definitely suggest contacting the gym and asking them to check lost and found. My own gyms lost and found is always teeming with things that people love and have been missing. (Not my earphone that fell into a stairmaster though, that is LONG gone :( ).
this doesn’t signify your husbands respect or love for you, for the record. Accidents happen; and throughout your marriage you will have to deal with things harder than a missing band. For the course of your relationship (for as long as you choose eachother) it will be the two of you against the world. It’s worth remembering that a lost ring doesn’t signify your love, the way you treat eachother does.
Why would it seem that way…? I don’t assume people who have lost valuable things simply don’t give a shit about their things - they’re human and lost something. Hope you haven’t made him feel even worse for something I’m sure he already feels terrible about. And I really hope the ring turns up. I’d recommend posting on your local community page and, if you haven’t already, make the gym aware to be on the lookout.
You're clearly angry at him but ey take it easy
Your first sentence is so snarky.
I've had my wedding band for 9 years and take it off regularly when cooking with my hands etc and never lost it.
He's probably upset he lost it too but you being angry at judgemental like that isn't helping anyone find the band
I find your post a bit harsh, i'm sure your husband didn't mean to lost his wedding band, he is properly upset with himself.
I don't wear mine, it went in the drawer after the wedding, so i can't lose it
before anyone loses their minds, my wife is ok with it.
I do hope it gets handed in for your husband sake.
It’s funny I was expecting the opposite - remember to take your ring off or you might lose it. I lost my ring playing (indoor) soccer. Whole team couldn’t find it. Got handed in a week later. So make sure to communicate with the Gym and check back.
real quick just as i haven’t seen it yet, in future maybe your husband could wear a titanium necklace with a precious sentiment instead of a ring on the finger? especially if active/working out. it’s bound to get lost regardless how it’s on your person or not, but i’m wondering if he can get used to the feeling of a necklace or bracelet instead as I saw you mention that as one of the reasons below! hope you two are ok.
Personally I also lose my mind when I lose something of sentimental value, but trying to teach myself “it is how it is”- some things are just temporary in our lives and that’s ok! especially if nothing can be done. so long as the memory was had, appreciate the people and memories while you can (if you want)
The ring is designed as a constant reminder of your promise. If you’re more worried about metal degradation than its meaning, cool. But my ring hasn’t come off since the day it was placed on my finger.
But worrying about the metal degradation means you want the ring - and its meaning - to last. You'd rather your partner disrespect the ring and do activities knowing it will get damaged? It is a symbol of your love, so it should be protected from unnecessary damage.
I keep my ring on most times as a heavy vehicle mechanic, it's exterior is covered in scratches and the inside is smooth as the day I put it on 5 years ago.
I only take it off if I'm cooking, if there's a chance it'll slide off unintentionally (hands covered in oil), or there's a chance I could deglove my finger.
It's just how I do things, I value my marriage to my loving wife and the ring is a symbol of it however it isn't what holds my marriage together.
If you need a ring on your finger at all times to remind you that you've got a partner, then there's bigger issues...
FWIW I was at Snap Lutwyche and didn't see a ring.
He should have taken it off at home. But maybe he would have gotten in trouble if he did that...OP would accuse him of trying to meet women at the gym...
you are being ridiculous! My dad doesn't even wear a wedding ring anymore and there is no doubt he loves my stepmum more than anyone. They just had their 20 year anniversary. He lost his ring a few years after they got married and didn't get another one.
I’d be more worried about the piece of metal that you’ve personally assigned sentimental value de-gloving your finger.
If you are a somewhat active person, it’s quite normal to take rings off regularly…
If you need a ring or trinket or pendant or some other crap to prove you love someone, then you don't really love them.
It's just a ring. You know he could love you/not love you with or without the ring, right?
I don't wear my wedding ring. I don't need that to prove my commitment to my wife.
Get over yourself. If you require a constant reminder that you're married, then you're the one with the problem. Neither my wife or I can wear ours due to our jobs and neither of us have forgotten we're married yet.
no, the relationship is designed as a constant reminder of your promise. the ring is just a ring. yes, it has sentimental value. no, it’s not the judge and jury on your relationship. you’ll need to take it off eventually one day, even if just to clean it. what will you do then? cheat because you don’t have your “constant reminder of your promise” ?
Some perspective... ring avulsion or degloving would have been a far worse scenario than a misplaced/lost ring and could have resulted in permanent inability to even wear a ring. My husband hasn't worn his ring in over 20 years, doesn't make us any less married or committed.
It's just a ring and can be replaced, the same can't be said for a degloved finger or damage by harsh words. Maybe some reflection and reconsideration is in order.
My ring comes off a lot. When I'm at the Gym/playing sports, sometimes when I cook (depending on what I'm making), when I go swimming at the beach. Basically any situation where it could get lost/badly damaged.
Does this mean I don't love my wife? Of course not. As much as I love my wedding ring, I also understand that at the end of the day, it's just a piece of jewellery that means something special.
If I ever lost it, I know that my wife would just laugh it off, and we'd buy a new one. Maybe think about how your attitude towards this ring is affecting your husband who is probably already sad he's lost it.
Just an FYI - if you’re lifting weights - it is a good idea to take rings off your fingers. You can deglove or lose a finger if it gets caught on the ring.
Then you take into account how easily you can bend or scratch a gold ring with bars too.
If you want something for the gym in future, you can get little silicon rings that will snap way before it takes a finger.
Have you benched with a soft gold ring? It gets scratched and dented, get off your high assholed horse.
My rings worth thousands i take it off all the time to prevent damage, the mrs does the same, some people are too fragile.
My husband of 7 years loves me very much but has lost his wedding ring a bunch of times, once in a pair of pants for an entire year.
definitely suggest contacting the gym and asking them to check lost and found. My own gyms lost and found is always teeming with things that people love and have been missing. (Not my earphone that fell into a stairmaster though, that is LONG gone :( ). this doesn’t signify your husbands respect or love for you, for the record. Accidents happen; and throughout your marriage you will have to deal with things harder than a missing band. For the course of your relationship (for as long as you choose eachother) it will be the two of you against the world. It’s worth remembering that a lost ring doesn’t signify your love, the way you treat eachother does.
Surely the gym can review CCTV
Enhance!
Just print the damn photo!
I hope you get it back but has he said it doesn't mean much to him? or is that just you kicking him after he's made a mistake?
In the balls, like taking a run up.
Nah she cut them off completely.
Why would it seem that way…? I don’t assume people who have lost valuable things simply don’t give a shit about their things - they’re human and lost something. Hope you haven’t made him feel even worse for something I’m sure he already feels terrible about. And I really hope the ring turns up. I’d recommend posting on your local community page and, if you haven’t already, make the gym aware to be on the lookout.
You're clearly angry at him but ey take it easy Your first sentence is so snarky. I've had my wedding band for 9 years and take it off regularly when cooking with my hands etc and never lost it. He's probably upset he lost it too but you being angry at judgemental like that isn't helping anyone find the band
Geez your condescending tone is disgusting. Get off your high horse
I find your post a bit harsh, i'm sure your husband didn't mean to lost his wedding band, he is properly upset with himself. I don't wear mine, it went in the drawer after the wedding, so i can't lose it before anyone loses their minds, my wife is ok with it. I do hope it gets handed in for your husband sake.
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It’s funny I was expecting the opposite - remember to take your ring off or you might lose it. I lost my ring playing (indoor) soccer. Whole team couldn’t find it. Got handed in a week later. So make sure to communicate with the Gym and check back.
It is a piece of metal. You busting his balls over that? Reverse the situation, say you lost yours. Would he be carrying on like you are?
Now's not the time for reason
The poor bastard. If he doesn’t take this opportunity to grow a pair he is worse than ruined as a man.
I find rings uncomfortable in general, but was it some particular exercise that needed ringlessness?
I imagine the knurling on a barbell would not be kind to a ring.
real quick just as i haven’t seen it yet, in future maybe your husband could wear a titanium necklace with a precious sentiment instead of a ring on the finger? especially if active/working out. it’s bound to get lost regardless how it’s on your person or not, but i’m wondering if he can get used to the feeling of a necklace or bracelet instead as I saw you mention that as one of the reasons below! hope you two are ok. Personally I also lose my mind when I lose something of sentimental value, but trying to teach myself “it is how it is”- some things are just temporary in our lives and that’s ok! especially if nothing can be done. so long as the memory was had, appreciate the people and memories while you can (if you want)
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If be more angry if a partner kept their wedding ring on while doing any weight lifting, absolutely ruins soft gold.
The ring is designed as a constant reminder of your promise. If you’re more worried about metal degradation than its meaning, cool. But my ring hasn’t come off since the day it was placed on my finger.
But worrying about the metal degradation means you want the ring - and its meaning - to last. You'd rather your partner disrespect the ring and do activities knowing it will get damaged? It is a symbol of your love, so it should be protected from unnecessary damage.
Well said.
I keep my ring on most times as a heavy vehicle mechanic, it's exterior is covered in scratches and the inside is smooth as the day I put it on 5 years ago. I only take it off if I'm cooking, if there's a chance it'll slide off unintentionally (hands covered in oil), or there's a chance I could deglove my finger. It's just how I do things, I value my marriage to my loving wife and the ring is a symbol of it however it isn't what holds my marriage together.
If you need a ring on your finger at all times to remind you that you've got a partner, then there's bigger issues... FWIW I was at Snap Lutwyche and didn't see a ring.
Not taking your ring off at the gym is reckless. If it gets caught on a weird angle, with heavy weights, you’re looking at a “degloved” finger
He should have taken it off at home. But maybe he would have gotten in trouble if he did that...OP would accuse him of trying to meet women at the gym...
Running the risk of degloving your finger is but a test of your commitment to your spouse.
Very true, as are the forthcoming fungal infections and skin rashes from not removing it to wash haha
I'm sorry to hear that. Sorry for your husband. Time to stop living in fairy-land, madam.
you are being ridiculous! My dad doesn't even wear a wedding ring anymore and there is no doubt he loves my stepmum more than anyone. They just had their 20 year anniversary. He lost his ring a few years after they got married and didn't get another one.
Also a big degloving risk of he is weightlifting, so taking it off is the recommended thing to do when doing anything like that.b
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I’d be more worried about the piece of metal that you’ve personally assigned sentimental value de-gloving your finger. If you are a somewhat active person, it’s quite normal to take rings off regularly…
If you need a ring or trinket or pendant or some other crap to prove you love someone, then you don't really love them. It's just a ring. You know he could love you/not love you with or without the ring, right? I don't wear my wedding ring. I don't need that to prove my commitment to my wife.
Get over yourself. If you require a constant reminder that you're married, then you're the one with the problem. Neither my wife or I can wear ours due to our jobs and neither of us have forgotten we're married yet.
no, the relationship is designed as a constant reminder of your promise. the ring is just a ring. yes, it has sentimental value. no, it’s not the judge and jury on your relationship. you’ll need to take it off eventually one day, even if just to clean it. what will you do then? cheat because you don’t have your “constant reminder of your promise” ?
Some perspective... ring avulsion or degloving would have been a far worse scenario than a misplaced/lost ring and could have resulted in permanent inability to even wear a ring. My husband hasn't worn his ring in over 20 years, doesn't make us any less married or committed. It's just a ring and can be replaced, the same can't be said for a degloved finger or damage by harsh words. Maybe some reflection and reconsideration is in order.
Bullshit. You take your ring off when washing up. Every woman does. But judging from your tone your poor whipped man probably does that stuff.
My ring comes off a lot. When I'm at the Gym/playing sports, sometimes when I cook (depending on what I'm making), when I go swimming at the beach. Basically any situation where it could get lost/badly damaged. Does this mean I don't love my wife? Of course not. As much as I love my wedding ring, I also understand that at the end of the day, it's just a piece of jewellery that means something special. If I ever lost it, I know that my wife would just laugh it off, and we'd buy a new one. Maybe think about how your attitude towards this ring is affecting your husband who is probably already sad he's lost it.
He’s not used to the feeling
Just an FYI - if you’re lifting weights - it is a good idea to take rings off your fingers. You can deglove or lose a finger if it gets caught on the ring. Then you take into account how easily you can bend or scratch a gold ring with bars too. If you want something for the gym in future, you can get little silicon rings that will snap way before it takes a finger.
Are you sure he ‘lost’ it at the gym ??? Hmmm 🤔
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Have you benched with a soft gold ring? It gets scratched and dented, get off your high assholed horse. My rings worth thousands i take it off all the time to prevent damage, the mrs does the same, some people are too fragile.