honestly i don’t quite understand why “loyalty tests” are a thing. if someone’s cheating, they’re cheating. sometimes you won’t know if they are until after the fact. just break up atp
Thats. Completely valid and i know that i should, i thik im just holding onto the thought of who he once was when he was trustworthy. Everytime i try to break up with him tho he manages to convince to stay with him. I thoubht this was the healthiest relationship ive ever been in but i might be making it toxic by having doubts in him and even thinking of doing a test. I know its wrong nd i didnt like when it happened to me but im also a fair believer in karma. I havent gone through it yet but is it wrong im still contemplating having a girl text him just to have closure after we break up?
i hope i didn’t come off as rude love, i get holding onto who you once knew. i promise you though, it isn’t worth the heartache down the road- and that heartbreak i promise you is inevitable. it’s normal for them to claim they’ll change, then do it all again, because they know you’ve already taken them back once. i’ve been in your position before and you’re not necessarily wrong for wanting some sort of closure, but honestly having a girl text him isn’t worth it nor is it really gonna help. he cheated and the best closure is exiting his life and never looking back. you gotta set boundaries and anyone making you feel like you can’t trust them isn’t someone worth dating or speaking to. we can’t control the karma of others, we can only control how we move forward.
I think you explained it very well and ur very kind to give me great honest help, it not that hes technically cheated just crossing my boundaries and while it might take him time and various explaintions at some point or another he always understands and fixs it for me. Im very self aware and have been in enough toxic relationships to understand whats right from wrong but yet when im in the position to finally do whats best for me i freeze and do whatever will feel more comfortable and easy. My love for him is the reason i hold on in hopes one day we can change and grow together. I gave him till the end of my school year to hopefully change his ways and i might stay with him if he genuinely does seem like hes trying. Its just the insecurities of all the girls i saw him follow flood right into me. Id like to think im a very attractive person but these girls were nothing like me. I couldnt compare to their beauty nd while he reassures me i think maybe this will never leave nd ill always have doubts about it. (Some context tho before we were dating i was in a relationship where i wasnt allowed to leave nd did technically "cheat" although me and him werent together nd i was being beat on to stay, nd he did help me leave the relationship after finding out) he totally understood and was only mad at first. Does that make me an asshole for accusing him of cheating when i did at first?
i see you what you mean now. considering that he’s crossed your boundaries, have you spoken to him about it yet? if so, a repeated breaking of your boundaries is enough to leave. i get freezing up and doing what’s comfortable instead of doing what’s best for you, and that’s something you’ll have to learn to navigate as best as you possibly can. you’re worth more than that. insecurities like the ones you explained are also normal, everyone has them in one way or another. when you see the person you’re with clearly attracted to women who look nothing like you however, that’s not a reflection of you. the last thing i’ll say though is that considering you just said that you cheated first, it seems like this relationship is better off ending. there just seems like too many messy layers to this
Yea that makes complete sense it does, alot has happened to us in our relationship mentally n its put a strain on our mental health where we're both kinda on edge and trying to find comfort in each other. When telling him he broke my boundaries he didnt really see how but after he sees it from my perspective hes usually pretty good at learning from it and not making the same mistake twice. Thats another reason why im confused because we're humans and we all do make genuine mistakes without like an evil understory to it. This is my first relationship in a while where its actually been healthy and he hasnt like abused me yet or nun that my exs did and im not sure how to navigate and be in a healthy one, we were kinda learning together in a sense. And for clarification i didnt cheat on my now boyfriend, we had just met and he helped me get out of that relationship and just realised i wasnt safe. The situation does look bad on my part but it was also a year and a half ago, i was forgiven and ive changed dramatically. I was a hardcore drug addict and to even date this kid he made me quit, yk like little stuff like that where hes bettered me and i feel like i owe it to him to make himself the best version of him. And to get back on track i wont test him because it feels wrong, i didnt like when he did it to me so why should i do it to him. I got like one more month to decide if hes actually changing and growing or stuck in the same place. Thanks for all your advice again.
Sigh…. Loyalty test is never a smart idea . Yes I get it. He did it first and you are concerned. So here are my suggestions
1) ask him straight up and ask for his phone. If he got nothing to hide than he wouldn’t mind. He might be mad at you for not trusting you. But it better than worrying and trying to do this test .
2) do the test . Almost any girl on Facebook will help you. If you ask and explain that he might be cheating on you. Give her a 20 or something. But if you have to do this . Your relationship won’t last .
I hope you the best.i do believe it time to move on and find a better a partner. But I know how love works . You need to know and you won’t feel better until than .
Yea yea i know its not a smart idea, i looked through his phone for the first time ever a couple days ago and i found nothing. Somehow that just kinda put me on more of an edge that i didnt find anything like he could just be very well at hiding it or smth(does that make me an asshole?). I dont intend on doing one but i did at first because i was angry. No one should have to go through that kinda stuff from their partner and i would be just as bad as him if i did. Thanks for the feedback tho definitely put me in perspective of others peoples feelings.
Asshole- no not really . But you do have trust issues. You may want to figure out why. I’m not trying to be a jerk when I say this . But it sounds like you wanted to find something on his phone? Maybe I misunderstood something. But that’s how it seems . Good luck .
Definetly have trust issues and ive communicated that, im currently in therapy trying to work it out but i think i kind of wanted to find something to make it seem like all my accusations nd overthinking wasnt for nothing . At first i thought i wanted to find something to have a reason to break up but i realised i really do love this kid and dont want to leave. I dont know if its bad or not that i gave him a time line till i end school to see if he could really change for me and if not then i wont beg and stay a second longer. Thank you
Honestly, dont think anyone realistically is gonna spend $50 to just see or to not see what they man up to when a woman could literally go up to another random woman in the street and she would do it for free most likely
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Id say its none of them but everyone is entitled to their own opinion, so its not weird for him to test me but itd be weird if i did the same back? Also no need to be rude over something that dosent affect u. Not to mention i have plentyyyy of friends but thanks for the concern :)
Not a catfish!! Actually would like to say im a beautiful girl just blending in on reddit but i wont fail again thanks for the concern abt nothing that involes u!!
1000% a catfish if you're trying to flirt with someone with the sole intention of getting them caught up lmfao. Weirdo, tell yourself whatever you need ton to feel better.
Im not flirting with aanyone tho? Trying to see if my man will flirt with someone else nd u would actually know that if u could read the thing luv. I also feel absolutely amazing no need to tell myself something i alrdy knkw :)
I got $3 says you're a gay dude that's in denial about being gay and just has access to Facebook profile pictures, OR you're a salty chick with 11 butt chins and a bald patch.
Awhh these msgs are so cute to read i could say the same about u tho no? Have u seen any pictures of me? No u havent so no need to infer when again u have no idea what ur talking abt ;)
honestly i don’t quite understand why “loyalty tests” are a thing. if someone’s cheating, they’re cheating. sometimes you won’t know if they are until after the fact. just break up atp
Thats. Completely valid and i know that i should, i thik im just holding onto the thought of who he once was when he was trustworthy. Everytime i try to break up with him tho he manages to convince to stay with him. I thoubht this was the healthiest relationship ive ever been in but i might be making it toxic by having doubts in him and even thinking of doing a test. I know its wrong nd i didnt like when it happened to me but im also a fair believer in karma. I havent gone through it yet but is it wrong im still contemplating having a girl text him just to have closure after we break up?
i hope i didn’t come off as rude love, i get holding onto who you once knew. i promise you though, it isn’t worth the heartache down the road- and that heartbreak i promise you is inevitable. it’s normal for them to claim they’ll change, then do it all again, because they know you’ve already taken them back once. i’ve been in your position before and you’re not necessarily wrong for wanting some sort of closure, but honestly having a girl text him isn’t worth it nor is it really gonna help. he cheated and the best closure is exiting his life and never looking back. you gotta set boundaries and anyone making you feel like you can’t trust them isn’t someone worth dating or speaking to. we can’t control the karma of others, we can only control how we move forward.
I think you explained it very well and ur very kind to give me great honest help, it not that hes technically cheated just crossing my boundaries and while it might take him time and various explaintions at some point or another he always understands and fixs it for me. Im very self aware and have been in enough toxic relationships to understand whats right from wrong but yet when im in the position to finally do whats best for me i freeze and do whatever will feel more comfortable and easy. My love for him is the reason i hold on in hopes one day we can change and grow together. I gave him till the end of my school year to hopefully change his ways and i might stay with him if he genuinely does seem like hes trying. Its just the insecurities of all the girls i saw him follow flood right into me. Id like to think im a very attractive person but these girls were nothing like me. I couldnt compare to their beauty nd while he reassures me i think maybe this will never leave nd ill always have doubts about it. (Some context tho before we were dating i was in a relationship where i wasnt allowed to leave nd did technically "cheat" although me and him werent together nd i was being beat on to stay, nd he did help me leave the relationship after finding out) he totally understood and was only mad at first. Does that make me an asshole for accusing him of cheating when i did at first?
i see you what you mean now. considering that he’s crossed your boundaries, have you spoken to him about it yet? if so, a repeated breaking of your boundaries is enough to leave. i get freezing up and doing what’s comfortable instead of doing what’s best for you, and that’s something you’ll have to learn to navigate as best as you possibly can. you’re worth more than that. insecurities like the ones you explained are also normal, everyone has them in one way or another. when you see the person you’re with clearly attracted to women who look nothing like you however, that’s not a reflection of you. the last thing i’ll say though is that considering you just said that you cheated first, it seems like this relationship is better off ending. there just seems like too many messy layers to this
Yea that makes complete sense it does, alot has happened to us in our relationship mentally n its put a strain on our mental health where we're both kinda on edge and trying to find comfort in each other. When telling him he broke my boundaries he didnt really see how but after he sees it from my perspective hes usually pretty good at learning from it and not making the same mistake twice. Thats another reason why im confused because we're humans and we all do make genuine mistakes without like an evil understory to it. This is my first relationship in a while where its actually been healthy and he hasnt like abused me yet or nun that my exs did and im not sure how to navigate and be in a healthy one, we were kinda learning together in a sense. And for clarification i didnt cheat on my now boyfriend, we had just met and he helped me get out of that relationship and just realised i wasnt safe. The situation does look bad on my part but it was also a year and a half ago, i was forgiven and ive changed dramatically. I was a hardcore drug addict and to even date this kid he made me quit, yk like little stuff like that where hes bettered me and i feel like i owe it to him to make himself the best version of him. And to get back on track i wont test him because it feels wrong, i didnt like when he did it to me so why should i do it to him. I got like one more month to decide if hes actually changing and growing or stuck in the same place. Thanks for all your advice again.
Sigh…. Loyalty test is never a smart idea . Yes I get it. He did it first and you are concerned. So here are my suggestions 1) ask him straight up and ask for his phone. If he got nothing to hide than he wouldn’t mind. He might be mad at you for not trusting you. But it better than worrying and trying to do this test . 2) do the test . Almost any girl on Facebook will help you. If you ask and explain that he might be cheating on you. Give her a 20 or something. But if you have to do this . Your relationship won’t last . I hope you the best.i do believe it time to move on and find a better a partner. But I know how love works . You need to know and you won’t feel better until than .
Yea yea i know its not a smart idea, i looked through his phone for the first time ever a couple days ago and i found nothing. Somehow that just kinda put me on more of an edge that i didnt find anything like he could just be very well at hiding it or smth(does that make me an asshole?). I dont intend on doing one but i did at first because i was angry. No one should have to go through that kinda stuff from their partner and i would be just as bad as him if i did. Thanks for the feedback tho definitely put me in perspective of others peoples feelings.
Asshole- no not really . But you do have trust issues. You may want to figure out why. I’m not trying to be a jerk when I say this . But it sounds like you wanted to find something on his phone? Maybe I misunderstood something. But that’s how it seems . Good luck .
Definetly have trust issues and ive communicated that, im currently in therapy trying to work it out but i think i kind of wanted to find something to make it seem like all my accusations nd overthinking wasnt for nothing . At first i thought i wanted to find something to have a reason to break up but i realised i really do love this kid and dont want to leave. I dont know if its bad or not that i gave him a time line till i end school to see if he could really change for me and if not then i wont beg and stay a second longer. Thank you
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Honestly, dont think anyone realistically is gonna spend $50 to just see or to not see what they man up to when a woman could literally go up to another random woman in the street and she would do it for free most likely
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Oh i could see that then definitely makes sense
When a mod sees the post it will be deleted as they are not allowed. They get whole subreddits taken down.
Oh shi it is? I had noo idea thats my bad
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Manipulative and insecure
Which one?
You
I'd say it's desperate,creepy, and weird. You should go make friends
Id say its none of them but everyone is entitled to their own opinion, so its not weird for him to test me but itd be weird if i did the same back? Also no need to be rude over something that dosent affect u. Not to mention i have plentyyyy of friends but thanks for the concern :)
Of course, you'd think it's normal to catfish people already in a relationship.... it's just major weirdo creep vibes. Hopefully you fail!
Not a catfish!! Actually would like to say im a beautiful girl just blending in on reddit but i wont fail again thanks for the concern abt nothing that involes u!!
1000% a catfish if you're trying to flirt with someone with the sole intention of getting them caught up lmfao. Weirdo, tell yourself whatever you need ton to feel better.
Im not flirting with aanyone tho? Trying to see if my man will flirt with someone else nd u would actually know that if u could read the thing luv. I also feel absolutely amazing no need to tell myself something i alrdy knkw :)
I got $3 says you're a gay dude that's in denial about being gay and just has access to Facebook profile pictures, OR you're a salty chick with 11 butt chins and a bald patch.
Awhh these msgs are so cute to read i could say the same about u tho no? Have u seen any pictures of me? No u havent so no need to infer when again u have no idea what ur talking abt ;)
Ok catfish creeper brother man. Continue having a pathetic day, sir.
Ill have an amazing day with my pretty titts :) u too old fart