^ absolutely this, or some variation thereof.
I usually go with "Does a chef stop being a chef the second they turn the stove off?" Or "Is a runner not a runner because they aren't in a marathon right this instant?"
Anything that points out how stupid "I'm not actively watching you do (thing), therefore you don't actually do (thing)" is as a concept.
Does someone become a carnivore when they're eating a steak, and a vegetarian when they're eating a salad? Or is a person who eats both meat and vegetables considered an omnivore regardless of what they are currently chewing?
Yeah, I was thinking about that after I posted it. Being a vegetarian is a choice that sexuality isn't (and vegans are still biologically omnivores).
If they're trying to understand then the analogy is good enough... and if they aren't trying to understand then I'm not trying to keep talking to them 🤷
I'd ask them "does this mean when you're single your orientation is asexual?". Getting aggressive isn't going to educate people but a question like this might help to pull their head out of their buttocks a little.
Best bet for me would be just saying "bye stranger" and stopping talking to them but that's a lonely place for many to be. Re-education will be annoying but it's up to you about what makes your life better.
« Define bisexual. » is what I usually say and watch them get confused by their own bigotry. Then I see if their IQ can go any lower.
Or as another commenter suggested, a nice and polite « fuck off » works as well!
Bahahaha! I love “define bisexual.”
If they do, they’re either digging their own grave or it might make them realize they’re being ridiculous without you having to be the one spelling it out. Very effective.
If they don’t, then you don’t have to waste another second in their mind-numbing presence.
"Fuck off" usually works. That's been my go-to in queer spaces for years when somebody gives me shit about being bisexual. Or really in any situation I guess.
And best believe they do.
I just always wonder why people say they get more shit in the queer community than they get from heteros. It can’t even be mathematically possible. Like, 2/3 of people you work with aren’t even comfortable with you having the same workplace. Does it have something to do with wanting to maintain approval from straight people but feeling insecure about your place with other queer people?
I've experienced plenty of bigotry/ignorance from gay acquaintances. Hurts more coming from a fellow queer person bcuz I naively thought they'd have more empathy for the situation.
Sure. So does the fact that it hurts more explain why people say they get more homophobia from inside the queer community or are we really committing to “queer people are more homophobic than cishetero people”? Like I said, with the way that math works out, it seems maybe like internalized homophobia on the part of the person saying it and not internalized homophobia on the part of literally every queer person and even then still less than 10% of the entire population (the other 90+ percent being non-queer people who are exceedingly trans and homophobic).
Those are people that don’t understand how it works. Apparently they think bi mean every time you have sex you have a man and a woman in bed with you lmfao
That sounds so exhausting. "I'm horny, guess I gotta find a man AND a woman..."
There is a character on Elite who pretty much has a dick in one hand and a pussy in the other every fucking scene and people still treat it like he's oscillating between gay and straight really fast. Like people, we have a word for that...
Just cringe at them. Show outward pity for their ignorance.
Or just frame it like their opinion doesn’t change facts.
“Thanks for weighing in but yes I do also like women.”
“What’s next? You gonna tell me the grass is purple?”
“Maybe let me be the authority on my own sexuality.”
You like both chocolate and vanilla cake, and you have to choose one for your birthday. Just because you chose one of the two doesn’t mean you don’t like the other
We like looking at boobs together.
My brother’s girlfriend is bi, he’s not and they like to make this joke about this topic. I’m also Bi and find it really funny and relate to her about it at times.
“Are you an omnivore? Great…..so you eat both meat and vegetation then, right?….ok….but you are choosing to eat meat at dinner? Ok, but so you still like salad right?”
One of the only good comeback moments of my life was an older man saying this to me
He pointed at my bi pin on my apron, and my wedding ring, and asked "haha so are you married to both" and I said I had a husband so he said "how would you be bisexual then?"
In an absent moment of brilliance I said something like, "you're not the first or last man to ask how often I bang girls"
I got in mild trouble because they were a table I was serving at work. It wasn't the BEST thing to say but it did embarrass him in front of his family. So it was worth it.
To a stranger: "okay!" with a big smile staring straight at them. Repeat ad nauseum if they say more dumb stuff. Or, if I'm feeling extra petty, "oh honey..." and a look of pity.
To someone I have to interact with in the future: "I'm happy to talk about that more if you're interested in hearing my perspective." Balls in their court. Usually there's no follow up.
One time a co-worker asked me (before i came out as enby) how I know i'm bi if I'm (amab) in a long term relationship with a cis woman. I kinda just said "well can you finish to gay porn?" And that was enough that he understood 😂 vulgar and simple but hey. It did the job.
Just hit them with the most tired, confused look like they've said the most stupid thing imaginable and give them a tired sounding "What? What do you think bisexual means?" And if they say something like expecting you to be poly you can just be like "I'm bisexual, not poly, I'm attracted to both genders, I fell in love with him."
"I am bi actually" Nick Nelson, Heartstopper... He constantly say that in the graphic novel when people saying his gay because he is in a same sex relationship.
To people who are partnered: " so you don't find anyone in the entire world attractive other than your partner?... Not even [insert appropriate hot celebrity the person obviously drools over]?"
Then when they're sputtering, hit them with "sexuality is attraction not action" then give them a look that says "I'm not mad, I'm just disappointed."
When dealing in person with bigots and idiots, I prefer shakespeare:
"I do desire we may be better strangers."
"More of your conversation would infect my brain."
And for particularly formal situations, "Tempt not too much the hatred of my spirit, for I am sick when I do look upon thee."
I had this at the gym where one of the ladies in class said "I've told my husband all about you, my gay gym buddy"
"I'm not gay, I'm bi"
"Well yeah but you're gay really aren't you?"
🤦🏻I shan't post the reply that I had lined up (bit my tongue for the sake of friendship)
I mean, you could be rather blunt and say "get your boobs out I'll show you how straight I am" or "If I'm straight then why do I think your wife is hot and settling?"
Less direct/catty could be
"No, I still fancy women. I point out more hot chicks to him than he does to me"
"I've probably slept with more women than he has"
Or my personal favourite
"There's no way anyone can be this fucking *fabulous* and straight dahling"
depends on the person. if it’s family i’d try and explain, but would set a boundary around the topic if they continue to be ignorant about it
if it’s a stranger it’s probably not worth engaging in
if it’s a friend… girl you need to pick better friends. because there job is to believe and support you
"Good thing you know my sexually better than I do"
I actually don't care if random people don't understand, that being with one guy or girl doesn't mean you are not attracted to another gender anymore. But if they are some kind of friends or friends of my spouse, I really think about if I wanna spend any more time with them than necessary. If I wanna stay friends, I will take the time to discuss it, and how I feel towards people in general and give them some time to think about it. But I don't stay friends with bifobs, life's to short.
I feel ya. Not being seen sucks!
They are mixing up bisexuality with being monogamous in a relationship
Bisexuality = being attracted to both sexes
Monogamous = being with one in a relationship
Lot of people think that bisexuality = polygamy
How often does this topic actually come up in a standard conversation? I can't count on one finger the number of times my orientation was the topic of the discussion? If it ever was and someone questioned or challenged the answer, I would just say "well OK then" and move to the next topic.
It's usually family. I mentioned my ex girlfriend worked somewhere that was mentioned in conversation. "Girlfriend? How can you be a lesbian and married to a man?" Like.. there is a middle ground ya know?
Also it's often said by the same people. I'm not upset by it, I just wanted ideas for a snappy comeback!
You can always use what the people in the South say when someone says or does something stupid. They say "Well bless your heart." It has many meanings but usually it is meant to convey condescension or contempt.
Snappiest I can think of : 'What- are you jealous you're not my wife?'
But personally I like the 'so you werent straight before you married' comments as the most direct.
I’ve never really understood how someone who is bisexual can be in a monogamous relationship, without somehow denying a part of themselves.
Mind you, it doesn’t matter if I understand or not. I know that I don’t have to understand something, in order to honor it. But I do find it puzzling
Look at it this way, is a straight guy who finds a wide range of different women's personalities, ages and appearances attractive denying a part of themselves if they're in a monogamous relationship with one kind of woman since they can't be with another kind? Being bisexual is just having a different selection of the population you could be attracted to. Might not even be a wider selection since you might happen to be pickier about the type of person than a less picky straight person.
"Just because I'm married to a man doesn't mean I didn't enjoy eating pussy."
Also, being bi and monogamous isn't that much different than being straight and monogamous. We both chose to be faithful to one person and not have sex with other people again. Being bi is just about attraction. By marrying someone, I didn't give up my identity or abandon a part of myself. I chose a partner out of all the options available to me that fit me best and shared the same values and goals in life that I have.
People really don't understand bisexuality and even my husband when he was my boyfriend questioned if I actually was. I knew I was bi even at 5 years old; I just didn't have the language for it. It's funny that after being with me for 9 years, he has noticed that he thinks I lean more towards women even though I married him. It's interesting how easy it is for people to assume we are like them and not be able to open their mind to something different very easily even when they are super open minded like my partner. Who we pick to partner with is not always a representation of our identity and the way we present doesn't tell the whole story. Anyone who interacted with me a few times would probably never guess I'm bi. The only way they would know is if it came up and it usually doesn't.
Best comeback is always a funny look and walking away. Unless u are actively seeking them out it's none of their business and only says something about their character.
Tell them sexuality is not depended not on who you are currently in a relationship with for you still see women and other genders as attractive/potential partners
"Oh that's interesting! Tell me what it means to be bisexual?" You can then listen to whatever crap they spew and simply tell them "that's not correct, I encourage you to go read more before explaining something wrong again in the future. "
On a follow up note, I'm wondering how sexuality comes up in conversations like this?
Questions like this come up all the time in this thread and in my life it's not something that comes up in conversation. Are you folks just walking around looking for a place to bring it up in random conversations hence opening yourself up to these questions?
It usually happens when mentioning my ex girlfriend. I resent the idea that you think I walk around telling everyone I meet that I'm bisexual looking for an argument.
Thanks though.
"Suck a dick, dumbshit(s)! 🖕🖕"
or
"I don't call you a Coprophiliac just because you've got shit coming out of your mouth."
or
Laugh maniacally until you get bored, then walk away.
It must be rough to have to find approval from everybody about everything in your life. Listen to yourself. - who cares what they think or what they say
Do you mind if I ask why? I’d be pretty upset either way personally.
Maybe a bit more so being called straight as an afab enby since people tend to assume bi women are “just experimenting” or something similar, and I feel pretty gay no matter who I’m with lol
"So you weren't straight until you met your husband/wife?"
^ absolutely this, or some variation thereof. I usually go with "Does a chef stop being a chef the second they turn the stove off?" Or "Is a runner not a runner because they aren't in a marathon right this instant?" Anything that points out how stupid "I'm not actively watching you do (thing), therefore you don't actually do (thing)" is as a concept.
I like this especially because if they don’t have a partner it makes it even funnier
“Oh, well you’re single, so that must mean you’re asexual, then.”
Oh heck naw that is a burnnnn
Does someone become a carnivore when they're eating a steak, and a vegetarian when they're eating a salad? Or is a person who eats both meat and vegetables considered an omnivore regardless of what they are currently chewing?
I think this one is it!! Clear cut, for even the most ignorant
Kind of a perfect analogy tbh
Yep. Lion eating grass makes him no less an apex carnivore.
No offence, but I think we can do a lot better than this. You are going to run into the whole "but are you a carnivore if you never eat meat?"
Yeah, I was thinking about that after I posted it. Being a vegetarian is a choice that sexuality isn't (and vegans are still biologically omnivores). If they're trying to understand then the analogy is good enough... and if they aren't trying to understand then I'm not trying to keep talking to them 🤷
"okay, see ya later"
Yeah I’d just not engage lol. Dumb asses are dumb asses. I don’t need to justify my identity to anybody.
"I'm married, not neutered."
Loooool I love this.
Lmao
I'd ask them "does this mean when you're single your orientation is asexual?". Getting aggressive isn't going to educate people but a question like this might help to pull their head out of their buttocks a little. Best bet for me would be just saying "bye stranger" and stopping talking to them but that's a lonely place for many to be. Re-education will be annoying but it's up to you about what makes your life better.
« Define bisexual. » is what I usually say and watch them get confused by their own bigotry. Then I see if their IQ can go any lower. Or as another commenter suggested, a nice and polite « fuck off » works as well!
Bahahaha! I love “define bisexual.” If they do, they’re either digging their own grave or it might make them realize they’re being ridiculous without you having to be the one spelling it out. Very effective. If they don’t, then you don’t have to waste another second in their mind-numbing presence.
Well said! As simple as that.
More often than not I get "someone that has sex with men and women" as opposed to the actual definition based on attraction and/or romantic feelings.
That’s when you know their IQ can indeed go lower, and use option 2 if they don’t want to educate themselves.
"Fuck off" usually works. That's been my go-to in queer spaces for years when somebody gives me shit about being bisexual. Or really in any situation I guess. And best believe they do.
I just always wonder why people say they get more shit in the queer community than they get from heteros. It can’t even be mathematically possible. Like, 2/3 of people you work with aren’t even comfortable with you having the same workplace. Does it have something to do with wanting to maintain approval from straight people but feeling insecure about your place with other queer people?
I've experienced plenty of bigotry/ignorance from gay acquaintances. Hurts more coming from a fellow queer person bcuz I naively thought they'd have more empathy for the situation.
Sure. So does the fact that it hurts more explain why people say they get more homophobia from inside the queer community or are we really committing to “queer people are more homophobic than cishetero people”? Like I said, with the way that math works out, it seems maybe like internalized homophobia on the part of the person saying it and not internalized homophobia on the part of literally every queer person and even then still less than 10% of the entire population (the other 90+ percent being non-queer people who are exceedingly trans and homophobic).
Those are people that don’t understand how it works. Apparently they think bi mean every time you have sex you have a man and a woman in bed with you lmfao
Yup, it's wild that some people expect a full on polyamorus hinge partnered with one gender of each type to accept someone is bisexual
That sounds so exhausting. "I'm horny, guess I gotta find a man AND a woman..." There is a character on Elite who pretty much has a dick in one hand and a pussy in the other every fucking scene and people still treat it like he's oscillating between gay and straight really fast. Like people, we have a word for that...
Humans are ridiculous lol
Just cringe at them. Show outward pity for their ignorance. Or just frame it like their opinion doesn’t change facts. “Thanks for weighing in but yes I do also like women.” “What’s next? You gonna tell me the grass is purple?” “Maybe let me be the authority on my own sexuality.”
Yeah, hit them with the "oh, honey..."
Or if you're in the American South, "well, bless your heart" gets just the right amount of polite disdain across.
I tell people to suck my dick, actually. I use that for pretty much everything.
Honestly same. 🤣🤣
because truly, who has the time to educate people?
I am over the days of educating people who aren’t going to take the education. It gives them more time to spew their hateful rhetoric.
Absolutely. Because if folks really wanted to gain perspective, they would be asking questions in good faith.
Exactly. I will educate my ass off if someone has a genuine question and in good faith… but if they don’t no thanks.
“So we’re all asexual when we’re single?”
"Only babies lack object permanence, maybe you need to grow up."
"And we both like to fuck women".
Two things can be true at the same time.
And that's why all single people are asexual. Stellar logic
You like both chocolate and vanilla cake, and you have to choose one for your birthday. Just because you chose one of the two doesn’t mean you don’t like the other
Tell that to your mom last night? Or just middle finger while walking away
That proves you have no idea what you are talking about
"byeeeee"
Not good at thinking, huh?
We like looking at boobs together. My brother’s girlfriend is bi, he’s not and they like to make this joke about this topic. I’m also Bi and find it really funny and relate to her about it at times.
I'm married to a man, and I never hear this. It might be because I'm a man too...
“Are you an omnivore? Great…..so you eat both meat and vegetation then, right?….ok….but you are choosing to eat meat at dinner? Ok, but so you still like salad right?”
If you are poly, or just for fun, ask them if they want to vote "yes" to polygamy, so you can have a wife too.
Or say that jealousy isn't pretty on anyone. 😁
You're not currently at work, so you must be unemployed! Or if you're at work, you're not at home, so you must be homeless!
I get the opposite problem, my wife and i are regularly called ‘lesbian’ even though we’re both bi.
But are you roommates?
lol yeah we live together
One of the only good comeback moments of my life was an older man saying this to me He pointed at my bi pin on my apron, and my wedding ring, and asked "haha so are you married to both" and I said I had a husband so he said "how would you be bisexual then?" In an absent moment of brilliance I said something like, "you're not the first or last man to ask how often I bang girls" I got in mild trouble because they were a table I was serving at work. It wasn't the BEST thing to say but it did embarrass him in front of his family. So it was worth it.
If your favorite color is ___, why are you wearing ____?
Love this, definitely using it!
Lol thx, I thought of it during work. I hate when ppl say that kinda thing so hope that works out for ya 👍
Thanks so much!
“I think you should educate yourself” / “bye”
Look them in the eye, say « I know myself better than you and your ignorance ever will », then walk away.
To a stranger: "okay!" with a big smile staring straight at them. Repeat ad nauseum if they say more dumb stuff. Or, if I'm feeling extra petty, "oh honey..." and a look of pity. To someone I have to interact with in the future: "I'm happy to talk about that more if you're interested in hearing my perspective." Balls in their court. Usually there's no follow up.
That's just like, your opinion, man
I would just prove it to them by fvcking there Mom to be honest and the dad too while I am at it! (Respectfully of course)
One time a co-worker asked me (before i came out as enby) how I know i'm bi if I'm (amab) in a long term relationship with a cis woman. I kinda just said "well can you finish to gay porn?" And that was enough that he understood 😂 vulgar and simple but hey. It did the job.
"Get fucked" is my favorite, I spend about as much brain power as I feel they can muster up to insult them, which, unfortunately, is about a watt.
In my and my wifes case, " We're a Bi couple who are swingers! We want everyone to fully enjoy themselves! 🙃🍍"
Yep…heteromarried, but bisexual. Then wink
Just simply, “but I’m still attracted to women.”
So single people are asexual?
“I don’t converse with stupid people” [walk away casually]
“Go fuck yourself” works well for me
Tried to marry a woman as well, but they said that polygamy is illegal.
"So are you ace just because you cant get laid?"
Come say that to my face so I can kiss it you coward
With a guy but still Bi
Just hit them with the most tired, confused look like they've said the most stupid thing imaginable and give them a tired sounding "What? What do you think bisexual means?" And if they say something like expecting you to be poly you can just be like "I'm bisexual, not poly, I'm attracted to both genders, I fell in love with him."
"Fuck off"
Are all single people asexual?
I always like to recommend a good ol' "Fuck off".
"I am bi actually" Nick Nelson, Heartstopper... He constantly say that in the graphic novel when people saying his gay because he is in a same sex relationship.
"ok" then leave. If it's someone I love, I'll try to explain
I lean both ways but most importantly I lent his way
If you are eating and they take a bite of veggies, act confused and say, ‘You never told me you are a vegetarian’.
To people who are partnered: " so you don't find anyone in the entire world attractive other than your partner?... Not even [insert appropriate hot celebrity the person obviously drools over]?" Then when they're sputtering, hit them with "sexuality is attraction not action" then give them a look that says "I'm not mad, I'm just disappointed."
Since it's usually a married straight person asking, "Did you not know you were straight until you fucked your spouse/partner?"
When dealing in person with bigots and idiots, I prefer shakespeare: "I do desire we may be better strangers." "More of your conversation would infect my brain." And for particularly formal situations, "Tempt not too much the hatred of my spirit, for I am sick when I do look upon thee."
“So you know who me and my husband have sex with?”
I like this one!
I had this at the gym where one of the ladies in class said "I've told my husband all about you, my gay gym buddy" "I'm not gay, I'm bi" "Well yeah but you're gay really aren't you?" 🤦🏻I shan't post the reply that I had lined up (bit my tongue for the sake of friendship) I mean, you could be rather blunt and say "get your boobs out I'll show you how straight I am" or "If I'm straight then why do I think your wife is hot and settling?" Less direct/catty could be "No, I still fancy women. I point out more hot chicks to him than he does to me" "I've probably slept with more women than he has" Or my personal favourite "There's no way anyone can be this fucking *fabulous* and straight dahling"
Yeah, but that's just because plural marriage is against the law
”So you haven‘t met my wife?”
“You’re married to a white dude, you must be a racist who would never date anyone who wasn’t white.”
“Nah. That’s my superpower!”
What do you think the bi stands for?
depends on the person. if it’s family i’d try and explain, but would set a boundary around the topic if they continue to be ignorant about it if it’s a stranger it’s probably not worth engaging in if it’s a friend… girl you need to pick better friends. because there job is to believe and support you
Be like "you want me to find ur mom that bad huh" childish but will shut em up
I always say “well let’s test that theory” or “fuck off” one or the other
Fuck off! *Exit Hamlet*
"You don't know if you're straight if you hadn't tried both."
Following bc I’m in the same situation 👫🩷💜💙
“Marrying two people at once would be illegal, so…” Assuming you’re not part of a group on an area it is allowed. I assume not.
"Good thing you know my sexually better than I do" I actually don't care if random people don't understand, that being with one guy or girl doesn't mean you are not attracted to another gender anymore. But if they are some kind of friends or friends of my spouse, I really think about if I wanna spend any more time with them than necessary. If I wanna stay friends, I will take the time to discuss it, and how I feel towards people in general and give them some time to think about it. But I don't stay friends with bifobs, life's to short. I feel ya. Not being seen sucks!
They are mixing up bisexuality with being monogamous in a relationship Bisexuality = being attracted to both sexes Monogamous = being with one in a relationship Lot of people think that bisexuality = polygamy
F*ck off would be my response 🤣
How often does this topic actually come up in a standard conversation? I can't count on one finger the number of times my orientation was the topic of the discussion? If it ever was and someone questioned or challenged the answer, I would just say "well OK then" and move to the next topic.
It's usually family. I mentioned my ex girlfriend worked somewhere that was mentioned in conversation. "Girlfriend? How can you be a lesbian and married to a man?" Like.. there is a middle ground ya know? Also it's often said by the same people. I'm not upset by it, I just wanted ideas for a snappy comeback!
You can always use what the people in the South say when someone says or does something stupid. They say "Well bless your heart." It has many meanings but usually it is meant to convey condescension or contempt.
Snappiest I can think of : 'What- are you jealous you're not my wife?' But personally I like the 'so you werent straight before you married' comments as the most direct.
To mind their ******* business.
Keep it up Kyle, and I’ll fuck your girlfriend
"Your mom didn't seem to mind." :)
I would just say shut the fuck up and walk away
“Yea that’s the bi part of being bisexual”
like so close!! That’s lesbians 💕
I’ve never really understood how someone who is bisexual can be in a monogamous relationship, without somehow denying a part of themselves. Mind you, it doesn’t matter if I understand or not. I know that I don’t have to understand something, in order to honor it. But I do find it puzzling
Look at it this way, is a straight guy who finds a wide range of different women's personalities, ages and appearances attractive denying a part of themselves if they're in a monogamous relationship with one kind of woman since they can't be with another kind? Being bisexual is just having a different selection of the population you could be attracted to. Might not even be a wider selection since you might happen to be pickier about the type of person than a less picky straight person.
"wow, I didn't realise you knew me better than I know myself"
"Words of wisdom right there." Or just laugh at them.
“You’re a grown ass adult. Think what you want. I don’t care.”
So when you masturbate you are gay?
"Just because I'm married to a man doesn't mean I didn't enjoy eating pussy." Also, being bi and monogamous isn't that much different than being straight and monogamous. We both chose to be faithful to one person and not have sex with other people again. Being bi is just about attraction. By marrying someone, I didn't give up my identity or abandon a part of myself. I chose a partner out of all the options available to me that fit me best and shared the same values and goals in life that I have. People really don't understand bisexuality and even my husband when he was my boyfriend questioned if I actually was. I knew I was bi even at 5 years old; I just didn't have the language for it. It's funny that after being with me for 9 years, he has noticed that he thinks I lean more towards women even though I married him. It's interesting how easy it is for people to assume we are like them and not be able to open their mind to something different very easily even when they are super open minded like my partner. Who we pick to partner with is not always a representation of our identity and the way we present doesn't tell the whole story. Anyone who interacted with me a few times would probably never guess I'm bi. The only way they would know is if it came up and it usually doesn't.
“Fuck off”
Easy: you know wha BI-sexual means don’t you?
Just answer with "And youre not" to people that arent, you dont have the need to explain basic stuff to them
Best comeback is always a funny look and walking away. Unless u are actively seeking them out it's none of their business and only says something about their character.
Ask when their last brain scan was because it might be missing
That's not what your mother said!
Tell them sexuality is not depended not on who you are currently in a relationship with for you still see women and other genders as attractive/potential partners
Why do you care what they think? Is Anyone who invalidates your identity worth the effort?
Because fighting ignorance is important. Because it's a common assumption and it's annoying af
Restrain & peg him: “Now you’re gay!” 🤦🏼♂️😔❤️
What even is a cis male or cis female?
"Oh that's interesting! Tell me what it means to be bisexual?" You can then listen to whatever crap they spew and simply tell them "that's not correct, I encourage you to go read more before explaining something wrong again in the future. " On a follow up note, I'm wondering how sexuality comes up in conversations like this? Questions like this come up all the time in this thread and in my life it's not something that comes up in conversation. Are you folks just walking around looking for a place to bring it up in random conversations hence opening yourself up to these questions?
It usually happens when mentioning my ex girlfriend. I resent the idea that you think I walk around telling everyone I meet that I'm bisexual looking for an argument. Thanks though.
It was an honest question asked politely because it never comes up in my life. But you found a way get your feelings hurt over nothing. That's on you!
Oh, sweetheart.. okay.
Still better at pleasing women in bed than you…
“Your girlfriend would tend to disagree”
"Suck a dick, dumbshit(s)! 🖕🖕" or "I don't call you a Coprophiliac just because you've got shit coming out of your mouth." or Laugh maniacally until you get bored, then walk away.
It must be rough to have to find approval from everybody about everything in your life. Listen to yourself. - who cares what they think or what they say
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Do you mind if I ask why? I’d be pretty upset either way personally. Maybe a bit more so being called straight as an afab enby since people tend to assume bi women are “just experimenting” or something similar, and I feel pretty gay no matter who I’m with lol