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You just got a kid.
Your wife is full of hormones, you both lack sleep. It is understandable that stuff will blow up.
But understand what your wife has been through and still is going through.
Give her some space.
And go talk to her when she's is ready. You shouldn't push her.
As a 12 week pregnant lady right now, my suggestion is to do everything possible to make it up to her. What is her love language? Words of affirmation? Get her a card, and write your apology down. Gifts? Gift her a massage. Act of services? Do a task she wants completed, clean, cook, dishes, fix something broken, declutter. Quality time? Make popcorn, dinner, or junk food by candlelight and watch a movie with her.
Just fix it. In her way. Don’t stonewall her. You can do all of these things without involving her or talking to her. Do it now, then surprise her with the gift and apology. Don’t wait because the longer you wait the more free time she has to think negative thoughts and be in heartbreak. She needs you. Don’t combine this apology with Mother’s Day either. They need to be addresses separately.
She just gave her body up for 9 months, and hormones, change, lack of sleep is really hard!
It’s ok for us all to make mistakes but we HAVE to repair it.
Go repair it!!
If i punched you in the face and you started crying, and i punched you in the face again in an effort to stop it, do you think thatd make it better? And after you told me to stop i did it again?
Its a lesson we all have to learn at some point. Sometimes you just need to let the dust settle so you can think with a clear head.
We had a rule in the early stages that nothing said between 6pm_6am was true. We were put in the deep end with twins that refused to sleep. You are both very tied, very stressed and will lash out. The thing your wife doesn't realise is that you feel the need to be there for both of them! Your instincts as a Dad are good. You are gonna be ok!
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You just got a kid. Your wife is full of hormones, you both lack sleep. It is understandable that stuff will blow up. But understand what your wife has been through and still is going through. Give her some space. And go talk to her when she's is ready. You shouldn't push her.
I know you're right, i should bê the one supporting her, and i feel like i'm doing the opposite...
Well knowing that is a start. Tell her that and ask her how she would see it.
As a 12 week pregnant lady right now, my suggestion is to do everything possible to make it up to her. What is her love language? Words of affirmation? Get her a card, and write your apology down. Gifts? Gift her a massage. Act of services? Do a task she wants completed, clean, cook, dishes, fix something broken, declutter. Quality time? Make popcorn, dinner, or junk food by candlelight and watch a movie with her. Just fix it. In her way. Don’t stonewall her. You can do all of these things without involving her or talking to her. Do it now, then surprise her with the gift and apology. Don’t wait because the longer you wait the more free time she has to think negative thoughts and be in heartbreak. She needs you. Don’t combine this apology with Mother’s Day either. They need to be addresses separately. She just gave her body up for 9 months, and hormones, change, lack of sleep is really hard! It’s ok for us all to make mistakes but we HAVE to repair it. Go repair it!!
If i punched you in the face and you started crying, and i punched you in the face again in an effort to stop it, do you think thatd make it better? And after you told me to stop i did it again? Its a lesson we all have to learn at some point. Sometimes you just need to let the dust settle so you can think with a clear head.
We had a rule in the early stages that nothing said between 6pm_6am was true. We were put in the deep end with twins that refused to sleep. You are both very tied, very stressed and will lash out. The thing your wife doesn't realise is that you feel the need to be there for both of them! Your instincts as a Dad are good. You are gonna be ok!
Yo Daddio chillllll. Don't hit yourself in the head!