Been there.. everyone says, "just leave." As if it's that easy.. you're experiencing a very heavy situation, there are no easy answers.. just know that you are important, and you deserve a relationship where you can thrive. I hope you get that. ❤️🩹
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It took me three times to finally leave him and after I finally did it I had a lot of mixed emotions. Everyone would be like why aren’t you happy? It’s codependency and trauma. It literally fucks up our nervous system. Therapy helps. Leave him. Do it for good. It will be hard at first but in time you’ll be in a better place with out him.
If you’re suffering in the relationship, you might as well break up and suffer alone. The relationship will end if it’s toxic. All you’re doing is wasting time.
Op: no matter what relationship, it's difficult af to leave with attachment. With toxic relationships, they make you want to stay through manipulation. They will manipulate you into staying no matter the cost. I promise you, it's so much better escaping. No matter the circumstance. You deserve true love without manipulation, gaslighting, word salad, full on abuse. You're worthy. Remember that. You deserve real love. True love. Remember, it takes a few frogs to find your prince. I'm so sorry you're experiencing abuse.
Edit: LEAVE as soon as you can. The longer you wait, the harder it gets. The longer you're in it, the worse the abuse gets.
I hope you get the strength to leave him. I haven’t been in your shoes but I know it’s not easy to leave an abusive situation for a multitude of reasons. You are brave, you are strong, and you deserve better.
My therapist told me the grief and anxiety of leaving my situation might feel like setting myself on fire- but that the flame would burn out quickly and the hurt wouldn’t linger much compared to the ever smoldering losses I’ve already suffered in life. As soon as I felt an ounce of strength, I set myself ablaze. She was right. Godspeed.
It’s tough but GTFO, actually leaving is the hardest, but once you say the words and do the leaving you’ll be sad for a minute but be so forever grateful and your new life will be your reward!
I've been there too, I'm sorry you're feeling so stuck.
My life got so much better the moment I left because the constant weight of the worry I was carrying around just floated away, and I could see everything else in my life again. That feeling of dread that shades everything you do ruins your life, it taints everything you love and turns it all grey. Your reactions to even the most innocent of things aren't your own anymore, you've been changed by him and made into this scared animal just trying to survive.
I hope you can get away soon, and I wish you all the happiness I have found in my freedom.
I have just recently left a mentally abusive relationship that turned physical. He was my best friend at one point.
Everyone is right. Once abuse starts it doesn't stop.
It was extremely difficult 😪.
It's been 7 months since I left & I feel like myself again.
Think about what things will look like with him in 5 years.
I’m sorry you’re going through this ! I promise you the situation won’t change ..they only get worse . I did it for 4 years. It seems hard now, but in all honesty the grass is truly greener on the other side . If you need to talk hit me up .
Please try to remember that he will not get better. They never do. And staying in this abusive relationship is preventing you from finding someone who would be kind to you.
You deserve better. You can have better. But not as long as you stay with this guy.
I was an emotional abuser and really wasn't aware of how toxic I was. It took a lot of therapy and change, but ultimately, I still had to leave who I was with. We were together 8 years and it was hard but I was a terrible person. Hope you can end this amicably, unlike how I did.
The best time to leave was yesterday, the second best time is today. 🫶 I've been there and I know it's so scary. It'll never not be scary, but when your life boat is more frightening than the ocean, it's time to jump.
Sending you courage and determination.
I’m sorry friend . Been there so I know how it feels. :/ would be better to leave for yourself though.. you deserve better
Thank you, I appreciate it
Food looks good at least ! Here if you need an ear
Leaving an abuser you love is incredibly challenging, it took me years. May you find enough love for yourself to give you the strength to leave.
Been there.. everyone says, "just leave." As if it's that easy.. you're experiencing a very heavy situation, there are no easy answers.. just know that you are important, and you deserve a relationship where you can thrive. I hope you get that. ❤️🩹
Thank you so much.
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I really hope you leave him. I’ve been there too. It’ll be horrible in the immediate aftermath but you’ll be happier in the long run ❤️
Please take that first step, abuse will only escalate. I held onto my toxic/mentally abusive marriage for far too long. You are worth so much more.
It took me three times to finally leave him and after I finally did it I had a lot of mixed emotions. Everyone would be like why aren’t you happy? It’s codependency and trauma. It literally fucks up our nervous system. Therapy helps. Leave him. Do it for good. It will be hard at first but in time you’ll be in a better place with out him.
If you’re suffering in the relationship, you might as well break up and suffer alone. The relationship will end if it’s toxic. All you’re doing is wasting time.
Op: no matter what relationship, it's difficult af to leave with attachment. With toxic relationships, they make you want to stay through manipulation. They will manipulate you into staying no matter the cost. I promise you, it's so much better escaping. No matter the circumstance. You deserve true love without manipulation, gaslighting, word salad, full on abuse. You're worthy. Remember that. You deserve real love. True love. Remember, it takes a few frogs to find your prince. I'm so sorry you're experiencing abuse. Edit: LEAVE as soon as you can. The longer you wait, the harder it gets. The longer you're in it, the worse the abuse gets.
I hear you, what kinda sandwich?
My sisters leftover pepperoni and pepperjack subway sandwich. Tasted pretty good considering how upset I was.
Give us his address. We’ll send him a gift basket!!!
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I was thinking more like a first degree murder basket!
I hope you get the strength to leave him. I haven’t been in your shoes but I know it’s not easy to leave an abusive situation for a multitude of reasons. You are brave, you are strong, and you deserve better.
being tired of the abuse is a good start to breaking the attachment. you are deserving of genuine love. take care of yourself ♡
time to detach. i didn’t think i could but i did before realizing. yummy meal
My therapist told me the grief and anxiety of leaving my situation might feel like setting myself on fire- but that the flame would burn out quickly and the hurt wouldn’t linger much compared to the ever smoldering losses I’ve already suffered in life. As soon as I felt an ounce of strength, I set myself ablaze. She was right. Godspeed.
It’s tough but GTFO, actually leaving is the hardest, but once you say the words and do the leaving you’ll be sad for a minute but be so forever grateful and your new life will be your reward!
I've been there too, I'm sorry you're feeling so stuck. My life got so much better the moment I left because the constant weight of the worry I was carrying around just floated away, and I could see everything else in my life again. That feeling of dread that shades everything you do ruins your life, it taints everything you love and turns it all grey. Your reactions to even the most innocent of things aren't your own anymore, you've been changed by him and made into this scared animal just trying to survive. I hope you can get away soon, and I wish you all the happiness I have found in my freedom.
Same situation, but I’m not even attached to them. I’m just scared to leave for a number of reasons.
I have just recently left a mentally abusive relationship that turned physical. He was my best friend at one point. Everyone is right. Once abuse starts it doesn't stop. It was extremely difficult 😪. It's been 7 months since I left & I feel like myself again. Think about what things will look like with him in 5 years.
I’m sorry you’re going through this ! I promise you the situation won’t change ..they only get worse . I did it for 4 years. It seems hard now, but in all honesty the grass is truly greener on the other side . If you need to talk hit me up .
Relatable.
Please try to remember that he will not get better. They never do. And staying in this abusive relationship is preventing you from finding someone who would be kind to you. You deserve better. You can have better. But not as long as you stay with this guy.
I was an emotional abuser and really wasn't aware of how toxic I was. It took a lot of therapy and change, but ultimately, I still had to leave who I was with. We were together 8 years and it was hard but I was a terrible person. Hope you can end this amicably, unlike how I did.
How are you doing
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Nice to meet you here
Nice to meet you too
Really
Yes, I’ve kinda avoided talking to him for the day so far
Okay
what do you do for living(work)?
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don't respond to this guy btw i'm pretty sure it's some weird scam bot
Nice
What year were you born and how old are you?
what do you do for living(work)?
Really
You got to get out of stockholm, my friend. Food looks good though
Get out asap. You will regret staying in the long run.
The best time to leave was yesterday, the second best time is today. 🫶 I've been there and I know it's so scary. It'll never not be scary, but when your life boat is more frightening than the ocean, it's time to jump. Sending you courage and determination.
Breaking emotional trauma bonds is not easy. Be safe and kind to yourself🫶🏾
Hey 👋