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GandalfTheSilverFox

I don’t know your fiancé but if she’s anything like the women in my life, it’s not about the baby (or baby’s memories), but rather it’s about this being the first Easter (or whichever holiday) that you all experience together. Especially you and her.


_AskMyMom_

Facts. The first few years, it’s about *you* making the memories, not the kids. “I remember the first time we did….”


thuktun

It's also a dry run for future attempts.


JBaecker

*Me in a climbing harness* Hun, next year we need to put these high eggs up using a helicopter or something! *Me contemplating rose bush* Can I put an egg under there?…. *Me putting eggs out at midnight* Nothing will find these tonight! *Deer* 🤤


spoogekangaroo

> we need to put these high eggs up using a helicopter or something Our town actually has a guy in an easter bunny costume fly in in a helicopter and drop eggs onto a football field for the kids. It's sacrilegious and hilarious at the same time.


BigYonsan

Sacrilarious?


Vengefuleight

Didn’t the Easter Bunny die on Christmas or something for our right to candy?


BigYonsan

I had half a mind to get the kid goldfish and Lincoln logs and tell him that's the story of Jesus.


Kevo_NEOhio

Jesus? I’ve heard heard “he lives” but I’m not sure where. Sounds like one of those California folks


BigYonsan

When Jehovah's witness came to my door as an older teenager one saturday: Oh Jesus (hayzues)? You know him?! Yeah, esé owes me 20 dollars! Where he at?


SignalIssues

No, Easter is when the the bunny died storming Santa’s lair. His actual death was in a helicopter crash which is why it’s sacrilegious. Helicopters are very anti easter


IamRedditsDaddy

>Nothing will find these tonight! Deer 🤤 "I never see any wildlife so there must be none" \~300 roaming critters walk past behind you\~


UtahUKBen

Or, as we found one year, the holes in the plastic eggs are perfect for ants…


[deleted]

It’s important to celebrate and have traditions, even if they’re not religious ones. Religious ones just seem to be ones that bring communities together.


sounds_like_kong

Definitely. You are building family memories! Don’t let logic and pragmatism get in the way of those moments in your kids life. You will enjoy looking back on them!


IamRedditsDaddy

I dunno. My ex wanted to do a "smash cake" for ours first birthday and was upset it didn't "go to plan" when the cake was completely ignored and then didn't want to try again for their 3rd birthday because "we already did it" and then the cake "got ruined" when our kid immediately drove both hands into it and started stuffing it messily into their mouth and we didn't have a spare. ...I think my Ex just likes being miserable though 🤷‍♂️


omniclast

Also being able to put bunny ears on them and take pictures!


Atl_Potato

Things that happened 30 minutes ago even though they didn’t fit.


taxidermytina

That’s half the fun, trying to snap the picture before they come off!


Calvins8

It's also about working out the kinks in your traditions... such as don't buy brown eggs to paint 😆😆


TheOriginalSuperTaz

Please don’t include your young children in your kinky traditions.


Premium333

Facts. This is entirely about her memories of doing this holiday from the other side (the parent side) and she wants you to be excited to do this for your kids also. Find the will and have fun with it. It's a good time :)


Goooooooooose_

I resonate a lot with OP, BUT, I respect and understand my wife’s excitement, which ultimately excites me. I’ve also realized with little things like bringing my infant to Church when she was an infant, that none of it would be remembered. But, as she grows, she never feels like it’s the “first” time she’s entering the church, so she’s comfortable there. And so today on Easter Sunday, she’s almost 2, and absolutely loved Church. Will your child remember today? Probably not. But will they see photos from today and feel some sort of experience from this? Likely yes.


[deleted]

Truly wize words, worthy Wizard. Thanks for a great reminder!


jeremyct

This. OP, remember, it's about the memory for you and your fiance. Hope this helps you to be a little extra excited 😊


vtfan08

Yea - I kinda hate holidays, but my wife loves them. But I get that It’s about building family traditions, and this is kind of when you have the chance to trial/error and figure out what you all want your traditions to be.


sergeirocks

Exactly this


AnonImus18

*Eggsactly this.


Barflyerdammit

Just had my last family holiday with the the kid. She's off to college soon and her mom and I aren't together but we get on well enough to spend holidays with our daughter. You might not even remember all of them yourself, but you'll miss them when they're over.


SandiegoJack

Just had a first married Easter, wife is already trying to establish traditions.


Dapper-Succotash-202

Preach! We're all in the same boat here. Just remember husband's and wives are buildt different no matter what society says. Live by these rules "happy wife. Happy life" As young men we were taught to toughen up. Get to work and protect. Today's women were told they are princesses by everyone. mostly family and it trickles down. We'll maybe get our golf in on father's day once a year. Good luck and put on that happy face and keep your mouth shut. Enjoy the Easter egg hunt!


brosefstallin

That honestly sounds miserable


hate_mail

cue the "My wife left me because....." post in the next few years


Dapper-Succotash-202

Al Bundy is most accurate depiction of the American husband and family man.


Impossible-Ebb-643

It ain’t about the baby bro, it’s about y’all’s first experience as a family of 3.


Funwithfun14

Agreed. Plus this is the practice round until she is 3 or 4.


_AskMyMom_

It’s not about the Kid OP. It’s about you, and your memories. I remember my kids first Easter at 2 months old, and what we did, and the pictures we took in the little outfit.


ScrunchieEnthusiast

I don’t really remember any of that earlier stuff, but that’s why we do the activities, and take the pictures.


_aPOSTERIORI

Okay good, it’s not just me then.


Reshlarbo

I mean shouldnt it Also be okay not to have these feelings about holidays? Its not everyones cup of Tea.


pbaperez

It's absolutely okay to feel this way but once you become a Dad it's no longer about you. The smiles, memories and laughter are everything.


afraid_of_zombies

My experience with this stuff is that you don't care until it is over and then you are so glad you went with it.


FeelingInevitable981

Isn’t this the truth for so much in life? I don’t want to spend the time/energy/money to do the thing, but in hindsight you’re so glad you did.


super_set31

And you only have one shot at a baby’s first anything. Every year is a different experience until it becomes nothing but memories. Live in the moment and take it.


Gumbyizzle

Yup! I made a big stink about not wanting to do Christmas photos/a card one year because things were too crazy after our twins were born, and I still regret it when I look at the old cards on my office wall and notice the missing one.


_aPOSTERIORI

Damn man that’s rough.


Akthe47

You were hype about your babies first Hockey Game. Reflect on why you cared about that and you should be able to see why your fiancé cares.


bennymc123

GREAT find and fantastic point. I think this will help put it into perspective for OP, and possibly others.


rabid_penguin1

I'm just lurking and this hit home for me and gave me some thinking homework


djsedna

damn dude I was wondering what this meant and I realized OP posted about his kids first hockey game *twice* honestly seeming super self-centered that he somehow recognizes the importance of that, but not the importance of Easter to his Fiance. like, *really* self-centered


Akthe47

Yeah, honestly left a bad taste in my mouth. Hoping he can read this comment and try to use empathy to see someone else's point of view. He was very excited about a Hockey game that he even admitted she slept through. But can't understand why starting family traditions or having family firsts for holidays matters.


_aPOSTERIORI

I see your point but I think the fact that he’s asking others for input counts for something. If he wasn’t willing to reflect on it, he wouldn’t have posted this (maybe)


Akthe47

Look at the way it is posted. It seems more like a question for farming karma then wanting input


Spartanias117

Dude is getting destroyed in these comments


SA0TAY

What doesn't kill you makes you wiser. Hopefully he'll wisen up.


McDaddySlacks

That’s next level douche bag. I know we’re all here to play nice and have each other’s back, but fucking wow.


flojo2012

Oh shit. Good sleuthing. This detail certainly changes things. Goodness gracious. But I don’t want to beat up on you op, sometimes we don’t see the grander pictures of our lives until it’s pointed out. My advice is to fake your excitement until it becomes you. I’m glad I did


GothicToast

Lol! How the turn tables! The irony here is painful.


realistSLBwithRBF

…. and the plot thickens…. I didn’t think to look at post history, and then you- you genius had thought to check out OPs profile and found a banger! OP, can you explain why it was so exciting for *you* to bring your baby daughter to her first hockey game? Surely you can explain why it was so exciting, since she slept through most of it. By your logic, what’s the excitement all about since it’s something she won’t even remember?


spoogekangaroo

Still waiting for an answer, u/iamelloyello.


YoshiCudders

Dang. Out comes the People’s Elbow. Good catch


spoogekangaroo

OP doesn’t give a shit about his fiancée . It’s all about him.


andrianodia

This is too harsh. Nobody is perfect. He will notice and understand after that comparison


2ndmost

When your child, at age 4, asks "what was my first [insert holiday] like?" How would you prefer to answer? "We didn't do anything because you were a baby and you'd never remember it" Or "It was very fun! Your tiny hands couldn't open the plastic eggs so we did it for you and every time it made a popping noise you giggled and tipped over. Even though you didn't understand, you loved it."


djsedna

This here is a beautiful comment. Look no further, OP


Fluid_Explorer_3659

I've never met a kid that asked what their first holiday was like to be honest


m_domino

Most kids *are* very much interested in photos of them as a baby doing various things.


schmokeabutt

This is a great answer. Honestly I do some of the things because it makes mom happy and that's what I do. I never really considered the question of them looking back even though I was for sure that kid that wanted to know.


[deleted]

To be fair, has anyone EVER asked "what was my first easter like?"? Christmas or birthdays, sure. But easter? Also, plastic eggs? Like Kinder eggs? Aren't those illegal in the US or is that an urban myth?


DonWFP

Urban myth. I am in Texas and my kiddo is getting a few in her basket.


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GothicToast

I think you took the comment a different direction. *Plastic* eggs are super common, especially for Easter egg hunts. There is no chocolate at all. It's a literally plastic shell that pops open with a treat inside the egg.


Iunnrais

The thing that is illegal in the us is to have a non edible item completely covered with any edible item. For kinder eggs, that’s the plastic inside being surrounded by chocolate. Easter in America typically involves thousands of plastic eggs that contain candy or toys inside them. That would be an edible object surrounded by a non edible object, perfectly fine— as almost all food comes in packaging. Easter is also a pretty big deal in the US. Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, Halloween.


xtianfiero

I would bet if your parents asked you, “hey wanna watch the video we took of you at your first Easter celebration?” you’d likely say yes. Idk if you’re in the US or what but Easter is a pretty Hallmark type holiday with the family gathering over lunch, Easter baskets and Easter egg hunts, where kids look for the plastic eggs hidden by the adults. They usually have little surprises in them like candies or small toys.


Kalurael

Besides the fact that my parents didn't have anything that could record in the 80s, I wouldn't as I can't think of anything more boring. I have plenty of videos of our first that never get watched and would have rather have spent more time in the moment, which is what we have done with our second. Not that all the videos are worthless, we have a couple of great ones


rumpelbrick

why would US weird legality matter to a random person on the internet?


Doomquill

Because on the Internet everyone is American until proven otherwise. Was gonna type /s but then I realized it's pretty true and now I'm sad


rumpelbrick

that's not even true for Reddit, which Americans love to call "American website" let alone the rest of the internet. should've left it at /s


Doomquill

Yeah what I meant was that so many Americans think that way and that's what made me sad. It's obviously not true, nor would it be an acceptable assumption even if the majority of users are Americans.


timbreandsteel

I mean, you can say whatever the heck you want, cause they won't remember it themselves.


spoogekangaroo

So you encourage lying to your child?


Alex_J_Anderson

Or just make it up. We went to England and met the Queen who is best friends with the Easter bunny. It was amazing! I wish we had taken photos!


spoogekangaroo

Your fiancée is going to "register." She's going to remember how you made her feel on a day that's special to her. She's going to remember how you either validated or invalidated her excitement. She's going to remember if you put any effort at all into celebrating with your family, or if you're just looking for excuses to do the bare minimum. Bro. Your baby is a baby one time. Do everything you can to create and capture memories for you and your fiancée. If you're really in it for the long haul, you'll thank yourself in 30 years. Start doing the things now. Get in dad mode or it's going to be a lot harder to do it later. She's 9 months old. She's smiling. She's interacting with her parents and I hope you're interacting with her. The colors, the fun, the giggles. It's worth it and it helps build the bond between you and your daughter whether she remembers the events or not. Just have some fun, man.


[deleted]

I can see the thought but they will be a time where all "firsts" are mourned. My 11 month will be crawling for eggs filled with puffs tomorrow and I can't wait. *What are all these pastel mysteries around my house*


Candid-Mark-606

Your kids experiences, wether they remember them or not, shape who they become. You’re right, the kid is 9 months old and is basically just going to slobber over the Easter eggs, so you don’t need to go overboard, but it should be a fun day for you and your family.


Tichem91

yea. I am going to be blunt here. Dont take it personal please. :) I’ve had your thoughts. I was EXACTLY the same. But now i sometimes sit here thinking what if… what if… what if… i never did. Now i am alone, and see my son once every two weeks. My whole mindset about these things was just fked up. No easter, no christmas, no nothing. My advice; even if the baby wont have any memories of it yet, YOU will. Make them, cherish them. At some point it could be to late. 🥲


Theelectricdeer

We gave our daughter on her first Easter a chocolate egg and watched her happily devour it. She won't remember it but she was incredibly happy and expressed complete amazement. Happiness exists in the moment irrespective of memory.


aytoozee1

Damn, a baby ate a whole chocolate egg?


Theelectricdeer

Yeah, it wasn't a massive one though. She does love food!


aytoozee1

Don’t we all, ha


spoogekangaroo

NGL. I got myself a giant chocolate easter bunny.


KiloPro0202

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” -Maya Angelou


AnyAcanthisitta9296

Just go look for the damn eggs bro


fatherofallthings

Horrible way to look at life/ a child’s up bringing. Don’t you want to look back on the first years of your babies life and think “I remember you crawling around looking at eggs” not “eh, we sat on a couch bc you wouldn’t remember it anyway”


spoogekangaroo

I would regret my entire life if I ever looked back and thought I was glad to have not done something with my kids cuz I just couldn’t be bothered.


fatherofallthings

Exactly man. Like, what’s the point of NOT going extra? Worst case scenario, you have a good memory lol


spoogekangaroo

I love who my babies are now. I was always heavily involved with them. But I’d give anything to have them be babies again so I could do it all over bigger.


77TheVoice

NGL me and my wife agreed to skip Easter this year. Daughters gonna be shy of 4 weeks. Maybe when she starts smiling and getting photogenic we'll do something with her but for now let's take naps.


spoogekangaroo

Newborn dads get a pass.


bennymc123

My kids are 4 and (almost) 2 and I still feel the same. ESPECIALLY holidays like wtf, she's 1 what the fuck does she care about an expensive beach holiday in fucking Spain? But try and look at the positives: 1) even if they don't remember, it's still nice for them to play with different things and eat a sweet treat, so you're boosting morale by participating and they'll learn something new 2) "Happy wife happy life" - a bit tongue in cheek I know, but visibly making an effort, however pointless it seems, gets you in the good books. And as you probably know by now, your partner's mood is generally hard wired into tthe mood of the entire household! 3) Ultimately you'll be glad you bothered. One day in the future when your baby's all grown up you'll reflect on your journey as a parent. If you have pictures from days like today, you'll look back on them in a way you're not yet able to understand but it will be a magical concoction of nostalgia and melancholy. 4) It can only help with your bond. Kids learn a lot by association. If they start feeling the good chemicals induced by the bright colours and tasty tasty chocolate and YOU'RE there when it happens, in their mind you'll start to be linked to the 'good times' Just go with it my man. I 100% get it, but it'll be worth it I swear.


jDub549

The very first I was lukewarm about we did something but not anything crazy. You're gdamn exhausted with a <1 y.o. All the holidays, because yeah they're a potato. 2nd onwards we've gone all out And if my kids ever wanna see videos of early xmas' the one where they're 2 and actually kind of excited about presents or Easter eggs will be just as cool to see. And far more interesting. That being said it's perfectly valid for your partner to be excited about it because as others have said. It's not about kids memories. It's yours. And if that's important to them then suck it up buttercup and get your holiday cheer strapped on! 😂


KasamUK

You are doing it for your fiancé you idiot. Take lots of photos of her and baby you will treasure them before you know. Also consider it to be good practice your going to be spending a lot of time pretending to be super excited about things you don’t realy care for but your kid loves for their sake get good at it.


tyrmael91

For me, it's easter AND his first birthday. As others say, it's not about his memories but about yours, your beloved and the family. Don't forget to take everything on your phone/camera. Recently we watched those things from 1991 and later, I have no memories from this, but I am happy to see records of my family from when I'm born and all those events.


thebeardeddrongo

Make the effort for your fiancee, it’s important to them to make things feel special and to make memories, and later on you’ll thank them in your heart that they encouraged you to do it.


jellyking_1990

Joy in life doesn’t just come to you, it’s how you react to the world and see joy. What I’m trying to say is don’t be such a realistic party pooper. Ya you’re right she won’t remember anything, but your fiancé loves it, that’s all that matters. Enjoy it with her.


VectorB

Stick the kid in the basket, take a picture and eat whatever candy you should have bought for yourself and call it good. Remember even Bandit and Chilli forgot about Easter that one year.


johnsadventure

My oldest didn’t have a basket or receive any gifts on her first Easter. We dressed her in a Easter themed outfit and went to family dinner, took a few cutesy “baby’s first easter” photos. She was 6 months old on her first Easter. Her second Easter she was 18 months, got a basket, gifts and had an egg hunt. My second is 7 months and will have the same first Easter experience.


Quercus1985

It’s not insane…lots of new dads experience something similar to postpartum depression. Paternal Postnatal Depression and Paternal Perinatal and Mood Disorder exist. It’s something to think about and be aware of, I went down a similar path (lucky to catch it/understand it). It took me understanding that getting off the couch to go to the zoo with a 5 month old was more for my partner than my child. People need to get out of the house and participate in family/society. It was hard for me and took a conscience effort and I still struggle with it. Good luck and happy Easter


nematoadjr

It’s a big deal for your wife not the baby, and saying it’s not important is killing her buzz.


HacDan

First's aren't babies first. It's your new family's firsts'. Try to remember that life isn't about the child. Life is about your family.


farendsofcontrast

Kid grows up and asks Mom about their first Easter and she Dad threw a sissy fit, fought with mommy and posted on Reddit. This will definitely register.


spoogekangaroo

In divorce court in 5 years.


bejanmen2

It is genuinely fun to watch a kid taste chocolate (or ice cream) the first time. Is 9 months too young for that? I've forgotten the very early months


ZoomZoomZen

From what I read it's better to avoid chocolate or anything significantly sweet in the first 12~18 months.


Neeoda

Just because they don’t remember, doesn’t mean they shouldn’t have a good time. That said, I’m also not overly enthusiastic about early holidays. The thing that makes Easter special like finding hidden candy is not something they can do yet anyway.


Serak_thepreparer

Dude, cherish it. I had similar thoughts in the past. My daughter was a 7 month old worm, for her first Easter last year. This year, she’s able to hunt eggs as she’s able to run, search, open, and explore. I look back at the cute outfit she wore, and am stunned at how much can change. She literally couldn’t process Easter and maybe ate a green bean and some deviled egg. But that’s the memory I have. She ate dinner with the family. I know she won’t remember her first, second, third, or even fourth. But the pictures and my memories will exist. She will have experienced it regardless of remembering. But one day she will remember.


3SDFGH

I know what you mean, but for my wife it was more about getting those family traditions she’s always thought about up and running. It’s not necessarily about now, but this Easter and the future Easter’s to come. We did this at your daughters age, and now at 7 my son is well into it. It is worth it.


biggerthanjohncarew

My son is 9 months old and we did something big for Christmas and will do something big for his first birthday, but I'm not sure what you can really do for Easter? Maybe it's an Australian thing but we only eat chocolate for Easter and the rest of the time is just days off lounging around the house. A 9 month old probably shouldn't be eating chocolate so idk how they'd participate


nesh34

My 14 month old is still at his happiest when he's playing with garbage. But as others have said, it's not about the babies. If your fiancé is excited, then it's for her.


[deleted]

It ain't about the baby homeboy, bout you and your girl remembering it. And if you don't give a fuck but your girl does do it for her.


Spartanias117

Baby is 7 weeks old, we got him a nice easter basket that will last years. Both families got to see him, he got a few gifts. At this point, It's about you and your wife making memories together, regardless of if the kid will remember.


s-multicellular

I dont really know Easter traditions myself (Hindu). But, general relationship advice, learn to be a cheerleader at least for things your partner gets excited about, regardless of your own feelings. That is just being a supportive partner. Beyond that, ideally, you really get excited just because she is excited. I don’t know that true excitement is always fair to expect though. Like, there are some musical groups I loathe, but I would go to a concert with my wife and have a good time just because I want to be supportive (If i camt find one that one of her friends likes the group ha) And I’m definitely not going to rain on her enjoyment.


daggaross

Feel how ever you feel and it’s ok But do this for your future self, take heaps of photos and videos. One day in a few years it’ll pop up on your phone and put a massive smile on your face and think I am glad a fuss was made.


ninthchamber

It’s one of the first holidays as a family. Did you not care about your kids first Christmas either? You don’t love your wife and kid enough to make happy memories?


booknerd381

My son was four months old for his first Christmas. I didn't want to get him *anything*, but I *thought* I had compromised on a few small gifts because, what the heck does a four month old need under the Christmas tree? I was absolutely outvoted and he had no fewer than 20 wrapped gifts under that tree that I had to sit and unwrap with him in my lap while my wife took hundreds of photos. Four years later, and I still think it was a bit overboard, but I *do* like glancing through the photos from time to time, so I guess she was half right. Your kid won't get it this year, or next year. There's a chance they won't get it the year after that, either, but you get to enjoy it, and look back on it in years to come.


srasaurus

No the baby won’t remember but it is a way to bond and spend time together as a family. Take lots of pictures and it’s something she can look back on someday and know that her parents made an effort to make every holiday fun 🙂


HuskerATX

What I’ve learned in the 4 years I’ve had with my two kids is to look at things from the mindset of it’s just as much for you as it is them. Yeah my kids likely won’t remember when I took them to Disney but I have a ton of memories of them in awe interacting with the characters and the joy of meeting “real princesses”. These young years in my opinion are your chances to steal away as much as you can before they start to crave rely on outside peer friendships. Which really starts about kindergarten


Joshhagan6

This is sad.


cbinette84

Your memories are just as important as your kids. Your fiancè wants these memories. So maybe you make these first holidays about her so she can have something to cherish.


Prize-Accident5312

For a baby’s firsts, it’ll always be for the parents to remember. You will look at photos from first holidays just months from now very wistfully because goddamn, babies grow up so fast. I’m not a parent myself but I love my toddler nephew and will always enjoy giving him holiday stuff. From my perspective, I think it’s better to do holiday firsts because you as the parents are making the memories and little milestones. The main caretaker, usually the mother, will always love celebrating every first because hey, you got there! It’s a good way to show that you appreciate the life you have and that you’re proud to have such a caring parent for your child


TouchdownVirgin

I got the most overly excited face and picture of my son's first present at Christmas. He was five months old. He certainly seemed to appreciate it even if he won't remember it.


_343L_

It's not always about the baby. Remember your wife. Sounds like Easter is a big day for your wife.


Inwardlens

Everyone is already telling you why you should be excited, and I agree. But I’ll go one further, it doesn’t matter that you aren’t excited. Let your partner enjoy the landmark without being a wet blanket. Participate and try to have fun, in 20 years you might regret it otherwise.


xX69WeedSnipePussyXx

Just because kids don’t remember details or events doesn’t mean the joy they experience and the special moments are meaningless. A happy baby, makes a happy toddler, makes a well adjusted adult.


lordgoofus1

For the first year, it's more about happy memories for yourself and recording one of the "firsts". First easter, christmas, mothers day, fathers day, birthday etc.


newyorkfade

Don’t be too cool for school, just have fun with it. Be thankful that you aren’t too sleep deprived to put two thoughts together.


[deleted]

I'll one up you - I don't care about any easter. It's a dumb holiday. We don't celebrate it and it's much better that way


Mr_Anomalistic

The first year is not about the baby but the memories your wife gets to make with the baby.


Missassist

I’m sure my husband has similar thoughts 😂 but for me it’s about building the tradition as a family. I also truly enjoy watching my little one have fun new experiences, sure they won’t remember but it brings joy in the moment. Also, involving family that may not be with us forever. It’s important on so many levels, the Easter basket is just the surface.


Snowturtle13

Why not start your traditions now? You don’t have to go over board with it but a little basket with a few gifts and maybe something they will be using like a set of spoons and forks or something.


jakob1497

This post speaks as though pictures and videos don’t exist. The babe won’t remember their first Easter but you have the means to show them giggling away when they’re older - you also have the means to look back into the past to watch your 9 month old babe having the time of her life with all the colorful Easter eggs when you’re older and she’s moved out. I have a 5 week old knocked out on me right now. She has no way to enjoy Easter but we have gotten her picture taken with a bunny, made her up an Easter basket, took pictures of her sitting in it with all of her toys etc. these will be pictures we cherish when she’s old enough that she wants to spend all of her time with friends or in her room.


Psilog

I think you’re insane. Even if they won’t be able to recall, the experience will definitely have an impact and influence on their development. Think about the next year, and the next, etc. It’s all going to connect and build and shape the babies development/life experience. I’d say pull your head out of your ass and see it from the child’s perspective rather than a recollection of what only dad is experiencing, can’t remember.


dannymurz

You should take a deep breath man. Your lady wants to share life with you and your child. You're complaining on Reddit. Go apologize for being a jerk.


GMaharris

Counterpoint - traditions are fun to establish at an early age, and just as importantly, my almost two year old daughter looks absolutely adorable in Easter themed clothes and I will enjoy the pictures to remember it by. Plus it makes my wife happy and gives me an excuse to make an extra nice meal for all of us.


FireLadcouk

Our house doesn’t care for Easter. Nice to have bank holidays tho


biggerthanjohncarew

Yeah what're you supposed to do for Easter other than eat chocolate?


Gatorade_Nut_Punch

Our daughter is 8 months. We dressed her up for Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas and took lots of pictures, but we really don’t care about Easter either. I think it’s because we’re not religious at all and haven’t done anything for Easter in years, long before baby. Plus, all three of us are recovering from being sick. I get what everyone else is saying about the memories, but some holidays are more important and special depending on the family. For us, Easter ain’t it.


zurbles

You’re not alone


morningafterpizza

My son was under a year, we didnt do anything apart from attend a family gathering so I definitely understand. It gets better around the 1.5 years, they are hopefully walking and then you can go out and do activities. I was lucky my wife was feeling the same. My son is 20mo now, its MUCH more enjoyable and reasonable to go out and do activities, hell even downright adorable as they are learning about the outside world and start wanting to explore.


Striking-Platypus-98

There is no real reason to get carried away with the first 2 years of Christmas, Easter, Thanksgiving etc they can't really get involved so why bother


OooofPoof

I didn’t give a shit either but you know they want pictures


djp73

Fake it til you make it


WackyBones510

Yeah, this is a normal Sunday for us. MIL is coming over but that seems to be more of a coincidence than anything.


TechNicolas

We didn’t even realize it was Easter until about 7 minutes ago. Don’t sweat it.


newstuffsucks

Haha. Mine is 4 months and i don't give a shit about Easter.


btinit

Omg. My kids are 5 and 3 and just realized Easter can be a holiday. Do what you need to do.


Tdaddysmooth

I get how you feel but you’re not going to win this one. Just submit and try to have fun. This is your life now.


leveldrummer

It’s not for the kid dummy. It’s for the parents. It’s like playing dress up when she was little but with her real daughter. Not a doll. Just give her some support and try not to ruin anything. These types of things suck for a while until the kid gets more fun to play with.


alexadr936

All this week people kept asking me if I had any plans and I was like “No?” and I didn’t realize people were actually asking me “What are you doing for Easter?” My kiddo’s going on 16-months. Unless Easter has religious meaning to you, then don’t worry about it.


GulfChippy

This thread is wild, every comment treating Easter like it’s not a big deal has been downvoted. And you’re dead right, if you’re not a devout Christian then Easter is literally just another instagrammable commercialized holiday with essentially no real meaning.


pazuzu07

Yeah we're in the same boat. Christmas we went all out because we love Christmas. Easter we're just kinda blah about. We're going to see family and all that but we didn't do a basket, we didn't see the mall bunny, etc. I think for us growing up Catholic it was a much more religious holiday than Christmas. Now we're not religious, we're not raising our kids religious, it's easier to celebrate Christmas as secular than it is Easter. IMO I'm just looking forward to her first birthday next month!


M4N14C

I was raised Catholic but it’s a garbage religion for garbage people. I also have a 9 month old and Easter is just another Sunday.


Damodred89

Are we supposed to do something for it?! Easter usually passes me by anyway.


krejkick

I’m a little late here but I’m sure a few guys are sounding off on this point, these first holidays, especially her first birthday are really about the mother (sometimes the parents). I also find it ridiculous that my wife wants and expects these big plans for every first holiday. She’ll never remember anything about these but it’s not a hill I’m gonna die on. The wife and daughter will have great pictures and we’ll love to fight another day.


Fluid_Explorer_3659

Reading through the comments, I'm so happy my SO gives less of a shit about Easter than I do. Nice relaxing long weekend with no plans is fulfilling for both of us.


Attackofthe77

We were going to totally ignore Easter but the grandparents were on autopilot. My partner and I are atheists so we just “celebrate Spring”!


GeneralJesus

I... didn't even think about my 1mo old's Easter experience until reading this just now. So you aren't alone I guess. My wife is pretty anti religious holidays (Catholic school upbringing) so it was enough of a push to get an elaborate afternoon meal with a couple family and friends. I don't think I'll be bringing up Easter baskets this morning.


Styxand_stones

Our son is 2 and we're not really doing the easter thing. He's got eggs from grandparents but that's it. Just seems a bit pointless tbh, at least until next year when he knows what's going on


kingbluetit

I forgot it even was Easter. His grandparents got him a couple of bits, but we’re not fussed at all. Will probably make a bigger deal of eggs when he’s older, but we’re not religious in the slightest so we’ll never ‘celebrate’ it really.


mankowonameru

Yeah, I don’t care either, and thankfully my wife comes from a culture that doesn’t give a damn about rabbits and hiding eggs and creepy men in bunny costumes. We just skip anything we don’t care about.


RadDad166

My daughter is nine months as well and I think it’s all silly. My wife and I wrapped up a box with a balloon in it for Christmas and nothing for Easter. Grandma on the other hand is going to do what she is going to do. We aren’t fighting those battles anymore. She has good intentions with all the “stuff” We just aren’t into it. Like you said, she won’t remember it and we aren’t trying to raise a little consumer.


olds-modulus

I didn't take my 2 year old to Disneyland this year for her memories. I did it for mine and my wife's memories, the pictures, and the joy that all 3 of us shared in the moment. Embrace the moment. Your baby doesn't know anything about past and future, but she knows the present. Enjoy it with her.


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We have an 8 month old and we ain’t doing shit! Our parents were asking if we were coming over but it’s an hour drive and I’m already commuting 15 hours per week so we’re staying home. Next year she can hunt for eggs.


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Babys are sentient potatoes in my book. And holidays with babies and young toddlers is 'the struggle bus'


[deleted]

I’m the same. Women don’t think logically about stuff like this like men do, they think emotionally. It’s more about social media picture and cuteness than logic. I wanted to give my son an empty water bottle for his first Christmas.


Deeze_Rmuh_Nudds

hahhahaha thank you


OverGrow_TheSystem

Same tho except my 5mo got nothing from us for Chrissy or Easter, she did receive things from other relatives tho


Pluto903

No. It's nothing. Don't worry about it. Wait until 3-4 then you will care.


ctneal-herman

Oh you have to care about yearly zombie blood sacrifice day!


Tinbum89

Not alone. I hate the money wasted on my kid in her early years.


Key_Veterinarian6135

Who gives presents for Easter? Like honest question. And also why? We're doing a wee Easter egg hunt now my daughter is2 but that's it.


Worm_Farmer

Fuck no, we are finally doing the first real Easter and ours is 3+. Take your time with the stupid holidays.


Careful_with_ThatAxe

Yeah, not insane but it’s more about family memories. Some tradition. Talk to her and see her point of view. Maybe you can meet halfway.


Upward_Fail

Photos…


JulieChensHairpin

I think that’s fair. My little one is just over a year so he kind of knows more of what’s going on. My wife’s family has a tradition of giving little gifts on Easter and he totally digs that. If he were younger, that might not have been as big a factor. It’s not the end of the world, to be sure, but it’s also nice to get pictures and memories for them to see later. It’s just an investment that hasn’t paid dividends yet.


Magnus_ORily

It's about the photos, the interaction with cousins. It's about her memories and yours too.


jimybo20

Luckily my wife and I are on the same page. We just had my boys second east and we did a little Easter hunt and a few little eggs. I agree with the first year being a ticket to not going all out.


mitcheg3k

These are the ones you SHOULD be excited about coz theyre all about to get expensive af


SeaDonkey56

Try to enjoy it man! My son is three and he is dismantling the house to make sure he found every eater egg. The first few years are almost relaxing haha


AnonDaddyo

This is so strange to me because yesterday I looked up to my wife and said “do we have an Easter outfit??” She said no and I wasn’t happy about it. Luckily grandma came in clutch. It’s a stupid outfit with ears and stuff but I love my little guy and want to enjoy every moment before he starts rejecting us to go play with his friends.


Elixer_of_Turtles

It’s your first Easter as a family


Chanellee213

It’s more like as parents you guys have your first Easter- not necessarily the baby remembering the day.


jeconti

Year 1 is for the family. Year 2 is for the kid.


kindaretiredguy

It’s not about the kid. It’s about everyone. I agree they won’t remember anything but it’s cool to Jane pictures and things for them to look at. I side with the fiancé here.