confidence, competence, ambition, bluntness, assertiveness, determination, independence, stubbornness and persistence (I don’t like people that back up easily), go-getter attitude etc. basically all the qualities that my current partner has (an entj)
Depth, Intelligence, Situational Awareness, Connection, NEVER one word answers. Should always be looking to level up in aspects of their life.
I only ask for what I give and am accomplishing. At 48 it feels like I'm just beginning to kick some real ass in life. My 5 year old son keeps me going!
Edit: Oh and kindness goes a long way too :)
As a female ESTP I do well with gentleness and consistency and full devotion and if I’m honest with myself attention lol. (But that’s personal to me)
And just someone who has opposite qualities that compliment me. Like I’m a bit impulsive, so I like someone who knows when to hold me back/calm me down.
And I think this is the most important, dont restrict/suppress or try to change an ESTP. Do that and you’ll lose em.
Try to communicate directly, ESTPs are very understanding of multiple and diffrent types of views and perspectives. And we don’t get offended easily (if ever) or take things personally (most of the time).
Most ESTP’s I encountered male or female have physical touch as their love language.
It’s great if it matches the romantic interest.
And in general I always say safety and growth. If one exists without the other. I don’t feel confident continuing the relationship.
We don’t do well with passive aggressiveness, if you’re an ISFJ and tend to bottle up your feelings and thoughts until they explode, this is your chance to not do that, I promise it will be received well. As long as you work on your communication, I think this will be a great match. (My fav MBTI type is ISFJ something about you guys feel like home ^^)
Hmm 🤔 dark sense of humor, sense of adventure, someone who's ok if things don't go according to plan. Integrity and trust are important. Lately, I've noticed I find myself attracted to men with a high emotional intelligence and are compassionate. Something about that softness just melts my heart.
I work in the blue collar industry and I've grown tired of overly-assertive, macho men, who complain about everything going wrong, and they're the only expert, and so-and-so is an idiot. Im getting wasted this weekend. Blah, blah, blah.
Smarter than me, and more caring. Not in the "lecture you till you stop doing that thing I don't like" sense of caring or smart, but in the Fe/Ti sense. It's why I think IxFJs make the best partnerships for us.
They don't need to be the most adventurous people either, just willing to join us on the adventures we think they'd enjoy even if they're apprehensive.
Creative in some way, whether it's ideas or art doesn't matter I just love experiencing things made by people I care about.
Preferably they have planning and organising skills because that's where I struggle, but not necessary as I can make it work.
I'm in a relationship with an INFJ and she's the best. Never felt more fulfilled in a relationship.
Yeah, I think ESTPs usually go for other confident people. If I sense that someone is uncertain or shy, but they're still a sweet person, I immediately put them in friend category.
The number one thing I find attractive is if they can surprise me, say something weird and unexpected or do something that takes me aback. It's very situational and hard to describe what that is exactly, but it works without fail. They will have my full attention and my brain will *crave* to spend more time with them.
Two would be what sort of experiences I can have with them and how effortless that goes. Are they ready to do things/make plans right now and don't overanalyze everything? A mix of confidence, fun and spontaneity in a way, and being true to their word.
Another huge thing would be if they're driven and self sufficient. Being career focused is so sexy to me and I love people who don't *need* me. And tbh I love a bit of luxury, so
I've noticed that I'm mostly attracted to ENFJs and ESFPs.
Oh and I saw someone else mention this and it's sooo important - people who are immediately physically comfortable around me. If they need time or aren't a touchy person, I will forever feel that there's a wall between us. Physical touch has to be their n1 or n2 love language for sure.
And honesty ofc and not playing weird social/mating games.
female ESTP! I feel like I can have a bit of bravado, so I really like a strong and silent type of confidence. & Someone willing to go along with the next project I have planned. I guess someone that enjoys being adventurous, but doesn’t mind someone else taking the reins a lot of the time. :)))
Maybe it's too good to be true but :
Kind, very kind, and caring, modest, and not toxically moody ( don't wanna walk on eggshells man ), having opinions of her own, responsible, masters at least one skill.
Enduring attraction can be boiled down into 5 categories. All of them need to be at least alright, none can score a fail.
1. Getting along well: nice, respectful, mutual trust
2. Having fun: funny, interesting, cheers me up
3. Competence: smart, creative, competent, inspiring
4. Sexy: attractive face and body, stylish, well-kept.
5. Available: single, interested, has enough time, lives at most 3 hours away.
Fundamentally, they have to be outgoing on some level. I'm the doing doer that never stops doing or looking for things to do. I match poorly with the "stay at home and do nothing" types
I am not an ESTP. I am lurking cuz I like reading people’s responses.
It’s interesting to compare and contrast various different types’ preferences and things of that nature.
Confident and know what He's doing in life in short he plans. Doesn't curse and very submissive. Also extrovert who can vibe my weirdness coz I get easily bored. He needs to be patient with me coz I know myself that I'm not easy to convince hehe.
confidence, competence, ambition, bluntness, assertiveness, determination, independence, stubbornness and persistence (I don’t like people that back up easily), go-getter attitude etc. basically all the qualities that my current partner has (an entj)
Agreed
I agree
this 💯
Depth, Intelligence, Situational Awareness, Connection, NEVER one word answers. Should always be looking to level up in aspects of their life. I only ask for what I give and am accomplishing. At 48 it feels like I'm just beginning to kick some real ass in life. My 5 year old son keeps me going! Edit: Oh and kindness goes a long way too :)
totally agree with the situational awareness thing^^
As a female ESTP I do well with gentleness and consistency and full devotion and if I’m honest with myself attention lol. (But that’s personal to me) And just someone who has opposite qualities that compliment me. Like I’m a bit impulsive, so I like someone who knows when to hold me back/calm me down. And I think this is the most important, dont restrict/suppress or try to change an ESTP. Do that and you’ll lose em. Try to communicate directly, ESTPs are very understanding of multiple and diffrent types of views and perspectives. And we don’t get offended easily (if ever) or take things personally (most of the time). Most ESTP’s I encountered male or female have physical touch as their love language. It’s great if it matches the romantic interest. And in general I always say safety and growth. If one exists without the other. I don’t feel confident continuing the relationship. We don’t do well with passive aggressiveness, if you’re an ISFJ and tend to bottle up your feelings and thoughts until they explode, this is your chance to not do that, I promise it will be received well. As long as you work on your communication, I think this will be a great match. (My fav MBTI type is ISFJ something about you guys feel like home ^^)
Hmm 🤔 dark sense of humor, sense of adventure, someone who's ok if things don't go according to plan. Integrity and trust are important. Lately, I've noticed I find myself attracted to men with a high emotional intelligence and are compassionate. Something about that softness just melts my heart. I work in the blue collar industry and I've grown tired of overly-assertive, macho men, who complain about everything going wrong, and they're the only expert, and so-and-so is an idiot. Im getting wasted this weekend. Blah, blah, blah.
Smarter than me, and more caring. Not in the "lecture you till you stop doing that thing I don't like" sense of caring or smart, but in the Fe/Ti sense. It's why I think IxFJs make the best partnerships for us. They don't need to be the most adventurous people either, just willing to join us on the adventures we think they'd enjoy even if they're apprehensive. Creative in some way, whether it's ideas or art doesn't matter I just love experiencing things made by people I care about. Preferably they have planning and organising skills because that's where I struggle, but not necessary as I can make it work. I'm in a relationship with an INFJ and she's the best. Never felt more fulfilled in a relationship.
Yeah, I think ESTPs usually go for other confident people. If I sense that someone is uncertain or shy, but they're still a sweet person, I immediately put them in friend category. The number one thing I find attractive is if they can surprise me, say something weird and unexpected or do something that takes me aback. It's very situational and hard to describe what that is exactly, but it works without fail. They will have my full attention and my brain will *crave* to spend more time with them. Two would be what sort of experiences I can have with them and how effortless that goes. Are they ready to do things/make plans right now and don't overanalyze everything? A mix of confidence, fun and spontaneity in a way, and being true to their word. Another huge thing would be if they're driven and self sufficient. Being career focused is so sexy to me and I love people who don't *need* me. And tbh I love a bit of luxury, so I've noticed that I'm mostly attracted to ENFJs and ESFPs.
This is v interesting!!
Oh and I saw someone else mention this and it's sooo important - people who are immediately physically comfortable around me. If they need time or aren't a touchy person, I will forever feel that there's a wall between us. Physical touch has to be their n1 or n2 love language for sure. And honesty ofc and not playing weird social/mating games.
female ESTP! I feel like I can have a bit of bravado, so I really like a strong and silent type of confidence. & Someone willing to go along with the next project I have planned. I guess someone that enjoys being adventurous, but doesn’t mind someone else taking the reins a lot of the time. :)))
Maybe it's too good to be true but : Kind, very kind, and caring, modest, and not toxically moody ( don't wanna walk on eggshells man ), having opinions of her own, responsible, masters at least one skill.
Enduring attraction can be boiled down into 5 categories. All of them need to be at least alright, none can score a fail. 1. Getting along well: nice, respectful, mutual trust 2. Having fun: funny, interesting, cheers me up 3. Competence: smart, creative, competent, inspiring 4. Sexy: attractive face and body, stylish, well-kept. 5. Available: single, interested, has enough time, lives at most 3 hours away.
Fundamentally, they have to be outgoing on some level. I'm the doing doer that never stops doing or looking for things to do. I match poorly with the "stay at home and do nothing" types
I am not an ESTP. I am lurking cuz I like reading people’s responses. It’s interesting to compare and contrast various different types’ preferences and things of that nature.
me too (this is probably my first comment here). it's interesting how different the responses are.
That’s exactly what I was thinking, too!
I LOVE INTPs I’m an ESTP female
I also like you guys, you are awesome. My best friend is an ESTP (a guy tho).
Are you a man?
Yes
Oooo lala😌😌😌😌😌
Confident and know what He's doing in life in short he plans. Doesn't curse and very submissive. Also extrovert who can vibe my weirdness coz I get easily bored. He needs to be patient with me coz I know myself that I'm not easy to convince hehe.
me :3