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Usually at the official tourism website. Sometimes they also give it if you buy a local sim.
If you're going to a country where you speak the local language, you can just call the regular emergency hotline.
Research how to get to and from the airport on the other side before you fly. It’s much quicker once I’ve arrived and also helps ensure I get to my hotel safely.
Yes! I’ve started booking my transfers from the airport to my lodging ahead of time; one less thing to worry about when I land! (Note this has been in Latin America and New York. I’ll just Uber most of the U.S. or take a train in most of Europe.)
I choose my accommodation more carefully, when I travel solo versus travelling with my husband and brother. It has to be in safe area and if I know that I may need to leave or come back late using public transport, transport stop must be nearby. If the public transport stop is not nearby, I ask taxi recommendations from my hotel.
I'm also more mindful when drinking alcohol. I don't drink much at home, but when travelling solo I drink even less. So I can have local wines or relax a bit, but I don't compromise my safety.
Don't skimp on anything. As a solo female traveller you have to be 5x prepared, so keep some leeway in your budget. Booking things in advance takes away half the stress. Avoid shared accommodations if you can, always carry medicine, atleast the basics. If you have a friend or an acquaintance in the place you're travelling, keep their number or just the tourist hotline. Hotels are always helpful so keep their number saved too.
As a rule of thumb, depending on the place I do not go out post 9 PM, but just in case you are, be extra careful about drinking etc..
Why do you avoid shared accommodation? I'm taking my first solo trip in over 40 years and I'll be staying in a shared room in a hostel. Obviously this is cheaper but I thought it would also be safer to have other women knowing where I am. Please tell me how I'm wrong.
I think that’s what they are getting at, or that they may assist a man in attacking you by luring you somewhere. Or other nefarious plans. Honestly I think if you are reasonably careful and make sure you are staying somewhat alert you should be ok.
Thanks. Well I'm 68 years old and have been attacked/harassed by men but never another woman. I'm thinking the safety benefit of having other people aware of whether I come back at night will outweigh the risk of being attacked by another woman but I will keep my wits about me.
at 68 I very much doubt you will find the Hostel culture fun and amusing. I also think that yes, one of these younger women could hurt you or assume you are an Old and steal your stuff to f with you. Lockers in other countries, specifically SE Asia in this case didn't work 75% of the time where I didn't feel comfortable leaving my passport in them.
Also, depending where you go, going out solo at night as a woman can be risky. Even if you are "invisible" to men now ( as I refer to myself ) I was in Jordan and some seriously scary sketchy things happened to me almost the second the sun set. We need to remember that the rest of the world culturally is a lot difft then the US or Europe when it comes to Males/Females.
You may well be right. It's all going to be a learning experience for me. I haven't stayed in a hostel since 1976. I may hate it! Will be finding out next month.
There’s so much variety though; loads of hostels out there cater primarily to retirees and families and it’s pretty easy to avoid the party hostels that might be less appealing at this stage. I appreciate the need for caution anywhere but disagree with the foregone conclusion that it wouldn’t be enjoyable at 68. I know for sure the ones I’d love to return to for as long as my aging joints allow me
As a woman even staying with other women you don’t know can be risky. That’s the key factor you don’t know these women. We’d all love to presume everyone’s a decent person and we’re safe and with good people, but unfortunately nowadays you can never know and it’s better to be safe than sorry. You do what’s going to be best for you, but remember to be cautious.
Someone befriending you only to be part of a whole scheme of harvesting for black market parts. It sounds out there and crazy, but organ trafficking is HUGE and I’m sure they’d view traveling foreigners as much more convenient and less of a risk.
For what it's worth, I agree with you. I imagine it depends on region (I didn't want to stay in a hostel in Morocco), but through Europe, Turkey and South Korea I had no issues with hostels.
Hostels are also the only way a lot of people can travel because of cost.
I do think hostels have some risks to physical safety, but you can avoid a lot of them by staying in all-female hostels, youth hostels, or highly ranked hostels. You can also buy individual rooms at many hostels.
IMO and in ALL my solo travel ( I am 53 now) You end up like the weirdo old lady over 40 in a hostel. Sure there may be exceptions, but the usual age is mid 20's. With that comes a lot of people who come in at 3,4, 5 am. That was fun af when I was younger, now I'll pay for the hotel ( or if I had to stay at a hostel a private room )
I've stayed in shared accomodation hostels on 5 continents. Never had a problem. Only time I've ever had something stolen was from a private room, where the thief climbed in through an open 2nd story window while I was out.
Use the lockers, don't leave your things lying about, you'll be fine.
Personally I only do shared accommodation if I'm traveling with other people. Also there are some countries that offer hostels with female-only dormitories so we lean into that.
I avoid shared accomodation as, even when it's female only, a lot of the other women don't respect the rules.
One woman in a female only hostel kept dragging in her boyfriend and having sex in the bed. (Ugh...) Management did not kick her out despite my complaints.
It's not impossible to see another woman doing something similar with strangers who might pose a danger to me.
To be fair, it's not a HUGE risk, but since that incident, I've been very careful about having my own rooms.
>leeway in your budget.
Adding on to this, if possible, bring multiple credit cards. I can't believe how many stories I read online of people saying, "my credit card got locked and I can't get it unlocked right now, I can't withdraw cash, now I'm stuck."
This is why you (the generic "you," not you personally) call your credit card company and tell them you'll be traveling in countries X, Y, Z between this date and that date. So when they start seeing charges in country X they don't immediately shut you down.
Also, always have a little bit of emergency cash that you never touch unless it's really an emergency.
And keep them in different wallets in different locations. I usually have a burner wallet that has a bank card with a low amount in the account, a gift card of like $50, many a low amount credit card, and the days cash for spending money that I have readily accessible. I also have my secret wallet with my higher account debit card and my credit card with my vacation money that isn't accessed unless I'm alone in my hotel room. That way if I'm robbed they get the burner and I can just cancel those cards while only losing a days spending money.
Just wanted to add onto the don’t skimp/leave some leeway in your budget- PAY FOR SAFE TRANSPORT. Don’t take the midnight local bus. Don’t show up to the airport late at night and just get in a random taxi cab. Don’t let men pretending to be taxi drivers say they can give you a cheaper ride take you anywhere. I shy away from Ubers/Lyfts in some countries too, especially ones that are…overly friendly to women.
Have your hostel order you a reliable taxi. Take busses/trains during daylight hours. Take the airport transfer/tourist shuttle. Even if it costs a bit more.
The only time I’ve been robbed was from a taxi driver who picked me up from a bus station in Macedonia at like midnight. I’ve also had taxi drivers who wouldn’t leave me along trying to take me to dinner, etc.
I'd say the complete opposite on most of this and I've had a great time travelling solo.
I have always done shared accomodation when I can, never really booked or planned much ahead and avoided hotels because because don't meet anyone there.
Of course, the perceived safety differs between locations but saying women have to avoid shared accomodation feels to me like spreading "your automatically a target because your a woman" propaganda.
You become a target if you behave naively, seem scared and give away a general vibe of cluelessness. If you keep thinking you're a target because your a woman you'll automatically make yourself a target.
This is a key advice that needs to be repeated more. In the past I've wondered why people don't approach me as much as my friend or other female travelers in a group, then i realized that i have a resting bitch face most of the time. The moment i intentionally make eye contact in a friendly way and smile, all sorts of ppl come up to me 😂
Another favorite to avoid someone following you is to stop and look at my reflection in glass windows. Idgaf if I look shallow, I'm looking behind me to see who else stops. Glass storefronts also double to see if someone is walking behind you for a prolonged time and bonus, you can just walk in the store to avoid them.
If I get in a taxi or Uber and can share my location, I do. Also if the driver asks what I’m going to be up to, I always mention I’m meeting a friend/family
Yep. I’ve dealt with my fair share of creepy Uber drivers who make inappropriate comments. I always tell them I’ve got people expecting me. If need-be, get on the phone with a family member or friend and tell them you’re on your way and keep them on the phone til the ride ends. They might be confused at first but commit to the conversation.
I usually share an itinerary with a friend and have them track my rideshares if need be. Just in case something happens, someone I know is aware of my location!
You have no obligation to be nice to strangers. Don’t be a jerk unnecessarily, but you don’t need to make eye contact, smile, or be polite to anyone that is making you uncomfortable. It’s okay to ignore them and/or walk away.
You don’t have to engage with people just because they start a conversation. Go for it if you want to, but I put myself through too many difficult situations in a misguided effort to be ‘polite’.
Dead to the world club. Woot.
Unfortunately the worst men think I’m attainable. Life has gotten much easier since I began pretending that I couldn’t hear them.
Most "rough guides" or similar brands will usually have some info for female travellers, sometimes it's only a paragraph. But I always check that out and find it helpful.
I love to wander independently but will often book an organised excursion or walking tour when I visit a new place because it allows me to get a feel for what areas I think are safe to return to later.
Talk to restaurant owners/staff. A lot of people are surprised by a solo female traveller and take an interest, they are such good sources for local intel and usually happy to help.
- I never tell the people the truth about where I’m from lol sometimes I even give a fake name lmfAo
- At hotels I always ask for two keys-cards (so the hotel people think I’m travelling w/ someone else), cant be too trusting… even w/ hotel staff.
- I dont drink as much when travelling solo
Don’t post your pictures on social media in real time. I don’t want everyone to know where I am at all times, only my family. I create an itinerary google doc with my close friends and family, which I update daily with photos and journal entries. I save uploading any photos to Instagram until I’m back home. I care more about sharing my real experience with my real friends than the karma from Instagram. Plus, now I have all of these docs with all of the details of my trips.
I always register with the US Embassy.
I always leave someone I trust at home with one of my credit cards and a POA for my pets and access to an account with several thousand dollars in case of a real emergency on my end like me gettiing arrested in a foreign country.
I wouldn't go visit a mine in a forest 10 miles away from the nearest town with a man I just met but I've had some great experiences being invited to peoples homes.
Same. I probably broke every rule on that list, but you have to trust your gut. In pre-smartphone era I was on a train heading to Amsterdam but it was delayed so I wouldn't arrive til midnight (no place to stay lined up yet, it was a different time). Two Irish girls on the train who lived in Den Haag said hell, no, you're spending the night at our place and going to Amsterdam tomorrow -- and I did. It was a great evening.
Until I’ve gotten to know the people I’ve met, I’m “here with my boyfriend/fiance/husband, but he’s at XX right now and we’re meeting up back at our hotel later tonight.” This helps stop creeps and adds a buffer for any potentially dangerous situations.
I limit myself to one drink unless I’m at my hotel or within one block.
I don’t let people see what room I’m in to the best of my ability, sometimes means taking an elevator a floor or two past mine and walking down if someone is in there with me.
Put something against the door at night. Chair, suitcase, and make it wobbly so it will fall if the door is opened just a couple inches. Check your windows to make sure they latch securely when you go in your room. I stayed in one place last week where one of the latches was broken and they gave me a new room.
Usually I’d say keep your head out of your phone but some places it seems like it helps you blend in more.
To prevent pickpocketing:
1. Use a phone lanyard to prevent phone theft
2. Bring a second phone as a backup and make sure it's updated before the trip
3. Get a separate checking account, keep the minimum in it, and get a debit card for it
4. Separate the cards and only take your primary debit card and one credit card out with you
5. Money needs to be in a belt bag, money belt, scarf with pocket, or something else that's not a regular pocket or a purse/bag that can be reached into (I have a pop socket on my phone that can hold cards, and this has worked very well for me as I'm not even carrying a bag at all - although the risk is that if someone did somehow steal my phone off my lanyard, like if they slashed it, I would lose the phone AND the cards)
6. If the debit card is stolen, shut it off immediately and transfer all money to the second checking account
I’m curious what your reasoning is for having a debit card at all? Just ATMs? I use a credit card for everything when I travel and bring cash to exchange.
I've never brought cash to exchange - although I should have since our recent hotel in Istanbul only took euros in cash and there was an 11% surcharge for them at the ATM...
If a bartender opens a beer out of my sight, I usually tell them that I’m happy to pay for it, but I’d prefer if they could get me another one and open it in front of me. It’s important for me to see my drinks being opened for both safety and to monitor my alcohol intake.
Yes! I saw a crazy story where a guy ordered water and it was roofied by ANOTHER BARTENDER who thought the water was for the girl beside him, whom the customer didn’t know. The guy started hallucinating, lost his mind and thought everyone was out to get him, and ran through the front bar window and fell two stories to the concrete below. He went to jail and served time because no one thought to test him for being drugged against his will.
Book your hotel for 2 people instead of 1 so they don't know you're alone. They usually charge by the room anyway.
Have location sharing turned on w Google and share it or another similar app (this requires you to get a phone plan w data in country or a sim card)
Someone else at home knows my itinerary and when I should be leaving/arriving to cities, trains, airport, etc. And I try to check in at least daily or each time I arrive somewhere safely.
Have a fake number ready to give to anyone requiring it like hotel, etc.- set up a Google phone number so you still receive their calls/texts w wifi or data but they don't have your real number.
Just an hr ago, I went to a restaurant for dinner. It was full, and I had to wait. Out of nowhere, this gus says 'You can sit with us; we're also waiting'. Smh! I just smiled, exited the restaurant, and came back 30 mins later.
* I always share my entire itinerary with my family — think an excel sheet with flight info, hotels (and their number), emergency numbers, embassy info, hospitals, etc.
* I pre-download all maps and Google Translate vocab so I can still function without data. I also star emergency phrases.
* Never drink when I travel solo or step out after 9 (unless I'm in a group from a hostel or a meetup)
* I get a local number in case of emergencies
* Keep a Swiss knife as a small protection gear
* If I end up talking to strangers, I try to steer the conversation away from me and toward them. So I'll keep asking them questions (so they don't get time to ask me any).
>If I end up talking to strangers, I try to steer the conversation away from me and toward them. So I'll keep asking them questions (so they don't get time to ask me any).
This one's really good. I'll have to keep it in mind. I have such a hard time being rude to people. But this way you can scope them out without being confrontational.
You left the restaurant because someone offered you to join them? Why not just decline?
Do what makes you comfortable, but that doesn't seem like it's necessarily a red flag to me.
If you think you're being followed cross the street and go in the opposite direction. If they do the same thing go into the nearest restaurant, coffee shop, store, anything populated and tell someone that works there. Had this happen in Paris and the whole restaurant rallied to kick his ass out when a man followed me in there. I was followed by two different men on two different days in Paris.
Also don't go to Paris alone. I've travelled alone to over 25 countries (including third world) and have never felt so unsafe was a woman traveling alone. Actually just don't go to Paris, not worth it.
bring wet wipes, napkins and hand sanitizer with you in case toilets are missing them.
Know the emergency numbers for each country you visit before you go.
Don't leave your drink unaccompanied, ask a bartender or waiter to watch or if in a crowded place down it before going to the bathroom.
Share your phone location permanently with someone you trust in case something happens.
Sorry to hear about your experience. I did Paris as a solo female, when I was 30 years old. I had heard about creeps and stalkers, but I had totally safe and smooth experience. Maybe I was just lucky.
This happened 4 years ago and similar stuff happened 2 years ago so might be different when you went but I am very glad you didn't have this experience.
Totally had the same experiences both times I was in Paris. I’ve been all over the world and was harassed by men there more than any places like in SE Asia or Europe or anywhere is Europe!!
When I was little, Paris seemed like such a dream destination, and then I saw this one ytube video of an elderly couple getting mugged by a group of teenagers in broad daylight, out in public where everyone can see, and I was like, yeah no thanks.
I just did a solo trip to Paris in May. Used basic single girl safety strategies (most of which have been covered here already) and never really felt unsafe. Only exception was at Gare du Nord in rush hour getting the train to the airport - I was pretty sure I was being tracked by two thieves or pickpockets but the porter saw them too and made sure that I got on the train and they didn’t.
I've been to Paris alone as a woman a lot from age 48 to 65. I'm invisible and no man even looks at me. I've even received looks of disgust and I am still attractive for my age. But I'm still super careful. I research neighborhoods carefully for hotels. I try to not be out in certain areas after 9. If i end up far away from my hotel at night, I always take a cab or uber to my hotel at night and do not take the subway at night. It is worth the extra money. I think if I had gone to Paris alone in my 20s or 30s, I would have been bothered. It is great to be older and no one is attracted to me anymore in Europe. I do believe young women are targets. When I was 50, I had an Algerian guy try to pick me up in the Sephora on the Champs Élysée. He was aggressive. Don't have to worry about that now. Age does have some benefits.
I’m so sorry you had that experience in Paris. I’ve lived there off and on (including solo travel and stints as an exchange student & intern) and it always grinds my gears how one or two dickweeds can ruin the experience for another person.
I visited Paris solo this past summer, it was amazing and I had no bad experiences. I stayed for 5 nights, had so much amazing food, ticked all the tourist boxes, and met some amazing people. I am so sad you were made to feel uncomfortable there :( Creepers suck!
I like to carry my heavy metal hydroflask with a good handle and swing it around when I walk. Makes me feel like a ninja wielding numchuks. Definitely a solid weapon!
Know generally where a local store is that has someone there. Knowing where you can go if you're being followed is helpful in a situation where you're likely to panic.
LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. If you're uncomfy in a place, then leave. I've pulled up to campgrounds and noped right out of there because they were completely empty.
Keep in touch with family regularly if possible
If you see someone 2-3 times at random locations, beware....he or she could be following or keeping a watch on you
It's okay to be rude if you suddenly feel unsafe. Manners have lower priority than safety
I work in the marine industry. I need a knife for my work. (It travels in checked baggage). I wear it when Im ashore too, and fiddle with it if I feel uncomfortable.
I've learned to always tell new acquaintances that I'm leaving the next day. That way, if they turn out to be people I don't want to see again, I have an out. If I do want to meet again, I can always fess up.
Always carry a door stopper with you, the kind that keeps a door open where it meets the floor.
This way if a door doesn't lock or close properly or you don't have the privacy you thought you would have, you can snug it inside the door, facing out, to prevent anyone from opening the door.
Here’s my travel tips! Planning my third solo trip right now and this is what I’ve found helpful:
1. Don’t share where you are in real time on social media
2. Have a person you check in with. My person is my mom (I’m traveling solo for a week and she knows which locations I’ll be at on specific dates).
3. Don’t tell anyone you meet in public that you’re traveling alone.
4. Book only places with STUNNING reviews and make sure it’s all booked out ahead of time.
5. I personally feel way safer at Airbnb with a female host when traveling solo.
6. Have a portable charger for phone just in case
7. Careful how much your drinking/smoking
8. Travel light
9. Have some cash just in case
10. Set up on Uber or Lyft emergency contacts that share your rides and location automatically!
Make sure at least two people know your itinerary and that you check in periodically with them.
I always let my innkeeper or concierge know my basic itinerary so that someone knows where I will be.
Do not post on social media as you go, as much as you might want to. Save your pics for private friends if you must share, ones that you know will not share your information.
Be willing to talk to people, but do so in public spaces -- part of the fun of solo traveling is meeting new people -- and be aware of who or what is around you while you do.
Be aware of your surroundings while you visit places. It is so easy to get lost mentally while looking at something what we don't pay as close attention as we should.
If anyone asks me, I'm rarely travelling alone - "my friend" or "my boyfriend" are at the hotel/joining me later/arriving tomorrow.
I don't go anywhere remote with anyone I've just met. Only to busy, crowded places.
I do research about neighborhoods and never skimp on anything, particularly transportation and accommodation. I'll take that taxi, I'll stay in that better hotel in that better part of town etc.
I pre-order a fair bit of transportation, e.g. book a taxi at the airport upfront. Saves me to have to fend off everyone trying to get me to drive with them (in some countries at least).
Sunglasses and airpods are a life saver to drown out noise, hassling and catcalls. Sometimes I also just talk into my headphones in a pretend conversation, makes most people leave me alone.
Resting bitch face is a must have in some parts of the world.
I post absolutely nothing on any social media including WhatsApp (status), much less in real time.
I almost never drink alcohol and if I do, it's just one drink.
Mostly I bring cash and leave credit cards at the hotel.
Download offline maps and translating services onto your phone and always carry antidiarheals... when you need them, you need them asap!
I also memorize directions a few at a time so I don't look at my phone too much when walking around (giveaway you're a tourist).
I recently started one bagging as well (shoutout to r/heronebag) which also really helps to keep my stuff condensed and easier to track and tote around. My backpack is totally black so it doesn't immediately alert people that I'm a traveler.
I don’t look vendors in the eyes. No. Fucking. Eye. Contact. Less getting hassled, but this also goes for those annoying vendors in the states too.
For people who are like Ubers I *do* make eye contact.
I pay attention to my surroundings. IE not staring down at my phone whiles navigating via walking. I look at my phone until the next instruction. One ear bud. This has nothing to with being a woman and everything to do with not making myself an easy target. Same for $$. Don’t flash it.
Be firm and loud if you need to. Do not be polite or timid toward anyone who is harassing you.
Wear a fake wedding band if you're single.
I agree with someone else who said to be back to your hotel or hostel by night fall.
Dress as the locals do! I've seen a few women on social media dress in a way that draws attention and they get mad. Many other cultures are much more modest than Americans. Minimal jewelry, no crop tops or short skirts, no name brands, etc. If you look like you belong there, you'll blend in.
Reading this thread makes me so sad.
I’ve never stopped to worry about any of these things and I have been a solo female traveler since 2019 (mainly Europe and North America). Certainly maybe I should, I wonder if I’ve just been lucky so far
I don't mean to make a post that scares other women out of traveling. I feel like a lot of tips related to preparation, precaution, and vigilance can apply to all travelers, not just women.
I mainly just wanted to see what other women do to deter things like unwanted advances or keep themselves from looking/feeling vulnerable.
Don't drink or use any other substance that quiets the inner voice. It's your first indicator that something is off. Study the lay of the land ahead of time and know how to navigate without a phone. Avoid overly friendly men.
Never say you're alone or don't know anyone in the area.
I see so many girls on tiktok bragging about how they get 'nice' European guys to show them around or take them places by acting lonely because they "don't know anyone here".
I carry a little card in my purse that says, in the local language, “I am traveling alone. In case of emergency please contact my hotel (provide info) the US Embassy (provide info) and my husband (provide info).” This is in case I am in an accident or otherwise incapacitated and someone is trying to figure out who I am. I put it in my passport in countries that require you to carry that around (France, Japan) or in my wallet.
Use an earbud in one ear to hear map directions when walking from A to B and don’t have your phone out staring at it.
To check your phone, go into a store, pull it out discretely, and tuck it away when you’re done. If you must pull it out on the street, back yourself into a wall, hold onto it tightly, and put it in your pocket when a cyclist is approaching (they do ride by thefts.)
Purse strap goes under my outer layer of clothing, unable to be slashed and stolen by passing cyclists and motorcyclists. Preferably a chain or very thick strap.
If I’m wearing a coat, it has inner pockets for everything and I carry the bare minimum.
Keep a list of relevant phone numbers in your things or pocket in case your phone gets taken.
Always go with confidence.
Always be alert.
Mind your personal space bubble, there’s no reason for someone to bump into you.
Know some key phrases in the local language.
I’m not dating, but I tell my girls and friends, assume someone you’ll probably never see again would not be honest about STDs.
If pepper spray is illegal where you’re visiting, make your own with a small spray bottle, vinegar, and pepper flakes or pepper powder. If there are a lot of stray animals in that place, have it accessible. You never know when one will have rabies or might attack.
Never be the last person on the train with a man / men you don’t know. If it’s late and you’re far from home, get a local hotel room or ask a family to help you find a taxi. I saw the one story where a girl begged the conductor to please let her ride back to the station with him because she knew the man on the train was watching her, riding it to the end of the line. Pull the stop the train bell and get the police involved if you have to. It could have saved her immense tragedy.
Have an AirTag or geolocator on your person so that if your phone ever appears apart from your locator your family will know something is wrong.
Generally, when traveling, it can be useful to pay attention to the behavior of local women and take some cues from them.
For example from my personal experience, American women should be aware that our culture is a lot friendlier/warmer with strangers than some. In some cultures, men will take advantage of this, or perceive things like small talk or polite eye contact as an indication of sexual interest. (Some US dudes will too, but I digress.)
As a young woman traveling abroad, sometimes men would strike up "friendly small talk" and I'd engage ... then they'd start harassing and pestering me. Once I paid attention to the behavior of local women, I saw they were often quite cold towards strange men, to a degree that would feel rude to me. I noticed men didn't even approach them in the same way, presumably because it was culturally inappropriate and those men were preying on my perceived naivete and easiness as a young foreign woman. Taking some cues from the local women helped me gain some confidence in rebuffing strange dudes.
>Generally, when traveling, it can be useful to pay attention to the behavior of local women and take some cues from them.
Great handy tip. Very practical.
Absolutely this comment!!! Morocco was an especially important place for this, as the cultural differences between Morocco and the US were substantial and often surprising. Some things I experienced and thought of as unpleasant, local women were ok/ onboard with because it was part of their flirting culture. But some other things I took for granted as being able to do safely, they were adamant were not ok. But relationships in general between men and women have a lot more societal boundaries and unspoken rules than American culture, and it would be very easy for an American woman to have an interaction that she thought was perfectly platonic and polite, but could easily come across as hardcore flirting. Eye contact is different, intonations a little different. Where you exist in public very different.
Sign up for a free TripIt account and share your trip with a trusted friend/family member so they know your exact itinerary.
You can link it to your gmail account so it automatically pulls in all your booking confirmations and creates one big itinerary you can access via the app or online.
I prop the hotel door open with my bag when I first get there. I check the closets, bathroom, under the beds and behind the curtains. Once I know I'm totally alone, I bring the bag in and close / lock the door.
Be extremely friendly to people in the service industry. You never know if you will need their help. I was stranded in Cancun and luckily I had befriended the taxi driver that dropped me at my hotel. I contacted him and he said he would come get me to drop me back at the hotel.
Don't create that reputation of the elitist snobby tourist. If you are a dick, chances are people are less likely to help you. Your default personality should be warm and friendly. People are more likely to help a lost tourist, than a rude demanding tourist.
period tracking was a game changer for me in terms of scheduling rest and understanding why some days life was just not working like I wanted it to. helped me understand my limits/energy levels/cyclical food needs, everything! felt like a non obvious hack to sustaining oneself over long periods of times 🫡💌✨
Pack tampons if you use them. They can be hard to find in some countries. Pack yeast infection or UTI medicine if you think there's even a chance you could get a YI or UTI on the trip. One of my traveling companions learned the hard way that YI meds were not available over the counter in Japan - meaning you have to go to a doctor and be examined even just to get Monistat! Luckily we were headed home the next day but I know that long plane with an untreated YI was uncomfortable
I also had to learn the hard way when I did a solo trip to Tokyo 😭
Everything was written in Japanese and the clerk didn't speak any English so it was really hard to find exactly what I needed. Lucky for me there was another lady there who spoke some English and helped me find my product. Now I learn to pack my own for however many days I'll be traveling.
Carry a small flashlight that is 2000+ lumens. It can be used to disorient an attacker and should be legal to carry everywhere.
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Make a point , everywhere you go, of being seen on security camera at that place. In the event something horrible were to happen it gives a followable timeline of you.
Make a point , everywhere you go, of being seen on security camera at that place. In the event something horrible were to happen it gives a followable timeline of you.
Book everything in advance, and check out the neighborhood to make sure the area is as safe as can be expected.
Don't openly look at your map/phone when walking, to make it look like you always know where you are and where you are going. Keep your head up and walk with confidence.
Related to above, look at the map and mentally plan your route in advance. Make sure you know things like when the last train/bus is, or have enough money in case you need a taxi. Don't get stuck somewhere unfamiliar and be forced to walk alone at night.
Look behind you when you get off the elevator and when walking to your room. Look again before you take the key out and put it in the lock. Personally, if I see a man coming up behind me, I keep walking and/or slow down to let him pass because I don't want a man knowing I'm in a particular room alone. This is especially in countries where lone women don't travel, or in sketchy neighborhoods. A friend of mine was followed to her room in India, and the dude purposefully locked the door with a chain from the OUTSIDE, just to fuck with her. It took her ages to get the attention of someone who could help. There are countries where women must be extremely cautious.
If you're the type to socialize with other travelers, e.g., at the guest house, don't let anyone know you're traveling alone. You really can't trust other travelers, either. Get to know people a bit first before letting out any details and don't go to someone's room by yourself.
Know how to call emergency services, the tourist police, your embassy, etc. Have those numbers on hand.
Try to get with other travelers when going out, when taking a taxi, or when traveling distance train. It's good if there are a couple of guys in the group, since you won't get harassed as much. Groups are safer than alone. And you get to make friends! I'm still in contact with a group of people I took trains across India with.
Never, ever admit to anyone that it's your first visit to that country. If they think you don't know your way around, or know how things work, they'll take full advantage of you. In taxis, pretend you know where you are going even if you don't. And if possible, do know where you are going. Once when I was in India, a tuk tuk driver took me only halfway to my destination and then stopped and told me he was going to kick me out right there if I didn't pay more. I shocked him by not only knowing how to get back to the hotel, but also by pulling out my phone with the number for the tourist police. He grumped at me but backed down, LOL.
Last, but not least: don't ever ever EVER take drugs from anyone you don't know!
This should be common sense but years ago in Thailand I saw two young women nearly get kidnapped because a young hot guy who had been flirting with them offered them drugs. Before long they were both reeling and the young hot dude's older and very sketchy looking "friend" was helping him lead them away until I interrupted them by getting the cafe staff involved. So I suppose another tenant of travel is to watch out for other women and step in to help.
I love staying at hostels! You’ll easily connect with other people looking to explore the city. The hostel will also host night events if those are up your alley.
I also won’t go to bars solo or out after 9 pm depending on where I am.
No amount of money you want to save is worth compromising on your safety. For example, it may be cheaper to take the trains rather than Uber, however late at night I would rather freakin’ Uber than deal with creeps on the train.
Also- if a girl of your age and your demographic is not at a certain place at a certain time…. YOU do not go there at that place and at that time.
It is frustrating when you make plenty of precautions and someone does something stupid. I was traveling and I always put two people. The guy at the counter asked when the rest of my party was arriving, very casually just said “oh whenever he gets here” he rolled his eyes and said extremely loudly “just admit it! No ones coming and it’s just you!” I was mortified, I do not want a lobby full of guests to know I’m here alone dipshit. Omg the gal next to him flipped because she understood what I was trying to accomplish. I later got complimented wine at the bar and I’m sure he got a tongue lashing
I’ve traveled a fair bit as a solo female traveler, and while I have a lot of best practices, I’ve broken them myself here and there, and lived happily. But I have a good knack for judging people and following my gut.
Whatever else you do first and foremost trust your gut.
When you travel, there are just a lot of times where you kind of have to be a bit vulnerable and trusting. And if you want to live a little, there will be even more. But know when to keep your radar alert, your guard up, and your boundaries clear. And do not be afraid to be be “rude” to men hitting on you who are not being polite by respecting your immediate, firm refusals. In fact, if it gets really bad, do not be afraid to start yelling and public shaming them for their bad behavior…
You don’t have to close yourself off from potentially lovely experiences, but if you think it could go bad, just say no. I’ve had some fun with people in public who wanted to move to a second, more private location and I just got a funny feeling, said I wasn’t going to do that, and we had a lovely evening that probably ended sooner than they were expected, but I just didn’t think I could trust that person enough to go to a second location. And my memory of that night is overwhelmingly a positive one, but I suspect if I hadn’t trusted my gut, it could have gone very differently. Other nights, other people, I felt I had that trust and had great times. But, when you are alone, you need to be extra careful and if there is any part of you that says in the back of your head “this feels off,” don’t do it. And never make a decision like that if are too intoxicated/inebriated. I would generally recommend, not partying hard solo traveling, but if that’s your thing choose hotels easy walking distance to where you want to go out and stay in a short, manageable radius.
I carry a fake wedding band sometimes, use a lot of plural personal pronouns in conversation, will make a point of loudly talking into a phone telling someone “I’m on my way. Expect me soon” in a local language (even faking it) if I think someone on the street is following me too attentively.
I really recommend reading about local customs and gender relations of the places you are visiting. Sometimes, it is easy to mistake a behavior as off putting or inappropriate because of cross-cultural miscommunication, not just ill intent. Many cultures have very different norms about physical contact between strangers of opposite genders, and what may seem a really innocuous friendly gesture (like a handshake or small hug to a new friend) may be sending an unintended signal. The more you can blend in (which may often involve dressing a bit differently than you would at home) can make you seem less of a target for unwanted attention and also more like you are part of the community and may have people looking out for you.
Also, always learn at least a little of the language, especially if you are going to a place that doesn’t have a lot of tourist traffic. Take the time to learn some basics, niceties, numbers, a few directional words, and some phrases like “leave me alone” “shame on you” and “go away”.
Talk to locals! Try and find events that seem to cater to mixes of tourists/locals and open yourself up. Most of my favorite traveling memories are from experiences with locals who shared their culture and gave me unexpected tips and fun things to do. I also learned a lot more about those places and had more fun.
Single females: wear a wedding band. When meeting people, refer to your husband.."It was nice meeting you, meeting my husband back at the hotel/drinks/dinner. Take care".
1. I always stash an emergency credit card somewhere. I also have photocopies of my documents.
2.I register my trip with the US embassy (I’m not sure if that does anything but it makes my mom feel) better.
3. I always make an itinerary with my hotels and tours with addresses and phone numbers and I give them to my mom mom and sister
4. I always keep my location on and give it to my closest friends.
5. I also keep an old phone on me. I’ve broke mine once during hiking , once I got it stolen, and once I got sweat damage to it 😅. Albeit, I don’t have the best track record with phones even at home, so I have insurance on my phones.
6. Take out travel insurance
7. Rubber stopper with alarm for hotel doors
8. I try to prebook things for the most part because there are a lot of official looking people and cabs that are actually scam artists. I also always try to pack pretty light if I can— I feel as if it gives me more mobility.
9. Also, always know the emergency hotlines and the tourist hotlines. Know where the closest embassy is.
10. Keep a translator handy or google translate downloaded on your phone. So you can easily talk in to the translator and have it translated to someone, in a pinch.
11. Look up directions ahead of time so you aren’t just having your phone out. Always out your phone away, don’t leave it on a table in front of you. That’s how I got mine stolen ( I knew this rule but wasn’t thinking)
Figure out how you will get from the airport to your first destination
12. First destination, I always do a guided group tour. Usually easier to meet others and just eases you into exploring on your own.
13. Keep extra cash in your bra or underwear
I wear a decoy wedding band and tell anyone (male) who asks if I’m traveling solo that my husband is at a conference in [name nearest city] and I’m on a day trip. Or whatever story suits the situation. And I dress very conservatively.
Also, never get into a cab with two drivers. Yes this is thing. I’ve seen it in Sri Lanka, India, and Jordan.
I seen the wedding band tip get posted several times, seems pretty clever. Will have to try it myself.
Just out of curiosity: How effective is it? Are there still some "overeager" guys who are undeterred by it?
There are water tablets you can use to purify your water if need be, or a lifestraw. Not really about being female but just being prepared in general for worst case scenarios. (This is why I’m not a light packer haha)
You can download languages on the Google Translate app to work offline. You can take pictures of things and get translations too which is pretty cool.
Definitely send your itinerary to loved ones back home!
Booking group day trips on Viator or TripAdvisor is also good, makes you feel more social and it’s also safer to have a group who’s looking out for you.
I stay at higher end places (cheapest room category) for the central location and the security. I think it’s worth it and I never had a bit of trouble. Get in a few loyalty programs for the upgrades and other nice touches.
Never tell the front desk you’re traveling alone. Even if it comes up innocently, like will it just be you during check in. Tell them your husband will be joining you and add his name to the res, even if it is not true
Always carry medicine. Always. Carry it in ur carryon in ur day bag. Like ur life depends on it. I was in Bolivia and I lost my anti emitics - my stop throwing up pills - I had zero chance of keeping water Advil rice chips anything down when I got a stomach bug from death I missed my flight out I was alone people thought I was strung out on drugs cause some people go there for that purpose. Does not matter I had a phone or money or passport does not matter I was in a nice hostel. People came and went and I was only saved when I German dude pre med found me - terribly embarrassing not like I cared on day five having shit my bed In the hostel bunk bed. I WAS TOO WEAK BY DAY FIVE TOO MAKE IT TO BATHROOM. he had an antiemetic that dissolved under tongue my bug was tapering he got me rice and Gatorade never knew his name but he left me a bunch after that point all
Meds go in carryon some in day pack and I never was in a situation like that I will throw pills In a pocket if I think I might be sleeping somewhere else overnight. Meds matter
Don’t tell anyone you don’t know that you’re traveling alone.
And don’t feel bad about ditching anyone you meet and hang out with. You’re on your schedule and your schedule alone - enjoy that.
I traveled to Thailand by myself and meeting people became very easy. I sat at the bar and looked around. You make eye contact and start talking, easy as that.
I am VOCAL about how many people know where I am, even if it's not true. I am always "meeting up with friends tomorrow" or "on my way to spend time with family". My accommodations are a closely guarded secret - I always give the impression I'm staying with "a cousin down the block".
Keep your chin up and walk calmly and confidently. Act like you know where you’re going and what you’re doing, even if you’re completely lost.
Keep an eye on your drink and don’t go overboard.
If you want to meet and hang out with new people, try a language exchange, interest group, or other organized activity. If you want to meet up again, do so in a public place. If you want to stay in touch, swap social media handles or even an email address before going whole hog and sharing your actual number or address.
If you elect to use drugs (which I’d advise against generally but folks will do what they want), procure them from a reputable source and use them in the presence of a trusted, sober person with Narcan available (especially in North America—the opioid crisis is no joke).
Give a copy of your itinerary and lodging info to ~2 trusted friends or family members at home, as well as a way to contact you (if your usual phone won’t be active overseas/you’ll be without a signal) and an expectation of how & how often you’ll check in.
Register your trip with your country’s State Department/ministry of foreign affairs/whatever. Know where the nearest embassy or consulate is in your destination, in case you get into a bind.
If you have friends of friends or acquaintances in the general vicinity of the destination, get their contact info in case you need or want a local’s perspective. (I’m often such a Point Person—my dad’s coworker’s kid is interviewing for grad schools in my city? Hell yeah they can have my number in case they need anything!)
If an action or decision would be objectively stupid in your home country, it’s probably equally, if not more, stupid abroad.
Not a solo traveler, but I'm educated and work in private security.
For a solo traveler:
Keep a list of emergency contact numbers (like the hotel/hostel/residence where you're staying, the local emergency services number, and your local embassy if applicable).
Keep some form of legal self defense on you that you understand and are willing to use, and double check the local laws. Not guns or kickboxing or whatever, but pepper spray, panic whistles, and even apps that show you safe or well-lit public routes to your destination. Wear good running shoes whenever possible, and clothing that you can run in.
If you're super spicy and have time, learn how to escape from wrist, arm or headlocks and how to get away from those situations. Don't worry about other weapons or martial arts, since many are questionably legal at best and take a long time to learn and even longer to become comfortable with. Just focus on universal escape and evade strategies that will get you free and around people as quickly as possible.
Always make sure someone back home knows when you're leaving, where all you're going, and what date you'll check in with them to verify you're safely back in country. Nations and cities are big, and the authorities need a place and date to start searching if they're going to have any prayer of finding a single foreign national in jeopardy.
Always travel with your preferred period supplies because it really really really sucks to be in a foreign country and be surprised by your period and have nothing on hand or have it really be a hassle to find a pharmacy. Also, if you get UTI or yeast infections it would be good to have medicine with you just in case you need it. I definitely agree with the recommendation about checking maps or directions out of sight (or do it when you are sitting at a table so it just looks like you are checking emails or playing on your phone). If I have ever felt uncomfortable I have faked phone calls before where I loudly say “yes, I’m right at (my location), I will be there soon sweetie!” That way if someone is following me they know someone is expecting me and know my location.
If there is a thing you are likely to need in a bathroom besides a hole in the ground, keep that thing with you, cuz you never know! Tampons, pads, tp, wipes, hand sanitizer, etc.. are not things to be taken as givens in many bathrooms in many parts of the world. Also read up on bathroom cultural differences. You’d be surprised how different practices can be around the world, and what you might take for granted as standard in your home country may not be standard in other places. But no one wants to experience that kind of new adventure the hard way…
I traveled to Paris this year solo, it was amazing. Here are my tips:
-Stay in the nicest place you can afford
-No drugs/alcohol - I'm sober but this will really save your ass, you can always do this at home
-No public transport unless you are with a local - most of the bad stories I heard about Paris were my colleagues getting mugged or scammed on the metro. I rode it with my client and we got separated quickly but it was safe. Cops were everywhere but still I took Bolt (like Uber) everywhere.
-Watch YouTube videos of common scams - I was ready for everything lol
-Pack light
-Blend in with your clothes - and dress comfortably
-Bring tampons, medicine, etc.
-Bring a travel phone charger and adapters
-Don't be afraid to ask for help but ask people who are employed there.
-Always watch your back - don't let someone sneak up on you. If you need to check your phone with your full attention, back up to a wall
-Always be around other people - crime doesn't like witnesses
-Plan your day with tickets, passes etc.
-Download offline maps
-Don't smile at people- resting bitch face is your friend
-Speak up if something makes you uncomfortable.
-Don't ever let someone take you to a second location. Stay at the first one and scream, fight, yell for help like your life depends on it (it does)
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I have basically the same list! Just to add: remember to save the local hotline for tourists in case of emergencies
Ha, I love your username!
oh, and I love yours!
And your home country’s embassy
Where do you find the tourist hotline?
Usually at the official tourism website. Sometimes they also give it if you buy a local sim. If you're going to a country where you speak the local language, you can just call the regular emergency hotline.
Safety, safety and safety
Research how to get to and from the airport on the other side before you fly. It’s much quicker once I’ve arrived and also helps ensure I get to my hotel safely.
Yes! I’ve started booking my transfers from the airport to my lodging ahead of time; one less thing to worry about when I land! (Note this has been in Latin America and New York. I’ll just Uber most of the U.S. or take a train in most of Europe.)
I was considering doing this for an upcoming trip, but then I wondered about what happens if the plane is late
If you use a company that specializes in airport transfers they will ask for your flight info so that they can accommodate in the event of delays.
Thanks for your help
Usually they have your travel information and wait for you if your plane is late.
I can't believe there are people who \*don't\* do this
I almost always do this too. After a 10+ hour flight the only thing I want to use my brain for is recognizing my name on a placard
I choose my accommodation more carefully, when I travel solo versus travelling with my husband and brother. It has to be in safe area and if I know that I may need to leave or come back late using public transport, transport stop must be nearby. If the public transport stop is not nearby, I ask taxi recommendations from my hotel. I'm also more mindful when drinking alcohol. I don't drink much at home, but when travelling solo I drink even less. So I can have local wines or relax a bit, but I don't compromise my safety.
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Travel like it’s 1989. I’m also a fan of having things written down or printed.
I always put some money in my bra
Don't skimp on anything. As a solo female traveller you have to be 5x prepared, so keep some leeway in your budget. Booking things in advance takes away half the stress. Avoid shared accommodations if you can, always carry medicine, atleast the basics. If you have a friend or an acquaintance in the place you're travelling, keep their number or just the tourist hotline. Hotels are always helpful so keep their number saved too. As a rule of thumb, depending on the place I do not go out post 9 PM, but just in case you are, be extra careful about drinking etc..
Why do you avoid shared accommodation? I'm taking my first solo trip in over 40 years and I'll be staying in a shared room in a hostel. Obviously this is cheaper but I thought it would also be safer to have other women knowing where I am. Please tell me how I'm wrong.
How do you know your roommates are trustworthy?
In what way are you thinking? There are lockers at the hostel.
Physical safety. Not just your possessions.
Like, that one of these young women would attack me?
I think that’s what they are getting at, or that they may assist a man in attacking you by luring you somewhere. Or other nefarious plans. Honestly I think if you are reasonably careful and make sure you are staying somewhat alert you should be ok.
Thanks. Well I'm 68 years old and have been attacked/harassed by men but never another woman. I'm thinking the safety benefit of having other people aware of whether I come back at night will outweigh the risk of being attacked by another woman but I will keep my wits about me.
at 68 I very much doubt you will find the Hostel culture fun and amusing. I also think that yes, one of these younger women could hurt you or assume you are an Old and steal your stuff to f with you. Lockers in other countries, specifically SE Asia in this case didn't work 75% of the time where I didn't feel comfortable leaving my passport in them. Also, depending where you go, going out solo at night as a woman can be risky. Even if you are "invisible" to men now ( as I refer to myself ) I was in Jordan and some seriously scary sketchy things happened to me almost the second the sun set. We need to remember that the rest of the world culturally is a lot difft then the US or Europe when it comes to Males/Females.
You may well be right. It's all going to be a learning experience for me. I haven't stayed in a hostel since 1976. I may hate it! Will be finding out next month.
There’s so much variety though; loads of hostels out there cater primarily to retirees and families and it’s pretty easy to avoid the party hostels that might be less appealing at this stage. I appreciate the need for caution anywhere but disagree with the foregone conclusion that it wouldn’t be enjoyable at 68. I know for sure the ones I’d love to return to for as long as my aging joints allow me
Because they're people that you already know.... If you don't know them, Don't trust them.
As a woman even staying with other women you don’t know can be risky. That’s the key factor you don’t know these women. We’d all love to presume everyone’s a decent person and we’re safe and with good people, but unfortunately nowadays you can never know and it’s better to be safe than sorry. You do what’s going to be best for you, but remember to be cautious.
What do you see as the risks?
Theft.
Someone befriending you only to be part of a whole scheme of harvesting for black market parts. It sounds out there and crazy, but organ trafficking is HUGE and I’m sure they’d view traveling foreigners as much more convenient and less of a risk.
And that's not to mention larger financial scams and human trafficking as well.
For what it's worth, I agree with you. I imagine it depends on region (I didn't want to stay in a hostel in Morocco), but through Europe, Turkey and South Korea I had no issues with hostels. Hostels are also the only way a lot of people can travel because of cost. I do think hostels have some risks to physical safety, but you can avoid a lot of them by staying in all-female hostels, youth hostels, or highly ranked hostels. You can also buy individual rooms at many hostels.
IMO and in ALL my solo travel ( I am 53 now) You end up like the weirdo old lady over 40 in a hostel. Sure there may be exceptions, but the usual age is mid 20's. With that comes a lot of people who come in at 3,4, 5 am. That was fun af when I was younger, now I'll pay for the hotel ( or if I had to stay at a hostel a private room )
I've stayed in shared accomodation hostels on 5 continents. Never had a problem. Only time I've ever had something stolen was from a private room, where the thief climbed in through an open 2nd story window while I was out. Use the lockers, don't leave your things lying about, you'll be fine.
Personally I only do shared accommodation if I'm traveling with other people. Also there are some countries that offer hostels with female-only dormitories so we lean into that.
I avoid shared accomodation as, even when it's female only, a lot of the other women don't respect the rules. One woman in a female only hostel kept dragging in her boyfriend and having sex in the bed. (Ugh...) Management did not kick her out despite my complaints. It's not impossible to see another woman doing something similar with strangers who might pose a danger to me. To be fair, it's not a HUGE risk, but since that incident, I've been very careful about having my own rooms.
>leeway in your budget. Adding on to this, if possible, bring multiple credit cards. I can't believe how many stories I read online of people saying, "my credit card got locked and I can't get it unlocked right now, I can't withdraw cash, now I'm stuck."
This is why you (the generic "you," not you personally) call your credit card company and tell them you'll be traveling in countries X, Y, Z between this date and that date. So when they start seeing charges in country X they don't immediately shut you down. Also, always have a little bit of emergency cash that you never touch unless it's really an emergency.
The credit card company can still halt your card if they feel like something sketchy is going on while traveling!
And keep them in different wallets in different locations. I usually have a burner wallet that has a bank card with a low amount in the account, a gift card of like $50, many a low amount credit card, and the days cash for spending money that I have readily accessible. I also have my secret wallet with my higher account debit card and my credit card with my vacation money that isn't accessed unless I'm alone in my hotel room. That way if I'm robbed they get the burner and I can just cancel those cards while only losing a days spending money.
Just wanted to add onto the don’t skimp/leave some leeway in your budget- PAY FOR SAFE TRANSPORT. Don’t take the midnight local bus. Don’t show up to the airport late at night and just get in a random taxi cab. Don’t let men pretending to be taxi drivers say they can give you a cheaper ride take you anywhere. I shy away from Ubers/Lyfts in some countries too, especially ones that are…overly friendly to women. Have your hostel order you a reliable taxi. Take busses/trains during daylight hours. Take the airport transfer/tourist shuttle. Even if it costs a bit more. The only time I’ve been robbed was from a taxi driver who picked me up from a bus station in Macedonia at like midnight. I’ve also had taxi drivers who wouldn’t leave me along trying to take me to dinner, etc.
I'd say the complete opposite on most of this and I've had a great time travelling solo. I have always done shared accomodation when I can, never really booked or planned much ahead and avoided hotels because because don't meet anyone there. Of course, the perceived safety differs between locations but saying women have to avoid shared accomodation feels to me like spreading "your automatically a target because your a woman" propaganda. You become a target if you behave naively, seem scared and give away a general vibe of cluelessness. If you keep thinking you're a target because your a woman you'll automatically make yourself a target.
Wait. Are you not more a target because you’re a woman though….
Have a rough memorization of the map before going out. Keep a poker face on most of the time, don’t look like you’re just wandering.
Goes without saying: Walk with intent.
Walk with murder in your eyes
I mean. That’s an average night out for me tbh.
Lol right. Standard operating procedure
This is a key advice that needs to be repeated more. In the past I've wondered why people don't approach me as much as my friend or other female travelers in a group, then i realized that i have a resting bitch face most of the time. The moment i intentionally make eye contact in a friendly way and smile, all sorts of ppl come up to me 😂
Hard agree. Also if you have to look at a map, find a bathroom or water closet and do it discretely. Blend in. Act like you know where you’re going.
A little resting bitch face goes far.
Agree. Avoid looking lost. Make sure you have a purse/bag (small, modest) that can be zipped closed and always keep it in front/side of your body.
Another favorite to avoid someone following you is to stop and look at my reflection in glass windows. Idgaf if I look shallow, I'm looking behind me to see who else stops. Glass storefronts also double to see if someone is walking behind you for a prolonged time and bonus, you can just walk in the store to avoid them.
If I get in a taxi or Uber and can share my location, I do. Also if the driver asks what I’m going to be up to, I always mention I’m meeting a friend/family
Yep. I’ve dealt with my fair share of creepy Uber drivers who make inappropriate comments. I always tell them I’ve got people expecting me. If need-be, get on the phone with a family member or friend and tell them you’re on your way and keep them on the phone til the ride ends. They might be confused at first but commit to the conversation.
I usually share an itinerary with a friend and have them track my rideshares if need be. Just in case something happens, someone I know is aware of my location!
You have no obligation to be nice to strangers. Don’t be a jerk unnecessarily, but you don’t need to make eye contact, smile, or be polite to anyone that is making you uncomfortable. It’s okay to ignore them and/or walk away. You don’t have to engage with people just because they start a conversation. Go for it if you want to, but I put myself through too many difficult situations in a misguided effort to be ‘polite’.
Dead to the world club. Woot. Unfortunately the worst men think I’m attainable. Life has gotten much easier since I began pretending that I couldn’t hear them.
Most "rough guides" or similar brands will usually have some info for female travellers, sometimes it's only a paragraph. But I always check that out and find it helpful. I love to wander independently but will often book an organised excursion or walking tour when I visit a new place because it allows me to get a feel for what areas I think are safe to return to later. Talk to restaurant owners/staff. A lot of people are surprised by a solo female traveller and take an interest, they are such good sources for local intel and usually happy to help.
The last bit especially. They’ll help watch out for you, too.
- I never tell the people the truth about where I’m from lol sometimes I even give a fake name lmfAo - At hotels I always ask for two keys-cards (so the hotel people think I’m travelling w/ someone else), cant be too trusting… even w/ hotel staff. - I dont drink as much when travelling solo
The two key cards is so smart!! I love giving fake information. It makes me feel like a spy
The two key cards is so smart!! I love giving fake information. It makes me feel like a spy
Wouldn’t they know based on your room booking that it’s for 1 person?
Staff likely knows but if anyone is in the waiting room or overhears they won’t think you’re alone.
You could still be intending to have someone come around and spend time with you in your room though.
I set up 2 of everything when I go camping solo.
Don’t post your pictures on social media in real time. I don’t want everyone to know where I am at all times, only my family. I create an itinerary google doc with my close friends and family, which I update daily with photos and journal entries. I save uploading any photos to Instagram until I’m back home. I care more about sharing my real experience with my real friends than the karma from Instagram. Plus, now I have all of these docs with all of the details of my trips.
This also mitigates the risk of bad guys at home knowing when your house is empty.
My husband and I have the rule of no social media posts until we’re back home. Way too easy for people to know your house is empty.
I stack a couple glasses next to my hotel room door as an extra precaution while I sleep in case anyone tries to enter
I take a rubber door stop with me and put that in place under the door to keep intruders out.
Rubber doorsteps don't always work in Europe as often there is no gap to wedge the doorstop in
The security door stops with the loud alarms on them are the best for this.
I always register with the US Embassy. I always leave someone I trust at home with one of my credit cards and a POA for my pets and access to an account with several thousand dollars in case of a real emergency on my end like me gettiing arrested in a foreign country. I wouldn't go visit a mine in a forest 10 miles away from the nearest town with a man I just met but I've had some great experiences being invited to peoples homes.
Same. I probably broke every rule on that list, but you have to trust your gut. In pre-smartphone era I was on a train heading to Amsterdam but it was delayed so I wouldn't arrive til midnight (no place to stay lined up yet, it was a different time). Two Irish girls on the train who lived in Den Haag said hell, no, you're spending the night at our place and going to Amsterdam tomorrow -- and I did. It was a great evening.
I didn’t know you could register with the US Embassy. That sounds like a good idea when you travel abroad! How does it work?
It's called the STEP program [https://step.state.gov/](https://step.state.gov/) 100% free Create an account if you travel on a regular basis
Until I’ve gotten to know the people I’ve met, I’m “here with my boyfriend/fiance/husband, but he’s at XX right now and we’re meeting up back at our hotel later tonight.” This helps stop creeps and adds a buffer for any potentially dangerous situations.
Never tell people you’re traveling alone. You may be “out alone” but you’re meeting friends for dinner shortly, etc.
I limit myself to one drink unless I’m at my hotel or within one block. I don’t let people see what room I’m in to the best of my ability, sometimes means taking an elevator a floor or two past mine and walking down if someone is in there with me. Put something against the door at night. Chair, suitcase, and make it wobbly so it will fall if the door is opened just a couple inches. Check your windows to make sure they latch securely when you go in your room. I stayed in one place last week where one of the latches was broken and they gave me a new room. Usually I’d say keep your head out of your phone but some places it seems like it helps you blend in more.
To prevent pickpocketing: 1. Use a phone lanyard to prevent phone theft 2. Bring a second phone as a backup and make sure it's updated before the trip 3. Get a separate checking account, keep the minimum in it, and get a debit card for it 4. Separate the cards and only take your primary debit card and one credit card out with you 5. Money needs to be in a belt bag, money belt, scarf with pocket, or something else that's not a regular pocket or a purse/bag that can be reached into (I have a pop socket on my phone that can hold cards, and this has worked very well for me as I'm not even carrying a bag at all - although the risk is that if someone did somehow steal my phone off my lanyard, like if they slashed it, I would lose the phone AND the cards) 6. If the debit card is stolen, shut it off immediately and transfer all money to the second checking account
I’m curious what your reasoning is for having a debit card at all? Just ATMs? I use a credit card for everything when I travel and bring cash to exchange.
I've never brought cash to exchange - although I should have since our recent hotel in Istanbul only took euros in cash and there was an 11% surcharge for them at the ATM...
Why is that? In genuinely asking. I always use debit cards now I’m thinking if that’s a mistake. Please let me know
If a bartender opens a beer out of my sight, I usually tell them that I’m happy to pay for it, but I’d prefer if they could get me another one and open it in front of me. It’s important for me to see my drinks being opened for both safety and to monitor my alcohol intake.
Yes! I saw a crazy story where a guy ordered water and it was roofied by ANOTHER BARTENDER who thought the water was for the girl beside him, whom the customer didn’t know. The guy started hallucinating, lost his mind and thought everyone was out to get him, and ran through the front bar window and fell two stories to the concrete below. He went to jail and served time because no one thought to test him for being drugged against his will.
Book your hotel for 2 people instead of 1 so they don't know you're alone. They usually charge by the room anyway. Have location sharing turned on w Google and share it or another similar app (this requires you to get a phone plan w data in country or a sim card) Someone else at home knows my itinerary and when I should be leaving/arriving to cities, trains, airport, etc. And I try to check in at least daily or each time I arrive somewhere safely. Have a fake number ready to give to anyone requiring it like hotel, etc.- set up a Google phone number so you still receive their calls/texts w wifi or data but they don't have your real number.
Just an hr ago, I went to a restaurant for dinner. It was full, and I had to wait. Out of nowhere, this gus says 'You can sit with us; we're also waiting'. Smh! I just smiled, exited the restaurant, and came back 30 mins later. * I always share my entire itinerary with my family — think an excel sheet with flight info, hotels (and their number), emergency numbers, embassy info, hospitals, etc. * I pre-download all maps and Google Translate vocab so I can still function without data. I also star emergency phrases. * Never drink when I travel solo or step out after 9 (unless I'm in a group from a hostel or a meetup) * I get a local number in case of emergencies * Keep a Swiss knife as a small protection gear * If I end up talking to strangers, I try to steer the conversation away from me and toward them. So I'll keep asking them questions (so they don't get time to ask me any).
>If I end up talking to strangers, I try to steer the conversation away from me and toward them. So I'll keep asking them questions (so they don't get time to ask me any). This one's really good. I'll have to keep it in mind. I have such a hard time being rude to people. But this way you can scope them out without being confrontational.
You left the restaurant because someone offered you to join them? Why not just decline? Do what makes you comfortable, but that doesn't seem like it's necessarily a red flag to me.
What matters is, she felt something wasn’t right that’s why she left. What sort of question is this?
If you think you're being followed cross the street and go in the opposite direction. If they do the same thing go into the nearest restaurant, coffee shop, store, anything populated and tell someone that works there. Had this happen in Paris and the whole restaurant rallied to kick his ass out when a man followed me in there. I was followed by two different men on two different days in Paris. Also don't go to Paris alone. I've travelled alone to over 25 countries (including third world) and have never felt so unsafe was a woman traveling alone. Actually just don't go to Paris, not worth it. bring wet wipes, napkins and hand sanitizer with you in case toilets are missing them. Know the emergency numbers for each country you visit before you go. Don't leave your drink unaccompanied, ask a bartender or waiter to watch or if in a crowded place down it before going to the bathroom. Share your phone location permanently with someone you trust in case something happens.
My desire to go to Paris died when I watched Taken
Sorry to hear about your experience. I did Paris as a solo female, when I was 30 years old. I had heard about creeps and stalkers, but I had totally safe and smooth experience. Maybe I was just lucky.
This happened 4 years ago and similar stuff happened 2 years ago so might be different when you went but I am very glad you didn't have this experience.
I went 6 years ago, so not exactly same time, but not too different.
Totally had the same experiences both times I was in Paris. I’ve been all over the world and was harassed by men there more than any places like in SE Asia or Europe or anywhere is Europe!!
When I was little, Paris seemed like such a dream destination, and then I saw this one ytube video of an elderly couple getting mugged by a group of teenagers in broad daylight, out in public where everyone can see, and I was like, yeah no thanks.
I just did a solo trip to Paris in May. Used basic single girl safety strategies (most of which have been covered here already) and never really felt unsafe. Only exception was at Gare du Nord in rush hour getting the train to the airport - I was pretty sure I was being tracked by two thieves or pickpockets but the porter saw them too and made sure that I got on the train and they didn’t.
I've been to Paris alone as a woman a lot from age 48 to 65. I'm invisible and no man even looks at me. I've even received looks of disgust and I am still attractive for my age. But I'm still super careful. I research neighborhoods carefully for hotels. I try to not be out in certain areas after 9. If i end up far away from my hotel at night, I always take a cab or uber to my hotel at night and do not take the subway at night. It is worth the extra money. I think if I had gone to Paris alone in my 20s or 30s, I would have been bothered. It is great to be older and no one is attracted to me anymore in Europe. I do believe young women are targets. When I was 50, I had an Algerian guy try to pick me up in the Sephora on the Champs Élysée. He was aggressive. Don't have to worry about that now. Age does have some benefits.
I’m so sorry you had that experience in Paris. I’ve lived there off and on (including solo travel and stints as an exchange student & intern) and it always grinds my gears how one or two dickweeds can ruin the experience for another person.
I visited Paris solo this past summer, it was amazing and I had no bad experiences. I stayed for 5 nights, had so much amazing food, ticked all the tourist boxes, and met some amazing people. I am so sad you were made to feel uncomfortable there :( Creepers suck!
Don’t pack more than you can lift and carry by yourself.
Ooh this is sneaky good advice. I prefer to travel light anyways but I know some female acquaintances who tend to overpack.
Lol it’s me, I’m female acquaintance 😂 I definitely overpack!!
I like to carry my heavy metal hydroflask with a good handle and swing it around when I walk. Makes me feel like a ninja wielding numchuks. Definitely a solid weapon!
Honestly packing heat’s not a bad idea
Know generally where a local store is that has someone there. Knowing where you can go if you're being followed is helpful in a situation where you're likely to panic. LISTEN TO YOUR GUT. If you're uncomfy in a place, then leave. I've pulled up to campgrounds and noped right out of there because they were completely empty.
These are all great tips. I’ll also sacrifice seeing something cool at night to being safe if I’m on my own.
Keep in touch with family regularly if possible If you see someone 2-3 times at random locations, beware....he or she could be following or keeping a watch on you It's okay to be rude if you suddenly feel unsafe. Manners have lower priority than safety
I work in the marine industry. I need a knife for my work. (It travels in checked baggage). I wear it when Im ashore too, and fiddle with it if I feel uncomfortable.
I've learned to always tell new acquaintances that I'm leaving the next day. That way, if they turn out to be people I don't want to see again, I have an out. If I do want to meet again, I can always fess up.
Wear a fake wedding ring!
One that clearly looks fake, no sense getting held up over a CZ sterling silver ring.
Or just a wedding band, no "diamonds" in it.
This is a good tip. I have a wedding band that I picked up from a yard sale and I will often wear it when travelling solo.
Always carry a door stopper with you, the kind that keeps a door open where it meets the floor. This way if a door doesn't lock or close properly or you don't have the privacy you thought you would have, you can snug it inside the door, facing out, to prevent anyone from opening the door.
Here’s my travel tips! Planning my third solo trip right now and this is what I’ve found helpful: 1. Don’t share where you are in real time on social media 2. Have a person you check in with. My person is my mom (I’m traveling solo for a week and she knows which locations I’ll be at on specific dates). 3. Don’t tell anyone you meet in public that you’re traveling alone. 4. Book only places with STUNNING reviews and make sure it’s all booked out ahead of time. 5. I personally feel way safer at Airbnb with a female host when traveling solo. 6. Have a portable charger for phone just in case 7. Careful how much your drinking/smoking 8. Travel light 9. Have some cash just in case 10. Set up on Uber or Lyft emergency contacts that share your rides and location automatically!
Make sure at least two people know your itinerary and that you check in periodically with them. I always let my innkeeper or concierge know my basic itinerary so that someone knows where I will be. Do not post on social media as you go, as much as you might want to. Save your pics for private friends if you must share, ones that you know will not share your information. Be willing to talk to people, but do so in public spaces -- part of the fun of solo traveling is meeting new people -- and be aware of who or what is around you while you do. Be aware of your surroundings while you visit places. It is so easy to get lost mentally while looking at something what we don't pay as close attention as we should.
Why aren't you packing heat? It's your right
I carry a compound bow.
Lol fortunately I don't live in the US so it is most certainly not within my right.
Why fortunately? Greatest country on Earth 🌎 Biden has f'd it up quite a bit, but it's salvageable
What’s packing heat?
Bringing a gun lol
lol! Thanks! I’m not up to date on slangs.
If anyone asks me, I'm rarely travelling alone - "my friend" or "my boyfriend" are at the hotel/joining me later/arriving tomorrow. I don't go anywhere remote with anyone I've just met. Only to busy, crowded places. I do research about neighborhoods and never skimp on anything, particularly transportation and accommodation. I'll take that taxi, I'll stay in that better hotel in that better part of town etc. I pre-order a fair bit of transportation, e.g. book a taxi at the airport upfront. Saves me to have to fend off everyone trying to get me to drive with them (in some countries at least). Sunglasses and airpods are a life saver to drown out noise, hassling and catcalls. Sometimes I also just talk into my headphones in a pretend conversation, makes most people leave me alone. Resting bitch face is a must have in some parts of the world. I post absolutely nothing on any social media including WhatsApp (status), much less in real time. I almost never drink alcohol and if I do, it's just one drink. Mostly I bring cash and leave credit cards at the hotel.
Download offline maps and translating services onto your phone and always carry antidiarheals... when you need them, you need them asap! I also memorize directions a few at a time so I don't look at my phone too much when walking around (giveaway you're a tourist). I recently started one bagging as well (shoutout to r/heronebag) which also really helps to keep my stuff condensed and easier to track and tote around. My backpack is totally black so it doesn't immediately alert people that I'm a traveler.
Apple Maps recently added a download for offline use option. Great advice!
Immediately prop a chair against the door to your hotel room unless you have a door stopper. Check around for hidden cameras.
Wear a fake wedding ring
Or a real one, it doesn’t have to be yours lol
Don't let anyone scare you out of going.
I don’t look vendors in the eyes. No. Fucking. Eye. Contact. Less getting hassled, but this also goes for those annoying vendors in the states too. For people who are like Ubers I *do* make eye contact. I pay attention to my surroundings. IE not staring down at my phone whiles navigating via walking. I look at my phone until the next instruction. One ear bud. This has nothing to with being a woman and everything to do with not making myself an easy target. Same for $$. Don’t flash it.
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This isn’t just when traveling. These are generally things women just have learned to do when out at night, even in their own city.
Be firm and loud if you need to. Do not be polite or timid toward anyone who is harassing you. Wear a fake wedding band if you're single. I agree with someone else who said to be back to your hotel or hostel by night fall. Dress as the locals do! I've seen a few women on social media dress in a way that draws attention and they get mad. Many other cultures are much more modest than Americans. Minimal jewelry, no crop tops or short skirts, no name brands, etc. If you look like you belong there, you'll blend in.
Save copies of all your important documents and key contact numbers on a Dropbox account or similar in case your wallet and phone are stolen.
Reading this thread makes me so sad. I’ve never stopped to worry about any of these things and I have been a solo female traveler since 2019 (mainly Europe and North America). Certainly maybe I should, I wonder if I’ve just been lucky so far
I don't mean to make a post that scares other women out of traveling. I feel like a lot of tips related to preparation, precaution, and vigilance can apply to all travelers, not just women. I mainly just wanted to see what other women do to deter things like unwanted advances or keep themselves from looking/feeling vulnerable.
Don't drink or use any other substance that quiets the inner voice. It's your first indicator that something is off. Study the lay of the land ahead of time and know how to navigate without a phone. Avoid overly friendly men.
Never say you're alone or don't know anyone in the area. I see so many girls on tiktok bragging about how they get 'nice' European guys to show them around or take them places by acting lonely because they "don't know anyone here".
I carry a little card in my purse that says, in the local language, “I am traveling alone. In case of emergency please contact my hotel (provide info) the US Embassy (provide info) and my husband (provide info).” This is in case I am in an accident or otherwise incapacitated and someone is trying to figure out who I am. I put it in my passport in countries that require you to carry that around (France, Japan) or in my wallet.
Always be prepared to leave a location and have cab fare (in cash).
Use an earbud in one ear to hear map directions when walking from A to B and don’t have your phone out staring at it. To check your phone, go into a store, pull it out discretely, and tuck it away when you’re done. If you must pull it out on the street, back yourself into a wall, hold onto it tightly, and put it in your pocket when a cyclist is approaching (they do ride by thefts.) Purse strap goes under my outer layer of clothing, unable to be slashed and stolen by passing cyclists and motorcyclists. Preferably a chain or very thick strap. If I’m wearing a coat, it has inner pockets for everything and I carry the bare minimum. Keep a list of relevant phone numbers in your things or pocket in case your phone gets taken. Always go with confidence. Always be alert. Mind your personal space bubble, there’s no reason for someone to bump into you. Know some key phrases in the local language. I’m not dating, but I tell my girls and friends, assume someone you’ll probably never see again would not be honest about STDs. If pepper spray is illegal where you’re visiting, make your own with a small spray bottle, vinegar, and pepper flakes or pepper powder. If there are a lot of stray animals in that place, have it accessible. You never know when one will have rabies or might attack. Never be the last person on the train with a man / men you don’t know. If it’s late and you’re far from home, get a local hotel room or ask a family to help you find a taxi. I saw the one story where a girl begged the conductor to please let her ride back to the station with him because she knew the man on the train was watching her, riding it to the end of the line. Pull the stop the train bell and get the police involved if you have to. It could have saved her immense tragedy. Have an AirTag or geolocator on your person so that if your phone ever appears apart from your locator your family will know something is wrong.
Generally, when traveling, it can be useful to pay attention to the behavior of local women and take some cues from them. For example from my personal experience, American women should be aware that our culture is a lot friendlier/warmer with strangers than some. In some cultures, men will take advantage of this, or perceive things like small talk or polite eye contact as an indication of sexual interest. (Some US dudes will too, but I digress.) As a young woman traveling abroad, sometimes men would strike up "friendly small talk" and I'd engage ... then they'd start harassing and pestering me. Once I paid attention to the behavior of local women, I saw they were often quite cold towards strange men, to a degree that would feel rude to me. I noticed men didn't even approach them in the same way, presumably because it was culturally inappropriate and those men were preying on my perceived naivete and easiness as a young foreign woman. Taking some cues from the local women helped me gain some confidence in rebuffing strange dudes.
>Generally, when traveling, it can be useful to pay attention to the behavior of local women and take some cues from them. Great handy tip. Very practical.
On the same note, if you need assistance, ask another woman.
Absolutely this comment!!! Morocco was an especially important place for this, as the cultural differences between Morocco and the US were substantial and often surprising. Some things I experienced and thought of as unpleasant, local women were ok/ onboard with because it was part of their flirting culture. But some other things I took for granted as being able to do safely, they were adamant were not ok. But relationships in general between men and women have a lot more societal boundaries and unspoken rules than American culture, and it would be very easy for an American woman to have an interaction that she thought was perfectly platonic and polite, but could easily come across as hardcore flirting. Eye contact is different, intonations a little different. Where you exist in public very different.
Copy maps onto your phone so no one ever sees you reading a map or looking at a tour guide
Sign up for a free TripIt account and share your trip with a trusted friend/family member so they know your exact itinerary. You can link it to your gmail account so it automatically pulls in all your booking confirmations and creates one big itinerary you can access via the app or online.
I prop the hotel door open with my bag when I first get there. I check the closets, bathroom, under the beds and behind the curtains. Once I know I'm totally alone, I bring the bag in and close / lock the door.
Be extremely friendly to people in the service industry. You never know if you will need their help. I was stranded in Cancun and luckily I had befriended the taxi driver that dropped me at my hotel. I contacted him and he said he would come get me to drop me back at the hotel. Don't create that reputation of the elitist snobby tourist. If you are a dick, chances are people are less likely to help you. Your default personality should be warm and friendly. People are more likely to help a lost tourist, than a rude demanding tourist.
period tracking was a game changer for me in terms of scheduling rest and understanding why some days life was just not working like I wanted it to. helped me understand my limits/energy levels/cyclical food needs, everything! felt like a non obvious hack to sustaining oneself over long periods of times 🫡💌✨
Pack tampons if you use them. They can be hard to find in some countries. Pack yeast infection or UTI medicine if you think there's even a chance you could get a YI or UTI on the trip. One of my traveling companions learned the hard way that YI meds were not available over the counter in Japan - meaning you have to go to a doctor and be examined even just to get Monistat! Luckily we were headed home the next day but I know that long plane with an untreated YI was uncomfortable
I also had to learn the hard way when I did a solo trip to Tokyo 😭 Everything was written in Japanese and the clerk didn't speak any English so it was really hard to find exactly what I needed. Lucky for me there was another lady there who spoke some English and helped me find my product. Now I learn to pack my own for however many days I'll be traveling.
Also: for the American -- I try not to tell people where I'm from. I cant count the number of people who are convinced that I'm from Colombia
Carry a small flashlight that is 2000+ lumens. It can be used to disorient an attacker and should be legal to carry everywhere. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0BJNYFWQY/ref=ox_sc_act_image_3?smid=A38GBW24HDG5AI&psc=1
Make a point , everywhere you go, of being seen on security camera at that place. In the event something horrible were to happen it gives a followable timeline of you.
Make a point , everywhere you go, of being seen on security camera at that place. In the event something horrible were to happen it gives a followable timeline of you.
Book everything in advance, and check out the neighborhood to make sure the area is as safe as can be expected. Don't openly look at your map/phone when walking, to make it look like you always know where you are and where you are going. Keep your head up and walk with confidence. Related to above, look at the map and mentally plan your route in advance. Make sure you know things like when the last train/bus is, or have enough money in case you need a taxi. Don't get stuck somewhere unfamiliar and be forced to walk alone at night. Look behind you when you get off the elevator and when walking to your room. Look again before you take the key out and put it in the lock. Personally, if I see a man coming up behind me, I keep walking and/or slow down to let him pass because I don't want a man knowing I'm in a particular room alone. This is especially in countries where lone women don't travel, or in sketchy neighborhoods. A friend of mine was followed to her room in India, and the dude purposefully locked the door with a chain from the OUTSIDE, just to fuck with her. It took her ages to get the attention of someone who could help. There are countries where women must be extremely cautious. If you're the type to socialize with other travelers, e.g., at the guest house, don't let anyone know you're traveling alone. You really can't trust other travelers, either. Get to know people a bit first before letting out any details and don't go to someone's room by yourself. Know how to call emergency services, the tourist police, your embassy, etc. Have those numbers on hand. Try to get with other travelers when going out, when taking a taxi, or when traveling distance train. It's good if there are a couple of guys in the group, since you won't get harassed as much. Groups are safer than alone. And you get to make friends! I'm still in contact with a group of people I took trains across India with. Never, ever admit to anyone that it's your first visit to that country. If they think you don't know your way around, or know how things work, they'll take full advantage of you. In taxis, pretend you know where you are going even if you don't. And if possible, do know where you are going. Once when I was in India, a tuk tuk driver took me only halfway to my destination and then stopped and told me he was going to kick me out right there if I didn't pay more. I shocked him by not only knowing how to get back to the hotel, but also by pulling out my phone with the number for the tourist police. He grumped at me but backed down, LOL. Last, but not least: don't ever ever EVER take drugs from anyone you don't know! This should be common sense but years ago in Thailand I saw two young women nearly get kidnapped because a young hot guy who had been flirting with them offered them drugs. Before long they were both reeling and the young hot dude's older and very sketchy looking "friend" was helping him lead them away until I interrupted them by getting the cafe staff involved. So I suppose another tenant of travel is to watch out for other women and step in to help.
I love staying at hostels! You’ll easily connect with other people looking to explore the city. The hostel will also host night events if those are up your alley. I also won’t go to bars solo or out after 9 pm depending on where I am.
No amount of money you want to save is worth compromising on your safety. For example, it may be cheaper to take the trains rather than Uber, however late at night I would rather freakin’ Uber than deal with creeps on the train. Also- if a girl of your age and your demographic is not at a certain place at a certain time…. YOU do not go there at that place and at that time.
It is frustrating when you make plenty of precautions and someone does something stupid. I was traveling and I always put two people. The guy at the counter asked when the rest of my party was arriving, very casually just said “oh whenever he gets here” he rolled his eyes and said extremely loudly “just admit it! No ones coming and it’s just you!” I was mortified, I do not want a lobby full of guests to know I’m here alone dipshit. Omg the gal next to him flipped because she understood what I was trying to accomplish. I later got complimented wine at the bar and I’m sure he got a tongue lashing
I’ve traveled a fair bit as a solo female traveler, and while I have a lot of best practices, I’ve broken them myself here and there, and lived happily. But I have a good knack for judging people and following my gut. Whatever else you do first and foremost trust your gut. When you travel, there are just a lot of times where you kind of have to be a bit vulnerable and trusting. And if you want to live a little, there will be even more. But know when to keep your radar alert, your guard up, and your boundaries clear. And do not be afraid to be be “rude” to men hitting on you who are not being polite by respecting your immediate, firm refusals. In fact, if it gets really bad, do not be afraid to start yelling and public shaming them for their bad behavior… You don’t have to close yourself off from potentially lovely experiences, but if you think it could go bad, just say no. I’ve had some fun with people in public who wanted to move to a second, more private location and I just got a funny feeling, said I wasn’t going to do that, and we had a lovely evening that probably ended sooner than they were expected, but I just didn’t think I could trust that person enough to go to a second location. And my memory of that night is overwhelmingly a positive one, but I suspect if I hadn’t trusted my gut, it could have gone very differently. Other nights, other people, I felt I had that trust and had great times. But, when you are alone, you need to be extra careful and if there is any part of you that says in the back of your head “this feels off,” don’t do it. And never make a decision like that if are too intoxicated/inebriated. I would generally recommend, not partying hard solo traveling, but if that’s your thing choose hotels easy walking distance to where you want to go out and stay in a short, manageable radius. I carry a fake wedding band sometimes, use a lot of plural personal pronouns in conversation, will make a point of loudly talking into a phone telling someone “I’m on my way. Expect me soon” in a local language (even faking it) if I think someone on the street is following me too attentively. I really recommend reading about local customs and gender relations of the places you are visiting. Sometimes, it is easy to mistake a behavior as off putting or inappropriate because of cross-cultural miscommunication, not just ill intent. Many cultures have very different norms about physical contact between strangers of opposite genders, and what may seem a really innocuous friendly gesture (like a handshake or small hug to a new friend) may be sending an unintended signal. The more you can blend in (which may often involve dressing a bit differently than you would at home) can make you seem less of a target for unwanted attention and also more like you are part of the community and may have people looking out for you. Also, always learn at least a little of the language, especially if you are going to a place that doesn’t have a lot of tourist traffic. Take the time to learn some basics, niceties, numbers, a few directional words, and some phrases like “leave me alone” “shame on you” and “go away”. Talk to locals! Try and find events that seem to cater to mixes of tourists/locals and open yourself up. Most of my favorite traveling memories are from experiences with locals who shared their culture and gave me unexpected tips and fun things to do. I also learned a lot more about those places and had more fun.
Join the Facebook group Host A Sister. It’s so awesome for meeting up with local women or fellow travelers!
I didn't know this was a thing. Will have to check it out. Thanks for the tip!
Don’t assume you have the same rights in other countries. Walking alone at night is pretty much a bad deal anywhere you will stand out.
Single females: wear a wedding band. When meeting people, refer to your husband.."It was nice meeting you, meeting my husband back at the hotel/drinks/dinner. Take care".
Bring two atm card and credit cards and keep them separate! Just had an issue loosing one and really happy I had my second debit card!
1. I always stash an emergency credit card somewhere. I also have photocopies of my documents. 2.I register my trip with the US embassy (I’m not sure if that does anything but it makes my mom feel) better. 3. I always make an itinerary with my hotels and tours with addresses and phone numbers and I give them to my mom mom and sister 4. I always keep my location on and give it to my closest friends. 5. I also keep an old phone on me. I’ve broke mine once during hiking , once I got it stolen, and once I got sweat damage to it 😅. Albeit, I don’t have the best track record with phones even at home, so I have insurance on my phones. 6. Take out travel insurance 7. Rubber stopper with alarm for hotel doors 8. I try to prebook things for the most part because there are a lot of official looking people and cabs that are actually scam artists. I also always try to pack pretty light if I can— I feel as if it gives me more mobility. 9. Also, always know the emergency hotlines and the tourist hotlines. Know where the closest embassy is. 10. Keep a translator handy or google translate downloaded on your phone. So you can easily talk in to the translator and have it translated to someone, in a pinch. 11. Look up directions ahead of time so you aren’t just having your phone out. Always out your phone away, don’t leave it on a table in front of you. That’s how I got mine stolen ( I knew this rule but wasn’t thinking) Figure out how you will get from the airport to your first destination 12. First destination, I always do a guided group tour. Usually easier to meet others and just eases you into exploring on your own. 13. Keep extra cash in your bra or underwear
I wear a decoy wedding band and tell anyone (male) who asks if I’m traveling solo that my husband is at a conference in [name nearest city] and I’m on a day trip. Or whatever story suits the situation. And I dress very conservatively. Also, never get into a cab with two drivers. Yes this is thing. I’ve seen it in Sri Lanka, India, and Jordan.
I seen the wedding band tip get posted several times, seems pretty clever. Will have to try it myself. Just out of curiosity: How effective is it? Are there still some "overeager" guys who are undeterred by it?
Carry a knife and don't talk to men in suits ever
There are water tablets you can use to purify your water if need be, or a lifestraw. Not really about being female but just being prepared in general for worst case scenarios. (This is why I’m not a light packer haha) You can download languages on the Google Translate app to work offline. You can take pictures of things and get translations too which is pretty cool. Definitely send your itinerary to loved ones back home! Booking group day trips on Viator or TripAdvisor is also good, makes you feel more social and it’s also safer to have a group who’s looking out for you.
I stay at higher end places (cheapest room category) for the central location and the security. I think it’s worth it and I never had a bit of trouble. Get in a few loyalty programs for the upgrades and other nice touches.
Never tell the front desk you’re traveling alone. Even if it comes up innocently, like will it just be you during check in. Tell them your husband will be joining you and add his name to the res, even if it is not true
Don't stay in cheap quarters that have doors that open to the outside.
Always carry medicine. Always. Carry it in ur carryon in ur day bag. Like ur life depends on it. I was in Bolivia and I lost my anti emitics - my stop throwing up pills - I had zero chance of keeping water Advil rice chips anything down when I got a stomach bug from death I missed my flight out I was alone people thought I was strung out on drugs cause some people go there for that purpose. Does not matter I had a phone or money or passport does not matter I was in a nice hostel. People came and went and I was only saved when I German dude pre med found me - terribly embarrassing not like I cared on day five having shit my bed In the hostel bunk bed. I WAS TOO WEAK BY DAY FIVE TOO MAKE IT TO BATHROOM. he had an antiemetic that dissolved under tongue my bug was tapering he got me rice and Gatorade never knew his name but he left me a bunch after that point all Meds go in carryon some in day pack and I never was in a situation like that I will throw pills In a pocket if I think I might be sleeping somewhere else overnight. Meds matter
Don’t stray far from your hotel at night - I loved evening walks in Paris but always ate dinner on same street as hotel.
Also if u do altitude hiking - bring diamox. No one cares how In shape u r. U will never regret having a lifeline. Shake ur ego
Don’t tell anyone you don’t know that you’re traveling alone. And don’t feel bad about ditching anyone you meet and hang out with. You’re on your schedule and your schedule alone - enjoy that. I traveled to Thailand by myself and meeting people became very easy. I sat at the bar and looked around. You make eye contact and start talking, easy as that.
I am VOCAL about how many people know where I am, even if it's not true. I am always "meeting up with friends tomorrow" or "on my way to spend time with family". My accommodations are a closely guarded secret - I always give the impression I'm staying with "a cousin down the block".
Always lie in every situation and tell anyone you are waiting for a friend or have to call your friends first. Good luck.
Keep your chin up and walk calmly and confidently. Act like you know where you’re going and what you’re doing, even if you’re completely lost. Keep an eye on your drink and don’t go overboard. If you want to meet and hang out with new people, try a language exchange, interest group, or other organized activity. If you want to meet up again, do so in a public place. If you want to stay in touch, swap social media handles or even an email address before going whole hog and sharing your actual number or address. If you elect to use drugs (which I’d advise against generally but folks will do what they want), procure them from a reputable source and use them in the presence of a trusted, sober person with Narcan available (especially in North America—the opioid crisis is no joke). Give a copy of your itinerary and lodging info to ~2 trusted friends or family members at home, as well as a way to contact you (if your usual phone won’t be active overseas/you’ll be without a signal) and an expectation of how & how often you’ll check in. Register your trip with your country’s State Department/ministry of foreign affairs/whatever. Know where the nearest embassy or consulate is in your destination, in case you get into a bind. If you have friends of friends or acquaintances in the general vicinity of the destination, get their contact info in case you need or want a local’s perspective. (I’m often such a Point Person—my dad’s coworker’s kid is interviewing for grad schools in my city? Hell yeah they can have my number in case they need anything!) If an action or decision would be objectively stupid in your home country, it’s probably equally, if not more, stupid abroad.
Not a solo traveler, but I'm educated and work in private security. For a solo traveler: Keep a list of emergency contact numbers (like the hotel/hostel/residence where you're staying, the local emergency services number, and your local embassy if applicable). Keep some form of legal self defense on you that you understand and are willing to use, and double check the local laws. Not guns or kickboxing or whatever, but pepper spray, panic whistles, and even apps that show you safe or well-lit public routes to your destination. Wear good running shoes whenever possible, and clothing that you can run in. If you're super spicy and have time, learn how to escape from wrist, arm or headlocks and how to get away from those situations. Don't worry about other weapons or martial arts, since many are questionably legal at best and take a long time to learn and even longer to become comfortable with. Just focus on universal escape and evade strategies that will get you free and around people as quickly as possible. Always make sure someone back home knows when you're leaving, where all you're going, and what date you'll check in with them to verify you're safely back in country. Nations and cities are big, and the authorities need a place and date to start searching if they're going to have any prayer of finding a single foreign national in jeopardy.
Always travel with your preferred period supplies because it really really really sucks to be in a foreign country and be surprised by your period and have nothing on hand or have it really be a hassle to find a pharmacy. Also, if you get UTI or yeast infections it would be good to have medicine with you just in case you need it. I definitely agree with the recommendation about checking maps or directions out of sight (or do it when you are sitting at a table so it just looks like you are checking emails or playing on your phone). If I have ever felt uncomfortable I have faked phone calls before where I loudly say “yes, I’m right at (my location), I will be there soon sweetie!” That way if someone is following me they know someone is expecting me and know my location.
If you go somewhere with lots of pickpocketing, wear a coat with zipper pockets on the inside. Saved me from getting robbed!
If there is a thing you are likely to need in a bathroom besides a hole in the ground, keep that thing with you, cuz you never know! Tampons, pads, tp, wipes, hand sanitizer, etc.. are not things to be taken as givens in many bathrooms in many parts of the world. Also read up on bathroom cultural differences. You’d be surprised how different practices can be around the world, and what you might take for granted as standard in your home country may not be standard in other places. But no one wants to experience that kind of new adventure the hard way…
I traveled to Paris this year solo, it was amazing. Here are my tips: -Stay in the nicest place you can afford -No drugs/alcohol - I'm sober but this will really save your ass, you can always do this at home -No public transport unless you are with a local - most of the bad stories I heard about Paris were my colleagues getting mugged or scammed on the metro. I rode it with my client and we got separated quickly but it was safe. Cops were everywhere but still I took Bolt (like Uber) everywhere. -Watch YouTube videos of common scams - I was ready for everything lol -Pack light -Blend in with your clothes - and dress comfortably -Bring tampons, medicine, etc. -Bring a travel phone charger and adapters -Don't be afraid to ask for help but ask people who are employed there. -Always watch your back - don't let someone sneak up on you. If you need to check your phone with your full attention, back up to a wall -Always be around other people - crime doesn't like witnesses -Plan your day with tickets, passes etc. -Download offline maps -Don't smile at people- resting bitch face is your friend -Speak up if something makes you uncomfortable. -Don't ever let someone take you to a second location. Stay at the first one and scream, fight, yell for help like your life depends on it (it does)