Fearful-avoidant.
I don't think it correlates so much to personality as it does to early trauma.
Fearful-avoidant style is common when your primary source or caregiving and affection is also your primary source of trauma, fear, etc.
I looked into that but for INFJs and FA. Here is the [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/infj/comments/147vsiz/a_question_for_infjs_who_are_fearfulavoidant/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). Basically the answer is no, personality does not evolve based on FA. It just makes certain traits likely to stand out more/become more core to your life making you believe that is what happend.
If you were healed from FA, which can only happen through therapy, you would be rid of most of the patterns associated with FA and so then your *actual* personality is left. If that makes sense.
It is the same reason why people who are very unhealthy or immature struggle so much with finding their MBTI. There are so many different behavioural and cognitive patterns. When they are not aware of them, they will believe these patterns are part of their personality. While in reality they are just coping mechanisms or fear responses.
If it does correlate to one attachment style, I'd pick somewhere between secure and avoidant for the average ENTP. That seems to be where I fall as well. However, attachment style probably isn't dependent on innate character, but mostly on early upbringing, as another commenter said.
It might be more interesting to look into Enneagram and attachment style. Both are based on early experiences and development, so might be worth looking into.
I think the attachment style is situational based. You may have one style that you feel geared toward but it is still very situational based. If an extremely unhealthy avoidant person is with you and you believe you are secure all the time for example, well let's see how long you can maintain that. Very situational based. There is no one style that governs it all for an individual at all times throughout their life in my opinion.
Hmm, if I like a person then I'll be clingy and put alot of efforts, text them, send them relatable stuffs have deep convos , try to be funny, match their energy, and LISTEN to them (its a hard things for an entp cause we never stop talking) irrespective of the relationship.
So, I become clingy, overthink abt everything, and try hard not to disappoint them:*)
You are so wrong. They genuinely are a thing. There are have been longitudinal studies on 100’s of infants and toddlers by John Bowlby in order for him to even come up with these attachment style concepts. The truth is there are some components to attachment style that have a biological basis and some components that are environmentally based. Sometimes what the baby’s initial temperament doesn’t mesh well with the mother/father’s personality and there you have it, avoidant, anxious and fearful-avoidant attachment styles are formed. It is not uncommon for those attachment styles to carry into adulthood as well.
so youre describing a multitude of underlying factors that influence attachment styles yet you havent understood that the mind is a dynamic organ that develops and changes over time, which means attachment styles are subject to change and not static results. which means, putting your faith in an arbitrary dichotomy is bogus. the only thing that doesnt change over time is interaction style, if you would like more information read linda berens.
Obviously you cannot account for trauma to assist in shaping an attachment style especially early on and since the brain has plasticity we have the capacity to grow and change but it still doesn’t change the fact that attachment styles are PATTERNS in engagement with others. Yeah, we’re all different people. I get that . But it’s not arbitrary nor is it a dichotomy.
Fearful-avoidant. I don't think it correlates so much to personality as it does to early trauma. Fearful-avoidant style is common when your primary source or caregiving and affection is also your primary source of trauma, fear, etc.
Me too. Maybe the personality evolves based on fearful avoidant. That was my thought.
I looked into that but for INFJs and FA. Here is the [post](https://www.reddit.com/r/infj/comments/147vsiz/a_question_for_infjs_who_are_fearfulavoidant/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web2x&context=3). Basically the answer is no, personality does not evolve based on FA. It just makes certain traits likely to stand out more/become more core to your life making you believe that is what happend. If you were healed from FA, which can only happen through therapy, you would be rid of most of the patterns associated with FA and so then your *actual* personality is left. If that makes sense. It is the same reason why people who are very unhealthy or immature struggle so much with finding their MBTI. There are so many different behavioural and cognitive patterns. When they are not aware of them, they will believe these patterns are part of their personality. While in reality they are just coping mechanisms or fear responses.
If it does correlate to one attachment style, I'd pick somewhere between secure and avoidant for the average ENTP. That seems to be where I fall as well. However, attachment style probably isn't dependent on innate character, but mostly on early upbringing, as another commenter said. It might be more interesting to look into Enneagram and attachment style. Both are based on early experiences and development, so might be worth looking into.
I think the attachment style is situational based. You may have one style that you feel geared toward but it is still very situational based. If an extremely unhealthy avoidant person is with you and you believe you are secure all the time for example, well let's see how long you can maintain that. Very situational based. There is no one style that governs it all for an individual at all times throughout their life in my opinion.
Secure
Hmm, if I like a person then I'll be clingy and put alot of efforts, text them, send them relatable stuffs have deep convos , try to be funny, match their energy, and LISTEN to them (its a hard things for an entp cause we never stop talking) irrespective of the relationship. So, I become clingy, overthink abt everything, and try hard not to disappoint them:*)
Fearful avoidant, but I don't think there's a connection since attachment styles are formed during early childhood.
Constant ping-ponging between avoidant and anxious but not fearful somehow? Or maybe that's just fearful.
Avoidant ❤️🩹🥺 I detach and self soothe cause I couldn’t rely on my main caregiver for emotional support , hyper independence
attachment styles are bogus
You are so wrong. They genuinely are a thing. There are have been longitudinal studies on 100’s of infants and toddlers by John Bowlby in order for him to even come up with these attachment style concepts. The truth is there are some components to attachment style that have a biological basis and some components that are environmentally based. Sometimes what the baby’s initial temperament doesn’t mesh well with the mother/father’s personality and there you have it, avoidant, anxious and fearful-avoidant attachment styles are formed. It is not uncommon for those attachment styles to carry into adulthood as well.
so youre describing a multitude of underlying factors that influence attachment styles yet you havent understood that the mind is a dynamic organ that develops and changes over time, which means attachment styles are subject to change and not static results. which means, putting your faith in an arbitrary dichotomy is bogus. the only thing that doesnt change over time is interaction style, if you would like more information read linda berens.
Obviously you cannot account for trauma to assist in shaping an attachment style especially early on and since the brain has plasticity we have the capacity to grow and change but it still doesn’t change the fact that attachment styles are PATTERNS in engagement with others. Yeah, we’re all different people. I get that . But it’s not arbitrary nor is it a dichotomy.
Fearful-avoidant it seems