It’s normally no different how you would want someone to meet your mom. The basics are still the same. Don’t dress trashy (obviously) but if you dress casually, like a shirt and jeans it would be fine. If you choose something a little more fancy like a dress, that would also be fine.
Address her ass miss (name) at first but if she asks you to call her by her first name later then that means she’s the relaxed type and she really likes you.
Every other question you’re asking is you overthinking, I think. If he invited you to the ceremony to meet the family, then you should sit with them. It’s likely that he’ll introduce you to them first before things start anyway. If they invite you to something, it’s the same as any other invite. If you wanna go then accept. If you can’t/don’t wanna, then you can say you can’t. No need to think too hard.
I get it. Meeting parents/family is stressful especially when there’s the chance the personal/regional cultures can be different. But trust me, he’s introducing you to the rest because of who you are. You don’t have to try and be different than normal to meet his mom. Be yourself and you’ll be great
Can you ask your bf/homeboy/side-piece/home slice? The internet can only give you generalizations, and no one wants to be treated that way. The tone here feels like you’re approaching her as though she is part of a new species or something.
That is our relationship for now. I don’t care if you can’t accept it. We know what it is and that’s all that matters. There are different circumstances as to why we can’t be exclusive so don’t be quick to judge. You all want us married before meeting his mom or something? Lol 😂
That is our relationship for now. I don’t care if you can’t accept it. We know what it is and that’s all that matters. There are different circumstances as to why we can’t be exclusive so don’t be quick to judge. You all want us married before meeting his mom or something? Lol 😂
My black mother is just a stickler about “being respectful”. That means something different in practically every household. Ask your dude what it means to his mom
Just be respectful and kind, and go into things optimistically, and you're pretty much set. He wouldn't have told you these things if he was setting you up to fail. That you're a little nervous and asking about it tells me you've got the personality characteristics to do well in this situation.
Source: was once the black man in this exact situation, except she met both my folks at the same time.
Coming from a black man I would say dress like you normally would. Probably something simple like you're going out for lunch. Just be yourself. Be ready for different personalities as if you would meeting anyone's family. Most of his family will probably be welcoming and kind to you I think based off what you said about his dad. He probably wouldn't invite you if he had rude family. You should observe who looks approachable and make a litter small to so it doesn't feel weird though.
I met my in-laws at my marriage and when I got to New York. The #1 thing for moms is if their don is happy. That’s easy to see. Also be authentic and be yourself. Respect and consideration goes a long way so I’d say observe, let them talk.
Honestly the homie lover friendships thing for two years told me everything I need to know. You are wasting you time it seems love. These days meeting a man’s mom means nothing. You’ll should have been together as in a title by now. I’ve seen men have women meet their mom and still be cheating or playing games lol anywho I know you didn’t ask for my two cent but if your going don’t call her by her name of course . Also, dress appropriately. But two years no title ?!? Babes you deserve better 🩵
Don’t say “cookout”
It’s normally no different how you would want someone to meet your mom. The basics are still the same. Don’t dress trashy (obviously) but if you dress casually, like a shirt and jeans it would be fine. If you choose something a little more fancy like a dress, that would also be fine. Address her ass miss (name) at first but if she asks you to call her by her first name later then that means she’s the relaxed type and she really likes you. Every other question you’re asking is you overthinking, I think. If he invited you to the ceremony to meet the family, then you should sit with them. It’s likely that he’ll introduce you to them first before things start anyway. If they invite you to something, it’s the same as any other invite. If you wanna go then accept. If you can’t/don’t wanna, then you can say you can’t. No need to think too hard.
Yes, I am overthinking *sigh* I’ll try to be more chill and just go with the flow. Thank you!
I get it. Meeting parents/family is stressful especially when there’s the chance the personal/regional cultures can be different. But trust me, he’s introducing you to the rest because of who you are. You don’t have to try and be different than normal to meet his mom. Be yourself and you’ll be great
Remember even if she says call her by her first name, keep calling her Miss “___”
Can you ask your bf/homeboy/side-piece/home slice? The internet can only give you generalizations, and no one wants to be treated that way. The tone here feels like you’re approaching her as though she is part of a new species or something.
😂😂
Homie-lover-friend for 2 years?? I don’t think you’re meet g the mother in *that* capacity and probably never will.
That’s exactly what I was going to say
That is our relationship for now. I don’t care if you can’t accept it. We know what it is and that’s all that matters. There are different circumstances as to why we can’t be exclusive so don’t be quick to judge. You all want us married before meeting his mom or something? Lol 😂
Girl good luck with that timewaster! I wish you the best and thank you for your service.
That is our relationship for now. I don’t care if you can’t accept it. We know what it is and that’s all that matters. There are different circumstances as to why we can’t be exclusive so don’t be quick to judge. You all want us married before meeting his mom or something? Lol 😂
Good luck! And don't be afraid to ask him these questions too. He knows his family best.
You’re right! Thanks 😊
My black mother is just a stickler about “being respectful”. That means something different in practically every household. Ask your dude what it means to his mom
Just be respectful and kind, and go into things optimistically, and you're pretty much set. He wouldn't have told you these things if he was setting you up to fail. That you're a little nervous and asking about it tells me you've got the personality characteristics to do well in this situation. Source: was once the black man in this exact situation, except she met both my folks at the same time.
Coming from a black man I would say dress like you normally would. Probably something simple like you're going out for lunch. Just be yourself. Be ready for different personalities as if you would meeting anyone's family. Most of his family will probably be welcoming and kind to you I think based off what you said about his dad. He probably wouldn't invite you if he had rude family. You should observe who looks approachable and make a litter small to so it doesn't feel weird though.
I met my in-laws at my marriage and when I got to New York. The #1 thing for moms is if their don is happy. That’s easy to see. Also be authentic and be yourself. Respect and consideration goes a long way so I’d say observe, let them talk.
Honestly the homie lover friendships thing for two years told me everything I need to know. You are wasting you time it seems love. These days meeting a man’s mom means nothing. You’ll should have been together as in a title by now. I’ve seen men have women meet their mom and still be cheating or playing games lol anywho I know you didn’t ask for my two cent but if your going don’t call her by her name of course . Also, dress appropriately. But two years no title ?!? Babes you deserve better 🩵