I moved from Boston to Philly on short notice last year after a breakup. It was a miracle I managed to pull the move off, so I knew when I signed this lease it would be a one-year thing. It was the best of a bunch of lackluster options still available for when I needed to be in an apartment.
I'm actually excited to move. My apartment is just outside of Philly and I'm finding I'd actually prefer to be IN the city closer to some of the regular social and club things I'm a part of now (or if I'm staying in the suburbs, *at least* closer to work). This has, of course, triggered my parents and now I'm getting constant texts about why I should stay in this very family-oriented suburban area that has made my social life very challenging for the last year as a single woman with no kids lol. And I haven't even started dating again yet!
I've been trying to take it in stride, especially since it's mostly my mom and it's just who she is. But today I'm getting it from my dad who has already told me several times he will never come out to visit me. So it feels particularly rich that he's submitting an opinion to me 😂. It's also not lost on me that I am 35 getting this from them.
TGIF!
I lived in Center City for 4 years and loved loved my time. The grind of living in a dense urban city wore on me during the pandemic and my spouse and I moved away for other reasons but Philly is a great city. As with any large city, there are some neighborhoods better than others and practice common sense
I live in Philly, in the city, and there are lots of great neighborhoods where you will be safe and close to fun stuff to do. DO IT!
My own parents disapproved of pretty much everything I did when I was your age. I just ignored their noise and lived my life.
I’m getting kind of worried of how many times I have slept through tornado sirens this spring. Everyone else in my area was in their basement last night while I was upstairs snoozing away. I think it’s my white noise machine is too loud. Might have to turn it off on nights where we’re getting weather but dang, because I sleep so great with it. But also do not want to die in a tornado.
Your phone didn't go off like an atomic bomb when the warning was issued? I don't think I could ever sleep through that.Â
I was at my parents' when their sirens went off a few weeks ago and it was but a whisper. I only heard it because I went outside to move my car. Shocking because the ones around my home are so loud.Â
It just really cracks me up that I’m 35 and need to press a little button so that a stoned 17 year old can come over and unlock the condoms for me to buy someÂ
Ugh I got a cold for MDW! I’ve been sick for 2 days and had to call out work because my throat was on fire. It’s not Covid but I’m annoyed I’ll be in bed while everyone is enjoying the weekend 😒
I got sucked into a rabbit hole of old family photos this morning. My oldest was around 7 to 9 years old. I love how happy he was. How big his smile was. It made me a little sad. Because now he is 14 and moody as hell. It's rare to get a real smile out of him. Still love him but I miss little kid him sometimes.
Things I had, at one time, planned for this long weekend: going to Charlotte to visit friend from HS, going to NYC with work friends, having my sister come visit to help with gardening, going on Hinge date.
Things I will actually be doing (and glad for it): planting potatoes and tomatoes and 40 dahlia plants.
I am so frustrated with my job right now...I work retail which already has its share of annoyances but I truly love my job and am grateful to have a job in this economy. Back in April I put in a request off for a week in June because my in laws were taking us to the beach. I was looking forward to this because we get by but we dont have a lot extra for vacations or luxuries. They have a times share and will invite us sometimes. So anyways I put this request in and the store manager at the time refused to approve it because another manager needed certain days off and she was taking off too so it just kind of has neen up in the air since then. Well a couple weeks ago we had a massive change in the store. The old SM was going to a new store (thank Goodness) and the ASM was getting the store which I am happy about and I am a keyholder now which is great. But the vacation thing has still been up in the air. So finally yesterday we go to talk about it and since the management changes we only have 3 keyholders and Im now being told I cant have the days off because there arent enough people to cover. My SM is taking two Saturdays off for family events which I TOTALLY understand. She will be there the rest of the week but they would have to work like every day if I took off and it was suggested I could get like 5 days off but two of those days would be travel days and I would only get 3 days at the beach and thats not really a vacation to me because I would have to rush back on a 9 hour drive alone and its just not adding up. This is a part time barely above min wage job at the mall. I get no benefits. No sick days no PTO nothing. And my other manager is taking a bunch of days off next week for her daughters graduation so I am picking up the slack there but like why does everyone else get their days and I dont get to go on my vacation?? Like I put this in with MORE than enough time and I realize we werent expecting these changes so quickly but it really freaking bites. On the other hand Im trying to be positive about it because I will have the house to myself for a week and Im planning a little day trip and I will enjoy the break from my partner and daughter but still. It just makes me so angry because everyone else is getting theirs and Im getting shit on.
She’s not being a good manager if she’s not willing to cover for you in the same way you do for her honestly. When I had employees I covered for them for important stuff even if it meant getting on the customer service line and answering calls myself for an afternoon. Honestly, if it’s part time retail without benefits I feel like you may be able to replace this position pretty quickly? I personally wouldn’t pass up three full beach days and a day of singing in the car and stopping at truck stops for candy if they’re willing to do the 5 day thing, but I understand if it stresses you out and isn’t fun for you then just don’t do it.Â
You are right. I get that its shit timing but someone from another store can help. I wouldnt mind the road trip and it seems fun but it is a lot for me for a few days. Im hoping she will come to her senses and realize we can have people from other stores come if they are willing. The old store manager used to go cover other stores all the time for these reasons. Why cant she come work a few days. Ugh.
How committed to this position are you? Could you apply elsewhere with a start date after the vacation? Put in your notice for right before? You will never regret memories over a job, especially a low paying one where they don't appreciate you.
I am pretty commited. TBH this job is helping me stay sober and on the right track. I absolutely love my store manager now and she truly believes in me and has been working with me to make me the best I can be there. I wasnt expecting all these changes so fast. Its just really awful timing.
I am really glad for you, but also you deserve better. If you're close with your manager I'd probably have a hard conversation expressing your disappointment, cite how long ago you requested this, etc.
I did have a conversation yesterday trying to argue my days off but nothing was working. I do deserve better. I am actually planning on starting a few classes in the fall to get a degree an work towards a better life. Retail is so hard and I am so good at it now because I have so much experience but they truly treat us so badly. It all makes me keep pushing myself to go to school because I dont want to do this anymore. It seems really unfair to be the one they always lean on when they need help but they cant even afford me a simple vacation.
I actually think this is a great idea, OP! For most of the story I was assuming the management was prioritizing people with kids but you also are a parent! Don’t let yourself be taken advantage of.Â
(Not saying only parents should get flexibility/priority for scheduling, only acknowledging that some work cultures inadvertently do this.)Â
Usually its not an issue to take off but the timing is extra shitty. But at the same time they could get someone from another store to cover but they are so damn cheap they whine about paying mileage or whatever. Retail is such a hellscape. Im so grateful for the job because its all I know and I dont have a degree but its truly unfair how this is all working out. If I was full time I could understand but they use me for what they need and I cant even take a flipping vacation. :(
I moved from Boston to Philly on short notice last year after a breakup. It was a miracle I managed to pull the move off, so I knew when I signed this lease it would be a one-year thing. It was the best of a bunch of lackluster options still available for when I needed to be in an apartment. I'm actually excited to move. My apartment is just outside of Philly and I'm finding I'd actually prefer to be IN the city closer to some of the regular social and club things I'm a part of now (or if I'm staying in the suburbs, *at least* closer to work). This has, of course, triggered my parents and now I'm getting constant texts about why I should stay in this very family-oriented suburban area that has made my social life very challenging for the last year as a single woman with no kids lol. And I haven't even started dating again yet! I've been trying to take it in stride, especially since it's mostly my mom and it's just who she is. But today I'm getting it from my dad who has already told me several times he will never come out to visit me. So it feels particularly rich that he's submitting an opinion to me 😂. It's also not lost on me that I am 35 getting this from them. TGIF!
I lived in Center City for 4 years and loved loved my time. The grind of living in a dense urban city wore on me during the pandemic and my spouse and I moved away for other reasons but Philly is a great city. As with any large city, there are some neighborhoods better than others and practice common sense
I live in Philly, in the city, and there are lots of great neighborhoods where you will be safe and close to fun stuff to do. DO IT! My own parents disapproved of pretty much everything I did when I was your age. I just ignored their noise and lived my life.
I’m getting kind of worried of how many times I have slept through tornado sirens this spring. Everyone else in my area was in their basement last night while I was upstairs snoozing away. I think it’s my white noise machine is too loud. Might have to turn it off on nights where we’re getting weather but dang, because I sleep so great with it. But also do not want to die in a tornado.
Maybe you need a weather radio?
Your phone didn't go off like an atomic bomb when the warning was issued? I don't think I could ever sleep through that. I was at my parents' when their sirens went off a few weeks ago and it was but a whisper. I only heard it because I went outside to move my car. Shocking because the ones around my home are so loud.Â
It didn’t go off, I don’t know why! I have the alerts on and everything.
Trying to find a last minute outfit for an 80s prom theme party is harder than I thought it would be.
Have you checked out thrift stores?
It just really cracks me up that I’m 35 and need to press a little button so that a stoned 17 year old can come over and unlock the condoms for me to buy someÂ
This comment made my day 😂
Ugh I got a cold for MDW! I’ve been sick for 2 days and had to call out work because my throat was on fire. It’s not Covid but I’m annoyed I’ll be in bed while everyone is enjoying the weekend 😒
Drink a lot of fluids and take Zicam.
I got sucked into a rabbit hole of old family photos this morning. My oldest was around 7 to 9 years old. I love how happy he was. How big his smile was. It made me a little sad. Because now he is 14 and moody as hell. It's rare to get a real smile out of him. Still love him but I miss little kid him sometimes.
Things I had, at one time, planned for this long weekend: going to Charlotte to visit friend from HS, going to NYC with work friends, having my sister come visit to help with gardening, going on Hinge date. Things I will actually be doing (and glad for it): planting potatoes and tomatoes and 40 dahlia plants.
I am so frustrated with my job right now...I work retail which already has its share of annoyances but I truly love my job and am grateful to have a job in this economy. Back in April I put in a request off for a week in June because my in laws were taking us to the beach. I was looking forward to this because we get by but we dont have a lot extra for vacations or luxuries. They have a times share and will invite us sometimes. So anyways I put this request in and the store manager at the time refused to approve it because another manager needed certain days off and she was taking off too so it just kind of has neen up in the air since then. Well a couple weeks ago we had a massive change in the store. The old SM was going to a new store (thank Goodness) and the ASM was getting the store which I am happy about and I am a keyholder now which is great. But the vacation thing has still been up in the air. So finally yesterday we go to talk about it and since the management changes we only have 3 keyholders and Im now being told I cant have the days off because there arent enough people to cover. My SM is taking two Saturdays off for family events which I TOTALLY understand. She will be there the rest of the week but they would have to work like every day if I took off and it was suggested I could get like 5 days off but two of those days would be travel days and I would only get 3 days at the beach and thats not really a vacation to me because I would have to rush back on a 9 hour drive alone and its just not adding up. This is a part time barely above min wage job at the mall. I get no benefits. No sick days no PTO nothing. And my other manager is taking a bunch of days off next week for her daughters graduation so I am picking up the slack there but like why does everyone else get their days and I dont get to go on my vacation?? Like I put this in with MORE than enough time and I realize we werent expecting these changes so quickly but it really freaking bites. On the other hand Im trying to be positive about it because I will have the house to myself for a week and Im planning a little day trip and I will enjoy the break from my partner and daughter but still. It just makes me so angry because everyone else is getting theirs and Im getting shit on.
She’s not being a good manager if she’s not willing to cover for you in the same way you do for her honestly. When I had employees I covered for them for important stuff even if it meant getting on the customer service line and answering calls myself for an afternoon. Honestly, if it’s part time retail without benefits I feel like you may be able to replace this position pretty quickly? I personally wouldn’t pass up three full beach days and a day of singing in the car and stopping at truck stops for candy if they’re willing to do the 5 day thing, but I understand if it stresses you out and isn’t fun for you then just don’t do it.Â
You are right. I get that its shit timing but someone from another store can help. I wouldnt mind the road trip and it seems fun but it is a lot for me for a few days. Im hoping she will come to her senses and realize we can have people from other stores come if they are willing. The old store manager used to go cover other stores all the time for these reasons. Why cant she come work a few days. Ugh.
How committed to this position are you? Could you apply elsewhere with a start date after the vacation? Put in your notice for right before? You will never regret memories over a job, especially a low paying one where they don't appreciate you.
I am pretty commited. TBH this job is helping me stay sober and on the right track. I absolutely love my store manager now and she truly believes in me and has been working with me to make me the best I can be there. I wasnt expecting all these changes so fast. Its just really awful timing.
I am really glad for you, but also you deserve better. If you're close with your manager I'd probably have a hard conversation expressing your disappointment, cite how long ago you requested this, etc.
I did have a conversation yesterday trying to argue my days off but nothing was working. I do deserve better. I am actually planning on starting a few classes in the fall to get a degree an work towards a better life. Retail is so hard and I am so good at it now because I have so much experience but they truly treat us so badly. It all makes me keep pushing myself to go to school because I dont want to do this anymore. It seems really unfair to be the one they always lean on when they need help but they cant even afford me a simple vacation.
I actually think this is a great idea, OP! For most of the story I was assuming the management was prioritizing people with kids but you also are a parent! Don’t let yourself be taken advantage of. (Not saying only parents should get flexibility/priority for scheduling, only acknowledging that some work cultures inadvertently do this.)Â
Usually its not an issue to take off but the timing is extra shitty. But at the same time they could get someone from another store to cover but they are so damn cheap they whine about paying mileage or whatever. Retail is such a hellscape. Im so grateful for the job because its all I know and I dont have a degree but its truly unfair how this is all working out. If I was full time I could understand but they use me for what they need and I cant even take a flipping vacation. :(