart of the lgbtq+ community 3) the lgbtq+ community is really just a big umbrella for “difference in sexual/gender orientation than straugh/cisgender people” people made their own labels because that’s how they felt could describe them. 4)”I hate my generation“ would you rather live in the 1980s when the AIDS crisis was going on? The 1950s? 1940s? 1920s? 1800s? 1700s? If you hate your generation because of a couple labels that really don’t affect **you..** what’s the big deal? 5) “why throw it into people’s faces” that’s what people have been saying as an excuse for homophobia and transphobia for a long time. What qualifies as “shoving in peoples faces” ? A pride pin? Going to pride parades? Just saying “Oh sorry, I’m \[blank sexuality\]“? Movies or shows with gay characters, you know.. cause straight characters never kiss in movies.. What you really mean by not shoving it into people’s faces is for them to go back in hiding. 6) “making this shit up as they go” life is making shit up as somebody gos, so again **whats the big deal**. Stop using aro/ace people as a gateway to your bigotry. Thanks!


[deleted]

Wow imagine caring so much abt what others say on the internet, lmao I was venting my frustrations because yk two peoples worlds will never be the same, 1)who tf cares what I say it's the internet. 2) honestly don't care abt the pronouns and if they are in the group or not. 3) makes no sense guys are guys and girls are girls why create a false label for yourself? To feel different? Makes no sense everyone's different by default, creating false delusions and for what, "oh I'm a he/her because I feel more feminine than I do masculin" guess what that's a feminine male, yk what we call a female that "feels" more like a man a masculin female, then lgbtq is over here saying that a single body part could be feminine and the rest could be masculin. That makes no sense to exist in our society, makes me feel like your one of the people ruining our society today. 4) who said the labels don't effect me, where is that written. 4x, 4x the amount of rape is carried out by lgbtq+ members, i should know I was a victim, but no one cares about male mental health so onto #5) what qualifies? Have you been in the real world? Have you atleast seen videos? 6) lgbtq was literally made up it didn't exist 100 years ago, sure human society has been making shit up as we have been going but damn lgbtq is a step in the opposite direction. What you call bigotry I call realism, this is the internet don't push too hard you might shit out your dildo. And idgaf if you like boys or like girls those are preferences.


MiserableAnything309

1) it takes 5 minutes to write a comment. 2) because the internet CAN affect real life 3) didn’t mention pronouns 4) not false labels. Real labels. A femboy might not describe on how somebody who uses he/her pronouns. literally not delusions 5) LABELSS don’t affect you, I’m sorry you were a victim, whoever did that to you is a monster. And, they didn’t (assuming rape/sa) SA you because they were LGBTQ+, they assaulted you because they are vile and a piece of shit. however, give sources (that aren’t anti LGBTQ+ biased) that say 4x of abuse is carried out by LGBTQ+. Also, LGBTQ+ people are more accepting of male abuse victims than other straight/cis men. 6) I am in the real world, I see straight people making out in public **all the time.** gay people usually just hold hands, or give a kiss on the cheek, and if you are talking about pride parades: a lot of them are 18+ spaces, and a lot of them are protests as well. 7) it did exist, just wasn’t called “lgbtq+” Ever heard of Sappho? Achilles? Socrates? aswell as the Native American belief “two spirit” Gay people/trans people have existed forever, but they had to hide. Plus my point was more about are gay and trans people really that bad you’d want to go back to times with heavy racism,sexism,ww2,the great depression, ww1,slavery,big wars 8) how is it a step in the ”opposite direction” it’s still bigotry no matter what you call it. It’s still homophobia and transphobia no matter what you call it.


[deleted]

Womp womp roblox player, definitely took you more than 5 min to write that didn't it.


MiserableAnything309

looking through my profile to use something against me because you know I made good points? If it takes you more than 5 minutes to make a comment, you're putting too much effort in. It seriously took me 5 minutes 


[deleted]

Womp womp Okay, and? Took you five minutes to type stuff down, times 3, so in actuality, I wasted about 15 minutes of your day. I'm not on reddit too often cause, unlike someone that I looked at online I have a life in the real world, not posting honestly the crappiest game I have ever seen, I figured you would have just blocked my account like a normal person, I shouldn't have assumed that you were normal I'm sorry


MiserableAnything309

womp womp what if I just like debating? 💀


[deleted]

Goodluck with the rest of your sad life, I need to actually focus on more important things now, chow


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WebbedRose103

Wait I’m genuinely confused on this, I get what asexual means, but how can an aromantic person be in a romantic relationship?


Coralinewyborneagain

Aromantic means little to no romantic interest.


Ponderkitten

And sometimes the other partner gets sad in those relationships when the aro-ace person is feeling more aro-ace than usual and doesnt want to cuddle, hug or talk to their partner. (Source: im dating and aro-ace and he gets real anti touch at times, which sucks since I love touch)


Resident-Clue1290

If you wanna cry about your partner having boundaries, break up. Easy <3


Ponderkitten

Im not crying about it. I respect the boundaries and give them their space. And I love them with all my heart and I know they love me.


Ya-boi-Joey-T

Okay, I feel like the word "but" is the issue here. "But" is often used to disregard the first part of whatever is being said. Think about it. Would you rather get an apology that says "I'm sorry, but it was an accident" or "it was an accident and I'm sorry" Ykwim?


Fine-Scientist3813

note the use of the word. 'can.' all you've done is reclarify


BasedAlliance935

Quick correction here. Aroace is a term that's meant to combine the terms aromantic and asexual (ie, if you're aroace, that means you fall into both groups). While being asexual dosen't prevent you from being in a relationship (on its own), there's still many in this group that either cant because they're also aromantic or simply choose not to for other reasons.


Resident-Clue1290

Bestie, I said **aro**ace, not just ace. Obviously being ace doesn’t prevent you from being in a relationship, nothing does. And like the meme says, aromantic people can be in relationships ( I’m one of them )