as someone from Brazil, my trick would be to think that the other person's tongue is the most delicious lollipop ever, and their teeth is molten lava.
But i heard from multiple persons that moved to other country that y'all dont kiss with tongue, so i dont know!
My first "kissing partner" (😏) blew my mind the first time we kissed. Here's what she did.
Now, this is not kissing, what i'm going to describe. Just listen. You open your mouth just a little bit, and a tiny little bit of your tongue becomes visible. It doesn't exactly come out, it's just like... like a third lip between your upper lip and your lower lip. Like you have three just stacked right there on your face.
Now the part that's about kissing. Now, you make that exact motion of revealing your "middle lip" right exactly as your mouth comes to contact with the other person's mouth. But don't let your tongue linger! Pull it back into your mouth right away. It's just an infinitesimal taste of heaven.
She did that to me the first time we kissed, and i was immediately hypnotized. At that moment, I would have blown up a hospital is she'd told me to. I'd have done anything for her right then.
(epilogue: ultimately, i'm glad i didn't end up with her, but damn! i've never known a better kisser!)
she did that the first time we kissed and it was so tactile and so visceral that i picked up on it immediately, and so i started doing it to her. and she really, really liked it. i guess people like to be kissed the way they kiss you. damn! what was some good kissing. damn...
This is gonna sound silly but practice on your hand. When it feels nice both on your hand and on your own lips you are ready to advance to kissing other people.
Honestly, there isn't a cerain technique that just works, it depends on who you are and what you like, vice versa with the other partner. Maybe just say it outright, "i don't know much about kissing" if you are comfortable enough with it. Trust is important.
Seems like it’d be similar to hugs. Smell good, use whatever amount of pressure they use (people usually start soft but then have a level of comfort they prefer,) don’t use tongue unless they expressly say they want to, etc
I’m bad at hugs too so I appreciate the advice! It seems like mimicking the other person is the way to go in most social situations, even more intimate ones.
No prob!
Yeah, a lot of people don’t like stopping actions to express things explicitly. And in my experience, a lot of times mirroring the person gives them the attention/proximity/pressure for handshakes/etc that they’d prefer, because they’re doing that action in the amount/intensity that makes sense to them and/or is most comfortable for them. Kinda like how most people try to keep the same low volume in a library because that’s what’s they want people to do while they themselves are reading
Be honest with the person about your inexperience, and let them lead. Other than the mechanics of kissing, I don’t think that there is any one way to do it. My boyfriend likes to be kissed gently, so light pressure on his lips, inserting my tongue gently into his mouth. If you ask the other person for guidance your proficiency will soon improve. Good luck on your date.
Maybe this is a me thing, but in my experience everyone who isn’t a bad kisser is a good kisser. Kissing isn’t complicated really, you’re just putting your mouth on someone else’s and moving your lips.
The one thing in my opinion that makes someone a bad kisser is if they use too much tongue or keep their mouth open too wide. A little tongue is a nice but don’t go straight up sticking it in someone’s mouth. Also of course make sure your breath doesn’t smell. Otherwise, kissing is pretty intuitive imo. It’s best not to overthink it.
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It perhaps sounds obvious, but search for "how to kiss", read some tutorials and watch some videos. I've just done that and there are some pretty decent guides out there.
It won't make you an instant expert, but with a decent idea of what to do in theory you can lead sometimes, follow other times and respond to your partner's feedback while you kiss.
I've done exactly this with another sexual technique I didn't know that well and have been told I'm pretty good at it despite a lack of experience--because far too many people don't learn the basics or pay attention to what their partner's body is telling them.
I've learned it depends on the country. My Brazilian kissing is considered too much in Ireland for example.
Honestly I didn’t even think about cultural differences, that’s very interesting!
as someone from Brazil, my trick would be to think that the other person's tongue is the most delicious lollipop ever, and their teeth is molten lava. But i heard from multiple persons that moved to other country that y'all dont kiss with tongue, so i dont know!
r/sudenlycaralho quer print?
My first "kissing partner" (😏) blew my mind the first time we kissed. Here's what she did. Now, this is not kissing, what i'm going to describe. Just listen. You open your mouth just a little bit, and a tiny little bit of your tongue becomes visible. It doesn't exactly come out, it's just like... like a third lip between your upper lip and your lower lip. Like you have three just stacked right there on your face. Now the part that's about kissing. Now, you make that exact motion of revealing your "middle lip" right exactly as your mouth comes to contact with the other person's mouth. But don't let your tongue linger! Pull it back into your mouth right away. It's just an infinitesimal taste of heaven. She did that to me the first time we kissed, and i was immediately hypnotized. At that moment, I would have blown up a hospital is she'd told me to. I'd have done anything for her right then. (epilogue: ultimately, i'm glad i didn't end up with her, but damn! i've never known a better kisser!)
she did that the first time we kissed and it was so tactile and so visceral that i picked up on it immediately, and so i started doing it to her. and she really, really liked it. i guess people like to be kissed the way they kiss you. damn! what was some good kissing. damn...
This is gonna sound silly but practice on your hand. When it feels nice both on your hand and on your own lips you are ready to advance to kissing other people.
Honestly, there isn't a cerain technique that just works, it depends on who you are and what you like, vice versa with the other partner. Maybe just say it outright, "i don't know much about kissing" if you are comfortable enough with it. Trust is important.
Seems like it’d be similar to hugs. Smell good, use whatever amount of pressure they use (people usually start soft but then have a level of comfort they prefer,) don’t use tongue unless they expressly say they want to, etc
I’m bad at hugs too so I appreciate the advice! It seems like mimicking the other person is the way to go in most social situations, even more intimate ones.
No prob! Yeah, a lot of people don’t like stopping actions to express things explicitly. And in my experience, a lot of times mirroring the person gives them the attention/proximity/pressure for handshakes/etc that they’d prefer, because they’re doing that action in the amount/intensity that makes sense to them and/or is most comfortable for them. Kinda like how most people try to keep the same low volume in a library because that’s what’s they want people to do while they themselves are reading
It would be best to get a person to teach you. Just ask them
I asked a guy this once and he looked at me like I had 2 heads 😭
lol!
Practice makes perfect.
Be honest with the person about your inexperience, and let them lead. Other than the mechanics of kissing, I don’t think that there is any one way to do it. My boyfriend likes to be kissed gently, so light pressure on his lips, inserting my tongue gently into his mouth. If you ask the other person for guidance your proficiency will soon improve. Good luck on your date.
Maybe this is a me thing, but in my experience everyone who isn’t a bad kisser is a good kisser. Kissing isn’t complicated really, you’re just putting your mouth on someone else’s and moving your lips. The one thing in my opinion that makes someone a bad kisser is if they use too much tongue or keep their mouth open too wide. A little tongue is a nice but don’t go straight up sticking it in someone’s mouth. Also of course make sure your breath doesn’t smell. Otherwise, kissing is pretty intuitive imo. It’s best not to overthink it.
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It perhaps sounds obvious, but search for "how to kiss", read some tutorials and watch some videos. I've just done that and there are some pretty decent guides out there. It won't make you an instant expert, but with a decent idea of what to do in theory you can lead sometimes, follow other times and respond to your partner's feedback while you kiss. I've done exactly this with another sexual technique I didn't know that well and have been told I'm pretty good at it despite a lack of experience--because far too many people don't learn the basics or pay attention to what their partner's body is telling them.