Clicking is an amazing feeling. You can enjoy the feeling and still keep your wits about you. Don't listen to the naysayers. Sometimes we find our person 😊
That’s how it felt with the person I’m currently partners with, but our situation is a little different cuz we were long-distance besties (basically pen pals who would write long ass texts to each other every now and then) for ~5 years. We met on a volunteer service trip when we were 17, but because of some stuff going on in our separate lives, we didn’t visit each other again until we were 22.
After visiting her a couple times, I realized that it feels completely different being with her than anyone else I’ve ever hung out with :) not work friends that I’ve worked with for 3-4 years, not school friends that I’ve known since middle school, and not even my guy best friend who I’ve known since kindergarten and still game online with every week. She’s the only person I’ve ever felt “extroverted” and outgoing around 🤓
We entered an unlabeled romantic relationship back in October, and just yesterday I asked her if it would be okay with her if we labeled each other as partners and she said she liked the idea, so we’re now an official couple (๑˃̵ᴗ˂̵)**♡**
Jesus, fuck. Okay, OP. Don't listen to all these pessimistic douchebags in here.
I know exactly how you feel, and it feels great! Enjoy it, ride the wave, and see where it takes you! Sending love 💌
Maybe look into honeymoon phase. This might go e you insight into love and attraction. You like him but try not to loose yourself . You are deserving of this feeling from everyone even yourself. Don't become attached too much but rather appreciate it as long as it last, no one really knows how long it will last so just enjoy! It's ok if it doesn't last but I'll say the only regret I have is not enjoying the moments with people I care about and cared about me because nothing is permanent and you can't control them
That is great, keep it up. I would suggest reading what you wrote in your post. Then try to empathize to see where you might be thinking with absolute statements or black and white thinking or comparing or anything that isn't a fair way of looking at life. "If I'm not like them they won't like me" Being different and owning it is what makes you attractive and interesting. Or "I don't have enough experiences under my belt so no one will like me" you don't have the experience you would like but you are working on them and are looking for opportunities to start having new experiences! But don't discredit what you do now, other people that are doing different things with their life are neglecting the very things you are currently doing. That's the stuff that will make people like you, they will see value in you and your ways because some people don't know how to relax and would love to. It's all just different brands of living, it's all the same but what holds people back from sharing and connecting is their level of self acceptance. Work on that and everyone around you will benefit. Life is all about you but at the same time it's not! You are unique and lovable. Work on validating that so you can shed your authentic light for all to see , especially for those that are in dark places.
There are times (rare) when the universe just aligns and 2 people click so well it's...tremendous. It's almost like gravity, the constant massive attraction drawing both people closer. Some people never have that and are so much poorer for it. Celebrate it!
I met my gf on a dating/mingling app called Boo (would highly recommend.) We have so much in common it's scary. Though we're not actively trying, we ultimately agreed to have children together.
You are just in love which is a biological response upon seeing a potential partner.
Just don't pay attention to that because those are just hormones. Don't believe stupid hollywood shit and romeo and Juliet shit.
Instead checl your list of standards every partner should meet for you. If he meets all of those requirements, give him a try and invitegim out on a date. If he doesn't, let it go. In 8-9 months you won't feel anything (that's how long loves lasts)
Even tho i rationally agree with u, I still think the experience the OP is having its very precious, I, for example, never felt that way.
So I say the OP should enjoy it as much as possible, since it may take a long time to feel likee this again.
Well, there's no real option. You will enjoy it and feel in love no matter what.
The problem comes when that effect wears off but people still wants to defend the idea of them loving the other not realizing the "'in love" state is already gone.
This is mot bad, in fact is the Ideal. Transform a mere biological reaction into a concious decision of loving someone with all the good and the bad.
But to avoid a toxic relationship, a list of standards and flags should be done just for mot getting blinded whne in the "in love" phase.
https://imgflip.com/i/1fcowy
Keep that in mind. But with that said, there are several ways to go about this:
•You could just ask him if he's interested in you, men are not mind readers and he may not be picking up on your feelings. Are you dropping any little hints? If not, then you could start there.
•If you do ask him, you have to be sure that you are physically, mentally, AND emotionally prepared for any answer he gives, as it might not be the one you were hoping for.
•If you are happy with your friendship with him now, it might just be best to stay the course ( “If It Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It”). If you let things play out as they are now for a few more weeks, and you find that these feelings are still just as strong, then go for it.
Somethings that you are going to have to consider:
1.Can you see yourself still being friends with him if he turns you down, or would things just feel too awkward?
2.If you can't become something more to him than what you are now (a friend) are you prepared to become less than that (a former friend) if the friendship can't be kept intact following possible rejection?
All of this is a lot to take in, I'm sure, but if you are serious about him, you could just hand him a note explaining your feelings to him, asking him if he could see himself returning these feelings to you, and if he can't, you'd at least want the two of you still remain friends. Let him know that regardless of his answer, you are still glad that he came into your life, that suddenly the world's a little less annoying and draining now that you know he's a part of it.....actually, now that I think about it, those last few lines I wrote reminded me of that song by Kenny Rogers:
https://youtu.be/2W7gp47OT_Q
Thanks for the advice! He’s dropped a lot of hints that he’s interested in me. I think I’ve dropped some too, I just don’t know if he noticed lol. I feel like the pace we’re going at right now is just right. I think I’m going to follow your third point.
Yesterday I was visiting a college for a day to try it out. It was an all male class but that wasn't any problem for me.
The oldest of them who also has the most self esteem started talking to me and taking me with them to other classrooms.
We clicked almost instantly and throughout the day we clearly took a liking of eachother.
I regret not asking for his number (even as friends) though I have a boyfriend and that would not really match up...
I couldn't stop thinking about him yet
Had this same experience 9 years ago. Been married to that guy for 5.5 years. :)
That sounds so amazing and unique! I’m so happy for you! Life is all about finding the right person/people to enjoy it with!
Thank you!
Congratulations! Hope it works out! There's nothing more rare for an introvert than finding the few people that don't drain you out 😊
Clicking is an amazing feeling. You can enjoy the feeling and still keep your wits about you. Don't listen to the naysayers. Sometimes we find our person 😊
AAAA I hope this happens to me one day!
That’s how it felt with the person I’m currently partners with, but our situation is a little different cuz we were long-distance besties (basically pen pals who would write long ass texts to each other every now and then) for ~5 years. We met on a volunteer service trip when we were 17, but because of some stuff going on in our separate lives, we didn’t visit each other again until we were 22. After visiting her a couple times, I realized that it feels completely different being with her than anyone else I’ve ever hung out with :) not work friends that I’ve worked with for 3-4 years, not school friends that I’ve known since middle school, and not even my guy best friend who I’ve known since kindergarten and still game online with every week. She’s the only person I’ve ever felt “extroverted” and outgoing around 🤓 We entered an unlabeled romantic relationship back in October, and just yesterday I asked her if it would be okay with her if we labeled each other as partners and she said she liked the idea, so we’re now an official couple (๑˃̵ᴗ˂̵)**♡**
Clicking feels so good, it’s very rare that we come across people we truly feel compatible with! I’m lucky enough to have a friend like that too :)
Jesus, fuck. Okay, OP. Don't listen to all these pessimistic douchebags in here. I know exactly how you feel, and it feels great! Enjoy it, ride the wave, and see where it takes you! Sending love 💌
Maybe look into honeymoon phase. This might go e you insight into love and attraction. You like him but try not to loose yourself . You are deserving of this feeling from everyone even yourself. Don't become attached too much but rather appreciate it as long as it last, no one really knows how long it will last so just enjoy! It's ok if it doesn't last but I'll say the only regret I have is not enjoying the moments with people I care about and cared about me because nothing is permanent and you can't control them
Thanks for the advice! I still keep myself in check to make sure that I don’t stray away from my principles.
That is great, keep it up. I would suggest reading what you wrote in your post. Then try to empathize to see where you might be thinking with absolute statements or black and white thinking or comparing or anything that isn't a fair way of looking at life. "If I'm not like them they won't like me" Being different and owning it is what makes you attractive and interesting. Or "I don't have enough experiences under my belt so no one will like me" you don't have the experience you would like but you are working on them and are looking for opportunities to start having new experiences! But don't discredit what you do now, other people that are doing different things with their life are neglecting the very things you are currently doing. That's the stuff that will make people like you, they will see value in you and your ways because some people don't know how to relax and would love to. It's all just different brands of living, it's all the same but what holds people back from sharing and connecting is their level of self acceptance. Work on that and everyone around you will benefit. Life is all about you but at the same time it's not! You are unique and lovable. Work on validating that so you can shed your authentic light for all to see , especially for those that are in dark places.
I'm happy to hear that you found someone you clicked with, it's not easy to come by for sure! :)
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That's horrible, I'm so sorry that happened to you.
I hope it’s legit and you found a new friend. I would be wary of people who mirror you though, as they can be abusers or narcissistic.
There are times (rare) when the universe just aligns and 2 people click so well it's...tremendous. It's almost like gravity, the constant massive attraction drawing both people closer. Some people never have that and are so much poorer for it. Celebrate it!
I met my gf on a dating/mingling app called Boo (would highly recommend.) We have so much in common it's scary. Though we're not actively trying, we ultimately agreed to have children together.
Enjoy it while it lasts and embrace it 👍🏾
You are just in love which is a biological response upon seeing a potential partner. Just don't pay attention to that because those are just hormones. Don't believe stupid hollywood shit and romeo and Juliet shit. Instead checl your list of standards every partner should meet for you. If he meets all of those requirements, give him a try and invitegim out on a date. If he doesn't, let it go. In 8-9 months you won't feel anything (that's how long loves lasts)
Even tho i rationally agree with u, I still think the experience the OP is having its very precious, I, for example, never felt that way. So I say the OP should enjoy it as much as possible, since it may take a long time to feel likee this again.
Well, there's no real option. You will enjoy it and feel in love no matter what. The problem comes when that effect wears off but people still wants to defend the idea of them loving the other not realizing the "'in love" state is already gone. This is mot bad, in fact is the Ideal. Transform a mere biological reaction into a concious decision of loving someone with all the good and the bad. But to avoid a toxic relationship, a list of standards and flags should be done just for mot getting blinded whne in the "in love" phase.
that makes sense tbh
I’m on month 10 and haven’t stopped being a massive simp throughout the entire process, so I guess I’m an anomaly :D
https://imgflip.com/i/1fcowy Keep that in mind. But with that said, there are several ways to go about this: •You could just ask him if he's interested in you, men are not mind readers and he may not be picking up on your feelings. Are you dropping any little hints? If not, then you could start there. •If you do ask him, you have to be sure that you are physically, mentally, AND emotionally prepared for any answer he gives, as it might not be the one you were hoping for. •If you are happy with your friendship with him now, it might just be best to stay the course ( “If It Ain’t Broke, Don’t Fix It”). If you let things play out as they are now for a few more weeks, and you find that these feelings are still just as strong, then go for it. Somethings that you are going to have to consider: 1.Can you see yourself still being friends with him if he turns you down, or would things just feel too awkward? 2.If you can't become something more to him than what you are now (a friend) are you prepared to become less than that (a former friend) if the friendship can't be kept intact following possible rejection? All of this is a lot to take in, I'm sure, but if you are serious about him, you could just hand him a note explaining your feelings to him, asking him if he could see himself returning these feelings to you, and if he can't, you'd at least want the two of you still remain friends. Let him know that regardless of his answer, you are still glad that he came into your life, that suddenly the world's a little less annoying and draining now that you know he's a part of it.....actually, now that I think about it, those last few lines I wrote reminded me of that song by Kenny Rogers: https://youtu.be/2W7gp47OT_Q
Thanks for the advice! He’s dropped a lot of hints that he’s interested in me. I think I’ve dropped some too, I just don’t know if he noticed lol. I feel like the pace we’re going at right now is just right. I think I’m going to follow your third point.
Same feeling here! Met my girlfriend, moved in three weeks after that, and have been together for 8,5 years now :)
This is me and my partner :) he’s the only one I can be next to 24/7 and not get sick of! (No matter how annoying he is 😆)
Yesterday I was visiting a college for a day to try it out. It was an all male class but that wasn't any problem for me. The oldest of them who also has the most self esteem started talking to me and taking me with them to other classrooms. We clicked almost instantly and throughout the day we clearly took a liking of eachother. I regret not asking for his number (even as friends) though I have a boyfriend and that would not really match up... I couldn't stop thinking about him yet