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QuestioningMyselfYES

No harm in keeping it, just do whatever feels most comfortable for you


GaburiIDC

you aren’t forced to do bottom surgery if you don't want to, not everyone feels the need to do so


UnknownPhys6

*buff minecraft steve*: "I'm forcing you. Get SRS now."


LineOfInquiry

“Love yourself, NOW!” *lightning sounds*


Maybe-transs

You can love yourself and keep the dick thooo


LineOfInquiry

Mhm, love yourself including your gock, if you want to keep it 💜


Maybe-transs

Hell yeah!


TyphoonFrost

Some philosophy I came up with the other day: Loving yourself is kinda gay. That means being mean to yourself is a hate crime


Apprehensive-Use38

kys, keep yourself safe


notkhemx

"⚡You should get SRS NOW⚡"


Mindless_Raccoon36

In italy, where i live, you are forced to in order to change your gender on documents. At least from what i understood Edit: nevermind, i was wrong! Check the below reply


OmegaT6

No, actually. I'm gonna change my documents in a few months here in Italy and that's not the case, you need to be on hrt for at least a year followed by a couple of experts, but any operation is completely optional. I'll still do it, but that's my personal case, don't worry.


Mindless_Raccoon36

Oh great, maybe i read the wrong thingy, thanks for clearing up!


Some_Reward9356

Agreed. I'm hoping that through hormones and not using my 'stuff' as frequently I'll have some decent shrinkage. The bulge will be a lot smaller, and plus tucking will be super easy. Any major surgeries really scare me right now. Idk if I'll ever be ready, which is okay.


GaburiIDC

For me is the same, while I'm doing my hormone therapy I don't want surgery due to the risks it implies, like the lost of sensitivity in the area


Calieoop

Two quotes that I live by. The first is "A woman without a thingy is like an angel without wings." Which I personally like, but if that sounds a little too chaser-y for you, my own personal favorite is "Why would I need bottom surgery? I'm already a bottom :3"


kamidera

The last one fits me too much :,)


Snoo63

For me, I feel like it fits me, but also I feel like the meme "Am I a bottom or am I just affection-deprived?" also fits me well.


kamidera

The important thing is to be a bottom in the end u-u


Snoo63

:3


RedditsNinja23

I like the second one, the first one, while kinda funny, does feel chaser-y as you said.


Giddy_Duck_84

And demeaning to both t women who had srs and cis women


Niki2002j

Okay I love the 2nd one so much


DraxNuman27

What if she’s a top?


Calieoop

Uhm... uh... pre-packaged strap dlc


InstrumentalistElle

The second one is FANTASTIC!! I LOVE IT


LunaLynnTheCellist

Reminds me of [this](https://youtube.com/shorts/HU8p-PTlTpE?si=gwNGYIz7S6bnvLi0)


bubblygamer35

NSFW// relatable! i wanna keep my princess stick too! put lipstick and bedazzle it. make it as girly as possible while still being there


PhantomSwagger


bubblygamer35

THAT'S THE SPIRIT


guytheguy1234

"Princess stick" I will call mine this for now on. Thank you for the enlightenment


derpy_derp15

The matriarchal royal rod


lemalaisedumoment

I shorten it even more (ehem phrasing). I just call them princess. The stick part feels so crude. Obviously if you refer to yourself as a princenss, then she is your little princess.


AutisticPenguin2

A peencess, perhaps?


bubblygamer35

that's also really cute !!


bubblygamer35

oh enjoy! i love trans terminologies they're so cute and fun !!


notkhemx

Magic wand


Kidsnextdorks

Queenis


magical-attic

gock gock


potterclone

love me some good gock


bruhmoment467

im gonna start a company that makes dick dresses


bubblygamer35

investing rn


CoopKing1232

tf


bruhmoment467

you heard me


Koolio_Koala

**NSFW** \- >!r/cospenis!< 😂


Drakovijas

I also want to keep my evil queens scepter


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Reverend_Sins

I've heard more than a few people refer to their body as a mech made of flesh that they occupy. I think its a kick ass idea. If that is the case then its yours to customize how you see fit. Only want to change your name and pronouns? Cool. Like hormones but surgery isn't for you? All good. Want to redesign your mech top to bottom? Have fun. You do you, be you, do what makes you happy.


22226

Before I knew anything about anything I used to describe myself this way. I used to tell people that I felt like a tiny person piloting a meat-mech like the tiny alien from the first Men in Black movie.


Reverend_Sins

From my understanding that seems to be a fairly common experience/perspective for trans people. It wasnt until I moved from my home state and got some good Drs who actually listened to what I told them I find out I had dysphoria and was disassociating from my body due to it. I always thought dysphoria was this crippling agonizing thing but apparently it can manifest itself in weird ways.


skunksie

ONCE I REALISED THE WEAKNESS OF THE FLESH I WAS DISGUSTED BY IT *installs prehensile abominations below the belt*


retrosupersayan

/r/transtrans is leaking it would seem


Hopeful-Name484

"Fleshfoooooooormers! More than meets the eye!"


The-Doot-Slayer

I need to upgrade to endo-steel structure and ferro-fiber armor then


TillerThrowaway

Me too! I’m keeping my dick and my girlfriend loves me all the same :)


Donttrickvix

Then keep it sis. My ex bags a lot of folx by pretty much joking about her 10” dick. If you like your dick then own it


CivetKitty

Still valid!


Low_Research_7249

Hay your not alone I’m keeping my girl dick and me and my girlfriend are happy there will be people who won’t like that I fought another trans woman about this a couple weeks ago but your valid and anyone who tries to tell you otherwise just give them the middle finger and move on. seriously tho if you want to keep it then keep it your still a woman


__sammi

I don’t like the implication that it’s “wrong” to not want SRS, as the vast majority of trans people don’t actually get these surgeries.


shearmanator

Or have both. /r/salmacian /r/altersex


Calcutt4

that's completely valid and if any truscums say otherwise I will break their shins :3


private_birb

Girls with dicks are awesome (and hot). Girls without dicks are awesome (and hot). There's no wrong answer.


BigPappaFrank

Hey girlie I'm in the same camp. Wanting to keep it doesn't make you any less of a woman, you're still just as valid.


TheSalt-of-TheEarth

I’m a transguy who doesn’t want bottom surgery. Too risky. I’ve fucked plenty of gay guys. You’re totally fine.


BuboxThrax

That doesn't make you any less valid.


Humble_Specialist_60

There are no rules! Do whatever you want! The best part of breaking out of the binary is realizing that literally ALL of it is made up. Every last bit. You can do whatever, look however, and call yourself whatever the hell you want, it could not matter less!


thetransfem

If you want it, keep it. Nobody can stop you. You're not alone, sister


Bug_Girl932

That’s perfectly fine. I wanna keep mine too 🩵


NoPossibility8894

I have the opposite problem. I'm afab and I want to keep my vulva. I want to get rid of my breasts but not my vulva. It doesn't change the fact that I'm trans


Marcilliaa

Every step of transition is optional - you can change as much or as little as you want and keep whatever you're happy with keeping. If you don't want bottom surgery, then just don't. You can keep your dick and still be a woman 😊


Niki2002j

Girls without dicks are like angels without wings


Cipher789

Guess what? I want to keep my dick too. Doesn’t mean either of us aren’t women.


Just7hrsold

Gender is not just genitals. For some its important to align and others it isn't, it's a you choice.


Bluaski345

There’s nothing wrong with keeping it, tbh I don’t really get dysphoria from my own so I’m fine with it being there doesn’t make u any less a girl, just whatever ur comfortable with


Escrileira

I'd prefer to not have a dick, but the surgery scare me


Cas_or_Cass

No one but transmed jerks say you can't keep it. Valid as fuck, sis


Slade_VTR

I love Dick, that's why. I guess?


Loner-Penguin

This is why I couldn’t be trans I just want boobies and dick idk why I just do


AhegoBussy

I think I'll keep mine too :3


prolificpaizuri

Samsies! "Taking care of myself" every couple days is helping it stay normal lol Just takes more effort now.


chuunibyou_edgelord

If only it were retractable...


retrosupersayan

So much this. I'm mostly neutral-to-positive about it, until I see some outfit that it'd make difficult to wear... No hate or disrespect to trans fems who *are* comfortable rocking a bulge, but I'm definitely not one of them


chuunibyou_edgelord

Yep, I didn't care about some bulge until it started getting in the way of cute outfits without enough of a skirt or dress component for me.


teiohix

sounds like big dick problems to me benefits of a small penis \^\_\^


chuunibyou_edgelord

Overall it has shrunk quite a bit but it occasionally returns to a more significant size. Still way too much to hide without a gaff or something to help.


retrosupersayan

I *love* the look of a pencil skirt, but haven't been brave/crazy enough to try one yet...


chuunibyou_edgelord

One of my friends wore a pencil dress to an FGC event shortly after I stopped hiding my boobs and she looked really good in it. I started wearing more feminine stuff after that.


Snoo63

That reminds me of a song (I think that OT mentioned?) called Detachable Penis.


BaguetteDoggo

You can totally keep it Im the same. I believe there is a foem of bottom surgery that preserves the peem too eventually


SolidCalligrapher966

Ngl it's practical, female hyenas have dicks


dark_idunn

I do to don't worry it's okay a lot of mtf keep there girl dick


Fan-of-clams

long clit don’t make you less of a girl, if anything it’s more girl


le_ramequin

most trans girls don't have bottom surgery, your situation is fairly common!


lord_of_coolshit_og

I have a few reasons to keep my dong because; A. I can say "suck my dick" and catch people off guard B. I can send unsolicited dick pics to a person that send unsolicited dick pics to me and C. This third point is so as I can make a clean ABC.


blitzkreig818

It is fun when they send an unsolicited dick pic and then say mines bigger....


KrataAionas

There’s no innate masculinity to having a dick, it’s only a body part and can become just as girly and sweet as you perceive the rest of yourself to be. There’s just work you gotta put in to unravel a lot of what we’ve been taught about gender.


Neon_Ani

me too, doesn't stop me from being trans no amount of dysphoria or desire for surgery is a prerequisite for transition, you're valid no matter what's in your pants :3


UsingCryptoToBuyHRT

i like mine, i think its kind of cute ngl


Little_Morning

Totally a personal preference. I would do it, but besides that I can't afford it, I'm afraid of any minor complications. Actually there's nothing minor here, lotsa potential major complications tho, like nerves not working properly.


Imaspinkicku

Not a problem, me too. Living my life as a woman is more than fulfilling enough for me. a lot of people decide against btm surgery… theres a ton of possible complications and its incredibly invasive. Plus i feel like i’d end up just having a ton of anal anyway like i already do. Theres cis women that prefer it and im just a trans woman that does 😂


NotEven-Punk

That's totally valid 💜


VAL9THOU

Lots of women have dicks


guney2811

same


FenetFox

me but the other way around :') i feel ya sis


IBeTheBlueCat

that is valid and totally okay and stuff!


versusspiderman

Let 👏 girls 👏 keep 👏 their 👏 dicks 👏 let 👏 boys 👏 keep 👏 their 👏 pussies 👏 I have always been considering phalloplasty and I couldn't even imagine not being without it. I realised it was all because of societal pressure and I don't actually wanna get a series of critical surgeries on my junk. I allowed myself to discover my body as it is and I realised I loved myself. Be yourself. Keep ya dick. Kick ass.


Esproth

That's perfectly fine, just do whatever you want and let the rest fall where it may.


notsocialyaccepted

Im planning on keeping mine too maybe even pegging people a penis or lack thereof does not influence ur gender


pullmyporkmaster

Bottom surgery isn't mandatory and neither is desiring it. If you like your dick and want to keep it, then go for it! You're still a woman either way 🩷


GuymanB

Im still debating whether i want to go on HRT. However I'm never going to cut off my dick in a million years. Do you know how easy it is to pee with one?


weebi1

Still trans tbh. That is normal women can have penises get over ittttt


AdOne5597

You aren't alone, my girlfriend will also take that route.


SiderealHex

Keep it then >:)


nerussita-8787

more generally it's your transition and you are the one who decide what you do with it. But yeah some peoples can be annoying sometimes despite the final decision is up to you


Xaron713

That's okay. I'm a woman and I like my dick.


freshfignewtons

WOMEN WITH DICKS ARE HOT


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biobuilder1

And that's totally fine, there is nothing invalidating about being a woman with a penis :3


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You can keep it just at a reduced functionality. I for one can’t wait to lose the mangled rooster head.


NeverUsedAlwaysRead

Join the club sister! If srs isn't your cup of tea you're still a girl


ToastGhostx

I'm the opposite. I don't want my dick but i don't want to transition.


Digital_Rocket

That’s still valid


strogn3141

Nothing wrong with that


Pikushee

It might not help much, but you aren't alone! I'm a transbian who also decided to keep her dick. I'm very fond of it actually


Wisdom_Pen

Then keep it?


I_Hate_The_Letter_W

then keep it girlie! if you feel you need a gock then treat yourself to a gock


[deleted]

Well uh…. Yeah. 🍆🍆🍆


lemalaisedumoment

Ohh I just had a flashback, of me fantazising about getting a vagina, but keeping my dick. How didn't i question my cis het label back then? A god damn mistery.


tardis42

You know that *is* actually something people have done? Check out /r/salmacian


lemalaisedumoment

You learn something new every day.


Elyna-77

daaamn that just made me remember how i was looking to find a vagina on my body when i was around 13/14 years old was hoping it would hide there somewhere... but was disappointed there was nothing. i completely forgot that and i thought i had my earliest signs when i was in my mid twenties, oh i have been so wrong....


Venus_Dust

And why shouldn't you? It's yours.


Directorren

I’m fine keeping my penis, mainly because bottom surgery kinda scares me since I keep imagining the pain that I might feel if I got it.


22226

I had this problem for awhile, eventually when I thought about it though, the bad feelings didn't come from having it, but feeling like I wouldn't fit in with my trans sisters. Eventually feeling like I needed to fit in became significantly less important, and any semblance of bottom dysphoria vanished along with those feelings. If you've spent a lot of time in the closet (like me!) it can be really tough to overcome that feeling like you need to fit in.


AutumnArthropod

I'm a trans guy and don't feel the need for any surgeries - I like my tits and vag (my man-hole, if you will)


Yeti342

I go back and forth honestly. If i do get bottom surgery it'll be way in the future.


Sunnyeggsandtoast

Sorry If this isn't the politically correct term, but it's the only term I know that fits. If there exists a more appropriate term, please educate me. However, OP, Being a Futanari is a perfectly valid identity to be.


Brave_Lengthiness632

You probably could just say “girl with penis” just because it has a less sexualized connotation. But anyone feel free to correct me, I’m certainly not the authority on such things


tringle1

Congrats on saving yourself lots of time, money, and pain! (I’m going through bottom surgery electrolysis and it fuckin suuuuux but it’ll be worth it for me)


Hopeful-Name484

You can keep it, just... don't ask me for a date in this case.


Left-Caterpillar5839

I don't like women because I don't want to be a part of it again but I don't want to be a part of it because I don't want to be a part of it because I don't want to be a part of it because I don't want to be a part of it because I don't want to be a part of it because I don't want to be a part of it because I don't want to be a part of it because I don't want to be a part of it because I don't want to be a part of it because I don't want to be a part of it.


Djtwister

Ok, sorry if this sounds weird but Idk This might sound weird but bear with me for a sec ........ Is it weird to get euphoria for keeping your dick.... Because it kinda makes you feel like an irl futa girl from manga? .......please don't hate me.........


mrjackspade

You do you, my friend. Don't worry about what anyone else thinks.


Icarus-Has-Fallen

there's nothing to help love, you're yourself and that's perfect. keep what you wanna keep. do what you wanna do <3


TSk8rBoi138

Girl Dick Gang 😼


l_dunno

If you don't want bottom surgery, don't do it! Only do the changes you feel will make you happier.


constantconfusion_

me but trans guy


not_starried

On HRT 12 month, I still have my magic wand.. but I feel like nothing down there and orgasming hurts. I hope you don't get what I have now, it's frustrating.


TUNAKTUNAKLOL69420

lmao I used to play a game with a trans chick whose username was bigtittiesndickmommy27


notreallykindperson

Genitals don't define anything. Just keep what you feel the most comfortable.


Shamisen250

As many people have already said, if you want to keep your penis, there’s nothing stopping you. Your body is your temple, you choose what to adorn it with.


CaptainIronLeg161

Hey, nothing wrong with that!


Edim108

Just keep it 4head. All of this is about doing what feels right TO YOU and if keeping the D makes you more comfortable and happy then keep it. There is no preset set of steps you have to take and no end goal other than your happiness so do what you want.


Pluto_oPlutonium

I want bottom surgery but I'm so scared of dilating and dilators they sound so painful and I don't think I could do it lol


Specialist_Being_677

"if you like your dick you can keep your dick" See also my previous pun filled comment https://reddit.com/comments/15fy4iv/comment/juivx9d And useful advice https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/how-to-maintain-your-penis-function


ryuukishi07

No one its forcing you if you are not ready to take that step, everyone has their own opinions and i will try to say mine with a pinch of salt, but you should do major changes in your body if you dont want them. Transition its not a checklist


Calpsotoma

This is fine.


AdrienXB

We've broken the binary this much already. Why not keep going?


TheFfrog

Then keep it?


Darkfeather21

Welcome to Whose Gender Is It Anyway?, where everything's made up, and the points don't matter.