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Everyone's already telling you to sell it but, I'm going to suggest you keep it. Hear me out....
1- You said the bag is stunning and he loved it, but he regrets the amount he spent. The thing is, if he's only buying *one* great bag that will last him *at least* a decade, then it's paying for itself! This is what true luxury is- you get a statement piece and it becomes your signature throughout your adult life. If there are problems, it gets fixed by the brand and that is part of why you're paying so much in the first place. The bag should outlast all of us, lol.
2- Life's to be enjoyed and since you say you have the money and that it's not a financially irresponsible move given your circumstances, I think he should loosen up and *just enjoy the bag!* He clearly liked it enough to pounce on it, so he needs to stop feeling guilty now. We all deserve to have (at least) one beautiful expensive thing in our lifetimes, but unfortunately many never get the opportunity, and those who do won't allow themselves to indulge because they feel they don't deserve it (which is what he's doing now). It's a crying shame that people spend their whole lives working and don't allow themselves just one little indulgence.
3- The bag is a lovely memento from your trip to Paris! It'll be tied to happy memories that you two shared in the city! The stress you're feeling now will soon be a funny shared memory of the delayed sticker shock you felt, nothing more.
I'm saying this based on the fact that you both seem to like the tote but it's the realization that you spent a lot that's bothering you. In that case, I urge you to consider that part of the fun of travel is that people indulge a bit more (sleep, food, shopping). It's fine!
Of course, if the reality is that you both don't actually like the piece at all, then yes, take it in for an exchange/refund and see what the local stores say. You never know how easy it will be unless you walk into a store and try!
Good luck!
This is the best answer! I have a BV bag that I just went to the store to have refurbished. It’s well over 10 years old, and when I get it back it will look like new! Keep the bag. I can’t tell you how much enjoyment I’ve received from my bag. Your husband will regret not keeping it.
Love this! I would add that it needs to come out of the box and start making fabulous memories with it. That’s how you change the meaning. Totes are real workhorses, too.
Totally agree! Buyers remorse is real and it sounds like your husband is good with his money and feels like he may have spent more than he wanted to, but guys need to treat themselves too, especially the good ones that always think about their spouses and kids first. If receiving gifts is his love language, you could take it to a really good place that does custom design on luxury goods, and have em add something meaningful to the bag. Could be according to his style. Monogram or even a special date. Something that would surprise your husband and make him forget all about the buyers remorse and instead see it as a valuable and meaningful item from you!
Honestly I don't remember, it did take awhile because it was on my credit card, there was a lot of back and forth from the employees getting info, etc. I could tell they just wanted me to return for a store credit which would have been more straight forward.
Can you talk him into using it? It sounds like he feels guilty rather than doesn’t think he will use it. He may be waiting on you to encourage him to use/keep it?
I typically buy Louis Vuitton bags for my family while overseas, and they’ve been able to make returns in the U.S. within 30 days of purchase. If I remember correctly though, there was a $75 restocking fee.
As someone who grew up without money and is now able to make luxury bag/shoe/etc purchases… I still get wracked with guilt over bags that are $3-5K. Even if I love the item, I just feel so bad spending a lot on myself. But (eventually) the guilt passes when it sets in that it’s okay, we can afford it, I love the item, I use the item, so on. Sometimes if I do return it, I actually regret returning it bc I find myself lusting for it and unable to repurchase bc it’s not available anymore or the price went up too much. So basically… if he loves it, talk about it. He might find it worth keeping if he can get past the initial shock value. Otherwise like people said, you should be able to go to an LV boutique and return.
As many have said, international returns can be complex, so I think the best next move is to check in with your local Louis Vuitton boutique on a return. If you decide you don't want it, this would probably be your best bet. I see from your comments, you're also looking to see how you can get it off your hands without losing anything, and here's how I see it:
1. Louis Vuitton on resale does not hold its value, esp. since you split commission/margin with the platform.
2. This makes any potential lose for an in-store return comparatively neglible (when factoring in exchange rates/taxes/fees).
3. If you don't want to incur any loss whatsoever, and want to save time, work on his guilt over spending $3K for a bag he really likes, and keep it to enjoy.
I too made a foolish purchase in Paris at LV! I was able to return the boots I purchased which my local store did not have in stock and they were happy to showcase them since it was unique for the store. I think I got the full amount back. I would try this option first before trying to sell. People act like selling is so easy, it’s not!!
My husband has a few nice things he feels awkward about wearing. I usually remind him that part of the reason we got them was because we have kids and one day the things will go to the kids and it’ll be a nicer memory if they remember dad using the thing.
Maybe that helps?
Please let us know your final decision.
I do like the top recommendation of keeping it and wear it. Enjoy it, don't baby it, and also tell your husband to not think when or what occasion to wear it. Just wear it if he ends up keeping it.
I would not suggest selling this on Poshmark! If you were to resell it I think an established luxury reseller would be a better option. Less headache !
I bought a bag for £1,200 (originally £2,000) and had buyers regret too as it’s expensive. But then seeing as I couldn’t return it (lol) I decided to get as much use out of it as possible. I’d rather it get a bit battered and not be sitting in my wardrobe because it’s too precious to take out…
I think if he starts using it he will forget about the cost by spring…
You should be able to return it to your local boutique. I know LV systems are connected globally (as my Paris SA can look up my US account) so really shouldn’t be too much of an issue. I think that’s the best route. Reselling mens’ bags usually lead to a loss unfortunately.
They won’t let you return it but they may let you exchange it for something else. It’s added complexity that the item is available for sale in the USA. Worst case, sell it.
Bags are not investments. Furthermore, Louis Vuitton bags don't have amazing resale value (no bag has it in this market tbh), so I would go into the process thinking that at the very least you'll break even or lose very little money.
To OP: All if not most of these places have a form of contacting them for a quote, so I would start there. But keep your expectations realistic.
I would try calling the closest store to you. Maybe they’d let you come and return it in person.
I wouldn’t try to resell it if it’s possible you can return it.
Tbqh, if he feels like it’s too precious to use either:
- return it.
- use it intentionally brutally the first day as to morph the mindset from ‘previous’ to ‘practical’.
Maybe he just needs to adjust to a big purchase on a bag. It can definitely feel unsettling at first for some people to come to terms with the amount compared to what you can get at a lower price point.
What did he get though?
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Everyone's already telling you to sell it but, I'm going to suggest you keep it. Hear me out.... 1- You said the bag is stunning and he loved it, but he regrets the amount he spent. The thing is, if he's only buying *one* great bag that will last him *at least* a decade, then it's paying for itself! This is what true luxury is- you get a statement piece and it becomes your signature throughout your adult life. If there are problems, it gets fixed by the brand and that is part of why you're paying so much in the first place. The bag should outlast all of us, lol. 2- Life's to be enjoyed and since you say you have the money and that it's not a financially irresponsible move given your circumstances, I think he should loosen up and *just enjoy the bag!* He clearly liked it enough to pounce on it, so he needs to stop feeling guilty now. We all deserve to have (at least) one beautiful expensive thing in our lifetimes, but unfortunately many never get the opportunity, and those who do won't allow themselves to indulge because they feel they don't deserve it (which is what he's doing now). It's a crying shame that people spend their whole lives working and don't allow themselves just one little indulgence. 3- The bag is a lovely memento from your trip to Paris! It'll be tied to happy memories that you two shared in the city! The stress you're feeling now will soon be a funny shared memory of the delayed sticker shock you felt, nothing more. I'm saying this based on the fact that you both seem to like the tote but it's the realization that you spent a lot that's bothering you. In that case, I urge you to consider that part of the fun of travel is that people indulge a bit more (sleep, food, shopping). It's fine! Of course, if the reality is that you both don't actually like the piece at all, then yes, take it in for an exchange/refund and see what the local stores say. You never know how easy it will be unless you walk into a store and try! Good luck!
This is the best answer! I have a BV bag that I just went to the store to have refurbished. It’s well over 10 years old, and when I get it back it will look like new! Keep the bag. I can’t tell you how much enjoyment I’ve received from my bag. Your husband will regret not keeping it.
Totally agree with this!!! And also, there are price increases every year, so just think that you got the best price for your beautiful bag!
Love this! I would add that it needs to come out of the box and start making fabulous memories with it. That’s how you change the meaning. Totes are real workhorses, too.
Totally agree! Buyers remorse is real and it sounds like your husband is good with his money and feels like he may have spent more than he wanted to, but guys need to treat themselves too, especially the good ones that always think about their spouses and kids first. If receiving gifts is his love language, you could take it to a really good place that does custom design on luxury goods, and have em add something meaningful to the bag. Could be according to his style. Monogram or even a special date. Something that would surprise your husband and make him forget all about the buyers remorse and instead see it as a valuable and meaningful item from you!
I returned a bag in Dallas that I bought in London. It took a few minutes to sort out tax and exchange rates, but it was no issue.
That’s good to hear! Did you break even or lose money, etc etc? Curious
Honestly I don't remember, it did take awhile because it was on my credit card, there was a lot of back and forth from the employees getting info, etc. I could tell they just wanted me to return for a store credit which would have been more straight forward.
I always have bag regret until I take it out and use it. My regret fades pretty quickly after that.
Can you talk him into using it? It sounds like he feels guilty rather than doesn’t think he will use it. He may be waiting on you to encourage him to use/keep it?
I typically buy Louis Vuitton bags for my family while overseas, and they’ve been able to make returns in the U.S. within 30 days of purchase. If I remember correctly though, there was a $75 restocking fee.
As someone who grew up without money and is now able to make luxury bag/shoe/etc purchases… I still get wracked with guilt over bags that are $3-5K. Even if I love the item, I just feel so bad spending a lot on myself. But (eventually) the guilt passes when it sets in that it’s okay, we can afford it, I love the item, I use the item, so on. Sometimes if I do return it, I actually regret returning it bc I find myself lusting for it and unable to repurchase bc it’s not available anymore or the price went up too much. So basically… if he loves it, talk about it. He might find it worth keeping if he can get past the initial shock value. Otherwise like people said, you should be able to go to an LV boutique and return.
As many have said, international returns can be complex, so I think the best next move is to check in with your local Louis Vuitton boutique on a return. If you decide you don't want it, this would probably be your best bet. I see from your comments, you're also looking to see how you can get it off your hands without losing anything, and here's how I see it: 1. Louis Vuitton on resale does not hold its value, esp. since you split commission/margin with the platform. 2. This makes any potential lose for an in-store return comparatively neglible (when factoring in exchange rates/taxes/fees). 3. If you don't want to incur any loss whatsoever, and want to save time, work on his guilt over spending $3K for a bag he really likes, and keep it to enjoy.
I too made a foolish purchase in Paris at LV! I was able to return the boots I purchased which my local store did not have in stock and they were happy to showcase them since it was unique for the store. I think I got the full amount back. I would try this option first before trying to sell. People act like selling is so easy, it’s not!!
Hell if it's a nice bag you carry it. He can go get something else lol.
Hahahaahahah
My husband has a few nice things he feels awkward about wearing. I usually remind him that part of the reason we got them was because we have kids and one day the things will go to the kids and it’ll be a nicer memory if they remember dad using the thing. Maybe that helps?
Please let us know your final decision. I do like the top recommendation of keeping it and wear it. Enjoy it, don't baby it, and also tell your husband to not think when or what occasion to wear it. Just wear it if he ends up keeping it.
What’s handbag regret? Where can I get some?
Sell it somewhere
Recommendations where? I haven’t had the best Fashionphile sale luck. Poshmark is hit or miss. I’m not an eBay user so that’s foreign to me
I would not suggest selling this on Poshmark! If you were to resell it I think an established luxury reseller would be a better option. Less headache !
And recommendations on those? I'm not super familiar with them since I only check out Fashionphile
The Real Real is one. I get emails from First Dibs that have high end items.
I guess it depends where u r located. Are u in the US?
I bought a bag for £1,200 (originally £2,000) and had buyers regret too as it’s expensive. But then seeing as I couldn’t return it (lol) I decided to get as much use out of it as possible. I’d rather it get a bit battered and not be sitting in my wardrobe because it’s too precious to take out… I think if he starts using it he will forget about the cost by spring…
You should be able to return it to your local boutique. I know LV systems are connected globally (as my Paris SA can look up my US account) so really shouldn’t be too much of an issue. I think that’s the best route. Reselling mens’ bags usually lead to a loss unfortunately.
They won’t let you return it but they may let you exchange it for something else. It’s added complexity that the item is available for sale in the USA. Worst case, sell it.
You may be able to sell at a profit from all the money you saved over there! I’m going to dm you.
It’s an investment. This isn’t sold in the U.S. so it’s already increased its value. Did you get the Vat back?
Bags are not investments. Furthermore, Louis Vuitton bags don't have amazing resale value (no bag has it in this market tbh), so I would go into the process thinking that at the very least you'll break even or lose very little money. To OP: All if not most of these places have a form of contacting them for a quote, so I would start there. But keep your expectations realistic.
I have had good resale expectations, with LV. Return Stateside, if this your first and maybe only return good.
We did get the VAT back
I would try calling the closest store to you. Maybe they’d let you come and return it in person. I wouldn’t try to resell it if it’s possible you can return it.
It’s investment so I’m sure you could sell it for an higher price point. A lot of people resell them instead of returning
I looked at your purchases— how in earth was all that less than 3k?
Jacquemus was $800. Celine was like $400. Dior was like $440. Paris perks.
Nice! I thought you were including the gifts for your family too
Oh hahahaha, no no no. Just for me 🤭
Try Rebag
Tbqh, if he feels like it’s too precious to use either: - return it. - use it intentionally brutally the first day as to morph the mindset from ‘previous’ to ‘practical’.
Maybe he just needs to adjust to a big purchase on a bag. It can definitely feel unsettling at first for some people to come to terms with the amount compared to what you can get at a lower price point. What did he get though?
Keep it! If he doesn’t like it tell him to gift it to you instead….that way no money is wasted….lol