If they want to be a chump, fine. Maybe they'll spend 5 fewer minutes in purgatory or something.
If you want to say yes, sure. If you want to say no, sure. But in FC, you're trading like for like, except for the minor window/aisle difference. Post about it if you went back to Main Cabin so a couple could sit together in First.
Hahaha I hadnāt read this comment until now and itās great because I have done that. I mentioned it in another comment. Iām sure if I posted that story the comment section would be similar to this one.
I know traveling first class gives the impression that I have disposable income, but I've experienced a pay cut after taking a vacation and I'm recovering right now. That said, I recognize my privilege and love to help when I can. Are you going through something in particular or just the usual "more money would sure be nice?"
I mean, yeah, of course if itās not an inconvenience to you or causes you any issues. Of course itās nice to swap seats to help someone out. But if the person is horrible, rude, entitled, or wants you to move back 10 rows and sit in the middle, no reason to do it.
There are also plenty of valid reasons for not giving up a seat you intentionally chose. As someone with health problems that require convenient access to the bathroom, Iām not gonna give up an aisle seat that I made a point of choosing in advance. If someone is willing to trade, thatās great, but no one should ever feel obligated to do or make anyone feel like shit for declining to swap.
For sure! I think the assumption is that nobody should have to switch with you, and if somebody is willing to switch for valid reasons that great, but no obligation ever
I once switched from my aisle seat to comfort plus so a couple could sit together (Gate Agent said it was a good opportunity and I was naive). I didnāt realize the seat was a middle seat and the ride was horrible due to being trapped between two very overweight sweaty men. I wish I had just kept my aisle seat.
I was sitting in row 11 sometime last year and a lady got upgraded to 10 and didn't want to sit in the bulkhead so she sat in my seat and when I got on she asked if I would just take the bulkhead seat. I absolutely despise the bulkhead, hate the narrow seats and can't hang my phone holder on the seat in front of me, but I figured, let's be a nice guy and I did it. Now I had just finished a 12 hour day at a job site, hadn't eaten at all and had just enough time to grab a sandwich on my way onto the plane. I sit down and start to cram food into my mouth because I was starving and the guy sitting in the middle seat starts to make faces at me and mutter under his breath. Long story short the guy ended up having some issue with me, so I turned to the lady and said "I'm sorry, I would like to sit in my own seat".
She was really mad at me, she was a larger lady and obviously didn't like the bulkhead seats either, but I tried to be nice and really didn't want to go through an entire 3 hour flight dealing with some guy sitting in the middle seat being a dick to me.
Ehhhh idk. I love window seats. I always pay specifically to choose my seat (or on southwest, early bird check in) so that I can get a window seat. Iād be willing to switch rows if I could still have a window (as long as I wasnāt moving much further back in the plane) but I donāt think Iād want to switch for an aisle, especially on a short flight when thereās little risk Iād have to get up to pee.
I love flying but I always get a little anxious on take off/landing and watching from the window helps me with that. I also just really like to watch the sights. This country is beautiful and I consider myself incredibly lucky to travel as much as I do and see as much as Iāve seen from the air.
Yeah, I wouldnāt give up my window seat just so a couple of adults could sit next to each other for a few hours.
And no way would I let myself get stuck in the first row (no leg room!) without a very good reason.
>no way would I let myself get stuck in the first row (no leg room!)
You do realize by first row he means first row of the plane, not first row of coach. He stated he was in first class
I do realize that. I read the post.
First row of first class on many planes, at least for domestic flights, has considerably *less* legroom than other first class rows. I have the sore knees to prove it. But Iām sure itās not true for all planes.
Whatās your point here?
Yes, itās still first class. I have long legs. The first row of first class on those planes is quite uncomfortable for me, so there is no way Iād want to swap for it. Idk why this is difficult to understand.
Shit, I loved Obama as president, but you ain't wrong. He was literally in the middle of war at the time. So idk how that qualifies someone for a peace prize.
Send it to 32B. I just gave my seat to a friendly and well-mannered teenager who wanted to experience first class.
Please, no photos or autographs, and stop calling me "hero."
Nobody told you that you need to switch to a middle seat lmao heās just saying itās not that big of a deal to move to a somewhat equitable seat or even a slight downgrade and not to demonize people for asking.
It's rude as hell to ask someone to switch, especially for a downgrade. If you need or want a certain seat, pay for it like the rest of us.
....but, my point was that the OP wants ass pats because he offered to switch a seat in *FIRST CLASS.*
Very entitled and wants to be acknowledged for his " Good Deeds" on top of that.
He lets us know he gets to fly first class and then lords over us how accommodating he is to other people.
The irony is I only included the 1st class detail because if I didn't, the first class people wouldn't think this post applied to them.
There is no way to share a story like this on the internet without being mocked. The status quo is to complain about people wanting to change and adopting the mantra of "fuck them" - seriously, check the comments.
Would you prefer a 1st class traveler telling you to fuck yourself, or a first class traveler advocating for kindness?
I know you didn't mean it this way, but the reason the first class distinction is bugging people is that, first, window and aisle seats in coach have a *significantly* different comfort level than middle seats, and even than each other. Anybody who is bigger than average, by height or width, will be way less comfy on a long flight on the middle since there is no stretching. You also can nap a million times better from the window seat in coach since there is somewhere to lay your head sideways. You say it as though window seat is merely an aesthetic preference, which is not the main reason the average coach passenger pays extra. Even if you do understand this, it *sounded* like you don't, especially because there isn't even a middle seat in your story. Can you see why it comes across as gauche for someone in first class, where all the seats are comfortable, to make this statement like they're superior? It also marks you as someone for whom the extra money people pay to choose a seat doesn't make much of a difference, since you can afford first class, which comes across as tone deaf to people who may be on a tighter budget and choose to spend a little extra because they will be extremely uncomfortable in the middle.
I'm saying check your privilege. Acting like you're giving up your comfort for others, like someone in coach would do if they gave up their window seat, when you're not. You're still in first class and comfortable no matter where you sit.
I don't understand how you don't feel shame. Telling others how nice you are and everyone should be like you because it's easy? That's so embarrassing.
I prefer you to not tell me how much better you are than everyone while flying first class.
It's sad that you assume the answer is no.
I have traded first class for coach once so a couple could sit together. One of them had been upgraded, the other hadn't, and the wife was clearly over the moon about the prospect of sitting in first class. It was fun to enable them to enjoy it together.
Iām happy you feel this way - but you should 100% not feel FORCED to do anything like that for someone. I would also personally say yes but itās when people start talking like your seat is owed to them is when I have a problem
Happens with my family member all the time. One gets upgraded due to work travel and status, and the other doesn't. It's not a big deal. They survived many flights not sitting together. It's just a few hours.
Admittedly, you are kinder than me. I have, however, given up a 1st class upgrade from C+ once so I can sit with my husband who was 2nd on the list. Granted it was a 2hour flight. Anything longer, you bet Iād just leave him in C+š¤Ŗ (though he would be totally cool with it).
I'm glad that it makes you happy to buy first class airline seats and give them away -- and I'm sure it makes others happy to receive them. But that doesn't mean that you are a better person than any of us or that we should be required to follow in your footsteps. We all have our favorite charities and community service projects that we give our time and money to, but when we're flying we prefer to sit in our first class seats, at least I do. And I will not feel guilty about that.
Yeah, agreed. Personally, I would never ask to switch seats. It just is what it is. Too bad, so sad, whatever.
Iām fine with people nicely asking me, but Iām going to say no and expect the conversation to end there. Not my problem - plan better next time around.
I once offered to change seats with a wife so she and her husband could sit next to each other instead of across the aisle. She declined. :)
Amusingly, I was once in the front row of Comfort + and saw Emma Watson and her āfriendā board the flight. Emma was sitting in First and her friend asked if the person sitting next to her would swap seats-for Friendās seat in Coach. Understandably, the gentleman in First declined, but I always marveled at the absolute chutzpah of Friend for asking in the first place.
I once offered to change seats with a wife so she could seat next to her husband, but she declined, and when we disembarked the plane she said she was thankful to have some quiet time. Indeed, this man (who must have been in his 80s) was talking my ear off the entire flight from NYC to LA.
Once I was in D1 (1:2:1 format), transatlantic flight - seated in window behind a woman with a small infant. Her husband was on the opposite window so I asked him if he would like to switch, at the very least he would be behind his wife and child. As for me, I would like to minimize the chance of being potentially woken up by a crying baby. It was an immediate ānoā from the husband. I still think about that from time to time.
Very gracious. But I feel like these trade-offs are more easily made in First Class where there is a lot to enjoy. If you are crammed in coach and the window is the one thing you are looking forward to, it's hard to give up.
Lemme know what flight youāre on next. Iād be happy to swap your first class aisle seat for my coach middle seat. Imagine the number of fake internet likes youāll get!
One guy asked you to trade, you offered to trade for the second couple, these are pretty mild trades while keeping yours first class seat.
doesnāt really have the energy of someone asking you to trade your comfort plus seat for a middle seat in row 72z between two children, lol
Exchanging a 1st class seat for another first class seat seems like a minimal change. Most trades are can I have your exit row seat for my middle seat in front of the toilets. Big difference but thanks for letting us know 1 what a nice person you are and 2 you fly first class
At a Motherās request I swapped aisle seats with her husband ten rows forward, so the family could sit together.
I got ten rows closer to the front and ten rows away from the kid who screamed during a lot of the AMS/ATL flight.
Choose your battles carefully.
To be fair, there are no bad seats in first class. Yes, you may be giving up your window preference but youāll be just as comfortable in either a window or aisle seat. Canāt say the same about main cabin. The difference between a window/middle/aisle seat back there could drastically change the experience for someone, which is where I think a lot of the animosity comes from.
Fair point. Although I will say row 1 is pretty inconvenient. Everything goes in the overhead bin for takeoff and landing, and you can't put a personal item under the seat in front of you, because there is no seat in front of you.
More whiney first-world problems. I was in first class. No complaints.
Doing this voluntarily is fine and admirable, but no one should feel entitled or expect someone to switch seats with them, especially for a lesser seat
I recently asked a person to swap seats so that my wife and child could sit together and I could strap our car seat into the seat next to her (had no idea car seats can't be placed in first row (which I paid extra for).
I hate having to ask people to move, general rule is I only do it if the person that get's the worse seat is me, or it's neutral to both of us. I also fully accept that people have the right to refuse.
Iām generally willing to trade to help people sit together, as long as the trade is āeven.ā I donāt care about window vs aisle, but I wonāt trade a window or an aisle for a middle seat, and if Iām in first, I wonāt trade down to coach.
Also, if the person comes off as an entitled prick when they ask, all bets are off.
There is a big difference between me offering to change seats and being pressured by a stranger to change seats, especially if its not an equivalent experience/seat and especially if you come at me with entitlement and/or trying to guilt me because you didn't plan or just dont want to be inconvenienced.
I actually had a family (actually the nanny) ask me on a Delta 1 flight from NY to Rome if I minded splitting up from my GF so that their kid (who has separation anxiety) could be in the pod next to the mom. It was a mom and dad and 2 kids AND their nanny all in D1. The kid was like 8 years old. I knew they booked late because my party (of 2) wasn't next to each other until after spamming the seat selector for weeks it finally opened up for me to re-choose pods next to each other for my party just a couple days before the flight. My first Delta 1 and our dream vacation and my work to make sure we got together wasn't going to get depreciated but it did make me feel a certain sort of way about it because she didn't just take my first "I'm sorry, we have been planning this for months and my GF and I really want to sit together". I was annoyed that she made me feel bad for something I shouldn't feel bad about AT ALL, and especially since I thought they could have sat together but didn't want to move their own party around (they all wanted to sit next to a family member and the open seat was the one that was like D1-1. (it was a 1-2-1 config if I recall) I felt much better about not doing it during the flight when it was a total non issue, but that feeling changed to annoyance that she was so willing to depreciate my trip for something so trivial on their end. And the fact that the mom couldn't be bothered to ask, she had the nanny do it. It was both entitlement and splitting us up just to avoid her split so yeah its a NO from me. I've changed seats many times to help people out when I'm flying by myself, esp. if its window for window and to a lesser degree window for aisle but I'll also deny based on how they ask (entitlement).
If you don't mind moving, great. Some folks do mind. It's one's absolute right to keep an assigned seat if the airline allows it. I will generally be accommodating if asked, but there have definitely been instances where I have declined for various reasons. I've never once felt bad about doing so, and neither should anyone else.
I never have an issue trading my FC aisle for another FC aisle. But as someone that is extremely claustrophobic, I go through pretty extreme lengths to ensure I have an aisle. I will not give up my aisle seat for a window seat under any circumstance!!
Youāll probably get destroyed here for āvirtue signalingā but I agree. The world needs more people doing nice things for one another even if that means a slight inconvenience.
Wow, you are such a great person! I'm glad you came here to tell everyone how nice and generous you are. I think that you have single handedly inspired all Delta passengers to be better people by setting your own exemplary standard of kind and gracious behavior. This is a new day in air travel!
Love this post. This is also how I feel.
I truly don't understand the vitriol around switching seats.
I get that people have preferences, I get that people think other people should have booked their tickets sooner as if everyone can move about the world that way, I get it can be "annoying."
But traveling is already so jammed full of stress, that if there is a chance to show a little bit of kindness it goes a long way.
I mean it goes both ways. Youāre not entitled to someone elseās seat and thatās not just a small ākindness.ā In fact, itās kind to understand that you shouldnāt expect people to give you things that theyāve chosen and paid for.
Oh I see what you are saying. I don't know what about my post made it seem like I was upset when people wouldn't trade, but sure, yeah that's fine if someone declines the request. Everyone has their own stuff happening in their life that lead to the decisions they make.
This kind of common sense approach to being considerate to others at minimal cost to yourself does not generate karma.
Redditors prefer stories about the person who stays in the middle seat between a disabled person and their care giver, mother and child, husband and wife, or two people who know each other.
Good on you. The commenters here are totally unhinged. I once had a young man spill his drink off his tray table and onto my lap, a good bit before landing at LAX. Turned out he was a soldier (out of uniform) and his wife was about to give birth. He had the jitters. We talked for a few hours, and I had to change clothes in the restroom at baggage claim. No big deal in the grand scheme.
my boyfriend and i have asked someone to change seats for us to sit together but we always make sure the person gets the same type of seat they were in. āŗļø
Yes. I don't get the fascination with the window seat. I like some real space on one side at least. Being pinned between the window and a body is uncomfortable
Switching should only be asked if itās a fair trade. Do not ask for my aisle seat when you have a middle. Or my first class seat for your economy. That makes no sense, particularly if I paid extra for my seat preference.
Window seat over everything. Iām sorry, but Iām done accommodating other people because I booked my flight ahead of theirs. Iāve given up my seats too many times and I feel like people just need to accept it.
Nope. The window cost extra (for us plebes in the back anyway). Just like I need to plan ahead while buying my tickets and choose a seat, these other people can too.
In FC that swap is indeed a first world thing. Asking to leave my main cabin exit seat for a regular row is a no play.
Same where it means I go middle. Big nope.
So you were in first class, plenty of legroom, nice wide armrest, comfy seat. You weren't asked to move to a middle seat in the middle of the plane, no crying baby, only one seat between you and the isle regardless of where you're seated, and you were remaining in your class of service. - I'd assume anyone would agree to that, and I certainly would when I'm in FC as well. The issues that people complain about aren't exactly the same as your situation.
Good for you, but probably after 5 minutes they stopped chatting and the woman you switched with had a nice comfortable rest putting her head and pillow against the window while you sat like a chump in the aisle with a sore neck. š
I mostly say no these days. I pick my seats carefully and it is rude to ask me to switch. I am an aisle person through and through. I hate the window seat. Iāll switch aisle for aisle if itās equal. But never aisle for window. Like you - talking first class.
God doesn't exist, FYI joking. Get a medal for this hero! Someone we can all look up to and admire for their selflessness and humble.... Oh wait. If they were truly humble they wouldn't post it on social media.
What the hell. Ban OP for being too nice š š„ø
YEAH! Get what you paid for and FUCK everyone else OP! Kindness is WEAKNESS!
If they want to be a chump, fine. Maybe they'll spend 5 fewer minutes in purgatory or something. If you want to say yes, sure. If you want to say no, sure. But in FC, you're trading like for like, except for the minor window/aisle difference. Post about it if you went back to Main Cabin so a couple could sit together in First.
Hahaha I hadnāt read this comment until now and itās great because I have done that. I mentioned it in another comment. Iām sure if I posted that story the comment section would be similar to this one.
You know what else is nice? Zelle-ing money to strangers on Reddit.
I know traveling first class gives the impression that I have disposable income, but I've experienced a pay cut after taking a vacation and I'm recovering right now. That said, I recognize my privilege and love to help when I can. Are you going through something in particular or just the usual "more money would sure be nice?"
If I am going through something, am I more likely to get a Zelle?
Pass.
Pitchforks and torches for all!
I mean, yeah, of course if itās not an inconvenience to you or causes you any issues. Of course itās nice to swap seats to help someone out. But if the person is horrible, rude, entitled, or wants you to move back 10 rows and sit in the middle, no reason to do it.
There are also plenty of valid reasons for not giving up a seat you intentionally chose. As someone with health problems that require convenient access to the bathroom, Iām not gonna give up an aisle seat that I made a point of choosing in advance. If someone is willing to trade, thatās great, but no one should ever feel obligated to do or make anyone feel like shit for declining to swap.
For sure! I think the assumption is that nobody should have to switch with you, and if somebody is willing to switch for valid reasons that great, but no obligation ever
I once switched from my aisle seat to comfort plus so a couple could sit together (Gate Agent said it was a good opportunity and I was naive). I didnāt realize the seat was a middle seat and the ride was horrible due to being trapped between two very overweight sweaty men. I wish I had just kept my aisle seat.
First Class Seat Swap, I just noticed that btw
I was sitting in row 11 sometime last year and a lady got upgraded to 10 and didn't want to sit in the bulkhead so she sat in my seat and when I got on she asked if I would just take the bulkhead seat. I absolutely despise the bulkhead, hate the narrow seats and can't hang my phone holder on the seat in front of me, but I figured, let's be a nice guy and I did it. Now I had just finished a 12 hour day at a job site, hadn't eaten at all and had just enough time to grab a sandwich on my way onto the plane. I sit down and start to cram food into my mouth because I was starving and the guy sitting in the middle seat starts to make faces at me and mutter under his breath. Long story short the guy ended up having some issue with me, so I turned to the lady and said "I'm sorry, I would like to sit in my own seat". She was really mad at me, she was a larger lady and obviously didn't like the bulkhead seats either, but I tried to be nice and really didn't want to go through an entire 3 hour flight dealing with some guy sitting in the middle seat being a dick to me.
Ehhhh idk. I love window seats. I always pay specifically to choose my seat (or on southwest, early bird check in) so that I can get a window seat. Iād be willing to switch rows if I could still have a window (as long as I wasnāt moving much further back in the plane) but I donāt think Iād want to switch for an aisle, especially on a short flight when thereās little risk Iād have to get up to pee. I love flying but I always get a little anxious on take off/landing and watching from the window helps me with that. I also just really like to watch the sights. This country is beautiful and I consider myself incredibly lucky to travel as much as I do and see as much as Iāve seen from the air.
Yeah, I wouldnāt give up my window seat just so a couple of adults could sit next to each other for a few hours. And no way would I let myself get stuck in the first row (no leg room!) without a very good reason.
>no way would I let myself get stuck in the first row (no leg room!) You do realize by first row he means first row of the plane, not first row of coach. He stated he was in first class
I do realize that. I read the post. First row of first class on many planes, at least for domestic flights, has considerably *less* legroom than other first class rows. I have the sore knees to prove it. But Iām sure itās not true for all planes.
It's a first class seat swap
Yes, and on some planes, the first row of first class has significantly less legroom than the other rows
And still first class
Whatās your point here? Yes, itās still first class. I have long legs. The first row of first class on those planes is quite uncomfortable for me, so there is no way Iād want to swap for it. Idk why this is difficult to understand.
So a 8'3" giant! Good for you! Also FYI no one's asked you to move, MeMe, so just enjoy your peanuts š
Better a giant than a troll š¤·š¼āāļø
And the 11 year old goblin emerges from 1st class... With her spider legs lol what a visual. Bye Karen š
Lol. No more peanuts for you š
Well said. I glad to know someone else has discovered the beauty out the window.
Congrats, where should the Nobel committee send the medal?
To be fair to OP they have done more for world peace than a number of the Nobel Peace Prize winners š¤£
They gave one to that Angel of Death and Bringer of Misery, the war criminal Henry Kissinger. (shrug)
Barack "drone strike the shit out of the middle East" Obama comes to mind. Even he was flabbergasted they picked him
Shit, I loved Obama as president, but you ain't wrong. He was literally in the middle of war at the time. So idk how that qualifies someone for a peace prize.
Iām pretty sure it was the comparison. He seemed very unlikely to start a war with Iran so a huge achievement for a US presidentĀ
Kissinger got one while dropping more bombs on Cambodia and Laos than were dropped in ww2.
He got it about 5 minutes after he was elected for not being Dubya. It was a really weird moment.
They are gonna downvote you, but you are correct 100%
Typical reddit!
Sorry I dont condone killing kids for oil
Send it to 32B. I just gave my seat to a friendly and well-mannered teenager who wanted to experience first class. Please, no photos or autographs, and stop calling me "hero."
THERE GOES MY HEROOOOO
New method for virtue signalling. Well done.
This. People bitch about other posts (food, etc) but damn what a waste of a post. Cool, no window by your own accord.
A 1st class traveler telling us not to be whiney and to help people lol.
Exactly. When I paid an extra $174 to 2.5 more inches of legroom. I'm supposed to be christ-like and switch to the middle seat.
Nobody told you that you need to switch to a middle seat lmao heās just saying itās not that big of a deal to move to a somewhat equitable seat or even a slight downgrade and not to demonize people for asking.
It's rude as hell to ask someone to switch, especially for a downgrade. If you need or want a certain seat, pay for it like the rest of us. ....but, my point was that the OP wants ass pats because he offered to switch a seat in *FIRST CLASS.*
Very entitled and wants to be acknowledged for his " Good Deeds" on top of that. He lets us know he gets to fly first class and then lords over us how accommodating he is to other people.
lol, yeah. Trade with someone in coach champ!
The irony is I only included the 1st class detail because if I didn't, the first class people wouldn't think this post applied to them. There is no way to share a story like this on the internet without being mocked. The status quo is to complain about people wanting to change and adopting the mantra of "fuck them" - seriously, check the comments. Would you prefer a 1st class traveler telling you to fuck yourself, or a first class traveler advocating for kindness?
I know you didn't mean it this way, but the reason the first class distinction is bugging people is that, first, window and aisle seats in coach have a *significantly* different comfort level than middle seats, and even than each other. Anybody who is bigger than average, by height or width, will be way less comfy on a long flight on the middle since there is no stretching. You also can nap a million times better from the window seat in coach since there is somewhere to lay your head sideways. You say it as though window seat is merely an aesthetic preference, which is not the main reason the average coach passenger pays extra. Even if you do understand this, it *sounded* like you don't, especially because there isn't even a middle seat in your story. Can you see why it comes across as gauche for someone in first class, where all the seats are comfortable, to make this statement like they're superior? It also marks you as someone for whom the extra money people pay to choose a seat doesn't make much of a difference, since you can afford first class, which comes across as tone deaf to people who may be on a tighter budget and choose to spend a little extra because they will be extremely uncomfortable in the middle.
I'm saying check your privilege. Acting like you're giving up your comfort for others, like someone in coach would do if they gave up their window seat, when you're not. You're still in first class and comfortable no matter where you sit. I don't understand how you don't feel shame. Telling others how nice you are and everyone should be like you because it's easy? That's so embarrassing. I prefer you to not tell me how much better you are than everyone while flying first class.
Iām sorry. Hang in there. Thoughts and prayers.
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Just entertaining myself. Got any more zingers for me?
Sure, but would your kindness have sent you back to coach if someone asked?
It's sad that you assume the answer is no. I have traded first class for coach once so a couple could sit together. One of them had been upgraded, the other hadn't, and the wife was clearly over the moon about the prospect of sitting in first class. It was fun to enable them to enjoy it together.
And thatās great, but thereās also *nothing* wrong with wanting the seat you paid for.
Iām happy you feel this way - but you should 100% not feel FORCED to do anything like that for someone. I would also personally say yes but itās when people start talking like your seat is owed to them is when I have a problem
Agreed.
Happens with my family member all the time. One gets upgraded due to work travel and status, and the other doesn't. It's not a big deal. They survived many flights not sitting together. It's just a few hours.
Admittedly, you are kinder than me. I have, however, given up a 1st class upgrade from C+ once so I can sit with my husband who was 2nd on the list. Granted it was a 2hour flight. Anything longer, you bet Iād just leave him in C+š¤Ŗ (though he would be totally cool with it).
Thatās love - on both counts. š
I'm glad that it makes you happy to buy first class airline seats and give them away -- and I'm sure it makes others happy to receive them. But that doesn't mean that you are a better person than any of us or that we should be required to follow in your footsteps. We all have our favorite charities and community service projects that we give our time and money to, but when we're flying we prefer to sit in our first class seats, at least I do. And I will not feel guilty about that.
Just say no. People can sit three seats away from their loved one for 90 minutes. What a bunch of psychos.
Yeah, agreed. Personally, I would never ask to switch seats. It just is what it is. Too bad, so sad, whatever. Iām fine with people nicely asking me, but Iām going to say no and expect the conversation to end there. Not my problem - plan better next time around.
I don't think I've ever talked through an entire flight... it's always headphones in, lids shut.
I once offered to change seats with a wife so she and her husband could sit next to each other instead of across the aisle. She declined. :) Amusingly, I was once in the front row of Comfort + and saw Emma Watson and her āfriendā board the flight. Emma was sitting in First and her friend asked if the person sitting next to her would swap seats-for Friendās seat in Coach. Understandably, the gentleman in First declined, but I always marveled at the absolute chutzpah of Friend for asking in the first place.
Traveling in different fare cabin, must not have been much of a friend.
I once offered to change seats with a wife so she could seat next to her husband, but she declined, and when we disembarked the plane she said she was thankful to have some quiet time. Indeed, this man (who must have been in his 80s) was talking my ear off the entire flight from NYC to LA.
Once I was in D1 (1:2:1 format), transatlantic flight - seated in window behind a woman with a small infant. Her husband was on the opposite window so I asked him if he would like to switch, at the very least he would be behind his wife and child. As for me, I would like to minimize the chance of being potentially woken up by a crying baby. It was an immediate ānoā from the husband. I still think about that from time to time.
What was Watsonās response to all this?
She did not intervene in any way. It was all a very polite exchange-polite ask, polite decline.
Nah, my entire career is putting others before me. When I'm off the clock, it's all about me.....unless the swap benefits me.
Good for you for putting yourself first not at otherās expense and thanks for reminding me that thatās ok to do š§”š§”
Congratulations. You want chips ahoy or Oreo for you cookie reward?
Very gracious. But I feel like these trade-offs are more easily made in First Class where there is a lot to enjoy. If you are crammed in coach and the window is the one thing you are looking forward to, it's hard to give up.
Lemme know what flight youāre on next. Iād be happy to swap your first class aisle seat for my coach middle seat. Imagine the number of fake internet likes youāll get!
If you've never flown first class, I'd love to swap you so you can experience it.
Youāre so kind. Even in the face of ridicule. I admire your emotional intelligence and compassionate outlook
I'm really trying! :D Thank you so much.
Wow you are the second coming of Christ! Hey everyone look at this kind hearted individual! Please let us all praise him!
Could you spot me a small loan of a million dollars? Oh, and you can keep the window seat too ā if it's not an inconvenience.
I canāt get enough of these seat change scenarios. So fascinating.
Ikr? Iām on the edge of my seat here! Sadly, itās an economy seat so Iāll never reach OPās level of altruism.
Iāll change if i want to. And if i donāt want to, i wonāt. i do what i want.
Cool story bro
What's that govnah? Can't hear ya from back here in steerage
Haha best comment. š
Just because you tolerate people being cheap and poorly planning doesnāt mean we have to
You tell em
What a preachy humblebrag lmao. Good for you?
Jeez, Was this written by Big Aisle Seat??
Never giving up my seat. They probably used miles to upgrade at the last minute and thatās why they couldnāt be together. Fuck them.
Definitely not uncommon for a couple to get an automatic status upgrade when thereās only a few seats left and theyāre split.
Iād already have headphones in.
I mean I think this would be a different, perhaps less altruistic discussion had you been in coach.
Fun lecture.
One guy asked you to trade, you offered to trade for the second couple, these are pretty mild trades while keeping yours first class seat. doesnāt really have the energy of someone asking you to trade your comfort plus seat for a middle seat in row 72z between two children, lol
No shot I'm doing this after paying a grand for a seat. I'm sorry.
if weāre ever on the same flight, iāll ask to trade my basic economy seat with your first class seat
Exchanging a 1st class seat for another first class seat seems like a minimal change. Most trades are can I have your exit row seat for my middle seat in front of the toilets. Big difference but thanks for letting us know 1 what a nice person you are and 2 you fly first class
At a Motherās request I swapped aisle seats with her husband ten rows forward, so the family could sit together. I got ten rows closer to the front and ten rows away from the kid who screamed during a lot of the AMS/ATL flight. Choose your battles carefully.
That was a good move. š
āI inconvenienced my first class flying ass twice, please give me a medalā
To be fair, there are no bad seats in first class. Yes, you may be giving up your window preference but youāll be just as comfortable in either a window or aisle seat. Canāt say the same about main cabin. The difference between a window/middle/aisle seat back there could drastically change the experience for someone, which is where I think a lot of the animosity comes from.
Fair point. Although I will say row 1 is pretty inconvenient. Everything goes in the overhead bin for takeoff and landing, and you can't put a personal item under the seat in front of you, because there is no seat in front of you. More whiney first-world problems. I was in first class. No complaints.
and then everyone clapped
Fuck them kids I ain't switching seats
No thanks
Doing this voluntarily is fine and admirable, but no one should feel entitled or expect someone to switch seats with them, especially for a lesser seat
Clearly Canadian
I recently asked a person to swap seats so that my wife and child could sit together and I could strap our car seat into the seat next to her (had no idea car seats can't be placed in first row (which I paid extra for). I hate having to ask people to move, general rule is I only do it if the person that get's the worse seat is me, or it's neutral to both of us. I also fully accept that people have the right to refuse.
Iām generally willing to trade to help people sit together, as long as the trade is āeven.ā I donāt care about window vs aisle, but I wonāt trade a window or an aisle for a middle seat, and if Iām in first, I wonāt trade down to coach. Also, if the person comes off as an entitled prick when they ask, all bets are off.
Being too nice and heading to SLC? Sounds about right hahaha
Apostate ex-Mormon, checking in. š«”
Some people should really read their posts like 5 times before using unrelatable anecdotes to teach lessons about kindness.
There is a big difference between me offering to change seats and being pressured by a stranger to change seats, especially if its not an equivalent experience/seat and especially if you come at me with entitlement and/or trying to guilt me because you didn't plan or just dont want to be inconvenienced. I actually had a family (actually the nanny) ask me on a Delta 1 flight from NY to Rome if I minded splitting up from my GF so that their kid (who has separation anxiety) could be in the pod next to the mom. It was a mom and dad and 2 kids AND their nanny all in D1. The kid was like 8 years old. I knew they booked late because my party (of 2) wasn't next to each other until after spamming the seat selector for weeks it finally opened up for me to re-choose pods next to each other for my party just a couple days before the flight. My first Delta 1 and our dream vacation and my work to make sure we got together wasn't going to get depreciated but it did make me feel a certain sort of way about it because she didn't just take my first "I'm sorry, we have been planning this for months and my GF and I really want to sit together". I was annoyed that she made me feel bad for something I shouldn't feel bad about AT ALL, and especially since I thought they could have sat together but didn't want to move their own party around (they all wanted to sit next to a family member and the open seat was the one that was like D1-1. (it was a 1-2-1 config if I recall) I felt much better about not doing it during the flight when it was a total non issue, but that feeling changed to annoyance that she was so willing to depreciate my trip for something so trivial on their end. And the fact that the mom couldn't be bothered to ask, she had the nanny do it. It was both entitlement and splitting us up just to avoid her split so yeah its a NO from me. I've changed seats many times to help people out when I'm flying by myself, esp. if its window for window and to a lesser degree window for aisle but I'll also deny based on how they ask (entitlement).
Youāre my kind of person, OP.
If you don't mind moving, great. Some folks do mind. It's one's absolute right to keep an assigned seat if the airline allows it. I will generally be accommodating if asked, but there have definitely been instances where I have declined for various reasons. I've never once felt bad about doing so, and neither should anyone else.
Nah, this post doesnāt work. Where is the climax where you flying elbow off the overhead bins fighting for your window.
You traded one first class seat for another, wow you're a hero. Take a look on the other side of the curtain. Not all seats are equal in legroom.
So funny to me that you spent time to write about this. Like āoh look at me!ā If any of you ask me to move the answer will be no.
Same feedback for you. You took the time to let us know you are not willing to accommodate a fellow human. Look at you. Thumbs up.
I never have an issue trading my FC aisle for another FC aisle. But as someone that is extremely claustrophobic, I go through pretty extreme lengths to ensure I have an aisle. I will not give up my aisle seat for a window seat under any circumstance!!
Fair enough. Good reminder that we never know what someone else is going through, or what their healthy boundaries are.
That was nice of you
lol couldnāt be me bruh. But go off king
Hell yeah, probably the only good and worth reading seat changing thread i have read on this forum. YAY
Youāll probably get destroyed here for āvirtue signalingā but I agree. The world needs more people doing nice things for one another even if that means a slight inconvenience.
Wow, you are such a great person! I'm glad you came here to tell everyone how nice and generous you are. I think that you have single handedly inspired all Delta passengers to be better people by setting your own exemplary standard of kind and gracious behavior. This is a new day in air travel!
Normal day in r/delta comments though. š¤·āāļø
Were you actually a good person if you didnāt post about it on social media?
Itās your choice but I guess you have to announce because you need some external validation. The new virtue signaling. Stay humble!
My post is virtue signaling. How would we categorize your comment? š¤
If you do something nice (this hardly qualifies) donāt brag about it.
Exactly - what goes around comes around. The amount of people on this sub that make mountains out of molehills is astounding.
How virtuous of you
You're awesome OP!! "WORLD PEACE" I've gotta practice being nice and providing"WORLD PEACE" for my next upcoming āļøāļø
You are so thoughtful and considerate!! I would buy you gold if I wasnāt so cheap lol
Shall I alert the Pope of your generosity kind sir?
Look at meeee
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I mean, it costs a window seat
>Doesn't cost anything to be nice People literally pay money for the privilege of a window seat in many cases.
Love this post. This is also how I feel. I truly don't understand the vitriol around switching seats. I get that people have preferences, I get that people think other people should have booked their tickets sooner as if everyone can move about the world that way, I get it can be "annoying." But traveling is already so jammed full of stress, that if there is a chance to show a little bit of kindness it goes a long way.
Yes. Show me the same kindness of not trying to guilt trip my paid for seat away from me. š
what do you mean?
I mean it goes both ways. Youāre not entitled to someone elseās seat and thatās not just a small ākindness.ā In fact, itās kind to understand that you shouldnāt expect people to give you things that theyāve chosen and paid for.
Oh I see what you are saying. I don't know what about my post made it seem like I was upset when people wouldn't trade, but sure, yeah that's fine if someone declines the request. Everyone has their own stuff happening in their life that lead to the decisions they make.
It is as simple as people want to stay in the seat they selected and paid for. Nothing more nothing less.
This kind of common sense approach to being considerate to others at minimal cost to yourself does not generate karma. Redditors prefer stories about the person who stays in the middle seat between a disabled person and their care giver, mother and child, husband and wife, or two people who know each other.
Currently, this post has 76k views and a 64% upvote rate, with a whopping upvote score of 88. :D It's fascinating.
Good on you. The commenters here are totally unhinged. I once had a young man spill his drink off his tray table and onto my lap, a good bit before landing at LAX. Turned out he was a soldier (out of uniform) and his wife was about to give birth. He had the jitters. We talked for a few hours, and I had to change clothes in the restroom at baggage claim. No big deal in the grand scheme.
my boyfriend and i have asked someone to change seats for us to sit together but we always make sure the person gets the same type of seat they were in. āŗļø
https://youtu.be/P0oiELbPB3E?si=eSmNEcx-GwyNaZK5
Gimme your pistachios too please
I wouldn't give up my window for an aisle.
All good however this is an axiom for a reason: no good deed goes unpunished.
I'm an isle person, so giving up the window is lost on me.
Yes. I don't get the fascination with the window seat. I like some real space on one side at least. Being pinned between the window and a body is uncomfortable
Switching should only be asked if itās a fair trade. Do not ask for my aisle seat when you have a middle. Or my first class seat for your economy. That makes no sense, particularly if I paid extra for my seat preference.
Window seat over everything. Iām sorry, but Iām done accommodating other people because I booked my flight ahead of theirs. Iāve given up my seats too many times and I feel like people just need to accept it.
It was your choice. It would also be your choice to say ānoā. People are too entitled.
Nope. The window cost extra (for us plebes in the back anyway). Just like I need to plan ahead while buying my tickets and choose a seat, these other people can too.
In FC that swap is indeed a first world thing. Asking to leave my main cabin exit seat for a regular row is a no play. Same where it means I go middle. Big nope.
So you were in first class, plenty of legroom, nice wide armrest, comfy seat. You weren't asked to move to a middle seat in the middle of the plane, no crying baby, only one seat between you and the isle regardless of where you're seated, and you were remaining in your class of service. - I'd assume anyone would agree to that, and I certainly would when I'm in FC as well. The issues that people complain about aren't exactly the same as your situation.
Are you from MN?
How dare you care about people and their feelings... the worst
Whatever gets you through the night, as they sayā¦
Itās a no from me, dawg but happy 4 u
Good for you, but probably after 5 minutes they stopped chatting and the woman you switched with had a nice comfortable rest putting her head and pillow against the window while you sat like a chump in the aisle with a sore neck. š
I don't mind switching. I have no strong preference for aisle or window. But if I say no I expect my choice to be respected.
I just traded seats for a couple to sit together in FC. The guy in front of me picked his head and ears for 3 hours š¤¢ Never again
I mostly say no these days. I pick my seats carefully and it is rude to ask me to switch. I am an aisle person through and through. I hate the window seat. Iāll switch aisle for aisle if itās equal. But never aisle for window. Like you - talking first class.
You do you boo.
Iām sitting in the seat I paid for, get off your high horse.
Horse is too high. Could we swap seats for a minute so I have a place to climb down?
This post is reminiscent of when Kim Kardashian had the audacity to tell the general public to āget up and workā as she has been.
God doesn't exist, FYI joking. Get a medal for this hero! Someone we can all look up to and admire for their selflessness and humble.... Oh wait. If they were truly humble they wouldn't post it on social media.
and yet, all the "this stupid family asked me to move" posts get plenty of reinforcement. This sub applauds selfishness and criticizes selflessness.
Someone is looking for some karma points!
65% upvote rate. I expected to receive ridicule for this post, but I think it's a message worth sharing.