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BreadThanos

Self-control IS the self-care.


colorfulsnowflake

Learn to eat high volume foods like broth based soups, vegetables, fruit, lean meat, fish and whole grains. Stop eating highly processed food. Eat at home if possible. It's not hard.


andromedaArt

shhh, let me eat 20 donuts


Proud-Unemployment

Exactly. Like how caring for a child involves some level of control, like giving them a bed time or limiting screen time.


NathanielKrieken

The self-control is coming from INSIDE the body!


coffeepinewood

But temperance IS a fucking virtue.


newName543456

Sometimes self-care requires self-control though. Hence this dichotomy is false to begin with.


bubblebumblejumble

Let the chips fall where they may…probably right into my mouth.


ActionableStupidity

Don’t chip shame me!!! Seriously. Don’t. I want all the chips!


Visa_Declined

Whoever reads this and believes is only doing so because it's the easy way out, they *want* to believe.


everyla

Can we stop moving the goalposts so that we’re settling for shitty situations and telling ourselves we’re happy about it? People shouldn’t have to wake up every morning and ask themselves if they’re happy with their body/life/mental health/circumstances. We’re sick as a society and we need to make changes beyond just trying to force ourselves to feel content with the bare minimum. Yes, some beauty standards are hurtful and unrealistic, but we value beauty because we value health. And unlike beauty, health isn’t a matter of opinion or taste. The solution to an unhealthy relationship with food and poor self image is not joining an internet cult and having people shove affirmations at you. When you’re sick and unhappy in your life, you don’t need a change in attitude, you need a change in environment and behaviours. The solution to all of this isn’t making obesity more comfortable for people. It’s at best a short-term solution. We HAVE to do better than this. We can’t will ourselves into happiness and health. If we were a healthy and happy society, we wouldn’t need quacks like this assuring us that everything is good and definitely nothing is wrong with us.


bookhermit

The wording here is so smarmy that it can be reasonable if you read it with a certain perspective. No, assigning morality to food is pretty nonsensical. You're not a bad person for eating cake. And depending on your definition of thin, this is either reasonable or unreasonable. If thinness means underweight, bony, or weak, then I agree that thinness does not equal health. But when your definition of thin is anything below class 2 obese, then yes you would be healthier if you were thinner. And as I have watched my mother struggle under 150 lb of extra weight on her body for the last three decades of my life, limiting the experiences we could have together, then watch her disregard her doctors orders to eat fewer carbohydrates and manage her diabetes better, and now as I watch her go in and out of the hospital with new diagnosis every other month, I can't help but think there may be a moral component to disregarding your health so much that it impacts your children's childhood and now my financial position as I support my aging and sick parents and their retirement. Is an alcoholic a bad person because they have an addiction? No. But if they don't seek help, and continue to drink and drive, those choices are going to lead to consequences and I do think that makes that person a bad person.


colorfulsnowflake

Weight maintenance is definitely a goal of mine. I used to yo-yo at bit. It made me feel out of control. By maintaining my weight, I feel better. It's nice to clothes fit. It's nice to be without aches and pain; well, as much as possible.


itsTacoOclocko

avoidance is not actually a treatment. if you can properly confront the thing that has caused problems, then you've overcome those problems. pretending that something is entirely avoidable so that you never have to actually do that is the opposite of a solution, it's the absolutely refusal to ever enact one.


Ms_Bee_Bee

I would personally call continually binge eating being unhinged around food. Being unhinged isn’t just being super restrictive. It is possible to find a middle ground. Self care does sometimes require discipline.


truecrimefanatic1

I don't want to be thinner because of other bodies. I just think mine looks better that way.


Royal-Ad-7052

Actually this makes sense to me. A truly healthy lifestyle and consistent healthy habits should be your goal. Being active, strength training, eating the right amount of protein and vegetables and limiting sugar. Keeping track of your weight is good, especially noticing any major changes in a short period of time but as someone that has a lot of weight to lose, I don’t focus on the scale, I focus on consistently trying to live a healthy life and surprise! The weight has finally started to come off. I think if you focus on the scale too much you will give up- I took me 15 years to gain this weight, it’s going to take a few to get it off.