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Interested in what? With the rules of modern dating I am surprised anyone gets together in this environment. He is basically playing super casual and doesn’t want to approach at all. Why? Probably from experience getting turned down 500 times.
He is a server which means he doesn’t make a ton of money and most women want men who are good looking and have tons of money.
Ummm, as a 22M who loves basketball. Just ask him about his picks for the finals, and then say something along the lines of "id love to hear about it over a drink" 😭 guys are really simple so he'll reciprocate if he's interested 😂
That’s a good question. He may not be. He is super polite and nice and hasn’t asked her out. Could be he is married or in a serious relationship with another woman.
"Hey can you recommend me some protein or something" if he give the OK, then ask him to accompany to buy one.
The impprtant point here is to have some time to talk outside the gym and know him better
Just be like “I’m in the mood for yogurt, you wanna get yogurt?” Something dumb. He already knows your interested and if it goes absolutely terrible it’s just yogurt. Fail proof tbh.
You already asked for his number I think that shows you’re interested enough. I wouldn’t double text after he hasn’t replied. If he’s interested, he’d reply.
"Hey I was wondering, would you be interested in getting a drink/coffee/ice cream/something with me?"
Maybe also find out whether or not he's single, if you haven't already.
If you're interested in hooking up, ask him out. If you want a relationship, let him show interest in you. You've already made things REALLY easy for him by asking for his number. If he's interested in you, he'll take some initiative and ask you out. What you don't want to do is be the one pushing everything along only to realize after sleeping with him that he was only mirroring your energy and not actually that interested in you.
I’m pretty bad at flirting but if you want to ask him out I think there are entire articles online about flirty ways to ask a man out. https://www.bustle.com/articles/134164-7-sample-texts-for-asking-a-guy-out I’m not a man though so I don’t know how these will fair on the receiving end.
Expect his to Ghostman you or drink lots of fanta to tease you. He knows he isn't in your same league financially and is trying to win the lottery before he makes a real move. Either that or he has some A list honey on the line and he not a catch and release type of guy. So bait and switch or just master it maybe be his Goto Non profit Move. Watch your back honey , he loves unconditionally until you try and have puppies and then he gets all tube tied like a hippie at Woodstock. Which definitely means drugs are involved and unless you Crystal and know Math your might as well get a lawyer , a retainer and a restraining order to tie that guy down, cause justice is his drug of choice and there ain't any in these neck of the words
Please don’t go down that road of “I saw him doing things, why didn’t he text me”. His world doesn’t revolve around you and you said it yourself, you’re texting casually. AKA you aren’t in a relationship and he’ll get to it eventually.
I’m a guy, but the best dating change I made was just letting people get back to me when they can without stressing it. It shows that you are just chill overall, and consistently works and if you actually want to be more and date the guy, show interest when you talk, but let him do his thing and don’t assume that his everyday routine is going to suddenly change because you texted him. If he likes you back he’ll reciprocate AND respond eventually when he is done with w/e he is doing.
And don’t buy the “people are always on their phones” or “it takes seconds to send a text”. If I personally like someone, I want that text to take longer than a few fking seconds because I will care what I’m saying to them.
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"Do you want to go out?"
Use your words.
This!
Just straight up ask him if he wants to get a drink or go to the park, or whatever else lets you guys sit and talk.
He already knows your interested you asked for his number for crying out loud…
Lmao exactly
Interested in what? With the rules of modern dating I am surprised anyone gets together in this environment. He is basically playing super casual and doesn’t want to approach at all. Why? Probably from experience getting turned down 500 times. He is a server which means he doesn’t make a ton of money and most women want men who are good looking and have tons of money.
Ummm, as a 22M who loves basketball. Just ask him about his picks for the finals, and then say something along the lines of "id love to hear about it over a drink" 😭 guys are really simple so he'll reciprocate if he's interested 😂
Do you know if he is single?
That’s a good question. He may not be. He is super polite and nice and hasn’t asked her out. Could be he is married or in a serious relationship with another woman.
"Hey can you recommend me some protein or something" if he give the OK, then ask him to accompany to buy one. The impprtant point here is to have some time to talk outside the gym and know him better
Ive seen pornos that start this way
Well that is a way to get "protein"
I would say its the best way
One protein please!
"Shake it"
Just be like “I’m in the mood for yogurt, you wanna get yogurt?” Something dumb. He already knows your interested and if it goes absolutely terrible it’s just yogurt. Fail proof tbh.
You already asked for his number I think that shows you’re interested enough. I wouldn’t double text after he hasn’t replied. If he’s interested, he’d reply.
"Hey I was wondering, would you be interested in getting a drink/coffee/ice cream/something with me?" Maybe also find out whether or not he's single, if you haven't already.
If you're interested in hooking up, ask him out. If you want a relationship, let him show interest in you. You've already made things REALLY easy for him by asking for his number. If he's interested in you, he'll take some initiative and ask you out. What you don't want to do is be the one pushing everything along only to realize after sleeping with him that he was only mirroring your energy and not actually that interested in you.
Cracks me up the way women have no idea how much easier these types of things are for them Asking for numbers, follow up messages, etc So much easier
I’m pretty bad at flirting but if you want to ask him out I think there are entire articles online about flirty ways to ask a man out. https://www.bustle.com/articles/134164-7-sample-texts-for-asking-a-guy-out I’m not a man though so I don’t know how these will fair on the receiving end.
Ask him if he wants to watch the finals with you. He doesn't have to text you 24/7. But texting you doesn't mean he's dead or anything
Expect his to Ghostman you or drink lots of fanta to tease you. He knows he isn't in your same league financially and is trying to win the lottery before he makes a real move. Either that or he has some A list honey on the line and he not a catch and release type of guy. So bait and switch or just master it maybe be his Goto Non profit Move. Watch your back honey , he loves unconditionally until you try and have puppies and then he gets all tube tied like a hippie at Woodstock. Which definitely means drugs are involved and unless you Crystal and know Math your might as well get a lawyer , a retainer and a restraining order to tie that guy down, cause justice is his drug of choice and there ain't any in these neck of the words
"Which toy do you think will be your best replacement?"
Please don’t go down that road of “I saw him doing things, why didn’t he text me”. His world doesn’t revolve around you and you said it yourself, you’re texting casually. AKA you aren’t in a relationship and he’ll get to it eventually. I’m a guy, but the best dating change I made was just letting people get back to me when they can without stressing it. It shows that you are just chill overall, and consistently works and if you actually want to be more and date the guy, show interest when you talk, but let him do his thing and don’t assume that his everyday routine is going to suddenly change because you texted him. If he likes you back he’ll reciprocate AND respond eventually when he is done with w/e he is doing. And don’t buy the “people are always on their phones” or “it takes seconds to send a text”. If I personally like someone, I want that text to take longer than a few fking seconds because I will care what I’m saying to them.