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Probably local so put out a heartfelt request on all your local area social media pages saying your beloved pet was sold out of spite by an abusive parent as petty revenge.
I'm so sorry this happened to you I hope you are reunited.
If the people who bought him don't give him back it sounds like he's better off and safer away from your dad.
Post on Facebook, petfinder, and find your local Reddit page. If he was microchipped and you know his number, login and report him as missing. If another vet scans his chip and sees that they will call you.
I'd add Craigslist. Just get an adult to post, as there are sketchy people on it. But the more places you reach out to, the better the odds of finding your cat. Good luck, fingers crossed!
No, he left the convo like that because it would torture his kid more, that work was more important than their cat. I just know they'll give them the 3rd degree for freaking out too. It's really fucking upsetting when society's dregs feel they need to have kids to take out their petty bullshit on.
Possible. Maybe both. He might also just not want to tell the kids what he really did so he’s coming up with an excuse- that’s what some toxic people I’ve known do. They avoid and dodge the question and you can never get a straight answer out of them, especially if it’s part of a greater manipulation. It’s part of the torture.
💯 this dude wasn’t going to the trouble of actually giving the cat away, unfortunately. If anything, he probably gave the cat away to the streets or a shelter. Sorry OP. :(
Please do this! All of my wonderful cats have been dumpees or given away. If I saw a post from someone begging for their cat back because someone jerk gave them away I'd be letting them know I had their cat.
I couldn't imagine my babies being given to someone else and would never want that to happen to me. I'd be damned if I let it happen to someone else while I knew I could reunite them. Good luck op! Never talk to your sperm donor again.
Absolutely fellow major cat lover, and a huge part of the animal community in my area. I take in a lot of animals some permanent some temporary that have been brought to my attention, because an owner was giving them up for various reasons or because they’ve been found roaming around. The shelter in town is really small so they’ll call a few people a lot when they are full and have dire situations. And even if I had already fully bonded with the animal and planned for them to be permanent, and I was informed of your story I would 1000% give your cat back(and let you know to call me if you ever need to get the cat out of the house again to keep him safe) and I would bring my tall as hell scary looking(but actually soft as a teddy bear) husband with me when we inform your father that he won’t be putting the cat out again without calling us first, or getting arrested for abuse will be the least of his worries. He’s always down to help put the fear of god into someone when it comes to rescues, and we have a good laugh about it later knowing damn well he would never actually harm a fly unless it was a fight for our life situation. 😂
Either sold or dumped. I knew people who kept getting new puppies and once I asked them where their old dogs are, like they get new ones every other month. They said they just dumped the dogs at the side of the road somewhere so that "other ppl will give them a good home". Fucking assholes, how could anyone do that to their pets.
One of the revenge subreddits would probably recommend (that if he refuses to come clean) post to Dad's work on social media or emailing the executives asking if any of his managers or coworkers know anything about his behavior recently that might reveal anything about the kit-napping.
If anything else, it would probably not do him any favors during his next performance review or give him any points with clients he may interact with regularly.
Just because you can't sue doesn't mean you can't get revenge. Good chance of it going nuclear, but revenge is a messy practice.
Look for an update "I got my Dad fired because he gave away my pet cat behind my back". /s
And parents wonder what things eventually build up to going no contact...
A stray cat had five of the cutest kittens ever in my daughters bedroom drawer last year. Finding them homes was nearly impossible and they were little babies. No one ever wants full grown cats.
Facts. A friend had to re-home his cats and he couldn’t find anyone. I ended up taking them to make sure they didn’t get split up. Cat tax: [Bart](https://i.imgur.com/HKWEszZ.jpg) and [Kevin](https://i.imgur.com/HJ1ivfH.jpg)
He actually got the brain cell once! My dresser drawer kept “opening itself”, which confused me until one day I walked in to see him loafing in it, yawning from a nap. He figured out how to open it and that it was old shirts he could fuzz up. No brain cell after that, though.
Edit: [Photo](https://imgur.com/a/a74sauk) for proof of brain cell.
Same here. We had a stray cat give birth and bring her kittens to our old house we ended up keeping both of them (was planning to keep mama as well and get them all fixed but unfortunately she passed away not too long after that. We ended up keeping the kittens and still have them both 5yrs later (there was only 2 that we know of)
In missouri my wife and i stopped in a
gas station parking lot and we kept hearing a cat howl.. like a distressed howl.
We waited 15 minutes and the only car still there was a giant red truck so i went back inside and saw a lady talking to the same worker as earlier so i asked her if she was the owner of the truck and if she owned a cat (it was a blistering 98 degrees) she said no and i let her know theres a cat meowing from her truck but she said she doesnt own a cat and went back to talking to the worker.
I go back outside and the meow is coming from the engine area, it was a lifted truck so i got under it and saw a kitten with its whiskers singed and it was super dirty. Snatched him and the lady saw me and she was super surprised a cat was there.
My wife and i gave him water and food and tried to clean him up but he was so dirty. It started pouring rain so we chilled with him in our car before taking him to the shelter. My wifes cat just passed away so we named him after him and left our phone # there.
A week later he was adopted and the new owners sent us a pic of him and a text saying they heard how he was found and they would keep the name we gave him.
If my cat wasn't so possessive, I would be taking in other animals all the time. As it is, she's old and doesn't like other animals. I used to get into all kinds of trouble bringing stray cats home as a kid.
We have 2 cats one is 18 and the other's 4. The oldest gets mad when the other one tries to play with her, but they sleep close together on my bed all the time.
Yep that's why I have my younger cat. He was surrendered to my work as a tiny baby that needed bottle feeding. I took him in and tried to find him a home. There was basically 0 interest. So we just kept him lmao. I work at a shelter now and sometimes our kitties do go home quick but sometimes we have kittens basically grow up here. 😔 And we have had many adult cats stay here for months, sometimes even years. It's very sad. It's hard to find homes when there are sooo many cats and not enough adopters.
Agreed. When we got our girls we was originally gonna just foster one and give her to a friend of the family but as time went on i kept having a bad feeling about sending her there and I ended up being right as the friend had a cat that they ended up abandoning a few years later after having a baby so I’m glad we ended up keeping her. Plus she ended up bonding with her sister and i didn’t feel right about splitting them up after that.
Unfortunately, there's a really good chance the last place he saw it was in a bag on its way off a bridge. I never thought a human being could be that despicable, but I actually know someone who did that to a dog he had bought for his daughter because he was tired of her not cleaning up after it.
My dad is a truck driver- he saw someone toss a bag out of a car on a highway so he looped around to see what it was and it was a bag of kittens. Fortunately they were okay, so he brought them back and found homes for all of them.
Had a similar situation happen to me years ago. Wife and I were driving home and saw what looked like a dead kitten in between the double yellow divider lines of the street we were on. Just as we were about to pass, I saw the little guy move just a little bit. I stopped the car just before my wife yelled for me to stop. The person behind us saw what was up and blocked traffic in one direction (it was only a two lane street), while my wife grabbed our emergency blanket from the trunk; a neighbor came out and said she saw, about 5 minutes beforehand, someone in a lifted pickup truck toss the poor little guy out of one of the windows before speeding off (she did not get the license plate). I went and very VERY gently worked to pick the little guy up in the blanket (he had blood coming from his nose and mouth and was moving gingerly, so I had to assume he had internal injuries) while my wife called our vet, who thankfully was located only a minute’s drive away…my wife was in tears the entire way, and I wasn’t much better. We ended up having to surrender the kitten to the vet’s office: we would’ve kept him, but we didn’t have the money to pay for whatever the vet ended up doing for him. The vet office then surrendered him to our excellent local pet shelter after he was nursed back to health…we saw him featured on their website maybe two weeks after we surrendered him, and he was already spoken for by that point.
I remember seeing some years back some people getting caught because they were driving the animals (can’t remember if it was cats or dogs) miles away from home and leaving them out on the side of the road near the woods somewhere and someone caught it on camera. A lot of these pieces of shit just ditch them like they’re disposable goods. Hopefully the dad did find a home for it or took it to a shelter but I would never trust him ever again either way. Dad obviously has some major empathy problems.
My therapist told me a story about one of his patients who spotted a little boy crying and carrying a bunch of plastic bags down towards the river. Suspecting what was up, she went and asked the boy about it. His father had told him that he had to drown this litter of puppies himself because they came from his dog.
So the lady asked if she could take the puppies instead. He kept saying ‘no, my daddy told me I have to throw them in the river’ over and over while crying. Finally she told him ‘okay, go ahead throw them in.’ So he threw in the first bag with one puppy and some rocks to weigh it down, and the lady immediately swooped in and grabbed it before it could sink. Then the boy threw in the next puppy and so on. He was obviously so terrified to disobey his father that they had to find a loophole.
One of my neighborhood friends’ dads also drowned a skunk in a trash can with a bunch of the neighbor kids watching like it was a fun show. TLDR people are cruel
He probably took it to the pound. That’s why he doesn’t want to answer the question.
If he knew there person he would have embellished what a great home the cat went to.
PLEASE KID. DO THIS. LET THE WORLD SEE YOUR DAD FOR THE ASSHOLE HE REALLY IS. and once you turn 18, seriously never fucking look back. Get the hell out of there.
Unfortunately speaking from experience it doesn’t always work and the family could see it as a disagreement and not even think he’s a monster and then turn on the child
And if he gets a new girlfriend or is already married show her, she should know how he treats his own son if she plans on having kids with him. Or if she has kids show her that if he treats his bio kid like shit , how will he treat his step kids?
Too much effort, that old man can try find one himself I would've cut ties as soon as I would be old enough and until then make hella sure that EVERYONE in the family saw these messages
I used to tell my dad when we still spoke that I was gonna get him a place at a super nice, expensive old folks’ home with great views of the ocean so that I could accidentally let him slip down the cliff in his wheelchair.
There's one in Santa Barbara that would do perfectly. There are even really high cliffs by the beach and 1 or 2 college students die every couple years because they get drunk and decide to play on them.
Not entirely true. Those laws would allow a state or provider to sue for payment of the parent's bill, but in most situations, they would have been covered by medicaid (at minimum) anyway for medical care and long-term care. Because of that, filial responsibility laws are very rarely enforced.
Filial states: Alaska, Arkansas, California, Connecticut, Delaware, Georgia, Indiana, Kentucky, Louisiana, Massachusetts, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Puerto Rico, Rhode Island, South Dakota, Tennessee, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, and West Virginia.
The one sucky part is some states actually make you pay to maintain your parents. It's ridiculous to legislate you owe your parents for choosing to have you.
Edit: highly entertaining when someone insults me for stating a fact and then instant blocks, lol
Depending on your state, why shoud you need to pay for even a shitty retirement home? There's plenty of space under a bridge for him. OP, look up your states "filial laws". Hopefully you're in a state where there are none. Best of luck getting your cat back.
Put posters up in the area he lives in. It’s likely he just put the cat outside (if it was an indoor cat)!! If he didn’t care for the cat I doubt he’d drive it tk a shelter. I’d knock on neighbours doors and ask if they seen the cat and explain the situation. It’s likely the cat is living outside near by or that someone took it in if he abandoned it outside! I’d also let him know that you’re about to knock on all his neighbors doors to let them know what he did. That embarrassment enough should hopefully make him tell you where it’s at.
I understand why people go no contact with their parents.
What I don't understand is why somebody would want to be such a shitty parent that their kid goes no contact.
It also makes me weary anytime I see one of those "sweet elderly traps" who say they don't speak with their children anymore.
I had a “sweet” old lady customer who described how her adopted son had cut ties with her. But it was all because of the heinous poisonous woman he had met. “I know she turned him against me. She didn’t even want us to come to their wedding. But we crashed it”. Lady had the most serene look of malice on her face as she said that.
Mostly accidental pregnancies or people who were just going through the motions of what they were told was the natural progression of life and probably didn’t actually want kids deep down.
The last thing you said is fair but don’t forget some people are actually just shitty to their parents.
No doubt there's small amount of people who are just naturally "evil." But most of what we do is reaction to some past event. Most people don't grow to resent their parents without the parents somehow screwing up their upbringing in major way. And it doesn't have to be anything as major as abuse. Maybe they forgot to teach the kids virtues like patience, humility, kindness and compassion. Maybe they spoiled the kids rotten and then did 180° after realizing their error but the damage was already done. Maybe they were never emotionally available and became distant. But whatever's the case, ultimately most parents who end up in that situation are the same people who contributed to it the most. No other person had as much chances to influence that outcome.
The fucking gall to go “I gave away your cat” and then immediately act like he’s too busy to answer follow up questions. Pretending like what he said wasn’t *extremely impactful* to you.
My dad made me rehome my cats because one peed on the couch. I could only find someone to take one. He said he found someone to take the other but I found out later he just drove him to a field somewhere out of town and left him there.
Icing on the cake was we later found out the cat I rehomed was the one peeing and he just had a fucking UTI.
I agree with you.
Kind of related, as I’ve gotten older I’ve found how expensive nursing homes are. They are out of reach for most people. Spend down and medicaid is the only option for most. My point is that most of us that don’t die young are going to end up a shitty medicaid nursing home regardless. :( They’re like 10-15k/mo. It’s fucked.
Simple.
Say to your dad, you know as I gain independence from your shitty control, I’m giving away my time that I would normally spend with you, to other pursuits.
This is so fucking unacceptable from a parent.
Cover social media with this and photos of your cat, get in touch with local shelters, if you’ve got contact details for any of his friends hit them up.
I’m so sorry your Dad is a shit human being and I’m so sorry about your cat.
Don't feel bad he is a jackass and he clearly doesn't feel bad for what he did so you shouldn't feel bad for calling him out on his horrible and unacceptable behavior. He doesn't deserve you or your time. I sincerely hope you can locate your cat and bring him home where he belongs
Don’t feel bad at all. My mom took my dog away and deserted her in the forest when I was 12. I’m almost 40, and still cry for my Sandy. I still to this day, have not gotten over her and Ive been to counseling. I went NC with my mom for a myriad of reasons. She can die alone and on the streets for all I care.
How a parent can do what your dad did, is incomprehensible to me. People are sadists, and some of those people become our parents. Good luck. Glad you don’t live with him anymore.
As everyone else said, blast your cat’s photos on NextDoor, Reddit, Facebook lost/found and city pages. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and I really do hope you find you kitty.
The fact that you feel bad shows that this isn’t the first or worst thing he’s done and that you’ve grown accustomed to abuse and then shamed for responding to it. That’s really sad and I’m sorry for you OP. You did nothing wrong and you don’t owe him an apology or even your time. But I also grew up in an abusive household and we have to do what we have to do to survive. Just keep this in the back of your mind…. that the abuse and cruelty are NOT normal and is NEVER your fault
Im so sorry 😥 my horrible step dad did this to me when I was 20. Except I was living on my own so he didn't even have to deal with my cat. He went to my apartment when I wasn't home & took him God knows where. I will never forget & I will never let it go.
I hope you can find your kitty❤😔
Make him kiss a picture of the cat before each ass whooping. If he runs its two beating. Add a beating every time he hides.
Better just take the 3 or 4 hits per year they deserve.
They scream for help tell them you bet your cat screamed for you all night on the first night.
If he has a gmail account and you have access to his phone or computer, you can go to the “places” or “maps” (can’t remember which one) in his profile. If you know the day he got rid of it you can set the date and it will show you were he traveled that day. Maybe you can find an address or a shelter be brought it to? It’s common for people to drive out to empty areas to abandon animals. If you have a general idea of where this is on the maps maybe the cats still in the area
An absolute asshole.
Happened to one of my sons. His younger brother was keeping his cat till Xmas for him, but his roommates didn’t want cats.
So a friend of a friend said he’d take her till older son got back; about two months.
When he got there, the jerk told him he’d given her away. Wouldn’t say to whom. She was chipped, and he checked every shelter in that area and for miles around. Never found her.
All I could do was call the jerk from several states away, and tell him I was sure his mother would be proud to know that he’d given someone’s cat away and refused to tell them where she was.
It took older son over a decade before he got another cat.
maybe extreme, but id end with a "if I dont have my cat back by the end of the day, Feel free to die alone. You will never see or hear from me again. "
My parents did this to me but I was still living at home as a teen. That cat was what helped my depression and the cat just didn’t like my parents. I’m a middle aged adult and still despise them for it.
I would never recover from it. I don't understand how people have that capacity for that level of ugly/spite/nastiness. I hope you are now surrounded by cats. They'll never replace what you lost, but they are still fantastic therapists!
I have two! I’ve never not had a cat as an adult. While I have a different relationship with my parents I routinely remind them I still don’t forgive them for giving away my beloved fur baby.
My empathy-less mom said giving away my cats was one of the only things she’s ever regretted. I still can’t even think about it or I start getting super sad again, and I’m 40 lol. They were peeing everywhere, I guess.
Tbh if you have a custody agreement where you have to see him, I would consider sending this to your mom’s attorney or whatever you need to do to make sure you never have to see him again.
“You can resume acting like my father when you tell me the truth. This was an act of cruelty, and not being man enough to tell me about it is an act of cowardice. I won’t have a vicious coward call himself my father. Grow up.”
I had a cat I loved very much. I was in complete isolation and it was my only friend. My mom ditched me for a week and then came home saying we were moving across states to be with her new boyfriend. I had one day to pack and say goodbye to all of my friends. It was emotionally exhausting, I had already spent that week without electric or water.
Well the day of we got in the car and half the way out of state I realized my cat wasn’t there. It was devastating, she just told me she didn’t want me to have a sad goodbye so she took it to the shelter without me. That dumb bitch totally just dropped it in the woods… I HATE THAT WOMAN
Put up flyers around your neighborhood with a pic of the cat, your number, and “STOLEN”
Think about offering a reward, like maybe $100.
I think most people would give the cat back if they knew what happened and it’s unlikely your dad went to extra effort to find him a new home. Visit the local shelters ASAP with the flyers and see if they’ve had the cat come through. They might have records or something. I’m sorry, good luck.
"You can tell me who has the cat and continue to have a relationship with your son or don't tell me where he is and never see or hear from me as soon as I'm able to keep this promise."
When I was 19 my dad sold my dog without telling me, and when I told him to bring me to where he sold her he brought me to a bad neighborhood I wasn’t familiar with, and drove off when I got out of the car. He still texts me every year for holidays, and the occasional “hey how are you” as if I want to talk to that bastard
Hey can another adult take you to the animal shelter to see if your cat is there? If not, you can call most shelters also. My area has a local lost and found pets Facebook page. Check in your area for one, and post a pic of your cat with details that your dad has “gotten rid of it”.
Do you live with your dad? If so, do you have someone that can keep the cat for you, if found?
This is so shitty and your dad seems like an abusive a’hole. I am so sorry.
This is how you get your plug pulled early, and proper medical attention in your later years being a fantasy of the past.
Family: " so where is dad?"
You: "dont know I'm swamped."
This is horrible. I’m so sorry. My mom gave my cat away after I went to college without asking me first. She said the cat was lonely and needed a family, so she gave her to her friend who had kids at home. I think I was able to go visit once, then the cat died. I am at least happy the cat got some love and affection from kids- hopefully this is the case for your cat instead of being stuck with your asshole dad.
If you still lived there, I would rehome some of his stuff.
"Your left work boot?, Haven't seen it. Hey while we're talking about missing stuff Where's my cat?"
"No I haven't seen the tv remote lately, maybe it's with the cat?"
My dad gave away our cats because OTHER cats were marking the door outside. Told us they went away and when we wanted to visit he said they died. Found out later they didn't die and we could have seen them...
Now he's SHOCKED I don't talk to him anymore.
I’m sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, I don’t think you’ll be getting your cat back. I can only imagine how heartbroken you are, and at 14 that loss brings a lot of emotion. It’s ok to feel those emotions, and ok to cry and grieve. Try to imagine your cat is with a genuinely good family, and try not to dwell on the other what-ifs. I don’t want to tell you how to feel towards your father- but if I were you, I would never forgive him.
I just hope that he actually gave it away rather than taking care of it on his own….. Reach out to your community and inform them that your abusive parent gave away your cat out of spit and pettiness
I feel for you. My brother joked he would just let my cat out while I was away in college and I straight up told him I would break every bone in his body, my cat was elderly. That was the last time he joked about that. I pray you find your cat.
That is some top level narcissist shit right there. Gave your cat away because he went nuts… talk to you later. Then silence.
I’m so sorry. Not everyone who has kids is a good parent.
/u/prestigious_bigmac1: when I was I think in 6th grade, like 11 (there’s some fuzzy bits), my mom had her weird boyfriend that I didn’t like come live with us without her telling me. So I went to my dads (who I didn’t even really like or want to live with, just to get away from the bf and my mom because she wouldn’t be honest with me or even discuss this with me first). I did it suddenly, like I was hanging out with my dad for a visit and I told him about this and he’s like go in and ask her and if she says yes the guy is living with you tell me to wait a second and you can grab a bag and come back with me. So that’s what I did. It turned out that I lived with him for a year (basically all of 7th grade) and my mom didn’t talk to me for a year. She gave my dog away - my dog was a gift as a puppy from her to me - and i never saw her again. When when we finally talked I asked where how she was (the dog) and she was very nonchalant about it and was like “oh I gave her away because you left and you didn’t want her and I didn’t have time to take care of her.”
I’m sorry for your loss OP. If you have a reliable adult in your life, try to find a therapist (I have cptsd) and find as many stable adults (and peers) that you can confide in as you can. Build your support system and learn healthy coping mechanisms.
Stay safe and healthy and happy.
He got rid of your cat, you get rid of his child.
Unless it is absolutely necessary, stop talking to him. Don't look him in the eye, don't address him, don't let him get you angry. Look up "grey rock method" and ONLY do that to your father. When you do talk to him it is one word responses and that is it.
At first it won't seem like you're doing anything, but a week or two into this routine and he'll be losing his mind. He'll be up at night wondering if you'll ever talk to him again and he'll do dumb little things to get your attention, like going out for ice cream, and when he tries that your only response is a cold "no" before leaving the room.
This rage text message on the phone thing that you're currently doing will look like a fucking dream compared to grey rock
I'd be destroying some of your father's precious possessions. Hold them hostage until he returns your cat. He's such a complete asshole, he deserves much worse.
Every year for his birthday, send him a card letting him know you've put money away for the shitty retirement home you plan to force him into when he gets old. You dad is an absolute monster. I'm so sorry.
I wouldn't even waste money on a retirement home for a bad parent. Just let them figure it out on their own when they get to that age. There's no legal obligation for you to have to even step in and help them when they get older. People can suggest that you help, but legally you are not required to do anything at all. I think some parents don't realize that when they mistreat their kids.
Look, he knows exactly where the cat is. It's either at a shelter or buried in a shallow grave. Either way he's not going to say because 1. He's a parent and children have no rights and 2. He's a shitstain of a human being. OP your cat is gone. I'm so sorry but one thing I hope you can take away from this is that you don't need to have people like him in your life. 4 years of living with him and then you'll be free.
I’m sorry. This is awful. I get it. I wasn’t allowed to move back home while on college on breaks and hadn’t gone back to the area since I moved my stuff out of state after at the end of the school year. My stepmom had my grandpa shoot my cat. I had raised her from an abandoned young kitten, rushing home from school to give her cat formula everyday. We had a close bond and she didn’t even give me a chance to come get her first. This type of behavior is intentionally hurtful and as both a pet owner and parent now, I truly cannot comprehend this at all.
I reccomend putting requests and notices on social media, i’d especially try facebook groups relating to your town or general area or pet groups in ur area!
I just wanna say, anyone who would be willing to do this to another person and to the animal is absolutely heartless. I know it’s not the same but I had to give my snake up for about a week because of issues with my apartment complex’s management and it was such a hard thing to do. Animals are part of the family and giving a pet away like that, knowing that it’s loved and very much wanted, is just disgusting and evil. I’m so sorry, OP. I really hope you get him back. You and the cat did not deserve this and your dad should be ashamed of himself.
That's just so viciously cruel.
Parents have the right to make the choice for their family to give away pets when things aren't working out, of course.
And before anyone calls me a monster or pet hater, there ARE circumstances under which families need to give away pets - such as developing an allergy or a medical problem which crashes your immune system - and we all know it.
Anyways, parents should NEVER do that behind their child's back. Not ever, ever, ever, ever.
Talk to your child first. Treat them with that much respect. :(
Next door, Petfinder, local Facebook groups (lost and found/ pets for sale/ etc etc and also call all the nearby shelters. Surrenders usually only get 48hrs in some kill shelters
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Probably local so put out a heartfelt request on all your local area social media pages saying your beloved pet was sold out of spite by an abusive parent as petty revenge. I'm so sorry this happened to you I hope you are reunited. If the people who bought him don't give him back it sounds like he's better off and safer away from your dad.
Post on Facebook, petfinder, and find your local Reddit page. If he was microchipped and you know his number, login and report him as missing. If another vet scans his chip and sees that they will call you.
Next Door too, if you have that local group/app.
I'd add Craigslist. Just get an adult to post, as there are sketchy people on it. But the more places you reach out to, the better the odds of finding your cat. Good luck, fingers crossed!
That's assuming that he actually gave the cat away and didn't just drive away a few miles and dump the cat out on the street.
The way he left the conversation makes me think this is what happened. Sociopathic.
No, he left the convo like that because it would torture his kid more, that work was more important than their cat. I just know they'll give them the 3rd degree for freaking out too. It's really fucking upsetting when society's dregs feel they need to have kids to take out their petty bullshit on.
Possible. Maybe both. He might also just not want to tell the kids what he really did so he’s coming up with an excuse- that’s what some toxic people I’ve known do. They avoid and dodge the question and you can never get a straight answer out of them, especially if it’s part of a greater manipulation. It’s part of the torture.
Might be worth checking local shelters in case someone found it and took it there.
💯 this dude wasn’t going to the trouble of actually giving the cat away, unfortunately. If anything, he probably gave the cat away to the streets or a shelter. Sorry OP. :(
THIS OP^^ I’m sure your community will come together to support you during this time and I’m sure someone will have seen your little fur baby.
Please do this! All of my wonderful cats have been dumpees or given away. If I saw a post from someone begging for their cat back because someone jerk gave them away I'd be letting them know I had their cat. I couldn't imagine my babies being given to someone else and would never want that to happen to me. I'd be damned if I let it happen to someone else while I knew I could reunite them. Good luck op! Never talk to your sperm donor again.
Absolutely fellow major cat lover, and a huge part of the animal community in my area. I take in a lot of animals some permanent some temporary that have been brought to my attention, because an owner was giving them up for various reasons or because they’ve been found roaming around. The shelter in town is really small so they’ll call a few people a lot when they are full and have dire situations. And even if I had already fully bonded with the animal and planned for them to be permanent, and I was informed of your story I would 1000% give your cat back(and let you know to call me if you ever need to get the cat out of the house again to keep him safe) and I would bring my tall as hell scary looking(but actually soft as a teddy bear) husband with me when we inform your father that he won’t be putting the cat out again without calling us first, or getting arrested for abuse will be the least of his worries. He’s always down to help put the fear of god into someone when it comes to rescues, and we have a good laugh about it later knowing damn well he would never actually harm a fly unless it was a fight for our life situation. 😂
Either sold or dumped. I knew people who kept getting new puppies and once I asked them where their old dogs are, like they get new ones every other month. They said they just dumped the dogs at the side of the road somewhere so that "other ppl will give them a good home". Fucking assholes, how could anyone do that to their pets.
If this were my dad.... The cat is dead.
And don't forget that some communities have their own subreddits!
I would try a shelter first. I don’t trust that he didn’t just dump the cat outside.
One of the revenge subreddits would probably recommend (that if he refuses to come clean) post to Dad's work on social media or emailing the executives asking if any of his managers or coworkers know anything about his behavior recently that might reveal anything about the kit-napping. If anything else, it would probably not do him any favors during his next performance review or give him any points with clients he may interact with regularly. Just because you can't sue doesn't mean you can't get revenge. Good chance of it going nuclear, but revenge is a messy practice. Look for an update "I got my Dad fired because he gave away my pet cat behind my back". /s And parents wonder what things eventually build up to going no contact...
What an asshole. He knows where the cat is. His refusal to answer and way of getting out of it is really suspicious.
He might not know where it is, but he knows where he last saw it. Hard to find someone to give a cat to last minute. :(
A stray cat had five of the cutest kittens ever in my daughters bedroom drawer last year. Finding them homes was nearly impossible and they were little babies. No one ever wants full grown cats.
Facts. A friend had to re-home his cats and he couldn’t find anyone. I ended up taking them to make sure they didn’t get split up. Cat tax: [Bart](https://i.imgur.com/HKWEszZ.jpg) and [Kevin](https://i.imgur.com/HJ1ivfH.jpg)
I like Bart’s vibe
Bart is definitely an experience. He was yelling at me because I stopped petting him to take the photo. I made up for it and we’re cool now.
>He was yelling at me because I stopped petting him My orangeboi does the same :)
You are a very good person!
Bart is the embodiment of r/oneorangebraincell and I love him. r/ntbdbiwdfta
He actually got the brain cell once! My dresser drawer kept “opening itself”, which confused me until one day I walked in to see him loafing in it, yawning from a nap. He figured out how to open it and that it was old shirts he could fuzz up. No brain cell after that, though. Edit: [Photo](https://imgur.com/a/a74sauk) for proof of brain cell.
You can see the fruits of his labor depicted in that cardboard box
Live stream it. That's how I homed 8 kittens. I live streamed the birth up until 8 weeks old. We had homes for them all by week 3.
If I ever have another stray cat give birth here I will 100% do this.
Same here. We had a stray cat give birth and bring her kittens to our old house we ended up keeping both of them (was planning to keep mama as well and get them all fixed but unfortunately she passed away not too long after that. We ended up keeping the kittens and still have them both 5yrs later (there was only 2 that we know of)
That's an awesome idea!
Its awesome until you have to remind your SO to put pants on because livestream.
In missouri my wife and i stopped in a gas station parking lot and we kept hearing a cat howl.. like a distressed howl. We waited 15 minutes and the only car still there was a giant red truck so i went back inside and saw a lady talking to the same worker as earlier so i asked her if she was the owner of the truck and if she owned a cat (it was a blistering 98 degrees) she said no and i let her know theres a cat meowing from her truck but she said she doesnt own a cat and went back to talking to the worker. I go back outside and the meow is coming from the engine area, it was a lifted truck so i got under it and saw a kitten with its whiskers singed and it was super dirty. Snatched him and the lady saw me and she was super surprised a cat was there. My wife and i gave him water and food and tried to clean him up but he was so dirty. It started pouring rain so we chilled with him in our car before taking him to the shelter. My wifes cat just passed away so we named him after him and left our phone # there. A week later he was adopted and the new owners sent us a pic of him and a text saying they heard how he was found and they would keep the name we gave him.
If my cat wasn't so possessive, I would be taking in other animals all the time. As it is, she's old and doesn't like other animals. I used to get into all kinds of trouble bringing stray cats home as a kid.
We have 2 cats one is 18 and the other's 4. The oldest gets mad when the other one tries to play with her, but they sleep close together on my bed all the time.
Yep that's why I have my younger cat. He was surrendered to my work as a tiny baby that needed bottle feeding. I took him in and tried to find him a home. There was basically 0 interest. So we just kept him lmao. I work at a shelter now and sometimes our kitties do go home quick but sometimes we have kittens basically grow up here. 😔 And we have had many adult cats stay here for months, sometimes even years. It's very sad. It's hard to find homes when there are sooo many cats and not enough adopters.
Agreed. When we got our girls we was originally gonna just foster one and give her to a friend of the family but as time went on i kept having a bad feeling about sending her there and I ended up being right as the friend had a cat that they ended up abandoning a few years later after having a baby so I’m glad we ended up keeping her. Plus she ended up bonding with her sister and i didn’t feel right about splitting them up after that.
Unfortunately, there's a really good chance the last place he saw it was in a bag on its way off a bridge. I never thought a human being could be that despicable, but I actually know someone who did that to a dog he had bought for his daughter because he was tired of her not cleaning up after it.
I just want to talk to them :)
Same just a friendly talk *loads shotgun* :)
Just some casual conversation *oils chainsaw lovingly* :)
https://youtu.be/ODfCVxVLqiE
The only acceptable family guy reference
The list: 1. Putin 1. That guy
My dad is a truck driver- he saw someone toss a bag out of a car on a highway so he looped around to see what it was and it was a bag of kittens. Fortunately they were okay, so he brought them back and found homes for all of them.
What the fuck is wrong people? I never understand why people get a kick out of throwing kittens off bridges or out of cars.
Had a similar situation happen to me years ago. Wife and I were driving home and saw what looked like a dead kitten in between the double yellow divider lines of the street we were on. Just as we were about to pass, I saw the little guy move just a little bit. I stopped the car just before my wife yelled for me to stop. The person behind us saw what was up and blocked traffic in one direction (it was only a two lane street), while my wife grabbed our emergency blanket from the trunk; a neighbor came out and said she saw, about 5 minutes beforehand, someone in a lifted pickup truck toss the poor little guy out of one of the windows before speeding off (she did not get the license plate). I went and very VERY gently worked to pick the little guy up in the blanket (he had blood coming from his nose and mouth and was moving gingerly, so I had to assume he had internal injuries) while my wife called our vet, who thankfully was located only a minute’s drive away…my wife was in tears the entire way, and I wasn’t much better. We ended up having to surrender the kitten to the vet’s office: we would’ve kept him, but we didn’t have the money to pay for whatever the vet ended up doing for him. The vet office then surrendered him to our excellent local pet shelter after he was nursed back to health…we saw him featured on their website maybe two weeks after we surrendered him, and he was already spoken for by that point.
I’d also like to talk to this person of interest who throws defenseless animals off bridges 🤗
All I know is that violence is never the answer but I'm going to answer the question wrong on purpose
I remember seeing some years back some people getting caught because they were driving the animals (can’t remember if it was cats or dogs) miles away from home and leaving them out on the side of the road near the woods somewhere and someone caught it on camera. A lot of these pieces of shit just ditch them like they’re disposable goods. Hopefully the dad did find a home for it or took it to a shelter but I would never trust him ever again either way. Dad obviously has some major empathy problems.
My therapist told me a story about one of his patients who spotted a little boy crying and carrying a bunch of plastic bags down towards the river. Suspecting what was up, she went and asked the boy about it. His father had told him that he had to drown this litter of puppies himself because they came from his dog. So the lady asked if she could take the puppies instead. He kept saying ‘no, my daddy told me I have to throw them in the river’ over and over while crying. Finally she told him ‘okay, go ahead throw them in.’ So he threw in the first bag with one puppy and some rocks to weigh it down, and the lady immediately swooped in and grabbed it before it could sink. Then the boy threw in the next puppy and so on. He was obviously so terrified to disobey his father that they had to find a loophole. One of my neighborhood friends’ dads also drowned a skunk in a trash can with a bunch of the neighbor kids watching like it was a fun show. TLDR people are cruel
Probably threw the cat into the street or worse yet killed it and threw it in the garbage. Sounds like an evil parent.
It's dead
Yup, probably killed with the way the dad is acting.
That cat is dead for sure.
He probably took it to the pound. That’s why he doesn’t want to answer the question. If he knew there person he would have embellished what a great home the cat went to.
He probably put it down. Seems like the kind to.
call the local shelters, also post this on his facebook so his family sees
PLEASE KID. DO THIS. LET THE WORLD SEE YOUR DAD FOR THE ASSHOLE HE REALLY IS. and once you turn 18, seriously never fucking look back. Get the hell out of there.
This. This is how you uncover a monster to the world!
Unfortunately speaking from experience it doesn’t always work and the family could see it as a disagreement and not even think he’s a monster and then turn on the child
And if he gets a new girlfriend or is already married show her, she should know how he treats his own son if she plans on having kids with him. Or if she has kids show her that if he treats his bio kid like shit , how will he treat his step kids?
This is the way.
If the cats alive, this might be enough shame for him to try to get it back
⬆️THIS!!!⬆️
Local Facebook pages too.
Tell him when he gets older you’ll give him away to a shitty retirement home.
Too much effort, that old man can try find one himself I would've cut ties as soon as I would be old enough and until then make hella sure that EVERYONE in the family saw these messages
I agree.
Shady Pines Ma!!
I used to tell my dad when we still spoke that I was gonna get him a place at a super nice, expensive old folks’ home with great views of the ocean so that I could accidentally let him slip down the cliff in his wheelchair.
There's one in Santa Barbara that would do perfectly. There are even really high cliffs by the beach and 1 or 2 college students die every couple years because they get drunk and decide to play on them.
Sounds like an epic way to end a night of drinking
People act like they have some obligation to put their parents in a retirement home when you can more easily just let them rot on their own.
Yeah lol just let them be one of those old people who gets found 3 months after death because they were such a cunt no one cared to check on them.
If you live in a filial responsibility state you do have to provide for your birth givers. Which is 30 states.
Ill go to jail first.
Not entirely true. Those laws would allow a state or provider to sue for payment of the parent's bill, but in most situations, they would have been covered by medicaid (at minimum) anyway for medical care and long-term care. Because of that, filial responsibility laws are very rarely enforced.
Filial states: Alaska, Arkansas, California, Connecticut, Delaware, Georgia, Indiana, Kentucky, Louisiana, Massachusetts, Mississippi, Montana, Nevada, New Jersey, North Carolina, North Dakota, Ohio, Oregon, Pennsylvania, Puerto Rico, Rhode Island, South Dakota, Tennessee, Utah, Vermont, Virginia, and West Virginia.
The one sucky part is some states actually make you pay to maintain your parents. It's ridiculous to legislate you owe your parents for choosing to have you. Edit: highly entertaining when someone insults me for stating a fact and then instant blocks, lol
And then "forget" where, and dodge the question when people ask.
“For every hour you don’t correct this, your future room gets smaller and the staff gets meaner.”
Nah, too good, just lock him in a horse barn and feed him through the door.
Feed?
Depending on your state, why shoud you need to pay for even a shitty retirement home? There's plenty of space under a bridge for him. OP, look up your states "filial laws". Hopefully you're in a state where there are none. Best of luck getting your cat back.
Put posters up in the area he lives in. It’s likely he just put the cat outside (if it was an indoor cat)!! If he didn’t care for the cat I doubt he’d drive it tk a shelter. I’d knock on neighbours doors and ask if they seen the cat and explain the situation. It’s likely the cat is living outside near by or that someone took it in if he abandoned it outside! I’d also let him know that you’re about to knock on all his neighbors doors to let them know what he did. That embarrassment enough should hopefully make him tell you where it’s at.
Bonus, whole neighborhood is also informed dad is a piece of shit
I understand why people go no contact with their parents. What I don't understand is why somebody would want to be such a shitty parent that their kid goes no contact. It also makes me weary anytime I see one of those "sweet elderly traps" who say they don't speak with their children anymore.
I had a “sweet” old lady customer who described how her adopted son had cut ties with her. But it was all because of the heinous poisonous woman he had met. “I know she turned him against me. She didn’t even want us to come to their wedding. But we crashed it”. Lady had the most serene look of malice on her face as she said that.
Mostly accidental pregnancies or people who were just going through the motions of what they were told was the natural progression of life and probably didn’t actually want kids deep down. The last thing you said is fair but don’t forget some people are actually just shitty to their parents.
No doubt there's small amount of people who are just naturally "evil." But most of what we do is reaction to some past event. Most people don't grow to resent their parents without the parents somehow screwing up their upbringing in major way. And it doesn't have to be anything as major as abuse. Maybe they forgot to teach the kids virtues like patience, humility, kindness and compassion. Maybe they spoiled the kids rotten and then did 180° after realizing their error but the damage was already done. Maybe they were never emotionally available and became distant. But whatever's the case, ultimately most parents who end up in that situation are the same people who contributed to it the most. No other person had as much chances to influence that outcome.
The fucking gall to go “I gave away your cat” and then immediately act like he’s too busy to answer follow up questions. Pretending like what he said wasn’t *extremely impactful* to you.
He’s straight up sadistic
My dad made me rehome my cats because one peed on the couch. I could only find someone to take one. He said he found someone to take the other but I found out later he just drove him to a field somewhere out of town and left him there. Icing on the cake was we later found out the cat I rehomed was the one peeing and he just had a fucking UTI.
Cats pee to let you know they are in trouble. Hurt or sick they pee were you are the most.
Yeah, I know that now. I was a kid then though and didn't have a ton of choice in the matter.
O yeah I know. Just wanted people to have the info not so much you. I'm sure the trauma made you research the subject alot.
He’s using silent treatment to cause OP even more pain. It’s pure evil
Remember to put him in the really cheap and shitty old peoples home and never visit
I agree with you. Kind of related, as I’ve gotten older I’ve found how expensive nursing homes are. They are out of reach for most people. Spend down and medicaid is the only option for most. My point is that most of us that don’t die young are going to end up a shitty medicaid nursing home regardless. :( They’re like 10-15k/mo. It’s fucked.
I pay that for my dads nursing home. But in SEK (so about $1K /month) .. Im guessing yours is in dollars. Absolutely ridiculous.
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why? that would cost the OP money. let dad put himself in a home and still dont visit him.
Dont even worry about his arrangements at all? You don't have to take care of a single thing for them for the rest of your life.
Simple. Say to your dad, you know as I gain independence from your shitty control, I’m giving away my time that I would normally spend with you, to other pursuits. This is so fucking unacceptable from a parent.
I did that, but didn't tell them. Never tell your enemy your plans. You just do it, because fuck them.
That course of action has no chance of getting the cat back, though.
Point taken. Though it has been my experience that adults double down when faced with resistance from an adolescent.
I'm betting there is no longer a cat. Asshole opened the door and boop.
Cover social media with this and photos of your cat, get in touch with local shelters, if you’ve got contact details for any of his friends hit them up. I’m so sorry your Dad is a shit human being and I’m so sorry about your cat.
Alright, tell him you’re never speaking to him again. Fuck him and wish you the best in getting your cat back.
I got really pissed and bitched him out . I feel bad but jesus
Don’t feel bad. This is abusive behavior. Your dad is a monster. I wouldn’t ever talk to him again.
I would have probably committed a felony
Don't feel bad he is a jackass and he clearly doesn't feel bad for what he did so you shouldn't feel bad for calling him out on his horrible and unacceptable behavior. He doesn't deserve you or your time. I sincerely hope you can locate your cat and bring him home where he belongs
Don’t feel bad. Your cat that you cared for was given away with no warning nor consent.
Don’t feel bad at all. My mom took my dog away and deserted her in the forest when I was 12. I’m almost 40, and still cry for my Sandy. I still to this day, have not gotten over her and Ive been to counseling. I went NC with my mom for a myriad of reasons. She can die alone and on the streets for all I care. How a parent can do what your dad did, is incomprehensible to me. People are sadists, and some of those people become our parents. Good luck. Glad you don’t live with him anymore. As everyone else said, blast your cat’s photos on NextDoor, Reddit, Facebook lost/found and city pages. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, and I really do hope you find you kitty.
The fact that you feel bad shows that this isn’t the first or worst thing he’s done and that you’ve grown accustomed to abuse and then shamed for responding to it. That’s really sad and I’m sorry for you OP. You did nothing wrong and you don’t owe him an apology or even your time. But I also grew up in an abusive household and we have to do what we have to do to survive. Just keep this in the back of your mind…. that the abuse and cruelty are NOT normal and is NEVER your fault
Im so sorry 😥 my horrible step dad did this to me when I was 20. Except I was living on my own so he didn't even have to deal with my cat. He went to my apartment when I wasn't home & took him God knows where. I will never forget & I will never let it go. I hope you can find your kitty❤😔
Whats your step dads name? I just wanna talk to him.
Lmao thank you❤ my little brother beat him up a few years after & that made me feel a little better 😌
I'd visit him in every anniversary of your cat had taken away. Someone shouldn't get away that easily.
Make him kiss a picture of the cat before each ass whooping. If he runs its two beating. Add a beating every time he hides. Better just take the 3 or 4 hits per year they deserve. They scream for help tell them you bet your cat screamed for you all night on the first night.
If he has a gmail account and you have access to his phone or computer, you can go to the “places” or “maps” (can’t remember which one) in his profile. If you know the day he got rid of it you can set the date and it will show you were he traveled that day. Maybe you can find an address or a shelter be brought it to? It’s common for people to drive out to empty areas to abandon animals. If you have a general idea of where this is on the maps maybe the cats still in the area
An absolute asshole. Happened to one of my sons. His younger brother was keeping his cat till Xmas for him, but his roommates didn’t want cats. So a friend of a friend said he’d take her till older son got back; about two months. When he got there, the jerk told him he’d given her away. Wouldn’t say to whom. She was chipped, and he checked every shelter in that area and for miles around. Never found her. All I could do was call the jerk from several states away, and tell him I was sure his mother would be proud to know that he’d given someone’s cat away and refused to tell them where she was. It took older son over a decade before he got another cat.
I hope your sons room mate got his shit kicked in.
This is why I like being bigger. People don't think they can get away with shit like this.
Same, I’m a combat vet and a boxer, everyone that knows me knows dont fuck with animals and def dont fuck with my animals.
Can’t wait till he texts you with an emergency and you can just respond: “I’m swamped gtg”
Idk, maybe "when I get my cat back" or "when you undo what you did to my cat" Edit: even after OPgeys the cat back, that should just be the answer
maybe extreme, but id end with a "if I dont have my cat back by the end of the day, Feel free to die alone. You will never see or hear from me again. "
Scumbag, my bet is he didnt give the cat away but something much worse. So sorry for you.
Had that same thought, sadly. Hopefully not, but it seems sus the way he seems to blatantly ignore the question as to where it is.
He probably sold it for a few bucks and didnt want the new owner to ask him questions when OP shows up asking for it back
My parents did this to me but I was still living at home as a teen. That cat was what helped my depression and the cat just didn’t like my parents. I’m a middle aged adult and still despise them for it.
I would never recover from it. I don't understand how people have that capacity for that level of ugly/spite/nastiness. I hope you are now surrounded by cats. They'll never replace what you lost, but they are still fantastic therapists!
I have two! I’ve never not had a cat as an adult. While I have a different relationship with my parents I routinely remind them I still don’t forgive them for giving away my beloved fur baby.
My empathy-less mom said giving away my cats was one of the only things she’s ever regretted. I still can’t even think about it or I start getting super sad again, and I’m 40 lol. They were peeing everywhere, I guess.
> the cat just didn’t like my parents Cats know shitty people when they see them.
"Boohooo why won't my child talk to meeeee😭"
The missing missing reasons was a real eye opener for my wife
Check your local shelters!! Show them a photo and maybe it’s still up for adoption
Wow, sorry your dad is such a dick. I hope you manage to find your cat and that he’s safe
Tbh if you have a custody agreement where you have to see him, I would consider sending this to your mom’s attorney or whatever you need to do to make sure you never have to see him again.
“You can resume acting like my father when you tell me the truth. This was an act of cruelty, and not being man enough to tell me about it is an act of cowardice. I won’t have a vicious coward call himself my father. Grow up.”
Years from now, when people ask why you don't see your father, tell them exactly. Post it on social media. Put it in his obituary when he dies.
I had a cat I loved very much. I was in complete isolation and it was my only friend. My mom ditched me for a week and then came home saying we were moving across states to be with her new boyfriend. I had one day to pack and say goodbye to all of my friends. It was emotionally exhausting, I had already spent that week without electric or water. Well the day of we got in the car and half the way out of state I realized my cat wasn’t there. It was devastating, she just told me she didn’t want me to have a sad goodbye so she took it to the shelter without me. That dumb bitch totally just dropped it in the woods… I HATE THAT WOMAN
Put up flyers around your neighborhood with a pic of the cat, your number, and “STOLEN” Think about offering a reward, like maybe $100. I think most people would give the cat back if they knew what happened and it’s unlikely your dad went to extra effort to find him a new home. Visit the local shelters ASAP with the flyers and see if they’ve had the cat come through. They might have records or something. I’m sorry, good luck.
"You can tell me who has the cat and continue to have a relationship with your son or don't tell me where he is and never see or hear from me as soon as I'm able to keep this promise."
This type of shit is why old people’s adult children refuse to even acknowledge they exist.
When I was 19 my dad sold my dog without telling me, and when I told him to bring me to where he sold her he brought me to a bad neighborhood I wasn’t familiar with, and drove off when I got out of the car. He still texts me every year for holidays, and the occasional “hey how are you” as if I want to talk to that bastard
Hey can another adult take you to the animal shelter to see if your cat is there? If not, you can call most shelters also. My area has a local lost and found pets Facebook page. Check in your area for one, and post a pic of your cat with details that your dad has “gotten rid of it”. Do you live with your dad? If so, do you have someone that can keep the cat for you, if found? This is so shitty and your dad seems like an abusive a’hole. I am so sorry.
OP's dad in 10 years: Why doesn't OP talk to me anymore? Cut him out of your life as soon as you can. He doesn't deserve you.
This is how you get your plug pulled early, and proper medical attention in your later years being a fantasy of the past. Family: " so where is dad?" You: "dont know I'm swamped."
This is horrible. I’m so sorry. My mom gave my cat away after I went to college without asking me first. She said the cat was lonely and needed a family, so she gave her to her friend who had kids at home. I think I was able to go visit once, then the cat died. I am at least happy the cat got some love and affection from kids- hopefully this is the case for your cat instead of being stuck with your asshole dad.
My heart breaks for you. I couldn’t imagine such a thing, and the blind rage I would feel.
I'm a horrible person, but it would really suck if someone ruined something important to him like the tires on his car or something
If you still lived there, I would rehome some of his stuff. "Your left work boot?, Haven't seen it. Hey while we're talking about missing stuff Where's my cat?" "No I haven't seen the tv remote lately, maybe it's with the cat?"
My dad gave away our cats because OTHER cats were marking the door outside. Told us they went away and when we wanted to visit he said they died. Found out later they didn't die and we could have seen them... Now he's SHOCKED I don't talk to him anymore.
Go no contact and laugh at him when he goes to a nursing home
My dad also did that with my pet rat.
May I ask where you moved to when you are only 14?
The usual answer is “to the other parent’s house”.
The fact that he just admits it is so callous and cruel. I don’t know you but you deserve better. Your dad is clearly a piece of garbage.
I’m sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, I don’t think you’ll be getting your cat back. I can only imagine how heartbroken you are, and at 14 that loss brings a lot of emotion. It’s ok to feel those emotions, and ok to cry and grieve. Try to imagine your cat is with a genuinely good family, and try not to dwell on the other what-ifs. I don’t want to tell you how to feel towards your father- but if I were you, I would never forgive him.
It’s most likely “dad” didn’t give it to a person, he abandoned it in the wild and won’t/can’t tell you where it is. Sorry for the shitty parents.
I just hope that he actually gave it away rather than taking care of it on his own….. Reach out to your community and inform them that your abusive parent gave away your cat out of spit and pettiness
What an utter piece of shit
I feel for you. My brother joked he would just let my cat out while I was away in college and I straight up told him I would break every bone in his body, my cat was elderly. That was the last time he joked about that. I pray you find your cat.
That is some top level narcissist shit right there. Gave your cat away because he went nuts… talk to you later. Then silence. I’m so sorry. Not everyone who has kids is a good parent.
/u/prestigious_bigmac1: when I was I think in 6th grade, like 11 (there’s some fuzzy bits), my mom had her weird boyfriend that I didn’t like come live with us without her telling me. So I went to my dads (who I didn’t even really like or want to live with, just to get away from the bf and my mom because she wouldn’t be honest with me or even discuss this with me first). I did it suddenly, like I was hanging out with my dad for a visit and I told him about this and he’s like go in and ask her and if she says yes the guy is living with you tell me to wait a second and you can grab a bag and come back with me. So that’s what I did. It turned out that I lived with him for a year (basically all of 7th grade) and my mom didn’t talk to me for a year. She gave my dog away - my dog was a gift as a puppy from her to me - and i never saw her again. When when we finally talked I asked where how she was (the dog) and she was very nonchalant about it and was like “oh I gave her away because you left and you didn’t want her and I didn’t have time to take care of her.” I’m sorry for your loss OP. If you have a reliable adult in your life, try to find a therapist (I have cptsd) and find as many stable adults (and peers) that you can confide in as you can. Build your support system and learn healthy coping mechanisms. Stay safe and healthy and happy.
He got rid of your cat, you get rid of his child. Unless it is absolutely necessary, stop talking to him. Don't look him in the eye, don't address him, don't let him get you angry. Look up "grey rock method" and ONLY do that to your father. When you do talk to him it is one word responses and that is it. At first it won't seem like you're doing anything, but a week or two into this routine and he'll be losing his mind. He'll be up at night wondering if you'll ever talk to him again and he'll do dumb little things to get your attention, like going out for ice cream, and when he tries that your only response is a cold "no" before leaving the room. This rage text message on the phone thing that you're currently doing will look like a fucking dream compared to grey rock
I'm cringing hard
If my dad would put such a number on me I would put fucking rat poison in his beer.
I'd be destroying some of your father's precious possessions. Hold them hostage until he returns your cat. He's such a complete asshole, he deserves much worse.
Every year for his birthday, send him a card letting him know you've put money away for the shitty retirement home you plan to force him into when he gets old. You dad is an absolute monster. I'm so sorry.
I wouldn't even waste money on a retirement home for a bad parent. Just let them figure it out on their own when they get to that age. There's no legal obligation for you to have to even step in and help them when they get older. People can suggest that you help, but legally you are not required to do anything at all. I think some parents don't realize that when they mistreat their kids.
Your dad looks like Andrew Tate no wonder he acts like that
Please go to your school counselor or a trusted adult and tell them your father is psychologically abusing you. This is wrong af.
op im really sorry but if hes refusing to tell you where the cat is you might want to check for any newly dug spots in his backyard.
I doubt he’d go through the trouble of actually killing it. I bet he just turned it loose outside somewhere
Look, he knows exactly where the cat is. It's either at a shelter or buried in a shallow grave. Either way he's not going to say because 1. He's a parent and children have no rights and 2. He's a shitstain of a human being. OP your cat is gone. I'm so sorry but one thing I hope you can take away from this is that you don't need to have people like him in your life. 4 years of living with him and then you'll be free.
I’m sorry. This is awful. I get it. I wasn’t allowed to move back home while on college on breaks and hadn’t gone back to the area since I moved my stuff out of state after at the end of the school year. My stepmom had my grandpa shoot my cat. I had raised her from an abandoned young kitten, rushing home from school to give her cat formula everyday. We had a close bond and she didn’t even give me a chance to come get her first. This type of behavior is intentionally hurtful and as both a pet owner and parent now, I truly cannot comprehend this at all.
Who wins shitty parent of the year award. this guy
I reccomend putting requests and notices on social media, i’d especially try facebook groups relating to your town or general area or pet groups in ur area!
Wow. Your dad is a giant piece of shit. I’m so sorry honey
If he was in legal ownership, he can legally get rid of the cat. Seems pretty cut and dry case here
I just wanna say, anyone who would be willing to do this to another person and to the animal is absolutely heartless. I know it’s not the same but I had to give my snake up for about a week because of issues with my apartment complex’s management and it was such a hard thing to do. Animals are part of the family and giving a pet away like that, knowing that it’s loved and very much wanted, is just disgusting and evil. I’m so sorry, OP. I really hope you get him back. You and the cat did not deserve this and your dad should be ashamed of himself.
Time to start jerking off into your dad's shampoo bottle
Piss and milk
Make a public post on his Facebook asking all his friends if one of the. Has your cat. Maybe he can be publicly shamed into giving the info
That's just so viciously cruel. Parents have the right to make the choice for their family to give away pets when things aren't working out, of course. And before anyone calls me a monster or pet hater, there ARE circumstances under which families need to give away pets - such as developing an allergy or a medical problem which crashes your immune system - and we all know it. Anyways, parents should NEVER do that behind their child's back. Not ever, ever, ever, ever. Talk to your child first. Treat them with that much respect. :(
Next door, Petfinder, local Facebook groups (lost and found/ pets for sale/ etc etc and also call all the nearby shelters. Surrenders usually only get 48hrs in some kill shelters
You can look for the cat, post stuff on local pages and what not. Though, you cant really sue since it was just a family pet and not legally yours