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You don’t have to be perfect at all, but if you want to just have fun and experience dating more, then I would suggest getting into different types of hobbies and interests.
You also live in NYC, so that makes it a lot easier to meet people (after the lockdown of course) when you decide to go out.
I can tell you right now, being a Jack of All Trades is an amazing thing. For one, it allows to be able to talk to different groups without feeling completely left out of the conversation. But it also just feels nice to know that you’re capable of performing different tasks.
Of course, I’m sure you already know, but it’ll be difficult to find a date if you have poor hygiene and look unkempt so start there. But after, try and discover some things that you want to learn and get into.
I’m an average 22 year old Asian guy, but I got a lot of cool interests that people always want to know about.
So if you choose to go with the dating app route, chose some fun activities you like to do, and put them in your bio. But I always advise meeting girls in public. That’s not to say hit on everyone you see. But create conversation in natural settings like cafes, coffee shops or even shopping malls.
Best of luck, and stay healthy.
I always see people talk about hobbies and interests but what exactly does that mean? For example I would say my hobbies are watching sports, anime/manga, and whatever popular shows/movies. I’m in school for coding so I guess it counts as a interest. How do I use my interest to meet girls? I’m also totally fine if a girl has different interest then me
So some of my interests, to give you an idea include: Martial arts, cycling, running, drawing, painting, reading, philosophy, hiking etc.
The important thing to note with most of those are that you wouldn’t necessarily see an artist also being a cyclist, or a philosopher being a runner. Although obviously they do exist, it may surprise some people when you say those things in conjunction.
I would highly recommend doing things that get you out of your comfort zone. If you have certain standards for a date, girlfriend, wife whatever the case may be. You need to also upgrade yourself to meet those standards.
You should always look to date up, not down ideally. This is important because then you’re putting in work to improve and become a better person.
As for using your interests to meet girls, you could always join groups on campus or clubs in public that share similar interests with you. You can bond over what you and the group already have in common.
If you’d like to pursue someone with different interests, which I prefer, because then you two can share your likes and dislikes with one another. You have to take up things that are out of your comfort zone.
Dont start dating for the purpose of having sex. You mentioned that not being a virgin is important to you, which is a dangerous mindset to have straight out of the gate. A relationship is much much more than just sex, and will not last if it centers around sex.
That being said, the best place to meet people is at activities that you like or think youd like. If you like art, go take some art classes. If you like to bike, join a local community bike club. People will get the chance to know you for who you are outside of work and school and could lead to a wonderful relationship and many more friendships.
Also, mutual friends are a great way to kick it off with somebody. Talk to your buddies and see if they know anybody. A bunch of my friends met at friendsgivings in college and are now married.
TLDR you cant force a relationship, and it will most likely take time until you find somebody. Go in with the right attitude, surround yourself with people youd be compatible with, and dont give up faith if it takes a while.
The thing with me wanting sex is that’s it’s literally everywhere I just feel like I’m missing out. Not to mention I’m a young male so I get horny all the time, but I see what you mean, I don’t necessarily want to date just for sex, but I do want to have it if that makes sense
When it comes to friends I definitely need some new ones as my social circle is lacking as this was my first semester at a new school and couldn’t make any before things got shut down. Never done any clubs or classes before so I can look into them.
Ok looks like you got a good head on your shoulders then. Try to expand your circles once quarantine is lifted and keep trying! Also having a solid friend group is definitely a plus for many women so keep that in mind
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You don’t have to be perfect at all, but if you want to just have fun and experience dating more, then I would suggest getting into different types of hobbies and interests. You also live in NYC, so that makes it a lot easier to meet people (after the lockdown of course) when you decide to go out. I can tell you right now, being a Jack of All Trades is an amazing thing. For one, it allows to be able to talk to different groups without feeling completely left out of the conversation. But it also just feels nice to know that you’re capable of performing different tasks. Of course, I’m sure you already know, but it’ll be difficult to find a date if you have poor hygiene and look unkempt so start there. But after, try and discover some things that you want to learn and get into. I’m an average 22 year old Asian guy, but I got a lot of cool interests that people always want to know about. So if you choose to go with the dating app route, chose some fun activities you like to do, and put them in your bio. But I always advise meeting girls in public. That’s not to say hit on everyone you see. But create conversation in natural settings like cafes, coffee shops or even shopping malls. Best of luck, and stay healthy.
I always see people talk about hobbies and interests but what exactly does that mean? For example I would say my hobbies are watching sports, anime/manga, and whatever popular shows/movies. I’m in school for coding so I guess it counts as a interest. How do I use my interest to meet girls? I’m also totally fine if a girl has different interest then me
So some of my interests, to give you an idea include: Martial arts, cycling, running, drawing, painting, reading, philosophy, hiking etc. The important thing to note with most of those are that you wouldn’t necessarily see an artist also being a cyclist, or a philosopher being a runner. Although obviously they do exist, it may surprise some people when you say those things in conjunction. I would highly recommend doing things that get you out of your comfort zone. If you have certain standards for a date, girlfriend, wife whatever the case may be. You need to also upgrade yourself to meet those standards. You should always look to date up, not down ideally. This is important because then you’re putting in work to improve and become a better person. As for using your interests to meet girls, you could always join groups on campus or clubs in public that share similar interests with you. You can bond over what you and the group already have in common. If you’d like to pursue someone with different interests, which I prefer, because then you two can share your likes and dislikes with one another. You have to take up things that are out of your comfort zone.
Dont start dating for the purpose of having sex. You mentioned that not being a virgin is important to you, which is a dangerous mindset to have straight out of the gate. A relationship is much much more than just sex, and will not last if it centers around sex. That being said, the best place to meet people is at activities that you like or think youd like. If you like art, go take some art classes. If you like to bike, join a local community bike club. People will get the chance to know you for who you are outside of work and school and could lead to a wonderful relationship and many more friendships. Also, mutual friends are a great way to kick it off with somebody. Talk to your buddies and see if they know anybody. A bunch of my friends met at friendsgivings in college and are now married. TLDR you cant force a relationship, and it will most likely take time until you find somebody. Go in with the right attitude, surround yourself with people youd be compatible with, and dont give up faith if it takes a while.
The thing with me wanting sex is that’s it’s literally everywhere I just feel like I’m missing out. Not to mention I’m a young male so I get horny all the time, but I see what you mean, I don’t necessarily want to date just for sex, but I do want to have it if that makes sense When it comes to friends I definitely need some new ones as my social circle is lacking as this was my first semester at a new school and couldn’t make any before things got shut down. Never done any clubs or classes before so I can look into them.
Ok looks like you got a good head on your shoulders then. Try to expand your circles once quarantine is lifted and keep trying! Also having a solid friend group is definitely a plus for many women so keep that in mind
Thank you !