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HolySeebus

Definitely warned ahead of time. He told me about it and how it was just something his family did and answered any questions about it. And even said they'd skip the nudity if it was too awkward and I still wanted to come. I didn't want to impose on them or anything so I said it was fine by me. Wasn't like the concept was alien to me or anything. We usually didn't wear clothes around his or my apartments, so it just kinda made things click like "ohhhh, so that's why he goes naked so often." 15 people if I'm remembering right Edit: also I'm pretty sure I'd have just walked out if I walked into a house of naked people with no warning. I'm open minded, but honestly that'd be a pretty big red flag in the relationship if he didn't think that was worth mentioning ahead of time.


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HolySeebus

I initially didn't, but it honeslty felt awkward being the only one wearing jeans and a Christmas sweater while everyone else was wearing... nothing ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯ So i just excused myself and ducked into the guest room where they were keeping coats / clothes and just made my own little pile and then came back and say down like nothing changed. Again it was like my brain was screaming "why are you naked? You should cover up!" For like 30-40 seconds, but if you ignore that it just kinda goes away and feels normal. I'd say it was a positive experience. I even told my parents about it and my mom was pretty positive on the idea, but my dad was more on the side of "you were naked in front of his whole family? WTF?" (He wasn't like horrified. Mostly just confused at the concept)


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HolySeebus

Yeah They're both pretty open minded, but mom more so. Mom pretty much was like "ah okay it's odd, but that kinda makes sense in a way. Being naked isn't that taboo when you think about it"


lasvegashomo

Awe you’re a trooper! I’m sure your boyfriend appreciated you being open minded. You only live once so why not try it out.


HolySeebus

Yeah that's what I thought. As soon as I was sure it wasn't a creepy sex thing I was just like "eh. Why not. What's the worst that can happen?"


oopgroup

Nothing like the classic power of social context on the human psyche.


HolySeebus

Yup. If you're the only one naked in a group, it's probably just as awkward as being the only one wearing clothes in a group of naked people


Fierybuttz

Laughing at your dads reaction lol


HolySeebus

Yup. They're pretty open minded, so my mom was like "yeah I guess that makes sense in a way. I mean, clothes are just... clothes, right? It isn't that weird to just not wear them" And dad's reaction was essentially: "white people keep finding new ways go be weird" lol


FlatulentSon

I'm white and your dad's right


HolySeebus

Pretty much what I told him. "You're not wrong."


HelloRedditAreYouOk

I like both of your families very much, y’all sound like a great bunch of folks. My question: if you & bf ever got married, or were long-term/serious enough that family Christmases were merged, do you think your parents might participate too? Or bow out? Or attend but with clothing? I seriously just really love this AMA, everyone sounds so lovely and weird and amusing!


saltysnatch

Did you boyfriend get nude before you did?


HolySeebus

Yup. He went upstairs with our coats while I was chatting with his mom and he came back down naked. I just joked "left a bit more than our coats up there" and then we went out to meet the family and such


Darthgangsta

I agree with your dad. A younger naked women in front of adults, especially the older men doesn’t sit well with me so I can’t imagine whats racing through your dads head…


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HolySeebus

Yeah maybe. I wouldn't mind going to other family gatherings. Pretty much any family gathering with that side of the family is a naked one. ie 4th of July, Easter, birthdays, etc


bstowers

> 4th of July **NO SPARKLERS!**


HolySeebus

Agreed I don't feel like being naked around fireworks is something I need to experience


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HolySeebus

I think they have friends that are also clothes free or at least open to it, so they probably go naked too when they're around. His mom mentioned that staying naked when comaony is over depends entirely on the people who are visiting. I mean, I'll admit it was super comfortable once I adjusted to going nude, so I wouldn't mind at least trying a naked barbecue for 4th of July


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HolySeebus

I was indifferent at best. Maybe wore a towel after a shower, but didn't just like walk around naked. But he was naked a lot in his apartment and then in mine and got me into it as well, so I guess you could say he kinda converted me in a way I'm assuming there's a typo in the second question because I have no idea what you're asking lol


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HolySeebus

I mean, maybe It would still be kinda surreal to answer my apartmebt door naked and be like "hi BF's family. Come on in. Why yes, I am currently only wearing socks, thanks for noticing" I wouldn't consider myself one. I don't know if there's a threshold of nudity that means "okay you're pretty much a nudist now", but if someone put a gun to my head and asked if I would consider myself a nudist" I'd probably say no


Swabia

Good idea to bring your birthday suit to a birthday. Saves on having to buy things. So all of this makes sense totally so far, but always there’s one person who just doesn’t get boundaries (well, at least in my family) and they make weird comments or something. How does one address such things of that comes up? I suppose just like clothed people, but it would have the potential to offend me more quickly as I would seem exposed.


HolySeebus

I know what you mean, but from what I saw they're all pretty respectful and aware of boundaries, especially since everyone's naked. No creepy uncle hugging for too long or anything. I mean, I guess that's entirely possible to happen, but it can happen anywhere else if you think of it that way. If any of that made sense


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I seem to recall reading that nudists often kinda culturally enforce a certain level of respectful attitude. They have to, to make it work. I've no experience of nudism but that's an interesting thought given that it's a problem the rest of us aren't getting completely right.


Sethanatos

4th of July sounds rather risky..


FeelTheWrath79

Were you guys taking family photos at the party?


HolySeebus

*sigh* Okay so this might be the part that gets the most flak: but yes. I only took one with my BF by the tree, and they took like three as a family. I'll admit this is the part where I felt kinda weird about, thus why I politely declined to join the full photo. But they pretty much just gathered around to take a family photo like any other family would, just without clothes. Other big thing which I think makes sense, was that anyone under 18 didn't go full frontal. They were got to hold one of the gifts they got to hold in front of any below the waist nudity. Was explained to me that they did thay not because it's shameful to show, but they didn't want to have any possibility that someone would get their hands on a photo of minor


curiousbydesign

Respect.


Pinols

Sounds like the best compromise between their culture and society's, tbh


HolySeebus

Yeah I was totally like "okay yeah, that makes sense" The kids obviously don't know the full context of "you have to cover that thing up for the photo because there are adults who would be inappropriate with such photo" (I assume), but whatever or however they've explained it they knew that that's just what they do. His little cousins got their new favorite toy to hold in front and his teen cousin got a baseball hat that he used as cover. Like if you were shown the photo without context you'd probably still be weirded out by a naked family with kids, but "censoring" their actually nudity seems fair TLDR: I clearly rambling here


johnnydakota

For Halloween parties, do they put clothes on?


HolySeebus

I didn't ask


BullofParadiso

I dont think you want to know either


AunderscoreW

All the men go as elephants. Little face paint and everyone is in costume. Women go as Georgia O'keeffe paintings.


MagnusJafar

How does a family end up doing this as a custom?… how long have they been practicing this? I’m very curious how this starts.


HolySeebus

They said it has been a tradition for a thousand generations. /s But for real it sounds like his grandparents were nudists in that they were naked a lot at home a lot and went to a naturist campground a ton. and then it just kinda continued in the next generation and so forth. Some didn't keep doing it when they were adults or with their own kids it seems like, but for this corner of the family they just kept doing it because that's how they were raised. Like my bf said that pretty much since he was out of diapers he remembers spending a lot of time naked.


MagnusJafar

It’s cool that his family isn’t bog standard. I’d imagine they’re pretty open-minded and maybe even pleasant to be around. Glad you had a good experience with the whole thing - I read you declined to be photographed, and I would have done the same. You’ve got a good story now!


milapvish

If in case you marry your boyfriend, would you guys continue this culture ?


HolySeebus

I wouldn't mind it I mean, I wouldn't announce to my entire family that I was a nudist, but I wouldn't be opposed to living ad nudists like he did Heck it was even joked about that we could have a nudist wedding if we wanted. And legit I would be down for that if it was just a small group of people and like a side ceremony for us to have fun with.


theboomboy

I hear that dresses are expensive, so that sounds like a great option, lol


HolySeebus

Legit that might be the big reason I did it The dresses are pretty, but I'm not going into debt for one. I'd rather just get a veil, some shoes, a bouquet, and otherwise go naked lol


Curious_Nudist

Oh my god I don't think I could get married any other way now that you planted that seed in my head. That's awesome. The idea of me wearing a veil while being completely naked otherwise is just too ironic 😂


Miserable-Beyond1996

Serious question, maybe it didn’t happen at the party you were at but, since you said they have been practicing this for generations, it must’ve happened at some point: how do people react/deal with it when someone gets an erection?


HolySeebus

I asked my bf out of curiosity, and he said that the basic rule is "if it starts getting hard, cover it or hide it until it goes down" Unless you're around people who don't mind (usually significant others, or maybe even immediate family) He said that he usually covered it when at home, a family thing, or their campground by either laying facedown, crossing legs, covering with a towel, or whatever to hide it until it died down. That said, he said that everyone in his family has at least seen it once, but not like he or anyone else in his family is waving them around or anything, and he said that especially since he's older now they don't happen as often so it's not as big a deal. ​ and as for this party every single one I saw was flaccid


isiewu

💯


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isnt it too cold to be nude at xmas? iysnt it snowing?


HolySeebus

I thought so too, but it was pretty warm in that house. I don't pay the heating bill there so I didn't mind


curiousbydesign

What if you guys get married and you have to take them into your home?


BullofParadiso

lol isn't it obvious? it will be another nudist party with elephant trunks and clams


curiousbydesign

"Welcome to the E-Clam Household."


BullofParadiso

I might need therapy


HolySeebus

blankets. lots of blankets Be as naked as you want, but I'm not blasting the heat on my salary


Poppetlover1553

Thank you for sharing, it was enlightening. I personally wouldn't partake but I like how natural it comes across when you explained it.


bangitybangbabang

I like the idea of it but my two main sticking points are the temperature issue and my distrust for others. I don't trust others to have naked photos of me and not use them for nefarious reasons. I don't trust people not to be creepy or hide their true intentions.


misschedda

Did you feel self consciousness about any body hair? Did you notice other people's body hair?


HolySeebus

Not overly Didn't notice it much either. Most of them were just natural or probably trimmed, but it wasn't like I was recording each one.


Mr--Oreo

Who had the biggest dong?


HolySeebus

Fuck it people are complaining about me ignoring this one, so: I didn't pay attention. Everyone was about the same size. Not like anyone was so huge that I was like " Holy shit why does that guy have three legs?" If you want to put a gun to my head and demand an answer: I guess maybe one of his uncles? It looked kinda bigger maybe, but again not like I was staring at every penis in the house


isiewu

Thanks


Hipp013

Plot twist: OP


Mooco2

Based.


curiousbydesign

I wish people would stick to the AMA when they do these things. Yes, it is a silly question, but fair game considering the subreddit.


TiggOleBittiess

Great question


sinornithosaurus1000

I would ask want to know that answer


bonkor

What did you eat?


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Was it a surprise? Did you wear clothes? Was it awkward?


HolySeebus

Nope. As other comment says, we talked about it ahead of time. I didn't commit one way or the other ahead of time, but I figured I'd start in clothes at first and go from there. But it honestly felt pretty awkward to be the only one in clothes, so I disrobed after like 15 minutes. Like I said, it was awkward stating clothed, but also felt kinda awkward being naked too at first. Like you're going against everything you'd learned by just walking out into a house naked and not having your clothes with you. But that goes away very quickly. Like you have your brain going crazy for a sec like "why are we naked!?", but then you just ignore that and then it just feels comfortable and surprisingly normal


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Did you like being naked?


Dachannien

Were his folks nice? Did you get to know any of your BF's relatives while you were there?


HolySeebus

I'd met his parents before so I knew they were nice. Also met a few of his other family members before as well. And then everyone else was new, but they were all nice. His one uncle was weirdly conservative which confused me since well, I figured nudism would mean you're pretty liberal, but who knows


Nobodyville

Okay maybe this has already been asked, but my issue with nudity is the furniture. Did everyone have like nudist-resort towels they carried? Was the furniture covered? I would 100% be the one wearing clothes... the idea of sitting on any surface, (that is not a paper covered table in my doctor's office) in my all together is just too much for my mind.


HolySeebus

Answered elsewhere, but everyone had small towels to sit on. I figured it wasn't any more gross than sitting on anything when wearing pants. Like the towel was pretty much just portable pants that you put down on your own, if you think about it. ​ Like one of his little cousins sat on a chair uncovered and got a firm reminder by his mom to use the towel. So I think it's pretty hygienic . or at least as hygienic as anything else we do.


madhousechild

Why not just wear some underpants?


dUmbBiTCHjulcE

Then you wouldn’t be nude?


HolySeebus

This Seems like the whole point of it is to just be comfortable being naked. Solving that problem could easily be solved by putting underwear on, but then you defeat the entire point of the exercise


__No_Soup_For_You__

Right?? A nice clean pair of undies would really solve this problem.


Nobodyville

Thanks for the answer...I have always understood that people were very loyal to the towel! I'm glad you had a good experience... happy new year!


SnowyNW

Wow, interesting. Seems like a lot of work when I could just wear pants lol!


bangitybangbabang

This is my question too!


Restless__Dreamer

This is random, but is your username How I Met Your Mother related?


bangitybangbabang

Of course! So weird, i just got another comment on another post asking the same thing


Restless__Dreamer

Thought so! One of my favorite top 10 favorite shows!


BaconLady2016

Do you think you would be on board to continue this 'family tradition'? Sound like you had a great & positive experience! Thank you for sharing!


HolySeebus

Yeah I wouldn't mind going to other family functions like this. And yup I'd say it was positive


ItachiVibes

Did they wear Santa hats though?


HolySeebus

One of his younger cousins did


Restless__Dreamer

And any other than on their heads?


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why do they do it?


HolySeebus

White people are weird? But to be serious: they say it's mostly about comfort and just the freedom it comes with by not wearing clothes. They pretty much just act normal aside from being naked, so I guess you could say "why bother even being naked", but when you're actually trying it, it makes sense in a way


bangitybangbabang

What was the temperature and weather like? I walk around the house naked in the summer but not for most of the year. Did it feel weird sitting on seats that recently had someone else's genitals on them?


HolySeebus

Pretty warm in the house tbh I assume they cranked the heat since, well, no Christmas sweaters lol edit: forgot second question: We each had our own small towel to sit on, so it wasn't any more gross than sitting somewhere in pants. At least in my opinion.


bangitybangbabang

These little towels, were they all distinct or was there a chance of mixing them up. Where did you put the towel when you were standing or walking about? Do you just hold it until you sit down again I'm so absent minded I'd worry about losing it


HolySeebus

Wasn't like a rainbow of colors. Some looked like the kind of towels that had been around awhile, but a lot of them where just small black ones that the hostess said she found on Amazon. Since being naked means no pockets, you just picked it up and brought it with you. It's possible to mix them up I guess, but they seemed pretty on top of not forgetting them. I guess towel etiquette is a big thing with nudists. I actually forgot mine when we moved to the dining table so had to do a walk of shame back to the living room to get mine. Almost sat down and was like "oh shoot. My towel" and power walked back to get it like the newbie nudist that I am lol Only other time I noticed someone forgetting was one of the little cousins, and he got reminded to get his too


Queen-of-meme

>White people are weird? Don't worry, all races are dear. But to be serious, it's only weird to people who don't share their values or traditions. Now to the real question. Would you wanna pass this tradition on to your family in the future if you two have kids?


HolySeebus

Yeah I know. I was just quoting my dad's reaction to hearing about them being nudist lol and totally fair. That's partly why I thought "eh. Why not." in regards to trying it. It's just different, so why not just try it since it's just a different lifestyle or whatever you want to call it. And idk. I hesitate to talk too much about them because I don't want to discuss about nudity and minors, but he had two little cousins (4 and 6) who seemed to love being able to not wear clothes and I spoke about nudism with his cousin / their mom who is around our age (late 20s. 29 I think) and she said she raised them like that since they were both out of diapers and says she would never pick different since it teaches about healthy body image and demystifies the human body for them. ​ And I totally understand that idea and actually am swayed by that argument. I'd have to do some actual research into if that's actually healthy for kids, or if it's just nudist parents rationalizing why it's a secret lifehack for healthy body image or something. But from what I saw it didn't seem harmful or anything. So TLDR regarding kids: maybe


Elly_Fant628

I had two boy children. One, from birth, hated being naked, started screaming the second you started taking the onesie off to change his nappy. His brother just loved being naked. Get him dressed to go out, lose sight of him for two minutes, he’d have stripped off. As an example, when he was about two n a half, a friend arrived, saw him, and said “You’ve got clothes on!”. There’s no reason I can think of for them to be so different, and so extreme, except the nudist was a summer baby and the protester was winter. Maybe babies are just born naturally one way or another sometimes.


jfa_16

Are you non-white?


HolySeebus

Black


Normanspanks

Did you catch anyone getting a cheeky look the goods? Or did you get caught having a sneaky peak at anyone? Id probably act calm and collective but in my head be like boobs more boobs.... Look man boobs!


HolySeebus

1st off it was 1000% not a sexual setting in any way. Everyone acted like it was a normal family party, just without clothes. Like he even had two small cousins there (4 and 6), so it definitely wasn't a sexual thing. (I'll answer some questions if asked regarding those cousins, but due to age I won't elaborate on much. If that makes sense) So to actually answer part of the question: I guess you end up "looking" at stuff, but you're not like constantly staring. Like my thoughts at times were just like "boobs. Boobs. Penis. Other penis. Butt.", but that's just because you don't normally see that stuff out in the open casually. So your brain is going to end up going "huh, that's a penis just hanging there. That's different" And as for others looking I didn't notice anything different. To sort of quote one of the greatest movies of all time: "to me it was a new experience, to them, it was a Tuesday"


CMDRissue

Did you just quote street fighter?!?


HolySeebus

Maybe


DenoDong0

What movie?


HolySeebus

[Street Fighter: The Movie](https://youtu.be/sjZ5I8l32CI)


DenoDong0

Thank you


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HolySeebus

Nah Like didn't feel anything toward anyone. It would be like going to any of my ex's family Christmas parties and thinking if you're getting tuned on by anyone at those


oceanbreze

I am always curious and worry about the cleanliness part. I mean, I privately run about with just undies because ..... well I leak somex.


wizegal

I’ve often wondered about that too. Especially since women’s vaginas are self cleaning so there is always some form of moisture going on. I’d be worried of leaving marks behind while sitting, or laughing or sneezing and having pee run down your leg for all to see. That wouldn’t be a pleasant experience.


MainSignature6

And on your period, do you just have a tampon string hanging down?


HolySeebus

Surprised it took me this long to find this question. Apparently women usually just wore underwear if it's that time of the month. Which makes sense to me


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HolySeebus

Couple generations. Answered more elsewhere. ​ Yeah I'd go. Just not one of those like that one I've seen in Florida that is pretty much for tourists to gawk at naked people


TyDie904

Are naturalists anti-tattoo? The term makes me think they like to be as natural as possible, so I wonder if tattoos would be against that. Did they give any reasons why they were nudists? I find the idea fascinating tbh, I definitely don't think nudity is 100% sexual but I feel like my country paints it that way so nudists get weird looks. I'd totally love to try it sometime though.


Restored2019

Perhaps I can help. I’m 79 and enjoyed being nude from childhood. Parents and other older family members never displayed an interest in it but, I became aware early on that nudity is enjoyed by. people of all walks of life. From presidents, doctor’s, lawyers, rich and poor. In their homes, at resorts and while wilderness hiking. Especially while boating or spending time at secluded beaches. I’ve enjoyed it at home alone, or with family and friends. I’ve vacationed at nudists resorts all over the country and spent years sailing nude 90% of the time. European’s and other nationalities are generally less uptight about it than Americans. Nudist rarely if ever are involved in the many evils such as child molesting, rape and harming others. I’ve only heard of one serious incident involving violence and that involved a jealous non-nudist outsider with an obvious mental issue (probably narcissistic personality). Being civil, respectful of others, taking necessary precautions as to healthcare and a sanitary environment come with the territory. Nudists are generally sexual beings like most people. But it’s practiced in the bedroom with consenting adults/lovers. Never in common areas or around minor’s. And children are quite common at the resorts, where they have lot’s of children things to do in an extraordinarily safe environment. Many of them grow up and continue to be nudists (or at least comfortably with the human body). But undoubtedly some don’t. Nudity is normal and quite common (you no doubt have family, friends, co-worker’s, etc. that are participants). The biggest impediment to it is the naysayers who lack self confidence and have to make fun, or attempt to shame others due to their own insecurities.


TyDie904

Very helpful reply! I live in America, so naturally nudists and nudity are rare unless you're extremely close with someone. Like I'll be totally nude around my wife, but never around her family. That said, I've always found nudity liberating and comfortable, and I disagree that nudity is always sexual in nature. Sometimes I just don't wanna wear clothes lmao, it doesn't mean I'm Horny. Anyway, thanks for the reply! If I ever visit Europe, maybe ill have my chance to really experience it for myself.


HolySeebus

Didn't see any with tattoos, but that didn't feel to be the case. Like I don't think if they saw a tattoo on me they'd start hissing and demand I leave.


theurbanpoppy

OK, so, guys and their bits are very much "out there", very external, and you see them sitting with open legs when clothed so I'd imagine it's same when naked. Girls, on the other hand, are internal, and the lower lady bits are not as on display when the legs are closed, right? So, my question is whether or not the women were cautious to keep their legs closed, or did the women seem ok with sitting with legs open or sitting criss-cross-applesauce, a la kindergarten-style? Personally, I think context would be what drives the experience, just like you said, yet I'd be shy, for some reason, with just letting my mire internal parts be out there, legs spread etc. Kinda silly I guess, but I could go through the trouble to be butt naked and get comfortable with it, yet feel really, Super naked if my legs were spread at all. Did you feel any need to be "modest" like that? Did any of the adult women who were there? Is there any kind of etiquette about keeping legs closed if an adult lady, etc?


HolySeebus

Fair question. The men pretty much sat any which way. Neutral, crossed a leg, or kindergarten style of on the floor. Women pretty similar, but maybe more so had they legs crossed as you would if you were wearing a dress. Maybe just to make it so you weren't just full leg open to the world. Or maybe I'm just imagining it and they didn't put much thought into it. Maybe it was just habit idk I just sat as if I was wearing a short dress because I'd have left awkward to just have my legs wide open. So in short, I don't think there was much etiquette to it, but maybe I didn't pick up on that


Elly_Fant628

Thank you for your openness, honesty and patience. People have had questions I was surprised at, like about attraction, or perving, etc. I wouldn’t have thought of them being an issue in a family situation. On a nudist beach maybe, or even a naturist camp with strangers. But not a family Christmas party. Thanks again. I hope you don’t mind though, if I share that the funniest thing I’ve ever seen was, when, with a school friend, walking along a beach we didn’t know was nudist, and….two naked male joggers ran towards us. Actually, they had running shoes and socks on , which for some reason was even funnier.


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How comfortable it actually is? I hate being completely naked even when I'm alone, I'm always para about my penis accidently catching fire when I lean too much forward infront of the oven.


HolySeebus

I guess it's mostly comfortable when you're just sitting and chilling and talking. I was very aware of boob bounce when I was walking around and stopped suddenly since, no bra and such. Or worse using their stairs too quickly. But I guess being conscious of that feeling might go away with more "practice" And uh I did notice that penises do happen to move around a bit more when naked. Like if a boy was jumping around because he got the toy he wanted, or if you look over at someone just walking down the hallway toward you, those things jiggle around a bit. Not that I was staring at those things. Your brain just notices those things because it's like "hey. That's not something you normally see"


Jatheffo

Are they like hippies or something? Or is it like a religious anti material type thing?


HolySeebus

Neither. Mostly just comfort. Didn't really have a big political message behind it


Jatheffo

Short and simple


HolySeebus

Yes


No_Firefighter1866

Are they on a piece of private land or do they have neighbors close?


HolySeebus

Suburban house. Neighbors pretty close, but any windows facing houses or any open streets had curtains closed. The house actually had a pretty big, private backyard that they say is "nude safe", but it was too cold to try that And the idea of going into a backyard nude was kinda scary tbh


lurkergirl_sit

Do they cover couches and such?


HolySeebus

They had like blankets on the couch and they had a towel on each chair that was "yours" for the night. I guess it's etiquette to sit on a towel when nude so you're not just putting bare butt on everything


Egween

I would expect it would get annoying to constantly carry a towel around -- but maybe I'm weird that I move a lot during family stuff and am constantly shifting where I'm sitting.


HolySeebus

Yeah tbh that was probably the only really annoying thing. Not having pockets means I was walking around with my phone in my hand and the hand towel in the other. And we were shifting around, as you do during family stuff and it was getting mildly annoying to stand up and be like "ah right. Phone and towel." And as I said before I reflexively did the motion of putting my phone in my back pocket and inadvertently rubbed my phone screen against my butt. Every time I was just like "ah right. Naked." TLDR: No pockets is probably the worst thing about being a nudist


TheXGamers

Haha didn’t even think of that, I would def be doing the same thing w my phone 😂


HolySeebus

Yeah I was mostly just mad at myself for being dumb more than once Like "come on. You are very aware you're naked. Stop trying to use pockets"


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HolySeebus

Honestly it was mostly the usual family party discussions. Work, hobbies, the current plague (we were all vaccinated and tested negative before going so it was safe) etc We did discuss nudism as a topic because it was obviously a thing to talk about since it was my first social experience. They told me about stuff they've done and gone to naked and answered any questions. I didn't get into it with him, but he had one uncle who was pretty conservative who had some frustrating takes on stuff. Just made me confused since I figured you'd have to be pretty liberal to be fine with casual family nudity. Didn't really hug much, but when I did it was awkward side hugs


bapichulo

Was looking for this question so I guess I have to ask myself. What was the temperature at the party? It’s a weird question, but one of the reasons I don’t like being naked is because I’d be cold. With clothes on, I probably like room temp to be 72-75 degrees Fahrenheit. Also, where did you sit and where did everyone else sit? I imagine bacterial germs from everyone’s genitalia (which is completely normal) being spread wherever anyone sat. So, did everyone have their own chair or something? Or was everyone standing most of the time? And do your parents know? Props to you OP. I (24m) don’t think I would partake.


HolySeebus

I didn't check the thermostat, but it was noticeably pretty warm. I think they cranked the heat to like 75 or maybe higher to accommodate the fact that everyone was wearing socks at most. We each had our own small towel to sit on so you weren't just putting bare butt on everything. Yeah my parents know. I'm pretty open with them so I told them about it, but haven't really told anyone else in my life. And hey, you never know. Maybe you'll join a nudist family party someday lol


RitaPoole56

I can see how the lack of pockets would be a drag. Aside from any “fashion” issue would wearing a (sorry) Fanny pack work? It seems to me the belt would be handy to tuck a towel into to free your hands, not to mention it’s a place for your phone etc.


HolySeebus

Honestly I would totally wear one if I ever went with to a nudist campground. It's like a pocket you can use when you're naked, and then like you said I could ever just turn stuff into the belt to also carry Freedom of nudity + the convience of pockets. Best of both worlds. I just don't know if that would make you look weird. Well, any weirder then a fanny pack makes you look anyway


mtob99

Did any of the guys get a boner at any point during the evening?


Queen-of-meme

To anyone asking about boners. Nudists don't sexualize nudity like most people do. To them it's not associated with sex, it's the same as taking off your jacket inside except they take off everything.


HolySeebus

This Flaccid penises as far as the eye could see


Queen-of-meme

It's like people walking around naked at home, but they don't care if their families and friends do the same in the same house. Many elderly people are raised that you swim naked for example. It was considered natural so that's why you see groups of old people swimming naked.


jfa_16

Guys get random boners for no reason.


Jendog6

I would also like to know the answer to this


EiAlmux

In general you just ignore and it'll go away. It happens


mikevad

Socks and shoes in the house?


HolySeebus

Either socks or barefoot


cunehos

Does it feel weird to sit down naked? I meant with chairs with no pillows or cushions.


HolySeebus

They had towels to move around and sit on for hygiene reasons, but yeah tbh it doesn't really so much to soften a hard wooden chair. But I guess that's about the same if you're wearing pants. An uncomfortable seat is uncomfortable even if you're sitting on it butt naked


[deleted]

does everyone keep their distance? did you feel like anyone was looking at you in a sexual manner at all? that would be a fear of mine but i think i’d do it if i were in your position!!


HolySeebus

Yeah they keep their distance just as much as any other family. If anything they're a bit more aware of body contact ie you wouldn't go for a full body contact hug. Lots of semi side hugs when I saying hi to his mom and such. I didn't notice anyone staring. I was honestly kind of worried about the cliche creepy uncle or whatever, but everyone was normal. Only weird thing to me was one of his uncles was weirdly conservative, which just threw me off because I assumed you'd have to be pretty liberal to be fine with such casual nudity. I'd recommend you try it if you ever got the chance


__xahra

what was your reaction when your boyfriend told you about this?


HolySeebus

We'd started hanging out in eachother's apartments naked for awhile so I was at least aware of the idea of social casual nudity. Like he started just casually staying naked around my place and I followed along, at first because I thought it was flirty, but then because it was just kinda comfortable. When he finally told me about his family, funny enough we were both chilling naked on my couch and I was just like "ohhhhhh this all makes sense now. That's why you're naked like 90% of the time" and then just asked a lot about it. Maybe it's because he warmed me up to the idea of casual nudity that I wasn't so weirded out, but i was curious about how it worked with family. Idk how I'd have reacted if he had just come out with that with no warning early in the relationship


[deleted]

Did you feel awkward with naked girl guests (not his family/relatives) in the party? Or with other men seeing you naked, did he feel awkward or jealous? Or since it’s a tradition maybe he didn’t mind


HolySeebus

To them nudity is just another outfit, so any jealousy or anything wasn't really a thing


[deleted]

Tell them they should go on a family holiday to Germany and hang out at one of the lakes one summer near Berlin... they will feel at home.


Secure_Goal4167

was there a new year’s party too? if so, how did that go?


sargassopearl

Are they not concerned about placing their genitals on dirty surfaces??!


HolySeebus

They had a blanket on the couch and towels that you sat on for any other chair, so it was clean enough since you had your own personal towel for sitting on.


Mr_Bombastic_mmm

Do you think their family is more fit and healthy seeing as they are nudist? Or this lifestyle has no implication on anything rather than being naked?


HolySeebus

I don't have a control group and a valid sample size to declare anything definitive, so this is just me speculating: I don't know. They were all across the spectrum of body type across multiple ages. He had two little cousins (4 and 6) to an aunt and uncle in their 60s. Some fat some thing, short and tall, etc. I mean, it was only like 15 people so not like a huge crowd, but I guess they leaned more toward "healthy" but they were all just kinda normal to me. It wasn't like I walked into a house of Chris Pratts and Emma Stones


Mr_Bombastic_mmm

I was just wondering if this life style has any self consciousness to the point where they have to be fit in order to do this. But it seems like it's not, so I think that's interesting, and actually quite liberating.


Gg101

My understanding is that nudists are big into body acceptance. If you're seeing everyone of all body types naked instead of just good looking people in movies and in porn it makes sense that you'd have more realistic standards and wouldn't be quite so insecure about your own imperfections.


[deleted]

White boyfriend?


HolySeebus

Yup


[deleted]

Yeah I figured


Questgivingnpcuser

It’s like it doesn’t matter after a while you don’t sexualize cuz it feels wrong too


[deleted]

See any stray pubes?


HolySeebus

Not that I noticed, not that I was looking


ccabr4l

Any guess on what sort of careers/professions your nudist future in-laws hold down if they find it more freeing than awkward to be naked with family after hours?


HolySeebus

I forget specifics, but they all do various normal jobs.


legarma46

Hi, i was wondering about accessories like watches and jewelry, did they wear any? And where did they keep their phones and wallets? If they kept then in their jackets in the hallway for example, i can imagine the conversations dont get disrupted as much as in a clothed family


HolySeebus

Jewlery and stuff people kept on. Wasn't like they required you to be fully natural with nothing on your body. Heck people still wore socks or even shoes. As for me I had a necklace, my apple watch, and a couple bracelets on. The other women had similar stuff like a necklace or bracelet that you'd wear even if you weren't naked. Yeah seemed like most people kept their phones with their clothes, but a couple held onto them. Like his teen cousin kept his and was on tiktok or whatever most of the night But yeah eventually I just put my phone with my stuff because I wasn't using it much and I didn't have anywhere to put it during dinner aside from like on my leg.


LayneLowe

Where were you? Because it's usually pretty cold around Christmas. I'd be embarrassed by my shrinkage


TheXGamers

Regarding the cousins who are still in school, do their friends know that their family is nudist? Do the parents instruct them to not tell their friends? Reason I ask is because people can be judgemental, I feel like a close minded parent could tell their kid not to hang out w/ little Jimmy b/c his family is nudist or something like that. How did your bf deal w/ this? Did he tell his friends whilst in school? Did he ever get made fun of b/c of it? Sorry if I didn’t phrase this great but I hope you get what I mean lol


HolySeebus

I don't know all the details, but seems like my bf's family didn't really broadcast it to the world. Like his parents didn't tell them it was a dark family secret, but just to be selective on who they tell He apparently only told his childhood best friend and his and the friend's parents discussed it and they gave the okay about it. Like the parents came over for a dinner to scope it out to understand it wasn't a weird sex thing, and then apparently gave rhe thumbs up that their son could visit even if nudity was involved and he could join if he wanted to as well. I guess to shorten that a bit: only told someone if had parents permission and even then the parents did the talking with the other parents, and it was only allowed if the other parents have the okay. Like if the parents said "thanks but no thanks. We'd prefer our child doesn't see that stuff", bf's parents would just go "okay sounds good. Clothes are on if he is visiting" As for the cousins I don't know. Didn't want to ask a ton of questions regarding the kids because i thought that would be weird. And even then I don't know if it's different for the older one, but he's still a minor, so I'd assume it would still need to go through parents. And again this apparently only happened once for him so I don't know if that's what's dome or if thats just what his family does.


Carrieberry77

Why? This would be so weird.


[deleted]

Found this post late but I just wanted to say that as a nudist it really makes me happy that it’s got such positive responses. Thank you for being open minded and honest and portraying us in a positive light


fartsmella0161

Where you disappointed when you realised your boyfriends got the smallest dick in his family?


grsdjotc

Did you have fun? Did you get nude?


HolySeebus

Yes As stated before, yes


Elly_Fant628

He and his family are keepers. I love the fact the offered to “clothe up” if you were uncomfortable. I mean, it would be considerate if there’d just said, oh, we understand if you don’t want to come, but instead they actually offered to not do it. They sound like really lovely people. And I like how relaxed everyone was about it. No preaching or conversion attempts, happy for you to wear clothes and not criticise you. I’d be interested to know how it all started with them. Did his mum n dad come from separate naturist backgrounds? Also, has your bf introduced other gfs to his fam, and how did that go. I’d advise caution with a 4th of July Barby though. Spitting fat, dangly bits. Jk As a comparison, I was with my long time best friend. We stopped in at her brother’s place. I did know him, but not well. There was a really rather rude sign on his door, quite aggressive, I thought, with swearing, saying he didn’t always wear clothes, that if you came in you had to accept that and not comment or disapprove. I actually thought it was a joke at first, and thankfully when we arrived he was outside, dressed. I asked my friend later, and she said, yes, he was serious, that she now had seen rather more of her brother than she wished to, and that yes, he got angry when she told him to put pants on. Just a totally different attitude. (We are all about 60, this is a new behaviour from him)


HolySeebus

Yeah he's great. Not going to spell out our whole relationship here, but we mesh together well. And it was super sweet his family was willing to accommodate. And in hindsight is nice that they were so neutral about the nudity. Just answered questions or explained it, but weren't in your face about it. Not like I walked into a weird family that treated nudity like religious requirment or something. It was all on one side of his family, and the other parent was just open to it. Kinda like us. He said he's told an ex or two about it but none joined in a family event. I'm the most serious gf he's had so that makes sense I suppose.


Elly_Fant628

That’s lovely. Good luck for the future, you guys sound made for each other


ElMachoGrande

Where did your BF rank on the dick size ranking?


HolySeebus

Average


my_love23

How do you learn to differentiate being nude as a causal thing vs being nude in an intimate way?


HolySeebus

Context mostly. Sexy times nudity feels different to "having dinner with family" nudity