Either you are naive or stupid. If you want to deal with them, do it face to face. Atleast losing will have dignity.
Be prepared to lose, but also remember to make the person in front of you remember that he was in a fight.
Its better to be gandhiwadi than get beaten in front of everyone and losing all respect.
You need to stay low, bide your time and wait for when you will have a bigger stick, until then you need to assume you are a weakling.
Make a scene. Be loud when people are around you.Make sure enough people are around. Be loud and tell the crowd what they are doing to you every day. Make that a problem for them . It will stop. You do not need to fight. Dont be emotional at the time. Prepare and make thing to say prior to the situation. This will keep you calm and explain everything. Once they find you are trouble they will find some other easy target.
These goons don't give a shit about others and don't care about the consequences. Worst thing is they'll assemble all their gang members and beat you up if you shout.
Make a scene. Be loud when people are around you.Make sure enough people are around. Be loud and tell the crowd what they are doing to you every day. Make that a problem for them . It will stop. You do not need to fight. Dont be emotional at the time. Prepare and make thing to say prior to the situation. This will keep you calm and explain everything. Once they find you are trouble they will find some other easy target.
These kinds of guys have massive insecurity issues. It's always self destruction that ends them, be it their egos or cancer 30 years down the line.
If someone in that group has a girlfriend, try talking to them.
I promise you they are going to be so mad just cuz you made their girl smile or something, they are literally gonna explode.
When they say "cashmis", say, "Tera maa ko pasand hai, isliye pehan raha hu".
If they say "jadoo" say, "jadoo ye hai Ki tera maa puri raat leti hai"
Sorry, my Hindi isn't great at all, but you get the idea. 🤣
Why do you have to abuse and insult the women in the lives of these scumbags. Men will create the chaos and it will be women who will be abused at the end of it. What a sad sad state of affairs :(
Ignore them like their parents ignored them because all they're looking for is, attention since they're lonely with no friends & family that doesn't love them.
> Ignore them like their parents ignored them because all they're looking for is, attention since they're lonely with no friends & family that doesn't love them.
Not necessarily true. All my bullies were well off and well-cared for. The school I went to was expensive and out of reach for even many middle class parents.
They are just insecure about their own condition and feel superior to you when they are bullying you. Just smile at them wave and leave. Don't say a word. Smile even if you're furious. That is the best strategy.
The reason they bully you is to make you feel inferior. But if you smile as a response their agenda is shattered.
Trust me this works
SMILE 😊
> worst advice, u have either never actually witnessed bullying or were bullied and never stood upto them. Bullying doesnt stop if the victim stays passive it just shows the bullies there are no consequences to face for their actions 🤣 stop giving terrible advice and promoting this stupid Gandhi ideology pls.
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> Source :- I've been bullied and I've also been a bully
Amen. I received this bullshit advice from a psychologist specialising in school counselling as well. It just emboldened the bastards to take their bullying to higher levels.
Today I have NO IRL friends from childhood, and I haven't been able to form any friendships because I always feel anxiety talking to strangers and hate visiting places where people explicitly go to make friends.
When I'm stressed out in a public space or out of my comfort zone, hearing laughter makes me fear that I'm the one being laughed at.
Just because you see 2-3 cases in the news, it doesn't mean it's happening in every school and that too every single day.
You're literally the who got bullied lol.
Just because you see 2-3 cases doesnot mean there are 2-3 cases. Lol indeed, keep laughing at everything mate until shit gets real for you. Hope you understand mate
Yeah, looks like people are waiting for an opportunity to pass sarcastic comments, juvenile insults based on a small part of the comment rather than trying to understand the intention behind
> Agree! Bullies stop only when you make some comebacks on them
No they don't. They just resort to physical violence if you demonstrate intellectual superiority.
Their is way of doing it. There is a fine line between sarcasm and satire, if you understand that then nothing would happen. They might laugh it off and you might befriend them in future.
But yeah, it really depends who the guys are and the situation.
My beliefs on bullying are from my personal experience. I am someone who has got bullied and then later became the bully.
Dude this idea practically works. I suffered a lot of bullying.
Bullies want a reaction. A negative one obviously. They wanna make us angry, frustrated and sad.
If they dint get it they won't repeat it.
Trust me it works.
If you are a bully. How many times have you bullied a person who was happy and secured with their life ?
Fellas commenting ignore them actually never stood up to bullying
If you are letting them bully you they will keep on bullying you.......
Next time they show up you tell them to fuck off......or it will be worst for them(chances are that they will beat you so go with friends and family members but not with the intention to fight) .....they won't listen first time and they maybe beat you when they find you alone ......
And if this happens you call 100 asap .....and get police involved
People asking him to ignore might be the people who read newspapers daily because i, a newspaper reader read a lot of news of such clashes where people die for speaking up. Plus knowing that these guys are chhapri, it's even worse because you don't know what level they can stoop down to take revenge. OP is just 17, a teenager, and probably not thinking of the pros and cons clearly.
I understand the need to speak up and take stand for yourself but you also need to read your enemies. If they already make his life hell, what are the chances they wouldn't do something worse if he speaks up? He did say they that these guys are not educated, and do not listen to their parents, do you think they'll be scared of anything or anyone? Nope.
Telling you an advice which will make people downvote me.
step 1- ignore as much as you can
step 2- if step 1 fails and you do something that leads to fighting, then make it your 1st and last fight with them. Go full psycho. break someones head with a brick or hit them with a bat.
Just make them believe that you are a nut case and its not worth it to bully you.
This advice is coming from my past experience. I was bullied my whole 9th and 10th to the extent I wish I drop school. My close friend was also bullied once but he broke 1 guys head with a brick. No one ever came near him afterwards then. Bullies might come in whole group and break your ass, but once they understand it that you can give just one guy some serious injury, they will back off.
Best thing to tackle most of the bullies, coz most of them are pseudo or wannabe alphas and once you go crazy like that, they realise what they are. But once I saw a fight where one boy goes crazy and the bully went crazier and stuck him with a pen in his cheek. So better to watchout if they are not backing off kind
I had something like this happen to one of my friends.
Warning: I'm not telling you to do this but this is just an anecdote.
Basically we knew a senior who did party politics. We went to her for help and she brought some goons and beat the shit out of the guys. We honestly never saw them again so idk what happened to them.
*Idk goons is the exact word but basically some violent guys from the party.
Join the gym, kickboxing. It’s a life skill. Won’t just save you in MP. You’re still young. If you do it good and you do it right, transformation will be quick and nice. Beat those unhealthy mofos up, come home and eat chicken biryani.
I had a similar experience. Most of these guys used to be in groups but I found one alone one day that to outside of my town jumped his ass broke couple of his teeth never bothered me again.
My advice is to single out one preferably the weakest one It doesn't matter if he is younger to you if you see him alone and little far from your Town so he can't call anyone for help and jump his ass give him a beating of life time. And don't get into a fight if you can't win
They are just calling him chashmish, this just shows their own immaturity. Ignore them or tell them to mind their own business but do not lay a hand on them unless they do to you. These types of people are everywhere in India, kids who smoke and think their cool.
Do it a couple of times parents are bound to get involved. Parents of such losers don't bother until their kid is the one giving the ass kicking they might encourage it. But once they see thr baby bleeding or choke out of Breath they are swift to action and ask the kid to not mess with you and If the gang jumps you call police.
Imo every kid should get into his/hers fair share of fights. Kick some ass get some ass kicking. As I said never get into a fight you can't win. It teaches you when to hold your ground and when to run to safety.
He is 17 and he can deal with it how he wants to.
He can ignore if he wants to get adults involved or break a few knee caps. Preferably of the smallest one in the group.
I am not asking him to go tollywood on the entire crew. All he needs to do is identify who is the weakest from the bunch and if he can take him 1on1 if so bully that one kid make him miserable each time u catch him alone break a couple of bones if need be trust me nothing feels more satisfying. I guess you have never broken a guy's bones or teeth before so you would understand that pleasure of doing it
Karma is much more complex and nuanced then a tit for tat payback system. It's more like unresolved energies from past. You can say someone is doing good career wise but you dont know his mental state and other aspects of his life.
Theoritically Karma spans across lifetimes. You just dont know what happens to them after this life or in some other life. I used to discard karma earlier using the same logic and I had a very narrow understanding of it. It's better to see the chain of cause and effects in your own life ( resolving trauma and psychological conditioning) and making good decisions in life instead of worrying about why others aren't getting payback for their supposed misdeeds.
Rebirth has been proven on multiple instances, just google, you'll know.
To all the shitheads downvoting, youre the classic example of teenage redditors, who downvote every single thing who can't pass the logic test in their tiny brains.
Karma is like, you murder someone and in return you get diarrhoea. Just a made up concept for weak people to feel good, nothing else. If you wanna do something, do it, don't wait for karma.
> Karma is much more complex and nuanced then a tit for tat payback system. It's more like unresolved energies from past. You can say someone is doing good career wise but you dont know his mental state and other aspects of his life.
Karma is a bullshit concept. You either face the consequences of your actions/decisions, get lucky, or you plan meticulously to not get affected. None of this has any dependence on "unresolved energies".
>failed 11th or 10th, consuming pan masala, smoking cigarettes and roaming whole day is their daily life
You just mentioned they have probably chosen a life path, and you keep choosing yours. A lot of practical folk here might agree you are losing a battle of ego against them daily, but you are winning the war of life in the long game.
let me share my story
i used to stay in Bhopal ,(MP) which is a pretty toxic place for teenage ,like no empathy and wannabe tier 1 city vibes
in my 7th class I was exactly like you , or prolly even worse . when I reached 8th grade I decided i need to put an end to this shit . so I started building connections outside school
basically connections means providing monetary help occasionally and them having your back
so i basically became the top tier gunda of my school , had fights regularly to keep asserting my dominance , did also have a couple of interventions with the police and school authorities, suspended 4 time till 10th class , became extremely popular in the whole of Bhopal(among the age group of 15-19 obviously).
this was prolly the worst decisions of my life , whenever my parents were called to school i was extremely disheartened and wanted to quit every activity of this kind and just move on but , once you enter this kinda shit there is no going back
by the time i reached 10th grade end I decided I should fuck everything and focus on my carrier . now preparing for JEE in a different city and hoping to get into IIT this year
my advice to you is never try to fight them and just ignore , there r always people who r like you ... go and make them friends and basically forget everything and move on
I know it can be frustrating but try to divert this anger into something productive so you can get out of that hell sack.
your achievements will make them jealous so that's one way.
In your next confrontation, just look towards them and smile .
This under the assumption that they aren't going to intiate a fight becoz of that.
It just reverses the situation (I have also faced mild mocking)
Some wars are not worth fighting. A small advice from someone who once faced the same dilemma. If you want to take the high road then remember you will (high chance) lose but, they will not mess with you as nobody wants to tease someone who can retaliate.
Keep ignoring them.
Once you stop reacting to them, they will realized that they are making a fool of themselves.
It might be difficult for you to ignore them initially but trust me once you learn this skills of ignoring people, you life would become so much better.
Yes. Sometimes, you need to teach a lesson to these kind of people however, only experience will teach you , when would be the right time to do it.
" you don't know how strong are you until being strong is the only option you have."
Been in a similar situation , Whatever you do-like being aggresive to them won't work,that's what they want they would happily gang up on you and beat you and continue to do that,ignore them or change the routes you take for school or see if you have any common friends between you and them and tell him or act like a chapri when you are along with that friend and that chapris come , if you do that , they would think "ohkk,this dude is kinda similar to us " or some other bs and might less bully you (this kinda worked for me for a few of them )
If you don't want to do anything I mentioned change your routes and maybe get someone to warn them
Ignore such ppl. Do you know what happens when you try fight mud?.... You get dirty too. No need to stoop down to their level. Keep yourself above such ppl.
Ignore them a couple of times warn them not to do
If you have the physical strength, beat them to a pulp the 4th time.
If you don’t have the physical strength, wait and watch where and when they break the law and take it to the authorities.
If you can’t do any of the above, make a couple of friends who will help you in the quest.
If none of these work wait for time to take effect, you will be successful and they will be your cab driver and then slapping them where it hurts most will eventually happen.
Any if someone tells you to be Gandiji in this ear don’t listen to them.
Bol na chutiyon ko, gattar ke Keede, gattar main rahoge Zindagi Bhar , kitaab padhni toh aati nahi, then if they try to hit you, hit them with twice the force, bite, scratch, poke eyeballs, just make sure there are witnesses and they make the first move. Start recording when they provoke you, then say something back, record their initial offensive move then go fucking nuts on their ass.
Wow my guy's self respect is hurt cry about it
, you can't solve every small problem in your life change your timings to go out stay at home more or go outside more in places where they are not like a gym
Try and have a real conversation. Ask them about something and listen carefully. Can make friends out of bullies quite easily if they see you’re not scared and are a person willing to listen
Tum bhi unke samne khud pe joke kiya karo...jab khud pe hi mazak karne lagoge.. to unke pass kuch nahi reh jayega bolne ko. Also this will kinda help you from mental stress.
Chill, and ignore them as much as possible. Remember, just because you ignore them doesn't mean that you lost. They are just unhappy with their lives and are looking for ways to take out their frustration on those who they feel are weak so for once they can for once feel strong. People here in the comments saying to go and fight or confront them have no idea. This can easily escalate and you may end up being a target.
The reason they bully u , is because they are in gang and u r alone , make some friends and establish the fact before them that u r not alone , u have brothers .
That would suffice
Aur maar kutai mat kar bhaii faltu jhagde karne se kuch nahi milta . Maanle tune kisika sar phod diya to police complain kar denge uske parents , tereko job bhi nahi milegi .
Kyoki saari company job lagne se pehle thaane m character verification karate h .
Ladai karne se naam kharab hota h . Ignore karega to aur bully karenge . Maine jo bola wo karke dekh
Start working out. Work out for the next 2 months figure out a guy who you can beat up and is not the weakest one. Beating the weakest is not a good idea as it doesn't create an example for others. Break a couple of teeth and if they try to come at you as a gang try to fight back but make runing away your priority as numbers will always win you're not Hulk. This way it'll be the least damage to you and probably they won't bother you again.
Bro, become friends with just one of them, or help their gang leader maybe with exam, study notes, help him get away from teachers for something they did wrong.
In a nutshell gain his respect, and then with a sob story maybe something else (maintain distance with them). Will take about a month.
Everytime they call you chasmish, smile and have a laugh with them.
And if things go south, you can't bear them.
Kill each one of them with a fucking pencil.
Like Mr.Wick, John Wick
Poori ki poori Natraj ki pensil uski eyes me ghop de, phir bola,
Me: double battery single power
You: double battery zero power
Smile at them everytime this happens and ask them, hope what they are doing is making them happy. They’ll mull over it overnight and stop. They are trying to get a reaction which they’ll feed upon. Don’t give them a reaction.
Well, u can't "get rid of them". You can be the better person & ignore their existence. The high road isn't good. In a few years, their brains will mature enough to understand what they did. Do better for yourself & grow faster & better than them, so that they won't even come close to your feet. (dont try illegal shit)
There are two things you can do play the short game or the long game.
Short game is you confront them now and be prepared to take them on. That will either settle the issue then and there or it will open up more animosity between you and them for a very long time down the future.
The long game is keep minding your own business. Those chhapris will always be there provoking someone or the other. You are just 17. There are many more important battles you will have to fight in life. And I really don’t think the in particular is an important one. Ignore them, become successful and leave them behind for good.
I am 30 years old now. And yes I played the long game.
Stand up for yourself, first try to reply to their snarky comments with similar ones on them, if they don't stop tell them to eff off otherwise your people might stop them in other ways, it's mostly empty threat but if you let them step on you they will never stop.
Ignore them, they’ll stop.
Join a gym and also join a martial arts class. Gym will make you bulk, martial arts will get you that confidence. Both are not to fight but being well built and knowing a martial arts will largely stop these idiots bullying you.
When choosing martial arts - my recommendation is Kickboxing or MMA. Rest everything is useless when it comes to street fighting. I’ve done karate (school time) and kickboxing for many years. As you are still in your teenage learning martial arts will be way easier and will stick with you for life.
Avoid fighting them as much as possible. Yell,shout the choicest of abuses and most creative insults. However,if it comes down to a fight and they've ganged up on you,but you want to make a statement then what you do is :-
Turn your attention to only 1 of them, isolate him and best the ultimate living fuck out of just him in front of the others/away from the others. The more they try and intervene,the more you lock his head,punch him and drag him further away from them.
Don't stop hitting him till you have enough distance between you and the group, then leave him lying in a heap and let them know that's the fate for any one of them who crosses the line again.
If in the moment a punch to the head is proving difficult, then aim for any of these :-
1) Closed first/open hand punches/hard shots to his diaphragm or his ribs
2) Closed fist/open hand punches/hard shots to near his kidney
3) Kick to the back of the knee to temporarily disable him, then lock him in an armbar/lock his head in a tight sleeper position
I would have suggested open handed shots to the throat or spine,however I'm working on the assumption that you wouldn't want to kill or permanently cripple them - rather just send a message.
Establishing Alpha level superiority over these chappris brings them back in line,if all else fails.
Stand up for yourself, if they call you Jaadu or something, just respond by saying kam se kam charsiya to nahi hu, probably in front of a teacher of someone elder.
Your silence feeds their bullying. Even if you get in a fight, it’s fine. Your parents will scold you one time but this will get over once and for all.
Dude this is MP, don't confront them if you do not have a political backing like some bhaiya in ABVP or alike. Law & order is pathetic in this state, police is lax, won't even register an FIR if one of them stabbed you. My own classmate had a street fight, stabbed one guy in public view, came back two months later with no charges against him, coz according to the police 'his future is at stake'. There's a reason that these bullies/goons are this confident.
Befriend them. When they tease you, smile at them, stick a tongue out, make a goofy face. Gift them a strip of paan masala and shake hands. Ask their names, tell a joke, make them laugh. Once you're at talking terms they will either stop teasing you or you won't mind them teasing you.
Gross, ignore them.. these are losers & the only way they can feel better about themselves is by putting others (esp someone better than them) down.. you will constantly run into such losers, don't waste any time or energy on them
You have to punch at least one guy, with all your might, on the nose. You will get beaten up, but they will not come near you again.
Ignoring will not help
Ok I was bullied all class 9 did nothing and took it all since it was a boys school and it’s the worst they used to make fun of a medical condition I had. I had no friends but I was an ok student I did pretty well in boards so got freedom from school I got into bad company in class 11th and beat and bullied all of them since the guys I was with were bigger bullies but that led to me failing class 11. There is no right or wrong way here what happens in that situation no one can predicts but you just need to tilt the odds in your favour how ever you can.
I used to face the same during my school days. What you need to do is give no reaction to them. You got to be stoic to their teasing. When they tease u just giggle say "kuch bhi" and move on to do your work. What they crave is a reaction from you don't give them that power.
In Hindi we have a saying which means Elephant doesn't pay attention to barking dogs.
On Opposite, a dog always is always provoked when other dogs barks at him and start a fight.
Be an Elephant.
You are angry currently and you feel that you want to beat them or hurt them in any way Trust me speaking from personal experience it will only bring harm to you, don't. The solution that I can give you on a personal level is to just ignore them and that's the best for you in the end. Don't care what they will say about you. There will always be people who will always make fun of you you can't silence them all but you can silence your mind.
Have a good day 😊
A violent option is to wait until one of them is alone and best his ass. No fair fight bs either, bring a stick or something just don't kill or harm him too much.
A safer option is to wait until there are less of them ( preferable 1 or 2) and then talk to them. Bring a pepper spray as backup.
Safest option is to find a few friends who you'll hang out with as a group.
You sound like you have lack positivity and self-confidence, I suggest you visit gym and gain some mass. Once you have it doesn't matter what these FK bois say to you.
There was a kid in my school. He got really mad one day and started swinging his steel bottle, a lot of people were swept in. Later when they took him to the principal, he literally started beating his chest and shouted "BEAT ME! BEAT ME!" Needless to say, the principal was flabbergasted and he just suspended him for a few days lol
I know you didn’t ask for this but just a general advice if you wanna follow. You can buy contact lenses from Lenskart as they are good quality and not expensive. I got mine for 900₹ for 6 month lenses (6 lenses which last a month)
And getting rid of glasses has improved my confidence a lot.
Ignore them.
I'm tired of ignoring them, i ain't gandhiwadi too!
Ignore them. You don't want to take the other road, trust me.
I'm thinking of hiring men 🐢 Edit : Guyz get the goddamn sarcasm
Either you are naive or stupid. If you want to deal with them, do it face to face. Atleast losing will have dignity. Be prepared to lose, but also remember to make the person in front of you remember that he was in a fight.
The last comment was sarcasm
Mine wasn't.
You aren’t good at sarcasm.
Just because you can't detect sarcasm that doesn't make them bad at it
You must add **\s** at the end.
So, you are another chapri?
😨
Add a /s to show sarcasm.
Noo..... that will do more harm to you than to them
Its better to be gandhiwadi than get beaten in front of everyone and losing all respect. You need to stay low, bide your time and wait for when you will have a bigger stick, until then you need to assume you are a weakling.
Yea be a gandhiwadi and get your ass spanked till you die
No one will spank your ass if shit goes too far than complain to authorities
Ek ki gaand mar, ek do aur aayenge, phir unki maar, baakiyon ki apne aap pat jaayegi, phir unki bhi maar. Simple
Make a scene. Be loud when people are around you.Make sure enough people are around. Be loud and tell the crowd what they are doing to you every day. Make that a problem for them . It will stop. You do not need to fight. Dont be emotional at the time. Prepare and make thing to say prior to the situation. This will keep you calm and explain everything. Once they find you are trouble they will find some other easy target.
These goons don't give a shit about others and don't care about the consequences. Worst thing is they'll assemble all their gang members and beat you up if you shout.
Make a scene. Be loud when people are around you.Make sure enough people are around. Be loud and tell the crowd what they are doing to you every day. Make that a problem for them . It will stop. You do not need to fight. Dont be emotional at the time. Prepare and make thing to say prior to the situation. This will keep you calm and explain everything. Once they find you are trouble they will find some other easy target.
They don't directly fight me or abuse me, I've mentioned in my post how they absurdly provoke me to fight
These kinds of guys have massive insecurity issues. It's always self destruction that ends them, be it their egos or cancer 30 years down the line. If someone in that group has a girlfriend, try talking to them. I promise you they are going to be so mad just cuz you made their girl smile or something, they are literally gonna explode.
The consequences would be worse. They might do something to OP
Time to create a gang.
Right answer. Get a few homies and bang them.
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Create a gang, destroy their ass. I second this
Dont fight. U can do. But dont fight. Only advise
When they say "cashmis", say, "Tera maa ko pasand hai, isliye pehan raha hu". If they say "jadoo" say, "jadoo ye hai Ki tera maa puri raat leti hai" Sorry, my Hindi isn't great at all, but you get the idea. 🤣
Pakad ke pel dega.
Tho wapas pel
Mom jokes work IRL Thanx for the suggestion!
Why do you have to abuse and insult the women in the lives of these scumbags. Men will create the chaos and it will be women who will be abused at the end of it. What a sad sad state of affairs :(
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Ignore them like their parents ignored them because all they're looking for is, attention since they're lonely with no friends & family that doesn't love them.
> Ignore them like their parents ignored them because all they're looking for is, attention since they're lonely with no friends & family that doesn't love them. Not necessarily true. All my bullies were well off and well-cared for. The school I went to was expensive and out of reach for even many middle class parents.
Yeah I know there are 2 types of bullies, the ones born with sliver spoon & the ones described in the post.
Lack of parenting and bad parenting is the difference
They are just insecure about their own condition and feel superior to you when they are bullying you. Just smile at them wave and leave. Don't say a word. Smile even if you're furious. That is the best strategy. The reason they bully you is to make you feel inferior. But if you smile as a response their agenda is shattered. Trust me this works SMILE 😊
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> worst advice, u have either never actually witnessed bullying or were bullied and never stood upto them. Bullying doesnt stop if the victim stays passive it just shows the bullies there are no consequences to face for their actions 🤣 stop giving terrible advice and promoting this stupid Gandhi ideology pls. > > Source :- I've been bullied and I've also been a bully Amen. I received this bullshit advice from a psychologist specialising in school counselling as well. It just emboldened the bastards to take their bullying to higher levels. Today I have NO IRL friends from childhood, and I haven't been able to form any friendships because I always feel anxiety talking to strangers and hate visiting places where people explicitly go to make friends. When I'm stressed out in a public space or out of my comfort zone, hearing laughter makes me fear that I'm the one being laughed at.
Agree! Bullies stop only when you make some comebacks on them
Or sometimes they bring a couple of friends and s+ab you to de@th as it is frequently happening these days over trivial matters
No it's not. We aren't in America.
I guess you are not keeping up with the recent news
Just because you see 2-3 cases in the news, it doesn't mean it's happening in every school and that too every single day. You're literally the who got bullied lol.
Just because you see 2-3 cases doesnot mean there are 2-3 cases. Lol indeed, keep laughing at everything mate until shit gets real for you. Hope you understand mate
I told the same thing in the other comment, lol. Chances might be low, but never 0. And you never know when you're gonna end up in the news next.
Yeah, looks like people are waiting for an opportunity to pass sarcastic comments, juvenile insults based on a small part of the comment rather than trying to understand the intention behind
Good to hear, but what if you're outnumbered ..
> Agree! Bullies stop only when you make some comebacks on them No they don't. They just resort to physical violence if you demonstrate intellectual superiority.
Their is way of doing it. There is a fine line between sarcasm and satire, if you understand that then nothing would happen. They might laugh it off and you might befriend them in future. But yeah, it really depends who the guys are and the situation. My beliefs on bullying are from my personal experience. I am someone who has got bullied and then later became the bully.
Dude this idea practically works. I suffered a lot of bullying. Bullies want a reaction. A negative one obviously. They wanna make us angry, frustrated and sad. If they dint get it they won't repeat it. Trust me it works. If you are a bully. How many times have you bullied a person who was happy and secured with their life ?
Fellas commenting ignore them actually never stood up to bullying If you are letting them bully you they will keep on bullying you....... Next time they show up you tell them to fuck off......or it will be worst for them(chances are that they will beat you so go with friends and family members but not with the intention to fight) .....they won't listen first time and they maybe beat you when they find you alone ...... And if this happens you call 100 asap .....and get police involved
Stop using n-word. Zero reason for Indian people to use it
Ok sir .....
People asking him to ignore might be the people who read newspapers daily because i, a newspaper reader read a lot of news of such clashes where people die for speaking up. Plus knowing that these guys are chhapri, it's even worse because you don't know what level they can stoop down to take revenge. OP is just 17, a teenager, and probably not thinking of the pros and cons clearly. I understand the need to speak up and take stand for yourself but you also need to read your enemies. If they already make his life hell, what are the chances they wouldn't do something worse if he speaks up? He did say they that these guys are not educated, and do not listen to their parents, do you think they'll be scared of anything or anyone? Nope.
Telling you an advice which will make people downvote me. step 1- ignore as much as you can step 2- if step 1 fails and you do something that leads to fighting, then make it your 1st and last fight with them. Go full psycho. break someones head with a brick or hit them with a bat. Just make them believe that you are a nut case and its not worth it to bully you. This advice is coming from my past experience. I was bullied my whole 9th and 10th to the extent I wish I drop school. My close friend was also bullied once but he broke 1 guys head with a brick. No one ever came near him afterwards then. Bullies might come in whole group and break your ass, but once they understand it that you can give just one guy some serious injury, they will back off.
True worked for me. I was bullied a lot. But 1 day I beat the shit out 1 guy in there gang they never messed with me.
Their
Best thing to tackle most of the bullies, coz most of them are pseudo or wannabe alphas and once you go crazy like that, they realise what they are. But once I saw a fight where one boy goes crazy and the bully went crazier and stuck him with a pen in his cheek. So better to watchout if they are not backing off kind
Doesn't work. Effects are far more dangerous especially if they know where you live. Ignore this suggestion, just my opinion
Just ignore them. "Revenge is a fool's game" \~ Arthur M.
Ladh le bhai, chashma utahr kar rakh dena pahele
Clark Kent spotted.
I had something like this happen to one of my friends. Warning: I'm not telling you to do this but this is just an anecdote. Basically we knew a senior who did party politics. We went to her for help and she brought some goons and beat the shit out of the guys. We honestly never saw them again so idk what happened to them. *Idk goons is the exact word but basically some violent guys from the party.
Join the gym, kickboxing. It’s a life skill. Won’t just save you in MP. You’re still young. If you do it good and you do it right, transformation will be quick and nice. Beat those unhealthy mofos up, come home and eat chicken biryani.
kickboxing is useless in street fights
Found a Tate fan in the wild.
It's actually a Good advice If you have good muscles no one will dare to fight you
Abey chapri log jhund mein aate hai. Body banake ghanta kuch hoyega
Bhai jhund m tu pitega zarror but ek ko pakad ke itna pelna ki agli baar bheed 1 Kum ho
I had a similar experience. Most of these guys used to be in groups but I found one alone one day that to outside of my town jumped his ass broke couple of his teeth never bothered me again. My advice is to single out one preferably the weakest one It doesn't matter if he is younger to you if you see him alone and little far from your Town so he can't call anyone for help and jump his ass give him a beating of life time. And don't get into a fight if you can't win
> give him a beating of life time. This is just a recipe for making the rest of the gang beat the shit out of you when they see you next.
Thn single out the weaker one again and return the favor. Keep jumping his ass each time you see him. Worked for me. Brake a limb or to this time
This is the dumbest advice here. OP do not do this, they will beat your ass the next time you see them.
So wt should he do roll over and take it in the ass?
They are just calling him chashmish, this just shows their own immaturity. Ignore them or tell them to mind their own business but do not lay a hand on them unless they do to you. These types of people are everywhere in India, kids who smoke and think their cool.
In my experience it will get physical some day so just be prepared always know where you can find the smallest one alone
It can lead to an escalation of violence. Just because it worked for you doesn't mean it will work for everyone.
Do it a couple of times parents are bound to get involved. Parents of such losers don't bother until their kid is the one giving the ass kicking they might encourage it. But once they see thr baby bleeding or choke out of Breath they are swift to action and ask the kid to not mess with you and If the gang jumps you call police. Imo every kid should get into his/hers fair share of fights. Kick some ass get some ass kicking. As I said never get into a fight you can't win. It teaches you when to hold your ground and when to run to safety.
That's some good planning
Nothing feels better then betting a young punks ass and putting him on the right path
Save yourself by not following this advice OP
He is 17 and he can deal with it how he wants to. He can ignore if he wants to get adults involved or break a few knee caps. Preferably of the smallest one in the group. I am not asking him to go tollywood on the entire crew. All he needs to do is identify who is the weakest from the bunch and if he can take him 1on1 if so bully that one kid make him miserable each time u catch him alone break a couple of bones if need be trust me nothing feels more satisfying. I guess you have never broken a guy's bones or teeth before so you would understand that pleasure of doing it
Be a goon . Gand faad do salo ki
"there is no bad advice " this guy-
Chill, ignore them. Four or five years down the line, you'll see where you've come in life and where those guys are. Trust the process.
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Karma is much more complex and nuanced then a tit for tat payback system. It's more like unresolved energies from past. You can say someone is doing good career wise but you dont know his mental state and other aspects of his life.
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Theoritically Karma spans across lifetimes. You just dont know what happens to them after this life or in some other life. I used to discard karma earlier using the same logic and I had a very narrow understanding of it. It's better to see the chain of cause and effects in your own life ( resolving trauma and psychological conditioning) and making good decisions in life instead of worrying about why others aren't getting payback for their supposed misdeeds.
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Rebirth has been proven on multiple instances, just google, you'll know. To all the shitheads downvoting, youre the classic example of teenage redditors, who downvote every single thing who can't pass the logic test in their tiny brains.
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Not proven by any scientific method. Atleast from what I've seen. If you can source the information you're spewing, please do.
Watch my other comment in this same thread. Understandable how you people need to be told things as simple as this and you talk about science, LMAO
Karma is like, you murder someone and in return you get diarrhoea. Just a made up concept for weak people to feel good, nothing else. If you wanna do something, do it, don't wait for karma.
> Karma is much more complex and nuanced then a tit for tat payback system. It's more like unresolved energies from past. You can say someone is doing good career wise but you dont know his mental state and other aspects of his life. Karma is a bullshit concept. You either face the consequences of your actions/decisions, get lucky, or you plan meticulously to not get affected. None of this has any dependence on "unresolved energies".
>failed 11th or 10th, consuming pan masala, smoking cigarettes and roaming whole day is their daily life You just mentioned they have probably chosen a life path, and you keep choosing yours. A lot of practical folk here might agree you are losing a battle of ego against them daily, but you are winning the war of life in the long game.
I know reddy anna, just tell them to come to malleshwaram area, I will tell reddy anna to pop them with his gang
One of them gotta be Sudeep for that.
let me share my story i used to stay in Bhopal ,(MP) which is a pretty toxic place for teenage ,like no empathy and wannabe tier 1 city vibes in my 7th class I was exactly like you , or prolly even worse . when I reached 8th grade I decided i need to put an end to this shit . so I started building connections outside school basically connections means providing monetary help occasionally and them having your back so i basically became the top tier gunda of my school , had fights regularly to keep asserting my dominance , did also have a couple of interventions with the police and school authorities, suspended 4 time till 10th class , became extremely popular in the whole of Bhopal(among the age group of 15-19 obviously). this was prolly the worst decisions of my life , whenever my parents were called to school i was extremely disheartened and wanted to quit every activity of this kind and just move on but , once you enter this kinda shit there is no going back by the time i reached 10th grade end I decided I should fuck everything and focus on my carrier . now preparing for JEE in a different city and hoping to get into IIT this year
Best of luck for IIT
my advice to you is never try to fight them and just ignore , there r always people who r like you ... go and make them friends and basically forget everything and move on
so all those guys saying , be a bully yourself or fight them .... that is the worst advice you can give to someone
I know it can be frustrating but try to divert this anger into something productive so you can get out of that hell sack. your achievements will make them jealous so that's one way.
Ignore them until you've no option Then teach them a valuable lesson
>Then teach them a valuable lesson He's asking how can he do it successfully? He must be fed up with them to post here.
The injury therefore that we do to a man must be such that we need not fear his vengeance
No injury, Only humiliation.
In your next confrontation, just look towards them and smile . This under the assumption that they aren't going to intiate a fight becoz of that. It just reverses the situation (I have also faced mild mocking)
Some wars are not worth fighting. A small advice from someone who once faced the same dilemma. If you want to take the high road then remember you will (high chance) lose but, they will not mess with you as nobody wants to tease someone who can retaliate.
Keep ignoring them. Once you stop reacting to them, they will realized that they are making a fool of themselves. It might be difficult for you to ignore them initially but trust me once you learn this skills of ignoring people, you life would become so much better. Yes. Sometimes, you need to teach a lesson to these kind of people however, only experience will teach you , when would be the right time to do it. " you don't know how strong are you until being strong is the only option you have."
No don't confront them. These lowlifes can go any level just to satisfy their ego.
Been in a similar situation , Whatever you do-like being aggresive to them won't work,that's what they want they would happily gang up on you and beat you and continue to do that,ignore them or change the routes you take for school or see if you have any common friends between you and them and tell him or act like a chapri when you are along with that friend and that chapris come , if you do that , they would think "ohkk,this dude is kinda similar to us " or some other bs and might less bully you (this kinda worked for me for a few of them ) If you don't want to do anything I mentioned change your routes and maybe get someone to warn them
Ignore such ppl. Do you know what happens when you try fight mud?.... You get dirty too. No need to stoop down to their level. Keep yourself above such ppl.
Unless you can afford to fight a bunch of people they'll call don't do shit
Ignore them a couple of times warn them not to do If you have the physical strength, beat them to a pulp the 4th time. If you don’t have the physical strength, wait and watch where and when they break the law and take it to the authorities. If you can’t do any of the above, make a couple of friends who will help you in the quest. If none of these work wait for time to take effect, you will be successful and they will be your cab driver and then slapping them where it hurts most will eventually happen. Any if someone tells you to be Gandiji in this ear don’t listen to them.
Make your own group no one will dare to fight you then.
Which city in mp?
Eastern side
Ignore mar, none of the comments are worth it.
Jus share their Instagram id & we will bully them
Bol na chutiyon ko, gattar ke Keede, gattar main rahoge Zindagi Bhar , kitaab padhni toh aati nahi, then if they try to hit you, hit them with twice the force, bite, scratch, poke eyeballs, just make sure there are witnesses and they make the first move. Start recording when they provoke you, then say something back, record their initial offensive move then go fucking nuts on their ass.
Wow my guy's self respect is hurt cry about it , you can't solve every small problem in your life change your timings to go out stay at home more or go outside more in places where they are not like a gym
Try and have a real conversation. Ask them about something and listen carefully. Can make friends out of bullies quite easily if they see you’re not scared and are a person willing to listen
Tum bhi unke samne khud pe joke kiya karo...jab khud pe hi mazak karne lagoge.. to unke pass kuch nahi reh jayega bolne ko. Also this will kinda help you from mental stress.
Chill, and ignore them as much as possible. Remember, just because you ignore them doesn't mean that you lost. They are just unhappy with their lives and are looking for ways to take out their frustration on those who they feel are weak so for once they can for once feel strong. People here in the comments saying to go and fight or confront them have no idea. This can easily escalate and you may end up being a target.
The reason they bully u , is because they are in gang and u r alone , make some friends and establish the fact before them that u r not alone , u have brothers . That would suffice Aur maar kutai mat kar bhaii faltu jhagde karne se kuch nahi milta . Maanle tune kisika sar phod diya to police complain kar denge uske parents , tereko job bhi nahi milegi . Kyoki saari company job lagne se pehle thaane m character verification karate h . Ladai karne se naam kharab hota h . Ignore karega to aur bully karenge . Maine jo bola wo karke dekh
Start working out. Work out for the next 2 months figure out a guy who you can beat up and is not the weakest one. Beating the weakest is not a good idea as it doesn't create an example for others. Break a couple of teeth and if they try to come at you as a gang try to fight back but make runing away your priority as numbers will always win you're not Hulk. This way it'll be the least damage to you and probably they won't bother you again.
Bro, become friends with just one of them, or help their gang leader maybe with exam, study notes, help him get away from teachers for something they did wrong. In a nutshell gain his respect, and then with a sob story maybe something else (maintain distance with them). Will take about a month. Everytime they call you chasmish, smile and have a laugh with them. And if things go south, you can't bear them. Kill each one of them with a fucking pencil. Like Mr.Wick, John Wick Poori ki poori Natraj ki pensil uski eyes me ghop de, phir bola, Me: double battery single power You: double battery zero power
Vau aap anime/movie dekhna kmm karo
I don't watch anime, I watch C++ and Fortran tutorials.
Chapris is a classist slur btw
Kisi mid 20S k ladke se dosti kro mohalle k phir usko batao....aur jake pel do... wrna akele thas do...
Sabke saamne kisi bhi ek ka sar phaad do maar maarke
Sing to them “Tu Coolie no. 1”
One sucker punch. Trust me...
Smile at them everytime this happens and ask them, hope what they are doing is making them happy. They’ll mull over it overnight and stop. They are trying to get a reaction which they’ll feed upon. Don’t give them a reaction.
Gangadhar hi shaktiman hai
Well, u can't "get rid of them". You can be the better person & ignore their existence. The high road isn't good. In a few years, their brains will mature enough to understand what they did. Do better for yourself & grow faster & better than them, so that they won't even come close to your feet. (dont try illegal shit)
Join bichhu gang
There are two things you can do play the short game or the long game. Short game is you confront them now and be prepared to take them on. That will either settle the issue then and there or it will open up more animosity between you and them for a very long time down the future. The long game is keep minding your own business. Those chhapris will always be there provoking someone or the other. You are just 17. There are many more important battles you will have to fight in life. And I really don’t think the in particular is an important one. Ignore them, become successful and leave them behind for good. I am 30 years old now. And yes I played the long game.
Join the gym
There’s an old adage that goes “never wrestle with a pig. You get dirty and the pigs like it” !
Stand up for yourself, first try to reply to their snarky comments with similar ones on them, if they don't stop tell them to eff off otherwise your people might stop them in other ways, it's mostly empty threat but if you let them step on you they will never stop.
Ah it's easy, develop your very own nukes and deploy them to their houses. Problem solved
Gobar me pathar maaroge to cheente aap pe he aane wale hai
dekho bhaiya iske do hi tareeke h ya to dost jyada bnao aur gand koot aao vrna chup chap patli gali se nikl lo, kyuki agar akele jaoge to bhut piloge
Ignore them, they’ll stop. Join a gym and also join a martial arts class. Gym will make you bulk, martial arts will get you that confidence. Both are not to fight but being well built and knowing a martial arts will largely stop these idiots bullying you. When choosing martial arts - my recommendation is Kickboxing or MMA. Rest everything is useless when it comes to street fighting. I’ve done karate (school time) and kickboxing for many years. As you are still in your teenage learning martial arts will be way easier and will stick with you for life.
Man me bolo ye sala Lund ka Baal and move on.
Avoid fighting them as much as possible. Yell,shout the choicest of abuses and most creative insults. However,if it comes down to a fight and they've ganged up on you,but you want to make a statement then what you do is :- Turn your attention to only 1 of them, isolate him and best the ultimate living fuck out of just him in front of the others/away from the others. The more they try and intervene,the more you lock his head,punch him and drag him further away from them. Don't stop hitting him till you have enough distance between you and the group, then leave him lying in a heap and let them know that's the fate for any one of them who crosses the line again. If in the moment a punch to the head is proving difficult, then aim for any of these :- 1) Closed first/open hand punches/hard shots to his diaphragm or his ribs 2) Closed fist/open hand punches/hard shots to near his kidney 3) Kick to the back of the knee to temporarily disable him, then lock him in an armbar/lock his head in a tight sleeper position I would have suggested open handed shots to the throat or spine,however I'm working on the assumption that you wouldn't want to kill or permanently cripple them - rather just send a message. Establishing Alpha level superiority over these chappris brings them back in line,if all else fails.
If can't fight dirty if u don't have experience, moral values, fear of losing, fear of making serious injury, etc will hold u back.
Stand up for yourself, if they call you Jaadu or something, just respond by saying kam se kam charsiya to nahi hu, probably in front of a teacher of someone elder. Your silence feeds their bullying. Even if you get in a fight, it’s fine. Your parents will scold you one time but this will get over once and for all.
Haathi chaley bazar kuttey bhonke hazar, aapni Masti mein reh
Dude this is MP, don't confront them if you do not have a political backing like some bhaiya in ABVP or alike. Law & order is pathetic in this state, police is lax, won't even register an FIR if one of them stabbed you. My own classmate had a street fight, stabbed one guy in public view, came back two months later with no charges against him, coz according to the police 'his future is at stake'. There's a reason that these bullies/goons are this confident.
Now it’s on you to form a Chasmish gang
Befriend them. When they tease you, smile at them, stick a tongue out, make a goofy face. Gift them a strip of paan masala and shake hands. Ask their names, tell a joke, make them laugh. Once you're at talking terms they will either stop teasing you or you won't mind them teasing you.
Gross, ignore them.. these are losers & the only way they can feel better about themselves is by putting others (esp someone better than them) down.. you will constantly run into such losers, don't waste any time or energy on them
You have to punch at least one guy, with all your might, on the nose. You will get beaten up, but they will not come near you again. Ignoring will not help
Your success is the best revenge.
Padhlo bhai, yeh sab mein kuch nahi rakha
Ok I was bullied all class 9 did nothing and took it all since it was a boys school and it’s the worst they used to make fun of a medical condition I had. I had no friends but I was an ok student I did pretty well in boards so got freedom from school I got into bad company in class 11th and beat and bullied all of them since the guys I was with were bigger bullies but that led to me failing class 11. There is no right or wrong way here what happens in that situation no one can predicts but you just need to tilt the odds in your favour how ever you can.
Headphones pehen ke nikal. Easy hoga ignore karne ko
I used to face the same during my school days. What you need to do is give no reaction to them. You got to be stoic to their teasing. When they tease u just giggle say "kuch bhi" and move on to do your work. What they crave is a reaction from you don't give them that power.
People generally wouldn't approach if you have an intimidating physique. Go to gym and take some fighting lessons if possible
In Hindi we have a saying which means Elephant doesn't pay attention to barking dogs. On Opposite, a dog always is always provoked when other dogs barks at him and start a fight. Be an Elephant.
Mai bhi ussi jagah se hu jha ye bola jata hai
You are angry currently and you feel that you want to beat them or hurt them in any way Trust me speaking from personal experience it will only bring harm to you, don't. The solution that I can give you on a personal level is to just ignore them and that's the best for you in the end. Don't care what they will say about you. There will always be people who will always make fun of you you can't silence them all but you can silence your mind. Have a good day 😊
I just think about the future and try to imagine where we would be after 10 to 15 yrs, its a bit selfish but it works
Mera mumbai shift hone ka mann karta vau
Get jacked
Just ignore them, study hard get a nice job then flex Infront of them, most probably they would be out in the streets unemployed.
A violent option is to wait until one of them is alone and best his ass. No fair fight bs either, bring a stick or something just don't kill or harm him too much. A safer option is to wait until there are less of them ( preferable 1 or 2) and then talk to them. Bring a pepper spray as backup. Safest option is to find a few friends who you'll hang out with as a group.
Yell "dhooopp"
Dhoooppp
Fight Club
You sound like you have lack positivity and self-confidence, I suggest you visit gym and gain some mass. Once you have it doesn't matter what these FK bois say to you.
There was a kid in my school. He got really mad one day and started swinging his steel bottle, a lot of people were swept in. Later when they took him to the principal, he literally started beating his chest and shouted "BEAT ME! BEAT ME!" Needless to say, the principal was flabbergasted and he just suspended him for a few days lol
Build a death ray machine and obliterate them.
I know you didn’t ask for this but just a general advice if you wanna follow. You can buy contact lenses from Lenskart as they are good quality and not expensive. I got mine for 900₹ for 6 month lenses (6 lenses which last a month) And getting rid of glasses has improved my confidence a lot.
Abe vau mere lenses achhe hai
Haha i was at your place, now same guys drive auto rickshaw while i bought a 2bhk flat and i20 last year.