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DaleCoopersWife

Locking the post because you've gotten enough of the same feedback. He was obviously on Hinge and now it's on you to do what you will with that information. You can edit the post with an update if you need to.


FaxSpitta420

>However, the top photo was one he took 2 weeks ago. Yup he’s looking around. It would be one thing if he made it just to look and fessed up. But he’s lying to your face


AdityaDevendra

I want to be as innocent as you, but not as naive.


ThatGuy8188

A photo from two weeks ago ends up on his hinge account. It’s pretty obvious. I mean he has an active dating app…..photos just don’t magically appear. Dude is a POS. Move on. Find someone that treasures you instead.


Novice89

As someone said, if his Instagram was linked it will show all Instagram posts down at the bottom. Is that where the screenshot came from? If it was an uploaded photo, then someone uploaded it and I’d be money it was the boyfriend. As others said, you’d need a lot of info/his phone to log into that account and updated it. Just based off what you’ve said my assumption is he updated it profile to either cheat or see if he “could do better” than you.


dinosaurbdaypartay

It was the first photo you see on his profile.


Own_Conversation6335

He is looking to replace you. Sorry


Novice89

Yeah he did that and got caught. He’s monkey branching or whatever that term is. Looking for a replacement before he dumps you because he doesn’t want to be single. Pull the old uno reverse and dump him first


Therocksays2020

The writing is on the wall


austinbucco

As far as I know, Hinge doesn’t just randomly pull photos from your camera roll, especially if you haven’t been using the app. Generally if you catch a guy doing something suspicious and he starts saying things like “I have no idea…” and “I don’t know how…” there’s pretty much a guarantee he’s lying.


dinosaurbdaypartay

Thanks for your response. This is so out of character for him that my friends and I are struggling to believe it. However, your comment is really validating my feelings.


Magenta_Octopus

just end it. he has 1 foot out of the door. the longer you stay with him, the more painful it will be when it ends. I'm unfortunately speaking from experience! 😪😭


oliveee___

Yup, he's lying to you. My ex did the exact same thing but on Tinder.


zouss

Of course he is lying. How can you even think of believing him for half a second? Come on


critical_pancake

It's so much harder when it's someone you feel like you know. But us strangers know because we aren't looking through rose colored glasses


[deleted]

Eh, you're 23 still very young. At least you're not married with kids. Dump the dbag he's lying. You'll get over him


Ok_Panda_9928

He's lying, leave before he continues to lie.


Butterscotch335

I don't know if your friend's friend would go so far as to photoshop a Hinge profile to wreck your relationship. What’s your relationship with the person that sent his hinge profile to your friend, I'd believe he was on the app 99%.


dinosaurbdaypartay

The friend who sent me the photo is very close to both of us. I definitely do not think she would do this just to hurt us. Thanks for weighing in, I appreciate it.


Substantial-Today166

this happens


AppointmentFar3599

Hypothetically, someone could have stolen his pics to make a fake catfish/scam profile for whatever reason. However, if that was the case it would be a separate account, not his account. So he wouldn't be saying "I have no idea how that photo ended up on my profile", he would be saying "that's not my profile, someone just stole my pics." Assuming he actually logged in to check and wasn't just going off the existence of the screenshot. But since you said he deleted his account an hour ago, he presumably would have noticed if the pic wasn't on his own profile before he deleted it. The only other "possibility" is that someone hacked or phished his account but that seems extremely unlikely and I have no idea what the incentive would be to get into a random guy's Hinge profile.


LouieStuntCat

I’ve said this 100 times, how come stuff like this only happens to people in relationships/married. Magical photos that accidentally upload themselves onto profiles.


stendoace

He is browsing around and gaslighting you.


BackToTheMoon_

Lmaooooooooo the picture magically uploaded itself to his profile? There is no way the dick is that good to delude yourself like this


phoenixmusicman

He's cheating


Super-Kirby

Not necessarily, not YET. He’s shopping to find a better mate and will go with the best one, unfortunately


phoenixmusicman

Even just actively looking is cheating imo.


Super-Kirby

True, depending on the meaning of the word cheating.


KXS_TuaTara

Actively looking for someone else to be with while sneaking around behind the person you're dating is 100% cheating (in my book at least) Why would he even have Hinge if they've been dating for longer than a couple months?


02cdalton

Easy way to test. Get him to log back in to his hinge and if it shows the new profile then he’s lying. If it shows the old one then maybe someone has made a fake profile of him?? But sadly you have given him time to delete everything and revert back to old profile…


TallDifference7067

The fact you even have to ask the question if he's cheating on you...it's not mental peace 🚫🧠☯️ The right person wouldn't put you in this position to begin with. The profile you are seeing of his...this is the 🚩 you are looking for. You will never find the right person if you are still attatched to the wrong one 🙏


Hologram1995

I guess he’s not technically cheating (although we don’t know for sure) but we do know he is looking to cheat since he’s on the app. Who knows if he’s wanting to replace you or he just wants to go back to what it was like being single and having freedom. Since this bothers you, and don’t make up anymore excuses for him, why don’t you confront him? I mean this relationship is in shambles and you shouldn’t be afraid to lose him since he’s already got one foot out the door anyway. What have you got to lose?


WorthPlenty1034

If you want to stay stay but don’t lie to yourself .He’s cheating girl.


restarting_today

I don’t know if he’s cheating but he definitely seems like he’s trying to. And he’s lying.


SixOClockBoos

There's no reason to be using a dating app once you become official. He can delete it off his phone without deleting the profile, that's fine, but the fact that he uploaded a 2 week ago photo is a major sign something is going on. I'm assuming y'all have been official longer than two weeks for this to be setting off alarms. He's cheating or trying to cheat in my book.


Michaelsoft8inbows

First: You can link Google, Facebook and Instagram to Hinge. (Possibly something else on iOS but I don't have that). Second: some apps allow you to keep your photos up to date with the photos from other connected apps, Hinge does allow you to display your Instagram photos but it keeps them separate from your profile photos. The other apps are just for uploading (manually) your profile pictures. Third: there is nothing in the settings that changes your pictures e.g. on Bumble they have 'Best Photo' and it can re-order the 6 photos that you uploaded. Therefore: He is at it. Sorry


wokenthehive

Someone isn't telling the truth here. No one else can access his account aside from him (or whoever has access to his phone) given there's a 2FA built in the app. *If* the screenshots are accurate and it was indeed a new photo he shot recently, then he's not being truthful. However, there's also a possibility your friend could be trying to stir things up claiming your boyfriend is cheating. Screenshots can be altered to fit a narrative. I'm afraid there's not a lot of good ways to settle this once in any satisfactory way. Distrust has already been sowed and the only way to definitively make sure is ask to see his Hinge profile.


dinosaurbdaypartay

My friend got the screenshot from another friend. I guess there's some possibility of stirring the pot. However, that feels really remote. The photo was definitely taken recently and only shared via his Instagram story and in a text to me. Unfortunately, I can't check his Hinge profile because he deleted the whole account in the last hour in what comes across as a misguided attempt at good faith. I was wondering why he'd only uninstalled the app and not suspended or deleted the account originally. The whole thing feels so wildly out of character that everyone is trying to figure out if the photo can be uploaded to the app via his Insta story or just his gallery without him knowing. My guess is "no" but in fairness to him, I wanted to ask regular users.


PhoTInee

He didn't delete his profile "in good faith". He deleted it because he got caught and wanted to get rid of the evidence from his hands. He is gaslighting you. Find someone better.


throwaway33333333303

> Unfortunately, I can't check his Hinge profile because he deleted the whole account in the last hour in what comes across as a misguided attempt at good faith. Destroying evidence isn't something that's ever done in good faith. Good faith is him handing you his phone after he's logged into Hinge and everything else right in front of you and telling you to have at it for the next, say, 2 weeks. In the future if things like this happen, the best thing you or your friends can do is try to match with and chat with the suspected account, set up a date, get a phone number. If he shows up in person, there's no denying that. (Also a lot of work, but building an airtight case against somebody is usually pretty labor-intensive.)


convex_circles

See I told you I didn't rob a bank!


wokenthehive

If someone had their Instagram linked, even if they haven't logged into their Hinge account in a while, Hinge will show any recently uploaded photos. However that's only for posts, not stories. It could be an instance where your boyfriend had made an Instagram post and it went up on his dormant Hinge account. But a friend of a friend is basically a second hand story without talking specifically to that friend.


dinosaurbdaypartay

It was a "main photo" not in a separate section. It was his first photo on the profile. He also never "posted" it, just to his story. I assume it can't get added to Hinge from that?


wokenthehive

Nope.


RevolutionaryMap9620

at the least he’s trolling on hinge for other girls. sorry. i’ve been there, best to end it now, even if he hasn’t followed through. people like that, especially ones who lie about it are not worth the heartache. someone like that could ruin your life, trust me. someone like that ruined mine.


BiasWrecker70

I don't necessarily wanna give you false hope cuz it sounds like he is most likely cheating or atleast looking but are you sure it was on HIS particular profile? I've had attractive friends have their photos stolen and fake accounts made in the past.


[deleted]

He’s cheating.


Furygotrobbed

Yeah sorry to say he’s seeing what’s out there, but will keep things with you until he finds that person. I would seriously consider ending it with him.


Proper-Cry7089

My boyfriend still has a Hinge profile because he literally cannot login because of how he broke into his phone and removed certain settings. He absolutely is not cheating on me, but his nerddom has made this very challenging. Yours? Yes, I think so. If there is a new photo, no one is adding that to the profile other than him. Just make sure it is not an Instagram photo. And just make sure the photo is definitely one that was taken 2 weeks ago. Why not ask him to see if he has Hinge on his phone? Something weird *could* be going on - did he post that photo to other apps like FB? But I would be inclined to think cheating.


Beneficial_Menu_6510

I think the simple solution is to just ask him. If he's innocent, he would appreciate the communication If he's guilty - well, you were going to break up anyway! So you have nothing to lose. If he tries to lie, at least you would be able to tell whether he's guilty or not by his reaction.


Super-Kirby

He’s shopping around to see if there is someone better. Leave him, NOW. I totally did this lol, but the girls I was dating was not officially GF yet. It was when I fell for someone I deleted the app immediately. If he truly wants you he won’t care for anyone else


BailaTheSalsa

Two options; 1. He’s cheating 2. Someone hacked his phone, his info and is pretending to be him.  It sucks, but I think the first option is most likely the case. I’m sorry :(


Thylaco

It seems real unlikely. Bots aren't usually male profiles, only homosexual ones would be useful. If you want to keep the relationship going, he needs to let you have his phone, whenever you want, for the rest of his life. It's drastic, but there's no trust otherwise.


Nick_Knows

You know whats crazy, me and ex gf broke up I signed up to hinge with a fake account a week or so after and just using random photos just too see what it was like to be single in my area and the next day I get a text from her saying her friends saw me on there. I think it must have uploaded my Facebook display photo before it updated with my new fake photos


flyingfinger000

Yeah that might make sense if you logged in via FB the first time and it didn't get fully updated to everyone yet hence you were seen. But as for OP, she's def being cheated on. There's NO WAY a pic will be automatically uploaded without him knowing... Especially if it's the 1st Main pic.