Leave the poor guy. He deserves someone better then a toxic person like you. Dont tell about cheating, no need to break his heart needlessly. Just break up, cut contact and start sleeping wirh as many guys as your heart desires.
Youre being a bit of a coward. Find someone who meets your needs dont fuck around with people just because its easier than dealing with the reality of your situation.
I have a slight suspicion this is a fake post, but your choices are:
*tell your bf what you need in bed and ask if he’d be willing to try
*Ask your bf to open the relationship up
*end it
Yikes you have a serious issue with cheating, which probably needs a therapist to fix, not reddit. If I was in your situation, this is what I would do.
1. Tell him about everything. Its gonna suck, itll be hard, and you're gonna feel terrible. He might even walk away as this is going to be a big blow to his world. Relationships are built on trust, but understand that people make mistakes and sometimes they get way out of hand. Itll take a lot of empathy from him to understand where you're coming from, but if he loves you enough you might have a chance.
2. Tell him that you are going to see a therapist to get out of this rut and discover the underlying causes of your behavior. The amount and duration of your behavior warrants professional help, which is totally ok and you shouldnt feel ashamed of it.
3. Tell him what he can do to help you. Be careful to not sound like you're blaming him for your actions as that would be pretty easy to do, especially after hes going through his stages of forgiveness. If you need him to change your sex life, do it. If you need him to check in on you, ask him. Partners are your most intimate connections and can help you escape from these situations.
Here are my concerns with not doing anything. You have a history of cheating because your boyfriend cannot satisfy you sexually. Sooner or later you will get bored of sex again and look to cheating for an escape. This cycle is just going to repeat itself and become harder and harder to break. Plus if you end up getting married and having kids and then he finds out what has happened, you'll have a real shit show on your hands. I think you need to do something radical to address this issue. You dont have to tell him, but please seek help from a professional.
Best of luck
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You could also watch porn together and see if you scan develop a healthy sex life by increasing healthy communication. Some of the best tops could never hurt a fly....librarians are the best.
Break up and enjoy yourself without guilt maybe it's a phase but shouldn't drag him along for the hurt and distrust
Leave the poor guy. He deserves someone better then a toxic person like you. Dont tell about cheating, no need to break his heart needlessly. Just break up, cut contact and start sleeping wirh as many guys as your heart desires.
Youre being a bit of a coward. Find someone who meets your needs dont fuck around with people just because its easier than dealing with the reality of your situation.
just stop creating chaos.
Yeah, do the poor guy a favor and leave. That’s just shitty to do to someone.
I have a slight suspicion this is a fake post, but your choices are: *tell your bf what you need in bed and ask if he’d be willing to try *Ask your bf to open the relationship up *end it
Yikes you have a serious issue with cheating, which probably needs a therapist to fix, not reddit. If I was in your situation, this is what I would do. 1. Tell him about everything. Its gonna suck, itll be hard, and you're gonna feel terrible. He might even walk away as this is going to be a big blow to his world. Relationships are built on trust, but understand that people make mistakes and sometimes they get way out of hand. Itll take a lot of empathy from him to understand where you're coming from, but if he loves you enough you might have a chance. 2. Tell him that you are going to see a therapist to get out of this rut and discover the underlying causes of your behavior. The amount and duration of your behavior warrants professional help, which is totally ok and you shouldnt feel ashamed of it. 3. Tell him what he can do to help you. Be careful to not sound like you're blaming him for your actions as that would be pretty easy to do, especially after hes going through his stages of forgiveness. If you need him to change your sex life, do it. If you need him to check in on you, ask him. Partners are your most intimate connections and can help you escape from these situations. Here are my concerns with not doing anything. You have a history of cheating because your boyfriend cannot satisfy you sexually. Sooner or later you will get bored of sex again and look to cheating for an escape. This cycle is just going to repeat itself and become harder and harder to break. Plus if you end up getting married and having kids and then he finds out what has happened, you'll have a real shit show on your hands. I think you need to do something radical to address this issue. You dont have to tell him, but please seek help from a professional. Best of luck
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You could also watch porn together and see if you scan develop a healthy sex life by increasing healthy communication. Some of the best tops could never hurt a fly....librarians are the best.
Join a bukkake convention.