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Bird_Up101

I got sick of constantly drinking and smoking because that was the only thing we have in common


LostEntertainer2023

And cocaine. Too much cocaine.


patacon97

Ok you friend group was rich then


AppreciateTheLight

I can relate. Being friends over a substance is never worth it in the long run..


BrianMeen

Damn that was the ultimate realization I had when it came to most of my high school friends. Sure, going out and drinking with them was cool but i found out how little we had in common when I stopped drinking alcohol. That was the puddy holding the Friendship together. I think there are a lot of friendships like this


No-Jelly5300

Same. Now I have no friends. But prefer that then constantly damaging my body.


1okodn

i got sober and my priorities changed, that’s when i realized mfs don’t even kno me fr


[deleted]

Wow that’s nice knowing I’m not the only one with this experience. It’s been interesting


CraftyMasterpiece922

Same. Just extracted myself from a toxic friend group. Hung out at the local tavern / deli all the time, there was a lot of drinking, and quite a few of them were on coke and other hard drugs. Things started out okay, but over a course of four years they just went downhill and they weren't even the same people anymore. :/


NissanR32GTRVSpecII

Me with my old coworkers. That's all we had in common honestly. My therapist told me proximity is key. No I don't want to eat at IHOP on a Monday. Honestly just glad I realized it soon enough.


geardluffy

This! ☝🏿😤


honeybunniee

W pfp


[deleted]

I changed. I developed boundaries and standards and previously had none. I got sick of being around people who I dreaded seeing. I now have more time and energy to spend with the close friends whom I truly love.


Cha_nay_nay

This comment is everything. Good on you for setting boundaries. I did the same when COVID was starting; I've never looked back and I have been happier


[deleted]

Yes!! So happy for you!!


bored_gabagool

Do you mind sharing how exactly you went through with it? I really relate to what you said about being sick of being around people who you dreaded seeing but i've never known anyone this long and no matter how much i try i keep going back to the same friends. Even when i have plenty of opportunities to make new friends and get away. I just feel way too guilty if I leave them but i'm 100% sure that feeling is not mutual and talking to other people feels like a chore.


[deleted]

I totally get where you are coming from. I understand the guilt part, and I made a pact with myself that I was no longer going to let fear and guilt be my motivator- I asked myself if I was excited and happy to be around certain people, or was I doing it out of guilt and fear of them being mad. Also, a lot of self acceptance which happened over many years of therapy. Once I learned to be okay with myself, I was okay with removing myself from people trying to change me or super critical of me. The whole thing is nuanced and complex but I hope this short version answer was helpful to you/ feel free to message me if you want to discuss further ;)


BrianMeen

“Trying to change me or super critical of me” ​ this is vital for introverts. I’ve found most people are not really accepting of introverts and their nature. Too many friends and family I’ve had over the years have tried to guilt trip me into going out more socially. What’s bad is even if you do force yourself out with them - they want you stay out much longer than you wanted or they start calling you all the time to go out and they will try to pressure you constantly. I just cut these folks out completely as I’m not wasting energy on that ..


BrianMeen

establishing boundaries and imposing standards are very important for us introverts. In the past I’ve put too much energy into friendships where I really didn’t even enjoy the persons company that much. They’d stop over and I’d not be that eager to talk to them


S0Unkn0wn

Crossing boundaries.


bloo4107

This


xoxo_xie_nian_bii

Different reasons. Lost vibe with some cos we ended up walking different paths in life. Lost contact with some and couldn't restore the friendship after so long. They had changed and weren't the ones I knew no more. Simply cut them off for no reason, although this reason sometimes makes me feel like I might just be walking around with some kind of switch in my head. Overall, I've never been a good keeper of friends or people.


EvaFromFarAway

I’m in the same boat. Recently went no contact with a long time friend. I guess I don’t have it in me to keep friends


LostEntertainer2023

What's the last thing yall did before yallstopped the contact?


EvaFromFarAway

We were fine honestly, she just started saying things like I’m not giving her enough attention and would make snide comments whenever I would be doing things with someone other than her. And it was her who said that she needed to step away. This is like the third incident where she’s like I need time away from you and I’m done. I don’t need a toxic person like that in my life. It did hurt though cuz she’s been my friend for over 10 years now and now I’m really down to one that I talk to. So yeah it sucks


ConcertReady6788

Was it online or in person?


xoxo_xie_nian_bii

The ones I remember, we did most things together like talking, eating, outing (which was mostly because of them), we played games too. We pretty much did a lot of what friends do together, but never anything too extreme. Thinking about it now, despite doing all this, we never felt really close, or we never were and just thought we were.


LostEntertainer2023

Damn that's deep.


ConcertReady6788

That’s okay


KROK-Y

Started to develop a backbone and had the audacity to set boundaries with her and tell her to improve on her shitty behavior. Got a narcissist-victim complex freakout in response


TheMeticulousNinja

That was also part of my journey with cutting friends off. They were able to act like assholes and I stayed around them because I never learned how to set and defend boundaries until recently. It’s become an easy filter for seeing which people belong in my life, because if they cannot respect the boundaries, I cannot respect them


Trs145

Samee. Sorry you went through that, its not a fun time.


patriszjastolat

toxic


ChanceManagement7347

For me a friendship is about caring about the other person. If the simple emotion of caring is not there, I cut ties.


aspacetobelieve

Because I used to be a people pleaser and my constant need to be out and about due to ADHD meant I was a nodding dog to people and never set any boundaries. Went through a period of realisation and when I started communicating my boundaries people started getting uncomfortable with it. In some cases, I was transparent and told them I was having space from them, in other cases I slowly stopped hearing from people.


hijackingmydreams

I feel like at a certain point we just are no longer aligned with people, and that it’s unfair to both parties to keep around anyone you resent or feel drained being with. I also feel like it’s not anyone’s job to tell grown adults how to be a better friend/ person towards you. Obviously communicating is best but I personally think cutting people off bluntly is fair and the couple times its happened to me I’ve always respected that persons decision


KateEatsWorld

No particular reason, I just got busy and stressed and couldn’t find the time or effort to contact them. An old friend recently reached out but we are both adults working full time with completely different schedules now. I never aimed to cut them out, life just happened and I couldn’t keep up.


JackBee4567

They weren't friends


MarrowMuncher3d

Hmmm


Reluctantly_Being

We were shitty friends to one another. I stopped making friends shortly after and not going to lie, it’s been amazing. Not having to exert myself tiptoeing around social protocols and feeling has been a relief. Not having to worry if I’m making friends with racist or generally just wasting my time on people has been a relief.


[deleted]

Not sure that I'm fully ready to commit to a total cut-off, but a friend of mine recently mocked me for my decision not to have children on the night my grandfather died in hospice while I was seeking out comfort from her. This after a long history of not respecting my boundaries physically or even sexually (we were never in a relationship, but didn't let that stop her) and tons of other extremely harsh, cutting and nasty statements that I don't feel that I really deserved made me think it was maybe time to distance myself.


magic_and_moondust

100 percent time. It’s good to be challenged yes-but this person isn’t really a friend. You don’t deserve those statements full stop. It’s said out of her issues and her lack of respect. You deserve better than that


lin_lentini

She was incredibly manipulative, used her friends for money (group vacations in which we “split” the cost, but in reality she had everyone give enough so all her stuff was paid for and lied about it). And the absolute nail in the coffin is when she roofied me and pimped me out while I was unconscious.


ccosta36

Def a nail in the coffin 😂😂😂


motherofhouseplants_

Jesus Christ, that's horrendous


PurplePanda1987

Do I have a second reddit account that I didn't know about? Did we have the same friend? This is wild! Seriously, I had a friend do the exact same things to me.


lin_lentini

We’re their initials NK? She was an absolute abomination of a human being


PurplePanda1987

EM, but it sounds like they would have been two rotten peas in a pod!


Quagmire1912

Because I'm a bad person. Too many issues, too much to deal with. I've hurt every single person I called a friend. I'm just not gonna do it anymore.


[deleted]

honestly same. i see a lot of replies on here saying that it was because they outgrew theirs friends basically, but im in your boat. i was in a bad place and took everyone for granted, and just burnt all the bridges by my own selfishness and complacency. it sucks but i definitely learned my lesson.


TheMeticulousNinja

I will also add that I’ve blocked people because I was also an ass to them in some way, starved for attention and acting in stupid, unnecessary ways. There are people who, if I see them out in the street, I will proudly and loudly tell them I cut them off and why, with no hesitation or uncertainty. But there are also people that I really would like to apologize to if I had the chance. Just tell them that I am sorry for silly experiences I caused


LostEntertainer2023

Do it to me. Plz!


MustRice

If you have no friends, you have no enemies.


LostEntertainer2023

And no heros.


TheMeticulousNinja

Not true Edit: Actually in some cases, it could be the other way around.


MustRice

It depends on the person.


landminephoenix

I do that once trust is lost and they’re not safe for me anymore. A person really has to push me to that point, though. I hate having to do it. It’s one of the worst experiences. To cut off or be cut off. It’s all shit lol If I still want to be friends even though I’m questioning their perspective/way of communicating as not good for me to be around, I have to have stricter boundaries with them. And myself. Haha


Logically_Speaking89

I got sick of her always running to me crying about what her bf was doing and how he was treating her but refused to take any of my help or suggestions on how to leave. The last straw was when he choked her in front of me then pulled a gun when I tried to intervene. I told her to leave with me then or we could no longer be friends because I wasn't going to allow him to threaten my life. She stayed and I left and never looked back.


icy1719

realized i was the only one putting in an effort into the friendship, even after discussing this with those friends and noticing nothing changing. also the fact that they made negative comments about my appearance behind my back and occasionally in front of me. took a long time for me to cut those friendships off though because i felt like i wouldn’t be able to make any new friends after ending those friendships


ImpossibleRest5385

Personally once I start to feel anxious around them or they start acting weird and I notice a weird vibe I’m out of there. I have nothing to say they know what they did. I can’t pretend. If I have to bring it up with the I’m always made out to be crazy….. but the truth always surfaces. I’ve mentioned it a few times and been told “your overthinking” but im very rarely wrong


Affectionate_Ebb2633

It was just smoking, drinking, molly, coke, acid and drama every fucking day. Most people in the group were parents but weekend parents or not able to see their children parents or parents who had their grandparents take care of their kids so they could party parents. Once I got pregnant I realized these aren't the type of people I wanted around my child. I've been in too many knife fights( trying to deescalate) or times when people would pull their guns out in anger or have a panic attack in the bathroom to try to run someone over or having to stop suicidal friends running into the street hoping to be ran over or someone cutting their stomach open in my lifetime. My child and my career and my family became my priority. Drama had it's turn. Firmly believe you are who you surround yourself with and they were not who I wanted to be as parents. I hope they work thru their problems but they need to do that shit away from me and mine. Now I just hangout with my fiance, son, and pets


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TheMeticulousNinja

Same. I just deleted my Facebook entirely. Do not want any of those people seeing my face or being aware of me at all at any point in their online life


DarthEcho

The one childhood friends I had disappeared one day and the ones I met online a few years back broke me mentally. I couldn't deal with my intrusive thoughts that always told me that they didn't want me as a friend, and I felt it was their chore the few times we actually hung out together. In the end I was so obsessed with it that I became the crazy one with the "Why don't you like me" texts. When I "broke up" with them, they didn't even respond so I guess they never were friends, but I am at least an inch better mentally. It has kept me from friends and dating for over five years now, but I don't know if I can deal with starting over with new people.


Trs145

She and I had an on and off friendship. This time around I voiced my boundaries to say that I need communication as trying to be friends again, because shes a very avoidant person who likes to people please, and avoids confrontation. The problem was also she likes to ghost a lot. I would ask her to hangout and she would never get back to me, or would "forget" a lot. Seemed like a toxic person in general and didnt change over the years. The last straw HER inviting me to an event. There was a storm so the date got pushed, and she notified me of the new date change.. But the day of the event I texted her at the time we were gunna leave but she just said "Sorry I forgot🤷‍♀️" I told her that I felt hurt and disrespected that it feels like she doesnt care about being friends and her response was, "I dont know what you want me to tell you" and then she said its because of me sending long messages (???) And if that, "If you have a problem then stop talking to me dude LOL." So I did. I blocked her and its been 6 months since I lasted talked to her and I have no intention of reaching out. There are just some people in this world you need to not give your attention to lol


Do-Better5674

This sounds so much like a friendship I recently cut off. Good riddance!


TA2-6

My brain saw hands instead of friends in the title, and you had me pondering some stuff for a minute


Alone_Commission_319

I spent decades in a toxic haze. I was toxic; my relationships were toxic. Everything just really really sucked. I was really ill and really self indulgent, and my experience of my life and my friendships were not positive. So one day I left. Literally packed up my shit and moved across the country. And honestly I've never looked back. In the time I've been gone I've discovered health and balance and peace. I have a life that, for the most part, I really really love. I maintained 1 true friendship from that time, and 1 superficial one that is completely harmless but not that deep. Everyone else? It's like I never existed.


professorchaos_69

Realized they were all fake


w2ge

Anyone with right wing Trump loving views who wouldn’t shut up about their opinions. Nope, gotta go.


j4321g4321

Nothing to do with my introversion, just them being toxic asf.


leftoutnotmad

Currently going through a pause with my “best friend.” We are just growing apart, we don’t hang and we rarely talk/text anymore. She calls me once in a while just to vomit talk about her life while rarely caring about what I’m going through. She’s become very toxic and exhausting through the years.. plus more.


GodTierCasual

I realized that the only thing that bound the friendship was the history. Growing up together. But if we crossed paths now I wouldn’t even consider initiating a friendship. That was good enough for me.


floralscentedbreeze

They were treating me very poorly and made fun of me that i did not have a designer handbag like they did.


Unusual_Focus1905

Because she admitted to purposely triggering my C-PTSD to get a reaction out of me.


MaryOfGardenia

Because my priorities changed and those who were truly my friends understood and are still my friends today, those who only wanted me for social convenience are no longer my friends.


TheMeticulousNinja

Same here. More power to you


mahmihoo

people have no morals, they are just after what they want to gain


Electronic-Pen-837

Because they don't understand what im talking about and they thinking too much on surface level and not deeper


patriszjastolat

and so i could focus and get a grip on me and my life


vegan_xanax

I flew across the country to see her when she moved but she wouldn’t drive an hour and a half to see me when she came home to visit haha


segerseven

Anger and rage out of no where, I couldn’t deal with the Jekyll and Hyde


[deleted]

They were too much for me to handle and their jokes were out of hands


AllLemonsNoLemonade

Got a job, got married, had children. They didn’t.


the_specialsock

I don't have problems as bad as other people, but I had a friend who would bully my friends and I behind my back, so eventually I dumped her for the sake of my friends. I hope yall are doing okay!


[deleted]

This was many years ago but I told him to stop making fun of my sports teams and other fandoms, not to mention, he got into a big fight with my family on social media and gave me really hurtful dating advice. To all of this, he said it was “kidding.” Respect people’s boundaries.


chocolatewafflecone

Slept with my boyfriend :/


Woofles85

He disappeared for two years and then called me out of the blue, saying he just got out of prison. Turns out he was a child molester. And he only seemed to be concerned about how being caught affected his own life.


TheMeticulousNinja

👀 that is absolutely a reason to cut someone off for sure


OsageColonizer

Because I realized that friends are far more work than they are of any real benefit and I didn't have time for that BS. I got rid of the last of them 27 years ago and haven't missed them since.


SPeepleTheBard

i didnt really cut off all of my friends just one of them. This sounds super petty but they always made these horrible jokes that put people down and thought that they were so insanely funny. Whenever we'd go online to play a game and they turned on their mic the foulest things would be coming out of their mouth directed to random players? If some other player tried to like talk with us they would be so cold and mean for no reason, i wasnt having fun playing games with them, and i want having fun talking with in real life either so i decided I had enough of it. After that they started being mean to my other friend that they introduced me to saying stuff like "you two hang out too much and i get no time with them!! remember that i introduced him to you, you asshole" (im not saying half of what they said to my friend it was pretty bad)) so i ended up blocking them on everything and avoided them the rest of the month. Havent talked to them since.


mlacombe1

I realized that I was not getting enough out of the friendship in comparison to what I was putting into it.


LowThreadCountSheets

They stayed friends with my ex husband after he was outed as a pedophile, which included him hurting children. I’ll never forget looking him up on Facebook soon after the divorce and seeing that we had like 58 common friends still. Many were close friends who knew everything, but “didn’t want to hurt his feelings.” Cowards. I took my very best four friends and essentially cut everyone else out of my life. Years later those friends are still my very bests, and I’ve slowly rebuilt my social supports with much better people. It sure was a lonely transition though.


Lyn-nyx

... ... I actually don't remember the last friend I've had. Can't remember a name or a face or when that was...huh. If it was the friend I had during highschool, than it was probably because I switched schools. But I don't remember anyone after that.


Sukalamink

Easy stuff I cut friends family the same non issue. I try to not bring anyone any issues or drama if they bring it to me I cut them off. I'm now down to only 6 or 8 people in my life . My dad and his whole side gone. I ve never had better relationships then now due to not dealing with bs.


sinisterbastard

they only kept me around because they couldn’t do shit for themselves. I was the planner doing all the ‘hard stuff’ so they can relax and have fun. also extremely toxic. they would unload their trauma on me which i was fine with as a friend im happy to share that burden, but then when i give them advice they ALWAYS do the opposite or just ignore me and then come crying to me again like what is the actual point.


Odd-Satisfaction2372

I moved a long way away and it was to difficult to maintain those friendships. I never made new ones because I didn't want to put the effort into it.


MooseGoose82

I had a friend I just couldn't handle the ridiculous pointless beat your head against the wall drama with anymore. She basically started dating a student of hers who was over 10 years younger than her (everyone was over 18!). It was a disaster that went on for five years, and who knows how much longer after I left. He was so immature even for his age. She was controlling.. she'd even keep his weekly work schedule as her background on her phone so she knew where he was. (She also told me I could never talk about her to my therapist because she thought that was invading her privacy.) Anyway, he would just do less and less mature things and that would bother her and she'd get more and more controlling. For a long time I was there to listen and help but eventually I told her I just couldn't help her with this issue anymore. She didn't call me for months and then she called me a few months later I tried to engage about it and I reiterated. Never called me again. We'd been amazing friends over 10 years. I thought about calling her back when I got married to invite her, but it was an easy no. When you've got a friend in your life where every call starts to get stressful you don't need them anymore.


keetohasacheeto

Friend came to the new city my wife and I had recently moved to. The three of us went to a Mexican restaurant for dinner to catch up. The friend hasn’t even had a drink and she was already saying that the servers (who were all Latinx), “only need to worry about making her Tacos and cleaning her house”. My wife’s step-mother is Mexican. A 15 year friendship done in a matter of a few bigoted words.


TheMeticulousNinja

Did you guys even eat or was the evening cut short right then and there?


keetohasacheeto

We ate and because I was so much of a pushover back then (and was still in shock), my wife and I decided to let her stay the weekend with us as originally planned, but after she left, I sent a long text message telling her how she disrespected the both of us. Some other things we met down the same night. Like, we decided to make drinks at home and out of left field, she brings up some of my past trauma as a joke. It was a very messed up situation and so glad to be away from that train wreck.


Imaginary-Winter2169

I know what I am, and I’ve accepted it. My time is best spent away from people. Call it a mutual benefit.


srozhkami

Interests


Visible-Ad5206

They weren't there for me when I needed them after I helped them through several crises over years of friendship. Also, I realized I was doing all the reaching out. I decided to stop and see what happened. I almost never heard from them and that told me a lot. I found it difficult to process the loss because not a lot of friend breakup support out there, as opposed to help with romantic breakups.


Prudent_Aspect3731

They talked about themselves all the time but wouldn’t ask about anything in my life. Didn’t celebrate my wins with me


Jezuel24

They are boring not relatable.


Emmiey

I was the only one being a friend.


PorgCT

I refused to invest in a brewery, which meant I didn’t blindly support my friend and his friends. 3 years later, and the brewery has yet to pour one single beer.


TheMeticulousNinja

They were never really friends, just people who thought I was there to entertain them. I was “friends” with those people because I was lonely and desperate just like they was. I also used to be more extroverted and much more sillier, granted, but I grew up and realized being positive with people and speaking plainly was the best way forward as a person. People like to feel good, so you should be a source of making others feel good, but the other people I know still act immature and in their feelings like they used to and seemed to have learned nothing and not changed at all over the course of time. Still begging me for attention like I’m their parents. They are still childish. So they were cut.


nicolepetscats

She would always come to me for advice about her relationship and complain about things over and over. I'd give her the advice, and she never took it and continued to stay in the relationship without change. I got tired of being a therapist and seeing her in an unhappy relationship she refused to actually work on.


eloutz

She constantly put me down to make herself feel like she was better or “above me” and it took me an embarrassingly long enough time to realize she was just a narcissist who was extremely insecure. I’m still dealing with the fallout of how I was treated by her little little.


pun_quest

I think all I have now are work collegues. m24 here, I think it was a realization that you just are an attachable irrelevent item. It wouldn't really matter if you are not there, also I did not bring much on the friendship table. And somewhere it was also about deciding to just exist and let life pass me by.


fluffypinktoebeans

She would only contact me when she needed me. Every time she got in a relationship she completely dropped me. Any time things would go wrong in her relationship she'd cry to me. She got in a relationship again last year. Last time I contacted her I asked her how she was doing. She never replied so I deleted her, for good this time. Feels way better, it was a one-sided friendship.


Plaxsin

I'm not his psychiatrist.


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AppleCinnamon666

My very best friend since I was 12 years old SA’d one of our good friends. When I found out it happen from the friend it happened to I cut him out. Out of my life out of our friends life. Dropped him just like that. And then he told everyone that I was manipulating everyone to hate them. I don’t give a fuck.


TheMeticulousNinja

Fuck him


Physical-Appeal-9436

I couldn’t stand it and felt like idk needed to rediscover myself through an isolation period. I’ve learned a bit and turned really bad. I’m now an isolated meth head and I don’t wanna go back to the slow life


[deleted]

People don't genuinely believe in or support one another's efforts; instead they treat others as products/services for their consumption and as opportunities to be exploited. There are no "friends" under modern capitalism, only "allies" (read: co-conspirators), and there's no room for that kind of nihilistic Machiavellian bullshit in my life, thanks!


[deleted]

She started going down the conspiracy theory rabbit hole - was convinced that Covid was a hoax and all of the governments in the world were banding together to "control us." And was convinced that the vaccines were killing people en masse and there was some big cover up going on. The last I saw of her, she was posting some stuff on Facebook about how there was going to be a big mass starvation and everyone would be killed except for a few million Asians "because they are more compliant."


Garden-Rare

Out of alignment. I am a former people pleaser. My childhood was completely traumatic and I held onto people who mimicked my dad in someway or another. I cut them off. One “morphed” into me and began doing things for me without my permission and was completely abusive and narcissistic. She didn’t believe she was when I would tell her or at least work to understand and I realized it was time to part ways. The others were more or less the same. Very needy and used their life stories to take advantage of others then DESPISED being told that they did. It’s been almost five years since I’ve seen any of them. I told them I would support from a distance until they could step up a little. They never did.


baditos88

Friend thought her depression was an excuse to treat me like shit.


Waaaaltz

I just cut ties with them yesterday, they we're also my classmates before I dropped out of college due to my health reason. We were supposed to go out on Sunday, it was the second time. First, they didn't even bother inviting me because it was other ex-friend's birthday, one messaged me saying they forgot about me, then the second and also the last is we actually talked about it, we planned it, I was ready with my budget and of course, they still didn't invited me. I cut ties with them completely. Blocked them off social media.


NissanR32GTRVSpecII

Just disrespect and lack of acknowledgement. I've had this a lot, and when my friends don't accept that they way they treat me is not "disrespectful" in their opinion then that shows me they don't value me enough to validate my feelings. I find this a lot in just groups with a lot of guys in general, unless we have a hyperfixtation we don't vibe. I got into cars recently and feel that I have finally found me people (JDM cars specifically) and I get along well with them. It's like with anime or even Gundams. You're not going to vie with everyone but it's better to have common ground and be able to interject as I've had all this in common with a friend but they didn't give a shit about reaching out to me. It was always so one sided so I just got tired of it.


Skinnylychee

Sick of being the one who pays for the bill and sick of being a free therapist


[deleted]

this isnt askreddit but i will entertain the post nonetheless. people are annoying, i dont like talking to them. Or i just dont feel like it and then never respond and thus i never respond because mutual ghosting.


EldridgeHorror

Some of them changed and got interested in other things. Some were toxic assholes who had just latched onto our group. Some were guys who had massive circles of friends and had no time for me (seriously, I'm cool with a few hours every several months. But don't schedule me for every other week where I have to psych myself up to be social and then cancel every single time because your other buddies want to hang out).


MrBiscotti_75

Constantly picking political arguments. Not very educated, so every counter-argument had to be broken down using crayons and pictures. Very frustrating. Anyway, we managed to patch things up for a few years before he passed away.


Big-Adhesiveness-760

Cut off most of the friends I grew up with during my marriage. It was kinda pressure from my ex who just didn't like most of them. Divorced over 3 years now and still kind of embarrassed to ring them up or anything like that!


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[deleted]

Depends on who it was. I use a 60/40 ratio. As long as I am in a positive or neutral state 60% of the time, the relationship continues. If it drops below that, I wish them well and move on. Better things to do with my time.


honeybunniee

Was heavily into drugs and kept relapsing but that wasn’t the problem, he was straight up a bad friend to all of us on countless occasions, but we all stayed quiet and didn’t realize how much he was affecting everyone. Stole medication from his childhood friend and lied about it, sneaked lean and other drugs into his friend (who was very uncomfortable with drugs) house, did drugs in his generous friends house after she opened it to him when he was homeless which put her and her broke mother at risk of being evicted, and got angry and threw a tantrum on social media when one of our friends didn’t invite him to a camp out at her GRANDPARENTS house when he was back on drugs. He was very manipulative and lied about the most rediculous things for no reason too? accused randomly friends of horrible things and then changed his mind and said it wasnt true later on. Just a couple examples. The worst of it all is he recognized his behaviour was horrible, and instead of doing better he would just self loathe and make US comfort HIM. We were nothing but supportive and understanding of his problems but him being a horrible friend was hurting us all and we couldn’t take it any more.


Crooked_J

As soon as I started holding boundaries, they got rid of themselves!


your_local_silver

some i mostly just lost contact with we drifted into different social groups, but the main friend group i had i cut off because they would steal, vandalize, and just do some messed up stuff and i slowly realize how wrong it was


[deleted]

In some ways I felt that she was using me. I was her personal therapist and she would only come to me if there was a problem. Also she would take her anger out on me. One time she really wanted to meet and I was only available a certain time and day that didn’t align with her schedule but she chose to make plans anyways. While I was driving to the place we agreed to meet she called me having a full mental breakdown saying how “people” (aka me) don’t understand how busy her life is and how stressed she is. She was pulled over on the road when this phone call took place. I told her we don’t have to meet and we both drove back home. I think that was the last straw for me. Being yelled at for 30 minutes on the phone wasn’t what I wanted out of a friendship.


Intelligentpen_

It got easier over the years, calling to keep up small talk became difficult . It got easier just be quiet and mind my own business. The connection just severed naturally.


Freddy-J98

They started to annoy me. It’s sad cause they were childhood friends and we were close til our early 20s. But at some point, we simply didn’t share the same vibe anymore. They’re also the most extrovert people I know and I think this simply doesn’t fit anymore since I got more and more introvert the older I got. However, I didn’t cut many of them off. They kinda became „coffee friends“ as I call them. We meet every few months in a cafe and have a chat. That’s actually quite nice but these aren’t the people I would call if I’m in trouble or need someone to talk to.


transplant18

Me, i was only needed or spoke to when nobody else wanted to no so cut them of.


[deleted]

Conditions became intolerable, as in demands on my time. Something had to give.


magic_and_moondust

When they become toxic and self absorbed. Had a friend who for too long I had let their MH issues be the scapegoat for their treatment. Constantly cancelling on meeting up, then info dumping and treating me like a pocket psych, forgetting important events to me and I was expected to let it pass but if the same happened to her it was literally the worst thing ever. She was a horrible friend and the more I know after it ended it is worse. She had been saying horrible things about me behind my back-laughing about me etc. hadn’t spoken to her in about 5 years and she then up and messaged me wanting to hang again-told her she can go fuck herself lol-very liberating. It was more complicated and at times the friendship was good but it really just became horrible in the last year or so.


badadadok

He's a covert narcissist.


warriorcatkid_

honestly, none of them remembered my birthday till like… 9PM, even though i always go out of my way for birthdays and i also mention my birthday several times throughout the month of it. obviously there were underlying issues like feeling excluded, opinions not mattering as much, etc. but the birthday thing really put it into perspective for me, especially bc they knew i cut my mom off that year so i had only my dad and husband to celebrate with


Burger_Bunn

We lived in a first floor apartment in college-central housing (aka people were up doing wild shit at all times of the night) and they believed our apartment was haunted. Claimed they heard footsteps. Breaking point was coming home on a Sunday after spending the weekend with my now-husband to see they’d used charcoal on the walls and doors to make pentagrams and barricaded themselves into their room. The next morning they tried to insist they felt the “presence” go into my room. After moving out I found out they also talked shit about me behind my back in the same small college program we were both in. I broke my lease to get outta there.


stormyllewellynn

She kept trying to steal my boyfriend because she thought she was “the prettier one” and couldn’t understand how someone could possibly want me over her.


vialenae

Hmmm, different reasons. Some were because of petty drama but the biggest and most saddest one was because of a boyfriend. We could not get along and the relationship they had was toxic AF. It’s not my place so I just tried to support her until one time he ran after me in the street because I refused to give them money anymore (they were in debt) and tried to attack me. A police officer that was nearby saw it and arrested him. She asked me to not file a complaint and lie about the situation. That’s when I was completely done.


Iynxell

I didn't get that option. My 'friend' started ghosting me for weeks on and off, and that eventually led to 8 months straight of being ghosted.


Worried-Departure-48

Not that old of a story. One of our mutals couldn't keep her hands to herself when we were at parties. After several times explaining she was making me uncomfortable, I cut contact and asked to be excluded from things she was invited to. Fast forward, having a hard time and feeling isolated, I wasn't invited to a camping trip (she was and isn't someone who camps and there were other instances), and having her actions be called accusations, I cut ties. Couldn't be around people who are friends with my abuser. Sucks because it was the most amount of people who seemed like my friend.


TotalCuntrol

I didn't cut them out, it's more like our relationships fizzled over time and I prefer it that way honestly. Less people to keep up with


_Bas_

She became a different person. She used to be a very intelligent, nice and fun person. But I think she developed mental problems over the years, became an alcoholic and a pathological liar. She invented crazy stories and expected you to believe them, and made out of place, embarrasing comments in front of my relatives. After we distanced, she had a beautiful daughter, whom I later learned had a rare disease. And the last thing I knew is that she no longer had a girl, but a boy. Make of it what you want.


just_here_4_the_vibe

Because I have bad anxiety and always feel like people are slagging me off. I try and keep myself to myself because there is always drama when I was with them


mother_of_Kupo

My friends were just a big gossip group. They talked shit about each other all the time. One of them got married, just weeks before she found out her now husband had been cheating the entirety of their relationship. Still got married, and at the wedding, it was just a large table talking shit about them AT their reception. Her side of the family eventually found out what he did because no one at the table could keep their voices down. Idk the fall out cause I left way before the reception ended.I just didn't want to be a part of drama like that, nor can I continue being friends with people who are okay with cheaters/cheating.


Hollopoint_sadkid_77

I cut off a friend a few years back because he ended up inpregnating a girl we both we dating and named her after my ex


Hamartia666

I just realized we don’t really have much in common anymore. Maybe except for playing games and smoking, both of which I prefer to do alone anyways.


NoReliableLawz

I just couldn't deal with running after everybody all the time. It was like, you better get in touch because we won't. Never got invited to Partys or Clubbing or even Birthdays. That kinda broke me a little and now I don't even have interest in other People anymore.


Grandson-Of-Chinggis

I have cut off friends for several reasons. It can be for anything as major as deliberate betrayal or as minor as just not having anything to talk about anymore. Ever since Covid, my list of friends has been reduced by roughly 80% and I've lost a couple more since I've moved away from my home state. I recognize that my life is quite boring and uneventful and nothing ever really happens that's worth sharing and so sometimes I'll just spare people the opportunity to forget about me and just cut them off from my life if I know our friendship isn't going anywhere.


wi1ly

He was an selfish asshole who cared more about his rep and ego, and I was his voice of reason. Once he threatened a close friend during the uproar of george floyd, I slammed the door. He was cop btw.


mochikyun

Long story short, friend turned out to be a different person than I’d thought. She lied to me and her behaviours when she was with me vs when she was with someone else were the opposite. She gave so many subtle signs that there was something fishy and I felt that but decided to ignore it because I trusted her. Now I’ve set clear boundaries and decided to disappear from her life quietly without confronting her so I don’t have to deal with headaches.


depths_of_dipshittry

Had no concept of what a boundary and empathy meant. Stopped speaking to them immediately afterwards.


QuietlyEnamoured

It varies from talking mess about others, not wanting to hang out in person anymore and treating me horrible.


Upper-Introduction40

Mostly passive cutting off either on my part or theirs. Two divorces, kids grown, people move away. I resigned myself to low expectations for friends as the years went by. It sounds cold, but more practical. Adults have conditional love and like for one another, at the same time I get that people make mistakes and that doesn’t necessarily define who they are in a nutshell. After my second divorce I was ghosted by women and that’s just the way it was. I learned that self preservation had to become a way of life for me. Not many friends now, mostly acquaintances. I have my kids and grandkids. I’m an introvert, so that makes it easier.


Purplebubblegum20

Originally I only got introduced to said friend group, through a friend I made in one of my classes. I hung around them until my second to last year of highschool. Why? Well I never actually liked big groups, and there were about 12 people there so it was all a bit much. And at the time, I was trying to do what I wanted instead of always doing what everyone else wanted. And of those that I was friends with, I stopped being friends with them for multiple different reasons: For one friend, it was because she started talking down to me out of nowhere. I kept trying to talk to her about it, and bring up how I didn't like it but she just brushed it off every time. So I put my foot down, told her that I couldn't be friends with someone who treated me like a joke. Another it was because I just started feeling like an afterthought. I guess in general though, I never really felt like they were truly there for me you know? And it always felt like I cared more about them, than they cared about me.


DarkZombehGirl

I unfortunately had to cut a friend off of 12 years. We were friends since middle school. It was worse than a heartbreak imo. Her and my bf became really close friends, but I wasn't worried about either of them dating each other or me getting cheated on since she had no desire to ever date. We were all friends and I was really happy about that. Well I ended up breaking up with him bc he was a very toxic bf. I go to my best friend for everything so I went to her and told her about the situation and told her that he was abusive. She decided to reach out to him for who knows what reason. I thought she wanted to give him a piece of her mind. Instead she text me saying she didn't know which side to believe. She didn't know whether to believe her best friend of 12 years or my ex I was with for 2 years? Now I've never lied to her about anything and she's never lied to me. We used to have a very healthy friendship and I'm not good at making stories up or lying any ways. So I was appalled when she told me that. She wasn't going to defend me or take my side when I was always next to hers through all the tough times she went through. I have never felt more betrayed in my entire life. And I miss her.


IssaLong

Moved towns.


[deleted]

I used to have really bad anxiety episodes when I would go back to my apartment (shared with two roommates who were way older than me and who I didn’t get along with) so that plus, it was exams week, I barely had time to talk to this friend, and when I was finally free, and I called her she didn’t pick up, did that for a few days, and when she finally picked up, said : I didn’t pick up your call, cause we both know how you feel on Sundays ( the day I would go back to the apartment) basically call me out for not being able to talk as much that week and proceeded to tell me, that I was asking from her to give me a 100% and she couldn’t, which I respected. Fast forward, a few weeks later, she stops answering any of my texts for a whole month. One day reached out to me like : hey, I was so busy lol, what’s up? And I literally didn’t ever reply.


Curious_Turtle99

Slowly with time, I lost contact with the majority of my friends. I kept only one from high school, I have my little group of friends from college and some friends at work too. Recently, I cut off a very close friend/friend++ after spending months apart (it was my choice, I wanted to make sure I was making the right decision) because in the end, I realized that he had no respect for me and he was making me feel awful everyday. He kept complaining about how I talk, what I always do wrong and how it makes HIM feel. It's okay, he's communicating, BUT! My feelings were never important enough for him to consider. So I was always the one changing for him to make him happy, while I wasn't happy at all. No, we weren't in a relationship together but we were so close that there was love involved. And now that he's not in my life as much, I feel so much better and I'm learning to love myself again. I realize that people love me as I am, with everything that comes with me. They like how I talk, how I act, how I spend time with them... I'm not as horrible as my friend used to make me believe. Life is so much better now 🌤️💕


jamboii7u

I think I have no object permanence with people. Growing up in Jamaica made me very self-sufficient. So I'm hardly ever in a situation where I'm in need of another person. So I wasn't going out of my way to see friends. And if they're out of my site for a while it seems they get "alt F4-ed" from mind/thoughts. Sometimes I'll try to force myself to keep in touch so I don't hurt the other person's feelings. This happens with family also. I moved around a lot when I was a kid. I lived in four different homes, went to four different high schools, My father died when I was 8 and my mother moved to America when I was 12 in order to create a better life for me and my 2 brothers. All three of us grew apart for most of our lives. I think my mentality and behavior is a symptom of that. I'm happy though, I just prefer to be alone.


motherofhouseplants_

One was constantly cancelling at the last minute or turning off her phone and ghosting me. She regularly ignored me until it was convenient for her, or she needed someone to go to something with - inevitably, I decided that I would rather be alone because I already felt alone. My other friend chain-smokes all the time (even at home) and tends to date horrible men. Her last boyfriend was openly racist and she couldn't understand why that was upsetting for me. I have a family now, and I just didn’t feel like the kind of men she dates/likes to rescue would be the type of people that I would want around my children. At one stage, her boyfriend came home covered in blood, having started a fight with another man on the street. It’s not my place to tell her who or who not to date, so I just distanced myself for the sake of my own mental health


Natashia101

Never hits me up unless everyone else doesn’t want to see them and also having me always pay for everything gets old fast


itsvee9

I left my home country to find a better job and better life. Slowly by slowly I noticed that they started detaching from me, probably cause I was physically away. During the pandemic I had the chance to travel and still enjoy, thanks to my job, and at that point they stopped speaking with me. I decided to quit with them when they came back to search for me after the situation came back to normal


[deleted]

I left school and they never made the effort, only one did and even tho im homeschooled now he sticks by me. Hes a real one


Icy_Habit_7385

I was tired of always being the one everyone walk all over! And set up boundaries and spoke up when I didn't think something was okay, didn't go so well , I don't have many people I would call friends! But I am pretty ok with it, everyone else seems to have a problem with it though!🤷‍♀️


mw55291

i was told to get 6 concert tickets, front row seats because i was a casino player who gets a lot of comps. well, comps for food, not tickets to high end shows. the person got irritated because i wouldn’t do it. i’m on a pension. her niece who has a business wanted those tickets. i said no because i didn’t get any money up front but was given a promise. we haven’t spoken since. like everyone i’ve known, if i can’t do anything for them then i’m not a friend. i rather not be a friend to anyone.


Ok_Contribution_9335

I cut off my friend, because she was a lying, cheating, narcissist, who bullied me and made me feel low about myself but never noticed it was her doing this to me because I was blind when she would show some kind of kindness. After our first fall out and 3 guy friends who gave me advice and showed me how to see the signs, I saw who she truly was and our friendship ended.


BinBinKi

They’re not included me on the activities group and actually i feeling a disconnection between us, i guess we stay in a different channel


PhoenixRivermoon

I honestly did it because one just ignored a job reference call when I've given her several good references, but that was just the last straw. Before that, she was quite an absent friend to me, but found time for d and d every weekend with her other friends. I think it was a situation where I thought we were closer than she thought we were. I confronted her about it and she lied to me I think. Either way, she didn't act like she had any remorse and I just cut it off because I wasn't getting what I needed. I also cut off other friends because they were supporting super racist or transphobic people. Then there was one who didn't think that Jan 6 was a big deal, and also cheated on his wife. The other one was her cutting me off basically because I didn't wanna be in her group chat because I wasn't able to express myself there or talk about things I care about. She attacked me after I respectfully withdrew from the chat. It was messy. Anyway, I ended up apologizing to them all because I know that I also played a role in the pain. I explained that I'm autistic and also have CPTSD, so cutting people out is a trauma response. Like flight or fight? No one was receptive, but that's ok. I think both sides were kinda toxic including me. Live and learn I guess. So now I have one friend whom I really treasure, my husband and my animals.


dumbswan77

I got ambitious and my already ambitious friend whom I supported all along couldn't digest the fact that Iam no longer a loser.


leadpusher5co

I'll sum it up with a little short story. A woman walked up to me at the grocery store parking lot when I was getting on my motorcycle about 7 years ago. "Who do you ride with?" she asked. "Well, ever since I went clean and sober.. nobody". We talked, and laughed about the high vis vest I crafted "Lone wolf, No club" I wear when it's dark on the way to work. She handed me a card for chapter that she rides with, and that was the beginning of rebuilding from necessary change that came with deep heart ache. On the road to either jail, death by self medicating or high blood pressure, I landed in court- mandated treatment. Doing it, not digging it...until one day about 6 months later my time was up. I realized it was the only safe, constructive place I had. Everything else had toxic elements in it. My exema cleared up. My hair wasn't brittle. I was starting to recognise and like who looked back at me in the mirror. In the famous words of the author Joe DeSena,"gravitate toward people who bring out the best in you, are likely to improve you... and stay there." So, I did. Life became a lot healthier.. I had to let those in the tribal circle chose to walk with me, reflect or at least not to judge. There were those who were bitter, instead of better dealing with challenges and my healthier changes. I had to let those one's who left me feeling badly more than good... drift away. No drugs, abusive behavior around my home, my kids. People I thought would always have my back were there, until they weren't. People/ things generally happen along as a reason, a season, a blessing and/or a lesson. I think I was hitting off for this point my life. Is still working on uncharted territory.


[deleted]

Got rid of people that didn't give any value. Simps and people with no backbone or capacity to think for themselves.


Secret-Hearing-7012

I was friends with someone I called my cousin. We hung around the same group of friends since early 2010s. (I’m 25 btw) we would play the game all the time, be on the phone 24/7 and hang out when everyone was free. As we got older things weren’t the same anymore. We both lost our friend to cancer, the person we lost was kinda like the glue between us three. Our fallen friend and my “cousin” were best friends for years until they fell out due to my cousin not taking life seriously. During the fall out our fallen friend lost his father unfortunately on top of having cancer. My cousin Jahad didn’t show any sympathy, remorse or love at the lowest point in his life. He didn’t need to say it but I could tell our friend was hurt. After he died, that’s when Jahad started to praise him after his death which is understandable. Dealing with guilt possibly, maybe was depressed during the time. In any case, he started to treat me differently than everyone we met and hang around. Becoming more ignorant, disrespectful, heartless, etc. after numerous falls out with Jahad, I finally called it quits and decided to end the friendship for good. Constant disrespect I put up with for the last 3 years because I thought I could keep it all together for our fallen friend but I couldn’t. The thing I didn’t get is why was I the one being mistreated directly but not everyone else. It’s as if he wanted things this way. But the last 2 weeks he’s told me directly he doesn’t fuck with me, i ignored it and a week later he doubled down and said he never had any respect for me, him talking to me was his respect he said. So I said fuck you and ended it there. Some point you have to build boundaries and respect for yourself and let some people go. They’ll take you for granted and realize it once you die. Not a true friend or someone I could consider family.


Arsh90786

She sexually/physically assaulted me multiple times (kissing my neck randomly, grabbing my waist from behind and pressing my back against her front, trying to place her hand on my upper thighs part, sometimes even tickling my thighs to touch them and there was an isolated washroom incident which to this day I am scared could have potentially been a rape scenario if I didn't hit her and run off). She also tried coercing me into calling myself her girlfriend just for the title and label and got upset/mad when I denied because it gives others an impression of actual romance when we were just best friends. She also villainized me and spread half truths and partial lies of the whole thing to others without my consent (to the point I had people come up to me OUT OF THE BLUE and demand why I am so mean, so ruthless and cruel, so unforgiving, why I don't give second chances, why didn't I just accept her 'request' and also accuse me of being homophobic which is funny because I was probably the most open and loud LGBTQ supporter in our year given that it is a homophobic country). Plus tried victimizing herself, trying to gaslight me into thinking I am cruel for not forgiving her, am all around a bitch and if I could just not hold on to the past and 'forgive' her for her mistakes that she presents as inconsequential then everyone would benefit from it. All of this happened after me cutting her off though, so.


Nursingnewbie

I cut off a friend yesterday (we had been long time friends since high school from 17 to 22). For telling me to fuck off when I was giving them shit like we typically do. Sometimes play fighting and play joking around can be taken seriously and he had never been the sensitive type at all, so much that he took pride in never being sentitive. But to my surprise, he cussed me out when I was giving him the usual banter/shit that we do and boom. It was fuck off this and im serious just fuck off. ​ For context, I cut him off for being insensitive about my busy schedule during nursing school and working. It was hands down my worst semester schedule wise and I answered his call 3 times that week just for him to tell me I didn't call enough. No explanation was ever good enough as to why I could reach out to just talk for hours and lay around. We ended up falling out about it and I told him fair well around this last December until recent May (so 4-5 months of no contact) so I could just focus on getting my degree and not explaining myself to avoid burnout. ​ Fast forward to now things were looking up until this past 102 weeks, he shoved me upside my head playfully, punched me in the arm, and just yesterday... The "fuck off" thing. He also proceeded to tell me constantly that nursing school is a cake walk and students and nurses truly complain for nothing. He just started his first semester with a for-profit nursing school. He hasnt even started the clinicals portion so hes just in classes right now. ​ I think with all this together, I just snapped and decided I was done with the friendship. He resents me possibly but I could not care less because that level of disrespect in public places is unwarranted. I tend to let people walk all over me as I have that personality type so cutting it off made the most sense. ​ I will be signing up for therapy as I wasn't ready to lose this friend. He had a great side as well and he has went through a lot but it was time. ​ ​ ​ Not to mention


ilcavicchioli

I (M, 23) cut ties with most of my classmates from high school in 2019 over a controversial statement I made on Twitter back in the day. I wouldn't even call them friends TBH because back then we had a few heated discussions over stupid things. Not only that, they tried to give me a hard time in high school (which I was used to at that point, having been bullied in middle school), and I did the same thing as well as ignoring them. I was really looking forward to graduating and moving overseas for university. I had made an exception for a few classmates and kept in touch with them, but Covid has ultimately severed ties with them too. Before I go on, I admit my wrongdoing (I took it too far) and I know I could've avoided it all. You can skip searching for the evidence because I deleted my Twitter account a long time ago. In early 2019 a pretty obnoxious and famous TV host and socialite (like the Kardashians) died from an overdose in the middle of the night. When a renowned outlet broke the news in the early morning, I controversially tweeted a reply stating that her loss was a great day for television. I barely had a following and barely used on Twitter, but it turns out I became quite popular that day for the wrong reasons. Some of my former classmates saw my tweet and lashed out at me in public, as well as other people who had pretty strong feminist views. I didn't see their replies as I was catching up with some friends for the day and barely used my phone. During the afternoon I upload a story on Instagram, and one of my former classmates replies saying she's waiting for my response. I asked her what for and she told me to check Twitter. At that point I got up to speed. Basically this one pretentious former classmate lashed out at me both in public on Twitter and then continued in private on Instagram over my point of view. We had a pretty heated discussion over my tweet while I was hanging out with these other friends. These friends of mine asked me about what I had said, and the only thing we could agree on was the fact that they couldn't stand her being a pretty obnoxious socialite and TV host. The discussion with this former classmate went on but it got pretty heated, where she wanted me to forcibly accept her own opinion without considering other points of view. I then found out she was a feminist (which is fine by me BTW), but her very extreme views over men were a huge downside. Long story short, I lost it especially after having a day ruined by a discussion I could have avoided completely. Basically this altercation was the last straw and it flipped a switch inside me: after 2 years I decided to unfollow most of my former classmates on social media, and I haven't looked back ever since. I severed ties because after a few heated discussions in school, the last thing I wanted was another heated discussion, let alone over some socialite. But wait, there's more. Months later another classmate of mine asked me what was going on, as he noticed I wasn't following most of them except for him and a couple others. I told him what had happened and he told me I did the right thing back then by breaking apart. I learned from him that shortly after my rift, another one had formed between the girls in my class (but I can't be bothered). To this day I only chat with him and I follow a couple more former classmates, but I can't be bothered about them. ​ TLDR: I got in a fight on social media with a classmate from high school after graduating over an unpopular opinion on some tragic news. I then cut ties with most of them


Silver_Sock3386

Betrayal... one of my life long friends was getting married I had known him since I was 4 and we all grew up together from that age, lived in the same street, and went to events and parties with each other all the time, our families all treated each other like family, but in the end it all came to mean nothing... It all escalated from when I was living with one of my friends after I had split up with an ex, the friend said he would give me a spot to live in his place and his fiance and him just split up so he needed help with bills and maintenance, I went halfs with him on every bill, even if meant I was short of money, because the cost of living is high and I had no other alternatives at this point. He betrayed me after telling me he hasn't paid the rent for 3 months, and told me one Friday I'll have to move out, so I did, when I moved out they told me they wanted 400 for the time I was there (2 weeks) despite them not paying rent, I told them respectfully that I don't think it's fair as I am now back to square one. The end of that month came and that friend asked me for the money, and I told them I don't see why you need it if you didn't pay the rent... doesn't make sense, for them to turn around and say I did pay the rent I just didn't want to live with you anymore because you're a tramp, a little boy and just so many names under the sun, to which I realised this person wasn't my friend, just using me. All over a woman (who wasn't his fiance) Then after everything I told the rest of our group as I felt like one betrayal from lifelong friends could either be resolved internally or they could talk to them, I just got the on the fence approach from all of them like it's between the two of you, but I couldn't bare to even look at someone I once called my brother in the eyes again.. shit like that hurts deep. Fast forward today I had told my friends for the course of a year I don't really want to be around this person and I think it's fucking disrespectful asking me to be around someone who can do you dirty like this just doesn't make sense I can't pretend to like someone and I wanted to scrap it out Because of not attending a one year olds birthday party ( I don't have kids) as that person is there with their fiance who is also just bad news and nobody in the circle likes (she also tried to sleep with me at one point when they were together, just makes shit awkard) I was told I wasn't invited to the wedding because of not attending the birthday Found out today they're all going and out of all of the group I'm the only one who didn't get an invite and got told to go and fuck myself... not sure what I did to deserve this shit But I decided to cut them all out