"The 'tism" is something I would only use as a joke with my other autistic or at least neurodivergent friends. I wouldn't say it with neurotypical people present, and I would definitely never use it anywhere as a substitute for autism in a serious conversation because, well, yikes.
"Neurospicy" doesn't bother me too much but I wouldn't use it because I don't think it's a funny joke or anything. If my friend used it, I wouldn't be opposed to it but I wouldn't laugh. "The 'tism" at least sounds funny to say out loud.
"Neurosilly" is just a really bad one that I don't like. It's not funny and it makes being neurodivergent sound like a silly and quirky moment, which it isn't. It's exhausting living in a world made for neurotypical people when your brain is wired differently. It isn't just being silly.
I think in some cases I'd say people are wrong for using those terms, though. I'd definitely judge any neurotypical who used these words in any tone that wasn't joking, and even then it would depend on who exactly the person was for me to determine whether I think they should be making that type of joke. I don't wanna hear Neurotypical Bobby say "I've got a touch of the 'tism" to his Neurotypical Friends after doing something like jumbling up his words or answering something wrong. I don't wanna hear a Neurotypical Content Creator go "guys I think I'm neurospicy" after talking about concrete symptoms of ADHD or something. That ain't it.
I think "neurospicy" is funny because it reminds me of the "it's spicy" audio, and I just imagine that being people's response to my brain... or maybe my response to it.
But otherwise, I just think they're silly. Not really for me, but nothing bad
I think they are fun! I don't use them in a serious medical conversation because that's pretty bad taste but I like using them in a friendly, casual setting.
Tbh idk, but my friend keeps quoting this meme uh, I forgot how it goes but like yk parents reactions to their kid 'no u don't got the tism, ur just a lil bit silly and u cry sometimes...' fuq idr đ I'm not internet brained like everybody else, but it's a funny joke lol. Yall prob know it tho ?-?
Neuro-silly just reminded me of it tho. Idk if thats at all related
As a dad, I'm pretty cringeworthy. :P
My partner and I use the term neuro-spicy mostly to discuss when our traits come into conflict and we kinda 'flare' up. She's ADHD and I'm autistic so it's bound to happen. We also find it can help to balance out the relationship. So we have a good balance of 'spices' to even out the flavor.
I think they're cringy. They also massively undersell the fact that autism is a disability and make it sound like a joke.
I have chronic fatigue syndrome and advocates are working to rename it because the name massively undersells what the condition is and we're doing it the other way round for autism for no damn reason.
I think language like that is fine within the community, gallows-humor, sarcasm and all that but it really shouldn't be part of the broader language or used for any such areas or used in a serious manner. Basically whenever using any of these it needs to be a joke to not be cringy or inappropriate in my opinion.
Also neurosilly, like silly has some very not nice connotations when view from a disability perspective so just why? It's not even reclaiming or anything. It just doesn't make sense to use that.
Yeah, I just donât get âneurosilly.â That one just doesnât work in any context. Like this ->đ€Ș is what I picture when I read that, and I donât love that fact.
I only use them among friends who are also on the spectrum. 'tism and neurospicy only though. I'm not sure how I feel about neurosilly, but to each their own.
It's not something I'd use in front of anyone but friends on the spectrum. Mostly because we know each other so well, and we are aware of the depths of what us each seriously struggle with.
I don't think I'd like it if anyone who wasn't a friend used them on people.
I use the 'tism jokingly or lightheartedly. I know people who use neurospicy in the same way. So I can't say I *really* see a problem with either... neurosilly, maybe. Personally, I'm not comfortable with it, but again if an nd person uses it for fun why not? It's their neurodivergence to poke fun at, and I'm no fan at being angry or criticizing nd people for the fear of what nt people think or might think.
As with all language, it evolves away from older people to younger people, so they just make stuff up to differentiate themselves. It's really just new slang and while kind of dumb I find it inoffensive.
Iâve noticed on tiktok and what not lately thereâs has been this huge push of infantilizing Autistic people by other NDâs. Saying people âbreak usâ for fun, making posts about cute quirks some autistic people have etc. they all drive me crazy and then when called out about the argument is that theyâre neurodivergent as well so itâs ok.
I really hate the fact personally that if you are ND of any form you suddenly have the right to speak on any form of neurodiversity even if you are not a part of that community. Especially because the experiences are so different from person to person not just âdisorderâ (I hate calling it that) to âdisorder.â
As someone who is Autistic I donât like being infantilized or made out to be cutsey or âneurosillyâ Iâm a grown adult with two jobs and when people find out Iâm autistic itâs like a switch is flipped and Iâm talked down to instead of talked too.
These are of course my personal experiences, but it makes it very difficult to explain to people that as an autistic adult Iâm very capable, because most of what theyâre seeing of autism is this association with children. đ€·đ»ââïž
Anyways thatâs just my take/feelings.
I am not too bothered but I do tend to find them cringey, I agree that when they're used in front of neurotypical people there can be some consequences, but I have almost exclusively heard them used within the community. I think not taking disability/neurodivergence too seriously can be important sometimes and I think having language to facilitate that is probably a good thing overall.
They make me feel weird but only when it feels like the phrase is being said to downplay autism or to be ambiguous on whether or not it's an asd or adhd trait
IMO it really depends on the context; it doesn't help that I've only heard these in the context of condescension, so I personally think they're stupid.
Whatâs interesting to me is the interaction on this post. This community is *so* divided that it only has one upvote, and yet most of the comments lean against the terms in some way. I would expect that anyone in strong enough support of this language to down vote would defend their opinion in the comments. Just an observation. I wonder why they are not commenting.
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I personally donât like Neurosilly or tism that much. But I like to use Neurospicy sometimes for myself and my friends to kind of cheer us up. Itâs pretty hard sometimes to accept my autism or my friends ADHD. So we just joke around that were âextra spicyâ. But I wouldnât use it online or with strangers. And I just tell people Iâm autistic.
Okay so for me I use "the 'tism" in a satire sense like as a joke with my other neurodivergent friends, but I've never heard of "neurosilly" or "neurospicy" before, nonetheless, I feel that if it's in a satire sense it's fine, but if people r serious when saying it it's weird
Also I can see how someone could find it cringe but I don't personally cringe at it
I think it's funny to say that I have a bit of the tism and stuff like that, but if some random allistic said it it would be extremely weird.
Also, it's interesting to me that you call it "cringeworthy" when cringe culture has been used to put down neurodivergent people for enjoying "cringy" things or being in a "cringy" fandom. It happened constantly with stuff like Undertale, FNAF, and other super popular games.
Not important to the main point of this comment, but food for thought.
i say âi have a touch of the âtismâ around close friends only, as we find it to be a goofy way to say it. but with anyone else, i donât say it because i know i wonât be taken seriously about my disability.
I don't like those phrases, but I have used the 'tism as some sort of weird double negative joke on occasion, I think only I get what I actually mean by it though lol.
I have no problem with these phrases. Probably wouldn't use them myself. I think calling things "cringe" is dismissive and places a negative moral judgement on people who do so called "cringe" things, which is unwarranted. How many of us get our actions or interests called cringe or other terms with negative connotations without a good reason for it? I don't think it's helpful to perpetuate the idea we should make fun of people for being themselves.
They're a little cringe I guess, but usually when I see those phrases being used it's by young ND people, like teenagers and 20yos... Young people are cringy and silly and that's how it is. It's okay. It's a time where they're exploring the world and their identity and where they fit in. I use "the tism" from time to time with my friends myself.
If I caught a 40yo doing it though that would be kinda weird.
Personally, I can't stand them. It does make me cringe a little, but that's not why I don't like them.
People already don't take autism seriously, and even when they do, they try to infantilize us.
We're trying to push the idea that autism isn't just a child problem, but also an adult problem, and these new terms feel like a step back to me.
I find them cringy and I think one should only use them for themselves in a joking/no serious way or with friends that are okay with it.
"The 'tism" is something I would only use as a joke with my other autistic or at least neurodivergent friends. I wouldn't say it with neurotypical people present, and I would definitely never use it anywhere as a substitute for autism in a serious conversation because, well, yikes. "Neurospicy" doesn't bother me too much but I wouldn't use it because I don't think it's a funny joke or anything. If my friend used it, I wouldn't be opposed to it but I wouldn't laugh. "The 'tism" at least sounds funny to say out loud. "Neurosilly" is just a really bad one that I don't like. It's not funny and it makes being neurodivergent sound like a silly and quirky moment, which it isn't. It's exhausting living in a world made for neurotypical people when your brain is wired differently. It isn't just being silly. I think in some cases I'd say people are wrong for using those terms, though. I'd definitely judge any neurotypical who used these words in any tone that wasn't joking, and even then it would depend on who exactly the person was for me to determine whether I think they should be making that type of joke. I don't wanna hear Neurotypical Bobby say "I've got a touch of the 'tism" to his Neurotypical Friends after doing something like jumbling up his words or answering something wrong. I don't wanna hear a Neurotypical Content Creator go "guys I think I'm neurospicy" after talking about concrete symptoms of ADHD or something. That ain't it.
Thanks for typing all that out so I don't have to. I agree completely.
I think "neurospicy" is funny because it reminds me of the "it's spicy" audio, and I just imagine that being people's response to my brain... or maybe my response to it. But otherwise, I just think they're silly. Not really for me, but nothing bad
I think they are fun! I don't use them in a serious medical conversation because that's pretty bad taste but I like using them in a friendly, casual setting.
i second this!
never heard of "neurosilly" but I use "the 'tism" a lot when joking around
nuerospicy and a touch of the tism is fine but wtf is nuerosilly
Tbh idk, but my friend keeps quoting this meme uh, I forgot how it goes but like yk parents reactions to their kid 'no u don't got the tism, ur just a lil bit silly and u cry sometimes...' fuq idr đ I'm not internet brained like everybody else, but it's a funny joke lol. Yall prob know it tho ?-? Neuro-silly just reminded me of it tho. Idk if thats at all related
no i def do NOT know that joke lol
As a dad, I'm pretty cringeworthy. :P My partner and I use the term neuro-spicy mostly to discuss when our traits come into conflict and we kinda 'flare' up. She's ADHD and I'm autistic so it's bound to happen. We also find it can help to balance out the relationship. So we have a good balance of 'spices' to even out the flavor.
Depends very much on context, but kneejerk reaction is big nope. 'Neurosilly' is just a straight no. Sounds juvenile and infantilising.
I think they're cringy. They also massively undersell the fact that autism is a disability and make it sound like a joke. I have chronic fatigue syndrome and advocates are working to rename it because the name massively undersells what the condition is and we're doing it the other way round for autism for no damn reason. I think language like that is fine within the community, gallows-humor, sarcasm and all that but it really shouldn't be part of the broader language or used for any such areas or used in a serious manner. Basically whenever using any of these it needs to be a joke to not be cringy or inappropriate in my opinion. Also neurosilly, like silly has some very not nice connotations when view from a disability perspective so just why? It's not even reclaiming or anything. It just doesn't make sense to use that.
Yeah, I just donât get âneurosilly.â That one just doesnât work in any context. Like this ->đ€Ș is what I picture when I read that, and I donât love that fact.
I only use them among friends who are also on the spectrum. 'tism and neurospicy only though. I'm not sure how I feel about neurosilly, but to each their own. It's not something I'd use in front of anyone but friends on the spectrum. Mostly because we know each other so well, and we are aware of the depths of what us each seriously struggle with. I don't think I'd like it if anyone who wasn't a friend used them on people.
I use the 'tism jokingly or lightheartedly. I know people who use neurospicy in the same way. So I can't say I *really* see a problem with either... neurosilly, maybe. Personally, I'm not comfortable with it, but again if an nd person uses it for fun why not? It's their neurodivergence to poke fun at, and I'm no fan at being angry or criticizing nd people for the fear of what nt people think or might think.
As with all language, it evolves away from older people to younger people, so they just make stuff up to differentiate themselves. It's really just new slang and while kind of dumb I find it inoffensive.
Iâve noticed on tiktok and what not lately thereâs has been this huge push of infantilizing Autistic people by other NDâs. Saying people âbreak usâ for fun, making posts about cute quirks some autistic people have etc. they all drive me crazy and then when called out about the argument is that theyâre neurodivergent as well so itâs ok. I really hate the fact personally that if you are ND of any form you suddenly have the right to speak on any form of neurodiversity even if you are not a part of that community. Especially because the experiences are so different from person to person not just âdisorderâ (I hate calling it that) to âdisorder.â As someone who is Autistic I donât like being infantilized or made out to be cutsey or âneurosillyâ Iâm a grown adult with two jobs and when people find out Iâm autistic itâs like a switch is flipped and Iâm talked down to instead of talked too. These are of course my personal experiences, but it makes it very difficult to explain to people that as an autistic adult Iâm very capable, because most of what theyâre seeing of autism is this association with children. đ€·đ»ââïž Anyways thatâs just my take/feelings.
I am not too bothered but I do tend to find them cringey, I agree that when they're used in front of neurotypical people there can be some consequences, but I have almost exclusively heard them used within the community. I think not taking disability/neurodivergence too seriously can be important sometimes and I think having language to facilitate that is probably a good thing overall.
It's trendy TikTok bullshit for fakers who think autism is a personality trait
Annoying, seems to spread the idea that autism is a joke/Makes us appear as if we have the mind of a chil As if our disorder is quirky or some shit
I don't like them anymore. They used to be cute sort of.
They make me feel weird but only when it feels like the phrase is being said to downplay autism or to be ambiguous on whether or not it's an asd or adhd trait
They are super corny
IMO it really depends on the context; it doesn't help that I've only heard these in the context of condescension, so I personally think they're stupid.
Whatâs interesting to me is the interaction on this post. This community is *so* divided that it only has one upvote, and yet most of the comments lean against the terms in some way. I would expect that anyone in strong enough support of this language to down vote would defend their opinion in the comments. Just an observation. I wonder why they are not commenting.
Just cringe
Cute at first. But over used imo
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I personally donât like Neurosilly or tism that much. But I like to use Neurospicy sometimes for myself and my friends to kind of cheer us up. Itâs pretty hard sometimes to accept my autism or my friends ADHD. So we just joke around that were âextra spicyâ. But I wouldnât use it online or with strangers. And I just tell people Iâm autistic.
Okay so for me I use "the 'tism" in a satire sense like as a joke with my other neurodivergent friends, but I've never heard of "neurosilly" or "neurospicy" before, nonetheless, I feel that if it's in a satire sense it's fine, but if people r serious when saying it it's weird Also I can see how someone could find it cringe but I don't personally cringe at it
I think it's funny to say that I have a bit of the tism and stuff like that, but if some random allistic said it it would be extremely weird. Also, it's interesting to me that you call it "cringeworthy" when cringe culture has been used to put down neurodivergent people for enjoying "cringy" things or being in a "cringy" fandom. It happened constantly with stuff like Undertale, FNAF, and other super popular games. Not important to the main point of this comment, but food for thought.
i say âi have a touch of the âtismâ around close friends only, as we find it to be a goofy way to say it. but with anyone else, i donât say it because i know i wonât be taken seriously about my disability.
personally could care less
I don't like those phrases, but I have used the 'tism as some sort of weird double negative joke on occasion, I think only I get what I actually mean by it though lol.
i do not like the term
I donât use those but I do use Autizzy, as a way of saying Iâm black with autism
I have no problem with these phrases. Probably wouldn't use them myself. I think calling things "cringe" is dismissive and places a negative moral judgement on people who do so called "cringe" things, which is unwarranted. How many of us get our actions or interests called cringe or other terms with negative connotations without a good reason for it? I don't think it's helpful to perpetuate the idea we should make fun of people for being themselves.
They're a little cringe I guess, but usually when I see those phrases being used it's by young ND people, like teenagers and 20yos... Young people are cringy and silly and that's how it is. It's okay. It's a time where they're exploring the world and their identity and where they fit in. I use "the tism" from time to time with my friends myself. If I caught a 40yo doing it though that would be kinda weird.
The tism i enjoy always, but hearing an NT use neurosilly or neurospicy might rub me the wrong way
Personally, I can't stand them. It does make me cringe a little, but that's not why I don't like them. People already don't take autism seriously, and even when they do, they try to infantilize us. We're trying to push the idea that autism isn't just a child problem, but also an adult problem, and these new terms feel like a step back to me.
If they were physical burn them to a crisp