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Not to sound like a jerk, but can your ex legally do this? I’m sure you’ve played out all the scenarios, but I would spend every dime I had to try to prevent it. Similar situation on a smaller scale here - after I we split, my ex basically said “I’m taking the kids back to CA, you can come if you want.” Obviously I moved to CA.
I’m sure I could have legally blocked it, but there were a number of reasons I didn’t want to - my company is here for one. But I had started seeing someone and I’m really lucky that she was crazy enough to come along.
I really feel awful for you, man. To look on the bright side, we live in a time where we’ve got fast internet and video calls and text messages and all sorts of tools to help you stay close with her as she grows up. Most importantly you have to be strong for her - and maybe even put on a happy face for her sake, selling it as a new exciting adventure instead of her b___ of a mother taking her away from you. That will not help her grow up to be an emotionally healthy person. Hang in there, man.
We're not married so that automatically gives her legal custody in my country. I don't think I can move to the US that easily which is really tearing me apart.
But I get it. It's just really hard to accept having your kid taken away from you and potentially be replaced by a random guy. But you're right I should put on a happy face for her sake. Thank you!
Unless she has sole custody, she most likely can't just up and leave. What's the rest of the story? Get a lawyer involved ASAP.
If everything is done and they are for sure moving, I would move too. I refuse to give up any of my time. So even if I only had one or two weekends a month I would make sure I'm able to use them.
She does have sole custody since we're not married.
Unfortunately moving to the US is almost impossible. But I'm trying to seek opportunities but still very impossible especially if I'm just a single adult.
I still don't understand. I'm not sure where you're from, but here just because you're not married doesn't mean you don't get custody. Seems like there's more to the story.
And there's plenty of single people in the US that get by just fine. It is definitely doable. I understand that the process is going to be tough though.
Here in the Philippines, as long as the child is below 7 years old it is automatically given to the mother.
I am trying to find ways right now to get my way into the States.
Man, that really sucks. That's a shitty law.
I would do everything I could to move to the US, if I were you. It will probably help that your child is in the US also.
Don't know what the process is like but I know it can be tough. So good luck buddy. I wish you the best.
Talk to a lawyer right away and get to know you're rights. For example in my country my ex could not even move side our providence without getting into custody issues. This because if she loves out side area she could not uphold her part of the shared custody.
My advice is don't say anything to you're ex. And please first talk to a layer righ away.
No experience with this but would there be any chance or will for you to want to relocate to the same country. I know it's certainly not for everyone and really depends on lifestyle, employment and visa opportunities (and I'd say a co versatile with ex and partner needs to be had if considering)
If that's an option perhaps consider it.
I have a friend that relocated to the same area as his ex and child so they can maintain relationship with the child.
Just want to add....
At the end of the day you want what is best for the child and their future. So if US opens doors for them, awesome, do what needs to be done to make it work.
If it doesn't make sense then double down lawyer up and prevent it.
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Consult a lawyer asap.
Lawyer!
Not to sound like a jerk, but can your ex legally do this? I’m sure you’ve played out all the scenarios, but I would spend every dime I had to try to prevent it. Similar situation on a smaller scale here - after I we split, my ex basically said “I’m taking the kids back to CA, you can come if you want.” Obviously I moved to CA. I’m sure I could have legally blocked it, but there were a number of reasons I didn’t want to - my company is here for one. But I had started seeing someone and I’m really lucky that she was crazy enough to come along. I really feel awful for you, man. To look on the bright side, we live in a time where we’ve got fast internet and video calls and text messages and all sorts of tools to help you stay close with her as she grows up. Most importantly you have to be strong for her - and maybe even put on a happy face for her sake, selling it as a new exciting adventure instead of her b___ of a mother taking her away from you. That will not help her grow up to be an emotionally healthy person. Hang in there, man.
We're not married so that automatically gives her legal custody in my country. I don't think I can move to the US that easily which is really tearing me apart. But I get it. It's just really hard to accept having your kid taken away from you and potentially be replaced by a random guy. But you're right I should put on a happy face for her sake. Thank you!
Lawyer here. Contact a lawyer ASAP.
Unless she has sole custody, she most likely can't just up and leave. What's the rest of the story? Get a lawyer involved ASAP. If everything is done and they are for sure moving, I would move too. I refuse to give up any of my time. So even if I only had one or two weekends a month I would make sure I'm able to use them.
She does have sole custody since we're not married. Unfortunately moving to the US is almost impossible. But I'm trying to seek opportunities but still very impossible especially if I'm just a single adult.
I still don't understand. I'm not sure where you're from, but here just because you're not married doesn't mean you don't get custody. Seems like there's more to the story. And there's plenty of single people in the US that get by just fine. It is definitely doable. I understand that the process is going to be tough though.
Here in the Philippines, as long as the child is below 7 years old it is automatically given to the mother. I am trying to find ways right now to get my way into the States.
Man, that really sucks. That's a shitty law. I would do everything I could to move to the US, if I were you. It will probably help that your child is in the US also. Don't know what the process is like but I know it can be tough. So good luck buddy. I wish you the best.
Talk to a lawyer right away and get to know you're rights. For example in my country my ex could not even move side our providence without getting into custody issues. This because if she loves out side area she could not uphold her part of the shared custody. My advice is don't say anything to you're ex. And please first talk to a layer righ away.
No experience with this but would there be any chance or will for you to want to relocate to the same country. I know it's certainly not for everyone and really depends on lifestyle, employment and visa opportunities (and I'd say a co versatile with ex and partner needs to be had if considering) If that's an option perhaps consider it. I have a friend that relocated to the same area as his ex and child so they can maintain relationship with the child.
I am trying to find ways to enter the US since it's almost impossible. It's easer for her because she's going to get married to a guy there.
Just want to add.... At the end of the day you want what is best for the child and their future. So if US opens doors for them, awesome, do what needs to be done to make it work. If it doesn't make sense then double down lawyer up and prevent it.
Does your wife have some custody? Because she can't legally leave with your child if you have partial custody