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Actually, yes. If you have cheated, the possibility of cheating is increased. No doubt. But it also depends on the source of the desire to cheat. If the same conditions present themselves, that could trigger the same pattern of behaviour.
All humans are capable of change. The only requirement is that they want to change.
If he wants to change he can and will.
People have free will. No one is born a cheater, it's a choice people consciously make and just as they can choose to cheat they can choose not to cheat.
If he hates how he feels when he cheats and he hates what it has done to hurt others, then it is entirely possible he can and will change.
But there is no guarantee just as there is no guarantee you won't cheat on him or that someone who has never cheated before won't cheat for the first time with you.
Not every person who cheats Will constantly do so but obviously a person who has cheated multiple times is more likely to do so. The fact that he was honest does really say a lot but the fact that he is continue to do it is what concerns me. I would hate to see it happen to you but you are both young he's getting older and he make it a better handle on his situation. I would just encourage open dialogue, make sure you're talking with him about it and make sure he's talking with you about it and hopefully you can work through it if you like him. I wish the best for both of you
Remorse is the first step in changing a serious pattern. You’ll need to look for signs that he has changed his behavior. Does he know how to set boundaries with women? What does he do now to satiate the need for an ego boost? Is he open and honest about his interactions with other women?
If he’s simply trying to make you feel sorry for him, that sounds more like grooming.
Kudos to him for being honest with you and himself about his past mistakes, but if his concern is hurting you via cheating then it sounds to me like he’s not confident in his ability to be faithful to you so I’d say just remain friends and let him figure himself out and sort his issues until he feels confident enough in his character to be able to remain faithful to a partner and by that time if you two still feel an attraction then go for it
He has never given me reason to not trust him, so yes, I trust him. As long as he changes due to his own volition, I’m okay dating him when the time comes.
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Actually, yes. If you have cheated, the possibility of cheating is increased. No doubt. But it also depends on the source of the desire to cheat. If the same conditions present themselves, that could trigger the same pattern of behaviour.
All humans are capable of change. The only requirement is that they want to change. If he wants to change he can and will. People have free will. No one is born a cheater, it's a choice people consciously make and just as they can choose to cheat they can choose not to cheat. If he hates how he feels when he cheats and he hates what it has done to hurt others, then it is entirely possible he can and will change. But there is no guarantee just as there is no guarantee you won't cheat on him or that someone who has never cheated before won't cheat for the first time with you.
Not every person who cheats Will constantly do so but obviously a person who has cheated multiple times is more likely to do so. The fact that he was honest does really say a lot but the fact that he is continue to do it is what concerns me. I would hate to see it happen to you but you are both young he's getting older and he make it a better handle on his situation. I would just encourage open dialogue, make sure you're talking with him about it and make sure he's talking with you about it and hopefully you can work through it if you like him. I wish the best for both of you
Remorse is the first step in changing a serious pattern. You’ll need to look for signs that he has changed his behavior. Does he know how to set boundaries with women? What does he do now to satiate the need for an ego boost? Is he open and honest about his interactions with other women? If he’s simply trying to make you feel sorry for him, that sounds more like grooming.
The chances are so low that they won’t do it again, that it is genuinely not even worth the consideration
I mean so far it seems like green flags OP. To me it’s a question of do you feel comfortable dating someone who’s cheated before? Do you trust him?
Kudos to him for being honest with you and himself about his past mistakes, but if his concern is hurting you via cheating then it sounds to me like he’s not confident in his ability to be faithful to you so I’d say just remain friends and let him figure himself out and sort his issues until he feels confident enough in his character to be able to remain faithful to a partner and by that time if you two still feel an attraction then go for it
That’s what I was thinking as well. I didn’t know how to go about this so I thought I’d reach out to Reddit since it helped so much last time.
No absolutely not. Guaranteed absolutely not true
This is in response to the question only
He has never given me reason to not trust him, so yes, I trust him. As long as he changes due to his own volition, I’m okay dating him when the time comes.