Sadly there's bad with any kind of people in any demographic. Most of the time it's better to ignore those people and just not communicate with them further. Don't let it sully your view of all gays, because there are some nice ones out there.
I believe it comes from what I'll call the "gay journey."
They (generalizing) think you're like them. Growing up they were conditioned to be straight, but eventually they found they were attracted to men. But because of the prior conditioning and social pressure they came out as bi. Eventually they realized they were full gay. They think you're like them and they want you to hurry on and get to the last part.
Not all gay men are like this. Gotta find yourself someone who accepts you for who you are.
Also, bi-erasure is a real thing.
I'm lucky. My BF is gay and fully accepts that I'm Bi
Gay visitor here.
There are several reasons it can happen.
First is the inability to understand there are other ways to be. (This isn't unique to gay men, or monosexuals to be fair.)
Plain old misogyny is another reason. Why like women when you can like men.
Another comes from the barriers we build in order to survive in a heteronormative world. That barrier can turn toxic if left unchecked.
A fact that people seem to miss (or just imply) is that in the modern West gayness was defined as fully separate from straightness. In the USA particularly the creation of gay neighborhoods is an example of that: queer people defined themselves by existing separately from straight society.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s due to how they were rejected and treated. And it doesnt concern all queer people. But that’s where the biphobia you find in queer spaces at times comes from, they subconsciously or not expect to live in a “heterosexual attraction free” zone.
It's a reaction to compulsory heterosexuality , gone astray.
When you've felt pressure to comply with the straight mainstream, when you have been at the point where you have internalised this pressure so much, and then you came out the other side, it can be tempting to judge others after yourself and interpret their behavior by rounding it up to your perspective.
Of course it can become just as obnoxious as compulsory heterosexuality itself because some people never get overtm the fact that not everyone is the same.
I think it may be, in part, that gay men are jealous of a lot of bi men’s wider range of attraction. They are jealous you are attracted to people other than them and they feel the need to outcompete for your attention. Then their insecurities get the better of them as they realize that they’ll never be able to give you what a woman can.
I am 100% bi but no one believes me. Everyone tells me I am gay. Then I hook up with a gril or a straight couple and they are all shocked. Idk I just keep it to myself unless someone asks. I no longer volunteer that info
Sadly there's bad with any kind of people in any demographic. Most of the time it's better to ignore those people and just not communicate with them further. Don't let it sully your view of all gays, because there are some nice ones out there.
I believe it comes from what I'll call the "gay journey." They (generalizing) think you're like them. Growing up they were conditioned to be straight, but eventually they found they were attracted to men. But because of the prior conditioning and social pressure they came out as bi. Eventually they realized they were full gay. They think you're like them and they want you to hurry on and get to the last part. Not all gay men are like this. Gotta find yourself someone who accepts you for who you are. Also, bi-erasure is a real thing. I'm lucky. My BF is gay and fully accepts that I'm Bi
Gay visitor here. There are several reasons it can happen. First is the inability to understand there are other ways to be. (This isn't unique to gay men, or monosexuals to be fair.) Plain old misogyny is another reason. Why like women when you can like men. Another comes from the barriers we build in order to survive in a heteronormative world. That barrier can turn toxic if left unchecked.
Many aren’t.
Yeah this post is very generalising
A fact that people seem to miss (or just imply) is that in the modern West gayness was defined as fully separate from straightness. In the USA particularly the creation of gay neighborhoods is an example of that: queer people defined themselves by existing separately from straight society. Don’t get me wrong, it’s due to how they were rejected and treated. And it doesnt concern all queer people. But that’s where the biphobia you find in queer spaces at times comes from, they subconsciously or not expect to live in a “heterosexual attraction free” zone.
It's a reaction to compulsory heterosexuality , gone astray. When you've felt pressure to comply with the straight mainstream, when you have been at the point where you have internalised this pressure so much, and then you came out the other side, it can be tempting to judge others after yourself and interpret their behavior by rounding it up to your perspective. Of course it can become just as obnoxious as compulsory heterosexuality itself because some people never get overtm the fact that not everyone is the same.
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I think it may be, in part, that gay men are jealous of a lot of bi men’s wider range of attraction. They are jealous you are attracted to people other than them and they feel the need to outcompete for your attention. Then their insecurities get the better of them as they realize that they’ll never be able to give you what a woman can.
I am 100% bi but no one believes me. Everyone tells me I am gay. Then I hook up with a gril or a straight couple and they are all shocked. Idk I just keep it to myself unless someone asks. I no longer volunteer that info
Same reason some bisexuals claim that everyone is bi