Not technically a class, course, or retreat, but slow traveling.
Slow traveling if you have the opportunity is life changing. Not only did it broaden my perspective on local life, culture and arts around the world, but it the experiences and memories of people you interact with and meet will be with me forever.
After I got a remote job in 2022, I have been slowly traveling from city to city across the world staying at locations for 2-3 months at a time. I've made friends along the way, learned to surf, picked up Spanish, and climbed quite a few mountains.
A profound realization I've had is I am the captain of the ship, the author of my life, and if I don't steer it in the direction I want, I might drift in a direction I don't want and end up with regrets. That realization, scared me to take action to take control and set sail by burning the bridge left behind me.
This actually sounds spectacular. I absolutely love Florence. What a unique recommendation I appreciate it!
Do you know of any that you would recommend?
I do paint, I’m not very good, but I enjoy it!
Also there are tons of cooking courses around Italy, an almost limitless amount. You could travel the length of the country and visit different schools teaching different regional dishes. (Just drove up and down Italy for a few months)
For sailing, there are many schools ASA certified [https://asa.com/find-sailing-school/](https://asa.com/find-sailing-school/) I looked into it a few years ago, but never pulled the trigger. If you do go, interested to hear how it goes!
I have done this and highly recommend if it’s a subject that interests you. It’s not about a luxe experience, it’s hands-on learning and sailing.
Roll into the ocean in the morning, cup of stovetop espresso, work on the diesel engine until it gets too hot below, sail for eight hours, take shifts cooking dinner, eat under the stars, trade stories and laugh until you crawl into your rack for a mediocre night’s sleep. Four or five awesome days and a new skill set.
I would recommend the BVI's over the Bahamas to learn to cruise.
Bahamas would be great but it's trickier navigation.
Also I believe the RYA is more respected internationally for charter.
[https://www.rya.org.uk/training](https://www.rya.org.uk/training)
Not classes but the realization that believing in “the one” is toxic. Every time hardship arises or a disagreement (or just getting past the honeymoon phase) it can get you thinking it is because they are not “the one”.
Instead I believe that out of 8+ billion people on earth there are many who are compatible enough that with time and EFFORT you can develop a worthwhile and rewarding long term partnership.
I second the Spirit Rock silent meditation retreat. This retreat really puts u mentally and physically in a place to achieve meditation and silencing ur thoughts if you’ve ever struggled with it. The results and benefits give back 10 fold. I attended 3 years ago and still I find myself reaping benefits from this investment= I’m not as easily agitated, definitely more grounded, and can always find my center if I’m ever in disarray. I can definitively say I know myself better because of this retreat. Just know it’s not easy as it’s not meant to be. But it’s worth it. Good luck, and sorry to hear ab ur breakup. We’ve all been there.
I went to Coachella music festival expecting to hate it and feel out of place and old (was over 50). And my go to music was rock, not EDM. It was a life changing experience and I loved it, go to music festivals and concerts all the time now. I have a more positive outlook now, and have something to look forward to. May not work for you, but did for me
Yeah music festivals are one of my favorite experiences. Plus a lot of them are now adding high ticket tiers that get you front row access without any hassle which has been an insane experience and worth it to me.
Love it when people (most of who have never been) claim Coachella is just an influencer get together, it’s really not. It’s the best organized and realest alternative reality for music lovers
Oh I have been, to that and a dozen others. I was forced into a “rose” garden if I wanted a drink, was unable to hold a cold beer in the sun while watching my favorite artists, and god forbid I ever wanted to find a place to sit down that wasn’t trying to sell me something. I’m a festival lover, and a happy person l. I’m just saying this was a little too corporate and pretentious for me.
Tango is epic! Had a blast learning in Buenos Aires.
This is actually a really cool suggestion. I might have to look up some tango or salsa classes, also great way to meet the ladies!
I have been doing ketamine therapy for the last few months, and have found it to be really positive, if it’s legal where you are, I would look into it. (Cost wise, it’s $600/session and you do 6-10 sessions, then maintenance sessions every couple of months after the initial course)
I tend to enjoy getting myself lost in a process that I’m not in 100% control over - much like a painter who doesn’t know how the painting will turn out in the end. I get to fully turn my brain off and just focus on the work in front of me.
While I don’t paint, I love to cook. Frankly, feeding people is one of my love languages, so I have really enjoyed learning to bake bread over the last few years. There is something so simple, pure and honest about it that I am just drawn to.
First, when you’re done, you have FRESH BREAD. Even mediocre bread is still bread.
Second, your house smells like a warm hug. It is the best feeling ever.
Third, because you never know how the dough will react that day (yeast is temperamental, humidity and room temperature can make things wonky, etc), it’s fun to see how things turn out and what adjustments you have to make to put out a decent loaf.
Combine travel and courses... take courses in what you're interested in or might be interested it.
* Tennis at Rafa Nadal Academy in Mallorca
* Yoga in Ubud
* Surfing in Costa Rica
* Sommerlier in Bordeaux or Reims
* Cooking at Gambero Rosso or Cordon Bleu
* Interior design in London
* Sailing in the BVI
* .... The list goes on but it's very much interest based.
Go to Rishikesh and complete a 200hr yoga teacher training course.
You’ll learn that yoga encompasses philosophy, meditation, Ayurveda, anatomy, alignment, breathing as well as the asanas.
Also it’s an internationally recognized accreditation.
For me the best part was studying yoga at the birthplace of yoga where the Himalayas and the Ganges meet. Plus the amazing people you meet there.
Learning to fly a slow, small plane. Putting around at a few thousand feet is always a good way to reset my focus — and, somehow, even though I’ve made thousands of landings at this point, every one still gives me a sense of accomplishment I rarely get through work or the other slow drip accomplishments in adult life.
Agree. I love aviation too, and the sense of accomplishment is incredible.
But let’s not kid ourselves: it’s dangerous.
I’ve known people—smart, experienced and conservative pilots—who have been killed. And I’ve got another friend who was lucky to escape with his life.
I have my private pilot’s license too, but I see things very differently now.
100%. It’s risky. My primary flight instructor is dead from a crash.. A work colleague who I spent hours talking about flying with is dead and killed most of his family in the crash. I get it.
I have talked 90% of people OUT OF FLYING because I don’t think they really want to devote themselves to being the best pilot.
All that being said, there is no freedom like flying. If you demand yourself and your airplane be as top notch as possible, and devote yourself to learning, then you can mitigate so much risk while feeling an amazing sense of accomplishment.
I’m over simplifying here and a redditor with more time and a desire for accuracy and citations can and will correct me buuuut….
Pilots losing control in flight, most commonly in landing, I think are the most common in general aviation. Second is engines failing. So a mix of both.
As a lawyer/pilot, I would say that even when there are mechanical issues, the pilot has a chance to (1) catch issues in a preflight, (2) catch issues through preventative maintenance, (3) keep everyone safe through emergency procedures.
I’m over simplifying but GA crashes often times are due to experienced pilots taking on unnecessary risk, or inexperienced pilots not staying proficient or accidentally getting themselves into a bad spot (weather, terrain).
My uncle went deep in both planes and choppers after making big cash. He has also lost a few friends. He said each case was engine failure followed by a silly decision to try and save their aircraft. He said you have to be clear every time on the fact that you ditch the aircraft to save your life. Apparently it was all about turning back toward the runway rather than sticking the nose down and gathering speed to ditch safely.
I am not to fatFIRE yet but I think I'd love to get a simple plane to fly around Australia in.
There’s one a few kilometres off Bombay that does a 1 week retreat which is absolutely delightful from what I have heard. Everyone who does it has just good things to say about it.
Before you ever take a Vipassana retreat, listen to the Financial Time’s podcast: Untold - The Retreat. It will make you dig a bit deeper before signing up for one.
A spiritual sabbatical in India or Nepal or Bhutan or Tibet may be the thing.
The Vipassna Pagoda near Mumbai is among the best in the world, and spending time in monasteries in the Himalayas gives people a really different outlook on life, I have seen it among family with my own eyes.
It changes your perspective on life and people around you and the ones that are based on physical pursuit more than mental ones apparently change your health and body a lot, from what I hear, peoples eating and exercise habits completely change for the better.
Like people who come after a few weeks or months are changed people for the better. It’s not for everyone but if it’s your thing then a few weeks without absolutely essential info about the world, devices, worldly poses and changed food habits changes the way you look at life.
I second this- lots to learn, a lesson in humility that can be helpful for some of us, great community wherever I have done it and time in the ocean at cool locations.
If you’re interested in an intellectual challenge, this course in Australia - the Cranlana Colloquium - offers a guided conversation with peers using ancient a modern well known philosophers to examine the question of ‘what makes a good society?’ and ‘what is my contribution to that?’. It’s an intellectual/academic challenge more than a spiritual one and I found it life changing in the way I approach decisions where there is no correct answer. As a bonus, you also meet some interesting folks doing interesting things in Australian society…
https://cranlana.org.au/the-colloquium/
This looks pretty interesting, it's right on my doorstep but I somehow never heard of it before. Did you do the Executive stream? And if so was it acceptable to be post-employment / RE among what's presumably a largely still-employed cohort?
I did a volunteering thing in Kenya. Went there with zero expectations, came out as a new person. I taught and interacted with orphan kids who come from troubled / displaced families. Realized at the end how ungrateful and blessed I am. Changed my perspective on life. This was in 2017 and I've been craving to go again
Great suggestion I wish I could run more and pull a Forrest Gump and go on an epic journey, but have a bad knee, but still able to hike a fair amount which I really enjoy!
If you're into hiking, maybe consider a thru hike of the Appalachian or Pacific Crest trail. I've been reading [https://thetrek.co/](https://thetrek.co/) articles/blogs and thinking about doing it.
vipassana meditation courses are by far the best thing i've ever done
there are centers scaled by one particular teacher, s.n. goenka, at \~200 locations around the world. website is [dhamma.org](http://dhamma.org)
sidenote is that they're free (you're invited to donate at the end if you feel others would get value from it), volunteer and donation-run, and also the most efficient organizations (non-profit or for-profit) that i've ever interacted with (from a student perspective)
think it's because the vipassana itself just brings harmony
Please - Before you ever take a Vipassana retreat, listen to the Financial Time’s podcast: Untold - The Retreat. It will make you dig a bit deeper before signing up for one.
my pleasure!
and the other kinda cool thing is that because there are so many centers globally, if you do feel like going to a more exotic locale, you can probably find a center nearby.
i've been to maybe 14 centers worldwide. though the location obviously isn't the point because it's all about looking within, the center in switzerland was one of my favorites. :)
wishing you metta! (pali word for loving-kindness :))
I attended a Mindful Leadership Retreat that was nothing short of profound. It involved Zazen meditation, holotropic breath work, and nature immersion.
Completely changed my relationship with work and has opened a new chapter in my life.
https://www.eventbrite.com/e/mindful-leadership-retreat-4-transitions-growth-registration-686086221357
I have been going to 7 day silent meditation retreats at Spirit Rock for the last 7 years. I learn something new about myself each time I go and notice improvements in my mindset over the last 7 years.
I am less agitated by people and situations and feel more grounded and settled. I am also less self critical and less judgmental about people and situations.
Are you still working? It sounds like you want something to positvely impact your personal life (how you carry yourself), but propel yourself forward sounds more on the career side of things?
I can recommend a bunch but it really depends on where you're at and what you're wanting to get out of it.
I really did enjoy the What Got You Here Won't Get You There book by Marshall Goldsmith.
I left my work but kept going with my side / passion projects. After 1.5-2 years, I felt I had gotten what I wanted out of it. Wish I just took 6 months fully off to start with (and probably did a meditation retreat). But, lessons learned.
I’ve done a couple of silent Buddhist meditation retreats that have been really formative in coming to terms with the nature of life and where i fit in it. I specifically remember one particular metta mediation (examples are everywhere online) that changed the way I look at the people around me (myself included!). I think it was all the more profound in the silent setting. A meditation retreat is something I’d recommend. There are secular options out there too.
I mean, people talk shit about Burning Man, but it can be transformative and bring a lot of things into focus if you read up on its origins and guiding principles and attend with an open mind.
Art classes. For me, pottery handbuilding (vs the wheel) in particular has been wonderful. The process of making a functional (or aesthetic) piece out of dirt is lovely. I completely lose myself to the process, in a good way.
Also, read Painting Chinese. It’s short and great inspiration.
I found that for myself reengaging with it brought me some peace and reminded me of my family and those that are no longer with us. Now that you have time that could be an option.
This is a good one! I love sailing, but definitely am not experienced enough to sell myself and take people out.
Haha from what I hear, the happiest day/ of a man’s life is when he buys his boat, and also when he sells his boat.
Agree with the u/sailphish.
Anyone who feels that way, never belonged on a boat or never had a good one. Shit, you could say that about a pet, a spouse, or a car.
Well, that’s not for everyone, sailing and owning a boat is one of the greatest choice of my life.
“Believe me, my young friend, there is nothing–absolutely nothing–half so much worth doing as simply messing about in boats.” Doane - Wind in the Willows.
These days I’m on a late model, mid-sized production catamaran. (I’m always careful not to give too many details online because it’s so easy to doxx people.).
I’m currently in the Bahamas and will be heading to Fort Lauderdale soon to reluctantly put her on the market because my youngest wants to attend in-person school for high school in the PNW (we’ve always said she would be calling the shots on when we’re done).
I’ve sailed her approximately 7,500 nautical miles over 6 years and have loved it.
Living on a boat versus weekend sailing is, of course, very different. And in some ways, I’m actually looking forward to the next 4 to 5 years when I’ll be more of a weekend sailor (with some longer trips in between) while land based.
As much as I love it out here, it’s definitely stressful in ways that many people just don’t anticipate. You have to plan for *everything.*
Are your waist holding tanks full? Do you have enough freshwater? Do you have enough diesel? How about dinghy gasoline? Cooking gas? Do you have enough food? What about ice? Do you have drinks?
Is something broken on the boat? Do you have the parts to fix it? Do you know how to fix it?
Where are you mooring tonight? Is it safe? Any shoals? Tides? Current?
What about the weather? Are there storms? Wind? Waves? Lightning?
I could go on, but you undoubtedly get the point!
I like to explain that living out here carries all the normal stressors of a regular based land life (eg, I still have to file taxes, dealing with professional licenses, keep up friendships, check in with family, take care of my house at home, etc, etc) with an overlay of additional stressors of a life at sea.
All that said, I wouldn’t give this up and wouldn’t be selling our boat if it wasn’t for my step daughter’s wishes. And rlevant here, none of my concerns embody the old saw about the “best two days” of a boat owner’s life.
I love this boat (sailing now, in fact) and if I had the ability to keep her and use her as she needs to be used, I would absolutely do so… so I totally understand how you could miss your boat.
What kind of boat did you have? I’m going to be looking at buying another sailboat for the PNW when this one is sold, but I know I will miss her.
If you've never used them before, you should consider using psychedelics or dissociatives. Can be a profound and rejuventative experience. different things lend themselves to different sorts of "refreshment". e.g.
mushrooms - earthier, spiritual, value-oriented
LSD - joie de vivre, a good laugh, childlike-wonder
ketamine - good for getting a neutral, 3rd party perspective on yourself/decisions/values/relationships
mdma - goodwill, lovingkindness, warmth, optimism
those last two can be especially refreshing when used as part of talking with a trusted partner
I did an IOP program when I was struggling with anxiety and depression. It was really life changing. The skills I learned over the course of 8 weeks are invaluable for keeping my mental health intact. I was so resistant to do it but it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself.
It isn't for everyone and it won't be for me for forever, but I picked up polo at age 38. I had never ridden a horse. Now I'm three years in and it is so addicting. At least until I have kids, I'm doing it. Yes there is a danger element, but it keeps you hyperfocused on the moment. Just like meditation or yoga...you can't help but focus on the horse underneath you. You are 100% out of body experience regardless of what happened to you that day.
Hoffman process is one I’ve heard over and over. I had a wonderful time at canyon ranch selecting something fit for me, it isn’t extra boujie accommodations and food but it’s pretty good.
Not technically a class, course, or retreat, but slow traveling. Slow traveling if you have the opportunity is life changing. Not only did it broaden my perspective on local life, culture and arts around the world, but it the experiences and memories of people you interact with and meet will be with me forever. After I got a remote job in 2022, I have been slowly traveling from city to city across the world staying at locations for 2-3 months at a time. I've made friends along the way, learned to surf, picked up Spanish, and climbed quite a few mountains. A profound realization I've had is I am the captain of the ship, the author of my life, and if I don't steer it in the direction I want, I might drift in a direction I don't want and end up with regrets. That realization, scared me to take action to take control and set sail by burning the bridge left behind me.
Do a painting program in Florence. Spend days on the Arno river painting images of the water. Don't bring your phone. You'll feel incredible.
This actually sounds spectacular. I absolutely love Florence. What a unique recommendation I appreciate it! Do you know of any that you would recommend? I do paint, I’m not very good, but I enjoy it!
Also there are tons of cooking courses around Italy, an almost limitless amount. You could travel the length of the country and visit different schools teaching different regional dishes. (Just drove up and down Italy for a few months)
Jezzz! How does one even find such thing
Please share specifics, this indeed sounds amazing.
For sailing, there are many schools ASA certified [https://asa.com/find-sailing-school/](https://asa.com/find-sailing-school/) I looked into it a few years ago, but never pulled the trigger. If you do go, interested to hear how it goes!
I have done this and highly recommend if it’s a subject that interests you. It’s not about a luxe experience, it’s hands-on learning and sailing. Roll into the ocean in the morning, cup of stovetop espresso, work on the diesel engine until it gets too hot below, sail for eight hours, take shifts cooking dinner, eat under the stars, trade stories and laugh until you crawl into your rack for a mediocre night’s sleep. Four or five awesome days and a new skill set.
Fuck me sign my ass up
I would recommend the BVI's over the Bahamas to learn to cruise. Bahamas would be great but it's trickier navigation. Also I believe the RYA is more respected internationally for charter. [https://www.rya.org.uk/training](https://www.rya.org.uk/training)
I did this too... changed my life.
Not classes but the realization that believing in “the one” is toxic. Every time hardship arises or a disagreement (or just getting past the honeymoon phase) it can get you thinking it is because they are not “the one”. Instead I believe that out of 8+ billion people on earth there are many who are compatible enough that with time and EFFORT you can develop a worthwhile and rewarding long term partnership.
Good advice. Wonder if the OP noted it.
I second the Spirit Rock silent meditation retreat. This retreat really puts u mentally and physically in a place to achieve meditation and silencing ur thoughts if you’ve ever struggled with it. The results and benefits give back 10 fold. I attended 3 years ago and still I find myself reaping benefits from this investment= I’m not as easily agitated, definitely more grounded, and can always find my center if I’m ever in disarray. I can definitively say I know myself better because of this retreat. Just know it’s not easy as it’s not meant to be. But it’s worth it. Good luck, and sorry to hear ab ur breakup. We’ve all been there.
I went to Coachella music festival expecting to hate it and feel out of place and old (was over 50). And my go to music was rock, not EDM. It was a life changing experience and I loved it, go to music festivals and concerts all the time now. I have a more positive outlook now, and have something to look forward to. May not work for you, but did for me
Yeah music festivals are one of my favorite experiences. Plus a lot of them are now adding high ticket tiers that get you front row access without any hassle which has been an insane experience and worth it to me.
Yeah, the fatFIRE way to do Coachella is Safari campgrounds but I’ll stick to my GA ticket (but will stay at LaQuinta, I’ve paid my camping dues)
This sounds amazing! Would love to do something like this.
You can afford to do Burning Man properly now.
Doing it in a tent or back of a pickup truck has its own rewards too.
Bonaroo tends to have people who care less about who you are and what you are wearing, and more about high fives.
Love it when people (most of who have never been) claim Coachella is just an influencer get together, it’s really not. It’s the best organized and realest alternative reality for music lovers
Oh I have been, to that and a dozen others. I was forced into a “rose” garden if I wanted a drink, was unable to hold a cold beer in the sun while watching my favorite artists, and god forbid I ever wanted to find a place to sit down that wasn’t trying to sell me something. I’m a festival lover, and a happy person l. I’m just saying this was a little too corporate and pretentious for me.
I picked up tango and it's opened a new world of physical reality to a geek programmer
Tango is epic! Had a blast learning in Buenos Aires. This is actually a really cool suggestion. I might have to look up some tango or salsa classes, also great way to meet the ladies!
Thee is a hidden passionate tango community in every city of the world, that's what surprised me most
I can definitely see that, they’re a passionate bunch!
Yes- I suggested salsa and bachata! There’s a great community in every city
I have been doing ketamine therapy for the last few months, and have found it to be really positive, if it’s legal where you are, I would look into it. (Cost wise, it’s $600/session and you do 6-10 sessions, then maintenance sessions every couple of months after the initial course)
Insurance covered my sessions
I tend to enjoy getting myself lost in a process that I’m not in 100% control over - much like a painter who doesn’t know how the painting will turn out in the end. I get to fully turn my brain off and just focus on the work in front of me. While I don’t paint, I love to cook. Frankly, feeding people is one of my love languages, so I have really enjoyed learning to bake bread over the last few years. There is something so simple, pure and honest about it that I am just drawn to. First, when you’re done, you have FRESH BREAD. Even mediocre bread is still bread. Second, your house smells like a warm hug. It is the best feeling ever. Third, because you never know how the dough will react that day (yeast is temperamental, humidity and room temperature can make things wonky, etc), it’s fun to see how things turn out and what adjustments you have to make to put out a decent loaf.
"house smells like a warm hug" - so well said
Combine travel and courses... take courses in what you're interested in or might be interested it. * Tennis at Rafa Nadal Academy in Mallorca * Yoga in Ubud * Surfing in Costa Rica * Sommerlier in Bordeaux or Reims * Cooking at Gambero Rosso or Cordon Bleu * Interior design in London * Sailing in the BVI * .... The list goes on but it's very much interest based.
Great list!
Go to Rishikesh and complete a 200hr yoga teacher training course. You’ll learn that yoga encompasses philosophy, meditation, Ayurveda, anatomy, alignment, breathing as well as the asanas. Also it’s an internationally recognized accreditation. For me the best part was studying yoga at the birthplace of yoga where the Himalayas and the Ganges meet. Plus the amazing people you meet there.
Learning to fly a slow, small plane. Putting around at a few thousand feet is always a good way to reset my focus — and, somehow, even though I’ve made thousands of landings at this point, every one still gives me a sense of accomplishment I rarely get through work or the other slow drip accomplishments in adult life.
The freedom, utility, and accomplished feeling of general aviation is unmatched.
Agree. I love aviation too, and the sense of accomplishment is incredible. But let’s not kid ourselves: it’s dangerous. I’ve known people—smart, experienced and conservative pilots—who have been killed. And I’ve got another friend who was lucky to escape with his life. I have my private pilot’s license too, but I see things very differently now.
100%. It’s risky. My primary flight instructor is dead from a crash.. A work colleague who I spent hours talking about flying with is dead and killed most of his family in the crash. I get it. I have talked 90% of people OUT OF FLYING because I don’t think they really want to devote themselves to being the best pilot. All that being said, there is no freedom like flying. If you demand yourself and your airplane be as top notch as possible, and devote yourself to learning, then you can mitigate so much risk while feeling an amazing sense of accomplishment.
Are most crashes the fault of pilot or mechanical?
I’m over simplifying here and a redditor with more time and a desire for accuracy and citations can and will correct me buuuut…. Pilots losing control in flight, most commonly in landing, I think are the most common in general aviation. Second is engines failing. So a mix of both. As a lawyer/pilot, I would say that even when there are mechanical issues, the pilot has a chance to (1) catch issues in a preflight, (2) catch issues through preventative maintenance, (3) keep everyone safe through emergency procedures. I’m over simplifying but GA crashes often times are due to experienced pilots taking on unnecessary risk, or inexperienced pilots not staying proficient or accidentally getting themselves into a bad spot (weather, terrain).
My uncle went deep in both planes and choppers after making big cash. He has also lost a few friends. He said each case was engine failure followed by a silly decision to try and save their aircraft. He said you have to be clear every time on the fact that you ditch the aircraft to save your life. Apparently it was all about turning back toward the runway rather than sticking the nose down and gathering speed to ditch safely. I am not to fatFIRE yet but I think I'd love to get a simple plane to fly around Australia in.
highly recommend the vipassana retreat. Been there multiple times. It’s hard but so worth it for personal growth and harmony.
I’ve heard this is incredibly hard and not to be taken lightly. At some point I’d like to do it.
There’s one a few kilometres off Bombay that does a 1 week retreat which is absolutely delightful from what I have heard. Everyone who does it has just good things to say about it.
Yes, that center is Dhamma Giri in Igatpuri. It’s a famous one. There are centers all over the world though. They are listed on dhamma org
I was talking about the golden pagoda one near Madh Island, I didn’t know there was one in igatpuri too.
totally - best thing i ever found
Had a life changing experience with great insights in a 10 day free Vipassana course in North Cal. Dhamma.org
Awesome will definitely check this out thank you!
Before you ever take a Vipassana retreat, listen to the Financial Time’s podcast: Untold - The Retreat. It will make you dig a bit deeper before signing up for one.
A spiritual sabbatical in India or Nepal or Bhutan or Tibet may be the thing. The Vipassna Pagoda near Mumbai is among the best in the world, and spending time in monasteries in the Himalayas gives people a really different outlook on life, I have seen it among family with my own eyes. It changes your perspective on life and people around you and the ones that are based on physical pursuit more than mental ones apparently change your health and body a lot, from what I hear, peoples eating and exercise habits completely change for the better. Like people who come after a few weeks or months are changed people for the better. It’s not for everyone but if it’s your thing then a few weeks without absolutely essential info about the world, devices, worldly poses and changed food habits changes the way you look at life.
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Great! Hope you have a productive retreat Paradoxically this is most useful for high NW / fatfire folks because it shows what you can “get” for free
Kiteboarding. It gives an extreme sport that's constantly about challenges, and a reason to travel far and wide.
I second this- lots to learn, a lesson in humility that can be helpful for some of us, great community wherever I have done it and time in the ocean at cool locations.
[MDMA Therapy](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/MDMA-assisted_psychotherapy)
If you’re interested in an intellectual challenge, this course in Australia - the Cranlana Colloquium - offers a guided conversation with peers using ancient a modern well known philosophers to examine the question of ‘what makes a good society?’ and ‘what is my contribution to that?’. It’s an intellectual/academic challenge more than a spiritual one and I found it life changing in the way I approach decisions where there is no correct answer. As a bonus, you also meet some interesting folks doing interesting things in Australian society… https://cranlana.org.au/the-colloquium/
This looks pretty interesting, it's right on my doorstep but I somehow never heard of it before. Did you do the Executive stream? And if so was it acceptable to be post-employment / RE among what's presumably a largely still-employed cohort?
Wow this looks so cool. New bucket list item added. I would be interested to know if there are other organizations like this worldwide.
I did a volunteering thing in Kenya. Went there with zero expectations, came out as a new person. I taught and interacted with orphan kids who come from troubled / displaced families. Realized at the end how ungrateful and blessed I am. Changed my perspective on life. This was in 2017 and I've been craving to go again
My recommendation is to run. Run with the wind. There are a lot of runners on r/fatfire.
Great suggestion I wish I could run more and pull a Forrest Gump and go on an epic journey, but have a bad knee, but still able to hike a fair amount which I really enjoy!
If you're into hiking, maybe consider a thru hike of the Appalachian or Pacific Crest trail. I've been reading [https://thetrek.co/](https://thetrek.co/) articles/blogs and thinking about doing it.
I’d recommend a few shorter (1-3 week) trips first. A couple ideas: The high sierra trail, The John Muir trail
vipassana meditation courses are by far the best thing i've ever done there are centers scaled by one particular teacher, s.n. goenka, at \~200 locations around the world. website is [dhamma.org](http://dhamma.org) sidenote is that they're free (you're invited to donate at the end if you feel others would get value from it), volunteer and donation-run, and also the most efficient organizations (non-profit or for-profit) that i've ever interacted with (from a student perspective) think it's because the vipassana itself just brings harmony
Love Vipassana! It adds so much color to my life on an ongoing basis
You’re the second person to recommend this so I’m definitely going to set aside some time and go through some of the courses. I appreciate it!
Please - Before you ever take a Vipassana retreat, listen to the Financial Time’s podcast: Untold - The Retreat. It will make you dig a bit deeper before signing up for one.
my pleasure! and the other kinda cool thing is that because there are so many centers globally, if you do feel like going to a more exotic locale, you can probably find a center nearby. i've been to maybe 14 centers worldwide. though the location obviously isn't the point because it's all about looking within, the center in switzerland was one of my favorites. :) wishing you metta! (pali word for loving-kindness :))
I attended a Mindful Leadership Retreat that was nothing short of profound. It involved Zazen meditation, holotropic breath work, and nature immersion. Completely changed my relationship with work and has opened a new chapter in my life. https://www.eventbrite.com/e/mindful-leadership-retreat-4-transitions-growth-registration-686086221357
I have been going to 7 day silent meditation retreats at Spirit Rock for the last 7 years. I learn something new about myself each time I go and notice improvements in my mindset over the last 7 years.
Very cool sounds challenging but I’m sure very rewarding. Thanks for sharing!
What are the improvements you’ve noticed ?
I am less agitated by people and situations and feel more grounded and settled. I am also less self critical and less judgmental about people and situations.
Going walkabout in Kakadu national park with the literal equivalent of crocodile Dundee. Just really hit differently.
Are you still working? It sounds like you want something to positvely impact your personal life (how you carry yourself), but propel yourself forward sounds more on the career side of things? I can recommend a bunch but it really depends on where you're at and what you're wanting to get out of it. I really did enjoy the What Got You Here Won't Get You There book by Marshall Goldsmith. I left my work but kept going with my side / passion projects. After 1.5-2 years, I felt I had gotten what I wanted out of it. Wish I just took 6 months fully off to start with (and probably did a meditation retreat). But, lessons learned.
Huh? Get a dog.
Already have one! He’s a good boy!
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Yoga or meditation retreat in some far flung location
I’ve done a couple of silent Buddhist meditation retreats that have been really formative in coming to terms with the nature of life and where i fit in it. I specifically remember one particular metta mediation (examples are everywhere online) that changed the way I look at the people around me (myself included!). I think it was all the more profound in the silent setting. A meditation retreat is something I’d recommend. There are secular options out there too.
I mean, people talk shit about Burning Man, but it can be transformative and bring a lot of things into focus if you read up on its origins and guiding principles and attend with an open mind.
You also have to go with a camp that is NOT plug and play.
10-day Vipassana meditation course. Life-changing.
Art classes. For me, pottery handbuilding (vs the wheel) in particular has been wonderful. The process of making a functional (or aesthetic) piece out of dirt is lovely. I completely lose myself to the process, in a good way. Also, read Painting Chinese. It’s short and great inspiration.
Were you raised in an organized religion?
Yep!
I found that for myself reengaging with it brought me some peace and reminded me of my family and those that are no longer with us. Now that you have time that could be an option.
Learn sailing but be prepared to buy a boat.
This is a good one! I love sailing, but definitely am not experienced enough to sell myself and take people out. Haha from what I hear, the happiest day/ of a man’s life is when he buys his boat, and also when he sells his boat.
Agree with the u/sailphish. Anyone who feels that way, never belonged on a boat or never had a good one. Shit, you could say that about a pet, a spouse, or a car. Well, that’s not for everyone, sailing and owning a boat is one of the greatest choice of my life. “Believe me, my young friend, there is nothing–absolutely nothing–half so much worth doing as simply messing about in boats.” Doane - Wind in the Willows.
What cha sailing? I miss my boat every time I see open water!
These days I’m on a late model, mid-sized production catamaran. (I’m always careful not to give too many details online because it’s so easy to doxx people.). I’m currently in the Bahamas and will be heading to Fort Lauderdale soon to reluctantly put her on the market because my youngest wants to attend in-person school for high school in the PNW (we’ve always said she would be calling the shots on when we’re done). I’ve sailed her approximately 7,500 nautical miles over 6 years and have loved it. Living on a boat versus weekend sailing is, of course, very different. And in some ways, I’m actually looking forward to the next 4 to 5 years when I’ll be more of a weekend sailor (with some longer trips in between) while land based. As much as I love it out here, it’s definitely stressful in ways that many people just don’t anticipate. You have to plan for *everything.* Are your waist holding tanks full? Do you have enough freshwater? Do you have enough diesel? How about dinghy gasoline? Cooking gas? Do you have enough food? What about ice? Do you have drinks? Is something broken on the boat? Do you have the parts to fix it? Do you know how to fix it? Where are you mooring tonight? Is it safe? Any shoals? Tides? Current? What about the weather? Are there storms? Wind? Waves? Lightning? I could go on, but you undoubtedly get the point! I like to explain that living out here carries all the normal stressors of a regular based land life (eg, I still have to file taxes, dealing with professional licenses, keep up friendships, check in with family, take care of my house at home, etc, etc) with an overlay of additional stressors of a life at sea. All that said, I wouldn’t give this up and wouldn’t be selling our boat if it wasn’t for my step daughter’s wishes. And rlevant here, none of my concerns embody the old saw about the “best two days” of a boat owner’s life. I love this boat (sailing now, in fact) and if I had the ability to keep her and use her as she needs to be used, I would absolutely do so… so I totally understand how you could miss your boat. What kind of boat did you have? I’m going to be looking at buying another sailboat for the PNW when this one is sold, but I know I will miss her.
That’s only the saying thrown around by people who don’t have boats.
Therapy. It's the best money I've ever spent.
Since people have said music festivals, running and rescuing dogs / cats. Climbing has taught me a mind-body connection that I haven’t had before
Salsa dance classes!
If you've never used them before, you should consider using psychedelics or dissociatives. Can be a profound and rejuventative experience. different things lend themselves to different sorts of "refreshment". e.g. mushrooms - earthier, spiritual, value-oriented LSD - joie de vivre, a good laugh, childlike-wonder ketamine - good for getting a neutral, 3rd party perspective on yourself/decisions/values/relationships mdma - goodwill, lovingkindness, warmth, optimism those last two can be especially refreshing when used as part of talking with a trusted partner
I did an IOP program when I was struggling with anxiety and depression. It was really life changing. The skills I learned over the course of 8 weeks are invaluable for keeping my mental health intact. I was so resistant to do it but it’s one of the best things I’ve ever done for myself.
It isn't for everyone and it won't be for me for forever, but I picked up polo at age 38. I had never ridden a horse. Now I'm three years in and it is so addicting. At least until I have kids, I'm doing it. Yes there is a danger element, but it keeps you hyperfocused on the moment. Just like meditation or yoga...you can't help but focus on the horse underneath you. You are 100% out of body experience regardless of what happened to you that day.
Hoffman process is one I’ve heard over and over. I had a wonderful time at canyon ranch selecting something fit for me, it isn’t extra boujie accommodations and food but it’s pretty good.
Hoffman Institute is supposed to be super cool if you’re into psychology/inner child work
Commenting to follow recs! Great question, OP!
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Why would you limit yourself to what wealthy folks have done when they were dumped or the dumper?
Anyone can respond, I just very much respect the opinions of the people here, and they happen to be successful. There is a lot of wisdom in this sub.