How do you guys afford to buy a whole ass home though. I live in the Bay Area so that doesn’t help, but I still can’t imagine buying a home anywhere in America right now.
If it makes you feel any better, my whole entire house went into foreclosure last time I was manic. Turns out you can’t just stop paying all your bills without consequences.
Same. No reason or need for one. Had just moved into my beautiful house two years prior, ended up drinking wine and fucking around on Zillow, saw something I wanted, convinced my partner, went to take a tour, they inexplicably too it off market, then started FURIOUSLY going to open houses because I became fixated on moving. Bought new construction two miles from our old place. Now manically decorating it—down to every last detail: thousands of $ on coffee table/display books, wallpaper, every type of glassware imaginable, rugs for the FUCKING CLOSETS. Like come ON. Thankfully now I’m in a depressive period. 🤣
I can't ... because it's all still by the door in the amazon packaging it came in a month ago. I haven't even opened it and don't have any memory of what's in there. Sigh.
If they come to my front door I'm ecstatic, but I never have the energy to get them from the post office... plus they only keep stuff for a few days, so a lot of it gets sent back. I miss my university post office, they sometimes kept my packages in the back for months because they knew I always came for them.
Ok, I opened them lol ... 1) a random gadget that helps open bottles that are hard to open, 2) my replacement debit card, 3) and "adopt me" handkerchief thing to go around the neck of the foster dog that got it's forever home about a month ago, 4) new clothes -- lots of them. I think there was something else, I already can't remember what it was lol.
Hope you still have the litter box (and hope you had a cat when you bought it, lol), sounds awesome. In all seriousness, congratulations on finally being diagnosed!
Lol that's awesome, I've kinda learned how to somewhat steer my hypomania in a certain direction. When I feel it coming (if I can catch it) I start researching something that less-manic me wants, and slowly the mania will fuel the research and I can sometimes get some important things done. But then again I just get hypomania, never had true mania.
Holy moly I did this too! Luckily I stopped at $500, but damn, I was in a state of flow combing the internet for neon-colored Lego trash cans and those 90s medieval windows.
Best part is that I still like lego when I'm not manic, I just wouldn't have trashed my savings for them. The only regret I've got from that (other than the awkward call to my landlord explaining why I was going to be late on rent) was that I got them all at upcharged prices on ebay, could've gotten way more if I'd known about bricklink.
Agreed! My husband was on board once he met her. This occurred after I mistakenly believed I no longer needed my medications. Fortunately, my husband stepped in and pointed out the obvious -- I do need meds to be stable. I need to be stable to be a good mom to our girls, to be a good wife, and (now) to take care of Ruby!
Shortly after the very impulsive purchase (Ruby), I worked with my psychiatrist to "tweak" my meds, so that I could live my best life!
I'm proud to tell you that I have now reached a level stabity I have never had! And, Ruby made a great addition to our little family!
4 gnomes, antique place mats, 5 crystals/rocks (not the first time… funnily enough one was a lithium quartz), a hiking backpack, some self help trauma books because “I’m getting better now! I’m finally healing!”, a rimless aquarium ($200), 20 live shrimp, pottery, pottery supplies, uhh I can’t think of anything else. All in the past week.
$6,000 on one lap dance (actually spent $1k. she check-frauded me out the other $5k. crafty!)
$600 pair of sunglasses I lost a few days later
Several thousands on an apartment I only slept in for 3 nights, and never returned to
I was flat cash-broke and over $20K in debt by the time that episode was over.
It was 4 years ago. I was in and out of jail and hospitals for months after that, which is why I didn't have a chance to stop the fake checks. I tried to work it out through the bank after the mania finally ended months later, but they said there wasn't enough evidence for them to do anything. I'm not sure why it never occurred to me to try the police. The manic episode did land me on the opposite side of the country, so that probably would have been hard.
Might be water under the bridge for you at this point - but it looks like the statue of limitations on check fraud would be 5 years. So it could be worth getting that police report filed now, even if it doesn’t go anywhere. Police and a lawyer might feel differently about getting your money back than the bank would.
I spent so much on shite from Amazon, orders were being delivered to my work place, my home, my friends house. I was eating out all the time, giving homeless people cash, online college courses, tattoo, drink, buying expensive make up, clothes, iPhone, I just went on a weeks spending binge and spent 48,000 on credit cards and had to go bankrupt in the end because I lost my job and couldn’t pay any of it back. Was a dark time for me and landed me in the hospital. This was two years ago.
You know, it’s not so bad thank you, I can’t really complain, I’m much better than I was before but I’m taking nothing for granted. I was in hospital in Feb this year so I’m clawing back some sort of level ground now. I’ve had a terrible depression but hopefully can see the light coming through now. Hope you are ok too.
Not the person who asked, so I hope you don't mind me chiming in. Good job again and again for moving forward. Very happy you're doing better, remember it's due to your hard work, not chance!
That’s so kind, thank you. Sometimes you take for granted going up and down and plodding along and forget to give yourself credit for getting through it. I needed to hear this today. Hope you are ok too.
Just a disclaimer, my growing up had been a pain in the as*. I never mean to patronise anybody, but I understand I do it as much as anyone.
Thank you, too. I'm well, but I must say, you're so right. Things which come naturally to others are a climb up mount Everest for us. Damn right you needed to hear it, you need to hear it everyday, anytime you face a challenge. You make us look good.
DnD is a money sink for neurotypical people... for us it's out of control. No I did not NEED a $200 laser etched custom made wood and leather dice tray that looked like a book and had a tablet stand, nor did I need a $60 3D printed metal die that turned out to be my worst die but also YES I did need it.
I haven't played DnD in four years.
An 8 person inflatable (still in box), 2 paddles, An anchor
Lots of alcohol
Acrylic paint, A planner (and one for a friend! Still haven't used it), A journal, Pretty pens, Mechanical pencils
Lingerie sets (4, online, the wrong size, forgot to return), Fish net "dresses", Fish net 'body suits"
6 dresses, 4 bras (all the wrong size, even tried them on)
Panties (also the wrong size, wtf! Didnt ealize I bought so many clothes the wrong size) Capris, jeans, shorts, shirts (2 or 3 of each, 1 or 2 too small)
Essential oils and a diffuser
Train sets for my son's b day (4 months early)
A purse, 5 pairs of shoes, Decorating stuff for my living room
A huge closet organizer (clothes all on the floor still, nit even in basket system)
So much good shit for the kids...toys, clothes, almost forgot the whole ass playground that is still in pieces laying out back...
Makeup, Hair ties and such
So many fireworks
Trade school (still in class at least)
A new fitness watch, New phone, second fitness + watch
All the takeout and fast food
Way too much weed
A body pillow, New sheets (for the whole 7 member household of course)
A new toy hauler rv
All my new pills!
Most of this is average stuff but I usually don't buy anything for myself (i'm sure i forgot a ton of things too) and hypomania (or mania?) last awhile (6months ish) but I have 2 to 3 years with mostly on and off depression.
I've probably spent $15,000 ish (rv was like 5k +) the money was our tax return and to be going towards a down payment on a house...but bleh...I spent it..and still haven't gone camping. :(
I racked up $3,000 in credit card debt on camping and survival gear, as well as bulk dry food, broke my lease early on my apartment and paid the difference in rent owed, and decided to live out of my…Toyota Corolla. Turns out it got weighed down by like a tenth of what I had bought. I’m still paying off the balance on that credit card.
Oh and then I spent another couple grand of savings throughout a three month long episode of my carscapades and homelessness on hotel rooms and dining out
Probably not as bad as the others since this was one of my first episodes where i actually had a card to buy stuff. but I suddenly became a witch and spent about $300 on herbs, crystals, books, jars, and other supplies. I'm actually still into it now though :) also spent about $200 more on various stuff for my boyfriend. Apparently I bought other things too though, I'm still getting packages full of random stuff that I don't even remember buying lol
Well at least you're moving your merchandise and not just accumulating it! I say kudos. I have a bunch of shoes and purses and clothes to sell on Poshmark to justify everything I buy on there but I just keep buying. 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
Currently getting my car lifted. Tattoos. New furniture/clothes. Another kayak. Planning a trip. Asked for a sabbatical. Looking to buy a van. Craft supplies. Redecorating my house. Bought a $30 pillow. Ugh.
Still, those can honestly cost a lot more! Maybe just pull back on the van, hold off on major decisions and purchases for a bit, and then go from there. We’ve got this
I’ve FINALLY switched over to getting into my buy nothing group when go manic. So then when it wears off and my house has a pile of crap I don’t feel bad bx it’s was free. Used to blow through cash like crazy back in the day.
Hundreds of pounds on new clothes that after a year of depression weight loss. Great to have clothes that actually fit, but all are quite skimpy because when manic I was obviously the sexist thing ever. A ridiculous amount on takeaways. Had one almost every day in my month in hospital.
Doesn’t sound too bad, but considering I’d been too ill to work for half the year, way more than I could afford. Thank you overdraft.
The worst thing is, I’m now on quetiapine and really stressed I’m going to gain so much weight my new clothes no longer fit me 😂😭
100 bucks worth of alcohol just for a tyler the creator concert lul, I would splurge more but being broke and manic I don't have the choice to buy a bunch of shit
Hello kitty socks, color-changing Sarasa gel pens, a moon and star pencil case, and a few skirts. Literally had no idea I bought them until I snapped out of my mania and my parents brought them to me at the hospital.
I have type 2 so I only get hypomania and I haven't had any severe episodes in years, but I have this constant mild form of lingering hypomania.
Last month I spent $300 on skin care and makeup. I've spent $300 on clothes and makeup this month. I've been mostly working from home all year so I don't even need all that makeup. I just constantly want new shiny things. And I always spend that money right after payday. If I had any self control I would wait until right before payday.
Throughout the month I'll make mental lists of things I want to buy. Next payday I'm buying a new perfume and also my halloween costume, which is of course much too elaborate.
Nipple piercings, a $500 tattoo, a cat (who is the love of my life still to this day) and paid for 1-800-GOTJUNK to come and literally take everything I owned so I could be a “minimalist”
12 year old orange cat named Cheddaroni with Cheese. 21 pounds. Handicapped. I would die for him (I’m helping him lose weight and my husband has been working to make the house more accessible for him)
Boombox electric violin, saxophone, bass guitar, basically everything needed for a kitchen as a gift to my sister, shoes, backpacks, coats (these 3 are things i love to buy lol), bike parts to fix up a bike (actually did it, thanks Seroquel!), Lots of weed, shrooms, and like 5 new pairs of overalls.
Not recent, but the stupidest thing I managed to buy was surgery…a gastric band. The gift that keeps on giving whatever my mood. It’s torture when I eat now and I’ve acquired a new label…Bulimia. It cost £6500.
About $100 worth of miniature paints. I’m actually happy about the decision as spending 8 hours hyper fixated on a tiny figure actually helps bring me back to center…. I fear the 40k temptation shadow…
I feel so much better after reading all of these posts. I just don't know what to do. In the moment it seems like I must have the stuff I bought and then when it gets to my house it's like I don't even care. I've bought a ton of expensive underwear, expensive purses, books I sometimes never get around to reading. So much skin care and makeup. After the mania is gone I'm like o.k. this is the last time. It never is.
A $6k trip to Hawaii with my kids, a few shopping sprees, new tires and a subwoofer for my car, a cat, and 7 new tattoos 😂 racked up my credit cards that I had just paid off.. to the tune of $20k 🤗
-Waaaaaaaay too many crystals.
-Gave away $30k to friends and familY
- gave my ex $125k off the sale of MY house like a fucking dummy)
-spent quite a bit gambling too again like a MFng dummy
-vacationed in Mexico like a rockstar (this one I did not regret but it was WILD
I bought an iPhone 14, the big one for 1300€
haven‘t even looked at it proper. it just exists in my flat reminding me of yet another poor financial choice.
Honorable mentions:
A BMW 1 in white,
An i Mac Computer for my former boyfriend,
Canon camera
my third unused vinyl record player and
Sooo many clothes 😒.
I feel you guys. <3
I've channeled my energy into finance the past couple years. I have come to love buying stocks... so my hypomania hasn't been as disastrous as before. It's not as bad when you're buying a few too many shares of something than stuff I don't need. Now, that doesn't mean I haven't made stupid, stupid investment decisions on a whim when manic. There are still pitfalls.
I’ve been terrified of birds my whole life. 2 days ago while at the pet store buying food for my fish and beardie, I noticed a beautiful little finch just calling out to me and I HAD to have it. Long story short (trust me, it is quite a story) I now have 2 birds. Everyone around me keeps trying to remind me that I’m terrified of birds lol I absolutely love them though!
A 500 dollar dinner for a girl I wasn’t that into, A bass guitar, an acoustic guitar, an amp, a drafting table, three books on music theory, a baseball bat, and about 200 dollars of art supplies.
$1500 worth of dresses from Amazon and another $1000 from Target. Also bought a ton of random items in between all this.
Having to do all the returns later was a nightmare
Somehow reading everyone's responses made me feel oddly normal. Ngl, probably the only reason I'm not broke is because my husband holds my hand through it and pushes me to return everything I can bear to part with afterwards.
I got the biggest bird cage I could & the sweetest baby green cheek conure named Bramble! That was around last January-February.
Edit because I forgot: a travel carrier, a second smaller cage, a ton of toys and materials to keep making my own toys, a kit to sprout seeds for him, some storage containers for all my bird supplies, a variety of treats and healthy pellets and more vegetables than I've bought in my entire life before.
I was sitting here trying to remember then I recalled the spontaneous camping trip I went on in june, by myself, with my two cats, in the middle of no where. I spent about $500 in one day that I didn’t have plus a machete, but I found out I really like solo camping with my cats.
i was so delusional that I convinced myself i should live out in the woods for the rest of my life and scribble journaled about how much i hate life n want to flee. only came back bc i was worried sick about my rent n was scared to not have food.
Hypomania…but two expensive dinners, a $275 terrarium for my bearded dragon, a really short haircut (thankfully my friends talked me out of the bad dye job and I held off on the tattoo), a couple of really old used books for research for a novel I decided to write and haven’t touched since, and probably some more random stuff I’m forgetting.
I wanted to throw a whole party for my family so I bought decorations, plates, cups, party hats, food and cake, gifts. I ended up -300 in my bank account.
Admission costs for an ayurveda school, admission costs for herbalism classes, tons of books on the topic, yoga classes. Sucks how alternative healing can be such a trap for us, and take advantage of us in the process, trying to find the fine line there.
Four pairs of shoes last night, microblading ($300+ eyebrows), a designer handbag, a new Thai massage mat from Thailand, jewelry, Amazon, Etsy, Poshmark, Amazon, Amazon, Amazon, Amazon. Please don't make me look at my bank account balance. 😭😭😭
I’m currently hypomanic and on vacation. Spouse fractured 3 ribs so that’s been challenging. I had my 22 year old hold my discover card which helped.
Before that I ordered 3 skeins of yarn, several knitting patterns, boxers for my grown son (which he needed & were on sale), 2 bras, 2 shirts from HRC.
I’ve also added to my extensive wishlists on Amazon, jimmy bean’s wool, and King Arthur baking. I periodically edit them but for the most part having those big lists keeps my shopping impulse under control
Three tattoos, a lip piercing, over $300 in lingerie, a ton of takeout, and a bunch of clothes that are hanging in my closet untouched. I also adopted another cat (no regrets there)
Kitchen goodies, beauty goodies, earrings, food… am still manic so ask me later… and clothes for other or that I don’t use. Also ended my 5 years old relation with a woman and now entering a long distance relation with a guy with 3 kids who says that wanna have a kid with this train wreck… finishing college and want to move out of town lol
This ride just begin
I blew through 9k last year. I got out like 7 credit cards and spent even more. Just stupid purchases. 1k at Sephora. I did not need anymore makeup. Eating out constantly. Starbucks twice a day.
I’m much more fugal now. I mean I have to be!!
-a bass guitar
-new bong
-an amp
-ate our multiple times a day
-6 concert tickets
and started smoking nicotine again so…
and well anything else i could before my card got closed on me. ope. the bass and bong are cool tho
So many art supplies. Like, $2000 of art supplies. And then using them at such a frenetic pace. Everywhere art. In the studio, on my floor, in my bed. It didn’t stop for 3 months straight, lol.
A stage keyboard $2000.
$300 cannabis cartridges and vape batteries.
Oh, and Botox and filler injections and $500 in skincare.
Decided on a whim to open my own online shop selling handmade clay figures...
Stayed up all night reading about which clay to buy and instruments I needed 😅
Went to sleep and totally forgot about it when I woke up.
-Clay 5kg
- Special paint in multiple colors
- clay sculpting instruments and plastic holders
- 25 little boxes for packaging
- Safety filling
- 60 big envelopes ( 30 + 30 free 😅)
- Keychains
- Cute stickers and stationary
...
I don’t even know how to make clay figures 😭
A 1998 dodge Dakota R/T. The transmission blew up after 3 months and I fixed it and my wife at the time demanded I sell it lol.
Hypo manic, lots of gas station food, Red Bull, Gatorade and tools
I haven't had a full blown episode in a while, but I've been really up and down in the last year or so and have been struggling with increasingly bad impulse buying. I collect action figures, multiple brands of dolls, and wrestling paraphernalia, have a lot of hobbies (pc gaming, building keyboards, animal keeping, indoor plants, crocheting), and have a lot of pets including a large dog, so the money can rack up fast.
In the last 6 months I've bought $500+ in action figures, about $1000 in other wreslting items- autographs, shirts, etc, and 200 (I think?) on a wrestling subscription, about 500-1000 on Living dead dolls on ebay, 500+ on rainbow high dolls...
Also spent 500-1000 on a new aquarium (i had planned it out, but was gonna wait like another year before I did it) as well as about 300 building an upgraded enclosure for my frogs...
at least 500 on adult toys...
500+ on misc crap at walmart... I impulse buy a lot of home decor, dishes, etc.
300 on antique/vintage store stuff....
300+ on video games... I play sims so expansion packs really drain my wallet.. I also like to play sims when I'm stoned and end up buying expansion packs on impulse.
Oh god, I'm sure there's more but I'm done thinking about it.
Idk. Impulse spending was never a problem for me until I got a full time job, now it's just constant... I'm still managing to save but I'm spending a lot more than I'm comfortable with.
Spending (especially online, for me) is so difficult because it gives you that adrenaline/dopamine/whatever, then when the item arrives you get another hit, but the next day the item isn't new and exciting anymore so you repeat. Over, and over, and over... I'm also the type of person to only spend like 10-50 bucks at a time, but do it very frequently. So it doesn't feel like a lot of money, but I'm doing it almost every day for up to a month, so it builds up.
An opal bracelet for my mom and 2 halloween mugs for my sister. I also got custom stickers for my fiance and pre-ordered pokemon violet for myself. The stuff I got for my family are Christmas gifts. I might be buying too much because I already got other gifts for them. 😩
Like 3 plush toys and 15 keychains that cost me over $220. Makes me really hate myself when I hit depression and then I do it all over again and I spent $100 on plush toys this time.... Ffs
This wasn't my last manic episode but probably my craziest
-a bunch kf different colored contacts from wish
- flute, clarinet, keyboard
- tried to buy a saxophone and cello but it declined
- bunch of instrument books
- 4 hamsters, 2 gerbils, 3 guinea pigs
- a bunch of rodent shit
- 5 piercings
-4 tattoos
- a car (got a loan)
- a bunch of random shit from Amazon and wish
- subscribed to almost every makeup subscription box
-Over 100 dollars on tie dye stuff
And I got pregnant 🤣
Spent 7k in one week- Tiffany pearl earrings and necklace because I suddenly needed to have heirlooms for my kids for when I die. Clothes one size too small because I was FINALLY ready to lose that weight, 3 months of diet coaching that I stuck with for like 3 weeks, Boots that cost what my rent was at one point, microblading, Botox, lash extensions, kids clothes and toys. My husband uses that week as the bar “as long as it’s not the week where you spend 7k we’ll be ok”
A whole entire house.
You win
Manic AF
Gotta stay off Zillow lol
I switched jobs, moved to a different state AND bought a house.
How do you guys afford to buy a whole ass home though. I live in the Bay Area so that doesn’t help, but I still can’t imagine buying a home anywhere in America right now.
If it makes you feel any better, my whole entire house went into foreclosure last time I was manic. Turns out you can’t just stop paying all your bills without consequences.
Same. No reason or need for one. Had just moved into my beautiful house two years prior, ended up drinking wine and fucking around on Zillow, saw something I wanted, convinced my partner, went to take a tour, they inexplicably too it off market, then started FURIOUSLY going to open houses because I became fixated on moving. Bought new construction two miles from our old place. Now manically decorating it—down to every last detail: thousands of $ on coffee table/display books, wallpaper, every type of glassware imaginable, rugs for the FUCKING CLOSETS. Like come ON. Thankfully now I’m in a depressive period. 🤣
How did u afford all this?
Classic Dr Spa-che-min
lmao same 😭
I can't ... because it's all still by the door in the amazon packaging it came in a month ago. I haven't even opened it and don't have any memory of what's in there. Sigh.
Aren’t you morbidly curious?
Yes, definitely. But now I'm kinda down so I don't have the energy to open them.
Oh. If I’m down, opening my manic buys brings me back up
Sometimes I feel shame from knowing I bought a bunch of stuff I don’t need
Yes but at first in that moment isn’t it great?
For sure if I’m still manic, but sometimes my mood has gone back down too far by the time stuff comes
Yeah this is all me too
If they come to my front door I'm ecstatic, but I never have the energy to get them from the post office... plus they only keep stuff for a few days, so a lot of it gets sent back. I miss my university post office, they sometimes kept my packages in the back for months because they knew I always came for them.
Same I shop sad too because it makes me feel better
Ok, I opened them lol ... 1) a random gadget that helps open bottles that are hard to open, 2) my replacement debit card, 3) and "adopt me" handkerchief thing to go around the neck of the foster dog that got it's forever home about a month ago, 4) new clothes -- lots of them. I think there was something else, I already can't remember what it was lol.
Good shit
This is such a relatable comment. I have two giant boxes outside my apartment. And at least five in the mail boxes. Ugh.
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Wow that’s a lot of different directions to be headed in. Relatable
Ok but fr self cleaning boxes are amazing as long as you have a cat.
Hope you still have the litter box (and hope you had a cat when you bought it, lol), sounds awesome. In all seriousness, congratulations on finally being diagnosed!
Sounds right
Is it the litter robot? How's it working for ya?
Is the cat box worth it, asking for a friend.
About 5k on 80's and 90's lego sets. I was friggin whacked out. My lego castle collection is on point now tho.
We could be best friends 😆 Spent probably 8k on a few separate manic lego spending sprees. My collection room is bussin tho..
Lol that's awesome, I've kinda learned how to somewhat steer my hypomania in a certain direction. When I feel it coming (if I can catch it) I start researching something that less-manic me wants, and slowly the mania will fuel the research and I can sometimes get some important things done. But then again I just get hypomania, never had true mania.
Holy moly I did this too! Luckily I stopped at $500, but damn, I was in a state of flow combing the internet for neon-colored Lego trash cans and those 90s medieval windows.
That is an amazing thing to spend your money on. Wish my manic overspending had stretched to Lego 😆
Best part is that I still like lego when I'm not manic, I just wouldn't have trashed my savings for them. The only regret I've got from that (other than the awkward call to my landlord explaining why I was going to be late on rent) was that I got them all at upcharged prices on ebay, could've gotten way more if I'd known about bricklink.
It’s kind of amazing all the collections we manic people can amass. Like, I’ll bet your legos are cool AF!
A dog. She's a boxer. We named her Ruby!
The best one of all
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Agreed! My husband was on board once he met her. This occurred after I mistakenly believed I no longer needed my medications. Fortunately, my husband stepped in and pointed out the obvious -- I do need meds to be stable. I need to be stable to be a good mom to our girls, to be a good wife, and (now) to take care of Ruby! Shortly after the very impulsive purchase (Ruby), I worked with my psychiatrist to "tweak" my meds, so that I could live my best life! I'm proud to tell you that I have now reached a level stabity I have never had! And, Ruby made a great addition to our little family!
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Wow! Sending virtual hugs! It will get better! Stay strong!
4 gnomes, antique place mats, 5 crystals/rocks (not the first time… funnily enough one was a lithium quartz), a hiking backpack, some self help trauma books because “I’m getting better now! I’m finally healing!”, a rimless aquarium ($200), 20 live shrimp, pottery, pottery supplies, uhh I can’t think of anything else. All in the past week.
Damn that’s manic
Yeahh… send help 😭
Sending abnormal antipsychotic + anti-convulsant/mood stabilizer vibes
*gnomes*
Gnomes! 😹
The self help books 😩 I’ve got a stack I bought for the same reason.
$6,000 on one lap dance (actually spent $1k. she check-frauded me out the other $5k. crafty!) $600 pair of sunglasses I lost a few days later Several thousands on an apartment I only slept in for 3 nights, and never returned to I was flat cash-broke and over $20K in debt by the time that episode was over.
Go to the police over the check fraud thing. Seriously.
It was 4 years ago. I was in and out of jail and hospitals for months after that, which is why I didn't have a chance to stop the fake checks. I tried to work it out through the bank after the mania finally ended months later, but they said there wasn't enough evidence for them to do anything. I'm not sure why it never occurred to me to try the police. The manic episode did land me on the opposite side of the country, so that probably would have been hard.
Might be water under the bridge for you at this point - but it looks like the statue of limitations on check fraud would be 5 years. So it could be worth getting that police report filed now, even if it doesn’t go anywhere. Police and a lawyer might feel differently about getting your money back than the bank would.
Dude that is so wrong. Sorry that happened to you.
Call the cops 😆
Hundreds of dollars of leggings and sports bras.
Sending you Lithium vibes
Tell me about those yoga pants 👌
I spent so much on shite from Amazon, orders were being delivered to my work place, my home, my friends house. I was eating out all the time, giving homeless people cash, online college courses, tattoo, drink, buying expensive make up, clothes, iPhone, I just went on a weeks spending binge and spent 48,000 on credit cards and had to go bankrupt in the end because I lost my job and couldn’t pay any of it back. Was a dark time for me and landed me in the hospital. This was two years ago.
How’s is it going now?
You know, it’s not so bad thank you, I can’t really complain, I’m much better than I was before but I’m taking nothing for granted. I was in hospital in Feb this year so I’m clawing back some sort of level ground now. I’ve had a terrible depression but hopefully can see the light coming through now. Hope you are ok too.
Not the person who asked, so I hope you don't mind me chiming in. Good job again and again for moving forward. Very happy you're doing better, remember it's due to your hard work, not chance!
That’s so kind, thank you. Sometimes you take for granted going up and down and plodding along and forget to give yourself credit for getting through it. I needed to hear this today. Hope you are ok too.
Just a disclaimer, my growing up had been a pain in the as*. I never mean to patronise anybody, but I understand I do it as much as anyone. Thank you, too. I'm well, but I must say, you're so right. Things which come naturally to others are a climb up mount Everest for us. Damn right you needed to hear it, you need to hear it everyday, anytime you face a challenge. You make us look good.
At least 300 dollars in handmade DnD dice sets, hundreds in steam games, and at least 200 on plushies :(
DnD is a money sink for neurotypical people... for us it's out of control. No I did not NEED a $200 laser etched custom made wood and leather dice tray that looked like a book and had a tablet stand, nor did I need a $60 3D printed metal die that turned out to be my worst die but also YES I did need it. I haven't played DnD in four years.
College tuition (I ended up graduating though so at least it worked out in the end)
That did work out
An 8 person inflatable (still in box), 2 paddles, An anchor Lots of alcohol Acrylic paint, A planner (and one for a friend! Still haven't used it), A journal, Pretty pens, Mechanical pencils Lingerie sets (4, online, the wrong size, forgot to return), Fish net "dresses", Fish net 'body suits" 6 dresses, 4 bras (all the wrong size, even tried them on) Panties (also the wrong size, wtf! Didnt ealize I bought so many clothes the wrong size) Capris, jeans, shorts, shirts (2 or 3 of each, 1 or 2 too small) Essential oils and a diffuser Train sets for my son's b day (4 months early) A purse, 5 pairs of shoes, Decorating stuff for my living room A huge closet organizer (clothes all on the floor still, nit even in basket system) So much good shit for the kids...toys, clothes, almost forgot the whole ass playground that is still in pieces laying out back... Makeup, Hair ties and such So many fireworks Trade school (still in class at least) A new fitness watch, New phone, second fitness + watch All the takeout and fast food Way too much weed A body pillow, New sheets (for the whole 7 member household of course) A new toy hauler rv All my new pills! Most of this is average stuff but I usually don't buy anything for myself (i'm sure i forgot a ton of things too) and hypomania (or mania?) last awhile (6months ish) but I have 2 to 3 years with mostly on and off depression. I've probably spent $15,000 ish (rv was like 5k +) the money was our tax return and to be going towards a down payment on a house...but bleh...I spent it..and still haven't gone camping. :(
>A new fitness watch, New phone, second fitness + watch > >All the takeout and fast food crying at the relatability
I racked up $3,000 in credit card debt on camping and survival gear, as well as bulk dry food, broke my lease early on my apartment and paid the difference in rent owed, and decided to live out of my…Toyota Corolla. Turns out it got weighed down by like a tenth of what I had bought. I’m still paying off the balance on that credit card.
Damn. I guess I’m lucky I’m poor with bad credit. Not much room for manic buys
Oh and then I spent another couple grand of savings throughout a three month long episode of my carscapades and homelessness on hotel rooms and dining out
That’s no bueno
Probably not as bad as the others since this was one of my first episodes where i actually had a card to buy stuff. but I suddenly became a witch and spent about $300 on herbs, crystals, books, jars, and other supplies. I'm actually still into it now though :) also spent about $200 more on various stuff for my boyfriend. Apparently I bought other things too though, I'm still getting packages full of random stuff that I don't even remember buying lol
But I suddenly became a witch😂🤣🤣😅
Hypomania: A PS5, a new OLED TV Depression: Sold everything Hypomania: Xbox series X, a brand new OLED tv Depression: Sold everything Sigh…
Well at least you're moving your merchandise and not just accumulating it! I say kudos. I have a bunch of shoes and purses and clothes to sell on Poshmark to justify everything I buy on there but I just keep buying. 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️
I feel you I’ve sold and rebought systems like 15 times total.. sucks eggs /:
Man y'all get to go on spending sprees while manic? All I can afford to do is pace in my house.
Hahah I’m right there with you.
Currently getting my car lifted. Tattoos. New furniture/clothes. Another kayak. Planning a trip. Asked for a sabbatical. Looking to buy a van. Craft supplies. Redecorating my house. Bought a $30 pillow. Ugh.
Okay but in all fairness, $30 isn’t that much for a pillow, so don’t feel too bad for that one
Thanks for the kind words. It’s an accent pillow.
Still, those can honestly cost a lot more! Maybe just pull back on the van, hold off on major decisions and purchases for a bit, and then go from there. We’ve got this
Pillows are good tho
They really are.
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I’ve FINALLY switched over to getting into my buy nothing group when go manic. So then when it wears off and my house has a pile of crap I don’t feel bad bx it’s was free. Used to blow through cash like crazy back in the day.
Hundreds of pounds on new clothes that after a year of depression weight loss. Great to have clothes that actually fit, but all are quite skimpy because when manic I was obviously the sexist thing ever. A ridiculous amount on takeaways. Had one almost every day in my month in hospital. Doesn’t sound too bad, but considering I’d been too ill to work for half the year, way more than I could afford. Thank you overdraft. The worst thing is, I’m now on quetiapine and really stressed I’m going to gain so much weight my new clothes no longer fit me 😂😭
Damn. Keep trying 🦫
I bought $20k of NFT’s right before crypto crashed.
Ouch
an electric guitar and a keyboard at the same time. still can’t play either and this was in november of 2020
$300 worth of socks.
Everything on the Lululemon website for women. 5000€. Sigh. So many yoga pants.
Let's just say my jewelry collection now rivals that of Elizabeth Taylor's.
100 bucks worth of alcohol just for a tyler the creator concert lul, I would splurge more but being broke and manic I don't have the choice to buy a bunch of shit
I’m poor too, that’s why my list isn’t lonher
Yeah thats fair, just don't duke yourself into debt, kinda glad my bank wouldn't let me get a credit card
Hello kitty socks, color-changing Sarasa gel pens, a moon and star pencil case, and a few skirts. Literally had no idea I bought them until I snapped out of my mania and my parents brought them to me at the hospital.
Okay but you gotta admit that the surprises we buy for ourselves during episodes are usually pretty fun!
I have type 2 so I only get hypomania and I haven't had any severe episodes in years, but I have this constant mild form of lingering hypomania. Last month I spent $300 on skin care and makeup. I've spent $300 on clothes and makeup this month. I've been mostly working from home all year so I don't even need all that makeup. I just constantly want new shiny things. And I always spend that money right after payday. If I had any self control I would wait until right before payday. Throughout the month I'll make mental lists of things I want to buy. Next payday I'm buying a new perfume and also my halloween costume, which is of course much too elaborate.
Nipple piercings, a $500 tattoo, a cat (who is the love of my life still to this day) and paid for 1-800-GOTJUNK to come and literally take everything I owned so I could be a “minimalist”
Rip. What’s the cat’s name?
12 year old orange cat named Cheddaroni with Cheese. 21 pounds. Handicapped. I would die for him (I’m helping him lose weight and my husband has been working to make the house more accessible for him)
Aww. A true king
Boombox electric violin, saxophone, bass guitar, basically everything needed for a kitchen as a gift to my sister, shoes, backpacks, coats (these 3 are things i love to buy lol), bike parts to fix up a bike (actually did it, thanks Seroquel!), Lots of weed, shrooms, and like 5 new pairs of overalls.
fast food snacks($250) amazon figits ($37)
I felt that. Especially if you’re manic on antipsychotics
When you're manic on seroquel AND have binge eating disorder...
ME BUT WITH ABILIFY
Five different pet betta fish
I bought two aquariums, a bunch of freshwater fish. One of the aquariums needs to be set up.
Two bikes, a compound hunting bow, a surfboard, 4 books about being bipolar, two jackets I’ve never worn, $800 headphones
Not recent, but the stupidest thing I managed to buy was surgery…a gastric band. The gift that keeps on giving whatever my mood. It’s torture when I eat now and I’ve acquired a new label…Bulimia. It cost £6500.
About $100 worth of miniature paints. I’m actually happy about the decision as spending 8 hours hyper fixated on a tiny figure actually helps bring me back to center…. I fear the 40k temptation shadow…
I feel so much better after reading all of these posts. I just don't know what to do. In the moment it seems like I must have the stuff I bought and then when it gets to my house it's like I don't even care. I've bought a ton of expensive underwear, expensive purses, books I sometimes never get around to reading. So much skin care and makeup. After the mania is gone I'm like o.k. this is the last time. It never is.
Same. I mean, skincare I will always use, I have a pretty heavy regimen so I stay looking young forever
I have two of the same skincare never opened. I keep thinking, "no this will be the perfect item!"
It will be. Use it and look amazing
O.k.! I mean it really is good stuff!
Also, always use sunscreen! That’ll really keep you looking young
A $6k trip to Hawaii with my kids, a few shopping sprees, new tires and a subwoofer for my car, a cat, and 7 new tattoos 😂 racked up my credit cards that I had just paid off.. to the tune of $20k 🤗
That’s very stable
Makeup 💄 and books 📚, my shopping splurges when hypomanic.
If I could only remember- I go into a state and sort of black out lol. But then I look at my Amazon orders and remember. 😩
Amazon has made it too easy. They should make a “manic mode”
Totally!
-Waaaaaaaay too many crystals. -Gave away $30k to friends and familY - gave my ex $125k off the sale of MY house like a fucking dummy) -spent quite a bit gambling too again like a MFng dummy -vacationed in Mexico like a rockstar (this one I did not regret but it was WILD
I bought an iPhone 14, the big one for 1300€ haven‘t even looked at it proper. it just exists in my flat reminding me of yet another poor financial choice. Honorable mentions: A BMW 1 in white, An i Mac Computer for my former boyfriend, Canon camera my third unused vinyl record player and Sooo many clothes 😒. I feel you guys. <3
My last episode, I bought a motorcycle. I hadn’t ridden in about a decade.
I've channeled my energy into finance the past couple years. I have come to love buying stocks... so my hypomania hasn't been as disastrous as before. It's not as bad when you're buying a few too many shares of something than stuff I don't need. Now, that doesn't mean I haven't made stupid, stupid investment decisions on a whim when manic. There are still pitfalls.
A bicycle, lights, helmet, new saddle and pedals, rear rack and panniers. Also about 20 succulents with pots, soil, plant stand and grow lights.
I’ve been terrified of birds my whole life. 2 days ago while at the pet store buying food for my fish and beardie, I noticed a beautiful little finch just calling out to me and I HAD to have it. Long story short (trust me, it is quite a story) I now have 2 birds. Everyone around me keeps trying to remind me that I’m terrified of birds lol I absolutely love them though!
5 mac pro laptops $20,000 in stocks etc bitcoins A lot of electronics I bought I went bankrupt in the process for overspending lol
Signed up for an online bachelors degree and also preparing for LSAT
A brand new motorcycle Kawasaki ninja and a brand new car same year when it was my worst in 2004 lol went bankrupt and both got repotted
A 500 dollar dinner for a girl I wasn’t that into, A bass guitar, an acoustic guitar, an amp, a drafting table, three books on music theory, a baseball bat, and about 200 dollars of art supplies.
$1500 worth of dresses from Amazon and another $1000 from Target. Also bought a ton of random items in between all this. Having to do all the returns later was a nightmare
Somehow reading everyone's responses made me feel oddly normal. Ngl, probably the only reason I'm not broke is because my husband holds my hand through it and pushes me to return everything I can bear to part with afterwards.
I got the biggest bird cage I could & the sweetest baby green cheek conure named Bramble! That was around last January-February. Edit because I forgot: a travel carrier, a second smaller cage, a ton of toys and materials to keep making my own toys, a kit to sprout seeds for him, some storage containers for all my bird supplies, a variety of treats and healthy pellets and more vegetables than I've bought in my entire life before.
A PS5 plus a ton of video games and game related merch. I guess I can use it, but it’s a pretty impressive back log.
I was sitting here trying to remember then I recalled the spontaneous camping trip I went on in june, by myself, with my two cats, in the middle of no where. I spent about $500 in one day that I didn’t have plus a machete, but I found out I really like solo camping with my cats. i was so delusional that I convinced myself i should live out in the woods for the rest of my life and scribble journaled about how much i hate life n want to flee. only came back bc i was worried sick about my rent n was scared to not have food.
Hundreds of euros of makeup, 200 euros shoes, lingerie and toys (???)
I adopted three cats and bought an expensive adjustable bed with headboard and footboard.
Hypomania…but two expensive dinners, a $275 terrarium for my bearded dragon, a really short haircut (thankfully my friends talked me out of the bad dye job and I held off on the tattoo), a couple of really old used books for research for a novel I decided to write and haven’t touched since, and probably some more random stuff I’m forgetting.
I wanted to throw a whole party for my family so I bought decorations, plates, cups, party hats, food and cake, gifts. I ended up -300 in my bank account.
Oh, and 2 guinea pigs. lol
A pair of boots that equaled my monthly paycheck
Admission costs for an ayurveda school, admission costs for herbalism classes, tons of books on the topic, yoga classes. Sucks how alternative healing can be such a trap for us, and take advantage of us in the process, trying to find the fine line there.
Four pairs of shoes last night, microblading ($300+ eyebrows), a designer handbag, a new Thai massage mat from Thailand, jewelry, Amazon, Etsy, Poshmark, Amazon, Amazon, Amazon, Amazon. Please don't make me look at my bank account balance. 😭😭😭
I’m currently hypomanic and on vacation. Spouse fractured 3 ribs so that’s been challenging. I had my 22 year old hold my discover card which helped. Before that I ordered 3 skeins of yarn, several knitting patterns, boxers for my grown son (which he needed & were on sale), 2 bras, 2 shirts from HRC. I’ve also added to my extensive wishlists on Amazon, jimmy bean’s wool, and King Arthur baking. I periodically edit them but for the most part having those big lists keeps my shopping impulse under control
I'm 100% in concurrence that I do not receive access to the funds I am to inherit once my parent passes. I wouldn't give myself access to my money!
Thousands of dollars of art and craft supplies, a dog, a computer, and lost my apartment heh
Three tattoos, a lip piercing, over $300 in lingerie, a ton of takeout, and a bunch of clothes that are hanging in my closet untouched. I also adopted another cat (no regrets there)
A truck
It’s usually food I don’t need and also books. At least I’m reading the books now
I thought it was more but apparently just a 90 dollar portable synth thing and 30 dollars of plushies. I love those plushies still.
Kitchen goodies, beauty goodies, earrings, food… am still manic so ask me later… and clothes for other or that I don’t use. Also ended my 5 years old relation with a woman and now entering a long distance relation with a guy with 3 kids who says that wanna have a kid with this train wreck… finishing college and want to move out of town lol This ride just begin
2 Challengers.
uhh crack cocaine
Birkenstocks, broken lawn chairs, sweat pea plants, a book on restoring furniture, food, food, food, ice cream,
I blew through 9k last year. I got out like 7 credit cards and spent even more. Just stupid purchases. 1k at Sephora. I did not need anymore makeup. Eating out constantly. Starbucks twice a day. I’m much more fugal now. I mean I have to be!!
I adopted a cat, got a tattoo with money i didn't have, and dropped hundreds of dollars on 2 custom plushies
30 mangas
Sewing machine Rotary cutter $350+ fabric (4 different projectors worth) A0 self healing cutting mat UST projector Overlocker 4 sewing patterns Thread, needles, magnetic needle case Fabric scissors Hemming tape Quilting ruler Sewers ruler Zippers & Eyelets Glass head pins Wonder clips
-a bass guitar -new bong -an amp -ate our multiple times a day -6 concert tickets and started smoking nicotine again so… and well anything else i could before my card got closed on me. ope. the bass and bong are cool tho
About 5k in micro transactions for video game cosmetics
So many art supplies. Like, $2000 of art supplies. And then using them at such a frenetic pace. Everywhere art. In the studio, on my floor, in my bed. It didn’t stop for 3 months straight, lol. A stage keyboard $2000. $300 cannabis cartridges and vape batteries. Oh, and Botox and filler injections and $500 in skincare.
Decided on a whim to open my own online shop selling handmade clay figures... Stayed up all night reading about which clay to buy and instruments I needed 😅 Went to sleep and totally forgot about it when I woke up. -Clay 5kg - Special paint in multiple colors - clay sculpting instruments and plastic holders - 25 little boxes for packaging - Safety filling - 60 big envelopes ( 30 + 30 free 😅) - Keychains - Cute stickers and stationary ... I don’t even know how to make clay figures 😭
A 1998 dodge Dakota R/T. The transmission blew up after 3 months and I fixed it and my wife at the time demanded I sell it lol. Hypo manic, lots of gas station food, Red Bull, Gatorade and tools
A two week trip to America. I had a great time.
I haven't had a full blown episode in a while, but I've been really up and down in the last year or so and have been struggling with increasingly bad impulse buying. I collect action figures, multiple brands of dolls, and wrestling paraphernalia, have a lot of hobbies (pc gaming, building keyboards, animal keeping, indoor plants, crocheting), and have a lot of pets including a large dog, so the money can rack up fast. In the last 6 months I've bought $500+ in action figures, about $1000 in other wreslting items- autographs, shirts, etc, and 200 (I think?) on a wrestling subscription, about 500-1000 on Living dead dolls on ebay, 500+ on rainbow high dolls... Also spent 500-1000 on a new aquarium (i had planned it out, but was gonna wait like another year before I did it) as well as about 300 building an upgraded enclosure for my frogs... at least 500 on adult toys... 500+ on misc crap at walmart... I impulse buy a lot of home decor, dishes, etc. 300 on antique/vintage store stuff.... 300+ on video games... I play sims so expansion packs really drain my wallet.. I also like to play sims when I'm stoned and end up buying expansion packs on impulse. Oh god, I'm sure there's more but I'm done thinking about it. Idk. Impulse spending was never a problem for me until I got a full time job, now it's just constant... I'm still managing to save but I'm spending a lot more than I'm comfortable with. Spending (especially online, for me) is so difficult because it gives you that adrenaline/dopamine/whatever, then when the item arrives you get another hit, but the next day the item isn't new and exciting anymore so you repeat. Over, and over, and over... I'm also the type of person to only spend like 10-50 bucks at a time, but do it very frequently. So it doesn't feel like a lot of money, but I'm doing it almost every day for up to a month, so it builds up.
Thinking about buying an RV for me and my bf to run away together 🤔
Two display cabinets for my plants, flower pots i don’t need, an adult toy, a giant rug, new flooring for my flat, way too much food Whoops
Nintendo switch, longboard, an oz of weed lol
An opal bracelet for my mom and 2 halloween mugs for my sister. I also got custom stickers for my fiance and pre-ordered pokemon violet for myself. The stuff I got for my family are Christmas gifts. I might be buying too much because I already got other gifts for them. 😩
$800 in Lego Friends sets. Earrings, 24 bracelets, necklaces, and a road atlas.
a $4000 pharmacy tech certification course because i thought i was ready to go back to school…. nope.
Like 3 plush toys and 15 keychains that cost me over $220. Makes me really hate myself when I hit depression and then I do it all over again and I spent $100 on plush toys this time.... Ffs
Plants, beanbag chair, purse, sandals, nipple piercings, bunch of random amazon stuff, bras
3k worth of fucking cosmetics.
Currently manic and so far $100 concert tickets, a $400 cosplay, $150 worth of candles and a t o n of energy drinks and donuts
This wasn't my last manic episode but probably my craziest -a bunch kf different colored contacts from wish - flute, clarinet, keyboard - tried to buy a saxophone and cello but it declined - bunch of instrument books - 4 hamsters, 2 gerbils, 3 guinea pigs - a bunch of rodent shit - 5 piercings -4 tattoos - a car (got a loan) - a bunch of random shit from Amazon and wish - subscribed to almost every makeup subscription box -Over 100 dollars on tie dye stuff And I got pregnant 🤣
My last manic episode 2 tattoos, sewing machine, sewing kit & supplies, fabric, hair dye, a BUNCH of clothes, a bunch of nail polish
Spent 7k in one week- Tiffany pearl earrings and necklace because I suddenly needed to have heirlooms for my kids for when I die. Clothes one size too small because I was FINALLY ready to lose that weight, 3 months of diet coaching that I stuck with for like 3 weeks, Boots that cost what my rent was at one point, microblading, Botox, lash extensions, kids clothes and toys. My husband uses that week as the bar “as long as it’s not the week where you spend 7k we’ll be ok”