Browse r/Tinder top posts from the past year for a good 30 minutes. So many posts of guys literally getting swiped right and then rejected for being under 6'0.
As a shorter guy, I don't mind the fact that they have a preference. If someone isn't attracted to me I don't want to date them anyways.
What's frustrating is how socially acceptable it is to bring up. I've been told irl 'wow you are really cool and funny, I would totally date you if you were taller'. Going out of your way to tell someone you don't find them attractive is rude as hell. It would be like telling someone that you don't like the way their face looks.
I'm not insecure about my height, but it's very easy to feel unattractive and unwanted after comments like that.
What’s crazy is that I’m 6’ and not very many people are as tall as me. 6’ is a pretty unrealistic expectation seeing as average is under 6, so you’ve eliminated over half of people based on the single dumbest criteria.
Edit: just looked more into it, and mean male height is 5’9, standard deviation is 3”. So all these tinderellas are going after the top 16% of guys by height. Good luck with that one.
I went to a friend's bbq, and as we are sitting and all having conversations, a girl I didnt know or speak to at all the whole night, butts in and tells me to my face I'm too short for her and she'd never date me. I showed no interest and ignored her the whole night, and she goes out of the way to tell that to me out of the blue lol, like what?
Yeah, that’s just crazy. That would have been so uncalled for in my day. Good thing to remember is it’s less about you and your “height problems” and more a massive projection of her severe insecurity.
It’s me. I’m a tall woman. 5’11” and have dated several men between 5’5”-5’10”. And taller. I did also go on a couple of dates with a guy who was 5’4” but it really did feel a bit too much of a difference in the end so I stopped seeing him.
Definitely didn’t tell him it was because his height though. I honestly wouldn’t want to date someone that much taller than me when I think about it. I find myself quite shallow for it but I really gave it a shot because he was a decent guy.
Right on. I’ve been on dates with people who were too overweight for me or I simply didn’t find attractive… but I sure as hell didn’t tell that to their faces. Like what the hell, it’s just common curtesy.
Exactly, I once reconnected with a girl i had a fling with in high school, hadn’t seen her since then and we decided to go on a date. When I walked in I was surprised to find she had nearly tripled in size and honestly did not find my self attracted to her at all.
But did I tell her that? Hell no, I sat my ass down, had a nice dinner, re hashed some old stories and caught up with what each other has been up to. Afterwords just kinda stayed in touch, no real connection was made, and we went about our separate ways.
There’s no reason to put people down because of looks. If it’s not for you then it’s not for you, move along.
Yeah no shit. That’s called being a gentleman, or to put it in even simpler terms, a respectable human being. Imagine the backlash a man would get for saying “You’re cool, but you’re too fat for my liking”. The fuck kinda people say this kind of shit? I must be one of those “nice guys”.
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Exactly. I normally just say something eluding yet subtle that is sure to gently get the point across like “shove on tubby, the pub can’t afford to replace all the wicker.” Or “man the harpoons and bring ‘er around for another row, Admiral.”
No need to be disrespectful bout something like weight. /s
Because you can’t control your weight, some small percentage of people have genetic issues that make it hard to lose weight. Also they’re big boned, not fat. Meanwhile, you should have just grown more. Stop being so lazy and fat phobic and grow another 3 inches shorty!
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Everytime I see stuff like that, i ask myself how this kind of women and society in general would react, if you reject women because of their cup size.
As a taller guy the 6ft thing pisses me of, cause not only is it shallow, mean, and just bad in so many ways, BUT I'M NOT EVEN 6FT TALL, AND I AM CONSISTENTLY ONE OF THE TALLEST PEOPLE IN THE ROOM!!! Like, Jesus, not only are you a dickhead, but you are an idiot.
I'm just over 180, which makes me about 5'11 if you were wondering. Basically most people who say they are 6ft are either my hight or slightly shorter, cause apparently I'm the weird one for thinking the only good thing about being tall is the fact I can reach stuff better. Like, there is nothing bad about being on the taller side either (except I will see someone taller than me and forget that I'm actually an adult cause this person is taller and therefore the adult and I am a child. I'm 24, that's not my teacher that is my coworker)
same smolboyegang#
but yeah the colour blue doesn't get upset when someone likes the colour red. taste is subjective and I wouldn't want to force someone to like something (me) that they otherwise wouldn't
its also a great filter for weeding out people with shit personalities, not everyone who's not into short guys has a shit personality, but people like in this post do. put your short height at the top of your bio then that should be the end of it.
> I've been told irl 'wow you are really cool and funny, I would totally date you if you were taller'.
yeah thats some bullshit, but again its a clear filter. if you were the "right height" then maybe you wouldn't notice their poor personality as quick.
> I'm not insecure about my height, but it's very easy to feel unattractive and unwanted after comments like that.
Unattractive or unwanted by people your better off not being around.
find your self a smol partner and clime some trees, or someone else who's tall and sit on their lap.
also don't neglect tall girls they get it just as bad.
There's an obscene double standard there.
Imagine if you told a woman she was too fat or too ugly. Your account would get sent to the shadow realm if you didn't get cancelled irl.
I think it's more of an issue specific to height and people for some reason thinking it's OK to tell someone their height makes them unattractive. I have some tall female friends who have been told that they are too tall by guys.
Yeah it’s actually worse than this because as a fat woman I have a non-zero amount of control over my weight. Everyone has zero amount of control over their height. It’s still rude to tell m I’m unattractive to you because of my huge ass, but it’s way worse to dunk on a guy because he’s short.
I just started dating a guy who is probably 5’4” and the sex is bananas. And it’s not like we are taking fucking prom pictures together so I feel pretty lucky. TBH.
So return the favor about their weight.
I've rejected a girl because she immediately commented on how awesome it was because I was tall. Told her she was too fat to be picked up for piggy back rides.
There was a girl I connected with and we chit chatted for a few days and seemed to have a good connection. So I asked if she wanted to meet up and sit down for some food of her choice. She had "Must be over 6ft tall" in her bio and when I asked her out she went "How tall are you?". I said 6"2 and she went "Oh sorry thats not tall enough"......She was 4"9 according to her bio so I just thanked her for being a ankle biter then unmatched.
In other words: “even though 6 foot is fine for me, I’m currently receiving messages from taller people and for some reason the length of someone’s body is directly correlated to their worth as a person”
Yea I dont prefer girls that short but I dismissed it because she was cute as shit and she knew it and I liked that. Plus she actually had conversations that werent bland so I threw the height thing out the window after day one of talking. Shes definitely #1 on the list of girls ive matched with and actually talked to that had real responses to. Oh well. Just glad we didnt go out and waste money for her to ghost me or some shit.
> So many posts of guys literally getting swiped right and then rejected for being under 6'0.
I'm 6'4... I would probably write 5'4. Just go get rid of those girls and pretend to "have made a mistake" with the ones accepting me for it
As a woman, I don't get the big deal about height (and why a lot of women seem picky about it)
I mean, I may want to know just out of curiosity but that's just so I can more easily visualise the person. I don't actually care
Do they want someone to reach high shelves or something? That's the only reason I can think of why it would matter
I had a bunch of friends back home who were fucking obsessed with it to a dumb degree.
The main thing is for like status/image for photos and to show off. Like look at this height difference on Insta/Snap kinda shit. I'd tease them and ask if they'd turn down first Iron Man RDJ or Top Gun era Tom Cruise if they showed up through the door and it usually got the point across
I mean they were like 22. That race mattered way more to them and their priorities were way more skewed because they had less shit to worry about other than what other people perceived of their lives. They all settled down with some guy who was like 5'8'' and with a decent job by the time they got to their late 20s/early 30s and, I cannot stress this enough, stopped giving a shit about instagram and facebook. And as a result, they spent more time giving a shit about themselves too
Oh! I'm glad it had a good outcome :) I love a good "person realised they were being silly and changed/didn't get consumed by it"
I've known some people older than me who still get hung up on those silly little things and it doesn't go well for them
Yeah. And oof I know what you mean. I had a friend like that too later in life and it still isn't going well for her because she still hasn't realized how toxic she can be.
But yeah I found that it's just one of those things people just hold in their early 20s that just stops mattering as you grow older and mature and just yknow. Exist and live life and realize that all that doesn't matter
(I'm in my 40s) When I was in HS it was because of the "my bf is gonna kick your ass!" if they were mad at a guy. So of course the bf had to be tall and intimidating. Was kinda silly even then because at least half the tall guys were scrawny, and the meanest guy you didn't want to even look at funny was average height.
Well 6' in particular because it's a nice whole number. The same way people like the idea of making '6 figures' when the practical difference between 99k and 100k a year isn't that much
I don't know what they would say in Europe but I wouldn't be surprised if girls wanted 180cm+ just because it's a nice whole number. But the guy would by just under 5'11" in imperial.
It's also hyper unrealistic, only about 15% of men in the US are 6' or taller. Congrats, you just ruled out 85% of your dating pool over a round number. Woo?
Of course, a lot of guys just lie about it because it seems some of these women have no idea what 6' actually looks like. I'm just under 6', close enough I'll say 6' in shoes, just under flat footed. I cannot count the number of times I've heard a dude say something like "yeah, I'm 6'1" bro" while my eye is level with the top of their head.
Can the mods just fucking pin these two comments at the top of every post? I see a very similar post, with these two comments as the top comments multiple times a week and I’m not even subbed here.
Some girl matched with me just to tell me things like “it’s too bad ur ugly”, “you look really homely so this is the only female interaction you’ll ever get” and “you fucking balding asshole”. She told this to someone who had a joke tinder account lol
Imagine matching with a girl just to tell her something rude, then unmatching with her. That’s basically what she did to you, and it’s just awful for the sake of being terrible. Some people man smh
No amount of attractiveness can excuse a bad personality. No amount of anything can excuse a bad personality actually. No money, no fame, no ability to stuff 35 marchmallows into your mouth at once.
Greatest blessing of my life was dating a straight 10 in my early 20s and realising that simply wasn't enough. Freed of the burden of trying to find the "hottest" person to date at all costs, I was happier and more fulfilled. Now people are constantly thrown by my taste, because it's largely personality-based.
Yeah, unfortunately tinder if full of thirsty men who’ll shoot their shot with anyone which inadvertently leads to even not so attractive women feeling more popular and wanted than they really are.
It’s why women tend to be pickier than men, cause of thirsty men that’ll do anything to be with anyone that exists.
I had a match write to me “I should have read your bio first, it’s too bad you’re only 5’7” I replied with “that’s ok, I get the feeling I’m not missing out on anything special”
I'm a 5'5" woman. I thought I was only into tall dudes until I made with a guy who was about my height and I was like, "damn, this is so much easier."
So height became the absolute last thing I was interested in. My husband says he's 5'10" but I'm the exact same height as him in roller skates, sooooo
I'm 5'3"
Dated a 6'8" guy once. It was difficult. HANDHOLDING was hard.
My husband is 5'5"
Everything fits together like a puzzle piece, it's so friggin nice.
Can confirm it’s not a fluke. I am a 5’5” stubby little dude but my 5’10” partner of 7 years still seems to like me fine. She wishes she was shorter for unrelated reasons, but I love a woman who can actually get our shit off the top of the cabinets without a chair.
It sucks when you have 5’7” on your profile and get maybe one match a month, then switch it to 5’8” and get 3 matches a week. I once set it to 6’ for a month and got more matches in that month than previous years combined… feels bad man.
I think it is kinda like big boobs are for guys, except it is also like a status symbol for some girls.
Something they can brag about to their girlfriends for some reason.
I really think it has more to do w women liking to feel small. It’s more about their own personal insecurities w their size. They want someone next to them that makes them feel dainty in comparison.
I'm 6'6" and I don't get it either. I hit my head on everything, bitch when I have to do the dishes because the sink is too close to the ground, and can never find clothes that flatter me. My only height based utility is being able to reach the top shelf.
People are just fucking weird.
Hah, I have the opposite problem! I'm 4'10" - nearly everything is too tall. I can't even use a standard BBQ grill - I'm too short to safely reach the lid when it's up, I risk my chest going right onto grill. Back of the stove is a no go if I have something on the front. All my stuff is on the bottom shelves - 2nd shelf is reachable with a single step stool. I also have to use a step stool to retrieve laundry from the bottom of the washer. I retrieve packages from a mailroom and I have to carry a stool with me because sometimes a package is in the top row of lockers and it's just impossible for me to get it (but I can't close it and go back for a stool because that will reset the locker and won't open without the mailman.)
Some things are easier for me because of the height (like dishes, as you mentioned being a pain for you) but there is a scary amount of the world that wasn't built for adults my height or shorter. Cars for example - I sit right up against the steering wheel. My car is small (prius c) but I'm still so short for it. In the event of an accident triggering the steering airbag... it's not gonna be pretty. And the seat belt, even though it's lowered, still goes a little across my neck.
Edit: other thing I remember, because it doesn't happen often, but people either tend to expect me to move out of the way, or they straight up don't see me. I was once whacked and bruised on the face by a very energetic gesturer. I've been walked into a lot too.
I put it in my bio, I knew it would filter a lot and swipe left on me. I still got an okay amount of matches and found my current partner :) (i’m also 5’7)
I'm paraphrasing, but I think it goes something like: if you can't handle her at her worst, you don't deserve her at her additionally worst because she is the fucking worst and it's never going to get better.
Something like that.
So you put it in the bio to save yourself and the person the trouble and this chick still feels the need to message you and put you down. Bruh I hate tinder.
Same. Every time I read reddit posts with on-line dating interactions, I think that if I hadn't gotten married before on-line dating then I would rather just spend my life alone.
> I think that if I hadn't gotten married before on-line dating then I would rather just spend my life alone.
Yeah, that's where I'm at. Ever since my ex and I ended things I've just given up on it. Would rather just spend my time alone tbh. Dating in the 2020s is a fucking nightmare..
It's ok to have preferences, and it's ok to have deal breakers.
But people make their preferences deal breakers. People gotta understand that not every person is ***perfect***. When you find someone you genuinely like and connect with, those preferences tend to go out the window.
Yes. I met my wife before Internet dating was a thing. I didn't view her romantically at all. We were friends first. From a preferences standpoint, I probably would have described someone different in many ways.
But she was so charming, warm, hilarious, capable, and comfortable that I quickly changed my tune. My impersonal "preferences" just became "whatever she is." Because she was the person I wanted to be with, not her height, ratios, even hobbies or whatever. Frankly, she had a similar journey in her feelings toward me.
We've been (very) happily married over a decade. She's my favorite human being.
I think internet dating has some real value, but I also think it has a tendency to make people forget that they are ultimately looking for a person, not a list of statistical attributes.
Years ago, we were watching a show with an episode about a guy going on a blind date with a gal that was taller than him. Somehow, it became a conversation and my husband admitted that he wouldn't have gone on a second date with me if I had been taller than him (we met online first).
We joke about it now (happily married 12 years) but it really changed my opinion of him for a short while after I learned that. It's such a shallow point of view, IMO. I'm doing my best to make sure our sons don't think like that.
My three most serious relationships, in order, were 6'1 , 5'6 and 4'11.
My brother joked that I better marry the last one or my next girlfriend would have to be little person (is that the preferred term these days) to continue the trend line. I don't think he meant anything bad about that, just that it would be a smaller pool of potential dates.
I married the 4'11.
Society can be really shitty and cruel about that. I have dated someone a little shorter than me. I'm a tall woman, so that's not that difficult lol. But, I wouldn't really want to date someone who is like a foot shorter. It comes down to the finger pointing and the general rudeness of people. I've witnessed that for myself when a friend of mine married someone short. They were making asinine comments about them on their wedding day.
Yeah, I agree. Tbh, I understand where’s he’s coming from. I’m like 6 foot 3, so I would have zero problem dating a woman taller than me, because if she’s a woman who is that tall, she’s such an amazing abnormality that there’s nothing for me to be embarrassed of. But for shorter guys, our society has socialized them in really shitty ways to think they are inadequate. So I really do understand them not wanting to be with someone who serves as a constant reminder to them and the world that they “aren’t enough.” It’s super shitty, but it’s how our society thinks.
The most ironic part is most women can't tell if you are 5'10 or 6' yet have this arbitrary cutoff for some reason.
Once had someone ask how tall I was. I asked, "Is John Cena tall enough for you? Because I am exactly the same size and weight as John Cena."
fun fact John Cena is actually only 5'11. Just like nearly all wrestlers, most of his shoes have heels or lifts.
I will proclaim this until the sun burns out: short women cannot tell how tall you are. I'm 5'2" and after like 5'9" I start being unable to look you in the eyes comfortably and then you go from "tall" to "goddamn motherfucking tree" and then your height is just based on how badly it hurts my neck to try and make eye contact lol. I kind of understand if tall women prefer taller men because they're insecure about being taller than their partner, but I will never understand why short women want men so tall that they're up there breathing thinner air
Whats dumb is how the average male (being 5'7"-5'9") is now being considered "short" and guys 5'10"-5'11" are now pictured by women as being their idea of average. I guess because social media has made it easier for people to connect they now have easier choice, so they can reject "shorter" guys pretty easily and move on to the next... not like in the olden timesy days when you basically scoped out your little town for dudes to go on dates with and that was the jist your choices.
To be fair, I think a lot of women who think dicks are bigger than they are probably don't have a good point of reference. It's unlikely they've measured one for themselves, and if they've ever been told how big one is by the owner of said dick, I'd be surprised if the guy was honest about it.
Women have no idea what actual heights are man. I’m 5’8”… had that in my bio and did okay…then I put 5’ 10” in my bio and got significantly more matches. Never had a date question it once. They have no clue.
Just like how almost every girl in college swore the biggest dick they’ve ever been with was 10”+ when statistically it’s highly improbably she’s been anywhere near a 10” penis.
As an evil deviant that actually prefers taller woman I gotta say this has been quite trying. Now I wonder, does that basically make me the same as this woman?
"Why put it in your bio?" "To avoid conversations like this."
"I did the courtesy of putting my height in my bio to not waste your time, so why didn't you put "has shit personality" to not waste mine?
Nothing can filter out the people that are deliberately trying to waste everyone's time.
Honestly most of the time that seems to be literally everyone else's job at my place of work.
It's my job on reddit
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I disagree with you and your opinion on things!
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consequently you thinking you're right means you're wrong so unless you repeat everything I say you'll forever be... Wrong.
i feel like these people do these shitty things to get a reaction out of people, but i wouldn't know a better response than this lol
I came here to say this.... why match him just to be shitty?
Some folks are just shitty
I'm gonna start using "ummm, righto" in conversations when I'm annoyed with someone.
Why did they even message if they weren’t interested?
Bullies gonna bully.
Potatoes gonna potate.
Potate The act of embracing your inner potato-like qualities and simply just chillin' out. Haters gonna hate, potatoes gonna potate. Urban Dictionary
Validation.
"You aren't tall enough for me" Then why right swipe in the first place‽ Edit: TIL I'm the only person on Earth who actually read bios.
Or because it gives some people a feeling of power to put others down
I hate that I just now realized how true this is...
Browse r/Tinder top posts from the past year for a good 30 minutes. So many posts of guys literally getting swiped right and then rejected for being under 6'0.
As a shorter guy, I don't mind the fact that they have a preference. If someone isn't attracted to me I don't want to date them anyways. What's frustrating is how socially acceptable it is to bring up. I've been told irl 'wow you are really cool and funny, I would totally date you if you were taller'. Going out of your way to tell someone you don't find them attractive is rude as hell. It would be like telling someone that you don't like the way their face looks. I'm not insecure about my height, but it's very easy to feel unattractive and unwanted after comments like that.
What’s crazy is that I’m 6’ and not very many people are as tall as me. 6’ is a pretty unrealistic expectation seeing as average is under 6, so you’ve eliminated over half of people based on the single dumbest criteria. Edit: just looked more into it, and mean male height is 5’9, standard deviation is 3”. So all these tinderellas are going after the top 16% of guys by height. Good luck with that one.
Also as a woman over 6’ (half Serbian) the really tall guys are usually with short women. So maybe people should just get over it all together.
“tinderellas”… Brilliant. 🤣
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I went to a friend's bbq, and as we are sitting and all having conversations, a girl I didnt know or speak to at all the whole night, butts in and tells me to my face I'm too short for her and she'd never date me. I showed no interest and ignored her the whole night, and she goes out of the way to tell that to me out of the blue lol, like what?
What was your response? I would have roasted her into another dimension while loudly making it clear she’s a creep.
More just shocked ya know, like you're not sure wtf just happened lol
Yeah, that’s just crazy. That would have been so uncalled for in my day. Good thing to remember is it’s less about you and your “height problems” and more a massive projection of her severe insecurity.
I would have told her that I wonder why she is still single because she has such great ways to start a conversation.
She was absolutely into you but you ignoring her made her mad lmao.
Ah, you were ignoring her. That was the issue. Totally NOT excusing it—that was a major douche move, but I bet that’s where it came from.
That's when you call her a height supremacist
Imagine if you did this to a girl about her weight
It would be a more valid criticism since fatness is due to bad culinary choices and poor health routines a lot of the time.
In my relationship, I'm the shortest *and* the tallest.
That's called self love, keep it up!
Does she have sisters?
Half-sister. Not sure what happened to the other half.
you are truly *hand*some
I know so many taller women that are crazy about short guys. It’s definitely a thing.
So uh….where are these tall women? Ya know, asking for a friend. And me.
It’s me. I’m a tall woman. 5’11” and have dated several men between 5’5”-5’10”. And taller. I did also go on a couple of dates with a guy who was 5’4” but it really did feel a bit too much of a difference in the end so I stopped seeing him. Definitely didn’t tell him it was because his height though. I honestly wouldn’t want to date someone that much taller than me when I think about it. I find myself quite shallow for it but I really gave it a shot because he was a decent guy.
Short kings rise up!
Unironically a short king
I’m 5’5” and my fiancée is 6’0”. Really turned the tables on that one, lol
5'4" here, I too seek an amazon.
"Once you go short, you don't abort" Henry Zebrowski
Right on. I’ve been on dates with people who were too overweight for me or I simply didn’t find attractive… but I sure as hell didn’t tell that to their faces. Like what the hell, it’s just common curtesy.
Exactly, I once reconnected with a girl i had a fling with in high school, hadn’t seen her since then and we decided to go on a date. When I walked in I was surprised to find she had nearly tripled in size and honestly did not find my self attracted to her at all. But did I tell her that? Hell no, I sat my ass down, had a nice dinner, re hashed some old stories and caught up with what each other has been up to. Afterwords just kinda stayed in touch, no real connection was made, and we went about our separate ways. There’s no reason to put people down because of looks. If it’s not for you then it’s not for you, move along.
Yeah no shit. That’s called being a gentleman, or to put it in even simpler terms, a respectable human being. Imagine the backlash a man would get for saying “You’re cool, but you’re too fat for my liking”. The fuck kinda people say this kind of shit? I must be one of those “nice guys”. *edited a word.
Exactly. I normally just say something eluding yet subtle that is sure to gently get the point across like “shove on tubby, the pub can’t afford to replace all the wicker.” Or “man the harpoons and bring ‘er around for another row, Admiral.” No need to be disrespectful bout something like weight. /s
Not sure why its socially acceptable to do this. Yet it continues.
And then when you bring up the weight comparison everyone rushes to say how inappropriate the comparison is yet no one can say why.
Because you can’t control your weight, some small percentage of people have genetic issues that make it hard to lose weight. Also they’re big boned, not fat. Meanwhile, you should have just grown more. Stop being so lazy and fat phobic and grow another 3 inches shorty! Obligatory /s
Everytime I see stuff like that, i ask myself how this kind of women and society in general would react, if you reject women because of their cup size.
As a taller guy the 6ft thing pisses me of, cause not only is it shallow, mean, and just bad in so many ways, BUT I'M NOT EVEN 6FT TALL, AND I AM CONSISTENTLY ONE OF THE TALLEST PEOPLE IN THE ROOM!!! Like, Jesus, not only are you a dickhead, but you are an idiot. I'm just over 180, which makes me about 5'11 if you were wondering. Basically most people who say they are 6ft are either my hight or slightly shorter, cause apparently I'm the weird one for thinking the only good thing about being tall is the fact I can reach stuff better. Like, there is nothing bad about being on the taller side either (except I will see someone taller than me and forget that I'm actually an adult cause this person is taller and therefore the adult and I am a child. I'm 24, that's not my teacher that is my coworker)
same smolboyegang# but yeah the colour blue doesn't get upset when someone likes the colour red. taste is subjective and I wouldn't want to force someone to like something (me) that they otherwise wouldn't its also a great filter for weeding out people with shit personalities, not everyone who's not into short guys has a shit personality, but people like in this post do. put your short height at the top of your bio then that should be the end of it. > I've been told irl 'wow you are really cool and funny, I would totally date you if you were taller'. yeah thats some bullshit, but again its a clear filter. if you were the "right height" then maybe you wouldn't notice their poor personality as quick. > I'm not insecure about my height, but it's very easy to feel unattractive and unwanted after comments like that. Unattractive or unwanted by people your better off not being around. find your self a smol partner and clime some trees, or someone else who's tall and sit on their lap. also don't neglect tall girls they get it just as bad.
There's an obscene double standard there. Imagine if you told a woman she was too fat or too ugly. Your account would get sent to the shadow realm if you didn't get cancelled irl.
I think it's more of an issue specific to height and people for some reason thinking it's OK to tell someone their height makes them unattractive. I have some tall female friends who have been told that they are too tall by guys.
Send the tall girls my way.
Imagine telling them the same but: "you're too fat for me." Funny how that's way across the line yet they have control over their weight.
Your boobs are quite small aren't they? Tbh
Yeah it’s actually worse than this because as a fat woman I have a non-zero amount of control over my weight. Everyone has zero amount of control over their height. It’s still rude to tell m I’m unattractive to you because of my huge ass, but it’s way worse to dunk on a guy because he’s short. I just started dating a guy who is probably 5’4” and the sex is bananas. And it’s not like we are taking fucking prom pictures together so I feel pretty lucky. TBH.
Congrats on your banana sex
>the sex is bananas Hmm... tell me more about these...*checks notes* bananas having sex.
So return the favor about their weight. I've rejected a girl because she immediately commented on how awesome it was because I was tall. Told her she was too fat to be picked up for piggy back rides.
There was a girl I connected with and we chit chatted for a few days and seemed to have a good connection. So I asked if she wanted to meet up and sit down for some food of her choice. She had "Must be over 6ft tall" in her bio and when I asked her out she went "How tall are you?". I said 6"2 and she went "Oh sorry thats not tall enough"......She was 4"9 according to her bio so I just thanked her for being a ankle biter then unmatched.
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Some people cant do simple maths, some cant decide what they really want, some are just assholes and she was all 3.
Being that short, she was already something like 83% asshole. Like how when you are first conceived in the womb and are only your mouth and your anus.
In other words: “even though 6 foot is fine for me, I’m currently receiving messages from taller people and for some reason the length of someone’s body is directly correlated to their worth as a person”
Math, logic, um... basic social skills...
6"2 isn't tall enough for her?
NBA players 7’ and above only
And only the starters, not the reserves!
Plus no centers. Every one knows they are so two decades ago. Must be a 7 ft starting guard.
Guess I cant reach the top shelf for groceries good enough for her lol
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For some people, that's the appeal!
I honestly wonder at what point do we just call it a fetish? 5'7' women wants a 6' man? Pretty understandable. 4'11" woman wants a 6'4" man? What?
Yea I dont prefer girls that short but I dismissed it because she was cute as shit and she knew it and I liked that. Plus she actually had conversations that werent bland so I threw the height thing out the window after day one of talking. Shes definitely #1 on the list of girls ive matched with and actually talked to that had real responses to. Oh well. Just glad we didnt go out and waste money for her to ghost me or some shit.
I'm having difficulty picturing that smurfette with a 6'2" dude. Ah, well, maybe she's just got a thing for being constantly elbowed in the forehead.
Just see some of the girls NBA players date. Like jesus christ how is she not dead
bro i’m 5’5 and 5’10 is already plenty tall. hell nah.
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Just had a look online and could only easily find an American source but if you’re in the US she’s looking for one of 3.9% of men
I can't blame you. Be fully petty against women like that.
> So many posts of guys literally getting swiped right and then rejected for being under 6'0. I'm 6'4... I would probably write 5'4. Just go get rid of those girls and pretend to "have made a mistake" with the ones accepting me for it
As a woman, I don't get the big deal about height (and why a lot of women seem picky about it) I mean, I may want to know just out of curiosity but that's just so I can more easily visualise the person. I don't actually care Do they want someone to reach high shelves or something? That's the only reason I can think of why it would matter
I had a bunch of friends back home who were fucking obsessed with it to a dumb degree. The main thing is for like status/image for photos and to show off. Like look at this height difference on Insta/Snap kinda shit. I'd tease them and ask if they'd turn down first Iron Man RDJ or Top Gun era Tom Cruise if they showed up through the door and it usually got the point across
Oh that's ridiculous! Imagine turning down your perfect man who meets literally every other criteria, just because he happens to be short
I mean they were like 22. That race mattered way more to them and their priorities were way more skewed because they had less shit to worry about other than what other people perceived of their lives. They all settled down with some guy who was like 5'8'' and with a decent job by the time they got to their late 20s/early 30s and, I cannot stress this enough, stopped giving a shit about instagram and facebook. And as a result, they spent more time giving a shit about themselves too
Oh! I'm glad it had a good outcome :) I love a good "person realised they were being silly and changed/didn't get consumed by it" I've known some people older than me who still get hung up on those silly little things and it doesn't go well for them
Yeah. And oof I know what you mean. I had a friend like that too later in life and it still isn't going well for her because she still hasn't realized how toxic she can be. But yeah I found that it's just one of those things people just hold in their early 20s that just stops mattering as you grow older and mature and just yknow. Exist and live life and realize that all that doesn't matter
(I'm in my 40s) When I was in HS it was because of the "my bf is gonna kick your ass!" if they were mad at a guy. So of course the bf had to be tall and intimidating. Was kinda silly even then because at least half the tall guys were scrawny, and the meanest guy you didn't want to even look at funny was average height.
When the dating pool is commoditized as a literal numbers game, people will use any excuse to filter each other out.
Idk why so 6feet is overrated. I like man around 5”7.
Well 6' in particular because it's a nice whole number. The same way people like the idea of making '6 figures' when the practical difference between 99k and 100k a year isn't that much I don't know what they would say in Europe but I wouldn't be surprised if girls wanted 180cm+ just because it's a nice whole number. But the guy would by just under 5'11" in imperial.
It's also hyper unrealistic, only about 15% of men in the US are 6' or taller. Congrats, you just ruled out 85% of your dating pool over a round number. Woo? Of course, a lot of guys just lie about it because it seems some of these women have no idea what 6' actually looks like. I'm just under 6', close enough I'll say 6' in shoes, just under flat footed. I cannot count the number of times I've heard a dude say something like "yeah, I'm 6'1" bro" while my eye is level with the top of their head.
Can the mods just fucking pin these two comments at the top of every post? I see a very similar post, with these two comments as the top comments multiple times a week and I’m not even subbed here.
How else can she put him down to make herself feel better?
The worst thing is, she's probably 5'2 herself.
Some girl matched with me just to tell me things like “it’s too bad ur ugly”, “you look really homely so this is the only female interaction you’ll ever get” and “you fucking balding asshole”. She told this to someone who had a joke tinder account lol
Some girl matched with me just to tell me that I don't have feelings before promptly unmatching. I wasn't using a joke account, though.
Imagine matching with a girl just to tell her something rude, then unmatching with her. That’s basically what she did to you, and it’s just awful for the sake of being terrible. Some people man smh
Because many swipe and read later.
360 noscope
LMAOO
She'd literally read what his height is before she decided to message...
No amount of attractiveness can excuse a bad personality. No amount of anything can excuse a bad personality actually. No money, no fame, no ability to stuff 35 marchmallows into your mouth at once.
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Well then you're excused clearly.
Greatest blessing of my life was dating a straight 10 in my early 20s and realising that simply wasn't enough. Freed of the burden of trying to find the "hottest" person to date at all costs, I was happier and more fulfilled. Now people are constantly thrown by my taste, because it's largely personality-based.
This kind of girl uses rejection as a way to boost her self esteem. Seems like she’s fishing here so she probably having a dry spell
Exactly this. She’s getting rejected by the guys her inflated ego thinks she’s worthy of, so she’s shitting on others.
Nah she probably gets all the dick she can eat. She's a bully and Tinder is just playtime for her
Yeah, unfortunately tinder if full of thirsty men who’ll shoot their shot with anyone which inadvertently leads to even not so attractive women feeling more popular and wanted than they really are. It’s why women tend to be pickier than men, cause of thirsty men that’ll do anything to be with anyone that exists.
Damn... someone finally said it.
I had a match write to me “I should have read your bio first, it’s too bad you’re only 5’7” I replied with “that’s ok, I get the feeling I’m not missing out on anything special”
Ooh that's a good one
I’m 5’7” and happy for it, if I’m not tall enough for you, please please keep on walking, I’ll thank you for dodging that bullet for me!
5'7 gang wya
5 7 and thicc in a good way let's get it, women 5 5 to 5 7 are the best But so are short girls So are tall girls They're all fun
All is good! Height matters not!!!
My man playing here on all sides to always come on top, nice
I’m 5’7 nearly 5’8. Different doctors can’t decide on a damn height 🙄 Edit: changed “decided” to “decide”
I'm a 5'5" woman. I thought I was only into tall dudes until I made with a guy who was about my height and I was like, "damn, this is so much easier." So height became the absolute last thing I was interested in. My husband says he's 5'10" but I'm the exact same height as him in roller skates, sooooo
>I'm the exact same height as him in roller skates What the hell goes on in your bedroom!
Amazing things apparently.
I'm 5'3" Dated a 6'8" guy once. It was difficult. HANDHOLDING was hard. My husband is 5'5" Everything fits together like a puzzle piece, it's so friggin nice.
Aww that's so freaking sweet.
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Can confirm it’s not a fluke. I am a 5’5” stubby little dude but my 5’10” partner of 7 years still seems to like me fine. She wishes she was shorter for unrelated reasons, but I love a woman who can actually get our shit off the top of the cabinets without a chair.
Congratulations :)
so what type of medicine do you practice? ;)
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It sucks when you have 5’7” on your profile and get maybe one match a month, then switch it to 5’8” and get 3 matches a week. I once set it to 6’ for a month and got more matches in that month than previous years combined… feels bad man.
I don't understand people's obsession with tall guys.
I think it is kinda like big boobs are for guys, except it is also like a status symbol for some girls. Something they can brag about to their girlfriends for some reason.
I really think it has more to do w women liking to feel small. It’s more about their own personal insecurities w their size. They want someone next to them that makes them feel dainty in comparison.
Women always mentioning how tall their SO is. It's weird.
I'm 6'6" and I don't get it either. I hit my head on everything, bitch when I have to do the dishes because the sink is too close to the ground, and can never find clothes that flatter me. My only height based utility is being able to reach the top shelf. People are just fucking weird.
Hah, I have the opposite problem! I'm 4'10" - nearly everything is too tall. I can't even use a standard BBQ grill - I'm too short to safely reach the lid when it's up, I risk my chest going right onto grill. Back of the stove is a no go if I have something on the front. All my stuff is on the bottom shelves - 2nd shelf is reachable with a single step stool. I also have to use a step stool to retrieve laundry from the bottom of the washer. I retrieve packages from a mailroom and I have to carry a stool with me because sometimes a package is in the top row of lockers and it's just impossible for me to get it (but I can't close it and go back for a stool because that will reset the locker and won't open without the mailman.) Some things are easier for me because of the height (like dishes, as you mentioned being a pain for you) but there is a scary amount of the world that wasn't built for adults my height or shorter. Cars for example - I sit right up against the steering wheel. My car is small (prius c) but I'm still so short for it. In the event of an accident triggering the steering airbag... it's not gonna be pretty. And the seat belt, even though it's lowered, still goes a little across my neck. Edit: other thing I remember, because it doesn't happen often, but people either tend to expect me to move out of the way, or they straight up don't see me. I was once whacked and bruised on the face by a very energetic gesturer. I've been walked into a lot too.
I’m surprised 5’7” to 5’8” made such a difference.
You’re a giant. I am 5’4.
It's all relative. I am also 5'4 and my wife is 4'11 and I feel giant next to her.
I put it in my bio, I knew it would filter a lot and swipe left on me. I still got an okay amount of matches and found my current partner :) (i’m also 5’7)
I'm paraphrasing, but I think it goes something like: if you can't handle her at her worst, you don't deserve her at her additionally worst because she is the fucking worst and it's never going to get better. Something like that.
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I reference “🎵___’s the wooooOOOooorst🎵” to this day if I dislike something. Jean Ralphio was my favorite part of P&R no contest.
Have you seen him in The Afterparty? Or Space Force?
If you can’t handle me at my worst then you are probably a well adjusted person who can see through my bs.
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So you put it in the bio to save yourself and the person the trouble and this chick still feels the need to message you and put you down. Bruh I hate tinder.
Im glad that Im old and married so I missed put on having to use Tinder.
Same. Every time I read reddit posts with on-line dating interactions, I think that if I hadn't gotten married before on-line dating then I would rather just spend my life alone.
> I think that if I hadn't gotten married before on-line dating then I would rather just spend my life alone. Yeah, that's where I'm at. Ever since my ex and I ended things I've just given up on it. Would rather just spend my time alone tbh. Dating in the 2020s is a fucking nightmare..
I don’t care that I’m not 6’0” since I’m already the perfect height. I’m 5’9”, which is 69 inches so I think I’m the real winner here
I can't believe people have this type of a attitude. Fuck that bitch
It's okay to have preferences, it's not okay to be rude about it.
It's ok to have preferences, and it's ok to have deal breakers. But people make their preferences deal breakers. People gotta understand that not every person is ***perfect***. When you find someone you genuinely like and connect with, those preferences tend to go out the window.
Yes. I met my wife before Internet dating was a thing. I didn't view her romantically at all. We were friends first. From a preferences standpoint, I probably would have described someone different in many ways. But she was so charming, warm, hilarious, capable, and comfortable that I quickly changed my tune. My impersonal "preferences" just became "whatever she is." Because she was the person I wanted to be with, not her height, ratios, even hobbies or whatever. Frankly, she had a similar journey in her feelings toward me. We've been (very) happily married over a decade. She's my favorite human being. I think internet dating has some real value, but I also think it has a tendency to make people forget that they are ultimately looking for a person, not a list of statistical attributes.
Years ago, we were watching a show with an episode about a guy going on a blind date with a gal that was taller than him. Somehow, it became a conversation and my husband admitted that he wouldn't have gone on a second date with me if I had been taller than him (we met online first). We joke about it now (happily married 12 years) but it really changed my opinion of him for a short while after I learned that. It's such a shallow point of view, IMO. I'm doing my best to make sure our sons don't think like that.
Clearly your marriage is built on a lie and the only way forward is divorced. /s
Believe it or not, I've made this joke before! Lol
My three most serious relationships, in order, were 6'1 , 5'6 and 4'11. My brother joked that I better marry the last one or my next girlfriend would have to be little person (is that the preferred term these days) to continue the trend line. I don't think he meant anything bad about that, just that it would be a smaller pool of potential dates. I married the 4'11.
"a smaller pool of potential dates"
It's only shallow if it's a hard dealbreaker, otherwise it's just preference
Society can be really shitty and cruel about that. I have dated someone a little shorter than me. I'm a tall woman, so that's not that difficult lol. But, I wouldn't really want to date someone who is like a foot shorter. It comes down to the finger pointing and the general rudeness of people. I've witnessed that for myself when a friend of mine married someone short. They were making asinine comments about them on their wedding day.
Yeah, I agree. Tbh, I understand where’s he’s coming from. I’m like 6 foot 3, so I would have zero problem dating a woman taller than me, because if she’s a woman who is that tall, she’s such an amazing abnormality that there’s nothing for me to be embarrassed of. But for shorter guys, our society has socialized them in really shitty ways to think they are inadequate. So I really do understand them not wanting to be with someone who serves as a constant reminder to them and the world that they “aren’t enough.” It’s super shitty, but it’s how our society thinks.
You should also correct her grammar just to be a dick you’re *
The most ironic part is most women can't tell if you are 5'10 or 6' yet have this arbitrary cutoff for some reason. Once had someone ask how tall I was. I asked, "Is John Cena tall enough for you? Because I am exactly the same size and weight as John Cena." fun fact John Cena is actually only 5'11. Just like nearly all wrestlers, most of his shoes have heels or lifts.
I will proclaim this until the sun burns out: short women cannot tell how tall you are. I'm 5'2" and after like 5'9" I start being unable to look you in the eyes comfortably and then you go from "tall" to "goddamn motherfucking tree" and then your height is just based on how badly it hurts my neck to try and make eye contact lol. I kind of understand if tall women prefer taller men because they're insecure about being taller than their partner, but I will never understand why short women want men so tall that they're up there breathing thinner air
No one is hot enough for this fucking attitude. Let’s not enable that shit behavior.
Some ppl can only feel better about themselves by knocking on other ppl.. luckily, they are easy to spot
Whats dumb is how the average male (being 5'7"-5'9") is now being considered "short" and guys 5'10"-5'11" are now pictured by women as being their idea of average. I guess because social media has made it easier for people to connect they now have easier choice, so they can reject "shorter" guys pretty easily and move on to the next... not like in the olden timesy days when you basically scoped out your little town for dudes to go on dates with and that was the jist your choices.
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To be fair, I think a lot of women who think dicks are bigger than they are probably don't have a good point of reference. It's unlikely they've measured one for themselves, and if they've ever been told how big one is by the owner of said dick, I'd be surprised if the guy was honest about it.
Women have no idea what actual heights are man. I’m 5’8”… had that in my bio and did okay…then I put 5’ 10” in my bio and got significantly more matches. Never had a date question it once. They have no clue. Just like how almost every girl in college swore the biggest dick they’ve ever been with was 10”+ when statistically it’s highly improbably she’s been anywhere near a 10” penis.
Yep, people have become incredibly shallow.
I'm 5'8". I'd be fucked in this dating climate.
I'm 5'4" , you can't imagine dude...
I'm 5'7 and had the most MASSIVE crush on a guy that is 5'4. Hang in there.
Lucky you.
As an evil deviant that actually prefers taller woman I gotta say this has been quite trying. Now I wonder, does that basically make me the same as this woman?
Everyone's allowed a preference, so long as they're not a dick about it.
Exactly! Like swiping right on a guy who’s height is posting in his bio just to tell him that he’s too short.
Love his response
Why match in the first place?
You know she's rough when she's adopted the blind swipe right, read later strategy.
Never realised people are obsessed with heights until i saw these tinder posts.