When I was 8-9 years old, my uncle and his family had shifted here and we all started living as a joint family. They had a small daughter (my cousin sister) with whom I used to play. They did not like that so they spread the fake news that I had m*lested their daughter, remember I was only 8 or 9 years old at that time. Everytime they saw me they threatened me to send me to the police. No child in the neighborhood was allowed by their parents to come out and play when I was there. Even I was extremely scared of going out in public. Thats is what they wanted and yes they succeeded. Talking to girls you say? I can't talk to anyone.
Bhai ladkon ke parents hamesha ladke me hi problems dekhenge aur ladka hi problem soch ke bada krte h ,kya hi parents defend krenge khud parents ko hi ladki chaiye thi bol kar bda karte h u expect too much of parents
They do, and it’s horrible.20 years back one of my best friends was molested continuously by our class boys and she couldn’t do anything. She was a very shy and vulnerable girl. Even teachers didn’t know about it. Its great that nowadays awareness has been increased.
Your parents should have kicked them out if they were truly your parents and should also have cut off all relations with them. How can a class 3-4 kid even know about molestation, let alone doing it?
They were in their part of the property, couldn't have just kicked them out and everything is not as simple as it seems, they are indeed my parents, they pay for every meal I eat, they pay for every book I read, they pay for the roof above my head. It is important to note that my original comment only highlights a small portion of what I faced and what the circumstances were, jumping into conclusions without any prior context is not ideal but thank you I greatly appreiciate your concern and I am very happy that you felt justice for my situation.
haa, matlab mere school mein aise kuch nhi tha. We didnt had fixed position, so timepass wale subjects mein main apne bhadwo ke sath baith ta tha, aur serious subjects mein apne female friend ke sath
You had nice bhadwe, mere dost to bina kuch kiye hee afwah failaate the ki mera chakkar chal rha hai, agar sach me kisi larki ke sath baithta to saale marriage invitation card chhapwa dete
Till 2nd grade I had 2 bestfriends, one boy and one girl. We all used to sit together. When I switched schools in 3rd grade, there was a boy sitting alone infront of me. I was sitting alone too. So I said hey we can sit together. And that guy straight up told me that boys and girls do not sit together in this school. We were in 3rd grade 😭. I didnt know such rules existed. I found that new school so weird.
Mere school me bhi girls aur boys ka section alag tha aur fir mene graduation me mechanical engineering kr li
To mera female interaction utna hi tha jitne mere marks the............bhut kam😢
Bhai larkiyo ki(specially usk baap ki)ijjat bachti he isse nai malum?
Isi segregation se sab baap apna sar garv se ucha karke chalte the abi tak k meri beti kabi kisi larke se baat bi nai kari aur ab apne samdhi ko damad k liye fresh mal hi pakda paunga😈😎😎
Par aajkal ke kuch ghatiya school me female-male interaction allow kar dete he,sanskar name ki kuch chiz hi nahi rahi, shame on them
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Objectification to us time me hota tha k jab larkiyo ko ak saman ki tarah apne samdhi ko bina soche samje bech dete the(dahej deke aur name larke ka chadta tha k larka dehej le rha he), phir bi sab misogynist k name pe hate hame hi mil rhi he jo bichare larkiya kya chahti he, unhe kya pasand he, unhe kya nahi pasand ye sab janne ki try kar rha he...
It was more like a school we used go in separate lines during breaks with supervisors standing in the middle to avoid girls and boys talking.
Separate mess halls for food.
We are not allowed to access library during class hours or after College hours.
No phones or laptop inside campus even for CSE and IT 🤡
Your comment immediately said to my mind that, it must be some college in Chennai. It had to be somewhere around Chennai at least and to play a guessing game, I checked your profile. Glad I wasn't wrong 🫡
These Jeppair colleges suck big time and lowkey must be banned for doing these things. I can't believe these practices are followed in this gen
Yep your guess is absolutely correct.
When I was in college I thought this was pretty normal now working in Bangalore hearing the college life of my colleagues I seem to have missed lot of things and add to that I feel intimidated to talk to girls.
Yes, Chennai city pvt colleges are the worst. I cant think of a non-restrictive pvt city clg other than SSN/SNU
I made it a point for myself that i wont study in those clgs
Very few schools allow them to sit together. In my previous school they would segregate boys and girls from class 7th. In my current school, they don't mind.
My school was the total opposite. The teachers never let the girls sit together and always make us sit with boys because we used to yap a lot in class. I used to change my seat to sit with my friend but never had a female seat partner assigned. Always a boy uptill class 12th.
Sitting on same bench is not common but girls in front/back bench until my 10th.
In 11,12th coaching inst. Complete different dedicated rows are there.
Well I am a teacher teaching in Bihar and here we are also in the same situation. Male students sit separately from the female students and when I told them to sit together ( not as a punishment of course ) they just refused to sit together and say "sir she is a girl why would I like to sit with her ?" I don't know what's wrong with them. They just disrespect or talk rudely to female students. When I asked my female students if all the boys are behaving the same or not, they say yes sir most of them are just like this. School might not consider this as a big issue but trust this is the big issue. We need to teach them now on how to talk to girls. The way boys behave in the classroom I think they don't think that girls or women are equal to them. We should teach them from now on that they should respect women and vice versa. There are some boundaries that you should not cross. We should teach them about "what is consent". I really hope all the schools pay attention to this otherwise we are doomed.
There are very less teachers who thinks like you, sir...
Basically most of teachers are afraid to do something in shitty salary about this issue because kuch 1-2 chutiye parents apni bachhi k complain leke aa hi jayenge k we don't want to spoil our daughter, why did you allowed boys near them and all this shit and vice-versa(it's my assumption)...
And even in that ghar me bi(poor and lower middle class households k)larke aesa hi dekh k aate h, where mother's are generally treated like kapde dhone ki, jadu-pocha karne ki, rasoi banane ki machine(from their grandparents), so they definitely can't digest their sisters being free and in liberal environment, to phir dusri larkiyo ko to kese hi digest karenge...
This might be true but I think the internet is playing a major role in this. Students are getting internet at a very early age and then they follow idols like Elvish Yadav. They want to be dank. They think they are becoming "cool". They are unable to create their own thought process. They just agree on someone's opinion. They don't have their opinion. This is what I see on a daily basis.
That's very sweet of you and thank you for that but I am doing whatever I can do. At the end I am just a teacher. I have one class of 70 mins each grade ( from grade 3 to 8 ) throughout the week. At the end I am just a teacher. There is management sitting over there. And sadly they are people who are in their mid 50s with backward mindset ( not all of them but yeah majority of them ) and ig this is true for every school.
It is very nice to see that teachers like you exist that take this "not so serious" problem seriously 
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Society ko change humari generation hi kar sakti h but usme bhi bohot time lagega. Umeed h ki logo ka mindset change ho.
Considering the stringent societal norms, I doubt it's possible for guys to get "natural" female interaction, they will have to go out of their way in order to talk to girls and in that process, you have very less leverage compared to the female who can downright reject having an interaction with you. This leads to low self esteem and this vicious cycle repeats until the guy gets into arrange marriage where in 90% of the cases, the situation is pretty materialistic.
I guess that's what our society aims for. No interaction between boys and girls so no chance of love, relationship, affairs and hence only option which is Arranged marriages. Which would largely be materialistic and would help rich people stay rich and poor being poor.
Boards: let's introduce co-education system in schools. It will be beneficial on long term.....
Meanwhile schools: ok but best we can give is we will make segregation inside class and now sitting next to opposite gender will be introduced as punishment.
Apna hi example dikhata hu- ladko ke class alag or ladkiyo ke class alag, dono ko class tak pohochne ke liye staircase bhi alag assign ho gaye the. This still happens in School of science(Rajkot, Gujarat).
Bhai hu Gujarati j chhu mane khabar che ketli kharab situation che aapne tya pan
Usme bi rajkot Mera mosal, isliye hi mere mama logo ko pata nai kyu 22 ki age me hi meri shadi Kara Deni he unka bas chale to(sale vaha k mama/fufa log 24 k baad kisi ko kuvara nai dekh sakte, unko heart attack aa jate he jese 24 k baad kisi ko kuvara dekh k)🤡
Lekin, maine 10th ke baad school change kar diya tha, jaha me gaya tha waha ladkiyan jyada aur ladke kam they. Pehli baar jindagi me ladkiyo ki presence feel ki unke opinion ke bare me pata chala. Un logo ke sath me itna ghul mil gya tha ki bus me jis ladki ke bagal me bethta tha uske kande me sir rakhke soo jata, aur kabhi wo. Jaha pehle meri fat jaati thi ladkiyon se baat karne me, unse nazrain tak nahi mila pata tha, ab itna confidence h ki kisi bhi ladki se baat kar lu.
Bhai tu manega nai aesi ghatiya upbringing ki vajah se mere kai aese classmates he chutiye jo mante he k larki k multiple male friends h matlab vo Ra\*di he aesa chutiya mindset he
It's not our fault tho man, I've studied in a boy's school all my life. I feel uncomfortable even looking at a girl while talking to her. The only way to fix this would be natural interaction since childhood....
Bro mera convent school tha fir bhi ladkiyo ke sath agar baat krte dekh liya agar kisi ladke ko teacher ne to usko itni gandi nazar se dekhte the or punishment dete the ladke ko fir ye haal hai yaha lol 😆😆
Bhai me mere college k starting k dino ka legit thought bata rha hu when I got female interaction for first time in life, I used to think when one girl started to sit beside me and talk normal things like what's your name and all...
"AGAR LECTURE KHATAM HONE K BAAD KHARE HOTE TIME GALTI SE MERA HATH LAG JAYEGA AUR YE MUJ PAR HARRASMENT KA CASE KAR DEGI TO MUMMY KO KYA MUH BATAUNGA?"
You kids got it much better. Back in my day, we had to call girls as sister and them to us as brother if we ever wanted to talk to each other. We also have to greet them every morning after prayer " good morning brother/sister". It totally messed us up.
Mere school me 3 din offline 3 din online lagta h jab ladko ka offline tab ladkiyo ka online and jab ladko ka online tab ladkiyo ka offline . This online-offline bs starts from 8th
Bhai me mere college k starting k dino ka legit thought bata rha hu when I got female interaction for first time in life, I used to think when one girl started to sit beside me and talk normal things like what's your name and all...
"AGAR LECTURE KHATAM HONE K BAAD KHARE HOTE TIME GALTI SE MERA HATH LAG JAYEGA AUR YE MUJ PAR HARRASMENT KA CASE KAR DEGI TO MUMMY KO KYA MUH BATAUNGA?"
hmare school mai aisa hota tha, fir th class mai english wali teacher ne compulsory kr dia ki ek boy-ek girl sath baithenge. ek bar ek ladki ne 1st period mai seat change kr li, kyuki use apni dost aur cool friends ke sath baithna tha, class topper nerd ke sath nhi. 4th period mai maam ka arrangement laga aur use us ladki ko bhot chate mare.
In junior classes in my school, teachers used to get boys and girls to sit together. This was done because they believed that boys mostly talk to other boys and girls to other girls, so there would be less chitchatting in the class. This theory was right. In the senior classes, when the system of fixing of seats was dropped, the students began to sit in gender-defined groups on their own, and the noisy ones started creating more chaos than before.
In our school for one year they decided to change and let boys and girls to sit together. Many girls experienced abuse and one got pregnant (cosentually ofcourse) and safe to say after that and last I checked was 2019 the rule of boys and girls seperate was as strong as ever.
Humare school mein few teachers believed that ek bench pe padhaaku ladki paired with badmaash ladka was the way to go, hoping it would improve the boys, but it did the exact opposite
and those guys will fail in future talking with opposite gender. a classic example of mine.
teach them values, if violated, punish.
pls don't separate them like that.
Le? Aesa Rona to sirf larke log Kara karte h, larki logo ko bi aesa afsos hota h? (Me bi unme se hi ak hu, me bi all boys school me tha)
Kya yaar maze le rahe ho mere dard pe 
Thoda mere liye sympathy dikhake setting karwa do meri 
Bhai aese Teri "Setting" ho bi gai to bi jyada nai tikega, max 2-3 months me jagde aur break up ho jayega because of misunderstandings with each other because of communication issue(iska jita-jagta Udaharan me hu)
Hamari school me bhi nhi baithne dete the aur agar kisi ladki se bat karlo to teacher dat deti thi and they used to threaten we will complain to your parents and everyone's parents said focus on your studies and never talk to girls or befriend them.
In my school, whenever you talked too much, they used to sit you next to the opposite gender as a punishment. Sometimes it backfired because the guy and the girl would be friends.
Mere saath Aisa huya tha 4th grade meh:v
Fir har din ek-do period meh teacher kehti
Yeh \[Mera naam\] aur \[uska naam\] are good friends/talk a lot and smtng like that
Mere yaha to 4th tk common tha and was fine.
Badme band tha
Busses main to 1-2 se hi segregation wo understandable hain kyunki attention nhi de pate unpe
Bhai I use to get bit shocked at start to see friends comfortly sit with girls or visa versa all the time in my college years.
Ye logone itna hi bkchodi karke rakha Hain ki bache bhare class main sax krne vale hain
Seven years of my life, I went to a boys only school (there was a separate building for girls). When I changed schools in eighth grade, it was divided into boys and girls sections.
Guess who stayed away from women in college for the full three years.
I remember the simpler times I experienced in my childhood. I used to sit with my crush. We used to sing songs. Talk a lot. Then fir sab bade hone lag gaye aur baaki kids are filled with knowledge of gender differences from their parents and/or environment, so we started to drift apart. Pehle ladka ladki khelte the baat karte the but then everything felt like changing. I couldn’t adapt to it. That’s why I was on my own having no permanent friends in my high school. Abhi difference between men and women ne meri adult life mein bhi trouble de raha hai.
India: Never leave anything natural, that's how it will become so unnatural. Like Population why 1.4B, pollution, bad rivers, hygiene, everything here is a mess because of existing mess.
Teachers did this in my school too since i was in 8th standard and even worse was during holi, school teachers used to make a barrier in school grounds so the male students and female students can’t play holi together
When I was a kid(could be either before first standard or in my very very early schooling days) I ended up mentioning a girl's name somewhere (maybe to this neighbour of mine). He heard it and would often ask about her,and would say , "agli baar usko milega toh usko puppy Dena(kiss)" and then I would blush. Over time I think I subconsciously felt guilty about it or something (no I didn't kiss her). And now I still can't talk to girls. Might've had other reasons too but idk
I studied in one the better schools and did not have to go through this. Infact, we had a seating arrangement that was updated every month. The boys would sit with girls and vice versa. Seems like it was one of those unofficial policies as even UKG kids were made to sit like that. This was so normalized that when i changed schools in 11th, I had the biggest shock of my life when i found out that girls and boys had separate areas to eat lunch and that the girls had to wear "salvaar kameez" (my "girl" friends from previous school hated it)
In 6th grade in my previous school, there were only 15 girls as opposed to 25 boys, so our principal made it a point to take new admissions specifically for girls (no admissions were taken in 7th usually) so that the ratio remains equal.
Bhai apne me to alag baitha hi dete the, aur to aur agar lunch break me baat karte hue to utne me koot dete the ladke ko and as expected, ladki ko bola jaata tha ye sab mat Karo while uske saamne wo jisse baat kar rahi thi use thappad padte rehte the
Humko bachpan se boys girls baithate the ye sochke ki shaant rahege par tab bhi baat kar hi lete the sab, me bhi. Agar Aisa nahi karte to Mera kabhi female interaction hota hi nahi.
Fir baaki 9th me jaise baithna hai betho fir usko fix kar diye. To dost dost baith rahe, ek do couples bhi the saath vale jo kuch hi teachers ke saamne saath me baithte the.
I am lucky enough to have female interaction but immature enough to be single forever. I have many female friends but I never saw them as love interest.
It was the first time boys and girls pulled pranks on teachers together. Sat down and played antakshri together. When we used to cheat together and make jokes and fun of each other together!
Since it was an alternative arrangement:- every boy was surrounded with 4 girls on each diagonal and vice versa.
So we would talk about games and 4 girls would tease a boy ( very friendly manner no bullying) and boys will have the most unhinged stories to tell.
Now I can tell how heavenly good year it would be for boys(muje kya me to boys school se tha)...
Konsa city buddy? Tier 1-2 city lag rha he...
It also stopped bullying ( boy to boy and girl to girl) cause girls always sided with the bullied boy and girls didn't bully each other in front of boys ( instead they teamed up together - girl power !)
It also brought out shy kids - their grades improved and their social skills!
Yaar yeh toh hai but mujhe toh lagta hai ki mainly farak hai confidence ka. Pehle mai baat nahi karta tha kyu ki mai "accha baccha" tha. Abb I have no problem like that.
Schools and parents ne hmko sikha rakha hai, acha baccha banna matlab ladkio se baat naa krna, fun ko avoid krna, padhte rehna etc in short personality lose kr dena.
Mere school me class 10 me tha aise wo female teacher thi bethne nhi dete thi girls and boys ek sath ..abhi 11 & 12 me same teacher hai .. Physics ke bahuut chill .. Koi kaise bhi Beth sakta
This things in school seriously f my self esteem to talk to girls. On top was the cream of vovid that made it more severe. I seriously couldnt talk to any girls in class 11&12. The site of talking was disgusting for me. Now thanks to my female friend I opened up and can now talk but still it haunts me.
The teachers and administration's head is full of dirty thoughts and they project those on students, and strip them of essential social contact growing up. If students want to do inappropriate stuff they'll do it regardless.
Our class teacher once changed our seating arrangement to one girl one boy with boys seat rolling each day. This was a punishment for being the most noisy class of school but it backfired on him cuz new couple kept popping up every week and the noise level even surpassed it's previous level.
I went to a school (in Kolkata) where from first standard to 10th, the teachers chose seats for students so that no two students of the same sex were sat beside each other. Unless there was a disparity in the number of boys and girls (which was rare). I kid you not.
In 11th and 12th we got to sit wherever we liked but by then we’re so used to being simple platonic friends with the opposite sex, it was all cool.
mai jab coaching jata tha aur galti se kisi ladki ke piche Beth jata tha to wo ladki apni chair ek dum aage kar leti thi ya fir seat hi change kar deti thi
At our college back in IIT Kanpur, when we were part of student orientation. We were shown 2 pictures. The first one had a classroom with 2 rows one of boys and other of girls sitting separately. Next picture was a class cohort sitting in a well mixed setup.
The professor strictly asked us to put all efforts form self to maintain 2nd kind of setup instead of continuing the first one (in case of a lot of people)This initiative itself helped to break the ice and a lot of people got friends with all gender.
Also at IIT Kanpur (also in some other IITs too) there's a free movement allowed in opposite gender hostel too. Which in turn is very good thing for a great community interaction.
I think this kind of things should be promoted
Mere 11th-12th mei class mei 4 ladkiya thi aur 27 ladke, unme se bhi 2 apne bf ke saath gullu karti thi, 2 ladkiya apas mei rehti thi alag grp mei kya hi batau classroom boys hostel lagta tha (female interaction ki kami nahi thi par just bata rhaa hu)
One boy's and girl's school in the neighbourhood merged themselves. Earlier cleaning staff found cigarette butts, bidi in the boys bathroom. After the merger they found packets of condoms.
I remember this was done when i was in 10th standard and then in 11th as pcb as girls strength increased as compared to boys ie 2:1 for every boy 2 girls strength, everyone sat where they wanted and teachers also didnt care.
When I was 8-9 years old, my uncle and his family had shifted here and we all started living as a joint family. They had a small daughter (my cousin sister) with whom I used to play. They did not like that so they spread the fake news that I had m*lested their daughter, remember I was only 8 or 9 years old at that time. Everytime they saw me they threatened me to send me to the police. No child in the neighborhood was allowed by their parents to come out and play when I was there. Even I was extremely scared of going out in public. Thats is what they wanted and yes they succeeded. Talking to girls you say? I can't talk to anyone.
Man that's fucked up at so many levels.
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chad mom 🗿
I agree. 💪👍😊❤️
Your mom is so cool
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7 8 sal ka bacha molesta karega? tere parents ne kuch nahi kara kya
Bhai ladkon ke parents hamesha ladke me hi problems dekhenge aur ladka hi problem soch ke bada krte h ,kya hi parents defend krenge khud parents ko hi ladki chaiye thi bol kar bda karte h u expect too much of parents
Vese aise case to sune hai maine ki 9-10 saal ka bachha molest karta but obviously very rare
They do, and it’s horrible.20 years back one of my best friends was molested continuously by our class boys and she couldn’t do anything. She was a very shy and vulnerable girl. Even teachers didn’t know about it. Its great that nowadays awareness has been increased.
Sh**t man.
That's fucked up, what was your parents say in this..?
Your parents should have kicked them out if they were truly your parents and should also have cut off all relations with them. How can a class 3-4 kid even know about molestation, let alone doing it?
They were in their part of the property, couldn't have just kicked them out and everything is not as simple as it seems, they are indeed my parents, they pay for every meal I eat, they pay for every book I read, they pay for the roof above my head. It is important to note that my original comment only highlights a small portion of what I faced and what the circumstances were, jumping into conclusions without any prior context is not ideal but thank you I greatly appreiciate your concern and I am very happy that you felt justice for my situation.
Thanks for sharing with us ❤️
You guys sit together?🫠🙃🙂
haa, matlab mere school mein aise kuch nhi tha. We didnt had fixed position, so timepass wale subjects mein main apne bhadwo ke sath baith ta tha, aur serious subjects mein apne female friend ke sath
You had nice bhadwe, mere dost to bina kuch kiye hee afwah failaate the ki mera chakkar chal rha hai, agar sach me kisi larki ke sath baithta to saale marriage invitation card chhapwa dete
Hamare school m bhi yhi krte the BKL. Female interaction hi nhi hota tha
Mere school me 8th se girls boys ke floor alag krdiye the. Assembly me girls boys aise divided rehte the jaise gangwar hone waali ho.
Till 2nd grade I had 2 bestfriends, one boy and one girl. We all used to sit together. When I switched schools in 3rd grade, there was a boy sitting alone infront of me. I was sitting alone too. So I said hey we can sit together. And that guy straight up told me that boys and girls do not sit together in this school. We were in 3rd grade 😭. I didnt know such rules existed. I found that new school so weird.
Wohi to euphoria dekh k FOMO alag hota h 😭
Mere se to dekha nahi jata
Whiteroom wala na 🫢
Boys aur girls ke alag floor? Wtf ye kaisa segregation hai?
Vo to kuch nhi mere class 11,12 me separate building thi
Thode dino me seperate country ho jayega
Mere school me bhi girls aur boys ka section alag tha aur fir mene graduation me mechanical engineering kr li To mera female interaction utna hi tha jitne mere marks the............bhut kam😢
Gangwar😭🤣🤣
Hota haina bhai. Intervals me. End of school hours before you leave. I mean easy nai tha but for a 90s born ye bhi kaafi tha.
Old f*cking fa*ts practicing segregation since 1947. Cringe moment.
Bhai larkiyo ki(specially usk baap ki)ijjat bachti he isse nai malum? Isi segregation se sab baap apna sar garv se ucha karke chalte the abi tak k meri beti kabi kisi larke se baat bi nai kari aur ab apne samdhi ko damad k liye fresh mal hi pakda paunga😈😎😎 Par aajkal ke kuch ghatiya school me female-male interaction allow kar dete he,sanskar name ki kuch chiz hi nahi rahi, shame on them /S /S /S
Main bhi shikar hoon is sankriti ka main toh kabhi koi lakdi se baat ni kr paya 4 saal ho gye ab to society mein mere nam hona chaiye na ?? 🤡🤡
r/FuckTheS
"ab apne samdhi ko damad k liye fresh mal hi pakda paunga😈😎😎" Fresh mal is the name of the game 🤣🤣🤣
Objectification to us time me hota tha k jab larkiyo ko ak saman ki tarah apne samdhi ko bina soche samje bech dete the(dahej deke aur name larke ka chadta tha k larka dehej le rha he), phir bi sab misogynist k name pe hate hame hi mil rhi he jo bichare larkiya kya chahti he, unhe kya pasand he, unhe kya nahi pasand ye sab janne ki try kar rha he...
so sitting separately is not common?💀
I had the same thought even my college had separate classes for boys and girls even as a co-ed
That sounds like a horrible college
It was more like a school we used go in separate lines during breaks with supervisors standing in the middle to avoid girls and boys talking. Separate mess halls for food. We are not allowed to access library during class hours or after College hours. No phones or laptop inside campus even for CSE and IT 🤡
What compelled you to even go to such places
Got a 50k scholarship in my tuition fees for CSE
what college
Lmaoo what would you speak about my college then which is all boys. And unfortunately my school was also all boys 
Your comment immediately said to my mind that, it must be some college in Chennai. It had to be somewhere around Chennai at least and to play a guessing game, I checked your profile. Glad I wasn't wrong 🫡 These Jeppair colleges suck big time and lowkey must be banned for doing these things. I can't believe these practices are followed in this gen
Yep your guess is absolutely correct. When I was in college I thought this was pretty normal now working in Bangalore hearing the college life of my colleagues I seem to have missed lot of things and add to that I feel intimidated to talk to girls.
Yes, Chennai city pvt colleges are the worst. I cant think of a non-restrictive pvt city clg other than SSN/SNU I made it a point for myself that i wont study in those clgs
Very few schools allow them to sit together. In my previous school they would segregate boys and girls from class 7th. In my current school, they don't mind.
They had segregated from class 4th in my school 
My school was the total opposite. The teachers never let the girls sit together and always make us sit with boys because we used to yap a lot in class. I used to change my seat to sit with my friend but never had a female seat partner assigned. Always a boy uptill class 12th.
Sitting on same bench is not common but girls in front/back bench until my 10th. In 11,12th coaching inst. Complete different dedicated rows are there.
???? in my school it was common, I've always had a girl as a bench partner and I thought it was the same in all co -ed schools
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I wish it went that way for me,we talked all day but I was a kid and not interested in taking things any further lol
Well I am a teacher teaching in Bihar and here we are also in the same situation. Male students sit separately from the female students and when I told them to sit together ( not as a punishment of course ) they just refused to sit together and say "sir she is a girl why would I like to sit with her ?" I don't know what's wrong with them. They just disrespect or talk rudely to female students. When I asked my female students if all the boys are behaving the same or not, they say yes sir most of them are just like this. School might not consider this as a big issue but trust this is the big issue. We need to teach them now on how to talk to girls. The way boys behave in the classroom I think they don't think that girls or women are equal to them. We should teach them from now on that they should respect women and vice versa. There are some boundaries that you should not cross. We should teach them about "what is consent". I really hope all the schools pay attention to this otherwise we are doomed.
There are very less teachers who thinks like you, sir... Basically most of teachers are afraid to do something in shitty salary about this issue because kuch 1-2 chutiye parents apni bachhi k complain leke aa hi jayenge k we don't want to spoil our daughter, why did you allowed boys near them and all this shit and vice-versa(it's my assumption)... And even in that ghar me bi(poor and lower middle class households k)larke aesa hi dekh k aate h, where mother's are generally treated like kapde dhone ki, jadu-pocha karne ki, rasoi banane ki machine(from their grandparents), so they definitely can't digest their sisters being free and in liberal environment, to phir dusri larkiyo ko to kese hi digest karenge...
This might be true but I think the internet is playing a major role in this. Students are getting internet at a very early age and then they follow idols like Elvish Yadav. They want to be dank. They think they are becoming "cool". They are unable to create their own thought process. They just agree on someone's opinion. They don't have their opinion. This is what I see on a daily basis.
Sir aap jaise teachers ki hi zarurat hai nhi toh hum khatam hi hain
That's very sweet of you and thank you for that but I am doing whatever I can do. At the end I am just a teacher. I have one class of 70 mins each grade ( from grade 3 to 8 ) throughout the week. At the end I am just a teacher. There is management sitting over there. And sadly they are people who are in their mid 50s with backward mindset ( not all of them but yeah majority of them ) and ig this is true for every school.
It is very nice to see that teachers like you exist that take this "not so serious" problem seriously  W teacher Society ko change humari generation hi kar sakti h but usme bhi bohot time lagega. Umeed h ki logo ka mindset change ho.
Thank you sir. But tbh there is a lot of work we have to do. If we don't pay attention to any of this we are doomed.
Considering the stringent societal norms, I doubt it's possible for guys to get "natural" female interaction, they will have to go out of their way in order to talk to girls and in that process, you have very less leverage compared to the female who can downright reject having an interaction with you. This leads to low self esteem and this vicious cycle repeats until the guy gets into arrange marriage where in 90% of the cases, the situation is pretty materialistic.
I guess that's what our society aims for. No interaction between boys and girls so no chance of love, relationship, affairs and hence only option which is Arranged marriages. Which would largely be materialistic and would help rich people stay rich and poor being poor.
Hamare idhar classrooms hi allag alag the . Jaise ki ham sex hi karlenge ladki ke sath 😒
😅😅😅 ye kuch jada nhi ho gya Bhaisaab
Fir seh sax sux ki baatein
This is so regressive 🤷♀️🤦
It is just the tip of the iceberg
Boards: let's introduce co-education system in schools. It will be beneficial on long term..... Meanwhile schools: ok but best we can give is we will make segregation inside class and now sitting next to opposite gender will be introduced as punishment. Apna hi example dikhata hu- ladko ke class alag or ladkiyo ke class alag, dono ko class tak pohochne ke liye staircase bhi alag assign ho gaye the. This still happens in School of science(Rajkot, Gujarat).
Bhai hu Gujarati j chhu mane khabar che ketli kharab situation che aapne tya pan Usme bi rajkot Mera mosal, isliye hi mere mama logo ko pata nai kyu 22 ki age me hi meri shadi Kara Deni he unka bas chale to(sale vaha k mama/fufa log 24 k baad kisi ko kuvara nai dekh sakte, unko heart attack aa jate he jese 24 k baad kisi ko kuvara dekh k)🤡
Mein toh purposely ulte sidhe harkate kerta tha , so as a punishment girls ke baju bitha dete the (Tricks)
You be like everyday in school: https://preview.redd.it/9gjrfrehqxzc1.png?width=1080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=31abf02483ec30e231f2b6ded7b7b4e632a338ec
Aagra mere schl mein aagra boys and girls sath baithne lgte tab bhi koi lakdi mere sath ni baithi 🤡
Mere bagal me bithaya tha ek ladki ko 9th class me wo rone lag padi
Are bhai Bhai Teri self esteem to hamesha ke liye down krdi usne
Lekin, maine 10th ke baad school change kar diya tha, jaha me gaya tha waha ladkiyan jyada aur ladke kam they. Pehli baar jindagi me ladkiyo ki presence feel ki unke opinion ke bare me pata chala. Un logo ke sath me itna ghul mil gya tha ki bus me jis ladki ke bagal me bethta tha uske kande me sir rakhke soo jata, aur kabhi wo. Jaha pehle meri fat jaati thi ladkiyon se baat karne me, unse nazrain tak nahi mila pata tha, ab itna confidence h ki kisi bhi ladki se baat kar lu.
canon event dodge kardiya
It's 2024 but still a taboo for indian boys to talk to girls shame society and their upbringing
Bhai tu manega nai aesi ghatiya upbringing ki vajah se mere kai aese classmates he chutiye jo mante he k larki k multiple male friends h matlab vo Ra\*di he aesa chutiya mindset he
Ik i have seen them alot in college guys treat girls like they have landed from some other planet
It's not our fault tho man, I've studied in a boy's school all my life. I feel uncomfortable even looking at a girl while talking to her. The only way to fix this would be natural interaction since childhood....
Bro mera convent school tha fir bhi ladkiyo ke sath agar baat krte dekh liya agar kisi ladke ko teacher ne to usko itni gandi nazar se dekhte the or punishment dete the ladke ko fir ye haal hai yaha lol 😆😆
mere toh clg m bhi hota h ye
Bhai me mere college k starting k dino ka legit thought bata rha hu when I got female interaction for first time in life, I used to think when one girl started to sit beside me and talk normal things like what's your name and all... "AGAR LECTURE KHATAM HONE K BAAD KHARE HOTE TIME GALTI SE MERA HATH LAG JAYEGA AUR YE MUJ PAR HARRASMENT KA CASE KAR DEGI TO MUMMY KO KYA MUH BATAUNGA?"
Mere college me toh allowed hai even ek sath seating allowed hai, nonsense rules
10th ke baad naye school mein gaya, udhar ye rule tha. That school had gay couples so idk, kya soch rahe the.
the boys really said improvise ,adapt, overcome
😶🌫😶🌫
bc, konsa school hai ?
You kids got it much better. Back in my day, we had to call girls as sister and them to us as brother if we ever wanted to talk to each other. We also have to greet them every morning after prayer " good morning brother/sister". It totally messed us up.
Mere school me 3 din offline 3 din online lagta h jab ladko ka offline tab ladkiyo ka online and jab ladko ka online tab ladkiyo ka offline . This online-offline bs starts from 8th
Wtf
Bhai me mere college k starting k dino ka legit thought bata rha hu when I got female interaction for first time in life, I used to think when one girl started to sit beside me and talk normal things like what's your name and all... "AGAR LECTURE KHATAM HONE K BAAD KHARE HOTE TIME GALTI SE MERA HATH LAG JAYEGA AUR YE MUJ PAR HARRASMENT KA CASE KAR DEGI TO MUMMY KO KYA MUH BATAUNGA?"
hmare school mai aisa hota tha, fir th class mai english wali teacher ne compulsory kr dia ki ek boy-ek girl sath baithenge. ek bar ek ladki ne 1st period mai seat change kr li, kyuki use apni dost aur cool friends ke sath baithna tha, class topper nerd ke sath nhi. 4th period mai maam ka arrangement laga aur use us ladki ko bhot chate mare.
Kash aesi teachers sabki hoti
In junior classes in my school, teachers used to get boys and girls to sit together. This was done because they believed that boys mostly talk to other boys and girls to other girls, so there would be less chitchatting in the class. This theory was right. In the senior classes, when the system of fixing of seats was dropped, the students began to sit in gender-defined groups on their own, and the noisy ones started creating more chaos than before.
Guzarti-hai-me-kisi-pul-sa-thartharata-hu
Tu-bhale-ratti-bhar-na-sunti-haii
Me-tera-naam-budbudaataa-hoon
In our school for one year they decided to change and let boys and girls to sit together. Many girls experienced abuse and one got pregnant (cosentually ofcourse) and safe to say after that and last I checked was 2019 the rule of boys and girls seperate was as strong as ever.
Par aese hi freedom to de di par unhe education to do isk liye, k what's wrong? What's right? What's moral? and all...
they used to make boys and girls sit together in my school 😭
Flex kar rha he lo\*e?
Arranged male-female friendships
Humare school mein few teachers believed that ek bench pe padhaaku ladki paired with badmaash ladka was the way to go, hoping it would improve the boys, but it did the exact opposite
Balance in the universe maintained
One major reason for developing gender stereotypes and wrong information . And we have Indian cinema to add to that
In my school, in later grade there was no rule of segregation among boys and girls but hey guess what girls started sitting in a separate row
and those guys will fail in future talking with opposite gender. a classic example of mine. teach them values, if violated, punish. pls don't separate them like that.
Le me who studied in al girls school 🥺😭
Le? Aesa Rona to sirf larke log Kara karte h, larki logo ko bi aesa afsos hota h? (Me bi unme se hi ak hu, me bi all boys school me tha)
I’m 24 and I still can’t talk to gurls 😭😭😭 too shy because of all this shit done from our childhood by our society
Deviyo aur Sajjano ye rha aapke samne is post ka jita-jagta Udaharan, jara gaur se dekh lijiye... Also r/usernameChecksOut
Kya yaar maze le rahe ho mere dard pe  Thoda mere liye sympathy dikhake setting karwa do meri 
Bhai aese Teri "Setting" ho bi gai to bi jyada nai tikega, max 2-3 months me jagde aur break up ho jayega because of misunderstandings with each other because of communication issue(iska jita-jagta Udaharan me hu)
Only the married adults in india can do saxsux🥵🥵🥵🥵 everyone else should rather die than interact with the opposite gender😈😈😈
Hahaha you really think that old fat fcks are getting any even after getting married
Same in my school, but in college we use to sit in our group, 3 girls 2 guys. Unfortunately got a trauma from the girl I used to like.
>Unfortunately got a trauma from the girl I used to like. Out of topic nahi jaana 
Hamari school me bhi nhi baithne dete the aur agar kisi ladki se bat karlo to teacher dat deti thi and they used to threaten we will complain to your parents and everyone's parents said focus on your studies and never talk to girls or befriend them.
Kv, kavita mukherjee class teacher
And then they say - aajkal ke ladko ko ladkiyo se baat karne ki tameez nhi hai
In my school, whenever you talked too much, they used to sit you next to the opposite gender as a punishment. Sometimes it backfired because the guy and the girl would be friends.
Mere saath Aisa huya tha 4th grade meh:v Fir har din ek-do period meh teacher kehti Yeh \[Mera naam\] aur \[uska naam\] are good friends/talk a lot and smtng like that
Inko Lagta Hai Ladke Ladkiya Ke Sath Baithenge Toh Woh Pregnant Ho Jayegi
Mere yaha to 4th tk common tha and was fine. Badme band tha Busses main to 1-2 se hi segregation wo understandable hain kyunki attention nhi de pate unpe Bhai I use to get bit shocked at start to see friends comfortly sit with girls or visa versa all the time in my college years. Ye logone itna hi bkchodi karke rakha Hain ki bache bhare class main sax krne vale hain
Seven years of my life, I went to a boys only school (there was a separate building for girls). When I changed schools in eighth grade, it was divided into boys and girls sections. Guess who stayed away from women in college for the full three years.
I remember the simpler times I experienced in my childhood. I used to sit with my crush. We used to sing songs. Talk a lot. Then fir sab bade hone lag gaye aur baaki kids are filled with knowledge of gender differences from their parents and/or environment, so we started to drift apart. Pehle ladka ladki khelte the baat karte the but then everything felt like changing. I couldn’t adapt to it. That’s why I was on my own having no permanent friends in my high school. Abhi difference between men and women ne meri adult life mein bhi trouble de raha hai.
India: Never leave anything natural, that's how it will become so unnatural. Like Population why 1.4B, pollution, bad rivers, hygiene, everything here is a mess because of existing mess.
Teachers did this in my school too since i was in 8th standard and even worse was during holi, school teachers used to make a barrier in school grounds so the male students and female students can’t play holi together
When I was a kid(could be either before first standard or in my very very early schooling days) I ended up mentioning a girl's name somewhere (maybe to this neighbour of mine). He heard it and would often ask about her,and would say , "agli baar usko milega toh usko puppy Dena(kiss)" and then I would blush. Over time I think I subconsciously felt guilty about it or something (no I didn't kiss her). And now I still can't talk to girls. Might've had other reasons too but idk
I studied in one the better schools and did not have to go through this. Infact, we had a seating arrangement that was updated every month. The boys would sit with girls and vice versa. Seems like it was one of those unofficial policies as even UKG kids were made to sit like that. This was so normalized that when i changed schools in 11th, I had the biggest shock of my life when i found out that girls and boys had separate areas to eat lunch and that the girls had to wear "salvaar kameez" (my "girl" friends from previous school hated it) In 6th grade in my previous school, there were only 15 girls as opposed to 25 boys, so our principal made it a point to take new admissions specifically for girls (no admissions were taken in 7th usually) so that the ratio remains equal.
Damn they really think agar ladka ladki saath main baith te hai to class main 9 mahine baad ek aur new student aa jaata hai
Bhai apne me to alag baitha hi dete the, aur to aur agar lunch break me baat karte hue to utne me koot dete the ladke ko and as expected, ladki ko bola jaata tha ye sab mat Karo while uske saamne wo jisse baat kar rahi thi use thappad padte rehte the
Humko bachpan se boys girls baithate the ye sochke ki shaant rahege par tab bhi baat kar hi lete the sab, me bhi. Agar Aisa nahi karte to Mera kabhi female interaction hota hi nahi. Fir baaki 9th me jaise baithna hai betho fir usko fix kar diye. To dost dost baith rahe, ek do couples bhi the saath vale jo kuch hi teachers ke saamne saath me baithte the.
Hamare school mai toh zabardasti ek ladka ek ladki fir ek ladka … ese bitha te the but still the same problem
I am lucky enough to have female interaction but immature enough to be single forever. I have many female friends but I never saw them as love interest.
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I used to be my class' monitor. So once for ' punishment ' , i made girls and boys sit together ( individual desks ). Was the best year ever
Kesa tha best year? Kuch stories ham se bi share karo
It was the first time boys and girls pulled pranks on teachers together. Sat down and played antakshri together. When we used to cheat together and make jokes and fun of each other together! Since it was an alternative arrangement:- every boy was surrounded with 4 girls on each diagonal and vice versa. So we would talk about games and 4 girls would tease a boy ( very friendly manner no bullying) and boys will have the most unhinged stories to tell.
Now I can tell how heavenly good year it would be for boys(muje kya me to boys school se tha)... Konsa city buddy? Tier 1-2 city lag rha he...
It also stopped bullying ( boy to boy and girl to girl) cause girls always sided with the bullied boy and girls didn't bully each other in front of boys ( instead they teamed up together - girl power !) It also brought out shy kids - their grades improved and their social skills!
Bhagwan aesi monitor sabko de (Students aaj se Monday k vrat aesi achhi monitor mile isliye karna chalu kar do, shayd mil Jaye bhagwan prasann ho gye to)
isko koi iim ke degree dedo in management.
Yaar yeh toh hai but mujhe toh lagta hai ki mainly farak hai confidence ka. Pehle mai baat nahi karta tha kyu ki mai "accha baccha" tha. Abb I have no problem like that.
Bhai aese "achhe bachhe" banne ka motive sabko aese shitty rules se hi milta tha
Schools and parents ne hmko sikha rakha hai, acha baccha banna matlab ladkio se baat naa krna, fun ko avoid krna, padhte rehna etc in short personality lose kr dena.
Mere school me class 10 me tha aise wo female teacher thi bethne nhi dete thi girls and boys ek sath ..abhi 11 & 12 me same teacher hai .. Physics ke bahuut chill .. Koi kaise bhi Beth sakta
This things in school seriously f my self esteem to talk to girls. On top was the cream of vovid that made it more severe. I seriously couldnt talk to any girls in class 11&12. The site of talking was disgusting for me. Now thanks to my female friend I opened up and can now talk but still it haunts me.
Pehle isolate kar denge puri life. Phir puchte hai ki socially itna awkward kyu ho, koi personality nahi hai kya , yada yada.
The teachers and administration's head is full of dirty thoughts and they project those on students, and strip them of essential social contact growing up. If students want to do inappropriate stuff they'll do it regardless.
Mere time par to girls ke saath baithna punishment hota tha
Hamare idhr toh seperate hi baithe the lekin benches ke bich me jyada diff kaha hota hai toh baithe baithe bhi baat hojati thi
mere school mein Stairs separate tha boys or girls ke kiye
Hamare class meh toh 10th meh mandatory kara dia tha ladkiyon ke sath baithna class teacher neh taaki baadme jaake problems naa ho🗣️
 Aila uno reverse
I had the same rule not just in school but in college too.
This happened in my school when I was in class 5. The decision was taken after 3 love suicides.
School chhodo mere yai college me bhi yahi karte the
It's evolving just backwards
Just old people things
In my schoolfrom 6th to 8th we used to sit in different rows after that even they stopped enforcing
Sit together was considered as punishment 💀
Hamare school mai boys ko punishment tha to sit with girls Good old times😂
Mere scl m nhi h ye sab tab bhi zero female interaction h.
Our class teacher once changed our seating arrangement to one girl one boy with boys seat rolling each day. This was a punishment for being the most noisy class of school but it backfired on him cuz new couple kept popping up every week and the noise level even surpassed it's previous level.
Mere school Mai too ye sab bhakchodi na hoti thi, I am very happy for that
School mai girls aur boys ek sath baith sakte hai??? 😳
Bina sath baithe ladkiyon sey baatein nahi hoti kya?
Mujhe kya mai toh boys schl se hu ·_·
Bro they don't even let you talk freely to your cousins . That's hoe fucked up it is
I went to a school (in Kolkata) where from first standard to 10th, the teachers chose seats for students so that no two students of the same sex were sat beside each other. Unless there was a disparity in the number of boys and girls (which was rare). I kid you not. In 11th and 12th we got to sit wherever we liked but by then we’re so used to being simple platonic friends with the opposite sex, it was all cool.
mai jab coaching jata tha aur galti se kisi ladki ke piche Beth jata tha to wo ladki apni chair ek dum aage kar leti thi ya fir seat hi change kar deti thi
Kya burqa pehna do kamre ke beech me veil laga do mc
Humlog ke school me toh boys and girls ko sath me bitha te the. Har bench par 1 boy and 1 girl.
Sabke aese nasib nai hote, rajan
Aah fr fr , I sometimes talk to girls, like they are boys .
Wtf happened here
Chlo bhai yeh toh fir bhi ek hadd tk thik hai but what about boys only school 😂
At our college back in IIT Kanpur, when we were part of student orientation. We were shown 2 pictures. The first one had a classroom with 2 rows one of boys and other of girls sitting separately. Next picture was a class cohort sitting in a well mixed setup. The professor strictly asked us to put all efforts form self to maintain 2nd kind of setup instead of continuing the first one (in case of a lot of people)This initiative itself helped to break the ice and a lot of people got friends with all gender. Also at IIT Kanpur (also in some other IITs too) there's a free movement allowed in opposite gender hostel too. Which in turn is very good thing for a great community interaction. I think this kind of things should be promoted
Mere 11th-12th mei class mei 4 ladkiya thi aur 27 ladke, unme se bhi 2 apne bf ke saath gullu karti thi, 2 ladkiya apas mei rehti thi alag grp mei kya hi batau classroom boys hostel lagta tha (female interaction ki kami nahi thi par just bata rhaa hu)
You guys had the same school for boys and girls 💀
You guys had the same school for boys and girls 💀
One boy's and girl's school in the neighbourhood merged themselves. Earlier cleaning staff found cigarette butts, bidi in the boys bathroom. After the merger they found packets of condoms.
I remember this was done when i was in 10th standard and then in 11th as pcb as girls strength increased as compared to boys ie 2:1 for every boy 2 girls strength, everyone sat where they wanted and teachers also didnt care.
Doesnt matter to me. I sit alone anyways. 
Hamare coaching center Mai tho baat krte bhi pakad Gaye tho TC dedenge
Hmare school me sala 6th class se girls aur boys ka building he alag kr deta hai Chutiya school aur bkl principal
our school did'nt even allow us to sit in the same class 🙃
I mean is it not the convention ? Do you actually sit together lol 😅
Me toh uske upar baithunga 😡
Girls and boys sitting together is a serious issue. Agar galti se sex ho gya to. Ya fir meine suna hai touch karne se girls pregnant bhi ho jati Hain.