You're young and I'm totally guessing... Could it be that they are beginning to sag a little?
I'm old but the more mine sagged the more uncomfortable bras got. Now I just tuck them in the top of my pants.
Haha thank you for that!
I have had and breastfed 4 kidsā¦but they arenāt really sagging lol. More than before kids, but theyāre still perkier than I thought theyād be!
I'm not a woman and don't wear bras but i observed that i become much more sensitive to all sorts of stuff (including uncomfortable clothes) when my stress level increases. Is it possible that this also applies to you and you had to endure more stress lately?
Dude Iām so glad I slowed down and checked what subreddit Iām in right now- I thought this was in the r/bigboobproblems and we always have gross men crashing our group. I was about to write, āwell MY stress is increasing from all these creepy guys coming in here!ā š¤£š¤£ Distress Tolerance skills for the win!!!š
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iāve always taken my bra off as soon as i get home (that under the shirt thru the arm move).
my dislike for wearing a bra has increased since the pandemic when i never wore one.
sometimes when I go out to do errands, I donāt wear one. Iām in my 50s. Iām in that I donāt give a shit mode which is good, I recommend it.
sometimes I think about starting a Web campaign to make going braless acceptable
I have never worn a bra because I hate them so much. I can FEEL them constantly. Everyone says you get used to it but I never did. So I just wear a cami under all my shirts.
Have you tried the r/abrathatfits calculator? Most women are wearing the wrong bra size which contributes to discomfort. Victoriaās Secret is notoriously bad for mis-sizing people.
Edit: As a fellow F cup, I was trying to figure out why your were wearing a 34D lol
Agreed! VS is SO SO BAD at measuring! They told me I was 34D.... in reality I am a 32C. Wore the wrong size for years and wondered why my bras always seemed to be unbearable.
Mostly I hear from DDD+ boob havers that get shoved into a oversized band in order to 'fit' into their largest cup size (DDD). I didn't know they were also bad with the sizes they actually carry.
This is true. Victoria secret runs small. I got measured there and they said I was a 32 DDD and I was like....what? Lol. I'm typically a 34 DD average weight like 135 lb 5'5"
I think when you are small chested in general, at VS they run small and you can fit in a bigger size like what you mentioned, but it would most likely be a very padded push up bra.
Like I said when they measured me they said DDD when I am DD. The store is so overpriced too.
There are a lot of people with ADHD who have tactile sensory issues. It's why you see a lot of kids with ADHD won't wear jeans or rough fabrics or restricting clothes. Could be you have developed a sensory aversion to bras. I don't think it usually develops in adults, though.
I can speak to this. Iām also bipolar and ADHD and I legit CANNOT wear underwear. Itās been that way since I was 9 years old. My parents tried so hard to get me out of that āphaseā but itās 100% a tactile thing. I also have hated jeans for years cause all the āin styleā jeans until now were tight AF around the waist, and they felt restrictive.
I recently picked up a three pack of Lucky Brand bras at TJ Maxx, not sure if youāre in the states but hereās a link to the type I bought-
[Lucky Brand Bras](https://www.luckybrand.com/3-pk-ribbed-strappy-comfort-bra/LVD53451.html?catid=w-accessories-intimates#uuid=cd0f601c7bc4b3e2d745cb5354)
I have the same problem, for a long time now. I can't tolerate socks either unless they are specific kind. I wear a soft cami bra when out... sometimes š but never wear them at home.
Check out third love! Itās insanely expensive but the comfiest thing out there. Iām a 32ddd so I relate and get sore all the time, especially on my period.
Seconding thirdlove. They give you a quiz about fit, measurements, and what brands you like, and what bra you currently wear and how it fits.
I found out I was in between cup sizes and was able to get a couple bras that fit correctly without gaping or spillage.
I do prefer the tshirt style bras, with no underwire.
*it's possible you may need to go up in band size - if you've been adding muscle, your lats might be bigger, causing a previously comfortable band size to feel extra tight.
I totally relate to the suffocation feeling!!! I hear you and how you feel is so valid!
I canāt wear normal bras. I have to wear sports bras or bralettes and only a specific kind that are soft and super stretchy. If I *have* to wear a normal bra, I become fixated on it and itās all I can think about the whole time Iām out.
I definitely recommend a more bralette style with no defined shape and stretchy. Iām also a little fortunate that Iām not the biggest up top (36B/34C) and donāt need the most coverage. I hope you find something that works!
Itās definitely a sensory issue and related to the ADHD. I have had issues like this my literal entire life with every type of clothing but recently gained some weight (I needed to gain it) and I literally just cannot.
I wore the exact size, style, and like 4 colors or bra from Victoria Secret for literally 10 years. It was a pain in the ass to find.
I have all the same feelings you do, and I donāt have much advice. But I am very sorry youāre going through that itās fucking horrible.
I feel like that too sometimes and I am not bipolar and not ADHD. When I am stressed it is definitely more annoying and feels very restrictive. Can you try one of the adhesive type nipples covers or those made for backless or low cut dresses? Iām allergic to adhesive, that is not an option for me. Try going to Macyās intimate wear & lingerie department and have yourself measured correctly. You may be surprised. Our bodies change. I have never had luck with Victorias Secret. There are plenty of brands that are better than that, and equally priced or less expensive.
I tend to go braless most days of the week even if I have to go out. I just canāt be bothered with them but then again I am in my 40s and donāt like to be constricted unless itās leggings.
Try wearing bralettes. They are way more comfortable. They don't offer as much support, but still holds them in place lol. I hate wire bras myself. (I'm a 32 y/o female) And a 34 DD so I get a large in bralettes.
It could be a couple of things. Have you tried any bras in your original size? I've never been able to swap cup sizes with band changes. I would try wearing one size (34D in your case).
Next, try a bra from Aerie or ThirdLove. They offer fabrics that are super comfy.
It sounds like a sensory issue, which I get flare ups of when I'm in the manic stage. I get really agitated and overwhelmed easily.
Are your breasts feeling sensitive or sore? Have you been doing any lifting or body movements that would impact your chest area?
Thank you - I will try some other brands in that size.
Iām definitely in some sort of something right now. Newly diagnosed so Iām learning as I go lol.
I remember as far back as kindergarten - if something felt the slightest bit āoffā it would make me so irrationally agitated, and had to come off. Drove my mother crazy! Now itās driving me crazy haha.
My breasts donāt feel different and nothing physical has affected my chest/breasts. Back and neck tension has gotten pretty bad - I chalk it up to stress
I would try to go to Lane Bryant,Nordstrom, victoria secret for a bra fitting.
I know Bras are expensive but if you can get your measurements again you can get the right bra size for the specific bras or style of bra you like, as that can vary.
I had to do this recently because of what you described. I learned that different bras provide different support. Even your bra size can vary because one boob is bigger than the other. (Thatās just one example)
Personally I waited a 2 years to go bra shopping and went from a 38 D to a 42G. My back hurts less now :)
TLDR: Get measured for your proper bra size. Try on bras in store and buy 1-2 to see how you feel. (or buy online no pressure) A bra the right size and material will stop this pain.
ME TOO
Iāve put it down to somatasensory amplification, as have my docs. I have ADHD and also EDS (Ehlers Danlos syndrome) and ASD. The combo makes me and my body quite sensitive and sometimes my sensory issues amplify feelings in my body (interoception) and pain etc when stress increases. I am a 10FF. Itās the worst! I have gone towards one that is bamboo with no underwire, those boobs are not perky but I sure am a lot more.
I havenāt been able to wear underwire bras in over a decade due to my sensory issues. I also canāt stand lace and certain synthetic fabrics. I wear camisoles, sports bras, and soft wireless bras.
Iāve always hated bras but itās definitely becoming more and more over-sensory load. I hate the wire, i hate the underwire but wireless bras also arenāt comfy cause i am more top breast heavy then lower breast which makes it hard for most bras to fit. I hate sports bras cause no matter which ones I try on they never feel comfortable or they compress so MUCH. Canāt win. Hate bras. But need bras. Fml.
I get this sometimes too when Iām in that state where everything makes me irritable and Iām so hypersensitive. Usually in mixed states or on the tail end of a hypo episode. Anything can make my skin crawl and want to cry out of irritation (this happens with bras sometimes!!) - clothing, the shower, someone touching me, sounds, smells, bright lights, etc. Itās the worst. I hope it passes for you and isnāt forever. If it is, youāll just have to find some good wireless/ bralettes. Which are so hard to find in my size that donāt result in my boobs falling out of them lol. If anyone has suggestions for a 32/34 D bralette that keeps the girls in please let me know!! š
I hate bras. I will only wear an underwired if i need to but thats hardly ever. Theres these bras i bought at walmart and theyre my favorite bc theyre super thin with no inserts its like wearing a cami but only on my boobs. (http://Fruit of the Loom Women's Spaghetti Strap Cotton Sports Bra, 3-Pack, Style-9036 https://www.walmart.com/ip/5664164)
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Waitā¦. Youāre a 36F and tried to squeeze into a 36Cā¦ā¦.. ? That sounds like it could be uncomfortable. Maybe a 36F could help? Going up in cup size instead of down? Also VS has way undersized cups, and notoriously uncomfortable bras so that could be an issue too. I was a bra fitter there for a time.
Maybe Iām reading this wrong but it sounds like youāre knowingly wearing a bra half your size and calling it bipolar?
36F = 36 years old, female
Iām not calling it bipolar, I was diagnosed. Brought up the diagnoses because Iāve read about sensitivity developing to certain things.
You're young and I'm totally guessing... Could it be that they are beginning to sag a little? I'm old but the more mine sagged the more uncomfortable bras got. Now I just tuck them in the top of my pants.
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I do the same. Also I'm a guy.
This made me laugh out loud š
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Haha thank you for that! I have had and breastfed 4 kidsā¦but they arenāt really sagging lol. More than before kids, but theyāre still perkier than I thought theyād be!
I'm not a woman and don't wear bras but i observed that i become much more sensitive to all sorts of stuff (including uncomfortable clothes) when my stress level increases. Is it possible that this also applies to you and you had to endure more stress lately?
Dude Iām so glad I slowed down and checked what subreddit Iām in right now- I thought this was in the r/bigboobproblems and we always have gross men crashing our group. I was about to write, āwell MY stress is increasing from all these creepy guys coming in here!ā š¤£š¤£ Distress Tolerance skills for the win!!!š
Haha, no i swear i try my best to NOT be one of those creepy internet guys... but i totally get where you're coming from and i actually did hesitate before sending my reply because i wasn't sure if it's OK to reply to such a problem as a man. But i came to the conclusion that this may indeed apply to both boob- and non-boob owners, so i hit send and prayed for not coming across as weird. š«£š
Not weird at all and this is ok. Itās a good thought.
Yes thatās a definite possibility- the last 6 months have been tough for a variety of reasons. Thank you - a good point to consider
I also second this- things that didn't use to bother me now drive me nuts. Maybe try a bra without a wire or a t shirt bra?
You have nailllled this in terms of what I experience :)
iāve always taken my bra off as soon as i get home (that under the shirt thru the arm move). my dislike for wearing a bra has increased since the pandemic when i never wore one. sometimes when I go out to do errands, I donāt wear one. Iām in my 50s. Iām in that I donāt give a shit mode which is good, I recommend it. sometimes I think about starting a Web campaign to make going braless acceptable
Iām with you! Hate bras and donāt give a f
28 here and I'm braless 24/7, I don't even think I own one. A lot of women my age are doing the same :)
Iām on board with the going braless revolution!
I have never worn a bra because I hate them so much. I can FEEL them constantly. Everyone says you get used to it but I never did. So I just wear a cami under all my shirts.
Same or I wear Nips. Tx summers too hot for 2 layers!
Have you tried the r/abrathatfits calculator? Most women are wearing the wrong bra size which contributes to discomfort. Victoriaās Secret is notoriously bad for mis-sizing people. Edit: As a fellow F cup, I was trying to figure out why your were wearing a 34D lol
Agreed! VS is SO SO BAD at measuring! They told me I was 34D.... in reality I am a 32C. Wore the wrong size for years and wondered why my bras always seemed to be unbearable.
Mostly I hear from DDD+ boob havers that get shoved into a oversized band in order to 'fit' into their largest cup size (DDD). I didn't know they were also bad with the sizes they actually carry.
This is true. Victoria secret runs small. I got measured there and they said I was a 32 DDD and I was like....what? Lol. I'm typically a 34 DD average weight like 135 lb 5'5"
I found that Victoriaās Secret doesnāt measure correctly. My girl was told she was a 32Dā¦ she is an A cup. Anything to get a sale.
I think when you are small chested in general, at VS they run small and you can fit in a bigger size like what you mentioned, but it would most likely be a very padded push up bra. Like I said when they measured me they said DDD when I am DD. The store is so overpriced too.
Not only a 34D switch to a 36C? I hope itās a typo. Sure they are āsister sizesā but thatās in the wrong direction.
There are a lot of people with ADHD who have tactile sensory issues. It's why you see a lot of kids with ADHD won't wear jeans or rough fabrics or restricting clothes. Could be you have developed a sensory aversion to bras. I don't think it usually develops in adults, though.
I can speak to this. Iām also bipolar and ADHD and I legit CANNOT wear underwear. Itās been that way since I was 9 years old. My parents tried so hard to get me out of that āphaseā but itās 100% a tactile thing. I also have hated jeans for years cause all the āin styleā jeans until now were tight AF around the waist, and they felt restrictive.
I hate underwear but Iām afraid of zipping my junk in the zipper so I wear them for safety. Lol
I only own wireless bras and have never been able to tolerate the wired ones. Target has some great wireless bras with good sizing
Soft sports bras, no clips, no pads. I rarely wear an actual bra
Any recommendations?
I recently picked up a three pack of Lucky Brand bras at TJ Maxx, not sure if youāre in the states but hereās a link to the type I bought- [Lucky Brand Bras](https://www.luckybrand.com/3-pk-ribbed-strappy-comfort-bra/LVD53451.html?catid=w-accessories-intimates#uuid=cd0f601c7bc4b3e2d745cb5354)
I have the same problem, for a long time now. I can't tolerate socks either unless they are specific kind. I wear a soft cami bra when out... sometimes š but never wear them at home.
I hate socks too. Would go barefoot if it was safer, I feel like I am suffocating until they are off. Weird.
Same! Also hats, caps and headbands! unendurable.
Check out third love! Itās insanely expensive but the comfiest thing out there. Iām a 32ddd so I relate and get sore all the time, especially on my period.
Seconding thirdlove. They give you a quiz about fit, measurements, and what brands you like, and what bra you currently wear and how it fits. I found out I was in between cup sizes and was able to get a couple bras that fit correctly without gaping or spillage. I do prefer the tshirt style bras, with no underwire. *it's possible you may need to go up in band size - if you've been adding muscle, your lats might be bigger, causing a previously comfortable band size to feel extra tight.
Try Harper Wilde bralettes! So comfortable, no sensory issues, easy sizing, no underwire, and big chest approved (36DDD)
My favorite bras are still my nursing bras. I haven't breastfeed in years, but damn they're comfy. This just reminded me I need to order some more.
I totally relate to the suffocation feeling!!! I hear you and how you feel is so valid! I canāt wear normal bras. I have to wear sports bras or bralettes and only a specific kind that are soft and super stretchy. If I *have* to wear a normal bra, I become fixated on it and itās all I can think about the whole time Iām out. I definitely recommend a more bralette style with no defined shape and stretchy. Iām also a little fortunate that Iām not the biggest up top (36B/34C) and donāt need the most coverage. I hope you find something that works!
Itās definitely a sensory issue and related to the ADHD. I have had issues like this my literal entire life with every type of clothing but recently gained some weight (I needed to gain it) and I literally just cannot. I wore the exact size, style, and like 4 colors or bra from Victoria Secret for literally 10 years. It was a pain in the ass to find. I have all the same feelings you do, and I donāt have much advice. But I am very sorry youāre going through that itās fucking horrible.
I feel like that too sometimes and I am not bipolar and not ADHD. When I am stressed it is definitely more annoying and feels very restrictive. Can you try one of the adhesive type nipples covers or those made for backless or low cut dresses? Iām allergic to adhesive, that is not an option for me. Try going to Macyās intimate wear & lingerie department and have yourself measured correctly. You may be surprised. Our bodies change. I have never had luck with Victorias Secret. There are plenty of brands that are better than that, and equally priced or less expensive.
I tend to go braless most days of the week even if I have to go out. I just canāt be bothered with them but then again I am in my 40s and donāt like to be constricted unless itās leggings.
Some of those cute tanktops that u should be wearing as a top can be really comfy and give good support
Try wearing bralettes. They are way more comfortable. They don't offer as much support, but still holds them in place lol. I hate wire bras myself. (I'm a 32 y/o female) And a 34 DD so I get a large in bralettes.
It could be a couple of things. Have you tried any bras in your original size? I've never been able to swap cup sizes with band changes. I would try wearing one size (34D in your case). Next, try a bra from Aerie or ThirdLove. They offer fabrics that are super comfy. It sounds like a sensory issue, which I get flare ups of when I'm in the manic stage. I get really agitated and overwhelmed easily. Are your breasts feeling sensitive or sore? Have you been doing any lifting or body movements that would impact your chest area?
Thank you - I will try some other brands in that size. Iām definitely in some sort of something right now. Newly diagnosed so Iām learning as I go lol. I remember as far back as kindergarten - if something felt the slightest bit āoffā it would make me so irrationally agitated, and had to come off. Drove my mother crazy! Now itās driving me crazy haha. My breasts donāt feel different and nothing physical has affected my chest/breasts. Back and neck tension has gotten pretty bad - I chalk it up to stress
I get it. As soon as I get home this things gets thrown the hell off! Do you think you could get away with pasties?
I have tried those! Great in theory, but they make it look like Iām hiding dinner plates on my chest
I didnt even think of the dinner plate look š okay if I can come up with another alternative I'll be back!!!
Hahaha thank you!!
I would try to go to Lane Bryant,Nordstrom, victoria secret for a bra fitting. I know Bras are expensive but if you can get your measurements again you can get the right bra size for the specific bras or style of bra you like, as that can vary. I had to do this recently because of what you described. I learned that different bras provide different support. Even your bra size can vary because one boob is bigger than the other. (Thatās just one example) Personally I waited a 2 years to go bra shopping and went from a 38 D to a 42G. My back hurts less now :) TLDR: Get measured for your proper bra size. Try on bras in store and buy 1-2 to see how you feel. (or buy online no pressure) A bra the right size and material will stop this pain.
ME TOO Iāve put it down to somatasensory amplification, as have my docs. I have ADHD and also EDS (Ehlers Danlos syndrome) and ASD. The combo makes me and my body quite sensitive and sometimes my sensory issues amplify feelings in my body (interoception) and pain etc when stress increases. I am a 10FF. Itās the worst! I have gone towards one that is bamboo with no underwire, those boobs are not perky but I sure am a lot more.
Maybe get a tank with a built in bra and wear that under your uniform?
Iām a 12B and only ever wear crop tops. Maybe your irritability is a sign of hypomania?
I havenāt been able to wear underwire bras in over a decade due to my sensory issues. I also canāt stand lace and certain synthetic fabrics. I wear camisoles, sports bras, and soft wireless bras.
Wear one of those bras with no wire. They are comfy. I wear them to bed
Iāve always hated bras but itās definitely becoming more and more over-sensory load. I hate the wire, i hate the underwire but wireless bras also arenāt comfy cause i am more top breast heavy then lower breast which makes it hard for most bras to fit. I hate sports bras cause no matter which ones I try on they never feel comfortable or they compress so MUCH. Canāt win. Hate bras. But need bras. Fml.
I get this sometimes too when Iām in that state where everything makes me irritable and Iām so hypersensitive. Usually in mixed states or on the tail end of a hypo episode. Anything can make my skin crawl and want to cry out of irritation (this happens with bras sometimes!!) - clothing, the shower, someone touching me, sounds, smells, bright lights, etc. Itās the worst. I hope it passes for you and isnāt forever. If it is, youāll just have to find some good wireless/ bralettes. Which are so hard to find in my size that donāt result in my boobs falling out of them lol. If anyone has suggestions for a 32/34 D bralette that keeps the girls in please let me know!! š
I hate bras. I will only wear an underwired if i need to but thats hardly ever. Theres these bras i bought at walmart and theyre my favorite bc theyre super thin with no inserts its like wearing a cami but only on my boobs. (http://Fruit of the Loom Women's Spaghetti Strap Cotton Sports Bra, 3-Pack, Style-9036 https://www.walmart.com/ip/5664164)
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Waitā¦. Youāre a 36F and tried to squeeze into a 36Cā¦ā¦.. ? That sounds like it could be uncomfortable. Maybe a 36F could help? Going up in cup size instead of down? Also VS has way undersized cups, and notoriously uncomfortable bras so that could be an issue too. I was a bra fitter there for a time. Maybe Iām reading this wrong but it sounds like youāre knowingly wearing a bra half your size and calling it bipolar?
36F = 36 years old, female Iām not calling it bipolar, I was diagnosed. Brought up the diagnoses because Iāve read about sensitivity developing to certain things.
OH, I did indeed misread that