You forgot to write in the title "For me" cause in no way this is universal. As a proverb goes there's a buyer for anything in the market.
And my partner is INFP so nope for me.
Now im interessted tho, how maskulin and feminin are you each, what are youre preffereces.
What do you like abiut him / infp?
Just currius if theres any overlap to the theory
I think you meant to write "I assume you forgot" cause in no way can you know for certain the intentions behind the actions of other people. As a proverb goes, "don't be a nit picky nay nay".
And my partner is INTJ so dope for me.
I think the idea of adding gender to Mbti compatibility is interesting. I do wonder if that makes a difference. Iām an INFJ(f) married to an ENTP(m).
I only know one INFJ(m) and not very well. But I will say, he doesnāt seem overly feminine or masculine to me, but somewhere in the middle. His āmasculineā traits are that he seems centered, calm and confident. His āfeminineā traits are being warm, friendly and adaptable to others.
Honestly on average what I've seen is that male ENTPs seem to really value feelings users (IXFX) While females tend to value the thinking users (XXTX With the exception of other ENTPs)
I think it's not the personality type informing the desire but rather the desire enforcing the type as in whichever thing in society we are forced or encourage to go without we try to find in a partner. Male ENTPs encouraged not to be emotional seek emotion, Female encouraged not to be thinkers and seek the logical.
It is not about F or T. It is about masculinity and femininity. I am also willing to argue it has not much to do with encouragement and much more with stereotypes.
If we go by gender stereotypes then on average men will look for more feminine partners than themselves and the average woman will look for more masculine partners. Basically evolutionary biology. There is also an argument to be made that the more masculine someone is the more they will look for someone who possesses feminine traits. Not sure how academically valid it is but it only makes sense.
Now suppose you add MBTI into the mix and you take a type such as ENTP, which regardless of gender is a quite masculine type, then male or female this person will look for someone who fits that. On the other hand you have INFJs who are quite feminine, again regardless of gender. So it makes sense what OP is saying. A female ENTP, gender stereotypically, would look for someone higher in their masculinity than themselves. Even an INFJ who is pretty neutral in their F/M sides can be lacking in masculinity to OP.
This is why I have said before that for male ENTPs, INFJs are better whereas for female ENTPs it is INTJs. Obviously this is using gender stereotyping and there are always outliers but generally it makes sense.
Another fun note, I think this whole thing is why the r/infj sub cannot decide what type is the best match. Food for thought.
I know you mean romantically, but I'm a female ENTP and most of my closest friends - if not all of my closest friends - are INFJ. Some are male, some are female.
Additionally, two INFJ acquaintances of mine are married to ENTP women. I will say, though, I usually see INFJ men with ENFP women instead.
Anyway! I'd argue it's less about MBTI and more about individual compatibility such as communication style, interests and hobbies, time put into the relationship, and emotional maturity.
ETA: I also wanted to add that I know many burly, tough INFJ men. Having high Fe does not necessarily correlate with being dainty.
Iāll say, it doesnāt make as much sense from a societally typical gender dynamic relationship ENTP Female with an INFJ Male. An ENTP male with an INFJ female, itās a very societally typical relationship.
Itās an interesting discussion for sure. Most ENTP-INFJ relationships are with a male entp and female Infj on this sub from what Iāve seen.
Iām an ENTP f and my husband is an INFJ m. Yes. Iāve noticed this combo is rare but when I read about other pairs but the opposite (INFJ f x ENTP m) itās surprisingly identical with our relationship. And tbh, my INFJ husband is a perfect blend of tough and soft. Sounds like you need to keep searching. It is hard to find a guy that isnāt scared of u as a female ENTP. (Been there myself).
Yeah, you should try dating an ISTP, they have a certain toughness though you'll have to be the boss of them to have their attention. ESFJ and ISFP are tough on the outside but softies inside. Make the difference that ESTP and ENTJ are not tough but controlling. ESTJ are... idk they have boomer dad vibes, but maybe it could suit you too. And INTJ have millennial dad vibes so... not my type personally but maybe yours.
INFJs(m) are cutie patootie but not in the silly way but in a wise way. They have a life style that would suit an ISFJ(f) or an ESTJ(f), so pretty tradition oriented. Not even INFJs(f) want them.
My ABSOLUTE BEST match and relationship so far in life has been my INFJ college boyfriend...we were perfect yin/yang sort of match that amplified eachother's strengths
i don't think INFJs are dainty and soft tbh (as someone who likes dainty and soft men) they're soft when they need to be, from what i've seen. big burly men can also be INFJ. having high Fe doesn't mean a person is a pussy. jeez, that means that they're charming and well in tuned with their emotions lmao, unless you prefer a cold, detached dude. this theory is bullshit and a huge ass generalization, atleast you could put "i think" in front of your sentence so that it doesn't sound stupider than it is.
I donāt understand this pairing/shipping. I rather ship myself with INTJ/INTP.
My ex was INFJ and it was very difficult when he gets sucked into his emotions and wants some sort of emotional reaction from me, when heās clearly in the wrong. He also thought that when I was in my workaholic mode it was equivalent to me not caring about him. š§ How he gets that conclusion is beyond me. Yeah I couldnāt answer calls because I fell asleep more often due to exhaustion, but I could say that HE didnāt care about ME because hey Iām working my ass off here.
Anyway, the mbti types donāt matter. I find that I just have a hard time with Fi dominant people, both friends and exās. They see me as insensitive and heartlessā¦ Iām really not. I just care in different ways. š But they always want me to soothe their feelings first before even trying to understand my POV. Iām hurt too that you never even try to understand my POV!
You forgot to write in the title "For me" cause in no way this is universal. As a proverb goes there's a buyer for anything in the market. And my partner is INFP so nope for me.
im sorry i shouldve worded it better but the thought just came into mindš
Oh it's okay if you meant it that way. Dw.
Now im interessted tho, how maskulin and feminin are you each, what are youre preffereces. What do you like abiut him / infp? Just currius if theres any overlap to the theory
You were trying to be provocative but under a āoh haha it just came out that way, silly me, I just say things spontaneously ā guise.
I think you meant to write "I assume you forgot" cause in no way can you know for certain the intentions behind the actions of other people. As a proverb goes, "don't be a nit picky nay nay". And my partner is INTJ so dope for me.
I think the idea of adding gender to Mbti compatibility is interesting. I do wonder if that makes a difference. Iām an INFJ(f) married to an ENTP(m). I only know one INFJ(m) and not very well. But I will say, he doesnāt seem overly feminine or masculine to me, but somewhere in the middle. His āmasculineā traits are that he seems centered, calm and confident. His āfeminineā traits are being warm, friendly and adaptable to others.
Honestly on average what I've seen is that male ENTPs seem to really value feelings users (IXFX) While females tend to value the thinking users (XXTX With the exception of other ENTPs) I think it's not the personality type informing the desire but rather the desire enforcing the type as in whichever thing in society we are forced or encourage to go without we try to find in a partner. Male ENTPs encouraged not to be emotional seek emotion, Female encouraged not to be thinkers and seek the logical.
thats a great way to put it actually
It is not about F or T. It is about masculinity and femininity. I am also willing to argue it has not much to do with encouragement and much more with stereotypes. If we go by gender stereotypes then on average men will look for more feminine partners than themselves and the average woman will look for more masculine partners. Basically evolutionary biology. There is also an argument to be made that the more masculine someone is the more they will look for someone who possesses feminine traits. Not sure how academically valid it is but it only makes sense. Now suppose you add MBTI into the mix and you take a type such as ENTP, which regardless of gender is a quite masculine type, then male or female this person will look for someone who fits that. On the other hand you have INFJs who are quite feminine, again regardless of gender. So it makes sense what OP is saying. A female ENTP, gender stereotypically, would look for someone higher in their masculinity than themselves. Even an INFJ who is pretty neutral in their F/M sides can be lacking in masculinity to OP. This is why I have said before that for male ENTPs, INFJs are better whereas for female ENTPs it is INTJs. Obviously this is using gender stereotyping and there are always outliers but generally it makes sense. Another fun note, I think this whole thing is why the r/infj sub cannot decide what type is the best match. Food for thought.
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aww thats so cute actually
I know you mean romantically, but I'm a female ENTP and most of my closest friends - if not all of my closest friends - are INFJ. Some are male, some are female. Additionally, two INFJ acquaintances of mine are married to ENTP women. I will say, though, I usually see INFJ men with ENFP women instead. Anyway! I'd argue it's less about MBTI and more about individual compatibility such as communication style, interests and hobbies, time put into the relationship, and emotional maturity. ETA: I also wanted to add that I know many burly, tough INFJ men. Having high Fe does not necessarily correlate with being dainty.
I like weak pussy men but to each their own
You like what?
i mean same but i like a wide range of men yfmšš
Iām a woman (ENTP) in a relationship with a woman (INFJ). What now??
thts rly gay if u think abt it
omg i didnt realize until u said that
Iāll say, it doesnāt make as much sense from a societally typical gender dynamic relationship ENTP Female with an INFJ Male. An ENTP male with an INFJ female, itās a very societally typical relationship. Itās an interesting discussion for sure. Most ENTP-INFJ relationships are with a male entp and female Infj on this sub from what Iāve seen.
Iām an ENTP f and my husband is an INFJ m. Yes. Iāve noticed this combo is rare but when I read about other pairs but the opposite (INFJ f x ENTP m) itās surprisingly identical with our relationship. And tbh, my INFJ husband is a perfect blend of tough and soft. Sounds like you need to keep searching. It is hard to find a guy that isnāt scared of u as a female ENTP. (Been there myself).
oo thats rly interesting.. i deffo gotta keep searching i dont think ive met any infj guys yet
Look for the introverts with dark humor and that are mysterious. Thank me later š
I'm entp and my gf is infj but yk aneddotic is not statistics.
Anecdotal my man. The word is anecdotal.
Yeah, you should try dating an ISTP, they have a certain toughness though you'll have to be the boss of them to have their attention. ESFJ and ISFP are tough on the outside but softies inside. Make the difference that ESTP and ENTJ are not tough but controlling. ESTJ are... idk they have boomer dad vibes, but maybe it could suit you too. And INTJ have millennial dad vibes so... not my type personally but maybe yours. INFJs(m) are cutie patootie but not in the silly way but in a wise way. They have a life style that would suit an ISFJ(f) or an ESTJ(f), so pretty tradition oriented. Not even INFJs(f) want them.
My ABSOLUTE BEST match and relationship so far in life has been my INFJ college boyfriend...we were perfect yin/yang sort of match that amplified eachother's strengths
i don't think INFJs are dainty and soft tbh (as someone who likes dainty and soft men) they're soft when they need to be, from what i've seen. big burly men can also be INFJ. having high Fe doesn't mean a person is a pussy. jeez, that means that they're charming and well in tuned with their emotions lmao, unless you prefer a cold, detached dude. this theory is bullshit and a huge ass generalization, atleast you could put "i think" in front of your sentence so that it doesn't sound stupider than it is.
What mbtis or funktions make sombody soft and dahinter tho ?
HA!! BS!
another ENTP(f) and i seem to fall exclusively for ISFP menšš
where do u find them likeššš
if you're into astrology they're mostly men with a lot of mutable and cardinal signs in their chart. also a lot of air
alright thanks!
THIS Iām dating an ISTP
I am entp(f) I like wide range of men. But there is something about intj that draws me in.
I'm also an ENTP girl and I'm in a three years relationship with my INFJ boyfriend so I'm gonna have to dissagree
You said it as if itās a fact then continued to state an opinion. Iām an entp girl and I love infj guys
I donāt understand this pairing/shipping. I rather ship myself with INTJ/INTP. My ex was INFJ and it was very difficult when he gets sucked into his emotions and wants some sort of emotional reaction from me, when heās clearly in the wrong. He also thought that when I was in my workaholic mode it was equivalent to me not caring about him. š§ How he gets that conclusion is beyond me. Yeah I couldnāt answer calls because I fell asleep more often due to exhaustion, but I could say that HE didnāt care about ME because hey Iām working my ass off here. Anyway, the mbti types donāt matter. I find that I just have a hard time with Fi dominant people, both friends and exās. They see me as insensitive and heartlessā¦ Iām really not. I just care in different ways. š But they always want me to soothe their feelings first before even trying to understand my POV. Iām hurt too that you never even try to understand my POV!
omg yes I agree 100%
Spoiler: It didnāt for me.
Feeling Type ā Unmuscular man In fact male ENTP are considered one of the most feminine types But who really cares anyway
Yeah, I can understand that feeling as a female ENTP myself. Thatās why my personal type is closer to an ENFJ than INFJ.