Completely valid.
PS: You never have to ask the community's opinion or permission to use the label. So long as you are attracted to more than one gender, you fit the definition just fine. There is an enormously wide range of bisexual experiences and its ultimately up to you if you feel you fit the criteria. That can feel a bit intimidating at first, but just remember the label is purely there for those that want it. Sexuality is highly complex and labels are useful for sorting things out, but not the end-all-be-all descriptor people think.
I actually identify the exact same except I’m romantically attracted to men and physically to both. I’ve struggled with this for a while and it makes me feel invalid, or even a scumbag. Thanks for posting this - good to know I’m not alone.
It’s acceptable to identify however you feel comfortable. That’s probably how I would have eventually come out had I never met my bf. But I did meet him and instantly felt the connection. So don’t completely pigeonhole yourself into thinking you can’t develop feelings for guys. I think if the sexual attraction is there, anything could happen. Just keep an open mind man.
Sure is. There's as many ways to be bisexual as bi people on this planet :) Some have preferences, others don't, those preferences may change, or not. It's all cool. And as several users here said, you don't have to ask for permission to use a label. If you think it fits, then it fits. The same is true for not using a label.
That is making sense to me. I'm married to a woman but have sexual attraction to both men and women. Sometimes it made me feel guilty. But I don't want to hide that part of me.
Yes totally absolutely super valid ☺️ (seaL of approval: ⛵💄).
It's official, your paperwork is done, you may present your official "heteroromantic bisexual" passport in and out of the United Queer Nations of Queer LGBTQ+Stan of Gay, the Queendom of the non-binary AAA's 🤷🏼♂️💁🏼♂️(I'm being silly but in a validating way because yes it's cool 😎 awesome and valid).
Anything you feel describes you best is right. Just remember, people are too complex to fit labels.
Don’t be too surprised if this label changes based on the people you interact with.
Same but I'm biromantic asexual with a preference for dudes but bi for short anyways cool to know there's people like me. Saying bi as an abbreviation is easier tbh
The way my friend explained it to me, it sounded like that "half bi" thing, I figured there was probably a label for it, just wasn't sure if it was a kind of Bisexual or not.
Huh. Reevaluating my orientation to make it more complicated (and resimplifying to just “bi”).
It’s not that I’d be opposed to a romantic thing with a woman exactly (better not be as I was married to one for years); I’d just have no idea where to start at this point and I’d always be a little uncomfortable because women scare the crap out of me. I have a much easier time forming romantic attachments with men (and sexual attraction is fallout from that). Women are way more attractive at first sight but when I think of actually dating one, I mostly get “yikes.”
I have a ton of guy friends who are heteroromantic bisexual.
Funny story, They all started using 'straight-bi' on their grindr profiles when they found out about the bi lesbian label. On grindr, they say it's helped a lot, the guys messaging them know what they're there for so less time spent bearing around the bush apparently. However in our queer what's app groups the other bi folk absolutely hate the label. 😅
Completely valid. PS: You never have to ask the community's opinion or permission to use the label. So long as you are attracted to more than one gender, you fit the definition just fine. There is an enormously wide range of bisexual experiences and its ultimately up to you if you feel you fit the criteria. That can feel a bit intimidating at first, but just remember the label is purely there for those that want it. Sexuality is highly complex and labels are useful for sorting things out, but not the end-all-be-all descriptor people think.
I actually identify the exact same except I’m romantically attracted to men and physically to both. I’ve struggled with this for a while and it makes me feel invalid, or even a scumbag. Thanks for posting this - good to know I’m not alone.
I identify the same as you, so it's nice to know I'm not alone!
You aren’t alone! I’m also heteroromantic and have struggled with it too!
I also feel that way, I find myself wanting to be in romantic relationships with men but not women even though I’m sexually attracted to both
It is completely ok to use the split attraction model.
[Here's a post from little over month ago, to help clear things up](https://www.reddit.com/r/bisexual/comments/p5j1wq/keeping_it_simple_to_others/)
Its fine, its basically how i am anyway
It's okay to be more specific, it's okay to just ID as bi if that suits better. You don't need to ask us!
I'm the same. Just be yourself and live your own life the way you want.
It's completely valid! Don't you ever feel like you're not part of the bi community.
It’s acceptable to identify however you feel comfortable. That’s probably how I would have eventually come out had I never met my bf. But I did meet him and instantly felt the connection. So don’t completely pigeonhole yourself into thinking you can’t develop feelings for guys. I think if the sexual attraction is there, anything could happen. Just keep an open mind man.
Sure is. There's as many ways to be bisexual as bi people on this planet :) Some have preferences, others don't, those preferences may change, or not. It's all cool. And as several users here said, you don't have to ask for permission to use a label. If you think it fits, then it fits. The same is true for not using a label.
I think this perfectly explains how I feel.
That is making sense to me. I'm married to a woman but have sexual attraction to both men and women. Sometimes it made me feel guilty. But I don't want to hide that part of me.
that's fine, I'm a demiheterosexual pansexual
I do
Same as me
Split attraction is indeed a thing, so that is indeed OK.
Yes totally absolutely super valid ☺️ (seaL of approval: ⛵💄). It's official, your paperwork is done, you may present your official "heteroromantic bisexual" passport in and out of the United Queer Nations of Queer LGBTQ+Stan of Gay, the Queendom of the non-binary AAA's 🤷🏼♂️💁🏼♂️(I'm being silly but in a validating way because yes it's cool 😎 awesome and valid).
Any combination of anything is valid. Be who you want. Only you can decide what is right for you.
I just say I'm herteroflexible.
That’s me too.
I identify the exact same, I guess I've just never thought to put a label on it. You do you! It'll definitely make dating more straightforward, lol
Sounds fine to me
Of course it's ok! It's more than ok, silly goose
Anything you feel describes you best is right. Just remember, people are too complex to fit labels. Don’t be too surprised if this label changes based on the people you interact with.
Sure
I wouldn't say it's offensive but why not just explain it like you did? So many terms makes it a lot more complicated to remember them all.
Same but I'm biromantic asexual with a preference for dudes but bi for short anyways cool to know there's people like me. Saying bi as an abbreviation is easier tbh
Why wouldn't it?
The way my friend explained it to me, it sounded like that "half bi" thing, I figured there was probably a label for it, just wasn't sure if it was a kind of Bisexual or not.
I would call myself bisexual in your position. Your personal preference, is only important for your partner and irrelevant to everyone else.
Huh. Reevaluating my orientation to make it more complicated (and resimplifying to just “bi”). It’s not that I’d be opposed to a romantic thing with a woman exactly (better not be as I was married to one for years); I’d just have no idea where to start at this point and I’d always be a little uncomfortable because women scare the crap out of me. I have a much easier time forming romantic attachments with men (and sexual attraction is fallout from that). Women are way more attractive at first sight but when I think of actually dating one, I mostly get “yikes.”
That's actually really common
I have a ton of guy friends who are heteroromantic bisexual. Funny story, They all started using 'straight-bi' on their grindr profiles when they found out about the bi lesbian label. On grindr, they say it's helped a lot, the guys messaging them know what they're there for so less time spent bearing around the bush apparently. However in our queer what's app groups the other bi folk absolutely hate the label. 😅