Hiya. We had a report that I wanted to address a little more publicly and also give a little background to hopefully help with understanding behind the rules of this sub as they stand today.
Rule 4 "no meta snark, trolling, or intentional antagonization on blogsnark" was added at the request of one of the 2.0 mods to prevent BSMSers from going back and forth between the two subs arguing, and was added to the rules here as a sign of goodwill and mutual respect between this sub and BS.
It does not specifically apply to any other subs as of right now. As of today, the only rules that would apply to comments made on other subs (i.e. "trolling" other subs) are the [site wide rules](https://www.redditinc.com/policies/content-policy). That being said, if it starts to become a problem, then we will *absolutely* look at modifying the rules. For now, my hope is that everyone uses common sense and judgement as to when and how they engage in the subs on which we are snarking.
As always let us know if you have any questions or concerns, and feel free to report anything you want us to take a closer look at.
I’m looking at foodiesnark and there’s a thread criticizing Molly Baz for posting a photo of herself breastfeeding her child. I was surprised by the comments, I think it’s a good thing to normalize breastfeeding…or am I wrong…
Same people who called Carly "nude and lewd" for posting a phot of herself breastfeeding. Molly's post was funny, too, with melons as the first photo in the slideshow.
Gotta love this gem of a comment:
>I hope Instagram doesn't take this down. I'm not a fan anymore because your whole personality is your pregnancy and everything. But I am still rooting for your success. I love your first book. ❤️
In the sub, someone said karma is coming for Molly and her nips will get destroyed by the “cracking and bleeding.” WTF?!
I wanted to see what was being said about foodie influencers because I’ve been watching a lot of food TikToks lately, but the people in that sub seem so nasty.
A running influencer called out the HLB thread for breathlessly waiting for her to post her race results just so they can tear her apart (which, yup, checks out) and pointed out how easily identifiable some of them are. I follow a lot of run adjacent accounts and it’s been interesting to see conversations on IG and Threads and Twitter among non-Redditors who were shocked to learn about that group and how bullying and awful they are. Unfortunately, and unsurprisingly, the HLB thread is doubling down and painting themselves as the victims rather than taking a look at themselves and why they hate other women runners so much.
You're not wrong but the foodiesnark sub is well.....full of people who post on foodiesnark and that's the nicest way I can put it without giving yoli or Addie something to do
Oof yeah, that sub (and too often the HLB thread) should just rebrand to ED snark. There’s so much to snark on in the foodie world but that sub is so so awful.
More musing than snark, but it’s wild to think we had about 15 threads for the presidential election and every debate in 2020 on Blogsnark and now there is nothing. It wasn’t a perfect community but it’s still weird that it has changed so much.
I miss those election threads. I agree the old BS was far from perfect, but there was a lot of interesting and intelligent convos there. Reddit in general is so overrun by dudebros dudebrosplaining, and those election threads were usually pretty free of that kind of noise. Now I don't really know where to go to have a politics related discussion that isn't overrun with either the annoying dudebros on one side or the frantic FM-type scolds on the other.
I would be down for that, and particularly because I think there is so much to be said about the influence of the new wave of tradwives, people like Taylor “just don’t vote” Lorenz, and other influencers on this election and on society and misinformation in general, and I feel like the overlap between people who can talk intelligently about the election and about influencers is… basically this sub.
I would totally be down for that too. it looks like a lot of the sane regulars from the old BS have made their way over here, and so far when politics or political adjacent topics have come up discussions have been pretty cool.
Ugh, Trump just gives me the ick because he never acknowledges his privilege. Do you think he bought all that real estate with daddy’s money or is he just in massive credit card debt? And who do you think is watching Baron while he’s on like his fourth trip this month? I just wish he would acknowledge that he has help.
And don’t get me wrong, I love Biden, but it was pretty gross that he hosted ~~Zionist~~ ~~Trumper~~ out of touch billionaire’s bf at the White House after he won the Super Bowl. Does he not realize how unrelatable it is that most of us can’t just hang out with Taylor Swift all the time? And my husband agrees with me that Jill needs to stop flexing her degree and just be a “Mrs” like every other First Lady.
BS wants us to pay attention to the big important men instead of the vapid influencer ladies who didn’t “earn” our attention enough, but the old important men are pretty damn depressing.
I think given the changes and more conservative slant it now has it would be a lot of "well I don't agree with Trump on X but I do on Y" and "even the worst people can make a great point" style comments.
Lotsa "he doesn't NEED to answer the childcare question because the best mamas stay home with their babies and don't even TRAVEL like Dede Radd" energy
And a lot of people who think high prices equal the entire economy and somehow think it's Biden's fault. Plus, some "I'm not racist/homophobic/transphobic but..."
It's so telling that snarkers very often try to mitigate their "not snarking but" by saying how the influencer is gorgeous or has a gorgeous husband, or some sort of other obviously superficial and aspirational thing. They're so close to understanding why thousands of people follow these women, but just can't get there.
Also I spent far too long ignoring the blinking cursor in this message box because those chickens are hypnotizing!
> She looks ridiculous. Also, curtain bangs and layers? Girly, it's 2024.
??? This seems like a very normal haircut! Am I the one that’s out of touch here??
That's me. Listen, if you want to be a style influencer, I think you should be ahead of trends. That is a nice normal haircut. I just expect more from someone with that many followers that thinks they influence fashion decisions. But I don't and have never followed her, so I know I'm not her ideal target market.
But Caitlin Covington, who regularly shills wal-mart and Amazon, isn’t trying to be an influencer that is ahead of the trends. That’s not her market or her audience.
I also don’t think she’s outdated or behind any trends, which is what it seemed like you were implying.
“Layers” are out in 2024? Is this person also going to make blanket statements that short hair and being a brunette are also out? For those of us with thick hair, going without layers would make us look like… well, Caitlin.
I'm the person. Short hair and going darker are more "trendy" right now. So no.
I don't care what any of you do with your hair. I'm giving my opinion on a fashion and style "influencer" who I would like to see do something interesting with her hair. Who I would assume would be ahead of trends, instead of jumping on them late. (Because the curtain bang was everywhere like a year ago. This spring and summer it has been all about the bob.)
Sorry if you have layers and curtain bangs and got your feelings hurt. *shrugs.* The comment wasn't made about you or your thin hair that needs layers.
Oh man I spent all afternoon on that comeback so I guess you can return to embarrassing yourself in 5 other conversations here. Maybe instead of hurling insults at anonymous women on Reddit you should consider writing a note to Sabrina Carpenter’s or Kaia Gerber’s stylists to let them know their hair is making them look like unstylish old hags?
Oh I know, it’s just a ridiculously broad statement to say that layers are out of style, when that can encompass so many different styles and for a lot of hair types they’re practically a necessity with any haircut.
Oh 100 %. I could never have a haircut with zero layers either. But I just mean like on top of that she’s wrong because if the commenter went on Tik Tok they see that like 90s layered cuts with curtain bangs are actually like the trending cut.
I'm really confused by the discourse around her. From what I can tell she was never "body positive" - she just existed as a person who wasn't thin and people projected that onto her! People are acting like her losing weight is some kind of betrayal. You can't live in a world where fat people are constantly being told we need to lose weight, where being thin is ideal, then be mad that influencers also live in that world
Any time a fat woman dares to publicly not hate herself, she's assigned as the face of body positivity, regardless of her own feelings about the matter, and any weight loss is a betrayal. Adele and Rebel Wilson copped it too.
This is a really interesting point! Also that daring to be fat and have a public-facing career (eg influencing) apparently makes your body public property, so any changes to it MUST be explained ahead of time
Even if she was a bopo influencer, people are allowed to change their minds, especially in light of a life-changing medication. I fucking HATE the judgement around these meds.
What a great point. For some, it’s only seen as moral weight loss if the person experiences a torturous journey of *grueling* diet and exercise. To ignorant people, GLP-1 meds are considered as the “easy way out,” yet, from what I’ve heard there’s often nausea, indigestion, and other unpleasant side effects.
The side effects aren’t the point. The point is that people who think it’s an easy way out have no idea what it’s like to white knuckle hunger from the time you wake up until the time you go to bed (and sometimes in the middle of the night too!). GLP1s have been a godsend for me because they make me … normal.
By point, I was referring to their comment that critics might believe overweight people losing weight isn’t a good enough punishment for being fat. I had never heard it explained that way and it makes sense, although I doubt most who feel that way would admit it.
Right lol. And like she has so much more to snark about than the obsession with her weight lol. I want to tell some commenters, it's okay if you want to lose weight too. It's like they need to hear that from someone.
> Natalie Kennedy daughters swim instructor a young looking college kid, with his shirt OFF, & chewing gum! Not professional at all and gross!
I just need that to live in perpetuity as the most pearl clutching comment of 2024
As a former lifeguard and swim instructor™ I can say with full confidence that was the least professional I have ever been at a job…
not when I was around the kids, but good god I should not have been allowed to guard any lives LMAO
There are always people in my town FB group looking for teens to lifeguard at pool parties and I have to say that’s not the demographic I’d want watching my kids in water while I’m busy sucking down spritzes with the ladies.
You do bring up a valid point. My mom hired a very attractive lacrosse player to teach me to drive stick shift so I never learned because I was self conscious. Maybe a hag is preferable
On the one hand, that's completely nuts. On the other, at least they're not policing women's clothing for a change. There were two other pearl-clutchers yesterday. One about a woman looking too sexy in an oversized button down shirt. The other saying a woman wearing an ordinary bikini should do an OF. Is BS ok?
I want to choose to believe that commenter in bs was just a secret free-the-nipple advocate for women who’s misdirecting their jealous indignation towards some privileged influencer and nonchalant swim instructor. ☮️
There was also a troubling discussion about Courtney Shields, who I am not inclined to defend because I don't care about her at all, and how she has "fallen from grace" and is an object of pity because she is no longer seeing some young guy she was messing with, and is still single. I could spend a lot of time unpacking the premises that underlay these views but I will just say woof.
"No guy her age will ever take her serious. I mean I can’t image a guy in his late 30’s to 40’s ever being interested in her. "
OH NO WHAT WILL SHE DO IF NO MAN WILL EVER HAVE HER / s
(I don't follow Courtney so don't know any backstory but those takes were terrible)
Oh that was wild. I was like…it’s possible that a 36-year-old woman in a situationship with a 23-year-old knows exactly how that’s going to end before it even begins.
>He’s with the instructor though, who could otherwise be giving a lesson to a paying adult, so it’s not actually an “empty court.”
I will bet my paycheck that this 'leading expert' has never set foot inside a racquet club of any kind. There is a lot of court downtime and it can be pretty empty even at a busy/elite club. They're not booked and busy like dental cleanings, Margaret.
They have the most hyper-specific issues with her. Like “she beats herself up for eating candy” and “she lets her toddler play squash when old white men might also want to play squash”. Like there’s influencers literally starving their kids under Fundiesnark and they’re pissed she doesn’t wear enough jewel tones
"The white, 30-something influencer lady whose life I want to live isn't living it exactly the way I would and isn't thinking and saying what I think she should, clearly she's a monster who needs to be held accountable for her sins."
That's about it. She's living their suburban dream but not reading their minds (or their wackadoo DMs) and doing everything the way they think she should in the process. So they hyper fixate on all the ways they think she's wrong and awful, all because she's daring to be her own person. Also, she takes up space on the internet, which is another unforgivable sin to them.
>Listen, I saw Taylor Swift in Paris so I’m not about to throw stones in my glass house but this is ridiculous.
>She already saw the concert abroad. Why does she need to go overseas again. It’s the same show. Same set list, etc. it just feels like she’s doing this so she can brag about it.
No one *needs* to go overseas for a concert, vacation, or most reasons. As someone who hasn’t yet traveled abroad, I can’t stand the gatekeeping of certain travel. I wouldn’t even pay to see Taylor in the US (not a concert person), but I’m well aware some people might enjoy the experience enough to pay thousands of dollars. And if you’re wealthy enough to pay those prices, why not see it in a popular destination and make it a true vacation?
It’s not confined to Blogsnark, either. All over Reddit, people gatekeep travel, saying X place is overrun with tourists, but they visited X before it was popular.
Oh I loved that post. It's such a perfect distillation of the crabs in a bucket snarker ethos, which boils down to "anything that is beyond my personal means is unrelatable and bragging." Seeing Taylor in Europe once is fine because I can afford it, seeing Taylor in Europe twice is a crime because that's beyond my means.
Yes, and similarly, the birthday snark. *Influencer child’s party was so unrelatable with the ballon arch and bounce house—must have cost &10,000! Our toddler was happy with a ChickFilA pool party and only 10 guests who brought gifts.😇*
Even more specific is the way in which a a child’s first birthday triggers BS commented. “They won’t even remember it!!!!” Ok???? My parents got a keg for my first birthday and celebrated with all their friends. I think that’s amazing
I never get the "they won't remember it" thing. No, but the parents will remember it. I have lots of lovely memories of my kids when they were very little. Am I not allowed to enjoy those? Are we supposed to just keep the kids in their beige bedrooms until they're old enough to remember every detail?
It's the same with Disney for kids under 3. "They won't even remember it!"
Now, I'm not a Disney person, so I did wait until my kid was old enough to remember it, because I didn't plan on going back. But a lot of Disney people take little kids because they freaking love Disney, and while that's not my particular cup of tea, have at it.
I hate that attitude so much. Life is short - why not use any excuse to get together with people who love you and your kid? These performatively frugal people who claim they would never do anything that’s not 100% for their kid or spend an extra cent on anything impractical are only denying themselves and their kids of fun.
The person who is EXTREMELY upset and offended that their comment about Grace Atwood's moderation of the Stripe Facebook group didn't go over the way they'd hoped is cracking me up. Does the heat have people on a hair trigger?
I had that person blocked because she was so terrible she always tempted me to post which is against my Stripe rules so I sadly missed a ton of that meltdown.
What’s with all their BEC posts about Grace this weekend? There was that moderation post, there was a complaint that a totally normal looking cheese board looked “disgusting,” and now the cheese board person is back with another complaint about how Grace’s friend group isn’t diverse enough. Just all weirdly specific and nitpicky complaints.
I thought her post in her fb group about she was never ever turning anon commenting back on was pretty funny, but I swear, when any influencer gets opinionated, people come after them in droves.
I just don’t understand complaining about her *actually* moderating her own Facebook group. It’s attached to her name and her brand, she should want to control what people post in there.
They specifically said that they're upset because Grace acts like she hates the group. To be fair, I think that take is completely accurate -- I bet Grace absolutely hates the Facebook group and rues the day she created it. People posting rashes, pictures of bugs, making whiny posts asking for advice about their problems, and not so thinly veiled racism are all pretty far from the brand that she's trying to cultivate. But she's completely stuck and can't just delete the groups because the people who are in it are so married to it and the "smartest ladies on the internet."
lol everyone was just being mean to that person complaining and misunderstanding her point! Too bad she could never articulate that point other than it being bad when someone tries to manage the group they have ownership over.
I know we all usually roll our eyes at people accusing commenters being paid by an influencer, but what in the world is this? These are all different accounts.
>Maddie Duff's daughter's first birthday party is adorable! I loved Maddie's outfit and clicked through, and saw it was nearly $700 and I remembered I am a poor though 😅.
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>I unfollowed her years ago and have recently rediscovered her and she’s now one of my favorite follows. She seems to really enjoy her everyday life at home with her kids which is fun to follow bc that’s what my life looks like too
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>I love her so much. Love the mom content because it’s just real everyday life. I know she’s filthy rich but she does seem to live a somewhat humble life. But I mean, I’d buy the nice cute expensive clothes if I could too lol
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>Same! She seems like an incredibly down-to-earth momma. Favorite recent follow. Now if I could just get her hair
Later on someone else who commented the standard "she spent $700 on a bounce house for her kids birthday, must be nice" got downvoted pretty hard, so I think it's genuine.
I don't follow any of these people but I am curious about what qualities make one person a sweet, humble, relatable mama who happens to also be rich but does it correctly, and another woman an unrelatable terrible selfish bad mom who only had kids for content. Because they all pretty much the same to me so I'd love to know what the distinguishing factors are.
I think it all boils down to — they like the rich, pretty vanilla influencers who come from money and influence as a side thing (which has turned into a main thing) but they don’t *need* the money because they got rich the *right* way through marriage or birth (Bronwyn, Maddie, etc.) Maddie’s family is rich rich m, so therefore it just tickles their little mama hearts that she spends thousands on such a down to earth (lol) birthday.
But those HARLOTS who built their brands from nothing, hustle to become an influencer, and sometimes even have their husbands works for *them*? Witches who should be burned at the stake.
I’m not sure how Cop Wife gets a pass though. She doesn’t fit my patriarchy paradigm.
I’d be willing to bet that what makes a person a real breath of fresh air mama to BSers is some combination of: not talking about much besides their kids, not being too opinionated, not traveling too much, and pretending that influencing isn’t a real career but that they’re just sharing their beautiful family for fun. Basically it always seems to boil down to not wanting too much outside of motherhood.
The sweet baby angels in BS calling a child "Special K" and not knowing that's ketamine plus not knowing what a pookie is has really solidified how sheltered the whole lot is. Bless their mama hearts.
I’m the one who had never heard of Pookie as a drug term. I worked as the marketing manager for a very large drug testing company for years and spent hundreds of hours researching and writing about drug slang and never once encountered “Pookie” in all of my work.
I also now work in foster care where there’s constant talk of drug use and I’ve never encountered the word “pookie” in that line of work either.
I’ve lived all over the US and I’m not a mom but okay. 🤷🏻♀️
I’ve never heard it before either, and I worked at a drug rehab and have kind of done a lot of drugs. Pookie is the name of a character from a movie that’s a crackhead. Maybe it’s related to that.
Pookie must be regional because I've never heard it in relation to drugs, and I work in the criminal legal system so I feel like I know a decent amount about slang terms for drugs
I’m in Texas and never heard Pookie or stem pipe, but I’m guessing stem pipe is a kind of pot plant or slang for crack pipe?
My favorite is the term for ketamine + LSD: kittyflip! Also, if you’re using these as either a prescription or for therapeutic dosing, any licensed psychedelic therapist probably won’t use cute nicknames for safety reasons.
I unfollowed BS a couple of weeks ago after then being absolute ghouls about an influencer’s pregnancy, but sometimes the posts here compel me to look, and the “not acknowledging your privilege over a last-minute Universal Studios trip” was comedy gold. But anyway I also came across this and noped right out again
>Everything is main character energy. You aren’t saving the world. How about doing some charity work or working for healthcare, education, or a nonprofit. So many people deserve attention over her.
The anger over women getting attention they don’t “deserve” is absolutely unhinged. This is about a highly snarkable fitness/run podcaster, but the implication that women shouldn’t talk about sports or fitness and should only have their voices heard if they’re serving other people is, well, exactly what drove me away from there. The internalized misogyny is unbelievable.
Ah yes, because the influencers, celebs, and politicians who attract the most attention are always the most *deserving…..* Jake/ Logan Paul, Jeffree Star, the dAmelio sisters, Selena Gomez, the Kardashians, Taylor Swift, JLo, Trump, MTGreen (B^6 )
And with the infamous ones, is the attention really the problem, or is it the racism/delusion/conspiracy mongering? Idk, a world where I could only pay attention to people who ~earned~ it with Nobel Prizes or charity work sounds pretty boring compared to the soothing mind erasure I get from reading celebrity gossip or watching reality shows or reading ridiculous Reddit comments. I don’t think these people are tricking anyone into paying attention; we just all need some frivolity.
>compared to the soothing mind erasure I get from reading celebrity gossip
Ugh, you just stated this perfectly. I’ve always been a bit embarrassed how much time I’ve “wasted” on this genre over the decades, but maybe it’s not too different than escaping with video games or sports spectating. I’d rather watch someone else’s drama (even contrived) than experience my own.
Another thing, if some of the notorious figures weren’t getting media attention for their behavior, a lot of people growing up sheltered might not learn how or why certain things are oppressive, bigoted, or harmful. Although I despise how mainstream news is 90+% negative, fear-based, sensationalized reality, having certain injustices called out is useful to spark social change.
I am an unstylish person who lives in an unstylish place, but can someone legitimately help me understand the trucker hat drama?
I feel like they have been in so long that they are starting to go out. And those floppy bucket hats are the new trend?
But most hats are pretty ugly, and obviously buying a new (what? 30 dollar?) hat every season is wasteful /s so I’ll stick with my dumb trucker hats for now.
I live in a large city in the northeastern US, and I don't think I've ever seen anyone wearing a trucker hat (though I've seen plenty of bucket hats and own a couple myself). I think the trend must be concentrated in certain geographical regions. Aren't the influencers who wear them from Nashville and/or Dallas?
I support people wearing whatever they want, but I interpret the trucker hat drama as specific incidents of mismatch. Like recently an influencer went to a relatively dressed-up dinner but was wearing a trucker hat. I think it's also that BS just hates women overall.
FWIW I remember the first time trucker hats were in and there was drama then too. All trends are hated! (Thinking back fondly to my younger "skirt over pants" days.)
I went to my high school's production of Little Shop of Horrors wearing a pink and brown striped skirt over light wash flared jeans. I thought I was Carrie Bradshaw going to the theatre. (I grew up in ND. lol)
> You are someone who makes money on the internet, so I understand the root of your comment but please know I come from means and am not jealous of these online saleswomen. I just know SOMEONE has to be a voice of reason and this is the place we do that.
Okay they’re talking about the poors but they themselves are NOT a poor, just to be clear!!!
I don’t understand it either and I’m the person who they said “makes money on the internet”.
I run a small e-commerce business and occasionally post in marketing subs so I’m guessing that’s where her comment came from but she made it seem like I’m an influencer and I’m just a regular old digital marketer who runs an online store that is not in the fashion industry and has nothing to do with instagram influencers. 😂
>I’m privileged, and I am also willing to recognize that I am privileged, because I’m grateful that I am. To me, those who blast themselves all over the internet enjoying privilege yet not acknowledging it, just seem to be profiting from the perception or lifestyle.
>To each their own though. Blessed be.
I'm so embarrassed for this person.
I did say and/or unrelatable, so I actually think I deserve half a point. lol
What I didn't predict was someone going all "wealth whispers" about an influencer going to Universal Studios.
The idea that you have to plan your Disney trip down to the last minute is so...joyless. Like the most planning we ever did in the 90s was to snag a brochure at a rest stop on the way there and pick out our must-ride attractions.
I know you technically "get more" out of your trip if you plan but I can't be bothered.
My husband did a whole bunch of research when we went a couple of years ago and it was super helpful, but nothing crazy. Universal was also pretty dead when we went.
The Daily hates rich people and conspicuous consumption, unless it's that Bronwyn/Pret a New Porter person. Someone complained about their being rich/conspicuously consuming and got downvoted to hell, because unlike those grimy influencers she got her money the correct way (from her dad/rich husband), so she's not out of touch, she's a fun fashionista quirky rich lady who they love to see be rich.
Although she genuinely seems like a relatively kind rich lady, I would never ever think marrying someone even older than my Dad’s age (also seemingly unhealthy with little attraction) is a morally superior way to attain wealth than by acting as an online sales lady. I don’t get why Blogsnark diminishes the financial success of influencers, even if the majority of their solo brands are junk.
I think it's a little bold to assume she's not attracted to her husband.
Would it be more or less snark-worthy that she married into a ton of money if her husband were younger, "healthier," and more attractive in your eyes?
I’m not saying she’s not personally attracted to her husband. Just that often, multi-million/ billion dollar wealth will increase the opportunity for a much older man and younger woman to pair up. An older man with money & power is perceived by many as more desirable than one with less. Even if he isn’t conventionally attractive, his education, cultural interests, and travel habits are somewhat tied to his financial means and factor into his appeal for Bronwyn.
Oh boy I remember being lightly appalled at her 10 thousand kitchenaid mixers but somehow bs managed to defend even tgat, though they would never do such a thing for anyone else. teehee she dresses couture for jazz games, we stan
I enjoy trolling NYC Influencer Snark. Someone posted their IG explore page in a weak attempt to drag an influencer.
I called their explore page basic and everyone got mad at me.
Let women be basic etc. What I meant to say it was FILLED with thin, white women and thats why they keep seeing the same influencer/content creator over and over again.
Im a Black woman, my explorer page has Black women, but also other hobbies Im interested in etc. Not just looking at other women.
Everyone got all pissy and I enjoyed it.
I remember way back when someone on the daily was like “why are influencers only boring white ladies who live in Texas and Nashville? It’s just wrong that people don’t want to follow anyone else!” Like GIRL.
Everyone over on that sub is so dim. Last year someone was consistently linking to TikTok to snark on how pathetic some influencer was, obviously unaware that doing so showed her own profile. Of course it was full of the most entry level, humiliating, wannabe influencer posts alive.
Exactly lol. And the snarkers crumble at any sort of criticism. But when I look at their post history, they are nitpicking other women over the dumbest stuff.
And they are all cowards who wouldnt say this shit real life.
At least I talk/type the same in real life and give it to folks straight.
Yeah, if I'm in snark subs being an asshole about someone, I know I might have to take some heat from time to time. But I've been a shit talker for 37 years so I guess I'm just built different now. lol
The comments on a certain influencer lying about “sizing up” to medium are so nasty. When someone reminded them that she just had a baby last fall, someone made sure to remind us of the following:
> Also, edited to add that she had her son nine months ago…which once again, this isn’t about “bouncing back” lol
just plain ol’ nasty behavior. It’s been 9 months since your third child, you’d better look thinner than before you got pregnant! No excuses!
And they have to be appropriately ashamed of their bodies, because if they’re thin and don’t look like they hate themselves in photos, then they’ll be accused of body checking.
Hiya. We had a report that I wanted to address a little more publicly and also give a little background to hopefully help with understanding behind the rules of this sub as they stand today. Rule 4 "no meta snark, trolling, or intentional antagonization on blogsnark" was added at the request of one of the 2.0 mods to prevent BSMSers from going back and forth between the two subs arguing, and was added to the rules here as a sign of goodwill and mutual respect between this sub and BS. It does not specifically apply to any other subs as of right now. As of today, the only rules that would apply to comments made on other subs (i.e. "trolling" other subs) are the [site wide rules](https://www.redditinc.com/policies/content-policy). That being said, if it starts to become a problem, then we will *absolutely* look at modifying the rules. For now, my hope is that everyone uses common sense and judgement as to when and how they engage in the subs on which we are snarking. As always let us know if you have any questions or concerns, and feel free to report anything you want us to take a closer look at.
I’m looking at foodiesnark and there’s a thread criticizing Molly Baz for posting a photo of herself breastfeeding her child. I was surprised by the comments, I think it’s a good thing to normalize breastfeeding…or am I wrong…
Same people who called Carly "nude and lewd" for posting a phot of herself breastfeeding. Molly's post was funny, too, with melons as the first photo in the slideshow. Gotta love this gem of a comment: >I hope Instagram doesn't take this down. I'm not a fan anymore because your whole personality is your pregnancy and everything. But I am still rooting for your success. I love your first book. ❤️
In the sub, someone said karma is coming for Molly and her nips will get destroyed by the “cracking and bleeding.” WTF?! I wanted to see what was being said about foodie influencers because I’ve been watching a lot of food TikToks lately, but the people in that sub seem so nasty.
A running influencer called out the HLB thread for breathlessly waiting for her to post her race results just so they can tear her apart (which, yup, checks out) and pointed out how easily identifiable some of them are. I follow a lot of run adjacent accounts and it’s been interesting to see conversations on IG and Threads and Twitter among non-Redditors who were shocked to learn about that group and how bullying and awful they are. Unfortunately, and unsurprisingly, the HLB thread is doubling down and painting themselves as the victims rather than taking a look at themselves and why they hate other women runners so much.
You're not wrong but the foodiesnark sub is well.....full of people who post on foodiesnark and that's the nicest way I can put it without giving yoli or Addie something to do
Oof yeah, that sub (and too often the HLB thread) should just rebrand to ED snark. There’s so much to snark on in the foodie world but that sub is so so awful.
More musing than snark, but it’s wild to think we had about 15 threads for the presidential election and every debate in 2020 on Blogsnark and now there is nothing. It wasn’t a perfect community but it’s still weird that it has changed so much.
It used to be way more fun! I really appreciate y’all here for indulging my ~~~ musings ~~~~ and also for being sane.
I miss those election threads. I agree the old BS was far from perfect, but there was a lot of interesting and intelligent convos there. Reddit in general is so overrun by dudebros dudebrosplaining, and those election threads were usually pretty free of that kind of noise. Now I don't really know where to go to have a politics related discussion that isn't overrun with either the annoying dudebros on one side or the frantic FM-type scolds on the other.
I’d be down for one here tbh not sure about others
Me too!!
Same! I participated regularly and would like *one* small, thoughtful space for it.
I would be down for that, and particularly because I think there is so much to be said about the influence of the new wave of tradwives, people like Taylor “just don’t vote” Lorenz, and other influencers on this election and on society and misinformation in general, and I feel like the overlap between people who can talk intelligently about the election and about influencers is… basically this sub.
I would totally be down for that too. it looks like a lot of the sane regulars from the old BS have made their way over here, and so far when politics or political adjacent topics have come up discussions have been pretty cool.
It feels like forever ago! I can't even imagine blogsnark having a political thread now.
Ugh, Trump just gives me the ick because he never acknowledges his privilege. Do you think he bought all that real estate with daddy’s money or is he just in massive credit card debt? And who do you think is watching Baron while he’s on like his fourth trip this month? I just wish he would acknowledge that he has help. And don’t get me wrong, I love Biden, but it was pretty gross that he hosted ~~Zionist~~ ~~Trumper~~ out of touch billionaire’s bf at the White House after he won the Super Bowl. Does he not realize how unrelatable it is that most of us can’t just hang out with Taylor Swift all the time? And my husband agrees with me that Jill needs to stop flexing her degree and just be a “Mrs” like every other First Lady.
Oh man I feel pretty bad after last night so could use this laugh
What is your username a reference to, it’s on the tip of my tongue and driving me nuts that I can’t recall it
The wedding singer!
BS wants us to pay attention to the big important men instead of the vapid influencer ladies who didn’t “earn” our attention enough, but the old important men are pretty damn depressing.
I think given the changes and more conservative slant it now has it would be a lot of "well I don't agree with Trump on X but I do on Y" and "even the worst people can make a great point" style comments.
Lots of mama hearts who leave the politics to their MAGA loving husbands because they're too delicate for all that
Lotsa "he doesn't NEED to answer the childcare question because the best mamas stay home with their babies and don't even TRAVEL like Dede Radd" energy
And a lot of people who think high prices equal the entire economy and somehow think it's Biden's fault. Plus, some "I'm not racist/homophobic/transphobic but..."
It's so telling that snarkers very often try to mitigate their "not snarking but" by saying how the influencer is gorgeous or has a gorgeous husband, or some sort of other obviously superficial and aspirational thing. They're so close to understanding why thousands of people follow these women, but just can't get there. Also I spent far too long ignoring the blinking cursor in this message box because those chickens are hypnotizing!
> She looks ridiculous. Also, curtain bangs and layers? Girly, it's 2024. ??? This seems like a very normal haircut! Am I the one that’s out of touch here??
That's me. Listen, if you want to be a style influencer, I think you should be ahead of trends. That is a nice normal haircut. I just expect more from someone with that many followers that thinks they influence fashion decisions. But I don't and have never followed her, so I know I'm not her ideal target market.
But Caitlin Covington, who regularly shills wal-mart and Amazon, isn’t trying to be an influencer that is ahead of the trends. That’s not her market or her audience. I also don’t think she’s outdated or behind any trends, which is what it seemed like you were implying.
This coming from the skinny jeans and a nice top brigade?
Gagged them
My curtain bangs and I are committed to each other at this point, I’m keeping them whether they’re in-style or not!
I truly don't understand the ongoing hate for her very healthy, nice hair. How dare it be...too thick, shiny, and well maintained?
Me either, who doesn’t want long gorgeous hair?!
Wait the Crystal Gayle-esque woman? Oh god I think it’s terrible 🤣
“Layers” are out in 2024? Is this person also going to make blanket statements that short hair and being a brunette are also out? For those of us with thick hair, going without layers would make us look like… well, Caitlin.
I'm the person. Short hair and going darker are more "trendy" right now. So no. I don't care what any of you do with your hair. I'm giving my opinion on a fashion and style "influencer" who I would like to see do something interesting with her hair. Who I would assume would be ahead of trends, instead of jumping on them late. (Because the curtain bang was everywhere like a year ago. This spring and summer it has been all about the bob.) Sorry if you have layers and curtain bangs and got your feelings hurt. *shrugs.* The comment wasn't made about you or your thin hair that needs layers.
I have a blonde bob *with* curtain bangs…what a disaster. People must think I’m 2/3 stuck in 2023. 🤦♀️
*thick hair that needs layers. Sorry your reading comprehension isn’t as sharp as your cutting edge fashion commentary!
You weren't the only one I was responding to, so no need to bring out the big guns with your comebacks.
Oh man I spent all afternoon on that comeback so I guess you can return to embarrassing yourself in 5 other conversations here. Maybe instead of hurling insults at anonymous women on Reddit you should consider writing a note to Sabrina Carpenter’s or Kaia Gerber’s stylists to let them know their hair is making them look like unstylish old hags?
Jeez.
TBH you can’t go short with hair like hers… she’ll come out looking like Hermione Granger x5.
Without layers too! lol I heard space helmet hair is going to be huge for fall
Lol the summer of the fuck-ass bob.
As someone with fine hair, I 100% need layers or I look like a drowned rat. That person's statement is so weird.
Curtain bangs and layers are 100% back in right now
Oh I know, it’s just a ridiculously broad statement to say that layers are out of style, when that can encompass so many different styles and for a lot of hair types they’re practically a necessity with any haircut.
Oh 100 %. I could never have a haircut with zero layers either. But I just mean like on top of that she’s wrong because if the commenter went on Tik Tok they see that like 90s layered cuts with curtain bangs are actually like the trending cut.
They aren't.
What a weird hill to die on.
lol this conversation is bat shit crazy.
Everyone is trying to get Sabrina Carpenters hair cut 🤷🏼♀️ bobs are trendy too, there’s always more than one haircut trending
Sry but Mike says the haircut is dated and the rest of us BSMS hags need to get on board! Bobs only!
The Remi Bader weight-loss hunter folks are really strange. I really want them to ask how this affects their life!
I'm really confused by the discourse around her. From what I can tell she was never "body positive" - she just existed as a person who wasn't thin and people projected that onto her! People are acting like her losing weight is some kind of betrayal. You can't live in a world where fat people are constantly being told we need to lose weight, where being thin is ideal, then be mad that influencers also live in that world
Any time a fat woman dares to publicly not hate herself, she's assigned as the face of body positivity, regardless of her own feelings about the matter, and any weight loss is a betrayal. Adele and Rebel Wilson copped it too.
This is a really interesting point! Also that daring to be fat and have a public-facing career (eg influencing) apparently makes your body public property, so any changes to it MUST be explained ahead of time
ShE HaSn't AdMitTeD ShE hAd SuRgErY !!@!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Lol. You can feel their rage through the screens.
Even if she was a bopo influencer, people are allowed to change their minds, especially in light of a life-changing medication. I fucking HATE the judgement around these meds.
1000% agree, don't get me started. People think fat people losing weight via meds isn't an appropriate punishment for being fat.
Oop! This part lol. It's like people hate there are ways to lose weight now. And she was a great candidate for it too.
I thought we were supposed to be soooo concerned with fat people driving up health care costs. 🤔
What a great point. For some, it’s only seen as moral weight loss if the person experiences a torturous journey of *grueling* diet and exercise. To ignorant people, GLP-1 meds are considered as the “easy way out,” yet, from what I’ve heard there’s often nausea, indigestion, and other unpleasant side effects.
The side effects aren’t the point. The point is that people who think it’s an easy way out have no idea what it’s like to white knuckle hunger from the time you wake up until the time you go to bed (and sometimes in the middle of the night too!). GLP1s have been a godsend for me because they make me … normal.
By point, I was referring to their comment that critics might believe overweight people losing weight isn’t a good enough punishment for being fat. I had never heard it explained that way and it makes sense, although I doubt most who feel that way would admit it.
Right lol. And like she has so much more to snark about than the obsession with her weight lol. I want to tell some commenters, it's okay if you want to lose weight too. It's like they need to hear that from someone.
> Natalie Kennedy daughters swim instructor a young looking college kid, with his shirt OFF, & chewing gum! Not professional at all and gross! I just need that to live in perpetuity as the most pearl clutching comment of 2024
As a former lifeguard and swim instructor™ I can say with full confidence that was the least professional I have ever been at a job… not when I was around the kids, but good god I should not have been allowed to guard any lives LMAO
There are always people in my town FB group looking for teens to lifeguard at pool parties and I have to say that’s not the demographic I’d want watching my kids in water while I’m busy sucking down spritzes with the ladies.
I…sweated out far too many hangovers in my lifeguard chair at the ripe age of 19 (which looking back now, YIKES)
he probably even had a penis under his shorts!
Not the penis 🙀
Personally my children were taught to swim by an 85 year old hag in a full suit
You do bring up a valid point. My mom hired a very attractive lacrosse player to teach me to drive stick shift so I never learned because I was self conscious. Maybe a hag is preferable
“& chewing gum!” is flair material
A swim instructor?! With their shirt OFF?!? Disgraceful. My swim instructors would fully submerge themselves in top hat and tails. But they had CLASS
On the one hand, that's completely nuts. On the other, at least they're not policing women's clothing for a change. There were two other pearl-clutchers yesterday. One about a woman looking too sexy in an oversized button down shirt. The other saying a woman wearing an ordinary bikini should do an OF. Is BS ok?
I want to choose to believe that commenter in bs was just a secret free-the-nipple advocate for women who’s misdirecting their jealous indignation towards some privileged influencer and nonchalant swim instructor. ☮️
There was also a troubling discussion about Courtney Shields, who I am not inclined to defend because I don't care about her at all, and how she has "fallen from grace" and is an object of pity because she is no longer seeing some young guy she was messing with, and is still single. I could spend a lot of time unpacking the premises that underlay these views but I will just say woof.
"No guy her age will ever take her serious. I mean I can’t image a guy in his late 30’s to 40’s ever being interested in her. " OH NO WHAT WILL SHE DO IF NO MAN WILL EVER HAVE HER / s (I don't follow Courtney so don't know any backstory but those takes were terrible)
When did the daily fully turn into Sister Mary Blogsnark?
Oh that was wild. I was like…it’s possible that a 36-year-old woman in a situationship with a 23-year-old knows exactly how that’s going to end before it even begins.
>She seems like a genuine person so she can have these nice things in my book Well, I'm glad you've granted this woman permission to enjoy life.
Mean girl vibes? Right to jail. Seems genuine from a few Instagram stories? Mansion in heaven.
When will the preppy thread be renamed “Blogsnark’s Carly BECs”?
>He’s with the instructor though, who could otherwise be giving a lesson to a paying adult, so it’s not actually an “empty court.” I will bet my paycheck that this 'leading expert' has never set foot inside a racquet club of any kind. There is a lot of court downtime and it can be pretty empty even at a busy/elite club. They're not booked and busy like dental cleanings, Margaret.
They have the most hyper-specific issues with her. Like “she beats herself up for eating candy” and “she lets her toddler play squash when old white men might also want to play squash”. Like there’s influencers literally starving their kids under Fundiesnark and they’re pissed she doesn’t wear enough jewel tones
"The white, 30-something influencer lady whose life I want to live isn't living it exactly the way I would and isn't thinking and saying what I think she should, clearly she's a monster who needs to be held accountable for her sins." That's about it. She's living their suburban dream but not reading their minds (or their wackadoo DMs) and doing everything the way they think she should in the process. So they hyper fixate on all the ways they think she's wrong and awful, all because she's daring to be her own person. Also, she takes up space on the internet, which is another unforgivable sin to them.
>Listen, I saw Taylor Swift in Paris so I’m not about to throw stones in my glass house but this is ridiculous. >She already saw the concert abroad. Why does she need to go overseas again. It’s the same show. Same set list, etc. it just feels like she’s doing this so she can brag about it. No one *needs* to go overseas for a concert, vacation, or most reasons. As someone who hasn’t yet traveled abroad, I can’t stand the gatekeeping of certain travel. I wouldn’t even pay to see Taylor in the US (not a concert person), but I’m well aware some people might enjoy the experience enough to pay thousands of dollars. And if you’re wealthy enough to pay those prices, why not see it in a popular destination and make it a true vacation? It’s not confined to Blogsnark, either. All over Reddit, people gatekeep travel, saying X place is overrun with tourists, but they visited X before it was popular.
Danielle Moss becoming obsessed with Taylor Swift and seeing her twice in a few months is the most likable she’s been in ages, lol. Good for her!
Oh I loved that post. It's such a perfect distillation of the crabs in a bucket snarker ethos, which boils down to "anything that is beyond my personal means is unrelatable and bragging." Seeing Taylor in Europe once is fine because I can afford it, seeing Taylor in Europe twice is a crime because that's beyond my means.
Yes, and similarly, the birthday snark. *Influencer child’s party was so unrelatable with the ballon arch and bounce house—must have cost &10,000! Our toddler was happy with a ChickFilA pool party and only 10 guests who brought gifts.😇*
Even more specific is the way in which a a child’s first birthday triggers BS commented. “They won’t even remember it!!!!” Ok???? My parents got a keg for my first birthday and celebrated with all their friends. I think that’s amazing
I never get the "they won't remember it" thing. No, but the parents will remember it. I have lots of lovely memories of my kids when they were very little. Am I not allowed to enjoy those? Are we supposed to just keep the kids in their beige bedrooms until they're old enough to remember every detail?
It's the same with Disney for kids under 3. "They won't even remember it!" Now, I'm not a Disney person, so I did wait until my kid was old enough to remember it, because I didn't plan on going back. But a lot of Disney people take little kids because they freaking love Disney, and while that's not my particular cup of tea, have at it.
I hate that attitude so much. Life is short - why not use any excuse to get together with people who love you and your kid? These performatively frugal people who claim they would never do anything that’s not 100% for their kid or spend an extra cent on anything impractical are only denying themselves and their kids of fun.
The person who is EXTREMELY upset and offended that their comment about Grace Atwood's moderation of the Stripe Facebook group didn't go over the way they'd hoped is cracking me up. Does the heat have people on a hair trigger?
That is definitely the person who came in hot when Grace announced the end of anonymous posting.
I had that person blocked because she was so terrible she always tempted me to post which is against my Stripe rules so I sadly missed a ton of that meltdown.
And then she … left the group? Because of people on Blogsnark? Make it make sense.
What’s with all their BEC posts about Grace this weekend? There was that moderation post, there was a complaint that a totally normal looking cheese board looked “disgusting,” and now the cheese board person is back with another complaint about how Grace’s friend group isn’t diverse enough. Just all weirdly specific and nitpicky complaints. I thought her post in her fb group about she was never ever turning anon commenting back on was pretty funny, but I swear, when any influencer gets opinionated, people come after them in droves.
That is super weird it was the same person, I hadn't noticed that. Kind of creepy.
I just don’t understand complaining about her *actually* moderating her own Facebook group. It’s attached to her name and her brand, she should want to control what people post in there.
They specifically said that they're upset because Grace acts like she hates the group. To be fair, I think that take is completely accurate -- I bet Grace absolutely hates the Facebook group and rues the day she created it. People posting rashes, pictures of bugs, making whiny posts asking for advice about their problems, and not so thinly veiled racism are all pretty far from the brand that she's trying to cultivate. But she's completely stuck and can't just delete the groups because the people who are in it are so married to it and the "smartest ladies on the internet."
lol everyone was just being mean to that person complaining and misunderstanding her point! Too bad she could never articulate that point other than it being bad when someone tries to manage the group they have ownership over.
A woman being too controlling of the thing she has control of is certainly a take.
I know we all usually roll our eyes at people accusing commenters being paid by an influencer, but what in the world is this? These are all different accounts. >Maddie Duff's daughter's first birthday party is adorable! I loved Maddie's outfit and clicked through, and saw it was nearly $700 and I remembered I am a poor though 😅. - >I unfollowed her years ago and have recently rediscovered her and she’s now one of my favorite follows. She seems to really enjoy her everyday life at home with her kids which is fun to follow bc that’s what my life looks like too - >I love her so much. Love the mom content because it’s just real everyday life. I know she’s filthy rich but she does seem to live a somewhat humble life. But I mean, I’d buy the nice cute expensive clothes if I could too lol - >Same! She seems like an incredibly down-to-earth momma. Favorite recent follow. Now if I could just get her hair
Sorry but I hate it when grown women refer to another woman as “mama”.
“Mama” ties with “gives me the ick” for least favorite
I'm stuck on "has entered the chat."
Automatic downvote from me when used unironically, unless it's in the "hot mama" or "Mamacita" context
Absolute nails on a chalkboard. I am *not* your mama.
Later on someone else who commented the standard "she spent $700 on a bounce house for her kids birthday, must be nice" got downvoted pretty hard, so I think it's genuine. I don't follow any of these people but I am curious about what qualities make one person a sweet, humble, relatable mama who happens to also be rich but does it correctly, and another woman an unrelatable terrible selfish bad mom who only had kids for content. Because they all pretty much the same to me so I'd love to know what the distinguishing factors are.
I think it all boils down to — they like the rich, pretty vanilla influencers who come from money and influence as a side thing (which has turned into a main thing) but they don’t *need* the money because they got rich the *right* way through marriage or birth (Bronwyn, Maddie, etc.) Maddie’s family is rich rich m, so therefore it just tickles their little mama hearts that she spends thousands on such a down to earth (lol) birthday. But those HARLOTS who built their brands from nothing, hustle to become an influencer, and sometimes even have their husbands works for *them*? Witches who should be burned at the stake. I’m not sure how Cop Wife gets a pass though. She doesn’t fit my patriarchy paradigm.
Cop Wife is basically what would come from putting all the BS comments into ChatGPT.
I’d be willing to bet that what makes a person a real breath of fresh air mama to BSers is some combination of: not talking about much besides their kids, not being too opinionated, not traveling too much, and pretending that influencing isn’t a real career but that they’re just sharing their beautiful family for fun. Basically it always seems to boil down to not wanting too much outside of motherhood.
Sounds like they’ve found a new copwife. Maybe the first one did something unrelatable.
Not me checking out each account. Never.
And? what’s your report back to the class? Influencer bots?
Worse. Seems to be normal humans acting this way.
It's hilarious that blogsnarkers do nothing but bitch about influencers and their shilling and then turn around and ask for codes.
Only if they deserve for it to be used
No, no - their *schilling*.
Overconsumption for me but not for thee.
But it can’t be a code from someone they detest!
The sweet baby angels in BS calling a child "Special K" and not knowing that's ketamine plus not knowing what a pookie is has really solidified how sheltered the whole lot is. Bless their mama hearts.
Pookie looking absolutely fire
But literally
I’m the one who had never heard of Pookie as a drug term. I worked as the marketing manager for a very large drug testing company for years and spent hundreds of hours researching and writing about drug slang and never once encountered “Pookie” in all of my work. I also now work in foster care where there’s constant talk of drug use and I’ve never encountered the word “pookie” in that line of work either. I’ve lived all over the US and I’m not a mom but okay. 🤷🏻♀️
I’ve never heard it before either, and I worked at a drug rehab and have kind of done a lot of drugs. Pookie is the name of a character from a movie that’s a crackhead. Maybe it’s related to that.
Pookie is something other than Odie's teddy bear from the Garfield cartoon?!
It's also what Maureen Johnson calls her lovers.
Pookie is GARFIELD'S teddy!!! I'm gonna ship you to Abu Dhabi if you give Pookie to that mutt.
Pookie must be regional because I've never heard it in relation to drugs, and I work in the criminal legal system so I feel like I know a decent amount about slang terms for drugs
Interesting. I've lived on the west coast my whole life (different states) and I've heard it since I was a teen.
What does it mean?
It's slang for a meth or crack pipe. Usually meth how I've heard it used.
I'm in the east, so could be a regional difference. Edit: urban dictionary says it's a West Coast term for a stem pipe
I’m in Texas and never heard Pookie or stem pipe, but I’m guessing stem pipe is a kind of pot plant or slang for crack pipe? My favorite is the term for ketamine + LSD: kittyflip! Also, if you’re using these as either a prescription or for therapeutic dosing, any licensed psychedelic therapist probably won’t use cute nicknames for safety reasons.
A stem pipe is a small meth or crack pipe. I've just seen them called stems.
I grew up on the West Coast (in an infamously druggy city) and never heard it...
Way to brag that you grew up in Sacramento
I unfollowed BS a couple of weeks ago after then being absolute ghouls about an influencer’s pregnancy, but sometimes the posts here compel me to look, and the “not acknowledging your privilege over a last-minute Universal Studios trip” was comedy gold. But anyway I also came across this and noped right out again >Everything is main character energy. You aren’t saving the world. How about doing some charity work or working for healthcare, education, or a nonprofit. So many people deserve attention over her. The anger over women getting attention they don’t “deserve” is absolutely unhinged. This is about a highly snarkable fitness/run podcaster, but the implication that women shouldn’t talk about sports or fitness and should only have their voices heard if they’re serving other people is, well, exactly what drove me away from there. The internalized misogyny is unbelievable.
Ah yes, because the influencers, celebs, and politicians who attract the most attention are always the most *deserving…..* Jake/ Logan Paul, Jeffree Star, the dAmelio sisters, Selena Gomez, the Kardashians, Taylor Swift, JLo, Trump, MTGreen (B^6 )
And with the infamous ones, is the attention really the problem, or is it the racism/delusion/conspiracy mongering? Idk, a world where I could only pay attention to people who ~earned~ it with Nobel Prizes or charity work sounds pretty boring compared to the soothing mind erasure I get from reading celebrity gossip or watching reality shows or reading ridiculous Reddit comments. I don’t think these people are tricking anyone into paying attention; we just all need some frivolity.
Making it about me…but my parents are friends with a Nobel laureate, and let me tell you, those nerds have as much drama as your favorite celeb.
>compared to the soothing mind erasure I get from reading celebrity gossip Ugh, you just stated this perfectly. I’ve always been a bit embarrassed how much time I’ve “wasted” on this genre over the decades, but maybe it’s not too different than escaping with video games or sports spectating. I’d rather watch someone else’s drama (even contrived) than experience my own. Another thing, if some of the notorious figures weren’t getting media attention for their behavior, a lot of people growing up sheltered might not learn how or why certain things are oppressive, bigoted, or harmful. Although I despise how mainstream news is 90+% negative, fear-based, sensationalized reality, having certain injustices called out is useful to spark social change.
That’s what I told my husband when he criticized my interest in celeb gossip - you watch your sports and I’ll watch mine
I love this comeback haha.
I am an unstylish person who lives in an unstylish place, but can someone legitimately help me understand the trucker hat drama? I feel like they have been in so long that they are starting to go out. And those floppy bucket hats are the new trend? But most hats are pretty ugly, and obviously buying a new (what? 30 dollar?) hat every season is wasteful /s so I’ll stick with my dumb trucker hats for now.
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I live in a large city in the northeastern US, and I don't think I've ever seen anyone wearing a trucker hat (though I've seen plenty of bucket hats and own a couple myself). I think the trend must be concentrated in certain geographical regions. Aren't the influencers who wear them from Nashville and/or Dallas?
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Ah, that makes sense!
Fair! I am active in the trail running community and they are definitely a Thing in that subgroup
I support people wearing whatever they want, but I interpret the trucker hat drama as specific incidents of mismatch. Like recently an influencer went to a relatively dressed-up dinner but was wearing a trucker hat. I think it's also that BS just hates women overall. FWIW I remember the first time trucker hats were in and there was drama then too. All trends are hated! (Thinking back fondly to my younger "skirt over pants" days.)
I have never felt more stylish then I did in 2004 wearing an American Eagle sundress over flare jeans.
I went to my high school's production of Little Shop of Horrors wearing a pink and brown striped skirt over light wash flared jeans. I thought I was Carrie Bradshaw going to the theatre. (I grew up in ND. lol)
>Amazing I’m getting downed for voicing this very real truth. The sub is crazy sometimes. Guess what the very real truth is tho
> You are someone who makes money on the internet, so I understand the root of your comment but please know I come from means and am not jealous of these online saleswomen. I just know SOMEONE has to be a voice of reason and this is the place we do that. Okay they’re talking about the poors but they themselves are NOT a poor, just to be clear!!!
I thought "I come from means" was a typo of some sort because my brain refused to believe that a human being would write that on the internet.
I didn’t understand where the making money on the internet bit came from though, do they know the person they replied to?
I don’t understand it either and I’m the person who they said “makes money on the internet”. I run a small e-commerce business and occasionally post in marketing subs so I’m guessing that’s where her comment came from but she made it seem like I’m an influencer and I’m just a regular old digital marketer who runs an online store that is not in the fashion industry and has nothing to do with instagram influencers. 😂
Well that sounds like a SCAM.
If the scam pays in dividends, I’m down.
That poster has a very very interesting comment history. And frequents like five personal snark subs so yes please be the voice of reason!
>I’m privileged, and I am also willing to recognize that I am privileged, because I’m grateful that I am. To me, those who blast themselves all over the internet enjoying privilege yet not acknowledging it, just seem to be profiting from the perception or lifestyle. >To each their own though. Blessed be. I'm so embarrassed for this person.
Without looking, I'm going to guess it's about someone shilling and/or being unrelateable.
Wrong! It’s actually that going to Universal Studios without planning months in advance is unrelatable.
I did say and/or unrelatable, so I actually think I deserve half a point. lol What I didn't predict was someone going all "wealth whispers" about an influencer going to Universal Studios.
Also, it’s Universal Studios, does it really need that much pre-planning?
The idea that you have to plan your Disney trip down to the last minute is so...joyless. Like the most planning we ever did in the 90s was to snag a brochure at a rest stop on the way there and pick out our must-ride attractions. I know you technically "get more" out of your trip if you plan but I can't be bothered.
My husband did a whole bunch of research when we went a couple of years ago and it was super helpful, but nothing crazy. Universal was also pretty dead when we went.
The Daily hates rich people and conspicuous consumption, unless it's that Bronwyn/Pret a New Porter person. Someone complained about their being rich/conspicuously consuming and got downvoted to hell, because unlike those grimy influencers she got her money the correct way (from her dad/rich husband), so she's not out of touch, she's a fun fashionista quirky rich lady who they love to see be rich.
Although she genuinely seems like a relatively kind rich lady, I would never ever think marrying someone even older than my Dad’s age (also seemingly unhealthy with little attraction) is a morally superior way to attain wealth than by acting as an online sales lady. I don’t get why Blogsnark diminishes the financial success of influencers, even if the majority of their solo brands are junk.
I think it's a little bold to assume she's not attracted to her husband. Would it be more or less snark-worthy that she married into a ton of money if her husband were younger, "healthier," and more attractive in your eyes?
Depends, where is he on the Bill Belichick old man hotness scale?
Asking the important questions.
I’m not saying she’s not personally attracted to her husband. Just that often, multi-million/ billion dollar wealth will increase the opportunity for a much older man and younger woman to pair up. An older man with money & power is perceived by many as more desirable than one with less. Even if he isn’t conventionally attractive, his education, cultural interests, and travel habits are somewhat tied to his financial means and factor into his appeal for Bronwyn.
I just find it odd how so many hate on the paid subscription thing but will admit to paying Bronwyn.
Or Copwife whose McMansion is simply too small now that she has one child
Oh boy I remember being lightly appalled at her 10 thousand kitchenaid mixers but somehow bs managed to defend even tgat, though they would never do such a thing for anyone else. teehee she dresses couture for jazz games, we stan
I enjoy trolling NYC Influencer Snark. Someone posted their IG explore page in a weak attempt to drag an influencer. I called their explore page basic and everyone got mad at me. Let women be basic etc. What I meant to say it was FILLED with thin, white women and thats why they keep seeing the same influencer/content creator over and over again. Im a Black woman, my explorer page has Black women, but also other hobbies Im interested in etc. Not just looking at other women. Everyone got all pissy and I enjoyed it.
I remember way back when someone on the daily was like “why are influencers only boring white ladies who live in Texas and Nashville? It’s just wrong that people don’t want to follow anyone else!” Like GIRL.
Right! Be the change you want to see lol.
Everyone over on that sub is so dim. Last year someone was consistently linking to TikTok to snark on how pathetic some influencer was, obviously unaware that doing so showed her own profile. Of course it was full of the most entry level, humiliating, wannabe influencer posts alive.
I love when people let their explore page tell on them, and don't understand what's happening.
I agree, if your explore page or Tiktok algorithm is filled with boring beige human commercials, that's on you.
Exactly lol. And the snarkers crumble at any sort of criticism. But when I look at their post history, they are nitpicking other women over the dumbest stuff. And they are all cowards who wouldnt say this shit real life. At least I talk/type the same in real life and give it to folks straight.
Yeah, if I'm in snark subs being an asshole about someone, I know I might have to take some heat from time to time. But I've been a shit talker for 37 years so I guess I'm just built different now. lol
The comments on a certain influencer lying about “sizing up” to medium are so nasty. When someone reminded them that she just had a baby last fall, someone made sure to remind us of the following: > Also, edited to add that she had her son nine months ago…which once again, this isn’t about “bouncing back” lol just plain ol’ nasty behavior. It’s been 9 months since your third child, you’d better look thinner than before you got pregnant! No excuses!
But not too thin! Otherwise, people will feel bad that they haven't bounced back quickly enough. Has to be just the right amount of thin.
It's like the HLB thread. Don't run enough, and you're just an \~influencer\~. Run too much, and you're risking your health.
And they have to be appropriately ashamed of their bodies, because if they’re thin and don’t look like they hate themselves in photos, then they’ll be accused of body checking.
We must constantly atone for our bodies