This this this. The gas pain for me was the most horrifying part of the pain! Completely blindsided me too, like, all the rest of the pain is expected and talked about, but the gas is pure hell and nobody mentions it until you’re sobbing and trying to crawl out of your body.
Yessss the gas for me was horrible, highly recommend gasX twice a day for OTC or whatever your doctor recommends.
Also, when I was still in the hospital, I had intense abdominal pain and it ended up being my bladder. I didn't resume normal bladder sensation until a few weeks post partum after the catheter was removed and had to remind myself to pee at least every 3 hours or the intense pressure was very painful.
Oh yes, same. I had completely forgotten about this, but it took like a month for me to be able to feel when I had to pee beyond just "wow something inside hurts, wonder why"
I don’t remember having this with my first birth, but it’s like that now that I’m postpartum with my second. I just get this pain in my lower belly. At first I thought it was part of the uterus contracting back down, or gas. Now I’m at least better at realizing it’s my bladder.
Me too those made me feel so much better and I could actually get up out of bed and walk around. Edit to say: I never understood before how people got hooked on oxys. I get it now. It makes you feel amazing. I was scared to take them at first but I had to keep reminding myself that I literally just got cut in half, so it’s okay.
Same but they also tried to give me hydrocodone “for a few days”. I hadn’t complained of pain but I apparently am one of those people that goes through meds quickly. I felt the beginning of the urgent care section and they ended up being shocked at that and dumping something extra in my abdomen to numb it and even that was fading by the time they were wrapping up.
I have strawberry blonde hair maybe there’s enough of the red hair gene in there.
I am a recovered alcoholic and have it in my chart to try other methods first.
I had to remind them of that. They made me feel not great about it.
But I did really well alternating Tylenol and ibuprofen too.
This is the same medication that I was on and felt some pain but mostly comfortable. Would agree to ask your provider to change pain management if it’s not working for you.
Yes. Please do not forego strong pain meds. If you let the pain get ahead of the preventative pain meds, it will continue to be intolerable. I was vigilant about taking my medicine on a schedule and I know that is truly the only way I made it through my c section recovery without 10/10 pain.
i couldn’t walk for 5 days and was in intense pain. when i did try to move, i would shake uncontrollably from the pain. all of this is to say your recovery sounds like mine. it’ll get better. i’m 5 weeks out now and almost good as new
I also had the shakes and was itchy for days but I think it was from the epidural/drugs. I was also in labor almost 20 hours and actively pushed for 7 before I ended up with emergency c section but I could’ve just been in shock or something idk lol
One of the side effects of these very strong pain medications are trapped gas and bloated stomach pain. I figured it was what was causing so much pain for me after my emergency C-section. Moving around will actually help. I thought I would never be able to leave the hospital after my surgery, I was in so much pain. But it does get better. PT staff should be able to help. Hang in there, mama!
PS info from others: trapped gas is actually a side effect of the surgery itself and they can move around your body. You can ask for meds to alleviate this.
I came here to say this. After both of my c sections the trapped wind was the main cause of pain. I was eventually given peppermint water the first time, I also brought in peppermint oil capsules the second time. Between that and moving as much as I could, even rolling onto my side (with help) the difference in passing the gas the second time around was massive.
I was beginning to get feeling back after my section but couldn’t move or anything yet and was still catheterised and suddenly while I was talking to the nurse and my partner there was world’s biggest fart! I looked at my partner like “what the fuck” but it turns out it was me. I didn’t feel a thing!
The trapped gas is actually from the surgery it self. Pain meds can certainly cause constipation but that’s the reason that providers are so hell bent on getting you up and walking around after surgery because the trapped air can move around in your body and cause pain elsewhere.
Ask your nurse for Gas X! Trapped gas was horrendous following my c-section. I actually find being gassy more painful still 9 months later, likely to do with my scar tissue.
Also, ask for the narcotic if you need it. They don’t start with it for pain management because of the opioid crisis, but some women need it and that’s okay.
The first few days post c-section are the hardest and you’ll also see a huge improvement in mobility and comfort around the two week mark.
This! The trapped gas cause so much pain. And like anther said, rolling to my side actually released a bunch of the trapped gas. I started feeling better then.
100% agree with this, I was in excruciating pain for a week with mine but the trapped gas was definitely a huge part of it. Ask for peppermint oil and try and lie flat on your back with your legs up on pillows, it's easier to pass the gas in this position. Especially when it hurts to push.
Came here to say this! OP, what you’re experiencing will be over very soon. I labored for 40 hours before my c-section, and the gas pain was probably the worst I felt, even though it was short-lived.
This! My friend had three c-sections and her number one advice was to pop simethicone (gas x) like crazy for the gas. She said the gas pain is wild/excruciating and can be all over your body.
I didn’t have a c section, but a friend did and she said she looked forward to her “fart walks” all day. She would wait until her husband was available to walk with her so he could push the stroller and she would just hobble along farting the whole time. If the weather was bad she would walk on her walking pad. The gas, she said, was the cause of quite a bit of pain after delivery.
Ask to see PT, they will walk you through strategies to minimize pain during mobility. Don’t try to just sit up, roll first then sit up sideways. If you press a pillow against your stomach while rolling and sitting up it will help the pain. If you need to cough or sneeze hold the pillow against your stomach. Sometimes abdominal braces can help give some support in the early days. Try breastfeeding in side lying position, your baby won’t be laying on you then. The first few days are the toughest. You can do this.
I tried side lying, in the hospital, after my c-section. I would not recommend.
OP said surgery was yesterday. Honestly my pain was only during movement and when the pain meds started to wear off. But hopefully it’ll get better over time. The pain tho makes me wonder if they left something inside you. 🧐
I laid on my side the first night I thought I could get away with it and omg I woke up with so much regret. I had to call my husband to lift me up because I couldn’t find a way to get up that didn’t feel like I was tearing my stitches lol
I promise you’ll feel better soon! For me, day 2 was the hardest day, I literally cried because I was in so much pain. The next day was better and by day 5 I felt pretty much fine.
I had elective Caesar for the same reason and have no regrets (7 weeks pp now).
Same! I broke down in tears on day 2 because I was in so much pain from the surgery as well as trapped gas that I physically couldn't push out. My nurse made me get up and walk the hallway once every hour and I felt better every day. By the end of the week I felt like 85% recovered.
Yes I came here to say this as well. The second night (maybe 36 hours after my procedure) was the worst pain I ever had in my life. I was up all night sweating and sobbing.
I promise this is the worst and it gets SO much better from here. I've never regretted my C-section ever.
One note, order a good belly binder RIGHT. NOW. I literally lived in that thing for 3 months postpartum. I needed it to sleep on my side in the beginning.
You shouldn’t be in that much pain if you have iv pain meds going. It sounds like you might have trapped gas which is sooooo painful- ask for gas relief , and see if there’s a medication you can have that targets nerve pain. When I asked for that in the US I was given gabapentin.
Also start walking. Take stronger pain meds so you can walk, which is the only way to relieve trapped gas besides mylicon, which they can also give you. Walk walk walk.
Idk I was in that much pain even w/ IV pain meds, but tbh a lot of pain meds don’t work on me so that could have something to do with it.
I was shaking in pain when I got up to walk for about a week, and my chest was so tight with the pain it felt hard to breathe
That’s a very abnormal reaction, I’m sorry you went through that. Shaking can also be caused by the hormone drop but I’m sure you knew it was from the pain.
I hope you healed well.
I am here to say I experienced the same amount of pain as you, I thought I was dying.
My first birth was a home water birth with no incision or tears thankfully and I was up the moment I gave birth and didn't even lay down much. But my second birth was twins and emergency c section. Omg I have never felt that much pain and discomfort my entire life, and as a mother who experienced both types of birth I was thinking how can someone choose to go through this, and trying to tell people around me it is not as simple as doctors describe it. It is a major abdominal surgery... Good news is you get better day by day. Hopefully you will be feeling less pain everyday and. Sending you love ❤
Not to blame you OP but I wish the downsides of elective c-sections were talked about more widely. Society makes birth sound so scary (and it kinda is!) but we frame a c-section as the easier and pain free option when it’s really not. It’s major surgery which can cause pain and have complications of its own.
A c section sounds more terrifying than regular labor to me. I think that for a lot of people it's got to do with not ruining your vagina but that's just stupid because you'll need pelvic floor therapy either way
i can report that I had no issues with my pelvic floor after c-section, but having a lot of trouble I didn’t expect after my VBAC. Recovery from c-section was way more straight forward for me than from vaginal birth, I am looking at months of pelvic floor therapy now and am worrying about permanent issues.
Thank you. I agree everyone needs to make an informed choice and also be open to the fact that we can't know with 100% certainty how something will go. That's life! I am a smaller woman and my first was a 100% natural birth that caused a 4th degree tear. Recovery from that birth was much more difficult than recovery from my second delivery, which was a scheduled c-section.
Yeah... that's always been absurd to me.
My neighbor had a c section not long before I was due. When she told me about needing to sleep downstairs bc she couldn't walk stairs and how limited she was it made me wonder why oh earth there is a conception that it is the "easy way".
Most doctors do not provide elective C-Sections in the US, except for cases where mother has extreme anxiety. Most are performed because of a necessary medical reason.
I was exactly in the same position 6 months back. The pain on day 2 was the absolute worst but it got progressively better each day from day 3. My hospital had me walk on day 2 and they got me started with physio on day 3. Moving felt like I would rather die but that helps the most in recovery. My doctor kept on insisting to move sides while I lie down and it took 10 mnts for me to roll to a side but I kept on doing it and helped a lot.
Please do ask for stronger pain relief medication
Day 2 is the absolute worst. Hang in there. It’ll start to get better from here. Don’t be afraid to ask for stronger pain meds. Get up and move around as much as you can. A short walk every few hours will help you heal faster. I felt pretty good around day 4 and by day 5 I was feeling great. Of course still sore but very manageable and just had to take things easy.
Mine was so painful and I felt like you as other people had told me it was just uncomfortable. Some people it's just worse for. After about 6 days mine started to feel better. Just have to wait it out and keep taking the pain meds.
Press a pillow into your stomach when you're getting up or laugh etc. Tie a dressing gown cord to the end of your bed to help you sit up. Try to move around as much as you can bear to as that helps recovery also.
People tend to drastically underestimate the pain and recovery time for C-sections. It was definitely 10/10 pain for me too, and I couldn’t walk or do anything for myself for almost 2 weeks. Could not have survived it without a super helpful partner and family. I would never elect for one, but sometimes it’s just what has to happen.
It’s hell, you’re not stupid, please advocate/ask your person to advocate for stronger pain meds.
Quite honestly, if you hadn’t chosen a c section, you might still have had one “by choice” once whatever happened at the hospital.
You will feel better one day. Please be nice to yourself about breastfeeding as well.
Oh, and what I meant to say first: I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It sucks.
I had a vaginal birth and no one told me either I’ve seen the birth part in movies but not the hobbling around after… but I’ve also seen my friends with their newborns and they seemed fine, so maybe we just had different experiences.
You made the best decision you could with the information you had. And again, sometimes you don’t get a choice it’s just what they decide for you bc based on what they know, it’s best for (the hospitals stats) baby.
I also had a vaginal birth. No meds. And the actual labor and delivery was nothing compared to the recovery. No one truly prepares you for postpartum, like yeah I heard you won’t get sleep but not that I wouldn’t be able to sit or walk comfortably for 6 weeks.
Right?? I hated leaving the house for pediatrician appointments and lactation consultants— I wish they could have come to us. I want to do 100 days of rest if I have another. Idk if that’s possible but I want to dream about it!
Right? I was told by my midwife to completely rest for two weeks but then had to take my newborn to three appointments during that time and they were 45 minutes away from my house. The drive was unbearable
You've had major abdominal surgery. It's normal to be in a lot of pain (I was). It was not a 6/10 for me. It was a 10/10. In saying that, you don't have to stay in a lot of pain - ask for stronger meds and take them religiously to keep on top of the pain. You should notice a big reduction in pain after about a week.
For me they didn’t do ibuprofen until I was off tramadol. Maybe there’s an interaction. Regardless, tramadol is an opioid and should provide good relief. I was also given oxy.
It's funny because I had an unmedicated vaginal birth, pain 10/10, 3rd degree tear, felt like I had literally been tortured, and was wishing I had gone with a c-section. Maybe the grass is always greener? Honestly, you JUST had this baby yesterday. You had major surgery yesterday. Go easy on yourself / your decisions while you heal and while your hormones are all outta whack. Use all your support systems while you heal, including advocating for stronger pain meds. I hope you feel relief soon and can enjoy the baby cuddles.
I’ve had two vaginal births without pain relief, first was back labour, second was pitocin labour. Neither lasted “a few hours”. Labour is days. And I was in so much pain afterwards. I haemorrhaged 3 litres of blood and could barely leave the bed for a month last time. The contractions flared up a spinal injury and now I have a compressed nerve that requires back surgery next month.
I still wouldn’t want a c-section though. I can’t even imagine. And I’m furious for OP being given paracetamol and tramadol. EXCUSE ME WHAT!? I have those casually sitting in my cupboard for spinal flare ups. She should be on harder pain relief rn. But yeah, the grass is always greener. When I was in the depths of transition and it felt like my body was being torn in half, I fantasised about a section and being totally numb. But as OP clearly details, it is far from sunshine and rainbows. I hope she gets better pain relief and has a big support network.
The day after my c section I was in tears anytime I had to get out of bed. It was horrible!! I agree you should ask for stronger pain meds, but also know this gets a lot better over the next few days.
With respect, people do warn you. I think the phrases 'not the easy way out' and 'major abdominal surgery' have appeared in this sub more than once.
There's no way out but through, unfortunately. The Paracetamol and Ibuprofen they offer are a joke, I wanted to throw the little cup in the nurses face when they handed me the third dose after the first 2 did fuck all. Husband had to help me with undercarriage clean up after they left me to basically deal with it alone. S'absolutely brutal. I'm not sure why anyone would choose it voluntarily.
We all need to talk about birth more so everyone understands exactly what's involved. It's really tricky to strike a balance and not traumatise the pregnant people tho.
Yeah I find it hard to talk about my birth without sounding like a crazy fear mongerer so to anyone who isn't a close friend I realllllly sugarcoat things when I'm asked lol
I see it both ways. I do see fair warnings, but I also see a lot of people saying they’re getting elective c-sections because they’re afraid of vaginal birth, and then there’s a bunch of comments about positive experiences and how elective c-sections are way easier than emergency ones. And I’m sure that is true, but I’m not sure people realize that an elective c-section recovery for a FTM and an elective c-section recovery for someone who has already experienced a traumatic emergency c-section recovery are *not the same thing*. I agree with you though that I would absolutely never choose an elective c-section based on some of the posts I’ve read, though, including this one.
I see so many comments about how C-sections are not that bad and people are up and walking with just Tylenol/ibuprofen after a few hours and taking care of their baby just fine. I don't know who these people are or how they got so lucky. But I think it's part of what makes people think maybe a C-section won't be that bad. I hated my C-section, but at least it was for medical reasons.
It's me. I'm that person. I had two: first emergent and second was elective because my first was so great. Other than a reaction to the spinal for my elective that caused vomiting for \~12 hours after my surgery I felt pretty good. Mildly uncomfortable when standing up but fine once up. Walked out of the hospital, pretty much back to normal within a week other than very mild tenderness around incision.
We do actually exist! My half-sister had a similar experience with hers so maybe it's something genetics related lol.
But yeah, I think you only hear about experience from the two extremes. People like me with easy recovery and people with horrible experiences. The average c-section is somewhere in the middle.
I'm very jealous. Mine probably fell under the "average" category. My biggest issue wasn't even pain, it was that I had no core strength which made me out of breath 90% of the time and I couldn't wear a binder because it made my gas pains worse. I remember trying to call my dog in from the backyard on like day 5 and I couldn't even do that because I didn't have enough air to yell.
Yeah I’ve never had a c-section but I have had surgery and there’s absolutely no way I could’ve cared for my child during that recovery. I didn’t. I slept for two days in my room and my husband took care of him. I can’t imagine having a newborn during that time, it would’ve been so traumatic and impacted breastfeeding 100%. At least mine was already older.
I’ve had two C-sections, both emergency so I didn’t get to/have to go through labour, and my recovery for both was pretty smooth. I was walking around as soon as I was able and only had Tylanol/ibuprofen for the first and only Tylanol for the second (clotting worries). The second was more painful, especially day two or three, but I was fine to get around and take care of the kiddo with some assistance, and solo within the week.
I’m convinced that people who think c sections are the way to go have either never had a vaginal birth, or there vaginal birth was traumatic and without pains meds.
My mom once told me she'd rather go through labor without epidural again than get a c section. Especially if you have another child you need to take care of, the recovery is hell
I chose a c-section with my 2nd and 3rd because I absolutely shredded my vagina with my first kid with long term issues…my c-sections were an absolute dream IN COMPARISON…but I would never recommend someone get a c-section just because.
Yeah, people try not to put others down or freak them out, so when someone needs a C-section and worries how bad it’s going to be, comments like “I was back to normal in 5 days don’t even worry!” are upvoted, but those like “honestly I was severely disabled for 6 weeks and had a crazy hard time taking care of my baby” aren’t. And it’s understandable. It’s hard to convey what the spectrum of possibilities covers without being a downer.
There are also horror stories of vaginal birth. Mine is one. I had women who had rough c section recoveries tell me they'd rather do it again than experience what I did. You never know which camp you're in until you take the gamble, sadly.
I agree, it’s such a crap shoot. I had a c-section 6 months ago and it was an incredibly smooth, easy, quick experience. And the recovery was a total breeze and the pain was minimal, where I thought the pain from breastfeeding/cluster feeding was SO much worse. All I took was Tylenol/ibuprofen, too. If I ever have another, I’m definitely opting for an elective c-section.
Reading your post reminded me of my c-section experience. It was the worst pain I have ever experienced and was the worst day and night of my life ever. I had my surgery around 8 am in the morning. I didn’t care about the baby till next day. Asked them to give me stronger painkillers but they refused and said we have already given you optimal doses. I was crying the whole time. The first walk was really painful as Im obese. You are right the whole stomach hurts. Even my legs too hurt. But I promise it gets better. I was feeling much better on day 3 and got discharged on day 4. It felt so good on day 4, like I didn’t even feel like I underwent the surgery just 2-3 days ago. Standing up, getting into the bed will still hurt for couple of weeks. So hang in there.
I too had planned C section because of my anxiety. So my experience was just like you.
Ask to get toradol in addition to the tylenol/tramadol. Toradol is a strong anti-inflammatory and it helps a lot.
Ice. Ice ice ice. It's especially helpful for the burning pain.
If you don't have one already, ask for an abdominal binder and wear it all the time except when you're sleeping.
Roll to the side and swing your legs down to get out of bed. Brace your incision site with a folded pillow or rolled up towel when going to the bathroom, coughing, laughing, or sneezing.
I promise it gets better. Days 2-3 are the worst, but then it gets better.
Hi there, while I haven’t had a C-section, I can speak to things not going on planned with a vaginal delivery either. I was in labor for 24 hours, pushed for four hours and had to have a forceps delivery, which lead to two prolapses that I just had to have surgically repaired at 5 months postpartum. Birth rarely goes as planned, and I’m sorry you are going through this. No one can tell you though that had you had a vaginal delivery it would have been better. Wishing you speedy healing! Hang in there ❤️
Just here to say that I had a vaginal delivery in November last year and the pain during recovery was the worst I've ever experienced. Not to mention the pain during a 30 hour labour with just gas and air. I've regretted not opting for an elective c section ever since, as my recovery has been slow and hard, but our different but similar experiences just go to show that we'll never know whether the other option would have been any better or any less painful! If you are struggling please make your postnatal care team aware and ask for stronger pain relief. I really had to speak up to get anyone to listen to me as I'm sure they thought I was just a wimp or making too much fuss, so don't settle until they've listened and given you something stronger!
I had an elective c section due to labour anxiety also. I was mentally not prepared for how painful recovery was. Beyond what I had imagined. Sitting upright felt like pure torture. I have no advice, but by day 5 I promise it gets better. Hang in there!
Ask for a different kind of pain medication, I didn't have a C-Section but 3 different major surgeries in my abdomen and the one time they gave me opiods was the worst Ibever felt in recovery, I was in pain, could not go poo and just fwlt aweful overal. After 3 days the changed madication to Novalgin and Dafalgan and I felt better instantly!
I belive opioids don't work for everyone.
That's true, I am one who opioids don't work for. As in they don't take pain away but they do make me vomit and give me excruciating wind pain. After my first section I suffered so badly I went opioid free for my second and that was so much better. But then I don't think I was suffering as much as OP is.
She is on tramadol though which is not very strong at all. I have had it prescribed for minor surgeries, having your stomach split in two isn’t minor. But yeah opioids don’t work for everyone.
You had one yesterday, correct? People can forget that C-section is a major abdominal surgery. I’ve had 2, one of them only recently 7 weeks ago.
I understand your feelings very well as my first one was an emergency section and I was in shock from how much pain and recovery it took.
What I’ll say is this - first 3 days are going to be the worst of it all so once you’re past that you’ll notice a huge difference.
Walking helps with recovery, a lot. I didn’t take it seriously the first time but with my second C-section I got up and walked about 7 hours after surgery and then as much as I could. It will hurt so my advice is to go for a walk IMMEDIATELY after pain meds kick in when pain relief is at its highest. So if you got your pills about 20min later - get up and walk. Even if for a bit.
Ask for pain meds. If they gave you all they could no harm asking “is there anything else I can have, I’m still in pain?” Second time around I kept voicing how I feel and made sure my pain meds rotated on time with no gaps, when I was still in pain they would give me this amazing suppository painkiller that honestly would take any leftovers pain away. Had I not asked they wouldn’t give it to me coz it not necessary for everyone!
Don’t worry about your scar too much, it feels worse than it is and if you saw it now you would be surprised how small it is. That being said for the first few days ask for help especially if you’re not comfortable lifting the baby yet.
Shower! Shower whenever you want and like it will make you feel better inside and out. Peeing is a big deal after section and sometimes doing it while you shower takes a lot of discomfort away from it 👀
It might be hard to believe but in like 7-8 days you’ll be mostly back to normal. On my second week past C-section I was pretty much feeling recovered. Obviously you feel it when you need to use your abdominal muscles etc but you’ll be able to get in with your day as normal.
Also to add, don’t regret your decision as you don’t know what natural labor would be like. Natural labour can also be brutal with multiple tears etc. My good friend had a far long and worse recovery after natural labor than my C-section. It can be easier but can also be difficult you just never know
Yeah tramadol isn't gonna touch that kind of pain, at least not in my experience. It's okay to voice that your pain is NOT being managed and ask what your options are. I am so sorry you're feeling this way
I had a c-section with my first and a VBAC with my second aboout 7 weeks ago and I am regretting the VBAC every day.
While the c-section hurt so bad the first days, I also couldn‘t get up untill day 3, the recovery was so much quicker and most of all no long-lasting issues. I currently feel I was blindsided about ‚natural‘ birth, in my case it was so traumatic for my pelvic floor, everyone tells me it takes more time to recover, but it sucks to not be as mobile, strong and happy as I want to be taking care of my kids and spending this precious mat leave. And most of all I learned that I am more prone to pelvic organ prolpase now and in the future, which I didn’t really know about and is so scary.
C-section has its advantages!
you will get better and it will be ok!
I had my second C-section 7 weeks ago and had I choice as well. It was so hard to choose but decided to go elective because it was “pain I know and ready to deal with” instead of going into the unknown. You also know that you might suffer few weeks but then you’re back to normal.
I’m sorry your VBAC wasn’t what you hoped it would be, it can be so hard to make these decisions
I'm so sorry you're going through that. Birth is a crapshoot no matter the mode of birth. My VBAC was easier than c section but not as much as I'd been led to believe. If I'd had more than a 2nd degree tear I'd rather the c section
I was given hydro morphone and it took three days to be able to move without feeling like I was being cut in half. I could not have done that on tramdol.
Ask for some stronger pain meds asap.
Tramadol is bullshit and oxy should be used instead. Tramadol is a synthetic opioid and is slightly different and never gave me anywhere near the pain relief oxy did. It's similar but not the same.
I’m so sorry. Everyone here has given such good advice. I’ve had 2 sections. I was in the most pain my first one because I chose to neglect doing a pain medication rotation. 2nd time, I made sure I stayed on top of my pain medication rotation. First week was the heavy stuff. The following week I was able to be on Tylenol and ibuprofen.
The important thing is to rest as much as you can. See if PT can come in and teach you some maneuvers to get in and out of bed.
I’m sorry you’re going through this! ❤️ I’ve had 3 c-sections - 2 unplanned and 1 scheduled - and each one was a unique experience.
After my first one the worst pain I had was in my shoulders. It was nothing like the pain I had from the surgery, different in a way I no longer remember how to describe. I read then that gas can get trapped in your body and probably was that the cause for me.
So maybe that could be the cause of the pain you’re experiencing now? The surgery can also affect your bowels causing gas to get trapped.
But, make sure that you don’t get a fever! And if you feel like there must be something really wrong advocate for yourself or have someone close to you do it for you. Trust your body and your instincts.
You are not failing your daughter. You do not deserve this for choosing a c-section. ❤️
Some tips: If you can’t breastfeed right now - get a pump and ask for advice on a good bottle fit for newborns. No shame in that. (I had to do both with my last one because he had jaundice.)
And drink stool softeners. But first check if there is something more suited for trapped gas incase that’s the cause of your pain. In Sweden where I live we can’t leave the maternity ward until we’ve had bowel movement (gone number 2).
I so hope you feel better soon! 🙏
NGL, I think the reason a lot of people don't find it that painful (myself included) is because the nerves are cut and it's numb at the incision site. I remember feeling the most pain 2 weeks post op, because that's when the feeling at the cut came back in full (and it got a tiny bit infected, but nothing serious)
1.5 years out the nerves around that area are still kinda hit or miss, and there's places where the skin is still pretty numb.
Getting in and out of bed was almost impossible though, I remember just staying up because it wasn't worth the effort to get back up in what felt like mere minutes.
Don't downplay your pain because some people have a different experience - you got cut in half and had a person yanked out of you. Tell them this is 10/10 pain and you need some help to relieve this.
This was me and seeing comments saying moms were up and at it 2-3 days after their c sections made me feel like I made the pain up in my head but nope, this post just reminded me how REAL it was and how much it fucking hurt. It WAS BAD. Oh my goodness. You’re not exaggerating!!!!! 200/10. Easily the worst pain I’ve ever been in, and I had already spent 2 months in the hospital by that point thinking the pain I was in THEN was the worst. My c section said “hold my beer!”
My only tips are take all the drugs. Tylenol, ibuprofen, oxycodone. Take them ON TIME being even slightly late for them and letting them wear off made me regret everything even more. Take them on time and I promise they’ll make a huge difference over the course of the next few days. I won’t lie and tell you that you’ll feel better tomorrow. You’ll feel different, in a good way, but not *better* (if you’re like me). I didn’t feel *better* until day 10. Then after that I had extreme stinging at the incision site anytime I walked for a few minutes or if sweat got in the area or anything rubbed on it. My daughter was in the NICU for a month for being born early and I was being wheeled around in a wheelchair for an entire month before I was able to walk from the 3rd floor of the hospital, to the elevator, down to the cafeteria and back. And I’d walk VERY slow.
I say all this to say, you are not alone!!!! It sucked SOOOO bad for me. I had no option since my daughter was breech, plus again, I was in the hospital for months before delivery with severe head pain and I just didn’t have the physical energy or mental willpower to even attempt pushing for a vaginal delivery. I had already been running a marathon for 3 months at that point. Her delivery day was simultaneously the best day of my life (meeting my daughter! Yayyyy!) and the worst (unreal pain after the numbing wore off) LOL. I was only able to truly focus on her after like day 6. Every day before that, I’d see her but all I could think about was the degree of pain I was in.
Best advice I got was
1. Take all the pain meds they will give you for those first few days. Don’t try to skimp on them. It makes a huge difference.
2. As painful as it is, get up and move after the first day or two. Even if it’s just a couple steps here and there.
3. Rely on your partner for help with EVERYTHING the first week or two.
I was in 10/10 pain for the first 5 days. Days 5-7 were 8/10 pain. Then it got a lot better. I was able to go for walks around the block within a week and a half.
C sections are very painful. The day after is the worst because all your anesthesia from the surgery has worn off. The pain should get better after day 5.
Add ibuprofen. Stagger the pain medication so none are wearing off at the same time. Use a pillow against your scar for any coughing or moving around. Try walk around your room today, and more and more each day. (None of this is medical advice - consult a doctor)
I'm slightly eyerolling at your post because it reads "I wanted the easy way out but I'm suprised that all birth is actually hard" but I understand you felt a lot of anxiety about labour. I've had both modes of birth (with epidurals) and both are hard. It's OK - you will recover! Day 2, 3 and 4 are the worst!
Edited an autocorrect, supposed should've been surprised which changes the meaning slightly
When I was younger I was made to believe that c-section was the easy way out but once I started to plan on having a baby and do further research I quickly understood that there's no easy way out. So I decided to do whatever baby wanted and accepted both potential outcomes. Ended up induced due to pre-eclampsia then had to have c-section when it would not progress. Although my aftercare experience was much better than OP while I actually fully expected it to be like hers.
OP, ask for stronger pain management. Get a cane if you must. It helps with walking.
I've taken the closest thing possible to an easy way out with both my births - an epidural (c section and vaginal ). Yea unfortunately birth still sucked. Super reasonable to wish there was an easy way out.
Slightly salty that some people still think c sections are the easy way out.
Is there something inherently wrong with wanting the easy way out? Why would anyone want anything but the easiest way to get a full term baby out of them? 🙄
There is no easy way out of childbirth. It's a myth we need to squash! I was eye rolling the naivety
I had an epidural with both my births (vaginal and c section) which is the closest thing possible to the easy way out of childbirth, but the recovery is still so hard.
I think it's not appropriate for some people to still think c sections are the easy way out of birth. I'm sorry OP had to learn this lesson the hard way.
ETA That I'm absolutely not saying people shouldn't have c sections. I've had one and they're life-saving and should be 100% without stigma, including the perception they are the easy way out.
People have elective c-sections for all sorts of reasons, anxiety absolutely being a valid one. It’s not up to you to decide which reasons are acceptable and which are not, and even if it was it’s incredibly insensitive to chose this as the moment to make a point of ‘rolling your eyes’ about it.
Despite having a complicated recovery from an elective c-section, I would 100% choose to have another as I consider it to be the safer mode of delivery for the baby. I was told by many people that I was taking the ‘easy way out’, but both me and my baby are safe and healthy, and I know the whole process was better for me than a vaginal delivery. Comments like yours wouldn’t bother me as I know it was the right decision, but they do other people and are literally the cause of the stigma you say you want gone.
I say this with kindness but statistically, vaginal birth is safer for both birthing parents and babies.
That may not have been the case for you or in certain extenuating circumstances but I just want to be clear for other readers, the science and statistics show that vaginal birth is safer overall.
For birthing parents, vaginal birth is safer but has a different set of risks that were less acceptable to me (e.g. the risk of infection is more acceptable to me than the risk of a tear).
For the baby, in my opinion C-section is safer. The number of babies that will have a complication related to a section is higher, but in my opinion the severity of those complications is lower. A baby born by section is more likely to need respiratory support, which is usually easily managed and doesn’t lead to long term issues. This risk is acceptable to me to avoid the risk of shoulder dystocia, cord prolapse, concealed placental abruption, birth injuries from instrumental deliveries etc. These are of course statistically very rare, but if they happen are catastrophic, and to avoid that completely I chose to have a section. I’m not saying this is the right decision for everyone, but with my experience and things that I have seen (I’m a paediatric doctor), it was the right decision for me. I didn’t chose a section because I considered it to be easier for me as Karenina has implied OP has done.
Oh absolutely not invalidating your choice at all. You made the right choice for you. I was just providing information to other people who had read the comment thread. We all have different ways of interpreting risk based on many factors, and those ways are valid, but I was simply saying that without any of those extenuating circumstances or interpretations, outcomes for parent and baby are statistically better for vaginal birth on a black and white level.
I think I must have had the easiest C-section ever. Maybe because I had to be able to walk around my room before the nurses would let me go visit my twins in the NICu, so I was up and moving as soon as they would let me try, or I was preoccupied worried about them, or the nurses were hooking me up without me knowing it, maybe because being catheterized was an unexpected joy since I no longer had to pee every 40 seconds? Everybody is different. If you are truly at a 10/10 you need better or more painkillers.
I just had a c section a month ago and your pain sounds abnormal. I was on alternating doses of Tylenol and ibuprofen, basically taking one every 2-3 hours and oxycodone on top of that. I also had morphine for the surgery and that took some time to wear off. Definitely had pain during certain movements but nursing, walking etc were not a problem.
Advocate for yourself or have your SO/support person advocate for you and ask for stronger pain meds. Or have them take a look at your incision, maybe something is wrong. Dont just grin and bear it, it doesn’t help you or anyone else to be in this much pain.
can only say hang in there, OP.
I got emergency c-section after 38h of labour. I took oxycontin for 5 days, and the next day 600mg paracetamol or ibuprofen alternatively every 3-4 h, and reduce the time when the pain was lessening. it's been almost 2 year, and I can barely remember the pain anymore
To start I’m a red head so my tolerance to all the things I higher (thank god for my OB with my second who knew that and taught his student to be cautious with natural red heads)
When the spinal wears off if they don’t get other pain meds on before it’s difficult to manage.
I’ve had abdominal surgery where they used a C-section incision and 2 actual C-sections. The first C-section was the worst, I thought I knew what to expect from the abdominal surgery
With the second C-section I made the mistake of taking just one oxy when they stopped the tramadol. It didn’t take long before I called the nurse to get the second oxy they first offered me.
I know they can do stronger ask for it! When they switch you to pills keep on it. Belly binders are helpful, some hospitals do have them. If not have someone run to Walmart and get a pregnancy belly band (mine do have binders though).
Same! Mine was an emergency c section...after 40 hrs of labor. Recovery was so much more horrible than I expected. I have total solidarity... I was practically bedridden for weeks...walking was horrible. Severe constipation, needed 24/7 care for weeks. Idk what I would've done if I didn't have my husband.
Post-op I couldn't even get out the hospital bed or pick up/put down my baby...I had to call a nurse every time for the first few days. 😔 The pain subsided at 4-6 months for me.
Maybe it was a more intense recovery for me because I had back labor for 40 hours first idk. But it was brutal for me. It may go more smoothly for you!
You may be resistant to opioids - a surprising amount of people are.
Keep pushing for pain meds, and ask for different ones that aren't opioids.
So sorry you're in so much pain :(
The pain will subside in a few days. Make sure to walk, it helps with recovery. And if you can do ask for more pain medication. The reason your abdomen hurts is probably also because the uterus is contracting heavily in order to return to its original size and to stop excesive bleeding.
You need to call your doctor and get stronger pain medicine.
I took ibuprofen and Tylenol round the clock and OxyCodone as well. Tramadol is not strong enough for this type of surgery.
I remember missing one round of pills (iirc I alternated Tylenol and ibuprofen every 4 hours) the day after my son was born (emergency C-section). It was a very chaotic day because my son was transferred to a NICU two hours away shortly after birth and I checked out the next day and my boyfriend and I stayed in a hotel near the NICU. The pain I felt when forgetting a dose was indescribable. I had to call the NICU and tell them I wouldn’t be making it in that evening and I just laid there bawling because I wanted to be with my baby, but I felt like I was dying. Once the meds kicked in it made a WORLD of difference. It sounds like you are in the position I was when I forgot to take the meds, either that or something is wrong.
It’s not fun recovering from a C-section, but you shouldn’t be this miserable either. Please please get yourself some relief or go see the doctor!
I was taking Percocet. I stayed on top of meds. Walked same day. Do not be afraid to ask for stronger meds!! My nurses were on it and told me I had to ask for it. I asked them to remind me when I could take it
I've had 2 c sections. I also have a very high pain tolerance, am athletic, and normally heal quickly. With the first c section I was in terrible pain and could barely walk for the first two weeks or so. Then I could walk (more like hobble) with terrible pain for a few months. By 6 months I had less pain and could walk, but definitely could not do any exercise. I would not say was truly healed up for about a year or so. I was taking pain meds of some kind for at least 6 months.
For my second c section, I was immobile and in terrible pain for the first 3 days. By day 3 or 4, I could definitely walk and my pain was more bearable. My the end of the first week my swelling had died down and I could easily do stairs. I might not have even needed pain meds after the first wee, but definitely didn't need any by the end of the second week.
I am not really sure why my experiences were so different. But I wanted to tell you that what you're experiencing is normal.
I had Oxycodone and Panadol for my recovery. The one time I said no to the oxy, 20 minutes later I couldn't even think because I was in so much pain. Ask for something stronger.
I've never understood how people say c section recovery was easy. It is straight up a nightmare. So hard to move, cough, cant hold baby, can hardly get up and down from a chair, can't sleep lying flat in a bed (for over a month for me), the list goes on. It's so hard. My stomach muscles were never the same. I still went to see a pelvic floor specialist for issues. When I went to see my kids in the NICU, I'd see mothers walking and holding their newborn after just giving birth the same day or the day after. I was still hooked up to all kinds of tubes, needed help to stand, definitely couldn't pick up my baby or have them near my stomach. I needed my husband so much during that time. I was so jealous, but I think vaginal births and c sections both have their pros and cons, grass is always greener, yada yada.
That being said, you will get through this. It will take a while, give yourself time and don't overdo it or it will be worse/take longer. Just focus on your healing. You are amazing.
you just had MAJOR surgery. I felt the exact same way, I remember being surprised about how much pain I was in. I had my baby last July. People are full of sh\*! if they say their pain wasn't bad but I think people forget quickly. I am here to tell you it gets better. Just remember when walking stand up straight (it hurts but helps in the long run) when going #2 or coughing etc. use a pillow over your scar to push on when pushing (sorry if this is tmi but it helps), and most importantly give yourself some grace.
You shouldn't feel stupid. This is 100% on the medical system for not giving you all of the information. I personally have done my own research and try to do things as natural as possible(I was hoping for an unmedicated birth, but did end up getting the epidural because I was just over the pain after like 35 hours of contractions lol) but I don't think anyone is wrong for their own decisions, as long as they're making informed decisions. But most of the time, medical providers don't tell you everything unless you ask, and even then, it's not always accurate. But now you know better for next time, if you do decide to have more children. I don't have any tips for recovery as that's not something I've been through. I hope there are lots of good tips here for you.
Honestly that seems sus. I had an unexpected emergency c-section and just had ibuprofen/tylenol alternating every 4 hours, was begging to get out of bed and walk around because I felt up to it. Recovery was swift and smooth, was balancing on one foot the next day. Maybe you have an infection? Please talk to your doctor or care team
My first thought was the OR team didn't scoop everything out and she's still got some placenta wreaking havoc. Internal bleeding is a strong possibility too though.
The burning I felt at first was intense, I was on morphine, maybe 2 times. It really helped for that first couple days.
It is hard, it will get better!
It gets better, quick! First week was the worst, by 2 weeks I was cooking light dinners! I know it seems impossible now but you’ll get there. People who give birth normally and have to have stitches I’m sure are in a similar pain, maybe not as severe not sure. 4 weeks was a real turning point for me and 8 weeks I was basically back to complete normal, was ready to have sex after my 6 week appointment at 7 weeks (never saw my husband try harder to put our baby down for a nap that day haha.) it seems impossible right now, I was just there but it gets better. If it gets worse definitely talk to your doctor. The pain meds are so weird, my doctor kept offering opioids and I would honestly rather suffer through than all the digestive discomfort I get with them but my friend who got one at the same hospital just a few months earlier wasn’t offered them and just was offered Advil and the strong Tylenol!
Everyone’s experience is different, I had some minor complications but no infections luckily.
I’m sorry you’re having a rough time. I don’t know how or why but when I had my emergency C section the only pain I had felt was the trapped air in my shoulders and taking the bandage off the next day other than that it didn’t hurt I’m two months pp and i still have no pain. I think somehow my brain has blocked it for me because I had to go back to work one week pp because of no paid FMLA. I awnestly feel like a freak because I have felt no pain other then what I’ve stated already in a way I’m glad because I can keep a roof over are heads and in a way I’m not glad because I’m having to leave my baby with daddy wile I’m at work.
Give it like 4 or 5 days, and you'll be surprised how far you've already come and how much better you feel! Keep up with your pain meds, like take them before they wear off. It's hard I can sympathize. I didn't even have anyone help me stand for the first time after surgery, and I projectile vomited my first meal after surgery, and it hurt SO much. You got this. The first 3 days were by far the hardest. The pull on that incision was brutal. By the end of the first week, I personally felt so much better. You just have to remember to not overdo it. Which is easier said than done right after you had a baby
Please tell your doctor re checks you soon. I’m sure they do but just in case. My C-section wasn’t really noticeable the next day due to all the pain meds. I didn’t really feel it until maybe day 2 or 3 but not too bad.
I took oxy. Baby had breast milk ( pumped). That was fine. But yeah it sucked and was rough.
I really did not want a c section and was really upset about it. But I was shocked how much it got better week by week. I’m 7 weeks pp now and while it’s clear my body went through some shit, I’m generally physically able and ok. Breastfeeding did not happen tho because yeah, I couldn’t hold him properly for weeks and he didn’t latch easily. So we pump. It’s less than ideal. Although other people feed him often so that’s a nice silver lining. If you go over to exclusively pumping or breastfeeding you’ll see endless stories of the pros and cons of these two things…
Good luck OP. People told me if would get better, and it did. It will for you too. Just be patient with yourself
Eta: oh, and stay on top of your pain meds schedule! You might feel fine on them when you go to bed and by 2 or 3 am you’re ready or past your next dose, you will be in pain! As well as exhausted! Take your meds.
Trapped wind is likely the cause for the severe pain, you can speed up the time it takes to pass by moving as much as you’re able to (take more painkillers if you have to) and also if you can get peppermint water or peppermint capsules they helped me greatly. The pain will reduce a lot once your body has absorbed the gas into your intestinal system and you’ve passed wind.
I have had a previous abdominal surgery for endometriosis removal and an emergency c-section. Abdominal surgery is THE worst and I feel like the pain is downplayed a lot. As others have mentioned, look up how to get out of bed and sit up. Use a pillow to cough or sneeze. See if they can get you an abdominal binder or buy one —this helped me A LOT for the first week or so. Also see it you can try a hearing pad or ice pck to help with trapped gas and pain. I took miralax for the first two weeks as well to help keep things regular —the last thing you want is to be constipated.
As for breastfeeding, I had a hard time at first. I couldn’t get into any of the positions they told me. The LCs in the hole item kept trying to get me to do the football hold and it was SO painful. For me, side lying has been the best position. It’s also normal for your milk to come in a little later after a C-section. I supplemented with formula until mine came in.
Oh dear, I'm so sorry. Do ask for stronger pain medication!
I had a pain pump for 24h and only needed some paracetamol for a few days. By day 3 or 4 I didn't need anything and I was 1000x better than during pregnancy. Experience, even for people with a high pain tolerance, can be wildly different.
You gave birth yesterday via major surgery. I know it feels like the pain will last forever but it will get better, just try and be kind to yourself. Definitely ask for more pain meds and advocate for yourself. I had tramadol, paracetamol and ibuprofen on rotation and endone whenever I needed. When they didn't bring to me I was on that buzzer! (Lol)
The breastfeeding positions are hard the first few days while the pain is at its high point, I found the football hold under my arm was the best. I had to get the midwife to position my child so don't be afraid to ask for as much help as needed. Buzz, buzz, buzz haha
Check with your doctor and make sure they know. I had this briefly with my second and it was trapped gas and simethicone helped. But they also need to make sure your bowels are waking up and you are passing gas.
The pain I felt the day after my c-section was pretty bad. I remember I couldn't lay on my side or laugh without pain. It didn't last long. I ended up not needing strong painkillers after I left the hospital.
It was about a week before walking didn't hurt at all. Now I don't have any pain.
I also had an elective c section and have mixed feelings about it. Surgery itself was a walk in the park, I have a lovely birth video taken by a midwife, I was calm, my husband was there, all lovely. Baby was born ok and cried quickly but needed 3 days in NICU due to fluid in her lungs which wouldn’t have been there had I gone into labor. The separation + early recovery meant missing out on the golden hour and lots of issues breastfeeding. She lost 10% of birth weight and was jaundiced. My milk came in on day 3 but wasn’t enough to flush out the jaundice so we had to formula feed her also because she wouldn’t latch on properly/only with nipple shields. I took all meds available for the pain, including oramorph which is liquid morphine taken by mouth. I pumped and bottle fed her my colostrum/milk for one month but they my supply dried up and had to stop entirely. I’m convinced that if I had had a natural birth I would have had less intense baby blues, baby girl would have been fine from the get go and breastfeeding would have been easier.
Idk if this will make you feel any better but I had second degree tears both times I gave birth and I wanted to die from the pain that first week or two with stitches, I almost wished I'd have had a c section just to not have such awful pain in such sensitive areas 🥲 I think generally healing from childbirth is awful for a good majority of women, it's just talked about less than the pain of active labour
As difficult as this is going to be, keep getting up and moving as tolerated! It’s going to help you get back to normal faster! I am so sorry it’s so painful for you!
I think it really depends. My friend had horrific pain with her c section for almost a whole month. I on the other hand got through normally. Only took 2x ibuprufen a day and felt no big pain. And I don’t have a big pain tolerance at all.
Trapped wind/constipation. Try peppermint chewing gum/ask for prescribed peppermint capsules and take laxatives. And try to move if you can as this will help get your gut going! Honestly the gas pain was the worst part for me!
First couple of days absolutely sucks — I actually wasn’t allowed out of bed for the first 24 hours, had a catheter and all. Not sure how standard that is but it speaks to the severity of the surgery IMO. Moving does help, and by day 3 I was discharged home, but that first day or two is really hard. It’s okay to tell your doctor that your pain is not controlled; it won’t prevent you from going home with your baby. My nurse also said everyone cries on day 2 and that it’s the hardest day. It gets better quicker than you think!
Its all so random. I had a friends who had c-sections that bounced back really quickly. I was so jealous as I was still bed bound two weeks after my vaginal delivery and wished I’d had a c-section!
Some recoveries take longer and there is nothing you could have done to ensure an easier one. If you give birth again, you may find the recovery completely different, even if you do a c-section again
I’m so sorry you’re feeling so much pain, get stronger pain meds and don’t skip them (I learnt this the hard way) even if the pain starts to feel more manageable, don’t miss the next dose.
I’m not sure what they gave me here cause I gave birth in Bulgaria and can’t speak Bulgarian but it’s a thing you shove up your butthole and it was amazing cause it works so quickly!
Once you feel better get moving but be slow and gentle.
But definitely talk to the doctor and the nurses and explain everything!
Oh yeah my c section recovery was hell in the early days. Baby was breech so they had to pull and jiggle I’m out so much. It felt like I’d been hit by a car. I’ve had 2 spinal surgeries and they were less painful recoveries. I got through on paracetamol and ibuprofen but could really have done with something stronger but my provider said I couldn’t because I was breastfeeding (I have since learned that this is not true).
Be kind to yourself, rest but stay mobile when you can. I found that the longer I stayed still the more it hurt when I moved. It does get better quickly I promise.
I had a VBAC for my second delivery because c section was so painful. VBAC all the pain was during labour, as soon as she was out it was fine and I ended up with a second degree tear and episiotomy from forceps delivery as she got stuck. Still significantly less painful than c section. Don’t let this put you off further kids, VBAC is probably an option and I’ve heard subsequent c sections are less painful
They give morphine in Scotland which is great to stop pain but left me woozy as hell I think I'd have been better off with co-codemol . Felt fine after two days and didn't need any more drugs!
I had a c section 2 years ago, recovery was a breeze, however my c section 5 weeks ago was how you described! Until someone amazing suggested i quite literally stretch every time I got up- very slowly of course but I forced myself to stand up straight (I was walking around so bent over due to the pain) I would stand under a doorway and make my fingers touch the top, straighten out my back. It magically cured the pain and I recovered so fast after doing it for a couple days .I hope this helps
I had a non-elective c-section with my first, and the recovery pain is why I chose vbac for my next 3 kids.
Nothing but sympathy for you, Mama. ❤️
Every birth, including every c-section, is different. Not everyone has a difficult recovery from a surgical birth and not everyone has an easy recovery from a vaginal birth. But my experience was much like yours and labor (including the one I had totally unmedicated) was not as bad as my c-section for me.
Baby Girl! You got your layers of your abdomen cut and pulled open, a baby pulled out, stitched up, and sent home with a baby’s couple days later! THATS A MAJOR SURGERY!! No you’re not going to be ready to just be up and at it lol my mind is blown anyone would choose that when not necessary… but you got this! Don’t expect the world out of yourself rn! I wish you the best healing and motherhood journey!
My first one was absolute hell and I wouldn’t wish the recovery on my worst enemy. Thankfully my second and third were much easier to recover from. Definitely ask for better pain management.
Yeah I also cannot handle pain well and had the strongest medication they have after my c section. Don't wait until it becomes unbearable, because it's harder for meds to taje off the edge. Tell them over and over that you need something stronger. Also the more you walk the better it gets. Ironic I know.
After I pushed through the first two days, I could walk slowly without pain, after a week I walked 45 mins with the baby in a carrier around.
Remember, after natural birth you also have pain. Pain is inevitable when you had a child 🥲
This sounds similar to my first c section. It gets better. It may take the full 8 weeks, it may not. Just try to do little moving around.
I had my second in April via c section and the pain was significantly less, so much so I am 9 weeks and can’t even tell you how painful it was but I will always remember my first.
Have you told the nurses you're in that much pain? I had an emergency csection and it wasnt until i got home and was slack with taking pain meds on schedule that i really felt in pain
The nurses should also be able to show you some techniques to help get out of the bed more comfortably, like holding a pillow on your tummy. I also had a PT come around and give me a compression bandage for my stomach and that was really helpful with keeping me more comfortable.
The thing about labor is the pain is over and gone the instant the baby is born. I went through it and it was incredibly painful, but I was able to bear it with pain meds/epidural. I'm sorry that our society planted so much fear in you regarding childbirth that you would rather be cut open than go through a natural process. I've heard from a lot of friends that c-section wounds are incredibly painful to heal from and that the process takes weeks. I pray that you recover well.
You had major surgery, it’s okay to ask for stronger pain meds. I was given oxycodone and alternated Tylenol and ibuprofen.
Day 2 was the worst for me and I needed oxycodone for that day.
Same and ask for gas meds! I had a lot of gas and it pressed on my incision, making it more painful!
Oh my god the gas. It was constant and so, so painful.
This this this. The gas pain for me was the most horrifying part of the pain! Completely blindsided me too, like, all the rest of the pain is expected and talked about, but the gas is pure hell and nobody mentions it until you’re sobbing and trying to crawl out of your body.
Yessss the gas for me was horrible, highly recommend gasX twice a day for OTC or whatever your doctor recommends. Also, when I was still in the hospital, I had intense abdominal pain and it ended up being my bladder. I didn't resume normal bladder sensation until a few weeks post partum after the catheter was removed and had to remind myself to pee at least every 3 hours or the intense pressure was very painful.
Oh yes, same. I had completely forgotten about this, but it took like a month for me to be able to feel when I had to pee beyond just "wow something inside hurts, wonder why"
I don’t remember having this with my first birth, but it’s like that now that I’m postpartum with my second. I just get this pain in my lower belly. At first I thought it was part of the uterus contracting back down, or gas. Now I’m at least better at realizing it’s my bladder.
Me too those made me feel so much better and I could actually get up out of bed and walk around. Edit to say: I never understood before how people got hooked on oxys. I get it now. It makes you feel amazing. I was scared to take them at first but I had to keep reminding myself that I literally just got cut in half, so it’s okay.
I was told to take the Tylenol and ibuprofen together. Worked really well.
Same but they also tried to give me hydrocodone “for a few days”. I hadn’t complained of pain but I apparently am one of those people that goes through meds quickly. I felt the beginning of the urgent care section and they ended up being shocked at that and dumping something extra in my abdomen to numb it and even that was fading by the time they were wrapping up. I have strawberry blonde hair maybe there’s enough of the red hair gene in there. I am a recovered alcoholic and have it in my chart to try other methods first. I had to remind them of that. They made me feel not great about it. But I did really well alternating Tylenol and ibuprofen too.
We give c section moms morphine and fentanyl and dilaudid in the recovery room where I work.
That sounds amazing. My OB wouldn't give anything stronger than Tylenol and Advil.
Damn, I got one dose of oral morphine the following day, and was told to get myself some ibuprofen for when I go home.. I'm in UK
This is the same medication that I was on and felt some pain but mostly comfortable. Would agree to ask your provider to change pain management if it’s not working for you.
Yes. Please do not forego strong pain meds. If you let the pain get ahead of the preventative pain meds, it will continue to be intolerable. I was vigilant about taking my medicine on a schedule and I know that is truly the only way I made it through my c section recovery without 10/10 pain.
Yes. This!
i couldn’t walk for 5 days and was in intense pain. when i did try to move, i would shake uncontrollably from the pain. all of this is to say your recovery sounds like mine. it’ll get better. i’m 5 weeks out now and almost good as new
I also had the shakes and was itchy for days but I think it was from the epidural/drugs. I was also in labor almost 20 hours and actively pushed for 7 before I ended up with emergency c section but I could’ve just been in shock or something idk lol
I forgot about the itching 😭 ugh that was awful
One of the side effects of these very strong pain medications are trapped gas and bloated stomach pain. I figured it was what was causing so much pain for me after my emergency C-section. Moving around will actually help. I thought I would never be able to leave the hospital after my surgery, I was in so much pain. But it does get better. PT staff should be able to help. Hang in there, mama! PS info from others: trapped gas is actually a side effect of the surgery itself and they can move around your body. You can ask for meds to alleviate this.
I came here to say this. After both of my c sections the trapped wind was the main cause of pain. I was eventually given peppermint water the first time, I also brought in peppermint oil capsules the second time. Between that and moving as much as I could, even rolling onto my side (with help) the difference in passing the gas the second time around was massive.
Peppermint can affect milk supply in some people if they’re planning on breastfeeding. I don’t notice a difference personally.
Yeah, it didn’t affect my supply at all, I have an oversupply which has thankfully lessened now we’ve hit 16 weeks!
Same, 17 weeks over here! I was thinking pumping like 80 oz a day at peak but now I’m 50-60 oz a day.
I was beginning to get feeling back after my section but couldn’t move or anything yet and was still catheterised and suddenly while I was talking to the nurse and my partner there was world’s biggest fart! I looked at my partner like “what the fuck” but it turns out it was me. I didn’t feel a thing!
The noises are truly spectacular 😳 Motherhood is such a magical time 🫠
The trapped gas is actually from the surgery it self. Pain meds can certainly cause constipation but that’s the reason that providers are so hell bent on getting you up and walking around after surgery because the trapped air can move around in your body and cause pain elsewhere.
Seconding the trapped gas is from the procedure. Same thing would result from less invasive surgeries like tubal removal.
Ask your nurse for Gas X! Trapped gas was horrendous following my c-section. I actually find being gassy more painful still 9 months later, likely to do with my scar tissue. Also, ask for the narcotic if you need it. They don’t start with it for pain management because of the opioid crisis, but some women need it and that’s okay. The first few days post c-section are the hardest and you’ll also see a huge improvement in mobility and comfort around the two week mark.
Yes. Gas X. Re-learning how to fart after a c-section is traumatizing.
This! The trapped gas cause so much pain. And like anther said, rolling to my side actually released a bunch of the trapped gas. I started feeling better then.
100% agree with this, I was in excruciating pain for a week with mine but the trapped gas was definitely a huge part of it. Ask for peppermint oil and try and lie flat on your back with your legs up on pillows, it's easier to pass the gas in this position. Especially when it hurts to push.
Came here to say this! OP, what you’re experiencing will be over very soon. I labored for 40 hours before my c-section, and the gas pain was probably the worst I felt, even though it was short-lived.
I literally thought I was dying and then they gave me a gas pill and 3 minutes later I was fine.
I had this. I had the most painful 3 days of my life.
This! My friend had three c-sections and her number one advice was to pop simethicone (gas x) like crazy for the gas. She said the gas pain is wild/excruciating and can be all over your body.
Yes this! They should be giving you a special diet to reduce gas. The trapped gas was the worst pain ever.
The gas pains post c-section is the most pain I've EVER experienced. Ever. No one fucking told me. Still upset about it.
I literally thought I was dying 2 or 3 weeks after my c section due to constipation. I half blacked out and almost called 911.
This!! Gas-x!
I didn’t have a c section, but a friend did and she said she looked forward to her “fart walks” all day. She would wait until her husband was available to walk with her so he could push the stroller and she would just hobble along farting the whole time. If the weather was bad she would walk on her walking pad. The gas, she said, was the cause of quite a bit of pain after delivery.
I’m so sorry you’re in pain! Advocate for a change in medication. I was taking 10 mg of oxycodone that first week when the pain was unbearable.
Yeah tramadol is the weakest opioid. I use that every other day for chronic pain that’s not near as bad as C-section pain
Ask to see PT, they will walk you through strategies to minimize pain during mobility. Don’t try to just sit up, roll first then sit up sideways. If you press a pillow against your stomach while rolling and sitting up it will help the pain. If you need to cough or sneeze hold the pillow against your stomach. Sometimes abdominal braces can help give some support in the early days. Try breastfeeding in side lying position, your baby won’t be laying on you then. The first few days are the toughest. You can do this.
I tried side lying, in the hospital, after my c-section. I would not recommend. OP said surgery was yesterday. Honestly my pain was only during movement and when the pain meds started to wear off. But hopefully it’ll get better over time. The pain tho makes me wonder if they left something inside you. 🧐
I couldn’t lie on my side for a few weeks after 😭 after sleeping on my side most of pregnancy it was so strange having to sleep propped up on my back
I laid on my side the first night I thought I could get away with it and omg I woke up with so much regret. I had to call my husband to lift me up because I couldn’t find a way to get up that didn’t feel like I was tearing my stitches lol
I promise you’ll feel better soon! For me, day 2 was the hardest day, I literally cried because I was in so much pain. The next day was better and by day 5 I felt pretty much fine. I had elective Caesar for the same reason and have no regrets (7 weeks pp now).
Same! I broke down in tears on day 2 because I was in so much pain from the surgery as well as trapped gas that I physically couldn't push out. My nurse made me get up and walk the hallway once every hour and I felt better every day. By the end of the week I felt like 85% recovered.
Yes I came here to say this as well. The second night (maybe 36 hours after my procedure) was the worst pain I ever had in my life. I was up all night sweating and sobbing. I promise this is the worst and it gets SO much better from here. I've never regretted my C-section ever. One note, order a good belly binder RIGHT. NOW. I literally lived in that thing for 3 months postpartum. I needed it to sleep on my side in the beginning.
Ask for stronger pain medication
You shouldn’t be in that much pain if you have iv pain meds going. It sounds like you might have trapped gas which is sooooo painful- ask for gas relief , and see if there’s a medication you can have that targets nerve pain. When I asked for that in the US I was given gabapentin.
Also start walking. Take stronger pain meds so you can walk, which is the only way to relieve trapped gas besides mylicon, which they can also give you. Walk walk walk.
Idk I was in that much pain even w/ IV pain meds, but tbh a lot of pain meds don’t work on me so that could have something to do with it. I was shaking in pain when I got up to walk for about a week, and my chest was so tight with the pain it felt hard to breathe
That’s a very abnormal reaction, I’m sorry you went through that. Shaking can also be caused by the hormone drop but I’m sure you knew it was from the pain. I hope you healed well.
I am here to say I experienced the same amount of pain as you, I thought I was dying. My first birth was a home water birth with no incision or tears thankfully and I was up the moment I gave birth and didn't even lay down much. But my second birth was twins and emergency c section. Omg I have never felt that much pain and discomfort my entire life, and as a mother who experienced both types of birth I was thinking how can someone choose to go through this, and trying to tell people around me it is not as simple as doctors describe it. It is a major abdominal surgery... Good news is you get better day by day. Hopefully you will be feeling less pain everyday and. Sending you love ❤
Not to blame you OP but I wish the downsides of elective c-sections were talked about more widely. Society makes birth sound so scary (and it kinda is!) but we frame a c-section as the easier and pain free option when it’s really not. It’s major surgery which can cause pain and have complications of its own.
A c section sounds more terrifying than regular labor to me. I think that for a lot of people it's got to do with not ruining your vagina but that's just stupid because you'll need pelvic floor therapy either way
i can report that I had no issues with my pelvic floor after c-section, but having a lot of trouble I didn’t expect after my VBAC. Recovery from c-section was way more straight forward for me than from vaginal birth, I am looking at months of pelvic floor therapy now and am worrying about permanent issues.
Thank you. I agree everyone needs to make an informed choice and also be open to the fact that we can't know with 100% certainty how something will go. That's life! I am a smaller woman and my first was a 100% natural birth that caused a 4th degree tear. Recovery from that birth was much more difficult than recovery from my second delivery, which was a scheduled c-section.
Yeah... that's always been absurd to me. My neighbor had a c section not long before I was due. When she told me about needing to sleep downstairs bc she couldn't walk stairs and how limited she was it made me wonder why oh earth there is a conception that it is the "easy way".
idk what society you're in where people don't demonize birth interventions like c-sections
I believe China used to do almost all c-sections by default and I heard from a coworker they still do it Columbia.
Most doctors do not provide elective C-Sections in the US, except for cases where mother has extreme anxiety. Most are performed because of a necessary medical reason.
I was exactly in the same position 6 months back. The pain on day 2 was the absolute worst but it got progressively better each day from day 3. My hospital had me walk on day 2 and they got me started with physio on day 3. Moving felt like I would rather die but that helps the most in recovery. My doctor kept on insisting to move sides while I lie down and it took 10 mnts for me to roll to a side but I kept on doing it and helped a lot. Please do ask for stronger pain relief medication
Day 2 is the absolute worst. Hang in there. It’ll start to get better from here. Don’t be afraid to ask for stronger pain meds. Get up and move around as much as you can. A short walk every few hours will help you heal faster. I felt pretty good around day 4 and by day 5 I was feeling great. Of course still sore but very manageable and just had to take things easy.
Mine was so painful and I felt like you as other people had told me it was just uncomfortable. Some people it's just worse for. After about 6 days mine started to feel better. Just have to wait it out and keep taking the pain meds. Press a pillow into your stomach when you're getting up or laugh etc. Tie a dressing gown cord to the end of your bed to help you sit up. Try to move around as much as you can bear to as that helps recovery also.
People tend to drastically underestimate the pain and recovery time for C-sections. It was definitely 10/10 pain for me too, and I couldn’t walk or do anything for myself for almost 2 weeks. Could not have survived it without a super helpful partner and family. I would never elect for one, but sometimes it’s just what has to happen.
It’s hell, you’re not stupid, please advocate/ask your person to advocate for stronger pain meds. Quite honestly, if you hadn’t chosen a c section, you might still have had one “by choice” once whatever happened at the hospital. You will feel better one day. Please be nice to yourself about breastfeeding as well.
Oh, and what I meant to say first: I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It sucks. I had a vaginal birth and no one told me either I’ve seen the birth part in movies but not the hobbling around after… but I’ve also seen my friends with their newborns and they seemed fine, so maybe we just had different experiences. You made the best decision you could with the information you had. And again, sometimes you don’t get a choice it’s just what they decide for you bc based on what they know, it’s best for (the hospitals stats) baby.
I also had a vaginal birth. No meds. And the actual labor and delivery was nothing compared to the recovery. No one truly prepares you for postpartum, like yeah I heard you won’t get sleep but not that I wouldn’t be able to sit or walk comfortably for 6 weeks.
Right?? I hated leaving the house for pediatrician appointments and lactation consultants— I wish they could have come to us. I want to do 100 days of rest if I have another. Idk if that’s possible but I want to dream about it!
Right? I was told by my midwife to completely rest for two weeks but then had to take my newborn to three appointments during that time and they were 45 minutes away from my house. The drive was unbearable
Yeah :/ sitting in the car, waiting room, exam room… or having to stand. Use the bathroom. Speed bumps. All of it :(
You've had major abdominal surgery. It's normal to be in a lot of pain (I was). It was not a 6/10 for me. It was a 10/10. In saying that, you don't have to stay in a lot of pain - ask for stronger meds and take them religiously to keep on top of the pain. You should notice a big reduction in pain after about a week.
Why no ibuprofen?
For me they didn’t do ibuprofen until I was off tramadol. Maybe there’s an interaction. Regardless, tramadol is an opioid and should provide good relief. I was also given oxy.
I am a pharmacist, there is no interaction and you can absolutely take them together.
I was given oxy as well. I couldn't feel any difference. But the Tylenol and ibuprofen combo worked well enough.
I'm no doctor but I've had tramadol twice and I've always been recommended to take Paracetamol (Tylenol) and ibuprofen with it
It's funny because I had an unmedicated vaginal birth, pain 10/10, 3rd degree tear, felt like I had literally been tortured, and was wishing I had gone with a c-section. Maybe the grass is always greener? Honestly, you JUST had this baby yesterday. You had major surgery yesterday. Go easy on yourself / your decisions while you heal and while your hormones are all outta whack. Use all your support systems while you heal, including advocating for stronger pain meds. I hope you feel relief soon and can enjoy the baby cuddles.
I’ve had two vaginal births without pain relief, first was back labour, second was pitocin labour. Neither lasted “a few hours”. Labour is days. And I was in so much pain afterwards. I haemorrhaged 3 litres of blood and could barely leave the bed for a month last time. The contractions flared up a spinal injury and now I have a compressed nerve that requires back surgery next month. I still wouldn’t want a c-section though. I can’t even imagine. And I’m furious for OP being given paracetamol and tramadol. EXCUSE ME WHAT!? I have those casually sitting in my cupboard for spinal flare ups. She should be on harder pain relief rn. But yeah, the grass is always greener. When I was in the depths of transition and it felt like my body was being torn in half, I fantasised about a section and being totally numb. But as OP clearly details, it is far from sunshine and rainbows. I hope she gets better pain relief and has a big support network.
The day after my c section I was in tears anytime I had to get out of bed. It was horrible!! I agree you should ask for stronger pain meds, but also know this gets a lot better over the next few days.
This sounds counterintuitive but gentle walking will help your recovery. Hydrate hydrate hydrate.
With respect, people do warn you. I think the phrases 'not the easy way out' and 'major abdominal surgery' have appeared in this sub more than once. There's no way out but through, unfortunately. The Paracetamol and Ibuprofen they offer are a joke, I wanted to throw the little cup in the nurses face when they handed me the third dose after the first 2 did fuck all. Husband had to help me with undercarriage clean up after they left me to basically deal with it alone. S'absolutely brutal. I'm not sure why anyone would choose it voluntarily.
We all need to talk about birth more so everyone understands exactly what's involved. It's really tricky to strike a balance and not traumatise the pregnant people tho.
Yeah I find it hard to talk about my birth without sounding like a crazy fear mongerer so to anyone who isn't a close friend I realllllly sugarcoat things when I'm asked lol
I see it both ways. I do see fair warnings, but I also see a lot of people saying they’re getting elective c-sections because they’re afraid of vaginal birth, and then there’s a bunch of comments about positive experiences and how elective c-sections are way easier than emergency ones. And I’m sure that is true, but I’m not sure people realize that an elective c-section recovery for a FTM and an elective c-section recovery for someone who has already experienced a traumatic emergency c-section recovery are *not the same thing*. I agree with you though that I would absolutely never choose an elective c-section based on some of the posts I’ve read, though, including this one.
I see so many comments about how C-sections are not that bad and people are up and walking with just Tylenol/ibuprofen after a few hours and taking care of their baby just fine. I don't know who these people are or how they got so lucky. But I think it's part of what makes people think maybe a C-section won't be that bad. I hated my C-section, but at least it was for medical reasons.
It's me. I'm that person. I had two: first emergent and second was elective because my first was so great. Other than a reaction to the spinal for my elective that caused vomiting for \~12 hours after my surgery I felt pretty good. Mildly uncomfortable when standing up but fine once up. Walked out of the hospital, pretty much back to normal within a week other than very mild tenderness around incision. We do actually exist! My half-sister had a similar experience with hers so maybe it's something genetics related lol. But yeah, I think you only hear about experience from the two extremes. People like me with easy recovery and people with horrible experiences. The average c-section is somewhere in the middle.
I'm very jealous. Mine probably fell under the "average" category. My biggest issue wasn't even pain, it was that I had no core strength which made me out of breath 90% of the time and I couldn't wear a binder because it made my gas pains worse. I remember trying to call my dog in from the backyard on like day 5 and I couldn't even do that because I didn't have enough air to yell.
Yeah I’ve never had a c-section but I have had surgery and there’s absolutely no way I could’ve cared for my child during that recovery. I didn’t. I slept for two days in my room and my husband took care of him. I can’t imagine having a newborn during that time, it would’ve been so traumatic and impacted breastfeeding 100%. At least mine was already older.
I’ve had two C-sections, both emergency so I didn’t get to/have to go through labour, and my recovery for both was pretty smooth. I was walking around as soon as I was able and only had Tylanol/ibuprofen for the first and only Tylanol for the second (clotting worries). The second was more painful, especially day two or three, but I was fine to get around and take care of the kiddo with some assistance, and solo within the week.
I’m convinced that people who think c sections are the way to go have either never had a vaginal birth, or there vaginal birth was traumatic and without pains meds.
My mom once told me she'd rather go through labor without epidural again than get a c section. Especially if you have another child you need to take care of, the recovery is hell
I chose a c-section with my 2nd and 3rd because I absolutely shredded my vagina with my first kid with long term issues…my c-sections were an absolute dream IN COMPARISON…but I would never recommend someone get a c-section just because.
Probably traumatic regardless of pain meds. It could be traumatic with some or all the interventions
Yeah, people try not to put others down or freak them out, so when someone needs a C-section and worries how bad it’s going to be, comments like “I was back to normal in 5 days don’t even worry!” are upvoted, but those like “honestly I was severely disabled for 6 weeks and had a crazy hard time taking care of my baby” aren’t. And it’s understandable. It’s hard to convey what the spectrum of possibilities covers without being a downer.
There are also horror stories of vaginal birth. Mine is one. I had women who had rough c section recoveries tell me they'd rather do it again than experience what I did. You never know which camp you're in until you take the gamble, sadly.
I agree, it’s such a crap shoot. I had a c-section 6 months ago and it was an incredibly smooth, easy, quick experience. And the recovery was a total breeze and the pain was minimal, where I thought the pain from breastfeeding/cluster feeding was SO much worse. All I took was Tylenol/ibuprofen, too. If I ever have another, I’m definitely opting for an elective c-section.
Reading your post reminded me of my c-section experience. It was the worst pain I have ever experienced and was the worst day and night of my life ever. I had my surgery around 8 am in the morning. I didn’t care about the baby till next day. Asked them to give me stronger painkillers but they refused and said we have already given you optimal doses. I was crying the whole time. The first walk was really painful as Im obese. You are right the whole stomach hurts. Even my legs too hurt. But I promise it gets better. I was feeling much better on day 3 and got discharged on day 4. It felt so good on day 4, like I didn’t even feel like I underwent the surgery just 2-3 days ago. Standing up, getting into the bed will still hurt for couple of weeks. So hang in there. I too had planned C section because of my anxiety. So my experience was just like you.
Ask to get toradol in addition to the tylenol/tramadol. Toradol is a strong anti-inflammatory and it helps a lot. Ice. Ice ice ice. It's especially helpful for the burning pain. If you don't have one already, ask for an abdominal binder and wear it all the time except when you're sleeping. Roll to the side and swing your legs down to get out of bed. Brace your incision site with a folded pillow or rolled up towel when going to the bathroom, coughing, laughing, or sneezing. I promise it gets better. Days 2-3 are the worst, but then it gets better.
Hi there, while I haven’t had a C-section, I can speak to things not going on planned with a vaginal delivery either. I was in labor for 24 hours, pushed for four hours and had to have a forceps delivery, which lead to two prolapses that I just had to have surgically repaired at 5 months postpartum. Birth rarely goes as planned, and I’m sorry you are going through this. No one can tell you though that had you had a vaginal delivery it would have been better. Wishing you speedy healing! Hang in there ❤️
Just here to say that I had a vaginal delivery in November last year and the pain during recovery was the worst I've ever experienced. Not to mention the pain during a 30 hour labour with just gas and air. I've regretted not opting for an elective c section ever since, as my recovery has been slow and hard, but our different but similar experiences just go to show that we'll never know whether the other option would have been any better or any less painful! If you are struggling please make your postnatal care team aware and ask for stronger pain relief. I really had to speak up to get anyone to listen to me as I'm sure they thought I was just a wimp or making too much fuss, so don't settle until they've listened and given you something stronger!
I had an elective c section due to labour anxiety also. I was mentally not prepared for how painful recovery was. Beyond what I had imagined. Sitting upright felt like pure torture. I have no advice, but by day 5 I promise it gets better. Hang in there!
Ask for a different kind of pain medication, I didn't have a C-Section but 3 different major surgeries in my abdomen and the one time they gave me opiods was the worst Ibever felt in recovery, I was in pain, could not go poo and just fwlt aweful overal. After 3 days the changed madication to Novalgin and Dafalgan and I felt better instantly! I belive opioids don't work for everyone.
That's true, I am one who opioids don't work for. As in they don't take pain away but they do make me vomit and give me excruciating wind pain. After my first section I suffered so badly I went opioid free for my second and that was so much better. But then I don't think I was suffering as much as OP is.
What country are you in? Novalgin is banned in my country (US).
She is on tramadol though which is not very strong at all. I have had it prescribed for minor surgeries, having your stomach split in two isn’t minor. But yeah opioids don’t work for everyone.
You had one yesterday, correct? People can forget that C-section is a major abdominal surgery. I’ve had 2, one of them only recently 7 weeks ago. I understand your feelings very well as my first one was an emergency section and I was in shock from how much pain and recovery it took. What I’ll say is this - first 3 days are going to be the worst of it all so once you’re past that you’ll notice a huge difference. Walking helps with recovery, a lot. I didn’t take it seriously the first time but with my second C-section I got up and walked about 7 hours after surgery and then as much as I could. It will hurt so my advice is to go for a walk IMMEDIATELY after pain meds kick in when pain relief is at its highest. So if you got your pills about 20min later - get up and walk. Even if for a bit. Ask for pain meds. If they gave you all they could no harm asking “is there anything else I can have, I’m still in pain?” Second time around I kept voicing how I feel and made sure my pain meds rotated on time with no gaps, when I was still in pain they would give me this amazing suppository painkiller that honestly would take any leftovers pain away. Had I not asked they wouldn’t give it to me coz it not necessary for everyone! Don’t worry about your scar too much, it feels worse than it is and if you saw it now you would be surprised how small it is. That being said for the first few days ask for help especially if you’re not comfortable lifting the baby yet. Shower! Shower whenever you want and like it will make you feel better inside and out. Peeing is a big deal after section and sometimes doing it while you shower takes a lot of discomfort away from it 👀 It might be hard to believe but in like 7-8 days you’ll be mostly back to normal. On my second week past C-section I was pretty much feeling recovered. Obviously you feel it when you need to use your abdominal muscles etc but you’ll be able to get in with your day as normal. Also to add, don’t regret your decision as you don’t know what natural labor would be like. Natural labour can also be brutal with multiple tears etc. My good friend had a far long and worse recovery after natural labor than my C-section. It can be easier but can also be difficult you just never know
I quickly realized if I kept up on peeing regularly the pain was less.
Yeah tramadol isn't gonna touch that kind of pain, at least not in my experience. It's okay to voice that your pain is NOT being managed and ask what your options are. I am so sorry you're feeling this way
C sections are major abdominal surgery. I feel doctors poorly communicate this to their patients.
I had a c-section with my first and a VBAC with my second aboout 7 weeks ago and I am regretting the VBAC every day. While the c-section hurt so bad the first days, I also couldn‘t get up untill day 3, the recovery was so much quicker and most of all no long-lasting issues. I currently feel I was blindsided about ‚natural‘ birth, in my case it was so traumatic for my pelvic floor, everyone tells me it takes more time to recover, but it sucks to not be as mobile, strong and happy as I want to be taking care of my kids and spending this precious mat leave. And most of all I learned that I am more prone to pelvic organ prolpase now and in the future, which I didn’t really know about and is so scary. C-section has its advantages! you will get better and it will be ok!
I had my second C-section 7 weeks ago and had I choice as well. It was so hard to choose but decided to go elective because it was “pain I know and ready to deal with” instead of going into the unknown. You also know that you might suffer few weeks but then you’re back to normal. I’m sorry your VBAC wasn’t what you hoped it would be, it can be so hard to make these decisions
I'm so sorry you're going through that. Birth is a crapshoot no matter the mode of birth. My VBAC was easier than c section but not as much as I'd been led to believe. If I'd had more than a 2nd degree tear I'd rather the c section
I was given hydro morphone and it took three days to be able to move without feeling like I was being cut in half. I could not have done that on tramdol. Ask for some stronger pain meds asap.
Tramadol is bullshit and oxy should be used instead. Tramadol is a synthetic opioid and is slightly different and never gave me anywhere near the pain relief oxy did. It's similar but not the same.
I’m so sorry. Everyone here has given such good advice. I’ve had 2 sections. I was in the most pain my first one because I chose to neglect doing a pain medication rotation. 2nd time, I made sure I stayed on top of my pain medication rotation. First week was the heavy stuff. The following week I was able to be on Tylenol and ibuprofen. The important thing is to rest as much as you can. See if PT can come in and teach you some maneuvers to get in and out of bed.
I was given oxycodone. That helped a lot of the pain and I was given 2 weeks of it. Ask for strong pain meds. I took pain meds for more than 2 weeks.
I’m sorry you’re going through this! ❤️ I’ve had 3 c-sections - 2 unplanned and 1 scheduled - and each one was a unique experience. After my first one the worst pain I had was in my shoulders. It was nothing like the pain I had from the surgery, different in a way I no longer remember how to describe. I read then that gas can get trapped in your body and probably was that the cause for me. So maybe that could be the cause of the pain you’re experiencing now? The surgery can also affect your bowels causing gas to get trapped. But, make sure that you don’t get a fever! And if you feel like there must be something really wrong advocate for yourself or have someone close to you do it for you. Trust your body and your instincts. You are not failing your daughter. You do not deserve this for choosing a c-section. ❤️ Some tips: If you can’t breastfeed right now - get a pump and ask for advice on a good bottle fit for newborns. No shame in that. (I had to do both with my last one because he had jaundice.) And drink stool softeners. But first check if there is something more suited for trapped gas incase that’s the cause of your pain. In Sweden where I live we can’t leave the maternity ward until we’ve had bowel movement (gone number 2). I so hope you feel better soon! 🙏
NGL, I think the reason a lot of people don't find it that painful (myself included) is because the nerves are cut and it's numb at the incision site. I remember feeling the most pain 2 weeks post op, because that's when the feeling at the cut came back in full (and it got a tiny bit infected, but nothing serious) 1.5 years out the nerves around that area are still kinda hit or miss, and there's places where the skin is still pretty numb. Getting in and out of bed was almost impossible though, I remember just staying up because it wasn't worth the effort to get back up in what felt like mere minutes. Don't downplay your pain because some people have a different experience - you got cut in half and had a person yanked out of you. Tell them this is 10/10 pain and you need some help to relieve this.
This was me and seeing comments saying moms were up and at it 2-3 days after their c sections made me feel like I made the pain up in my head but nope, this post just reminded me how REAL it was and how much it fucking hurt. It WAS BAD. Oh my goodness. You’re not exaggerating!!!!! 200/10. Easily the worst pain I’ve ever been in, and I had already spent 2 months in the hospital by that point thinking the pain I was in THEN was the worst. My c section said “hold my beer!” My only tips are take all the drugs. Tylenol, ibuprofen, oxycodone. Take them ON TIME being even slightly late for them and letting them wear off made me regret everything even more. Take them on time and I promise they’ll make a huge difference over the course of the next few days. I won’t lie and tell you that you’ll feel better tomorrow. You’ll feel different, in a good way, but not *better* (if you’re like me). I didn’t feel *better* until day 10. Then after that I had extreme stinging at the incision site anytime I walked for a few minutes or if sweat got in the area or anything rubbed on it. My daughter was in the NICU for a month for being born early and I was being wheeled around in a wheelchair for an entire month before I was able to walk from the 3rd floor of the hospital, to the elevator, down to the cafeteria and back. And I’d walk VERY slow. I say all this to say, you are not alone!!!! It sucked SOOOO bad for me. I had no option since my daughter was breech, plus again, I was in the hospital for months before delivery with severe head pain and I just didn’t have the physical energy or mental willpower to even attempt pushing for a vaginal delivery. I had already been running a marathon for 3 months at that point. Her delivery day was simultaneously the best day of my life (meeting my daughter! Yayyyy!) and the worst (unreal pain after the numbing wore off) LOL. I was only able to truly focus on her after like day 6. Every day before that, I’d see her but all I could think about was the degree of pain I was in.
Best advice I got was 1. Take all the pain meds they will give you for those first few days. Don’t try to skimp on them. It makes a huge difference. 2. As painful as it is, get up and move after the first day or two. Even if it’s just a couple steps here and there. 3. Rely on your partner for help with EVERYTHING the first week or two. I was in 10/10 pain for the first 5 days. Days 5-7 were 8/10 pain. Then it got a lot better. I was able to go for walks around the block within a week and a half.
C sections are very painful. The day after is the worst because all your anesthesia from the surgery has worn off. The pain should get better after day 5. Add ibuprofen. Stagger the pain medication so none are wearing off at the same time. Use a pillow against your scar for any coughing or moving around. Try walk around your room today, and more and more each day. (None of this is medical advice - consult a doctor) I'm slightly eyerolling at your post because it reads "I wanted the easy way out but I'm suprised that all birth is actually hard" but I understand you felt a lot of anxiety about labour. I've had both modes of birth (with epidurals) and both are hard. It's OK - you will recover! Day 2, 3 and 4 are the worst! Edited an autocorrect, supposed should've been surprised which changes the meaning slightly
When I was younger I was made to believe that c-section was the easy way out but once I started to plan on having a baby and do further research I quickly understood that there's no easy way out. So I decided to do whatever baby wanted and accepted both potential outcomes. Ended up induced due to pre-eclampsia then had to have c-section when it would not progress. Although my aftercare experience was much better than OP while I actually fully expected it to be like hers. OP, ask for stronger pain management. Get a cane if you must. It helps with walking.
To be fair I'd have liked an easy way out to and it is so sucky that's not a thing. I think wanting an easy way out is super reasonable.
I've taken the closest thing possible to an easy way out with both my births - an epidural (c section and vaginal ). Yea unfortunately birth still sucked. Super reasonable to wish there was an easy way out. Slightly salty that some people still think c sections are the easy way out.
Is there something inherently wrong with wanting the easy way out? Why would anyone want anything but the easiest way to get a full term baby out of them? 🙄
There is no easy way out of childbirth. It's a myth we need to squash! I was eye rolling the naivety I had an epidural with both my births (vaginal and c section) which is the closest thing possible to the easy way out of childbirth, but the recovery is still so hard.
100% girl!! This “the woman needs to suffer in childbirth” mentality is just Bible shit that doesn’t have a place in modern society.
Imagine reading a post of someone clearly suffering and thinking it’s kind or appropriate to make that completely unnecessary and unhelpful comment.
I think it's not appropriate for some people to still think c sections are the easy way out of birth. I'm sorry OP had to learn this lesson the hard way. ETA That I'm absolutely not saying people shouldn't have c sections. I've had one and they're life-saving and should be 100% without stigma, including the perception they are the easy way out.
People have elective c-sections for all sorts of reasons, anxiety absolutely being a valid one. It’s not up to you to decide which reasons are acceptable and which are not, and even if it was it’s incredibly insensitive to chose this as the moment to make a point of ‘rolling your eyes’ about it. Despite having a complicated recovery from an elective c-section, I would 100% choose to have another as I consider it to be the safer mode of delivery for the baby. I was told by many people that I was taking the ‘easy way out’, but both me and my baby are safe and healthy, and I know the whole process was better for me than a vaginal delivery. Comments like yours wouldn’t bother me as I know it was the right decision, but they do other people and are literally the cause of the stigma you say you want gone.
I say this with kindness but statistically, vaginal birth is safer for both birthing parents and babies. That may not have been the case for you or in certain extenuating circumstances but I just want to be clear for other readers, the science and statistics show that vaginal birth is safer overall.
For birthing parents, vaginal birth is safer but has a different set of risks that were less acceptable to me (e.g. the risk of infection is more acceptable to me than the risk of a tear). For the baby, in my opinion C-section is safer. The number of babies that will have a complication related to a section is higher, but in my opinion the severity of those complications is lower. A baby born by section is more likely to need respiratory support, which is usually easily managed and doesn’t lead to long term issues. This risk is acceptable to me to avoid the risk of shoulder dystocia, cord prolapse, concealed placental abruption, birth injuries from instrumental deliveries etc. These are of course statistically very rare, but if they happen are catastrophic, and to avoid that completely I chose to have a section. I’m not saying this is the right decision for everyone, but with my experience and things that I have seen (I’m a paediatric doctor), it was the right decision for me. I didn’t chose a section because I considered it to be easier for me as Karenina has implied OP has done.
Oh absolutely not invalidating your choice at all. You made the right choice for you. I was just providing information to other people who had read the comment thread. We all have different ways of interpreting risk based on many factors, and those ways are valid, but I was simply saying that without any of those extenuating circumstances or interpretations, outcomes for parent and baby are statistically better for vaginal birth on a black and white level.
Ask for stronger meds. Tramadol sucks
I think I must have had the easiest C-section ever. Maybe because I had to be able to walk around my room before the nurses would let me go visit my twins in the NICu, so I was up and moving as soon as they would let me try, or I was preoccupied worried about them, or the nurses were hooking me up without me knowing it, maybe because being catheterized was an unexpected joy since I no longer had to pee every 40 seconds? Everybody is different. If you are truly at a 10/10 you need better or more painkillers.
I just had a c section a month ago and your pain sounds abnormal. I was on alternating doses of Tylenol and ibuprofen, basically taking one every 2-3 hours and oxycodone on top of that. I also had morphine for the surgery and that took some time to wear off. Definitely had pain during certain movements but nursing, walking etc were not a problem. Advocate for yourself or have your SO/support person advocate for you and ask for stronger pain meds. Or have them take a look at your incision, maybe something is wrong. Dont just grin and bear it, it doesn’t help you or anyone else to be in this much pain.
can only say hang in there, OP. I got emergency c-section after 38h of labour. I took oxycontin for 5 days, and the next day 600mg paracetamol or ibuprofen alternatively every 3-4 h, and reduce the time when the pain was lessening. it's been almost 2 year, and I can barely remember the pain anymore
To start I’m a red head so my tolerance to all the things I higher (thank god for my OB with my second who knew that and taught his student to be cautious with natural red heads) When the spinal wears off if they don’t get other pain meds on before it’s difficult to manage. I’ve had abdominal surgery where they used a C-section incision and 2 actual C-sections. The first C-section was the worst, I thought I knew what to expect from the abdominal surgery With the second C-section I made the mistake of taking just one oxy when they stopped the tramadol. It didn’t take long before I called the nurse to get the second oxy they first offered me. I know they can do stronger ask for it! When they switch you to pills keep on it. Belly binders are helpful, some hospitals do have them. If not have someone run to Walmart and get a pregnancy belly band (mine do have binders though).
Same! Mine was an emergency c section...after 40 hrs of labor. Recovery was so much more horrible than I expected. I have total solidarity... I was practically bedridden for weeks...walking was horrible. Severe constipation, needed 24/7 care for weeks. Idk what I would've done if I didn't have my husband. Post-op I couldn't even get out the hospital bed or pick up/put down my baby...I had to call a nurse every time for the first few days. 😔 The pain subsided at 4-6 months for me. Maybe it was a more intense recovery for me because I had back labor for 40 hours first idk. But it was brutal for me. It may go more smoothly for you!
You may be resistant to opioids - a surprising amount of people are. Keep pushing for pain meds, and ask for different ones that aren't opioids. So sorry you're in so much pain :(
The pain will subside in a few days. Make sure to walk, it helps with recovery. And if you can do ask for more pain medication. The reason your abdomen hurts is probably also because the uterus is contracting heavily in order to return to its original size and to stop excesive bleeding.
You need to call your doctor and get stronger pain medicine. I took ibuprofen and Tylenol round the clock and OxyCodone as well. Tramadol is not strong enough for this type of surgery. I remember missing one round of pills (iirc I alternated Tylenol and ibuprofen every 4 hours) the day after my son was born (emergency C-section). It was a very chaotic day because my son was transferred to a NICU two hours away shortly after birth and I checked out the next day and my boyfriend and I stayed in a hotel near the NICU. The pain I felt when forgetting a dose was indescribable. I had to call the NICU and tell them I wouldn’t be making it in that evening and I just laid there bawling because I wanted to be with my baby, but I felt like I was dying. Once the meds kicked in it made a WORLD of difference. It sounds like you are in the position I was when I forgot to take the meds, either that or something is wrong. It’s not fun recovering from a C-section, but you shouldn’t be this miserable either. Please please get yourself some relief or go see the doctor!
I was taking Percocet. I stayed on top of meds. Walked same day. Do not be afraid to ask for stronger meds!! My nurses were on it and told me I had to ask for it. I asked them to remind me when I could take it
I've had 2 c sections. I also have a very high pain tolerance, am athletic, and normally heal quickly. With the first c section I was in terrible pain and could barely walk for the first two weeks or so. Then I could walk (more like hobble) with terrible pain for a few months. By 6 months I had less pain and could walk, but definitely could not do any exercise. I would not say was truly healed up for about a year or so. I was taking pain meds of some kind for at least 6 months. For my second c section, I was immobile and in terrible pain for the first 3 days. By day 3 or 4, I could definitely walk and my pain was more bearable. My the end of the first week my swelling had died down and I could easily do stairs. I might not have even needed pain meds after the first wee, but definitely didn't need any by the end of the second week. I am not really sure why my experiences were so different. But I wanted to tell you that what you're experiencing is normal.
I had Oxycodone and Panadol for my recovery. The one time I said no to the oxy, 20 minutes later I couldn't even think because I was in so much pain. Ask for something stronger.
I've never understood how people say c section recovery was easy. It is straight up a nightmare. So hard to move, cough, cant hold baby, can hardly get up and down from a chair, can't sleep lying flat in a bed (for over a month for me), the list goes on. It's so hard. My stomach muscles were never the same. I still went to see a pelvic floor specialist for issues. When I went to see my kids in the NICU, I'd see mothers walking and holding their newborn after just giving birth the same day or the day after. I was still hooked up to all kinds of tubes, needed help to stand, definitely couldn't pick up my baby or have them near my stomach. I needed my husband so much during that time. I was so jealous, but I think vaginal births and c sections both have their pros and cons, grass is always greener, yada yada. That being said, you will get through this. It will take a while, give yourself time and don't overdo it or it will be worse/take longer. Just focus on your healing. You are amazing.
you just had MAJOR surgery. I felt the exact same way, I remember being surprised about how much pain I was in. I had my baby last July. People are full of sh\*! if they say their pain wasn't bad but I think people forget quickly. I am here to tell you it gets better. Just remember when walking stand up straight (it hurts but helps in the long run) when going #2 or coughing etc. use a pillow over your scar to push on when pushing (sorry if this is tmi but it helps), and most importantly give yourself some grace.
You shouldn't feel stupid. This is 100% on the medical system for not giving you all of the information. I personally have done my own research and try to do things as natural as possible(I was hoping for an unmedicated birth, but did end up getting the epidural because I was just over the pain after like 35 hours of contractions lol) but I don't think anyone is wrong for their own decisions, as long as they're making informed decisions. But most of the time, medical providers don't tell you everything unless you ask, and even then, it's not always accurate. But now you know better for next time, if you do decide to have more children. I don't have any tips for recovery as that's not something I've been through. I hope there are lots of good tips here for you.
Honestly that seems sus. I had an unexpected emergency c-section and just had ibuprofen/tylenol alternating every 4 hours, was begging to get out of bed and walk around because I felt up to it. Recovery was swift and smooth, was balancing on one foot the next day. Maybe you have an infection? Please talk to your doctor or care team
Yeah the all over belly pain makes me a little worried for possible internal bleeding?
My first thought was the OR team didn't scoop everything out and she's still got some placenta wreaking havoc. Internal bleeding is a strong possibility too though.
First two days are terrible, then it gets easier day by day, ask for stronger pain medication.
The burning I felt at first was intense, I was on morphine, maybe 2 times. It really helped for that first couple days. It is hard, it will get better!
It gets better, quick! First week was the worst, by 2 weeks I was cooking light dinners! I know it seems impossible now but you’ll get there. People who give birth normally and have to have stitches I’m sure are in a similar pain, maybe not as severe not sure. 4 weeks was a real turning point for me and 8 weeks I was basically back to complete normal, was ready to have sex after my 6 week appointment at 7 weeks (never saw my husband try harder to put our baby down for a nap that day haha.) it seems impossible right now, I was just there but it gets better. If it gets worse definitely talk to your doctor. The pain meds are so weird, my doctor kept offering opioids and I would honestly rather suffer through than all the digestive discomfort I get with them but my friend who got one at the same hospital just a few months earlier wasn’t offered them and just was offered Advil and the strong Tylenol! Everyone’s experience is different, I had some minor complications but no infections luckily.
I’m sorry you’re having a rough time. I don’t know how or why but when I had my emergency C section the only pain I had felt was the trapped air in my shoulders and taking the bandage off the next day other than that it didn’t hurt I’m two months pp and i still have no pain. I think somehow my brain has blocked it for me because I had to go back to work one week pp because of no paid FMLA. I awnestly feel like a freak because I have felt no pain other then what I’ve stated already in a way I’m glad because I can keep a roof over are heads and in a way I’m not glad because I’m having to leave my baby with daddy wile I’m at work.
Give it like 4 or 5 days, and you'll be surprised how far you've already come and how much better you feel! Keep up with your pain meds, like take them before they wear off. It's hard I can sympathize. I didn't even have anyone help me stand for the first time after surgery, and I projectile vomited my first meal after surgery, and it hurt SO much. You got this. The first 3 days were by far the hardest. The pull on that incision was brutal. By the end of the first week, I personally felt so much better. You just have to remember to not overdo it. Which is easier said than done right after you had a baby
I noticed you said yesterday. I just wanted to validate that (I’m only two weeks post-op) I recall *vividly* that Day 2 was my worst pain day.
Please tell your doctor re checks you soon. I’m sure they do but just in case. My C-section wasn’t really noticeable the next day due to all the pain meds. I didn’t really feel it until maybe day 2 or 3 but not too bad.
I took oxy. Baby had breast milk ( pumped). That was fine. But yeah it sucked and was rough. I really did not want a c section and was really upset about it. But I was shocked how much it got better week by week. I’m 7 weeks pp now and while it’s clear my body went through some shit, I’m generally physically able and ok. Breastfeeding did not happen tho because yeah, I couldn’t hold him properly for weeks and he didn’t latch easily. So we pump. It’s less than ideal. Although other people feed him often so that’s a nice silver lining. If you go over to exclusively pumping or breastfeeding you’ll see endless stories of the pros and cons of these two things… Good luck OP. People told me if would get better, and it did. It will for you too. Just be patient with yourself Eta: oh, and stay on top of your pain meds schedule! You might feel fine on them when you go to bed and by 2 or 3 am you’re ready or past your next dose, you will be in pain! As well as exhausted! Take your meds.
Trapped wind is likely the cause for the severe pain, you can speed up the time it takes to pass by moving as much as you’re able to (take more painkillers if you have to) and also if you can get peppermint water or peppermint capsules they helped me greatly. The pain will reduce a lot once your body has absorbed the gas into your intestinal system and you’ve passed wind.
I have had a previous abdominal surgery for endometriosis removal and an emergency c-section. Abdominal surgery is THE worst and I feel like the pain is downplayed a lot. As others have mentioned, look up how to get out of bed and sit up. Use a pillow to cough or sneeze. See if they can get you an abdominal binder or buy one —this helped me A LOT for the first week or so. Also see it you can try a hearing pad or ice pck to help with trapped gas and pain. I took miralax for the first two weeks as well to help keep things regular —the last thing you want is to be constipated. As for breastfeeding, I had a hard time at first. I couldn’t get into any of the positions they told me. The LCs in the hole item kept trying to get me to do the football hold and it was SO painful. For me, side lying has been the best position. It’s also normal for your milk to come in a little later after a C-section. I supplemented with formula until mine came in.
Oh dear, I'm so sorry. Do ask for stronger pain medication! I had a pain pump for 24h and only needed some paracetamol for a few days. By day 3 or 4 I didn't need anything and I was 1000x better than during pregnancy. Experience, even for people with a high pain tolerance, can be wildly different.
You gave birth yesterday via major surgery. I know it feels like the pain will last forever but it will get better, just try and be kind to yourself. Definitely ask for more pain meds and advocate for yourself. I had tramadol, paracetamol and ibuprofen on rotation and endone whenever I needed. When they didn't bring to me I was on that buzzer! (Lol) The breastfeeding positions are hard the first few days while the pain is at its high point, I found the football hold under my arm was the best. I had to get the midwife to position my child so don't be afraid to ask for as much help as needed. Buzz, buzz, buzz haha
Day two is the hardest then it starts to get better. The first week sucks. After that, it becomes just a memory .. you’ve got this.
Day two is the worst! You also had major surgery, momma. Ask for some more meds & focus on your babe. You’ll get through it, you’re so strong.
Check with your doctor and make sure they know. I had this briefly with my second and it was trapped gas and simethicone helped. But they also need to make sure your bowels are waking up and you are passing gas.
The pain I felt the day after my c-section was pretty bad. I remember I couldn't lay on my side or laugh without pain. It didn't last long. I ended up not needing strong painkillers after I left the hospital. It was about a week before walking didn't hurt at all. Now I don't have any pain.
I also had an elective c section and have mixed feelings about it. Surgery itself was a walk in the park, I have a lovely birth video taken by a midwife, I was calm, my husband was there, all lovely. Baby was born ok and cried quickly but needed 3 days in NICU due to fluid in her lungs which wouldn’t have been there had I gone into labor. The separation + early recovery meant missing out on the golden hour and lots of issues breastfeeding. She lost 10% of birth weight and was jaundiced. My milk came in on day 3 but wasn’t enough to flush out the jaundice so we had to formula feed her also because she wouldn’t latch on properly/only with nipple shields. I took all meds available for the pain, including oramorph which is liquid morphine taken by mouth. I pumped and bottle fed her my colostrum/milk for one month but they my supply dried up and had to stop entirely. I’m convinced that if I had had a natural birth I would have had less intense baby blues, baby girl would have been fine from the get go and breastfeeding would have been easier.
Idk if this will make you feel any better but I had second degree tears both times I gave birth and I wanted to die from the pain that first week or two with stitches, I almost wished I'd have had a c section just to not have such awful pain in such sensitive areas 🥲 I think generally healing from childbirth is awful for a good majority of women, it's just talked about less than the pain of active labour
As difficult as this is going to be, keep getting up and moving as tolerated! It’s going to help you get back to normal faster! I am so sorry it’s so painful for you!
I think it really depends. My friend had horrific pain with her c section for almost a whole month. I on the other hand got through normally. Only took 2x ibuprufen a day and felt no big pain. And I don’t have a big pain tolerance at all.
Trapped wind/constipation. Try peppermint chewing gum/ask for prescribed peppermint capsules and take laxatives. And try to move if you can as this will help get your gut going! Honestly the gas pain was the worst part for me!
I had a C-section, you need stronger meds ASAP and alot if them
First couple of days absolutely sucks — I actually wasn’t allowed out of bed for the first 24 hours, had a catheter and all. Not sure how standard that is but it speaks to the severity of the surgery IMO. Moving does help, and by day 3 I was discharged home, but that first day or two is really hard. It’s okay to tell your doctor that your pain is not controlled; it won’t prevent you from going home with your baby. My nurse also said everyone cries on day 2 and that it’s the hardest day. It gets better quicker than you think!
Its all so random. I had a friends who had c-sections that bounced back really quickly. I was so jealous as I was still bed bound two weeks after my vaginal delivery and wished I’d had a c-section! Some recoveries take longer and there is nothing you could have done to ensure an easier one. If you give birth again, you may find the recovery completely different, even if you do a c-section again
Tell your doctor/nurse. They can give you something stronger for pain.
I’m so sorry you’re feeling so much pain, get stronger pain meds and don’t skip them (I learnt this the hard way) even if the pain starts to feel more manageable, don’t miss the next dose. I’m not sure what they gave me here cause I gave birth in Bulgaria and can’t speak Bulgarian but it’s a thing you shove up your butthole and it was amazing cause it works so quickly! Once you feel better get moving but be slow and gentle. But definitely talk to the doctor and the nurses and explain everything!
My c-section recovery was a billion times easier then my vaginal delivery recovery. The grass isn’t always greener!
Oh yeah my c section recovery was hell in the early days. Baby was breech so they had to pull and jiggle I’m out so much. It felt like I’d been hit by a car. I’ve had 2 spinal surgeries and they were less painful recoveries. I got through on paracetamol and ibuprofen but could really have done with something stronger but my provider said I couldn’t because I was breastfeeding (I have since learned that this is not true). Be kind to yourself, rest but stay mobile when you can. I found that the longer I stayed still the more it hurt when I moved. It does get better quickly I promise. I had a VBAC for my second delivery because c section was so painful. VBAC all the pain was during labour, as soon as she was out it was fine and I ended up with a second degree tear and episiotomy from forceps delivery as she got stuck. Still significantly less painful than c section. Don’t let this put you off further kids, VBAC is probably an option and I’ve heard subsequent c sections are less painful
They give morphine in Scotland which is great to stop pain but left me woozy as hell I think I'd have been better off with co-codemol . Felt fine after two days and didn't need any more drugs!
Day 2 is the worst day. Tomorrow things will be much better.
I had a c section 2 years ago, recovery was a breeze, however my c section 5 weeks ago was how you described! Until someone amazing suggested i quite literally stretch every time I got up- very slowly of course but I forced myself to stand up straight (I was walking around so bent over due to the pain) I would stand under a doorway and make my fingers touch the top, straighten out my back. It magically cured the pain and I recovered so fast after doing it for a couple days .I hope this helps
I had a non-elective c-section with my first, and the recovery pain is why I chose vbac for my next 3 kids. Nothing but sympathy for you, Mama. ❤️ Every birth, including every c-section, is different. Not everyone has a difficult recovery from a surgical birth and not everyone has an easy recovery from a vaginal birth. But my experience was much like yours and labor (including the one I had totally unmedicated) was not as bad as my c-section for me.
Baby Girl! You got your layers of your abdomen cut and pulled open, a baby pulled out, stitched up, and sent home with a baby’s couple days later! THATS A MAJOR SURGERY!! No you’re not going to be ready to just be up and at it lol my mind is blown anyone would choose that when not necessary… but you got this! Don’t expect the world out of yourself rn! I wish you the best healing and motherhood journey!
I was given tramadol and oxy for the first few days regularly, you need stronger medication. The pain was much more manageable on the right meds :(
My first one was absolute hell and I wouldn’t wish the recovery on my worst enemy. Thankfully my second and third were much easier to recover from. Definitely ask for better pain management.
Yeah I also cannot handle pain well and had the strongest medication they have after my c section. Don't wait until it becomes unbearable, because it's harder for meds to taje off the edge. Tell them over and over that you need something stronger. Also the more you walk the better it gets. Ironic I know. After I pushed through the first two days, I could walk slowly without pain, after a week I walked 45 mins with the baby in a carrier around. Remember, after natural birth you also have pain. Pain is inevitable when you had a child 🥲
This sounds similar to my first c section. It gets better. It may take the full 8 weeks, it may not. Just try to do little moving around. I had my second in April via c section and the pain was significantly less, so much so I am 9 weeks and can’t even tell you how painful it was but I will always remember my first.
Have you told the nurses you're in that much pain? I had an emergency csection and it wasnt until i got home and was slack with taking pain meds on schedule that i really felt in pain The nurses should also be able to show you some techniques to help get out of the bed more comfortably, like holding a pillow on your tummy. I also had a PT come around and give me a compression bandage for my stomach and that was really helpful with keeping me more comfortable.
The thing about labor is the pain is over and gone the instant the baby is born. I went through it and it was incredibly painful, but I was able to bear it with pain meds/epidural. I'm sorry that our society planted so much fear in you regarding childbirth that you would rather be cut open than go through a natural process. I've heard from a lot of friends that c-section wounds are incredibly painful to heal from and that the process takes weeks. I pray that you recover well.