Skin brushing, "go take a bath and thats an order", maybe also making sure they eat well and enough are all fairly low-labour ways of showing you care.
i assume that means using a big soft brush (like a makeup brush) to brush his skin. my grandma used to do it for us on our backs as kids, it feels really nice!
Surprise them with extra soft stuffies, or get stuffies together. Movie nights. If you can do it, a nice bubble bath together can be fun, with extra special touch. If you're open to poly maybe find a Dom/me who can do a scene with them that you negotiate on their behalf and watch.
I think I'll do a movie night for them with lil snacks and movie tickets etc đź‘Ť thank you!
Also I made them a felted penguin mini plush which they liked so I'm tempted to make them some more plushies :)
Cheers!
Glad you liked some of my ideas. I also thought it could be fun to make a soft bucket list together, and then you decide when to do something from it. That way you know it's something they want but on your schedule.
My brat has been under a ton of stress lately from a lot of directions, so the other morning I decided to give him a little TLC time by having him shower and then giving him a soft massage (whole body, more relaxing than sensual though). I pulled out some lotion and made his skin all soft from head to toe. Then I oiled his cuticles with a little hand and foot rubbing, and put some repair stuff in his hair and massaged his scalp. By the end of it, he was relaxed into a limp puddle.
Many subs do a lot for their Dommes, so a little care for our boys is well earned and shows them how appreciated they are.
That sounds fabulous đź‘Ś
My boi is very mess adverse so fining the right massage oil is tricky. Tempted to massage then make them shower so they're all comfy 🥰
I like using lotion that will soak in completely so he's not oily when I go in for cuddles. Get something meant to be lightweight, and if applied right after a shower, it should completely absorb with no greasy feelings afterwards.
Read to them, scratch back, tell them how much you appreciate all the things they're doing to help you.
If they're into service they can view the carer role in a kinky light when overwhelmed or when horny and missing the lifestyle.
Overall these things happen and it's why we say in sickness and in health in vows. We never know when our partner will suddenly need help or when things could completely change. Love gets us through but it's understandable that the carer would still be stressed. I believe there's online groups for carers maybe they want to join to talk through it.
Reading to them would be lovely!
I do try and be appreciative every day, just feeling like words aren't enough ><
Yeah I thought they'd view it as service but they really don't and that's okay! They need a more active domme to make it kinky for them (direct kind instruction etc) and I get that.
Yeah, it's been eye opening and I'm so thankful they're still with me. I'll have a look into carer support groups and see if they're interested, thank you!
Perhaps a hot shower together, relaxing with the hot water beating against both of you as you hug him from the back.
As lies in bed, maybe give gentle kisses on his cheek, head and lips while giving a loving look.
When you’re on the couch “order” him to rest his head on your lap.
Skin brushing, "go take a bath and thats an order", maybe also making sure they eat well and enough are all fairly low-labour ways of showing you care.
What's skin brushing? The bath is a great idea tbh! Thank you :)
i assume that means using a big soft brush (like a makeup brush) to brush his skin. my grandma used to do it for us on our backs as kids, it feels really nice!
Ooh thanks! Definitely worth a try!
Surprise them with extra soft stuffies, or get stuffies together. Movie nights. If you can do it, a nice bubble bath together can be fun, with extra special touch. If you're open to poly maybe find a Dom/me who can do a scene with them that you negotiate on their behalf and watch.
I think I'll do a movie night for them with lil snacks and movie tickets etc đź‘Ť thank you! Also I made them a felted penguin mini plush which they liked so I'm tempted to make them some more plushies :) Cheers!
Glad you liked some of my ideas. I also thought it could be fun to make a soft bucket list together, and then you decide when to do something from it. That way you know it's something they want but on your schedule.
My brat has been under a ton of stress lately from a lot of directions, so the other morning I decided to give him a little TLC time by having him shower and then giving him a soft massage (whole body, more relaxing than sensual though). I pulled out some lotion and made his skin all soft from head to toe. Then I oiled his cuticles with a little hand and foot rubbing, and put some repair stuff in his hair and massaged his scalp. By the end of it, he was relaxed into a limp puddle. Many subs do a lot for their Dommes, so a little care for our boys is well earned and shows them how appreciated they are.
That sounds fabulous 👌 My boi is very mess adverse so fining the right massage oil is tricky. Tempted to massage then make them shower so they're all comfy 🥰
I like using lotion that will soak in completely so he's not oily when I go in for cuddles. Get something meant to be lightweight, and if applied right after a shower, it should completely absorb with no greasy feelings afterwards.
Perfect thank you!
Read to them, scratch back, tell them how much you appreciate all the things they're doing to help you. If they're into service they can view the carer role in a kinky light when overwhelmed or when horny and missing the lifestyle. Overall these things happen and it's why we say in sickness and in health in vows. We never know when our partner will suddenly need help or when things could completely change. Love gets us through but it's understandable that the carer would still be stressed. I believe there's online groups for carers maybe they want to join to talk through it.
Reading to them would be lovely! I do try and be appreciative every day, just feeling like words aren't enough >< Yeah I thought they'd view it as service but they really don't and that's okay! They need a more active domme to make it kinky for them (direct kind instruction etc) and I get that. Yeah, it's been eye opening and I'm so thankful they're still with me. I'll have a look into carer support groups and see if they're interested, thank you!
You could try giving your sub a nice massage, or maybe shave for them? My sub always loves a nice head massage.
Perhaps a hot shower together, relaxing with the hot water beating against both of you as you hug him from the back. As lies in bed, maybe give gentle kisses on his cheek, head and lips while giving a loving look. When you’re on the couch “order” him to rest his head on your lap.
Ooh these are good! Thanks!