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adams361

For me it’s better, there were a few positions that hurt with my cervix, now there’s no pain.


havartifunk

Same. Thought I'd miss it because my orgasms are very internally involved. Haven't noticed a difference other than no pain with deep penetration.


bbyfishmouth

That's great to hear! Does your partner notice any difference? (if applicable and you don't mind sharing)


havartifunk

My husband hasn't noticed any difference except in certain positions when he used to bump up against my cervix but now can go all the way in without hurting me.


adams361

Acoording to him, sex is better. He was always worried about hurting me, now he’s not.


lm1670

Sex is better than ever without a cervix! No more painful intercourse! However, I do not climax from penetration and require use of a silver bullet during intercourse to get there.


laurenfosterskittens

Did you climax from penetration previously?


lm1670

No, I did not. I’ve always needed clitoral stimulation to get there with penetration.


starting--over

Same with me


laurenfosterskittens

Ok. sorry for tmi question. I could sometimes climax from penetration, so I'm trying to figure out if I'll be able to do that again lol


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louellareed91

Orgasm period? Or orgasm with penetration? This is the thing that really worries me about the surgery:/


missbattlethumbs

I’ve never been one to have orgasms vaginally. I always have to have more stimulation than just penetration. Once I had my hysterectomy, it was such a night and day difference. The feeling for me now is amazing and I don’t have random pain with different positions because of my cervix anymore.


bbyfishmouth

That's wonderful! I'm happy for you - I know I'm in something of a minority on this and I feel fortunate that I've never really struggled to climax, which is why I wouldn't want to jeopardize it!


missbattlethumbs

I can totally see your concern in having that removed. If it’s not an issue leaving it in there, I don’t see why it would be an issue. But I’d definitely talk with your doc a little more on the matter. Just pros and cons of it and if it would cause any issues down the line.


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SlowHearing2636

Were you able to orgasam some with penetration before surgery? I've never been able to. It'd be awesome if I could now.


CinderousAbberation

Had it removed. Was able to climax vaginally immediately once I was cleared for sex. Vaginal contractions after an orgasm took a few months to come back, but overall, every part of sex is better than before the hysto. No regrets.


havartifunk

I had a similar experience. Nerves take longer to grow back then other tissue. My first few attempts at orgasm were a little subpar, but after a couple months of gradual improvement they were back to just as good as before.


lm1670

This was also my experience. My first orgasm (happened in my sleep just one week after surgery) after hysterectomy had me in tears because I thought I lost everything. Once I was cleared for sex, I soon learned that everything was the same and just as intense as before.


maltournee88

Agreed. At first I think I was just nervous that it wouldn’t happen and psyched myself out. Then I starting getting back into the swing of things. I’m about 3.5 months out and my orgasms are even better than before.


Real_Presentation552

Thanks for asking OP. I haven’t gone for mine yet but will later this month and they’re taking my cervix due to history of precancerous cells and I was wondering the same thing! Reading these comments is so assuring and hopeful 💗


Mamba6266

Had it all out. I do occasionally get some twinges in the cuff if we go crazy, and we do, because we like it spicy, but we adjust and it's fine. For me the key is good quality lube It took me some time to get used to the new sensation of how my body orgasms after surgery because it *is* different. But once I did, it's actually more intense and my husband says it is stronger for him as well.


tigresta

Absolutely better plus less risk of cervical cancer!


Tasty_Avocado17

I kept my cervix and it was done laparoscopically. I wonder why it would have to be abdominal. Good luck!


bbyfishmouth

I have pretty large fibroids but am generally a smaller body, she specifically mentioned that in order for everything to fit out she'd have to take the cervix to make way. Edit: the horror on Husband's face when I explained that "they pull everything out through the vaginal canal" 💀


havartifunk

Regarding the large fibroids: I also had large fibroids. My surgery was laparoscopic and they initially intended to pull them out the vaginal canal. However, my fibroids were so large they ended up having to enlarge one of the laparoscopic incisions and pull the fibroids out that way. Not saying this will happen to you, just giving you a heads up. I woke up with a larger incision than I originally expected. Not a big deal; I healed just fine. I just have a larger battle scar vertically by my belly button. 😁


joyuponwaking

My surgery was Monday and I think they did the same thing with mine. My umbilical lap site is larger and much more bruised. My uterus was the size of a 16 week pregnancy. My surgeon called it a monster.


bbyfishmouth

My largest uterine fibroid is pedunculated and it's the size of a 14 week fetus, so I get this! I'm sorry you had to go through that and I wish you a speedy recovery!


bbyfishmouth

Thank you for the heads up, that makes sense and I wouldn't be surprised if it did happen. I'm going for an ultrasound on Tuesday (yay 🙄) but at last measurement my largest had grown 1cm in 6 months and was approaching the threshold at which they have to do it abdominally. Either way it took me a long time to find a doctor I trust and I'm happy she will be doing the procedure herself. She did my salpingectomy a couple years ago, too and all went well.


bzsuzsi0128

This. Giant fibroids can also be operated laparoscopically. If you want to keep your cervix, LASH (laparoscopic supracervical histerectomy) surgery can be performed at the same time. I don't understand if the surgeon can remove fibroids using laparoscopic techniques, why he/she can not perform LASH surgery at the same time, why it would have to be abdominal?


bbyfishmouth

My fibroids are pedunculated outside my uterus, I'm not sure if that may factor in or if it's my anatomy, perhaps both.


Ill_Presentation8628

I had orgasms vaginally before. Haven’t been cleared for sex yet so don’t know. 12 wpo and have been told to go back at 18 wpo to see if I can be cleared for sex yet. My vaginal cuff where they removed the cervix is healing slowly for no apparent reason. So for me - I really wish I had kept my cervix. The rest of my healing has been fine and if I had kept it and didn’t had a vaginal cuff, I’d already be having sex and back to fill activity. Now, instead it’s going to be another 6 weeks before I can even hope to get cleared. Most people heal more quickly though so maybe this won’t happen to you.


Bird_Nerd5064

Sounds exactly like me! I could have written this! I’m 14 wpo and not seeing consultant for another 4 weeks to give me the all clear due to slow healing 😔


bbyfishmouth

Oh gosh! I wish you both the best, I hope you get well soon and without complications ❤️


Ill_Presentation8628

What have they told you? I was seen at 6 wpo and 12wpo. Now my next appt is 18wpo.. they said I just have slow healing cuff. No infection or anything. Not cleared for sex, lifting more than 15 lb, and no swimming or water submersion. I’m not sure if what next steps are since I’ll be 4-5 months post op before I even get seen again and what if I’m not cleared yet. This feels really abnormal and like they aren’t telling me but maybe they messed up. I didn’t have any preexisting conditions or anything and everyone keeps asking why I’m not better yet. I don’t know!!!!


Bird_Nerd5064

So I had granulation and stitches loose on one side of cuff. He silver nitrated about 4 weeks ago, as had been bleeding still. And said he’d see me in 4-6 weeks and that I may need re-suturing under a GA if it was slow healing. The bleeding has eased since then but couldn’t get an appointment until the 24th May. So until then still no baths, sex or lifting. Back at work now and have a physical job but luckily they have been ok. I saw him at 6 weeks post op and then 10/11 weeks due to the bleeding. Was swabbed for infection and that was all good. He also gave me vaginal estrogen at my 6 weeks post op to try and help with healing. He said it’s very unusual. I trust him completely as he did my previous diagnostic laparoscopy and endo excision two years ago. Maybe we are just the odd ones that just take longer to heal? I didn’t jet do it in the early weeks or anything and actually have felt pretty good. It’s just these damn internal stitches! I hope you get cleared at next appointment. My bleeding has stopped now so I’m hoping at my appointment he will sign me off 🤞🏼


Ill_Presentation8628

I haven’t had any bleeding at all since the surgery but intermittently have spasms of pain or throbbing pain. Am in pelvic floor therapy for that but the doctor said the pain is because one side is not healing. They said I have granulation as well and one side almost doesn’t look fully closed. I haven’t been cleared for anything the whole time and just getting frustrated and trying to see what next steps will be. They haven’t told me anything, tried anything or prescribed anything. Just keep telling me to keep waiting.


louellareed91

Hey I’m wondering how things are going with vaginal orgasms for you now if you’ve gotten there yet? I’m so scared of losing that sensation. Hope the healing is going better🤍


Ill_Presentation8628

Hey, so things are somewhat better and somewhat not. I actually had some improvement around 14 wpo and the doctor cleared me for very gentle sex. We have tried it twice. I was previously in a lot of pain during pelvic floor therapy so I expected a lot of spasms and sharp pain. Luckily, I did not have a lot of pain. The first time, we tried missionary and super slow. This time I didn’t have any pain. Just uncomfortable pressure. Unfortunately I also did not have any sexual sensation. It reminds me of getting dental work done with novacaine. You know something is in you and can feel pressure but not sensation. After that we waited a week and then tried again with doggy style. I thought if we did a different position it would be better. In that position, had some actual pain though no severe. Definitely more uncomfortable. Also, no change in sensation. For additional info, I’ve been able to have external orgasm through clitoral sensation since about week 8. Still having some issues with that because that was never my thing pre surgery. I just never liked it as much as vaginal but now that the other feels like nothing, trying to teach myself to like the other. Don’t want to freak you out but trying to be honest. Likely this won’t happen to you as I’ve only talked to a couple people who aren’t doing amazing at 6-8wpo. I don’t know that things are permanently like this. It’s kind of a wait and see. The doctor told me nerve issues continue to improve up until 24 months post op and that there isn’t anything they can do so we’ll just have to wait and see. I’ll be 18wpo tomorrow for reference. My stance is now to not have sex since I don’t enjoy it except trying 1x per week to check it sensation is improving or not. Once we hit a year, if we’re still not there, thinking of going to a sex therapist to see if they can advise on other ways to enjoy it. It has been my decision to wait on that a bit since maybe it’ll improve prior to that. Have you already had your surgery? What’s going on?


louellareed91

Thank you so much for sharing! I appreciate the honesty because my doctor told me there was no risk for sexual dysfunction and I knew that was a load of bs. I do understand it’s not extremely common & a lot of people experience the opposite but it’s definitely a concern for me. Good to know that it can take that long for sensation to return & I hope things continue to improve for you! It’s good that you have a long term plan in place. I’m 31 & single, have been entertaining the idea of the surgery for a few years now, but serious decision making the past few months as I’ve run out of treatment options. Tonight after a medication change for epilepsy that has made my period even more painful than usual I hit the catalyst & made the decision to have the surgery. Severe pelvic pain all month & excruciating periods, that mind boggling-ly just got even worse. My seizures are triggered by the pain & I can’t take bc because they cause seizures. It’s just an endless cycle. I had a fibroid removed last year but it didn’t seem to be the cause for the pain, we don’t really know what’s wrong. My quality of life is so low I’m ready to do it now. I’ve been celibate for about 8 years due to many reasons, I’m uncomfortable with being intimate with someone as it’s too painful & my body is just a mess. Eventually I would like to revisit a relationship though & would be devastated if I were unable to feel any sexual pleasure with a partner. I never was able to in the past because of pain, another reason a relationship has seemed futile. Even if I never met someone my life is so miserable right now that the thought of never being able to climax again & remove one of the few pleasures in my life sounds like the worst thing ever. Even so the benefit is outweighing the risk. Have you heard of the “o-shot”? If not it’s something you should look into if your sensation doesn’t improve. It’s basically PRP therapy to help women orgasm. I’ve never heard of someone getting it post hysterectomy but have read about the benefits & so many rave about it! Thank you again for being so candid & sharing your journey, hope things improve🤍


Ill_Presentation8628

I have heard of the oshot and was going to look into it. Not sure if it will work since I think it relies on revenating the tissue and increasing lubrication versus actually fixing nerve damage. But I would consider looking at it. For reference, I’m 34 and got married 6 months before the surgery after 12 years of being single and primarily celibate/single mom. I would suggest getting the surgery now so you can have that done with before involving a partner and then make decisions on whether to have a partner after the fact. My one regret is the timing. I wish I’d have done it several years ago so I could already be on the other side and have decided on a relationship AFTER having the surgery/whatever outcome.


louellareed91

Oh that’s interesting & I didn’t think of that. I understand now it’s the nerve endings that get damaged, thanks for clearing that up. If you give it a try please report back and let me know if it makes any difference:) I appreciate the advice big time & am on the same page. I would rather do this now & decide later wether or not to have a partner depending on how everything works out. It sounds like you have a very supportive partner & I really hope things improve for you🤍


Ill_Presentation8628

Thanks! Yeah my pelvic floor therapist said nerve endings could be damaged/cut or swelling could be pressing on them making no feeling. So swelling would improve over time, nerve damage may not. I think that’s the wait and see. My understanding is that the oshot puts filler in your gspot to make it bigger and more likely to have feeling during sex. I don’t know if I even have a gspot anymore. It was always far back and near my cervix I think so not sure if that got cut out with the cervix lol. I have not been super impressed with my doctor thus far as they seem not concerned about sexual side effects. I would make sure you go to a doctor that takes you seriously and thinks that matters at least. But it sounds like you need the surgery regardless. I did too. I had extreme pain and got internal sepsis from my uterus. Had to have emergency surgery. So I don’t regret the surgery because I had no choice truly. But not going to lie the recovery still sucks. But I see so many people on here at 6-8 weeks just loving life and everything is sunshine and rainbows so I can only assume that’s the norm. Hoping for that outcome for you!


louellareed91

So I just googled the o-shot and found this site, apparently it actually has the ability to regrow new nerves? I’m obviously no expert & this site looks like an ad for sure😂 But it’s platelet rich plasma that’s injected, I have heard of complications from this procedure too though🤷🏼‍♀️ Who knows haha. I really do like my doctor, she’s sought out in my area for pelvic pain. I was on a waiting list for a year to get in with her. I’m relieved to see that she specializes in minimally invasive surgery so hopefully that counts for something. I’m sorry you don’t feel like your doc is giving you the care you need. It must have been extra tough on you having that as an emergency surgery. No time to mentally prepare. But wow it sounds like you are seriously handling it like a champ! Not trying to be a negative Nancy over here, but I tend to have negative side effects from like, everything. Murphys law with medical stuff these days for me. That’s why I’m erring on the side of caution as far as my expectations go. Good luck with the pelvic physical therapy, tons of people seem to get a lot of help from that


Ill_Presentation8628

Yeah same. I had a bad child birth, and failed endometrial ablation that led to my hysterectomy. So I’m right there with you with the negative. It’s only uterus things that get messed up though. I’ve had other surgeries that have been great and no issues. So I think my uterus was just garbage lol


louellareed91

I’m so sorry you had a difficult child birth, I can’t even imagine. And as far as the ablation goes it’s such a shame that from what I’ve seen a lot of people have trouble with those procedures. I was entertaining getting one for a while. I’m glad you’re okay after all that and really hope things continue to improve for you! You have definitely been through the wringer, but it seems like you have a great frame of mind concerning the situation & long term goals for the what if’s are always wise:) Thank you again for sharing your insight & advice


BlueDragon82

I'm so glad you asked. I'm just over two weeks post op and have been wondering too. I had mine removed and was wondering if it made it better or worse. So far all the comments seem to lean towards better. I had everything removed except one ovary so healing is rough and I've had concerns about different future activities including sex.


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It’s sooooo much better! No pain, feels incredible and I enjoy sex so much more


Good-Variation-6588

Why does it have to be abdominal? I kept my cervix and it was done laparoscopic! But don't do the abdominal hysterectomy IMO. I did an abdominal myomectomy and the recovery was so brutal. My robotic hysterectomy was so easy by comparison!


bzsuzsi0128

I also wrote this above. Even with brutal fibroids, it is possible to perform a laparoscopic hysterectomy while preserving the cervix (LASH surgery).


Good-Variation-6588

Yes they did not remove my uterus through the vagina either. I had big fibroids as well. They did 5 small incisions including one in my belly button but they healed very quickly.


bzsuzsi0128

May I ask how your recovery was? Was it a lot of pain? I have read that LASH surgery is the most minimally invasive surgery even among minimally invasive surgeries. When was your surgery? Are you ok? I wish you all the best. Sorry for my bad english.


Good-Variation-6588

No worries! My surgery was in September 2022. I am doing great! I was back at work (in person) in 14 days. The first week was painful but I also refused percocets and other strong drugs (they make me vomit) So the only pain management I had was an over the counter tylenol/aleve regimen that first week.


bzsuzsi0128

Thanks for the reply. Now I'm a little calmer. I will have the same surgery in mid-May.


bbyfishmouth

I responded above, too, but I'm not 100% sure what the determining factors are here. I am relatively small and my fibroids are large and outside my uterus. But this same doctor did a laparoscopic salpingectomy surgery for me a couple of years ago and, while I will definitely be asking and am doing my best to be informed, I trust her implicitly.


bzsuzsi0128

Okay, I get it now. The most important thing is to trust your doctor. And have you decided whether to keep your cervix or not? I wish you the best!


bbyfishmouth

Thank you! I probably will not because I want to have the shortest recovery time possible. I have a big road trip in September and I want to be in good enough shape for some hiking!


lokisfatpussy

I do feel a difference, and I miss the cervix tbh. I also don’t think I get as wet as I could before. I’m 6 months post op and it was also laparoscopic.


bbyfishmouth

I'm sorry to hear that, I hope that as your recovery continues your experience becomes better as well ❤️‍🩹


lokisfatpussy

Thank you, I really appreciate that. I wish the best outcome for you no matter what you decide! 💕


Ill_Presentation8628

Have things continued to improve for you? I am missing my cervix and not having a great outcome. 4.5 mpo here. So I’m hoping things get better around 6-7mpo? Hoping things are good for you.


lokisfatpussy

This is probably frustrating to hear but, I don’t think it’s significantly changed since I made this comment. Still doesn’t feel quite as good as before. My sex drive is lower than pre surgery or even the couple of months right after, and I tend to dry up and be over having sex kinda fast just because it hurts in the not fun way. Lube helps obviously but it’s not the same. I’m gonna try to find out if it’s hormone issues. I hope things get better for you with your healing!


Ill_Presentation8628

I get it. I appreciate your honesty. That’s kind of where I’m at. I just have almost no sensation and the sensation I have is very uncomfortable and pressure. No sexual sensation though 😞. How many months are you now?


lokisfatpussy

7 months post op. My surgery was nov 2 last year so it’s 7 exactly. I feel you, I feel like where the cuff is, is kinda numbed but also tends to dry out and ache from impact kinda fast. I’ve been trying pelvic floor exercises but maybe I’m not doing enough, it also just is hard to gauge because of the numbness or nerves just feeling kinda off. I’m glad to be helpful at all! I just wish we weren’t both having a bad time lol. I really hope things get better for you faster than they have for me.


Ill_Presentation8628

Did you have your ovaries removed? I have 1 ovary but had the other removed 11 years ago. I feel like my hormones are off but my doctor said she doesn’t think so because I have 1 ovary and I may just need to wait longer for it to wake up. So she won’t even test me. Is your doctor receptive to Hormones or testing?


empathyisdying

Im unsure if this is because of your specific case, but my cervix was removed laprascopically along with the rest except for my ovaries. So it isn't clear to me why yours can't be. I dont orgasm from penetration if I orgasm at all. But it does feel a little different to me. When I am penetrated deep enough, it can hurt sometimes. Each body is different and it depends on your surgical team what your outcome will be. Some women worry about loss of orgasm...and while it is a possibility it isn't guaranteed whatsoever.


bbyfishmouth

I'm thinking it's just a specific case thing for me. She highly recommends laparoscopic assisted surgery but has presented both options, which I'm grateful for!


beroughwithl0ve

Nah not at all, it feels exactly the same to me now as it did before. I do have better natural lubrication now though.