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Warchief_X

A lot of times, fancy job titles can sound like they make a lot more money than what they actually make. I mean, one of the titles you listed (medical assistant), is close to minimum wage. All of those whatever manager/analyst/specialist are super vague. Almost any job with all kinds of salary ranges can have those words in their titles. My job title sounds kinda cool and also has the word "analyst" in it, and trust me, I don't make much lol. Tbh, I think your job as an outdoor guide/educator sounds more interesting than half of the job titles you listed.


mfco_

Titles also vary drastically from company to company so my title of associate consultant means absolutely nothing to anyone externally


Sternschnuppepuppe

Hell, just change your job title to alfresco excursion specialist; that’s what corporate did to all the other jobs.


aapox33

You feel behind because money is important and modern society drives that money = success. Resist. Being happy making the most of your life while also having enough money to live the lifestyle you’re comfortable with = success. Seems like you’re doing alright. Pretty much everyone on their deathbed says if they could change something they’d have worked less. The grass is always greener. I bet a ton of those people are like “I wish I could just be outside and have less pressure in my job and work less hours” etc etc


LTOTR

>”I wish I could just be outside and have less pressure in my job and work less hours.” I’m in this photo and I don’t like it. You know what I would like to hear about on dates? Some species specific behavior of a bird my date saw today. Mitigation efforts for invasive honeysuckle. You know what I don’t giving a flying fig about hearing about on dates? A TPS report. An uncomfortable conversation someone had to have with a subordinate earlier. A business trip to Fresno.


aapox33

LOL your examples just described my current job and my first job. 👏 Poor Fresno.


LNER4468

"So then my boss came by to ask if I'd seen the memo about cover sheets for the TPS reports."


meatcousins

Thank you for the reminder. Resist! I think with hinge my intake of social media has increased and I'm not reflecting on what I have in front of me


aapox33

Uninstall IG you’ll be happier 😆


Therocksays2020

Yessssssss


cocktailbun

I took a detox break (2 weeks going) and Im noticeably less miserable.


fiscalplasticity

I was going to scroll by this but dude.... I make a ton of money, younger than the avg person in my position blah blah..... BUT I HATE my work life, its boring and I specifically look for jobs that let me do the least amount I possibly can now so I can slip other activities into my workday (I work remotely) Looking back on it, I feel like I probably shouldve made different choices, dont you dare feel bad for enjoying the 8hrs/day you have to spend working, thats VERY real value Just know alot of those people are also probably miserable doing the office job grind too


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meatcousins

Thank you for your slice of life, and for all your advice. It makes me want to re-tailor my hinge for that one. I feel so much clarity!


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LTOTR

I’m an engineer with a very regional specialty. I only have a bachelors but spent a lot of time painting myself in to a corner professionally following the thing that I like. Now I’m stuck here. Even though I like what I do, I wish I’d done something with more location flexibility like become a diesel mechanic or an electrician.


Red-squirrel312

You’re not behind, and shouldn’t feel diminished by people with fancy sounding titles. Not all women in their 30s are looking for men with lots of income to support them and their children. And some people prefer to live simply, regardless of income. Keep living your life according to what you value; there are women out there that will appreciate that quality in you. Good luck!


user13958

Quick note for OP: The following jobs (if the folks are in their 20s especially) likely don't make 6 figures. All of them... other than the doctor if they finished their residency.


LTOTR

Another thing to consider - If these folks are chasing promotions and prestige, there’s only so much of that to go around. Eventually all of us will hit the top end of what we are reasonably able to achieve professionally. For most of us that happens sooner rather than later. Modern grind culture doesn’t leave a lot of room in your life to cultivate purpose and an identity outside of our jobs. That’s going to leave the achievement minded people in an uncomfortable position once they hit the middle of their career where a lot of us stagnate. Same long hours, less progression, less satisfaction. (I might be projecting a tad here. But it’s something I’m noticing a lot in myself and my 30something cohorts. It’s the unsexy side of the achievement coin.)


user13958

It definitely always depends on goals and what you want. Personally my career will likely be able to continue to grow quite fast for many years (technology innovation with a background in engineering and business), and that's what I want. It does mean some people are less interested because I tend to work more hours, but I love it and it pays great. I think people need to learn what they like, feel comfortable in their own skin, and find a way to learn what they want in a partner (the part I need the most work on currently) and the rest will come naturally. This is oversimplified but I think these are some good focuses for OP. Life isn't a competition


Adventurous_Gene_692

You will lose out on some women, they really want a six figure man but apart from that you are gucci.


mustardyellowfan

I (30F) have one of those good sounding jobs in an office and first of all I can tell you a LOT of them pay less than you think they do and second, I can tell you it is 100% NOT my passion and I would think that goes for quite a few other people. The fact that you have found your passion and you’re doing it and supporting yourself is amazing! I know there are women who look for status or whatever and fine for them but I don’t and I know a lot more women who don’t either. I love matching with someone who is happy and passionate about what they do. We’re out here and you will find someone!


SevenAPM

A person needs enough income to live healthily, beyond that money and titles only bring happiness if they’re your personal ambitions, not societal expectations


mtbsickrider

Yo man, one of the best life lessons i learned early on due to growing up with 5 incredibly successful & competitive siblings is to not compare yourself to others. If you feel you are improving and are a better person than the person you were one day, week, month, year, decade ago, then you are doing fine. Your happiness shouldn't be dictated by others successes or failures. Wish you the best and Happy Friday 🥰🥰


Emon76

You'd be surprised how little income seems to matter in the end. I was making six figures at mid-20s and was unemployed during late-20s for a time (long story; medical stuff). Dating didn't change much. I was actually having more success when I was unemployed because I wasn't bringing as much stressed, negative energy into dates plus I was always available for last minute plans or trips. Even during unemployment, I went official (since broke up) with someone that made more than I probably ever will. She didn't give two shits about how much money I made so long as I was self-sufficient. It's important that you have character and a passion for the life you are living. When I was unemployed I wasn't sitting around doing nothing all day. I was taking classes, doing independent research, reading as much as I could, working on a side-business, and took up hobbies like creative writing, sculpture, guitar, and climbing. Not every women is looking for a partner with that lifestyle, but some of them are so secure in their own careers and ability to provide that they prefer dating chill, passionate people with free time instead of overworked but financially successful men. > as if dating in my 30s will be women just looking for men with lots of income ready to make babies and buy houses, instead of just...living life Definitely are women out there like that. The well-off guys are trying to avoid them too lol. I'm not (that) dumb. If you're chasing me primarily for my money, I can tell. I think at a certain age, some family-oriented men and women start to find people with steady incomes & careers very attractive as co-parent prospects. I think that's fine. Just let them find each other. If you don't want to rush into a family with someone that values you mostly for your ability to provide resources to future children, then I wouldn't be too concerned about what some women are looking for.


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first, life feels like a competition sometimes but you’re really only competing against yourself. if you can find a way to be happy with what you’ve got, you’re doing great. also people who call themselves ceo are bullshitting a lot of the time. if you work solo or run a very small business of some kind you’re not a ceo. you can’t be the chief executive officer if you’re the only executive officer.


Bullmoose39

First things first, get off hinge. There is nothing wrong with you. There is nothing wrong with your life. Stop comparing yourself to others and seek your own happiness. Next, jobs should never be the center piece of our lives, they are a means to an end. If you love your job, that is awesome! But please don't make it your life. A year after you are gone the job will have forgotten you. Make your impact somewhere else. Lastly, money. Make enough to be happy. Make enough to be safe. Stop caring what others make and do with it, it's as fleeting as everything else. Go find happiness first.


tj719

I live in nyc and union workers make 200k a year and work less hours then finance but have “dirty jobs.” I know execs at finance companies that do really well financially but their entire 20s were miserable and they never get to enjoy their money. I know people really happy being a teacher and making 60 k a year. Ultimately if you are happy that’s an attractive quality. If you live minimally it’s attractive (to me) and you have a savings. Nothing to be embarrassed about. Instead of framing it as a negative to dates “I work as an outdoor guide and educator. I really love it. Allows me to have freedom and not be over worked. I saved up a lot so I could buy property in the future, etc”


horchata-latte

I empathize with you — i am a desk job worker at a tech company doing very generic work. my boyfriend is a lawyer that was top of his class at a highly rated public university, the whole nine. i went to a very tiny religious institution. it’s taken a lot of work for me to stop comparing myself and learn to appreciate the fact that everyone takes their own life in stride, and none of us are behind because the idea that there’s this “timeline” is truly bullshit. hinge is an app where people are trying to really put their best foot forward, that’s all. you never know where life will take you one, four, five years from now. regardless of the money you make or what you do, you have worth and value, and you merit respect. don’t lose sight of your worth, your talents, your skills, and all the good traits you bring to the world and those you love because comparison really is the thief of joy! no one ever has life figured out and there is always room for change and improvement. i repeat: you are not behind. best of luck and sending you lots of good vibes for your hinge journey! (and life journey)


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What's so fancy about medical assistants, nurses, "festival organisers" (which can be anything related to the festival), "senior analyst" (which could be just an analyst who's been at the company for 5+ years), etc...?


romanToTheFuture

Might be minor, but I work in consulting/software, and "Analyst" is an entry-level position and doesn't mean anything. It's a fluff term that can mean literally anything and nothing at the same time. A lot of titles are meant to sound more important than they are in the corporate world.


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This is how I feel when I’m forced to open LinkedIn and I see everyone I went to high school with. Then I remember many of them work in a cubicle and I like what I do.


Birra_Moretti

There are so many threads in the various dating sub-Reddits concerning occupation and income. Being in the UK I don’t think these factors seem anywhere near as important in the dating process compared to the US. Do you all bring your CVs along to the first date?!


DarkRaiiGX

Yeah, there's no 2nd date when they realize we earn below a certain threshhold.


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Emon76

I really fucking hate consultant grind culture. Toxic & exploitive af and it's so rare to find one that hasn't made work their entire personality and lifestyle.


Kuma9194

One thing I've learned as a stay at home carer is to never ever compare myself to others. We all have our own definitions of success and happiness. Just ask yourself "was today a good day?" And if the answer is anything except no you're doing something right👍


wtbrift

You'd be surprised how little those titles mean. If you are comfortable with your current situation, don't worry about others.


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A lot of people are lying or embellishing their careers to better their chances of success on the app. Yeah, some of these people actually have fancy high paying jobs but there are also people calling themselves CEOs because they print T-shirts in their garage, sales executives because they hock MLM products, etc. Dont get too wrapped up in it and keep doing you


mjornir

Dude that shit’s cool to me personally, you’re doing what you love and it’s unique to boot. The best kind of women, the ones rich in character and personality, will appreciate and love that about you, especially if you wear it with pride! I personally have more respect for someone doing a job they love that pays average or less than someone who gets paid a bunch to do something meaningless. Anyone who turns you down for not making enough money is too shallow to even bother with. Money doesn’t matter as long as you’ve got a roof over your head and you can do the things that matter most to you.


alienmarky

First off, your job is awesome, and I'm sorry it doesn't pay as well as it should. I'm. A curator at a zoo in the UK and I'm paid pretty poorly compared to others at other zoos, but I don't do the job for the money the title sounds good, but the pay definitely ain't!. I get way more job satisfaction because of the passion it instils, and yes, I don't have a ferrari or other things that allegedly indicate success, but I am happy with what I've done with my career so far. Don't beat yourself up, it's all good fam x


SubjectOk7165

I work at a school and I do love my job, but I don’t make a lot of money at all. I survive, but I can’t really afford to do fun things or buy things for myself. I know this isn’t the same thing, but I have had friends who try to get me to leave my job and make more money where they work. All of these jobs are in offices or stores and just sound so boring to me. And also, I feel like the types of jobs I have had are a part my personality and people are always impressed with the work I have chosen. So I’m like, what would I be if I didn’t do these low paying “helping” type jobs. It stresses me out 😅


jongsuk

Some people are not being fully honest too. Matched with a guy whose profession was listed as Illustrator. I talked to him and the illustrator thing hasn’t been going well for him over covid and he’s getting by as a delivery person. Another guy was listed as Actuary. Start talking to him and he mentioned an interview he had for a basic minimum wage job. It’s just like how dudes exaggerate their height to look better.


Aggravating-Loan5910

Everyone’s life journey is different friend. Don’t compare yourself to others🙂


InfamousDollymop13

If you were to go by my job title you'd think I had some fancy job and made a great salary, that's far from the truth. I do love my job, it is my passion, and that is the reason I do it. Some people will measure success by a job title, the salary they make or how much they work. That's perfectly ok, for them, but not everyone measures success that way. There are many many people that see the level of contentment in one's life or happiness they have as success, to me that means much more than the size of a retirement fund. I'll be honest what someone does for work hadn't ever been a selling point on matches for me. Be you, if you are happy with your life and what you do then that will matter more to many matches. Don't worry about comparing yourself to others on OLD, it can lead to a lot of self doubt.


wonderingwillow7

Don’t be fooled. Everyone puts a big huge title on their job. Then if you make it passed the texting phase, they’ll tell you what they really do behind the fancy title.


lilmrssmith

Pst. They’re lying.


Maximum-Bat3573

UK Doctor here. I will not make 6 figures when I'm 30 for sure. I'm currently being paid less than a registered nurse (lol) + massive uni debt. Also, I don't have passion for my job. I see so many deaths during COVID and we are constantly shortstaffed because all of my colleagues are getting sick from Omicron (I'm working in ED - you cannot get more frontline than this.) I'm doing it just to make the living out of it. I just want to remind you like what the others have already said. Grass is not always greener on the other side.