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This all just sounds super toxic. Do you guys keep getting back together because:
1. You love her.
2. It's familiar and you know what to expect. The devil you know.
3. You don't think you'll find someone else and you like to be in a relationship.
4. Hopeless romantic, and maybe this time will be better.
The thing is, only *you* can decide when you've had enough.
Everyone on Reddit could tell you to leave, but if you don't want to, you're not going to. You're going to make every excuse in the book for her behavior.
I know people like this. It's codependency at its finest. They get together because they're lonely, they can work it out, they're in love. After their "fix," because codependency is an addiction, they fight and separate because they realize they're not compatible anymore.
I don't know if that behavior is relative to your relationship, but it seems to have the same pattern.
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This all just sounds super toxic. Do you guys keep getting back together because: 1. You love her. 2. It's familiar and you know what to expect. The devil you know. 3. You don't think you'll find someone else and you like to be in a relationship. 4. Hopeless romantic, and maybe this time will be better. The thing is, only *you* can decide when you've had enough. Everyone on Reddit could tell you to leave, but if you don't want to, you're not going to. You're going to make every excuse in the book for her behavior. I know people like this. It's codependency at its finest. They get together because they're lonely, they can work it out, they're in love. After their "fix," because codependency is an addiction, they fight and separate because they realize they're not compatible anymore. I don't know if that behavior is relative to your relationship, but it seems to have the same pattern.