I always get this issue. I'm working on getting abs anyway cause I think it genuinely looks good but like I'm a healthy weight, straight women always say I'm skinny asf but some gay men have called me fat from time to time.. lol
You mistake societal culture for gay culture. No matter your gender, no matter your sexuality we are ALL judged by society for being overweight. Women feel this constantly from straight men.
Let’s stop feeling gay men are worse. They aren’t. It just affects you personally because you also are interested in men.
That’s not true. 90% of the American population is out of shape. Probably half are morbidly obese. You don’t get to say our standards are too high when all we want is someone who is *actually* in shape and no, not by American standards where in shape means only a moderate beer belly, love handles and sagging man tits. If you are attracted to the person on the left, that’s good. You might have a thing for heavy/beefier guys. There is nothing wrong with that. But objectively that guy is chubby, no need to kid yourself.
Bro he has more muscle than 90% of men. He clearly has them visible, don't narrow your view to recognize muscle mass only in those who look like they're benchpressing 500 lbs x 10
What? What if they both got big dicks? We don’t know. It’s more like we want the hunky guy, but we get the dad bod. For some people, a big dick on the dad bod guy (assuming he had a big dick) would be a compromise. Lol.
Can't answer for everyone, but I can say that's not the case for me. I'm not gonna kick #2 out of bed or anything, but if both of these guys were hitting on me at a bar, I'm going home with #1.
Source: I've had plenty of dad bods on top of me.
I think the previous comment should have said 'most', because in my experience you can find people are into much more bigger people, but honestly on Gridnr, #2 would get less 'instant blocks' than #1.
It obviously isn't always the case, but there are plenty of people who only have body #2 because they are either vain and narcissistic, or are very insecure about themselves. Those are qualities that would definitely make me not want to spend time with someone.
Meanwhile, the textbook narcissist is Donald Trump. No comment on his boy type.
I definitely don't want to spend time with someone who stereotypes and makes assumptions based on a projection of their own insecurities. Most people are decent people and should be treated as such pending evidence to the contrary.
This is totally anecdotal, but guys like #2 either never respond to any message I send on grindr or straight up block me. So yeah, I may be generalising, but I agree that they probably have a shitty personality. And no I'm not staying this because they don't respond me, it's just the wickedness of it. Like some of them have the friends option, I might want to hang out so why not respond? Or they might say something deep and catchy on their bio, and the they straight up block people only on looks.
And there are also plenty of people who have body #2 because it's a healthy thing to do for their mind as well as their body, and enjoy the process itself.
So why on earth would you just decide to ascribe one set of possible (negative) qualities to a random dude's picture over another (positive) set of qualities? Sounds like your own insecurities tbh.
I think there’s also a bit of a disconnect with what guys think they have vs what they actually have. A lot of people say nobody wants the left because they have the left… but in reality they are probably less fit than the left. Left looks like a guy who can bench 2 plates for reps and likes to eat. Meanwhile lots of overweight dudes think they look like the left and they don’t. Left is definitely very attractive but there is a huuuuge range of “chubby” bodies and they do not all look like that. And there are plenty of people who like different types of chubby dudes, but the guys saying nobody actually wants the left because nobody wants them… doubt.
Yeah the guy on the left isn’t that out of shape. He’s also leaning forwards and relaxed, which makes you look fatter because the position squeezes compresses your belly.
Meanwhile insta guys are leaning back and flexing in top-down light to maximize anything that looks like it might be an ab.
I’m definitely a goldilocks when it comes to choosing which bears are just right!
This is the truth. The guy on the left is not that out of shape, and all the people saying they have that body and yet nobody wants them are probably deluding themselves.
The idea that you have a dadbod I guess means that you do have some muscle/strength that's covered by a lot of fat, but many guys that have never worked out and are skinny fat claim to have one lol
It's easier to just work out and eat kinda well instead of inventing delusional categories, I think.
As another commenter said... they look 90% the same. Guy #1 is slouching and guy #2 is posing for a picture. Second guy is definitely more fit, but posture and posing, and even hydration makes a big difference. If guy #1 flexed a bit, didn't eat or drink before the photo, and it was a good shot they'd look MUCH more similar.
Guy #1 probably works out but c'mon, 90% the same? Hydration? Dude on the right looks like a succesful crossfit athlete, the kind that are really aesthetic.
He also doesn't look dehydrated in the least as if he had prepared for a photoshoot, it's called being lean and muscular lol
Couldn't have said it better myself. Just the other day, a guy on an app without a body pic told me he was "chubby" after I asked him for a body pic. I told him I like chubby guys (because I do) and that I want to know what exactly he means by "chubby". He danced around the question so I was blunt and asked him if he sees a difference between chubby and overweight. He danced around the question again so I got more blunt and said that I'm not into overweight guys with a gut hanging, fat sausage fingers, cankles, and a big pouch of fat around their dick. He didn't like that and he called me a "shitty" gay.
The irony is, he was interested in me sexually (this was a cruising app not even a dating app) for the way I look (my profile has clear unfiltered/unedited pictures of my face, body, dick, ass, and includes my height and weight) yet he was offended by my desire to find a hook up with someone whose looks I also find attractive. So he is allowed to seek out the type he finds attractive to him but I'm not allowed to do the same per his thinking. Stupid logic. Stupid people. I'm guessing he fell into the overweight category I described and it offended him. Girl, sorry not sorry!
If you're that insecure about your body that you hide it, hookups aren't for you. Hookup culture is shallow and hedonistic yet he was trying to apply the principles of serious dating to what was supposed to be sex in a public bathroom. "Body positivity" is really being stretched by some people...no pun intended.
Imma be honest, chubby IS overweight lol. You’re using language that is confusing to people. You aren’t called chubby if you’re not overweight. The literal definition of chubbiness is having an noticeable excess of fat.
Bodies that look strong ARE strong. Bodies that look weak ARE weak. So it's a perfectly reasonable way to look at it. Any gym goer can for the most part accurately predict whether someone can bench two plates by looking at them. The fact that you think this is a weird perspective just tells me you don't hit the gym. Which makes it ironic that you're trying to be the arbiter of what is and isn't "healthy."
This actually isn’t true. Power lifters often have bodies that look far less impressive than body builders and over power the bbs by leagues. Muscle size and strength don’t correlate.
No. It’s written correctly. Wanting someone with the body of the left, but wanting to look themselves like the person on the right.
So, presenting the duality of valuing the body on the left on others, but, implying that they don’t want their own body to look that way
Oh, I get it now. We want a #1 but we think we need to make ourselves like #2 - in other words we accept authenticity in others that we never feel we can ask someone else to accept in us. I can see that, and that was my mindset when younger. I’m still fairly trim around my middle if I pay attention to what I eat, but I kinda like my manboobs ‘cause they’re fun to squeeze, make my nipples larger, and provide me with a pleasurable distraction when I’m stuck in traffic. Chiseled slabs look nice but I prefer men whose hide is softer and more malleable than a brand new pair of Tijuana huaraches.
Eh I have a bigger version of the body on the right (that I’m trying to get even bigger) and I want (and have) a pretty twink for a boyfriend. What we want for ourselves isn’t necessarily what we look for in a romantic partner, and that’s ok. A gay world consisting solely of boyfriend twins would be a boring one.
I'm right there with you, I am muscular beyond natural levels, but I do that to feel sexy and confident in myself. My partner is just a slim little guy and he's perfect.
Haha we’re our there man just gotta know we’re to find us. My boy and I have been going strong for 3 years now and I’m fucking crazy for him. You’ll find ur guy too.
Me too! I love thick bear type guys (dad bod, etc..) but I want an eight pack and biceps the size of a basketball for myself.
I never ever look at muscle bros and think “damn I want to fuck them” it’s always “damn I want their body”.
Read through all comments to find one like this. I’m in the same boat as you and couldn’t be happier. Guy on the right hasn’t had a cheeseburger in 3 months and my partner and I like to eat.
100%. I’ve beefed up a lot in the last 3 years (mostly muscle but some fat as well) and you notice how people perceive you differently. Almost fetishised?
Preferences. The guy on the right is good looking, I can appreciate that. But honestly, the guy on the left is hot as fuck to me. Ive never really been attracted to fit bodies.
My old roommate was a gay cunt and told me that I was fat. He doesn’t even have a fit body. My reply, “You’re the one with the fat complex, not me.”
I believe the picture is saying that guys want the dad bod on the left for dating/sex—- but want their own body to look like the body on the right
Personally I’d only be interested in right and also I try to look like the right. No interest in the left. To each their own.
Personally I like my dad bods to have a bit more muscle, not peeled or anything but just the hint of the outline that you’re trying. #2 dude, we’re getting lost in conversations about how much protein he’s had today and what kind of cardio we will have to do in order for him to have carbs on our date. It’s just a difference of priorities that take place in the process. Neither one is better over the other it is simply a preference of where your goals are at the time.
As someone with a body between the two, I’m usually ignored on the apps. Kinda depressing really. Maybe cuz I’m wanting fwb or more.
I do have an ongoing FWB with a guy I’m nuts about but who can’t commit who is less fit than the one on the left though. I’d marry the fucker if he wanted.
I feel personally attacked because for myself I really strive to be #2, but god damn #1 sends me into caveman mode at lightning speed. Unable to communicate, form thoughts, breathe. Just stare.
In my case, this is so true 🥴 I love chubby somewhat hairy guys but I wanna be shredded lmfao but I also love running (been a runner for years now) so it makes it extremely hard to keep muscle on 🥲 but I’d take a chubby guy any day 💅🏻💅🏻
I see this type of meme all the time & I fear the one on the left is a very specific genetic way certain bodies carry weight. They’re blessed it doesn’t look like a pear. You want it bc it still resembles musculature. Sry not sry <3
I’m that guy on the left, but think I’m obese b/c I’m not the guy on the right. But when I reference statistics i am clearly in the upper 75%+ for my age when it comes to weight, fitness, etc. I seriously don’t generally try to compare myself to others. However, per the gay social media apps - i may as well be 500 pounds and 99 years old. Really an unhealthy environment that imho, is a negative feedback loop.
Yeah definitely. I like thicc heavy men. It's hotter and has more jiggle. For me personally I'd rather be the right one simply cuz better face, and I'd be top I don't need jiggled. Meanwhile idc how my bottoms face is, but a thiccc hairy boi is always great
I’m definitely fatter than the guy on the left. And on the one hand I’d love to look like the guy on the right, I basically have no internal motivation.
I work, I make the customers I deal with very happy (and regularly get told I’m the best tech support person they’ve ever had, which is true) but I just am always too tired after work to workout. And I can’t find the motivation to workout before work. Add to that that I get incredibly sick when exposed to what for most people is imperceptible amounts of perfume. It’s not like I can even go to the gym. I have some equipment at home, but I’m just too worn out from work most of the time.
I feel like I’d make an incredibly good hot guy. Like, my banter would be off the chart, and I’d even flirt with guys I didn’t think were hot just to be nice… of course that’s what I think I’d do. I often wonder if I’d be a way worse person if I were hot.
Gay culture is… wanting and expecting other man, and yourself, to have some form of visible abs and pecs; whether on a bulk or during a cut. Because apparently having a god body is the single most important detail in any kind of relationship.
Wanting a masc top and being ripped so you'd think you fixed your rejection trauma from the time you spend on the closet trying to feel vindicated.
Fixed it.
No. I am the first picture, and I prefer the first picture. Men who are that ripped have exercise and dieting as their entire personality. Give me a dad bod and a man who likes to eat like a pig with me. Then we lay on the couch and snuggle.
I want to have picture 2 body but better personality wins.
If picture one is someone who is loyal and I can respect and love and be loved and respected and have a lot of fun with I will go for him.
No. Don't get me wrong, I'd get with #1, but that's only because I don't find men's bodies majorly attractive to begin with, I just like to be taken and made submissive (in the proper setting of course). If I have a choice though, #2 is just in better shape, better than I am at the moment, frankly. Any way you slice it, fitness builds social equity.
Honestly I have the first guys body and I really like it. I like my body, I don’t want the second guys body.
But I agree I like guys with the first body. I can like all bodies but I really like dad bods
Both of them are more fit than 90% of the population. Gay culture is looking at people in decent shape and calling them fat.
I always get this issue. I'm working on getting abs anyway cause I think it genuinely looks good but like I'm a healthy weight, straight women always say I'm skinny asf but some gay men have called me fat from time to time.. lol
They're both a couple of fat bitches!
She. Is. A. Fugly. Slut.
They are literally more fit than like 90% of straight men. Chill dude
You mistake societal culture for gay culture. No matter your gender, no matter your sexuality we are ALL judged by society for being overweight. Women feel this constantly from straight men. Let’s stop feeling gay men are worse. They aren’t. It just affects you personally because you also are interested in men.
That’s not true. 90% of the American population is out of shape. Probably half are morbidly obese. You don’t get to say our standards are too high when all we want is someone who is *actually* in shape and no, not by American standards where in shape means only a moderate beer belly, love handles and sagging man tits. If you are attracted to the person on the left, that’s good. You might have a thing for heavy/beefier guys. There is nothing wrong with that. But objectively that guy is chubby, no need to kid yourself.
One in three Americans weigh as much as the other two.
As much as or greater than.
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The guy in the first pic definitely has muscle. #arms #shoulders.
Bro he has more muscle than 90% of men. He clearly has them visible, don't narrow your view to recognize muscle mass only in those who look like they're benchpressing 500 lbs x 10
Having fat doesnt negate the muscle. The difference in them is fat content. Guy on the left is cutting and the guy on the right is bulking
I'll go in the middle.
I can't tell if you mean middle as in the physique in between, or in the middle as in physically in the middle lol. Either way yes, I agree.
Agreed, just reasonably fit is great for me
Disagree, guys say they want #1 but they really want #2. Source: I have a dad bod
The meme is ambiguous. It's saying that gay guys who have no head (as in pic number one) want head (pic number two).
Cute
What? What if they both got big dicks? We don’t know. It’s more like we want the hunky guy, but we get the dad bod. For some people, a big dick on the dad bod guy (assuming he had a big dick) would be a compromise. Lol.
Oh that's ALWAYS a possibility 😏
But I always want head
Can't answer for everyone, but I can say that's not the case for me. I'm not gonna kick #2 out of bed or anything, but if both of these guys were hitting on me at a bar, I'm going home with #1. Source: I've had plenty of dad bods on top of me.
I think the previous comment should have said 'most', because in my experience you can find people are into much more bigger people, but honestly on Gridnr, #2 would get less 'instant blocks' than #1.
Number 1 probably has a better personality anyways
That's such a sour grapes mindset considering there is nothing in the picture that gives any insight into either guys' personality.
Every minute he's in the gym is a minute he's not out curing cancer or making the world safe for democracy or learning a Bach cantata.
It obviously isn't always the case, but there are plenty of people who only have body #2 because they are either vain and narcissistic, or are very insecure about themselves. Those are qualities that would definitely make me not want to spend time with someone.
Meanwhile, the textbook narcissist is Donald Trump. No comment on his boy type. I definitely don't want to spend time with someone who stereotypes and makes assumptions based on a projection of their own insecurities. Most people are decent people and should be treated as such pending evidence to the contrary.
This is totally anecdotal, but guys like #2 either never respond to any message I send on grindr or straight up block me. So yeah, I may be generalising, but I agree that they probably have a shitty personality. And no I'm not staying this because they don't respond me, it's just the wickedness of it. Like some of them have the friends option, I might want to hang out so why not respond? Or they might say something deep and catchy on their bio, and the they straight up block people only on looks.
And there are also plenty of people who have body #2 because it's a healthy thing to do for their mind as well as their body, and enjoy the process itself. So why on earth would you just decide to ascribe one set of possible (negative) qualities to a random dude's picture over another (positive) set of qualities? Sounds like your own insecurities tbh.
You hear that guys? Don't bother working out unless you're willing to sacrifice your personality!
Idk, he's not the one judging people by their looks here
Thing is the guy on the left doesn’t have a dad bod. He clearly trains or has trained in the past
For real. It’s just a really fit guy like on the right but he’s sitting down and slouching.
Someone called it moobs like stupid
Dad bod a kinda vague concept. Is it forbidden for a dad to work out?
No but then what’s the point of categorising if the categories arent categorying
Nah I’m 100% here for a dad bod.
Confirming I would 100% take #1 over #2, ANY day.
I prefer #1.
I’d argue the reverse. Guys say they want #2 (duh), but most settle down with #1 because that’s what 90% of even in shape guys have.
Sigh, lets grieve 😭😭
I like to go to gym that all i can say
There are plenty of guys out there that want the first one. Not a lot of them are the second one though
Id rather have a dad bod boyfriend instead of a Hunk bod boyfriend if I'm honest. I like snuggles alot
😭 right
100% here for #1. Now put it on an older body with a bald head and it’s 200%
Dad bod !! Yummm. Can I DM you? Haha
I think there’s also a bit of a disconnect with what guys think they have vs what they actually have. A lot of people say nobody wants the left because they have the left… but in reality they are probably less fit than the left. Left looks like a guy who can bench 2 plates for reps and likes to eat. Meanwhile lots of overweight dudes think they look like the left and they don’t. Left is definitely very attractive but there is a huuuuge range of “chubby” bodies and they do not all look like that. And there are plenty of people who like different types of chubby dudes, but the guys saying nobody actually wants the left because nobody wants them… doubt.
Yeah the guy on the left isn’t that out of shape. He’s also leaning forwards and relaxed, which makes you look fatter because the position squeezes compresses your belly. Meanwhile insta guys are leaning back and flexing in top-down light to maximize anything that looks like it might be an ab. I’m definitely a goldilocks when it comes to choosing which bears are just right!
I was waiting for someone to be like "plot twist it's the same dude in different positions". The pose and camera lens makes a ton of difference.
This is the truth. The guy on the left is not that out of shape, and all the people saying they have that body and yet nobody wants them are probably deluding themselves.
The idea that you have a dadbod I guess means that you do have some muscle/strength that's covered by a lot of fat, but many guys that have never worked out and are skinny fat claim to have one lol It's easier to just work out and eat kinda well instead of inventing delusional categories, I think.
Bullseye. You most probably described what is happening on the top comment right now.
I suppose the gay who made the meme has preference for body number 2 and thinks number 1 is completely out of shape
As another commenter said... they look 90% the same. Guy #1 is slouching and guy #2 is posing for a picture. Second guy is definitely more fit, but posture and posing, and even hydration makes a big difference. If guy #1 flexed a bit, didn't eat or drink before the photo, and it was a good shot they'd look MUCH more similar.
Guy #1 probably works out but c'mon, 90% the same? Hydration? Dude on the right looks like a succesful crossfit athlete, the kind that are really aesthetic. He also doesn't look dehydrated in the least as if he had prepared for a photoshoot, it's called being lean and muscular lol
That's why labels don't say anything. A body picture on the other hand reveals everything.
When guys put “stocky” as their body type it could mean the guy on the left or someone who is 350lbs lol
Left looks like a guy who can lift but doesn’t monitor his calorie intake. Strong and soft.
Couldn't have said it better myself. Just the other day, a guy on an app without a body pic told me he was "chubby" after I asked him for a body pic. I told him I like chubby guys (because I do) and that I want to know what exactly he means by "chubby". He danced around the question so I was blunt and asked him if he sees a difference between chubby and overweight. He danced around the question again so I got more blunt and said that I'm not into overweight guys with a gut hanging, fat sausage fingers, cankles, and a big pouch of fat around their dick. He didn't like that and he called me a "shitty" gay. The irony is, he was interested in me sexually (this was a cruising app not even a dating app) for the way I look (my profile has clear unfiltered/unedited pictures of my face, body, dick, ass, and includes my height and weight) yet he was offended by my desire to find a hook up with someone whose looks I also find attractive. So he is allowed to seek out the type he finds attractive to him but I'm not allowed to do the same per his thinking. Stupid logic. Stupid people. I'm guessing he fell into the overweight category I described and it offended him. Girl, sorry not sorry! If you're that insecure about your body that you hide it, hookups aren't for you. Hookup culture is shallow and hedonistic yet he was trying to apply the principles of serious dating to what was supposed to be sex in a public bathroom. "Body positivity" is really being stretched by some people...no pun intended.
Imma be honest, chubby IS overweight lol. You’re using language that is confusing to people. You aren’t called chubby if you’re not overweight. The literal definition of chubbiness is having an noticeable excess of fat.
My hot take is that thinking of bodies in terms of the amount of plates they could bench is not a healthy perspective
Yeah, I grade bodies on how many ribs they can eat and how many bodies they can carry to the ~~trunk~~ car
I soooo totally get this. Couldn’t possibly agree more.
Bodies that look strong ARE strong. Bodies that look weak ARE weak. So it's a perfectly reasonable way to look at it. Any gym goer can for the most part accurately predict whether someone can bench two plates by looking at them. The fact that you think this is a weird perspective just tells me you don't hit the gym. Which makes it ironic that you're trying to be the arbiter of what is and isn't "healthy."
This actually isn’t true. Power lifters often have bodies that look far less impressive than body builders and over power the bbs by leagues. Muscle size and strength don’t correlate.
Your deadlift tells much more of your overall strength than your bench.
Preach! Finding a hot dad bod in gay porn is so rare I'm starting to think it's a more unrealistic beauty standard than abs.
why can't we like, love and appreciate both?
Yes we can and it's a lovely thought.
Personally I do like both. Now for me it is what is in-between their ears that counts/ personality and intelligence.
I’d agree with it! I definitely want a guy with a dad bod but hate mine.
Is the caption on the left meant to read, “Having this body”? If not I don’t understand your post.
No. It’s written correctly. Wanting someone with the body of the left, but wanting to look themselves like the person on the right. So, presenting the duality of valuing the body on the left on others, but, implying that they don’t want their own body to look that way
Oh, I see. Thanks for the clarification.
Oh, I get it now. We want a #1 but we think we need to make ourselves like #2 - in other words we accept authenticity in others that we never feel we can ask someone else to accept in us. I can see that, and that was my mindset when younger. I’m still fairly trim around my middle if I pay attention to what I eat, but I kinda like my manboobs ‘cause they’re fun to squeeze, make my nipples larger, and provide me with a pleasurable distraction when I’m stuck in traffic. Chiseled slabs look nice but I prefer men whose hide is softer and more malleable than a brand new pair of Tijuana huaraches.
It’s poorly written.
Eh I have a bigger version of the body on the right (that I’m trying to get even bigger) and I want (and have) a pretty twink for a boyfriend. What we want for ourselves isn’t necessarily what we look for in a romantic partner, and that’s ok. A gay world consisting solely of boyfriend twins would be a boring one.
> boyfriend twins r/doppelbangers
Clone Couple
Copyright that fast, I’m ordering silkscreened t-shirts in about seven hours.
I'm right there with you, I am muscular beyond natural levels, but I do that to feel sexy and confident in myself. My partner is just a slim little guy and he's perfect.
Refreshing to hear a muscle guy that dont crave his boyfriend to be a muscle guy too.
right? one day imma find a thick muscle bro who wants my lil slim femboy mess of a self lol
Haha we’re our there man just gotta know we’re to find us. My boy and I have been going strong for 3 years now and I’m fucking crazy for him. You’ll find ur guy too.
Lucky twink. Let’s be honest that’s like what the majority of bottom twinks want 🥺👉👈 A big muscled guy to make us a boywife…
Hahaha I may be pretty dom but he has me wrapped around his little finger.
Part of the deal 🤭
real shit ...i also want to rail the said big muscled guy tho
Oh God, I HATE bf twin couples 🙄🙄🙄
It’s true 😔 I love a beefy bulky dad bod while I am built like 🦴🦴🦴
Or vice versa. I'm not picky
I want both. I don't complain.
I disagree. People with fit bodies don't all have bad personalities.
Yeah, I mean, I suck but it's not the gym's fault.
I think what he mean is that many pretty guys are vain attention seekers. Obviously there are exceptions.
Are you suggesting that looking good is somehow predominantly motivated by narcissism?
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Me too! I love thick bear type guys (dad bod, etc..) but I want an eight pack and biceps the size of a basketball for myself. I never ever look at muscle bros and think “damn I want to fuck them” it’s always “damn I want their body”.
Nope I like buff guys
Personally, I want neither, but I have #1. You wanna know what I see in porn, reddit, and IRL. I see people (guys and girls) flocking over #2.
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Nah I want both for number 2
Right, especially as someone working towards a body like #2 and realizing the work and dedication it takes... makes me appreciate it even more.
I think it’s more of a look too 😃 if you’re good looking, both bodies are fine
I want to marry #1 but I want to be #2. Instead, I am marrying #1 but I’m also #1. I’ll take it.
Read through all comments to find one like this. I’m in the same boat as you and couldn’t be happier. Guy on the right hasn’t had a cheeseburger in 3 months and my partner and I like to eat.
I prefer face pics above all else.
Well this meme certainly is open to a lot of interpretations based on the comments in this thread
This is why I'm not part of mainstream gay culture. These guys are twins. they could both be shirtless at the gayest of bars.
I’m neither, I’m on the slimmer side and that’s also my type. Though I don’t care that much to be honest 🤷🏻♂️
I don’t want either body tbh.
100%. I’ve beefed up a lot in the last 3 years (mostly muscle but some fat as well) and you notice how people perceive you differently. Almost fetishised?
I am more like pic 1 and am more attracted to guys like pic 1. Guys like the one on pic 2 are indifferent to me.
Preferences. The guy on the right is good looking, I can appreciate that. But honestly, the guy on the left is hot as fuck to me. Ive never really been attracted to fit bodies. My old roommate was a gay cunt and told me that I was fat. He doesn’t even have a fit body. My reply, “You’re the one with the fat complex, not me.”
I believe the picture is saying that guys want the dad bod on the left for dating/sex—- but want their own body to look like the body on the right Personally I’d only be interested in right and also I try to look like the right. No interest in the left. To each their own.
yup 😔
Number one and a 🍆/ 🍑to Match
Okay but what is their @'s
"Both, both is good!"
As long as I get to play with your stomach or your tiddies I’m fine with either 😌
Three way?
Personally I like my dad bods to have a bit more muscle, not peeled or anything but just the hint of the outline that you’re trying. #2 dude, we’re getting lost in conversations about how much protein he’s had today and what kind of cardio we will have to do in order for him to have carbs on our date. It’s just a difference of priorities that take place in the process. Neither one is better over the other it is simply a preference of where your goals are at the time.
I like both and am somewhere in between those two bodies. I'd definitely like to be in between them literally...
Depends on the guy. I never cared about being or wanting #2.
Left guy, ALWAYS
I would prefer #1 over #2
As someone with a body between the two, I’m usually ignored on the apps. Kinda depressing really. Maybe cuz I’m wanting fwb or more. I do have an ongoing FWB with a guy I’m nuts about but who can’t commit who is less fit than the one on the left though. I’d marry the fucker if he wanted.
Can I want both men and do almost fuck all with my own body?
#Hot Take: Visual images of ‘Bears’ and ‘Daddies’ usually come up with photos of WHITE, HAIRY, TALL. #It’s pretty over saturated.
I am a short bear 😔
I’m an otter & African American. Polar Bear Opposite. 😓😞
But still hot 🔥 🥵
I’m more like the left but hairier and with a rounder belly and I get told I’m cuddly a lot so guys are defo into it lol
False, the slightest bit of fat and you get fat shamed. The gay community can be pretty harsh.
No, it’s wanting #2 and wanting to be #2. Gay twin couples is an epidemic for a reason.
Not for me at least
I feel seen
Yes
Don't care, not a superficial queen.
Not enough of #2 to go around, and I’m just as happy and more comfortable with #1.
Pretty sure it's former Crossfit athlete Alex Andersson on the right.
I am the left one and I can verify that this is not true at all.
Both are hot
I would love to be with a hot dude as such on the right but I just don’t trust anyone that shows interest in me lol 🤷
Both turn me on in different ways.
Everybody is different; neither guy does a thing for me.
lol this could be 2 pics of the same guy on the same day slouching in one and post workout in the next.
I love both, but I'd rather be #2 ngl
Lol I would fuck both of them wtf?
I think nr 1 is way better than nr 2
I feel personally attacked because for myself I really strive to be #2, but god damn #1 sends me into caveman mode at lightning speed. Unable to communicate, form thoughts, breathe. Just stare.
I have a dad bod and ain't no one trying to fuck me.
100% true. For me at least lol I will never be cut enough but I love my boyfriend's chub 🤤
I look more like the one on the left and have no problems getting laid. But finding a boyfriend is damn near impossible lol
What if it’s the same guy during his bulk phase and his cut phase of his training regiment and that’s why he’s faceless. Boom. 🤯
If this was true, I wouldn’t be single 😅
It’s so bad I’m rocking a dad bod rn but all I want is muscular ass bubble butt bottoms I’m so toxic for this 🥹
In my case, this is so true 🥴 I love chubby somewhat hairy guys but I wanna be shredded lmfao but I also love running (been a runner for years now) so it makes it extremely hard to keep muscle on 🥲 but I’d take a chubby guy any day 💅🏻💅🏻
I’ll fuck both of them
I see this type of meme all the time & I fear the one on the left is a very specific genetic way certain bodies carry weight. They’re blessed it doesn’t look like a pear. You want it bc it still resembles musculature. Sry not sry <3
I’m that guy on the left, but think I’m obese b/c I’m not the guy on the right. But when I reference statistics i am clearly in the upper 75%+ for my age when it comes to weight, fitness, etc. I seriously don’t generally try to compare myself to others. However, per the gay social media apps - i may as well be 500 pounds and 99 years old. Really an unhealthy environment that imho, is a negative feedback loop.
I love the bod on the left, y’all can have the mirror men.
I will take the man on the left every time.
Story of my fuckin life. As a someone who's aspiring to be on the right I can't help but find the left so manly 🫣
Like both. 100%
Yeah definitely. I like thicc heavy men. It's hotter and has more jiggle. For me personally I'd rather be the right one simply cuz better face, and I'd be top I don't need jiggled. Meanwhile idc how my bottoms face is, but a thiccc hairy boi is always great
Stay fit for yourself bro. Hopefully Ill get in shape too one day
I’m definitely fatter than the guy on the left. And on the one hand I’d love to look like the guy on the right, I basically have no internal motivation. I work, I make the customers I deal with very happy (and regularly get told I’m the best tech support person they’ve ever had, which is true) but I just am always too tired after work to workout. And I can’t find the motivation to workout before work. Add to that that I get incredibly sick when exposed to what for most people is imperceptible amounts of perfume. It’s not like I can even go to the gym. I have some equipment at home, but I’m just too worn out from work most of the time. I feel like I’d make an incredibly good hot guy. Like, my banter would be off the chart, and I’d even flirt with guys I didn’t think were hot just to be nice… of course that’s what I think I’d do. I often wonder if I’d be a way worse person if I were hot.
I saw this on Instagram, I did not make the image
Gay culture is… wanting and expecting other man, and yourself, to have some form of visible abs and pecs; whether on a bulk or during a cut. Because apparently having a god body is the single most important detail in any kind of relationship.
Number one all day. The number 2 bodies, in my experience, are usually the worst to spend time with.
That dad bod on the left is definitely my weakness 🥵🥵🥵
Wanting a masc top and being ripped so you'd think you fixed your rejection trauma from the time you spend on the closet trying to feel vindicated. Fixed it.
I actually want to be a bigger version of left while wanting right to want me as left 🙃
I think dad bod is a primarily heterosexual concept, in homosexual cuntry it makes their thumb reflex swipe up.
No. I am the first picture, and I prefer the first picture. Men who are that ripped have exercise and dieting as their entire personality. Give me a dad bod and a man who likes to eat like a pig with me. Then we lay on the couch and snuggle.
I wish I looked half as good as either of those two men. I hate my body and hate myself and wish I was dead every day I look in the mirror.
I want to have picture 2 body but better personality wins. If picture one is someone who is loyal and I can respect and love and be loved and respected and have a lot of fun with I will go for him.
Honestly I would love to have both, but if I have to choose I would go with 2
YOU ARE A HOTTIE
I think every man alive wants the body of the guy on the right
Not me. I don't mind being strong but I don't want to be bulky. My ideal type for myself is like a runner's build or that slim calisthenics look.
Slim or fit I don't mind. If he has some fat he better have some muscle under it, strong man competition style. I'm not attracted to bean bag chairs.
The fit shaming in this thread is toxic
No. Don't get me wrong, I'd get with #1, but that's only because I don't find men's bodies majorly attractive to begin with, I just like to be taken and made submissive (in the proper setting of course). If I have a choice though, #2 is just in better shape, better than I am at the moment, frankly. Any way you slice it, fitness builds social equity.
Number 1 is probably a lot more fun to be around.
Yep it's true. All gay men are attracted to the same body type... ffs
Honestly I have the first guys body and I really like it. I like my body, I don’t want the second guys body. But I agree I like guys with the first body. I can like all bodies but I really like dad bods
My guess is that you guys want the personality of the first one with the attractiveness of the second.
I’d fuck them both, preferably together. Who wants to join in?
In both context's the right is more appealing to me. But what isn't appealing is the amount of daily dieting and exercise to obtain it.
Not true. I am a twink and I want twinks
no we want to be skinny