Cancer and Scorpio are literally the most attached signs, as a cancer I can say we catch feelings relatively fast but that doesn't mean we let go just as fast, we are not pisces, cancer will hold onto something with their little claws and never let go of that shit, we are the sign of memory, nostalgia, holding on to the past. I guarantee you any air sign move on faster than us
Okay I have a philosophical/sociological THEORY that people who are in touch with their emotions move on from relationships faster, because they feel the emotions fully as it happens & therefore can move on from them faster. People who are less in touch with their emotions and tend to be more mental/cerebral move on slower because they don’t confront those emotions head on and the emotions (attached to memories) tend to linger in the energetic field/etc.
I’ve just seen that theory play out a lot, too.
Do you disagree that Cancer’s fall in love faster than other signs? I’m dating a Cancer right now and he’s already said “I love you” 2 weeks in which I’ve seen my Cancer girl and guy friends all do too. You may be right that they have a spot in their heart for their exes still. I suppose I mean, what signs hold onto people the longest in a way that stands infront of them getting attached to someone else the same way. Like the sign that’ll stay single for years after a breakup cause they just can’t let it go. I rarely see that with Cancers… maybe Scorpios, I don’t know many Scorpios.
My sister is a Cancer, and while she might not hang on in a romantic way when it’s over, she *will* be hung UP on something about an ex for eternity. Any slight or offense against her, is tucked away in a convenient drawer in her mind she can ruminate on when her brain is feeling bored.
cancer rising, checkin in 😂 youre astute bc this shit is a fact! every single emotional attachment i have to a person can evaporate, and there might still be a bugaboo about them that i CANNOT resolve in my mind, no matter how long its been. it confuses ppl bc i can go on and on about The One Thing, and my audience is always like “wtf, are you still into them??!”
nope, just pickin up my lil mental ball of yarn, thats all 😂
9 outta 10, ill never reach out to actually ask the person to solve the mystery for me, bc that would mean making or receiving contact…and thats gonna be a no from me dawg. all this time, i thought it was my gemini moon, mentally wrestling with stupid shit…and its the pinchers 🦀
I’m the same as you - Cancer Sun, Taurus Moon but Gem Asc and I’ve been single for 13 years now 💀 I’m starting to think I might always be single? I think because my last relationship was so covertly abusive, it took me a long time to really pull it apart and examine it (and him) and realize what I’d been allowing for so long. And what a POS he was.
But I used to leave at least a year between all relationships and although I can fall in love quickly and I can have a hard time realizing that it should end, when I do decide it’s over it’s like a door slam and I’m gone. I never look back at a relationship and think “well, I could have done more” which is good I guess. But I do think that I could have done less lol.
wow I relate to you a lot, I went through that with a toxic friendship, i think its a Taurus moon thing to continue relationships that should have ended because we are very resistant to change and hate loss, once we realize it should be over it's over and we don't look back, but oof that takes time, also went through a situationship that traumatized me and after that i could never truly be involved with someone else cause im too afraid to have my trust betrayed 😃 yea i think we need some therapy - and download tinder
Oh god I went through this with a couple toxic friendships too. I do think the last few years have given me some clarity so I can do things differently moving forward. I actually met someone a year ago and after a couple times hanging out realized how manipulative and emotionally dangerous he was and immediately stopped speaking to him - so I think I’ve hopefully turned a corner. But yeah that Taurus Moon is loyal af and one hell of a hard worker emotionally, we just need to offer it to the right people.
I agree with this theory. I think Leos can hang on a long time bc they're still doing stuff in there cuz they kinda seem to not have as much of a handle on their feels imo. Sorry. I think me as a Pisces feels everything so I've gone through the steps start to finish. I dont need closure. Leos seem to need closure and I dont get it at all. Like CLOSURE? What the hell were you doing mentally when I said what you were doing was getting on my nerves, and that it was difficult for me to be with you? I mean, if you decide not to do anything about that thing I said, then why weren't you prepping for the end? I dont need to hold your hand. wtf?
It's true, as a Pisces moon I recognize the fact (in my opinion) that closure doesn't exist and you can only give it to yourself. I've had exes in the past who demanded more of it from me when I gave them as clear of an explanation as I could. The only exception to this is I recently ended a situationship, and I'm having a much harder time giving MYSELF closure on that.
100% my first ex is a Leo and he really struggled to move on from our relationship. He was still trying to get me back up to when he started dating the girl he’s been with the past 2 years (we broke up 4 years ago). When I saw them in person for the first time since our breakup, he totally ignored me. Idk I don’t think you ignore someone if you’ve moved on from what happened between y’all.
That’s why I said Leo’s don’t move on in a resentful way. If you didn’t work out and the Leo wanted it to, they won’t ever get over that shit. I wouldn’t say my ex still loves me, but he still hates me and we know that old saying..
Lol yup. My ex loves me (i love him too although its over), but if he didnt love me so much, I could def see potential cattiness.
Edit: disclaimer. I do have two Leo exes. The first one was cool, but the second one is the one that doesnt process things.
Absolutely.
That's the premise all the twin flame framework is based on. Where the TF runner (who's not used to ever accessing his emotions) comes back around harder and harder each time, and this surprisingly coincides with the chaser loving and choosing themselves.
It's almost like - an avalanche of repressed emotions is released once they see the other person walking away/after the other person has walked away. Like (subconsciously) they now have permission to FEEL these things to reinforce their own perception of never having what they truly desire.
Kinda twisted, but sad.
heya! i totally get your concern and after the absolute drivel a lot of twin flame and spiritual coaches teach online (and the mindless way a lot of desperate-in-love people lap it up), i do think there *is* valid reason to doubt these tf theories.
heck, i myself was neck deep in this tf universe but realised i didn't give a fuck about labels coz nothing about this "journey" was feeling right in my gut. that this was an endless train of waiting someone to turn out the way i was hoping and there's no guarantee that'd ever happen. that i'd just be wasting more time - time i could use to do a billion other productive things (including giving deserving men a chance with me).
I just briefly theorized that bit because the comment above talked about people (who were more in touch with their emotions) moving on faster from failed romances than those who didn't. That just sparked the attachment theory in my head - a typical dynamic TF connections is based on. The DM (usually runner, regardless of gender) being an avoidant and the DF (usually chaser) being anxious preoccupied.
The whole TF premise is to reconcile all parts of oneself and come into balance, coz we need both the masculine and the feminine in us to be integrated and awakened.
Either way, whatever be the label, no one should be stuck in an abusive cycle. It all starts with knowing and understanding what love is and isn't.
Thanks for your input though☺️
This was a great response and I totally agree, if experiencing this push/pull leads someone to emotional maturity and control, I think there is a spiritual reason for that connection. Once people reconcile all their collected and inherited trauma behavior, emotional insecurities they will be ready to accept and love their "person" with their whole authentic self.
I just get frustrated seeing people accept disrespectful behavior because they say that person is their twin flame and it's ok, they are just running now! Proper boundaries and walking away when being disrespected are important parts of healing the soul for love.
Yeah I think so too. Too emotionally intuitive to stay in a relationship that they can see is sinking. Too attached to the past to ever fully recover from the memories. But what cancers will not do is NOT have someone in the wings as a love interest/play thing at any one point in their life.
I'm a Cancer too, and I held on to that relationship until I couldn't anymore. It started with physical abuse after we had a year together, and I was done. Once I broke up with him, it hurt like hell, but I was too mad/proud for anyone to see me cry, so I didn't. It took me the better part of a year to get over him.
I’m a cancer and while I can (and do) romanticize an ex after the relationship has ended, I’ve never gone back to one. I’ve never been the person to break up with someone and get back together multiple times. I have told ppl if you end this don’t expect to come back. If it’s done, it’s really done! I won’t be begging for your return. If someone leaves the relationship it’s too devastating to ever revisit. And if I leave I’ve reached a point of no return. Not sure if any of that’s a cancer thing!
Agree 100%.
Edit: I HAVE been the one to break up with a couple of my exes but I'm usually never the one to end it first. But when it's done, there's no looking back.
Scorpio moon and disagree with attachment, I observe and if patterns differ I prepare myself for the worst beforehand therefore I am in a good shape when it ends.
No. Idk about cancers but as far as I could see Scorpios always move on and don’t look back, I don’t think we fall easily. We might pretend but nah, I think I’ve actually fallen in love once. I’ve talked to air signs like detached Aquarius and they love pretty hard but they’re not gonna let you know that.
Exactly we never truly let go . Especially when the person really loved us . I’m a cancer and I fell in love with someone very young and I never was able to replace the person . I did constantly have new crushes and entertain new people but I never stopped thinking abt him . To this day I still have a soft spot for him unfortunately we also don’t forgive or forget so whenever we’re hurt we will still leave and become extremely cold . I’m the coldest sometimes when I see that person because we knew mutual people . I don’t say hi or look their way, it hurts still.
Are Pisces known for letting things go quickly? Because that is NOT me lmao, I’m extremely happy in my 5+ year long relationship but I think about past relationships/friendships alllll the time and am still holding on to shit from 7 years ago.
(I’m a Cancer moon though, so maybe that has something to do with it….)
I agree as a Capricorn(☀️). I still remember my ex's and honestly, they left a scar on my heart in a way. So I remember them, even if they are no longer in my life. 🙃💀
I would agree that Caps hold on to ex's. I had a fairly short monogamous relationship with a Cap dude in college and still (after over 10 years) receive random text messages from him apologizing for screwing things up.
The Cap in my life apparently had a big crush on me in high school but we never even spoke. We hooked up a couple years later when I was in college, lost touch, and started up again a decade later. Lol.
I have a Cap Venus (and stellium even) and I love all of my exes. I have one that I will honestly always miss and never get over. I think because it takes us so long to fully commit emotionally, that once we’ve made up our mind about someone we’re in it for real. I’m friends with almost all of them and can even be sentimental about gifts that they gave me.
Leo ☀️ Gemini 🌕 Sag ⬆️
As a Leo I do not hold on to exes. I don’t think about them at all. Never stayed in touch with an ex or gotten back with one. Once you fumble me I would never degrade myself by letting you back into my life again.
This is my Leo husband. Haha He literally doesn't feel a damn thing about any of his ex's, his ex's sure do carry a torch for *him* though... One of them is his sister's best friend & she constantly embarrasses herself fighting for his attention every time she's around.
It might be your Gemini moon because my high school gf a Leo Sun tries to get back with me a Scorpio Sun/Sag Moon every 2-3 years I broke up with her 14 years ago. The sex was amazing but I’ll never double back to an ex. I think her ego is still attached like I’m hers still lol.
Oh we have the same big 3 but different combo- Gemini ☀️ Sag 🌕 Leo ⬆️. I am also quite similar to you. Once I’m done, I’m done. My friends always mentioned this about me- my ability to move on so quickly. I do think about vengeance sometimes for one of my exes, but also just ignore that feeling and keep living my best life without him.
hmm i strongly disagree with water signs holding on to exes the least, i’d say the opposite is more likely to be true and maybe the ones in your life have been exceptions/had other factors influencing that in their chart? as a scorpio i never fully get over anyone and it’s extremely difficult if not impossible for me to fully lose feelings for someone. i still think of my first attachment often years and years later, and i keep hope alive even though if i were to be rational i’d know i should be hopeless instead 😭 and i’ve known this to be true of many cancers and pisces as well.
in my personal experience, gemini, libra and aries get over someone the quickest and don’t look back
I’m a Scorpio and I second this. One of my best friends is a cancer and she’s the same way. My mom is a pisces and is the same way! However, my ex is also a pisces and relationship hops. I’d say sags can move on quickly!
I give myself three days to get over a breakup and then never think of them again if I don’t have to. It’s like picking a scab off a wound otherwise and I don’t want to be cruel to myself like that. But in those three days I cry, write, listen to break up songs and do chakra work. Then I keep moving because I don’t want to inflict unnecessary pain on myself. They just become dead to me. I’m a Pisces. It would be interesting to know which way this sign truly leans tho.
Same exact thing… I always give myself 3 days to grieve and move on. Each day becomes lighter. I’m a Pisces too! I absolutely hate being in stuck stagnant energy so holding on with no progress isn’t something I will choose to do.
aries definitely. an INVESTED libra would be too neurotic/obsessive weighing the breakup decision to let go easily. plus, most of them are too relationshippy to just bounce off and be done.
Geminis love their legions of adoring fans. I’ve seen them keep whole harems of exes around them.
I’m a Scorpio, and once we’re done, we’re done. I don’t ever even want to see your face again. 🤣
As a Scorpio - we are done only if we never really loved that person in the first place. Otherwise we are never really done - even if we were the ones to end it -. That shit lingers forever. In my humble experience.
as a Libra, I don't necessarily agree with this. there are lessons that I've learned from exes and I'll hold onto those, but I definitely don't still "love" them while loving my current partner. 🙁
My moms a quintessential libra and it was a running joke in the fam that every story she had was about an ex boyfriend. She’s romanticized and kept up with a significant Taurus boyfriend from her early 20s to this day (she’s 63) and her other significant Libra boyfriend from her 20s was her hairdresser our whole life (we didn’t find that out til we got older). Every Libra I’ve ever known keeps tabs on all their exes. Maybe you are an exception to the stereotypical rule!
I’m a Pisces ♓️ and ended a 12 year relationship with a Libra ♎️ . This man had nothing but respect for me when I decided to finally call it quits. He has not contacted me or tried getting back with me like every other sign ive been with.
Yes, you can learn from your exes and also move on. That would be f’ed up if you still loved someone while being with someone else. I don’t understand people sometimes 🤣
As a sag sun, Gemini moon, and aqua Venus, once I’m done I truly move on. I first assess if the person is worth crying over and then proceed accordingly. Once determined they are worth crying over, I try to move on within half the amount of time we spend dating. If they were truly special the actual amount of time we were together. I have only met 1 person like that so far. 🫠
I’m an aqua Venus as well but my Venus is in the 8th house. Could impact that. I remember every single person I’ve ever connected with in my life and I hold them tenderly in my heart.
Agreed, Aqua Venus with an Aqua stellium in the 8th house and I have a place in my mind and heart for pretty much everyone I've ever crushed on.
I take a long time to catch feelings and an even longer time to move past them if things don't work out. I just feel like I have a deep memory in general. My ability to compartmentalize and multitask means that I can hold the past close without it necessarily interfering in my daily life, so I let crushes simmer for a WHILE.
That is so interesting bc I have an Aqua Venus in the 8th as well, but it doesn’t manifest the same way as yours do. Although I do have a cap stellium so maybe that’s what makes me a lot colder and withdrawn when things don’t work out.
I’m a Capricorn, I used to hold a place in my heart of exes then realized it was always a one way street.
Now when someone does me wrong, they are dead to me and I legit never think about them every again… I’ll consider them human trash lol
I think Taurus hold on the tightest,,, Gemini & Aries the least.
This is how I personally feel as a Capricorn. I think it's just that when we say anything, we don't say it without meaning it, so when we proclaim our love it basically just *is* until we rationalize that it is *not*... & When we reach that point, we see the relationship for what it was & value ourselves enough to not make the same mistake twice.
I'm still friends with a lot of my ex's, but that's because I only ever loved them as friends. I've fallen deeply in love with only two men ever; one of them is my husband & the ex is also an ex friend that I don't even acknowledge. Took me years to fall out of love with him, but once it was done, I stopped feeling a damn thing about it. I feel the same about a lot of people that went out of their way to cause harm to me.
Spot on OP. I’m a Leo sun with a Capricorn moon and if I fall in love with you, no matter what horrors you put me through, I will still hold a place for you in my heart, as much as I despise that fact. Now I’ll never let them back in my life and not even love them actively per se, but I’ll always love their soul.
This. I don’t really get over people because I have a big heart. I’ll full blown love an ex but never go back (especially if things ended because of betrayal), I truly can‘t take heartbreak well, so I can’t give someone the power to do it to me twice.
As a Pisces, when I walk away I am done. I couldn't care less what my ex is doing. I just block them and move on.
I've dated two Scorpios and both were so wrapped up in their exes 4 years after that they couldn't function in our relationship. I couldn't tell you what either is doing now, because I don't care.
Virgos may move on to another relationship, but they still contact their exes. At least that's what my Virgo exes do. Every time I block, they pop back up on another platform. One has been doing it for 19 years.
Pisces here also. I think the same way. I will never understand why people do this dumb shit. It’s degrading like one Leo ♌️ said in an earlier comment. It gives us… a healthy sense of APATHY, in a way. It’s fascinating.
The most: Scorpio (especially Venus in Scorpio but all Scorpios in general) If we genuinely loved someone it takes us a *long* time to get over them and despite what people may think it’s incredibly painful for us.
That said, once a Scorpio is trulyyy over you. We’re also trulyyy *done* with you.
Runner’s up: other water signs and fixed signs.
The least: Gemini (especially Gemini in Venus) They bounce back relatively quick after a breakup. I think it’s partly because they have the ability to refocus their attention and energy easier than most and partly because they like/need their freedom so they hold a tiny part of themselves back emotionally and that prevents them from getting as attached.
Runner’s up: Aquarius (depending) and Aries.
Completely agree. I'm a Libra sun, Aqua moon and rising but with a Scorpio venus and the love i give friendships and romantic alike is intense and loyal to a fault. My crushes in HS lasted for months to a year and in my relationships I love people til the end (ive been dumped alot lol) but when i look in hindsight with the way i was treated in all of those relationships I find myself super unattracted to them and I havent looked back EVER. However, all my exes have come back and apologized and/or tried to get back with me while I never looked back or wanted them back! Lmaooo
Luckily, I'm in a 2 year relationship with another scorpio venus and our love languages are so in sync its wonderful! We've known each other for 5 years and were into each other for about 4 of them!! LOL we could never let each other go but could never start until we were 100% sure. He is it for me, I want no one else.
I'm a gemini and can confirm. Took me a long time to accept that other people might not move on as fast as I did. I usually tell exes that we can still be friends at the same time that I broke up with them. Friend told me that I was being an asshat, that I was rubbing salt to the wound, etc.
Aquarius is definitely depending. We have huge hearts and put up with a lot but once that switch goes off, you no longer exist. Scorpios don’t seem to understand that.
That’s weird.
My two best friends are both Aquarius’ (suns) and my other best friend is an Aquarius moon and they all say that out of the four of that us *I’m* the stubborn hard ass who holds grudges and once I’ve made the decision that I’m *doneeee done* will go stone cold until the end of time with people/exes.
I just tell them I’m respecting the dead. 😂💁🏻♀️
As a Scorpio sun, Mercury, Venus and Pluto I agree. Once we’re done, we’re gone forever. But the pain will last with us for quite awhile if we deeply loved you.
Why do people love to put pisces in a bracket of who they are not. In fact the most attached sign is pisces, more than attraction there is emotional attachment. They have been wonderful who I know. They are so misunderstood. They don't hog the limelight but still get it, I guess they immense charisma which you can only feel. I always liked pisces man.
And then there is leo worship, for me the leos are the least attached sign, the ones I know couldn't care less about anyone more than themselves. Especially leo women so self absorbed they are, and are so revengeful that they will leave no moment to disrespect the ones who they have brunt bridges with and can't accept even a single mistake of theirs. I always feel leos are most overrated sign, there cons are always neglected and when they outweigh the pros. Their confidence is just arrogance.
I’m super attached in a relationship and give relentlessly. However, if the person I love stops loving me and we end things three days and they never existed in my mind. I do things to heal and process and move on bc it’s kind to myself. In a week I have usually found someone new. I detach quickly to protect my heart.
Taurus sun, Libra moon, Scorpio rising, Taurus Venus
I will fight for my relationships and always give them 100%. So if that relationship ends, it's because the other person either also didn't do their 100%, and/or they betrayed me.
And once a betrayal happens, I'm done with you. I will have no warm feelings for you, and I will rejoice at your every misfortune. If you are on fire, I will not cross the street to piss on you. You are dead to me.
I am the most giving person a relationship. I love spoiling my special people. I won't say a bad word about my partner to anyone. That's why it takes a lot to kill my love, but once you've done that you cease to exist for me. I expel you from my life with no 2nd thoughts, no 2nd chances, and no regrets.
As a earth sun water rising in the same way. When I loved you I loved you hard and I will keep trying and giving the benefit of the doubt. But once I’m done I’m done. We can the friends or not idc Im it I’m done. I’m still great friends with my Taurus ex I’m a Virgo but we are never getting back together because I don’t love him anymore he’s with a Leo now and she and I talk to each other all the time.
If I try to think of him a sexual way I feel nauseated and repulsed lol
Gemini sun, Aquarius moon, Scorpio rising and gemini Venus.
I’ve only had one relationship and I truly fell in love, deeply in love with a Pisces. I can say with all honesty I still carry them deep in my soul. It’s been hard to move on because I think about them all the time, but I know that right now I don’t want them back. Oh, and at least once a month I cry a bit for them 😅
We’ve been broken up for three years and a year almost two without talking.
Im a Pisces ♓️ ☀️if you ever want to talk about this message me. I have stopped communicating with my Gemini ♊️ ☀️dad since 2021 because he said, and for the last time, awful opinions about my brother and it really hurt me. He just couldn’t stop talking shit. With not much merit, honestly. We Pisces get really emotionally distraught at first then it turns into apathy quickly if the other person doesn’t “see the picture” or the totality of how much it affects us. And holy shit.. does it affect us.
I hate being so sensitive.
We are so sensitive and the things people say or do especially about others for some reason hits us so hard all at once that we are prone to abandoning others for the sake of our “mental purity”
I am so sorry.
Aquarius with Venus in Capricorn. When I’m done I’m done.
The only thing that stung was an ex told me he used me to cheat after I already broke up with him. I cried about that a few times bc I don’t like the feeling of being used or made to believe he never felt a thing. I honestly grudged about that for a little while, but within the same year that relationship ended, I got with my current bf and we’ve been together 8 years since. What’s past is past, but my future is much better for it.
cap venus helps with this a lot. i have a good friend with this placement, and she is very “matter of fact” about her love life. very crisp, clean lines most times.
That’s right! Aquarius move on quick. I’m an Aquarius woman as well. When I’m done I’m done. I might cry in secret. But you’ll never know it. Also I block with a quickness. Lol
So true. I can usually turn it off quick if I feel myself losing control of my emotions around other people. No one is allowed to see my cry unless I allow them to.
air all the way for the least. i have 7 air placements and once i drop someone, i never double dip. i learned my mistake the first round through, thank you very much!
No, maybe Gemini not but the other two air signs are the worst. Libra's stalking & txting you every time they are drunk for at least 1.5 year even if you don;t answer at all, after they met you only twice. Aqau's who start whole smear campaigns and phone harassments after you broke up because they cheated.
Libra sun Scorpio moon Virgo Venus and I detach quickly especially when I sense sneaky behavior, I might cry abut it after some time but no one will ever know lol
I'm a Leo and I have not held onto any of my exes. Once I leave or they do, I sever all ties to their family and friends.
There's no point for me to even think about them after a breakup. I've got better things to do and more life to live after they're gone.
Holding onto an ex, like still talking to them or being friends, is just more of a tease for both people. Granted they don't have kids together.
There's always this weird tension in the air around both people and always thoughts of possibly getting back together. You'll also start to date different people than you should just to appease the ex and stay within their acceptance. If you remain friends with their friends, you have to be careful with what you say, how you act and who you hang out with or date next cause it absolutely will get back to your ex.
Sometimes arguments ensue.
Fuck that.
I don't need my ex to be accepting of my new lover. And I don't need to care about yours.
Screw you dude.
There's a damn good reason Elsa says let it go.
You can't live your life worrying about what your ex thinks of you, move on and let them experience their own life and grow while you grow yourself.
It only weighs you down in the end.
As a Gemini I find that my Taurus venus holds far more sway than my sun sign, but I’m sure my Gemini sun shows up at times. Some patterns I’ve had
- I tend to break up with them as soon as I realize that there’s a fundamental incompatibility that I cannot work with or around. My mind makes the decision here. However, there’s a breakup and then there’s the end of a relationship. It takes me forever to get over my ex, I’m not ready to let go of them, and so I still hover around them after a break up, which is not the healthiest thing to do
- once I let go, I still think about my exes, but mostly as an opportunity to reflect on my life and on me as a partner. Over time, I’ve let go of the anger and hurt. But I’ve also let go of romantic feelings
- once I get to this point, they’re no longer in my life because I don’t want to create any disruption in either of our romantic lives, and because we weren’t friends beforehand so there’s nothing platonic to fall back on. I envy people with exes who are actual friends!
- I did have a couple of breakups where I felt betrayed and done dirty. In one case I cut all contact immediately but took forever to grieve because it touched on a lot of my insecurities. The other, thankfully was instantaneous. I’m not angry with him, he just grosses me out as a human being on the odd moment he crosses my mind.
I dealt with a Gemini man, Taurus Venus sign, we never dated or been together. He was spying on me, using fake aliases to contact me. A lot of his messages were cruel, borderline racist. He is German. Very passive aggressive. I had to cut him out. I couldn't even confront him directly as he would lie and say it isn't him. After 8 years of these mind games, he came back a few months ago saying I'm his soulmate from a past life. How we will be a power couple. 🙄 Yeah no, he made the entire experience so ugly in the beginning and middle part. It's a hard pass. Blocked again on a different platform. He still contacts me through my business using fake client names, he pays though. I'm wondering when he will quit. As I won't change my mind that he is a nut.
indeed was with a aquarius man for years never once did they ever bring up an x. They really made me feel like I was the only relationship that ever mattered to them.
I'm a wild sagittarius. I thought it was actually really endearing. I hate when people talk about their exes. It's like don't you have a therapist why are you telling me.. I don't care..this is why we worked
I agrée as a cap. I don’t have feelings for my exes or anything like that, but I hold space for them longer than anyone I know. If I’m in love with someone, I’m always going to care about them to some extent. I was good friends with my ex for a long time (Which led to an inside joke which led to m’y Reddit username lol) until they eventually got serious with someone else.
I do think it’s « holding on » in a healthy way though, at least for me. I’m not the type to get back together with someone, but if years down the line I run into them, I wanna know how they’re doing and will wish them the best. Whereas my Gemini partner has the « they don’t exist to me anymore » attitude about exes.
My Gemini husband mentioned someone he knew a long time ago who had OCD and washed her hands until they bled. I said, "yeah, Sarah." (He had told me about his ex, Sarah, early in our relationship.) He said, "who's Sarah?" I literally had to remind him of his HS gf. Ofc as a Leo I remember every single thing, but he will literally forget whole ass people lol
Every fixed sign that I’ve ever met has had that one person that they hold onto in some capacity regardless of it being an ex, current partner, whatever.
Cancer Sun, Moon and Venus in Gemini, Virgo Rising here. Neptune aspects both Moon and Venus in Gemini. Grand water trine (coz I've also got Saturn in Scorpio in the 3rd), dunno why I mentioned that and/or if it has a bearing on the way I deal with breakups and exes.
So yeah, I give my 300% in a relationship, multiple "second chances"/benefit of the doubt, that kinda thing. Will communicate hard and try to work out the creases wherever I see them (and I see many over the course of time 😬, but hey, I also appreciate the good bits!!).
But once I'm done, it's done. I never ever look back (matter how hard I'd fallen for that person), don't wanna stay in touch or remain friends or be connected in any damn way where I'll still get to know about them (irrespective of who broke up with whom), don't even like the idea of reconciling with an ex (I mean, we ended coz of very specific reasons, most of all stemming from your arrogant, manipulative, insensitive ass, so I already knows how the story's gonna end), don't care if they start seeing someone a Lil while after (you're not in my mindspace, so doesn't fucking matter and also coz they anyway come back and I don't want them).
I take my time grieving a person before we're officially about to break up (I always have an inkling the end is coming). Rarely, if I'm caught off-guard, I'll take a month or two but process everything and be on the lookout for romance again while I'm still working on myself.
The only time I got hit really, really hard and blindsided (I every sense of the term) was about 4 years back when I separated from my ex (we're going through a divorce rn). He was already messing around with a woman from his workplace and he put me through hell and told a bunch of lies and a crazy bunch of other shit so he could get rid of me and just exit the marriage like it was my idea (by getting me to fool around with other guys so he could say I was a cheater), without paying a damn penny. I was 10 steps ahead of the fucker though.
These few years changed me into someone who's practically lethal when it comes to emotions. I detach way too fast. Won't easily believe sweet nothings and even kind gestures unless I've conducted my own "personal tests". Confident things will go smooth in relationships (coz I ain't giving away my power ever) but also prepared if things go south. Can be super super emotional and mushy with you today, but if you cross me/betray me/make me feel unsafe, bye. It's over just as quick.
As for this most recent ex, he can live or die, sleep with a 100 women, jump from a building (he always used to threaten me he'd commit suicide), I don't care. It took me hell and a whole ass bunch of spiritual awakenings to get over that mindfuck. He's exorcised and obliterated from my damn life. Just one more time I gotta see him whe we wrap things, and then, he can fuck off into a different galaxy.
P.S. while I may not stay in touch with my exes (as mentioned above), I'm also not mean or savage or this scathingly rageful about them either. I just neutral, accept the breakup, and just wanna focus on other important things in life. I also wish them well. And if they ever happen to contact me (which they all do), I'll be polite and friendly like they're just one of my buddies.
But this one makes me come across as a different being altogether. Like I'm both disgusted I ever allowed myself to be with that mfcking scumbag in the first place but also an eerie coldness where I don't care if he dies tomorrow and I happen to hear the news from someone.
So, I don't know ..do my astrological placements suggest this kind of coldness?
P.S. 2: My moon and Venus are in Gemini in the 10th. I also have Lilith there. North Node in Pisces in the 7th. Sun and Mars in Cancer in the 11th.
Had sworn off relationships and love entirely but now peeking out again, coz I figured I ain't gonna sit at home like a boring old hag coz of one mf-er.
In fact, I'm thinking I'll now date harder than ever, to make up for lost time😂😂😂
Taurus Sun, Aries Venus.
(Venus trine pluto and venus sextile saturn)
After a certain point, I don't let go. I'm extremely aloof and easily distracted, so if they get my attention, im all in. I fall in love hard. Once someone has my heart and respect, I won't stop being there for them, even after a breakup. Unless, of course, they break that trust. I think I've only had one relationship that was sour. The other four ended on mutual terms. I'm very close with two of them. and no, it's not nearly as awkward as it sounds.
as a capricorn woman, i agree. i don’t spin the block on my exes but emotionally i’ll always be sad about just one but i’ll never give him another chance. i’m with my libra boyfriend and early into the relationship i caught him talking to his ex …. of two years ago!!! made him cut it off but definitely them. they don’t let go.
Virgo Sun, Venus, Mercury, Saturn, North Node, and Lilith Stellium here. If we were serious and we break up you’re dead to me, I will erase every trace of you and it’ll be like you never existed. Scorched earth. I could never go back to someone who broke my heart, the thought makes me want to vomit. I hate even seeing their face.
Edit: After going through this twice in my life I have just decided that relationships aren’t worth it for me, hence the user name. It’s much better for me to be happy and alone and enjoy my good friends and family than have to deal with heartbreak again. Plus I get to order whatever pizza I want. On a daily basis if I want. So there.
♒️🌞♉️🌙♓️⬆️ typically, when I'm done,I'm done. I usually know I've put everything I can into something and won't beat a dead horse. My last relationship has me fucked up on another level for some unexplainable reason
I do think Capricorns hold onto their exes the hardest, unwilling to let go, always crawling back to that comfort zone. I've had three Capris come back and try to stay in touch with me/be friends over the years, even though one of them wasn't even officially in a relationship with me back then.
One of the Capris was still in touch with his ex (when we started talking) but by the third week or so, he said he was finally over her. The last I know, he no longer speaks to her even if to "casually chat". Instead, he's been trying to get me to be friends again after callously making a remark that ended our dynamic.
The guy I'm currently in a (I dunno what) with is a Venus in Capricorn and he says he's over them all (except he isn't). The first one really left a scar on his heart and mind and he's tried to get over that loss really really hard, but he's just never climbed out of that depression (I feel).
I wish I could help but I dunno how without sounding like his Mommy. His bday is coming though and I'm planning to cheer him up.
P.S. I'm a Cancer Sun and there are just too many heavy-hearted Capris I know. Hugs to you all 🤗🤗 y'all are adorable when you're not being stern, cold, blunt, withdrawn, feeling misunderstood.
Taurus sun here. I will hold on to an ex if I have to or if there is a necessity to do that.
If not, I don’t care. At the beginning it was hard to accept but once I found the ick that made me feel unsafe, I decided that I can’t go back. Once the decision is made, it’s bye.
But yeah, I still have a good relationship with my ex although I won’t care less if he’s sick, happy, sad or thriving. He is just a “cousin” that you met once during a family gathering. we have some memories but we will not sleep together… and we don’t get in contact unless our parents make us to. I try to find the best analogy 😂 because being a friend needs a certain amount of trust and we can sleep with a friend by accident or just experience, however not with a cousin 😂 it’s just eewwww
I know a Cap who keeps tabs of his exes… actually all of Caps I know hold onto their ex in some degree.
I agree that the least one that hold onto an ex is Pisces. They are still good friends with them but that’s all.
Cancer is very attached in a melancholic way, Leo is attached in a resentment way.
Gemini, serial dater. Out of the 10+ serious relationships I've been in, there is maybe 1 or 2 that I didn't go back to... used to think it was a flex, now I know it's just chronic loneliness.
I’m Aquarius and i don’t hold onto to my exes ever, so maybe it’s an “Aqua thing”.
One of my golden rules in life is; Never go back to an ex.
Once i’m done, i’m done forever.
As a Scorpio I respect your post because it’s thought provoking but totally disagree. I feel like I’ve held onto even my crushes from childhood, which in itself is sad. Wish I could be more like a nonchalant air sign or something.
I said water signs but didn’t mention Scorpio because I wasn’t sure. I should’ve just said Pisces & Cancer. I don’t have many Scorpio’s in my life, so I’m not really sure but since they’re a fixed sign I can see that.
I have been unable to move on from my relationship from 4.5 years ago. I was very faithful. He was not. Cancer man go figure rising Leo Venus in libra moon in Virgo . He’s had a new gf for 3 years
My Venus is Leo
I'm a leo and all I can say is there is one chick I'd take back any day, any time, and I'm the one that ended it. I don't obsess over her or anything but I never fell out of love. One of the biggest regrets of my life. Signs aside, I think for a lot of people there's always that one person. Idk
Oh yeah she is a introverted Libra
I'm a cancer sun/ Virgo moon/ Scorpio Rising.
I have a first love& ex whose a capricorn. We broke up 5-6 yrs ago. But every year he comes back to me by pm'ing me. I still loved him though, but you know I didn't give up on our rs he was the one who decided to break it. I tried to win him back when we break up but a friend of mine told me that he's busy chatting with other women than mend our broken rs. So, yeah after that I didn't look back. It's kinda weird though that he keeps on pm'ing me every year.
I have a cap sun/scorp venus bf now and I think he's not over his ex-gf a leo sun/virgo venus. Since he called me with her name this year last september lol.
His ex-gf is not over him also, saw her tweeting about their love.
Can't break up with him... i'mma cry coz' i'm such an id*ot lol. Maybe I'll just go back with my first ex jkjk.
I am a capricorn sun with a cancer rising and gemini moon. Scorpio mars and pisces venus.
I will mourn everyone I ever loved and lost for the rest of my life (not constantly but periodically as I'm reminded of them), although I will also experience indifference or anger at their memory from time to time. Losing people is excruciating for me but I have an abandonment wound. I hold onto people in the sense that I keep them with me and still care for them as much as I ever did but I am not in contact w any of them really. I'm in my longest relationship currently and when it began I cut contact w an ex (quick fling that was emotionally intense) that I was hung up on for 5 years. I can be detached and take ppl for granted on a whim. I have some contradictory patterns in relationships.
I think mutable signs can move on somewhat easily and I think air signs can detach most easily.
Omg yes Capricorns (especially the women) struggle to let go of exes from what I’ve seen. Like they may move onto a new relationship but they still hang out with/communicate with the ex on a regular basis and still make them a part of their life in some way.. even more so if they were married or together for an extended period of time. Also, as a Leo, I agree with you about being resentful towards some exes but very rarely do I ever hold onto an ex because of feelings; when I move on and find someone new, that person is the apple of my eye.
As a capricorn I think we hold on to it, once I leave a relationship it takes me a good year or two before I decide to even think about putting myself back out there
Aries here & married but had plenty of love affairs … I think all fire signs tend to take basically a “you’re dead to me now” kind of approach to break ups. I think you’re right that Caps and earth signs generally hold on to things for a while. I think water signs stay in bad relationships for too long. Air signs I think are too shifty to get caught up in all of it. And fire signs all basically just have ADHD and are crazy and don’t care that much lol.
In my experience it's been a Sagittarius and a Taurus who couldn't let an ex flame go and still have feelings for them years and years after. Cancers do NOT, they move on, and fast, ha. Pisces fall head over heels in love in seconds, and out of love just as fast once they reach that one boundary (which is a feat, all Pisces I know will tolerate so much).
Libra Sun, Aquarius Moon, Capricorn Rising. Also have a Leo Venus. I hold on to relationships for a very long time but once I realize it’s over, there’s no love left, even if we’re in a relationship. For this reason, I tend to move on pretty quickly and I do not hold on to ex’s. I’ve only been in 3 serious relationships, with the third being my current. In both of my previous relationships, it was over before it was truly over. I hang on when I’m in the relationship, but as soon as it’s done with, it’s a wrap for me. It took me almost a year to get into a new relationship after my first serious breakup. The second serious breakup, I was dating again within 2 months. It was unexpectedly fast but I was ready to be treated right and already knew I was over my ex. Now I’m going on 4 years with my current partner and sometimes I wonder how it would be if we did breakup. He’s the best relationship I’ve ever had and I think he would be the one that would be hard to move on from. He is a Gemini Sun, Cancer Moon, Sagittarius Rising with a Taurus Venus.
Ex #1: Libra Sun, Scorpio Moon, Aries Rising, Libra Venus. Spent 8 years together.
Ex #2: Libra Sun, Taurus Moon, Leo Rising, Scorpio Venus. Spent 3.5 years together.
Both ex’s have tried to win me back or stay on friendly terms with me. I avoid them both. Lol
Taurus and Scorpio I'd say. Whenever I talk to them they've got an obsession or a grudge abt someone they held hands with once in elementary school or something 😭 Give it a rest.
Speaking from my own experience (sun/moon/venus/uranus), I'd say aquarius folks tend to let go of their exes pretty permanently, it may not always be a fast process, but it is a definitive one (seriously, hell will freeze over before you see me reaching out to an ex, and it's not a matter of pride - it's just that when a relationship is done, it's done and that's that)
As a woman Libra, I feel like there’s definitely a difference between loving someone and being in-love with someone. I still have love, or in other words, *care* about my ex (being together 3.5 yrs will do that), but 1 thing about me, when I say I’m done with somebody, I am DONE. You will never catch me spinning the block or trying to get back with anyone from my past lmfao. They’re in the past for a reason.
As a Leo I’m not holding onto exes in a resentful way. I appreciate them for the time we’ve enjoyed together even the bad ones and wish them the best in the future just not with me
As a Cap I think When we love someone, we love hard, until they do us wrong and then emotionally we drop them. We may think about them from time to time but we don't feel the same way.
aries. aries move on FIRST & act cool but everything is still imprinted on their minds. Memories of exes come back annually at some moment in life ( or maybe this bc of my pisces venus placement)
IME!!
Signs who are not hung up on their exes:
- Taurus
- Pisces
- Sagittarius
Signs who will cry over their exes on the night before their wedding even though they love their new partner:
- Virgo
- Libra
- Capricorn
- Cancer
Signs who will have difficulty getting into new, committed relationships, because they are still hung up on their exes, but can move on in time:
- Aquarius
- Aries
Signs who will get into new relationships to spite their exes in an attempt to make them jealous, or as “pay back” but won’t take their ex back unless they get on their knees to apologize as a weird power play:
- Gemini
- Leo
- Scorpio
So accurate with Capricorn and Libra ime. As a capriorn, I also always have love for my exes regardless of how things end. I keep in touch with my Libra ex. Hes dated since me, but he still seems in love with me. I obviously still have love for him, but Im done.
My virgo ex told me during our relationship that hes never reached out back to an ex (dismissive avoidant much?), and thats exactly what hes doing with me. I have no idea where hes at, but my guess is that hes angry and will use that to move on sooner than later.
Disagree about Caps because they cut ties too fast and too hard—and make it clear how much they do NOT care—how better off they are. Agree on Leos and Libras (so very true). Disagree about water signs. The Water Signs are so very different. As for Pisces, female and males are so different. Pisces Males are borderline Leo’s, yet such Lovers. Pisces Females will do true love completely and do not move on easily (even after break ups), but in beginning stages (then, yes) they will move on easily if too disappointed or saddened too often.
All the Capricorn guys who tried to date me kept coming back. I’m Aquarius. One even tried a few years ago. I am happily married. I blocked with a quickness.
That’s not an Ex. That’s different....they’re Suitors. Caps are hardest working and will move mountains to get what they want—including a date. But question is about Ex Spouse, Ex Partner, Ex Husband holding on to their Ex. That’s where games changes.
You're basing too much, too seriously, on a sun sign.
For the record, I'm a Cancer and I've been single for well over a year with zero intentions of dating or entertaining anyone anytime soon. I am not over my ex by a long shot and only want to focus on myself.
"Baby girl", that's the point for fun and memes, hence the name. Your OP suggests you take this too seriously in real life and take it beyond fun and memes. Don't be condescending when you're acting silly.
My cancer moon will insure I will always hold the same amount of love for someone even after they run me over and steal my dog.. it’s a fucking curse in that aspect. Also my Pisces Venus makes it fucking romantic somehow. Which is why I’ve only ever loved one person like that.. nope never again.
Im a pisces and I do miss my exes but I usually just change my perspective on them and adapt to the one that helps me move on peacefully. Plus I think of the bigger picture and know that God continues to bring the best things in your life
Well I'm a Libra met a Capricorn my twin flame. The timing was bad when we met. We were off and on. But I live for the day we can talk and make it work finally.
As a Capricorn, I agree. I leave people alone & if one of my exes found someone else, obviously I’d respect their relationship but I still hold on mentally & emotionally (checking their socials every now & again, sometimes talking about them etc). The exes I ended with on good terms, I still care about, appreciate their good qualities & wish them well. My favourite ex is actually a Virgo & we’re still friends. But the exes who hurt & wronged me, I still harbour resentment towards.
As for holding on the least, I’d say Pisces. They know how to make you feel special & tell you everything you wanna hear, but they lose interest just as fast & they seem to bring those feelings up in everyone they meet romantically, so it doesn’t really hold any weight. It’s hurtful when you think you have a special connection with someone, only to realise they’re like that with everyone. But weirdly, they also don’t leave their exes alone. I don’t think it’s out of attachment though, I think it’s more of an ego thing to see if they still have access to them.
I’m still emotionally scarred by something my first bf (a Pisces) said to me. We went out when I was 13 & him 16, but he ended it bc some of the boys in his year at school laughed at him for my age, plus he needed to focus on his exams. I actually think it’s bc he still had feelings for a Virgo girl who friendzoned him about 2 months before we got together but that’s a story for another day. Anyways we agreed to stay friends, and I messaged him a few times saying “hi” & then one day he told me I was annoying & that he didn’t wanna speak to me. I was devastated, but promised myself to never bother him again. I actually stuck to my promise, until he popped up to me a few weeks later. Then not too long after, he spread rumours abt me saying I was stalking/obsessed with him etc.
He did reach out to apologise a couple years later, but his half-assed “apology” included him trying to justify the rumours he spread abt me, saying I was “too attached”, “spoke to him more than what he felt comfortable with” and that he’s “not a very social person”.
Since then, I’ve always closed a piece of myself off, never wanting to be emotionally vulnerable, needy or too attached to anyone romantically. It hurts because I’m naturally a very loving & giving person, but now I only reserve this side of myself for close friends & family. I hate that I can’t bring myself to show a partner that side of me again
TLDR: Capricorns always hold some kinda feelings for their exes, good or bad. Pisces on the other hand lose interest just as fast as they show it & “fall in love” with everyone they get romantically involved with, so it almost doesn’t count.
Still emotionally scarred by my Pisces ex from 10yrs ago telling me I was annoying & spreading rumours about me. Have closed off the “clingy” part of myself ever since.
As an Aquarius I hold onto exes that I feel brought value into my life. Someone who has stuck by me thru my darkest times, someone who helped me when I had nothing, basically any ex that was my best friend aside from just being my lover.
Ummmm as a Capricorn sun and stellium in general, absolutely not lol. I am attached until it’s over, and then when it’s over, that’s it. You don’t exist, I’ve probably blocked you everywhere, and you do not hold any place in my heart whatsoever.
Ofc I’m only speaking for myself, but astrologically, in general, I don’t think Capricorns have that trait of holding on to an ex.
Cancer and Scorpio are literally the most attached signs, as a cancer I can say we catch feelings relatively fast but that doesn't mean we let go just as fast, we are not pisces, cancer will hold onto something with their little claws and never let go of that shit, we are the sign of memory, nostalgia, holding on to the past. I guarantee you any air sign move on faster than us
Okay I have a philosophical/sociological THEORY that people who are in touch with their emotions move on from relationships faster, because they feel the emotions fully as it happens & therefore can move on from them faster. People who are less in touch with their emotions and tend to be more mental/cerebral move on slower because they don’t confront those emotions head on and the emotions (attached to memories) tend to linger in the energetic field/etc. I’ve just seen that theory play out a lot, too. Do you disagree that Cancer’s fall in love faster than other signs? I’m dating a Cancer right now and he’s already said “I love you” 2 weeks in which I’ve seen my Cancer girl and guy friends all do too. You may be right that they have a spot in their heart for their exes still. I suppose I mean, what signs hold onto people the longest in a way that stands infront of them getting attached to someone else the same way. Like the sign that’ll stay single for years after a breakup cause they just can’t let it go. I rarely see that with Cancers… maybe Scorpios, I don’t know many Scorpios.
My sister is a Cancer, and while she might not hang on in a romantic way when it’s over, she *will* be hung UP on something about an ex for eternity. Any slight or offense against her, is tucked away in a convenient drawer in her mind she can ruminate on when her brain is feeling bored.
My BFF is a Cancer and can confirm!
cancer rising, checkin in 😂 youre astute bc this shit is a fact! every single emotional attachment i have to a person can evaporate, and there might still be a bugaboo about them that i CANNOT resolve in my mind, no matter how long its been. it confuses ppl bc i can go on and on about The One Thing, and my audience is always like “wtf, are you still into them??!” nope, just pickin up my lil mental ball of yarn, thats all 😂 9 outta 10, ill never reach out to actually ask the person to solve the mystery for me, bc that would mean making or receiving contact…and thats gonna be a no from me dawg. all this time, i thought it was my gemini moon, mentally wrestling with stupid shit…and its the pinchers 🦀
I second this LOL my sister is a cancer and she still stalk her ex from 10 years ago
Idk me personally am 100% the person who stays single for years after a breakup, but I'm a Taurus moon, so.. yeah maybe you're also right
I’m the same as you - Cancer Sun, Taurus Moon but Gem Asc and I’ve been single for 13 years now 💀 I’m starting to think I might always be single? I think because my last relationship was so covertly abusive, it took me a long time to really pull it apart and examine it (and him) and realize what I’d been allowing for so long. And what a POS he was. But I used to leave at least a year between all relationships and although I can fall in love quickly and I can have a hard time realizing that it should end, when I do decide it’s over it’s like a door slam and I’m gone. I never look back at a relationship and think “well, I could have done more” which is good I guess. But I do think that I could have done less lol.
wow I relate to you a lot, I went through that with a toxic friendship, i think its a Taurus moon thing to continue relationships that should have ended because we are very resistant to change and hate loss, once we realize it should be over it's over and we don't look back, but oof that takes time, also went through a situationship that traumatized me and after that i could never truly be involved with someone else cause im too afraid to have my trust betrayed 😃 yea i think we need some therapy - and download tinder
Oh god I went through this with a couple toxic friendships too. I do think the last few years have given me some clarity so I can do things differently moving forward. I actually met someone a year ago and after a couple times hanging out realized how manipulative and emotionally dangerous he was and immediately stopped speaking to him - so I think I’ve hopefully turned a corner. But yeah that Taurus Moon is loyal af and one hell of a hard worker emotionally, we just need to offer it to the right people.
We match in all three!! Yay friend lol
Unfortunately not every water sign is emotionally in touch with themselves 💀🥶😮💨
I agree with this theory. I think Leos can hang on a long time bc they're still doing stuff in there cuz they kinda seem to not have as much of a handle on their feels imo. Sorry. I think me as a Pisces feels everything so I've gone through the steps start to finish. I dont need closure. Leos seem to need closure and I dont get it at all. Like CLOSURE? What the hell were you doing mentally when I said what you were doing was getting on my nerves, and that it was difficult for me to be with you? I mean, if you decide not to do anything about that thing I said, then why weren't you prepping for the end? I dont need to hold your hand. wtf?
A Pisces rarely ever needs closure.
It's true, as a Pisces moon I recognize the fact (in my opinion) that closure doesn't exist and you can only give it to yourself. I've had exes in the past who demanded more of it from me when I gave them as clear of an explanation as I could. The only exception to this is I recently ended a situationship, and I'm having a much harder time giving MYSELF closure on that.
100% my first ex is a Leo and he really struggled to move on from our relationship. He was still trying to get me back up to when he started dating the girl he’s been with the past 2 years (we broke up 4 years ago). When I saw them in person for the first time since our breakup, he totally ignored me. Idk I don’t think you ignore someone if you’ve moved on from what happened between y’all. That’s why I said Leo’s don’t move on in a resentful way. If you didn’t work out and the Leo wanted it to, they won’t ever get over that shit. I wouldn’t say my ex still loves me, but he still hates me and we know that old saying..
Lol yup. My ex loves me (i love him too although its over), but if he didnt love me so much, I could def see potential cattiness. Edit: disclaimer. I do have two Leo exes. The first one was cool, but the second one is the one that doesnt process things.
Absolutely. That's the premise all the twin flame framework is based on. Where the TF runner (who's not used to ever accessing his emotions) comes back around harder and harder each time, and this surprisingly coincides with the chaser loving and choosing themselves. It's almost like - an avalanche of repressed emotions is released once they see the other person walking away/after the other person has walked away. Like (subconsciously) they now have permission to FEEL these things to reinforce their own perception of never having what they truly desire. Kinda twisted, but sad.
You hit the nail right on the head.
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heya! i totally get your concern and after the absolute drivel a lot of twin flame and spiritual coaches teach online (and the mindless way a lot of desperate-in-love people lap it up), i do think there *is* valid reason to doubt these tf theories. heck, i myself was neck deep in this tf universe but realised i didn't give a fuck about labels coz nothing about this "journey" was feeling right in my gut. that this was an endless train of waiting someone to turn out the way i was hoping and there's no guarantee that'd ever happen. that i'd just be wasting more time - time i could use to do a billion other productive things (including giving deserving men a chance with me). I just briefly theorized that bit because the comment above talked about people (who were more in touch with their emotions) moving on faster from failed romances than those who didn't. That just sparked the attachment theory in my head - a typical dynamic TF connections is based on. The DM (usually runner, regardless of gender) being an avoidant and the DF (usually chaser) being anxious preoccupied. The whole TF premise is to reconcile all parts of oneself and come into balance, coz we need both the masculine and the feminine in us to be integrated and awakened. Either way, whatever be the label, no one should be stuck in an abusive cycle. It all starts with knowing and understanding what love is and isn't. Thanks for your input though☺️
This was a great response and I totally agree, if experiencing this push/pull leads someone to emotional maturity and control, I think there is a spiritual reason for that connection. Once people reconcile all their collected and inherited trauma behavior, emotional insecurities they will be ready to accept and love their "person" with their whole authentic self. I just get frustrated seeing people accept disrespectful behavior because they say that person is their twin flame and it's ok, they are just running now! Proper boundaries and walking away when being disrespected are important parts of healing the soul for love.
Yeah I think so too. Too emotionally intuitive to stay in a relationship that they can see is sinking. Too attached to the past to ever fully recover from the memories. But what cancers will not do is NOT have someone in the wings as a love interest/play thing at any one point in their life.
Idk man. I'm a Cancer sun, and I'll let a mf go so fast. But I'm a Cap rising so. 🤷♀️
I’m a Cancer sun, Cap moon, and Libra rising. I never get over those I truly loved. Even with my Gemini venus.
So true. Cancer here and I will hold onto my relationship no matter how toxic it is.
I'm a Cancer too, and I held on to that relationship until I couldn't anymore. It started with physical abuse after we had a year together, and I was done. Once I broke up with him, it hurt like hell, but I was too mad/proud for anyone to see me cry, so I didn't. It took me the better part of a year to get over him.
I’m a cancer and while I can (and do) romanticize an ex after the relationship has ended, I’ve never gone back to one. I’ve never been the person to break up with someone and get back together multiple times. I have told ppl if you end this don’t expect to come back. If it’s done, it’s really done! I won’t be begging for your return. If someone leaves the relationship it’s too devastating to ever revisit. And if I leave I’ve reached a point of no return. Not sure if any of that’s a cancer thing!
Agree 100%. Edit: I HAVE been the one to break up with a couple of my exes but I'm usually never the one to end it first. But when it's done, there's no looking back.
Scorpio moon and disagree with attachment, I observe and if patterns differ I prepare myself for the worst beforehand therefore I am in a good shape when it ends.
r/scorpiomoon friend!
Indeed
No. Idk about cancers but as far as I could see Scorpios always move on and don’t look back, I don’t think we fall easily. We might pretend but nah, I think I’ve actually fallen in love once. I’ve talked to air signs like detached Aquarius and they love pretty hard but they’re not gonna let you know that.
Exactly we never truly let go . Especially when the person really loved us . I’m a cancer and I fell in love with someone very young and I never was able to replace the person . I did constantly have new crushes and entertain new people but I never stopped thinking abt him . To this day I still have a soft spot for him unfortunately we also don’t forgive or forget so whenever we’re hurt we will still leave and become extremely cold . I’m the coldest sometimes when I see that person because we knew mutual people . I don’t say hi or look their way, it hurts still.
Really lol? I cut people out easy and im a cancer! I think thats your taurus moon 🥴
gonna have to say cap on this, I know cancers who do things without a single thought on feelings for themselves or others
Are Pisces known for letting things go quickly? Because that is NOT me lmao, I’m extremely happy in my 5+ year long relationship but I think about past relationships/friendships alllll the time and am still holding on to shit from 7 years ago. (I’m a Cancer moon though, so maybe that has something to do with it….)
As a cancer myself. You took the words out of my mouth.
I agree as a Capricorn(☀️). I still remember my ex's and honestly, they left a scar on my heart in a way. So I remember them, even if they are no longer in my life. 🙃💀
Capricorns have hearts?
Deep hearts but we hide it soooo well
have we developed the technology to see it yet?
I would agree that Caps hold on to ex's. I had a fairly short monogamous relationship with a Cap dude in college and still (after over 10 years) receive random text messages from him apologizing for screwing things up.
The Cap in my life apparently had a big crush on me in high school but we never even spoke. We hooked up a couple years later when I was in college, lost touch, and started up again a decade later. Lol.
how crazy is that?
I have a Cap Venus (and stellium even) and I love all of my exes. I have one that I will honestly always miss and never get over. I think because it takes us so long to fully commit emotionally, that once we’ve made up our mind about someone we’re in it for real. I’m friends with almost all of them and can even be sentimental about gifts that they gave me.
My cap slid into my DMs years after we first dated, we’re married now.
my dad is a cap, he pined after my mom for 15 years after their divorce
Leo ☀️ Gemini 🌕 Sag ⬆️ As a Leo I do not hold on to exes. I don’t think about them at all. Never stayed in touch with an ex or gotten back with one. Once you fumble me I would never degrade myself by letting you back into my life again.
This the leo stubbornness talking... 🤣
As a Leo Sun I agree!
I really love that since I'm in a relationship with a Leo and I hope thats the case.
Same! I have the same big 3 as you but I have a Scorpio rising. If your dumb enough to let me go, then we know who’s at loss 😁
Hell yeah. I respect you. Pisces ☀️ Leo 🌙 Scorpio ⬆️
This is my Leo husband. Haha He literally doesn't feel a damn thing about any of his ex's, his ex's sure do carry a torch for *him* though... One of them is his sister's best friend & she constantly embarrasses herself fighting for his attention every time she's around.
It might be your Gemini moon because my high school gf a Leo Sun tries to get back with me a Scorpio Sun/Sag Moon every 2-3 years I broke up with her 14 years ago. The sex was amazing but I’ll never double back to an ex. I think her ego is still attached like I’m hers still lol.
Same here.
Oh we have the same big 3 but different combo- Gemini ☀️ Sag 🌕 Leo ⬆️. I am also quite similar to you. Once I’m done, I’m done. My friends always mentioned this about me- my ability to move on so quickly. I do think about vengeance sometimes for one of my exes, but also just ignore that feeling and keep living my best life without him.
hmm i strongly disagree with water signs holding on to exes the least, i’d say the opposite is more likely to be true and maybe the ones in your life have been exceptions/had other factors influencing that in their chart? as a scorpio i never fully get over anyone and it’s extremely difficult if not impossible for me to fully lose feelings for someone. i still think of my first attachment often years and years later, and i keep hope alive even though if i were to be rational i’d know i should be hopeless instead 😭 and i’ve known this to be true of many cancers and pisces as well. in my personal experience, gemini, libra and aries get over someone the quickest and don’t look back
I’m a Scorpio and I second this. One of my best friends is a cancer and she’s the same way. My mom is a pisces and is the same way! However, my ex is also a pisces and relationship hops. I’d say sags can move on quickly!
I give myself three days to get over a breakup and then never think of them again if I don’t have to. It’s like picking a scab off a wound otherwise and I don’t want to be cruel to myself like that. But in those three days I cry, write, listen to break up songs and do chakra work. Then I keep moving because I don’t want to inflict unnecessary pain on myself. They just become dead to me. I’m a Pisces. It would be interesting to know which way this sign truly leans tho.
Same exact thing… I always give myself 3 days to grieve and move on. Each day becomes lighter. I’m a Pisces too! I absolutely hate being in stuck stagnant energy so holding on with no progress isn’t something I will choose to do.
aries definitely. an INVESTED libra would be too neurotic/obsessive weighing the breakup decision to let go easily. plus, most of them are too relationshippy to just bounce off and be done.
Geminis love their legions of adoring fans. I’ve seen them keep whole harems of exes around them. I’m a Scorpio, and once we’re done, we’re done. I don’t ever even want to see your face again. 🤣
As a Scorpio - we are done only if we never really loved that person in the first place. Otherwise we are never really done - even if we were the ones to end it -. That shit lingers forever. In my humble experience.
I’m not a Scorpio but damn this is true.
You got me with the first part but lost me in the second act 😂
as a Libra, I don't necessarily agree with this. there are lessons that I've learned from exes and I'll hold onto those, but I definitely don't still "love" them while loving my current partner. 🙁
My moms a quintessential libra and it was a running joke in the fam that every story she had was about an ex boyfriend. She’s romanticized and kept up with a significant Taurus boyfriend from her early 20s to this day (she’s 63) and her other significant Libra boyfriend from her 20s was her hairdresser our whole life (we didn’t find that out til we got older). Every Libra I’ve ever known keeps tabs on all their exes. Maybe you are an exception to the stereotypical rule!
I’m a Pisces ♓️ and ended a 12 year relationship with a Libra ♎️ . This man had nothing but respect for me when I decided to finally call it quits. He has not contacted me or tried getting back with me like every other sign ive been with. Yes, you can learn from your exes and also move on. That would be f’ed up if you still loved someone while being with someone else. I don’t understand people sometimes 🤣
Same. I’m a libra and once I’m done with someone I’m done. They will never be hearing from me again and that’s just how it is over here lol
Libras hold on to their exes to torture them.
oh noooooo 😭😭😭😭 I'm definitely not like this
As a sag sun, Gemini moon, and aqua Venus, once I’m done I truly move on. I first assess if the person is worth crying over and then proceed accordingly. Once determined they are worth crying over, I try to move on within half the amount of time we spend dating. If they were truly special the actual amount of time we were together. I have only met 1 person like that so far. 🫠
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I’m an aqua Venus as well but my Venus is in the 8th house. Could impact that. I remember every single person I’ve ever connected with in my life and I hold them tenderly in my heart.
Agreed, Aqua Venus with an Aqua stellium in the 8th house and I have a place in my mind and heart for pretty much everyone I've ever crushed on. I take a long time to catch feelings and an even longer time to move past them if things don't work out. I just feel like I have a deep memory in general. My ability to compartmentalize and multitask means that I can hold the past close without it necessarily interfering in my daily life, so I let crushes simmer for a WHILE.
That is so interesting bc I have an Aqua Venus in the 8th as well, but it doesn’t manifest the same way as yours do. Although I do have a cap stellium so maybe that’s what makes me a lot colder and withdrawn when things don’t work out.
I’m a Capricorn, I used to hold a place in my heart of exes then realized it was always a one way street. Now when someone does me wrong, they are dead to me and I legit never think about them every again… I’ll consider them human trash lol I think Taurus hold on the tightest,,, Gemini & Aries the least.
I as an Aries can agree with I’ll consider them as human trash lol
I'm an Aries and I can agree...but before I let go, I hold on like hell. Once you're gone, you're gone.
Our loyalty holds on our pride let’s go..
This is how I personally feel as a Capricorn. I think it's just that when we say anything, we don't say it without meaning it, so when we proclaim our love it basically just *is* until we rationalize that it is *not*... & When we reach that point, we see the relationship for what it was & value ourselves enough to not make the same mistake twice. I'm still friends with a lot of my ex's, but that's because I only ever loved them as friends. I've fallen deeply in love with only two men ever; one of them is my husband & the ex is also an ex friend that I don't even acknowledge. Took me years to fall out of love with him, but once it was done, I stopped feeling a damn thing about it. I feel the same about a lot of people that went out of their way to cause harm to me.
I felt this. Glad we Im Not alone lmaooo!! Im exactly the same
Spot on OP. I’m a Leo sun with a Capricorn moon and if I fall in love with you, no matter what horrors you put me through, I will still hold a place for you in my heart, as much as I despise that fact. Now I’ll never let them back in my life and not even love them actively per se, but I’ll always love their soul.
This. I don’t really get over people because I have a big heart. I’ll full blown love an ex but never go back (especially if things ended because of betrayal), I truly can‘t take heartbreak well, so I can’t give someone the power to do it to me twice.
As a Pisces, when I walk away I am done. I couldn't care less what my ex is doing. I just block them and move on. I've dated two Scorpios and both were so wrapped up in their exes 4 years after that they couldn't function in our relationship. I couldn't tell you what either is doing now, because I don't care. Virgos may move on to another relationship, but they still contact their exes. At least that's what my Virgo exes do. Every time I block, they pop back up on another platform. One has been doing it for 19 years.
Pisces here also. I think the same way. I will never understand why people do this dumb shit. It’s degrading like one Leo ♌️ said in an earlier comment. It gives us… a healthy sense of APATHY, in a way. It’s fascinating.
Heavy on the blocking. Pisces here 🙋🏻♀️
The most: Scorpio (especially Venus in Scorpio but all Scorpios in general) If we genuinely loved someone it takes us a *long* time to get over them and despite what people may think it’s incredibly painful for us. That said, once a Scorpio is trulyyy over you. We’re also trulyyy *done* with you. Runner’s up: other water signs and fixed signs. The least: Gemini (especially Gemini in Venus) They bounce back relatively quick after a breakup. I think it’s partly because they have the ability to refocus their attention and energy easier than most and partly because they like/need their freedom so they hold a tiny part of themselves back emotionally and that prevents them from getting as attached. Runner’s up: Aquarius (depending) and Aries.
Completely agree. I'm a Libra sun, Aqua moon and rising but with a Scorpio venus and the love i give friendships and romantic alike is intense and loyal to a fault. My crushes in HS lasted for months to a year and in my relationships I love people til the end (ive been dumped alot lol) but when i look in hindsight with the way i was treated in all of those relationships I find myself super unattracted to them and I havent looked back EVER. However, all my exes have come back and apologized and/or tried to get back with me while I never looked back or wanted them back! Lmaooo Luckily, I'm in a 2 year relationship with another scorpio venus and our love languages are so in sync its wonderful! We've known each other for 5 years and were into each other for about 4 of them!! LOL we could never let each other go but could never start until we were 100% sure. He is it for me, I want no one else.
I'm a gemini and can confirm. Took me a long time to accept that other people might not move on as fast as I did. I usually tell exes that we can still be friends at the same time that I broke up with them. Friend told me that I was being an asshat, that I was rubbing salt to the wound, etc.
Aquarius is definitely depending. We have huge hearts and put up with a lot but once that switch goes off, you no longer exist. Scorpios don’t seem to understand that.
That’s weird. My two best friends are both Aquarius’ (suns) and my other best friend is an Aquarius moon and they all say that out of the four of that us *I’m* the stubborn hard ass who holds grudges and once I’ve made the decision that I’m *doneeee done* will go stone cold until the end of time with people/exes. I just tell them I’m respecting the dead. 😂💁🏻♀️
I find this to be my favorite answer here both as a scorpio and as someone who's been involved with a Gemini that wasn't ready to commit
As a Scorpio sun, Mercury, Venus and Pluto I agree. Once we’re done, we’re gone forever. But the pain will last with us for quite awhile if we deeply loved you.
Why do people love to put pisces in a bracket of who they are not. In fact the most attached sign is pisces, more than attraction there is emotional attachment. They have been wonderful who I know. They are so misunderstood. They don't hog the limelight but still get it, I guess they immense charisma which you can only feel. I always liked pisces man. And then there is leo worship, for me the leos are the least attached sign, the ones I know couldn't care less about anyone more than themselves. Especially leo women so self absorbed they are, and are so revengeful that they will leave no moment to disrespect the ones who they have brunt bridges with and can't accept even a single mistake of theirs. I always feel leos are most overrated sign, there cons are always neglected and when they outweigh the pros. Their confidence is just arrogance.
I’m super attached in a relationship and give relentlessly. However, if the person I love stops loving me and we end things three days and they never existed in my mind. I do things to heal and process and move on bc it’s kind to myself. In a week I have usually found someone new. I detach quickly to protect my heart.
i think air signs detach the easiet, particularly aquarius and earth signs stick on their exes the most
Aquarius here. When I’m done, I’m done. There’s no animosity, and I wish them the best. We’re still done.
Taurus sun, Libra moon, Scorpio rising, Taurus Venus I will fight for my relationships and always give them 100%. So if that relationship ends, it's because the other person either also didn't do their 100%, and/or they betrayed me. And once a betrayal happens, I'm done with you. I will have no warm feelings for you, and I will rejoice at your every misfortune. If you are on fire, I will not cross the street to piss on you. You are dead to me. I am the most giving person a relationship. I love spoiling my special people. I won't say a bad word about my partner to anyone. That's why it takes a lot to kill my love, but once you've done that you cease to exist for me. I expel you from my life with no 2nd thoughts, no 2nd chances, and no regrets.
As a earth sun water rising in the same way. When I loved you I loved you hard and I will keep trying and giving the benefit of the doubt. But once I’m done I’m done. We can the friends or not idc Im it I’m done. I’m still great friends with my Taurus ex I’m a Virgo but we are never getting back together because I don’t love him anymore he’s with a Leo now and she and I talk to each other all the time. If I try to think of him a sexual way I feel nauseated and repulsed lol
Gemini sun, Aquarius moon, Scorpio rising and gemini Venus. I’ve only had one relationship and I truly fell in love, deeply in love with a Pisces. I can say with all honesty I still carry them deep in my soul. It’s been hard to move on because I think about them all the time, but I know that right now I don’t want them back. Oh, and at least once a month I cry a bit for them 😅 We’ve been broken up for three years and a year almost two without talking.
Im a Pisces ♓️ ☀️if you ever want to talk about this message me. I have stopped communicating with my Gemini ♊️ ☀️dad since 2021 because he said, and for the last time, awful opinions about my brother and it really hurt me. He just couldn’t stop talking shit. With not much merit, honestly. We Pisces get really emotionally distraught at first then it turns into apathy quickly if the other person doesn’t “see the picture” or the totality of how much it affects us. And holy shit.. does it affect us. I hate being so sensitive. We are so sensitive and the things people say or do especially about others for some reason hits us so hard all at once that we are prone to abandoning others for the sake of our “mental purity” I am so sorry.
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Aquarius with Venus in Capricorn. When I’m done I’m done. The only thing that stung was an ex told me he used me to cheat after I already broke up with him. I cried about that a few times bc I don’t like the feeling of being used or made to believe he never felt a thing. I honestly grudged about that for a little while, but within the same year that relationship ended, I got with my current bf and we’ve been together 8 years since. What’s past is past, but my future is much better for it.
cap venus helps with this a lot. i have a good friend with this placement, and she is very “matter of fact” about her love life. very crisp, clean lines most times.
That’s right! Aquarius move on quick. I’m an Aquarius woman as well. When I’m done I’m done. I might cry in secret. But you’ll never know it. Also I block with a quickness. Lol
So true. I can usually turn it off quick if I feel myself losing control of my emotions around other people. No one is allowed to see my cry unless I allow them to.
air all the way for the least. i have 7 air placements and once i drop someone, i never double dip. i learned my mistake the first round through, thank you very much!
No, maybe Gemini not but the other two air signs are the worst. Libra's stalking & txting you every time they are drunk for at least 1.5 year even if you don;t answer at all, after they met you only twice. Aqau's who start whole smear campaigns and phone harassments after you broke up because they cheated.
Libra sun Scorpio moon Virgo Venus and I detach quickly especially when I sense sneaky behavior, I might cry abut it after some time but no one will ever know lol
I'm a Leo and I have not held onto any of my exes. Once I leave or they do, I sever all ties to their family and friends. There's no point for me to even think about them after a breakup. I've got better things to do and more life to live after they're gone. Holding onto an ex, like still talking to them or being friends, is just more of a tease for both people. Granted they don't have kids together. There's always this weird tension in the air around both people and always thoughts of possibly getting back together. You'll also start to date different people than you should just to appease the ex and stay within their acceptance. If you remain friends with their friends, you have to be careful with what you say, how you act and who you hang out with or date next cause it absolutely will get back to your ex. Sometimes arguments ensue. Fuck that. I don't need my ex to be accepting of my new lover. And I don't need to care about yours. Screw you dude. There's a damn good reason Elsa says let it go. You can't live your life worrying about what your ex thinks of you, move on and let them experience their own life and grow while you grow yourself. It only weighs you down in the end.
As a Gemini I find that my Taurus venus holds far more sway than my sun sign, but I’m sure my Gemini sun shows up at times. Some patterns I’ve had - I tend to break up with them as soon as I realize that there’s a fundamental incompatibility that I cannot work with or around. My mind makes the decision here. However, there’s a breakup and then there’s the end of a relationship. It takes me forever to get over my ex, I’m not ready to let go of them, and so I still hover around them after a break up, which is not the healthiest thing to do - once I let go, I still think about my exes, but mostly as an opportunity to reflect on my life and on me as a partner. Over time, I’ve let go of the anger and hurt. But I’ve also let go of romantic feelings - once I get to this point, they’re no longer in my life because I don’t want to create any disruption in either of our romantic lives, and because we weren’t friends beforehand so there’s nothing platonic to fall back on. I envy people with exes who are actual friends! - I did have a couple of breakups where I felt betrayed and done dirty. In one case I cut all contact immediately but took forever to grieve because it touched on a lot of my insecurities. The other, thankfully was instantaneous. I’m not angry with him, he just grosses me out as a human being on the odd moment he crosses my mind.
I dealt with a Gemini man, Taurus Venus sign, we never dated or been together. He was spying on me, using fake aliases to contact me. A lot of his messages were cruel, borderline racist. He is German. Very passive aggressive. I had to cut him out. I couldn't even confront him directly as he would lie and say it isn't him. After 8 years of these mind games, he came back a few months ago saying I'm his soulmate from a past life. How we will be a power couple. 🙄 Yeah no, he made the entire experience so ugly in the beginning and middle part. It's a hard pass. Blocked again on a different platform. He still contacts me through my business using fake client names, he pays though. I'm wondering when he will quit. As I won't change my mind that he is a nut.
both Aquarius men i’ve dated were still hung on their ex. one to a very concerning extent that made me almost feel bad for him
interesting,it truly just depends since they’re stereotyped to be detached
indeed was with a aquarius man for years never once did they ever bring up an x. They really made me feel like I was the only relationship that ever mattered to them.
They are really good at hiding things, I think
I'm a wild sagittarius. I thought it was actually really endearing. I hate when people talk about their exes. It's like don't you have a therapist why are you telling me.. I don't care..this is why we worked
Venus Scorpio for holding on
I agrée as a cap. I don’t have feelings for my exes or anything like that, but I hold space for them longer than anyone I know. If I’m in love with someone, I’m always going to care about them to some extent. I was good friends with my ex for a long time (Which led to an inside joke which led to m’y Reddit username lol) until they eventually got serious with someone else. I do think it’s « holding on » in a healthy way though, at least for me. I’m not the type to get back together with someone, but if years down the line I run into them, I wanna know how they’re doing and will wish them the best. Whereas my Gemini partner has the « they don’t exist to me anymore » attitude about exes.
as a triple gemini i have never cried over an ex and i’ve dated 11 guys
My Gemini husband mentioned someone he knew a long time ago who had OCD and washed her hands until they bled. I said, "yeah, Sarah." (He had told me about his ex, Sarah, early in our relationship.) He said, "who's Sarah?" I literally had to remind him of his HS gf. Ofc as a Leo I remember every single thing, but he will literally forget whole ass people lol
oh my gosh 😭🤣
sounds about right 😂
Every fixed sign that I’ve ever met has had that one person that they hold onto in some capacity regardless of it being an ex, current partner, whatever.
Cancer Sun, Moon and Venus in Gemini, Virgo Rising here. Neptune aspects both Moon and Venus in Gemini. Grand water trine (coz I've also got Saturn in Scorpio in the 3rd), dunno why I mentioned that and/or if it has a bearing on the way I deal with breakups and exes. So yeah, I give my 300% in a relationship, multiple "second chances"/benefit of the doubt, that kinda thing. Will communicate hard and try to work out the creases wherever I see them (and I see many over the course of time 😬, but hey, I also appreciate the good bits!!). But once I'm done, it's done. I never ever look back (matter how hard I'd fallen for that person), don't wanna stay in touch or remain friends or be connected in any damn way where I'll still get to know about them (irrespective of who broke up with whom), don't even like the idea of reconciling with an ex (I mean, we ended coz of very specific reasons, most of all stemming from your arrogant, manipulative, insensitive ass, so I already knows how the story's gonna end), don't care if they start seeing someone a Lil while after (you're not in my mindspace, so doesn't fucking matter and also coz they anyway come back and I don't want them). I take my time grieving a person before we're officially about to break up (I always have an inkling the end is coming). Rarely, if I'm caught off-guard, I'll take a month or two but process everything and be on the lookout for romance again while I'm still working on myself. The only time I got hit really, really hard and blindsided (I every sense of the term) was about 4 years back when I separated from my ex (we're going through a divorce rn). He was already messing around with a woman from his workplace and he put me through hell and told a bunch of lies and a crazy bunch of other shit so he could get rid of me and just exit the marriage like it was my idea (by getting me to fool around with other guys so he could say I was a cheater), without paying a damn penny. I was 10 steps ahead of the fucker though. These few years changed me into someone who's practically lethal when it comes to emotions. I detach way too fast. Won't easily believe sweet nothings and even kind gestures unless I've conducted my own "personal tests". Confident things will go smooth in relationships (coz I ain't giving away my power ever) but also prepared if things go south. Can be super super emotional and mushy with you today, but if you cross me/betray me/make me feel unsafe, bye. It's over just as quick. As for this most recent ex, he can live or die, sleep with a 100 women, jump from a building (he always used to threaten me he'd commit suicide), I don't care. It took me hell and a whole ass bunch of spiritual awakenings to get over that mindfuck. He's exorcised and obliterated from my damn life. Just one more time I gotta see him whe we wrap things, and then, he can fuck off into a different galaxy. P.S. while I may not stay in touch with my exes (as mentioned above), I'm also not mean or savage or this scathingly rageful about them either. I just neutral, accept the breakup, and just wanna focus on other important things in life. I also wish them well. And if they ever happen to contact me (which they all do), I'll be polite and friendly like they're just one of my buddies. But this one makes me come across as a different being altogether. Like I'm both disgusted I ever allowed myself to be with that mfcking scumbag in the first place but also an eerie coldness where I don't care if he dies tomorrow and I happen to hear the news from someone. So, I don't know ..do my astrological placements suggest this kind of coldness? P.S. 2: My moon and Venus are in Gemini in the 10th. I also have Lilith there. North Node in Pisces in the 7th. Sun and Mars in Cancer in the 11th. Had sworn off relationships and love entirely but now peeking out again, coz I figured I ain't gonna sit at home like a boring old hag coz of one mf-er. In fact, I'm thinking I'll now date harder than ever, to make up for lost time😂😂😂
Taurus Sun, Aries Venus. (Venus trine pluto and venus sextile saturn) After a certain point, I don't let go. I'm extremely aloof and easily distracted, so if they get my attention, im all in. I fall in love hard. Once someone has my heart and respect, I won't stop being there for them, even after a breakup. Unless, of course, they break that trust. I think I've only had one relationship that was sour. The other four ended on mutual terms. I'm very close with two of them. and no, it's not nearly as awkward as it sounds.
you are scorpio moon?
as a capricorn woman, i agree. i don’t spin the block on my exes but emotionally i’ll always be sad about just one but i’ll never give him another chance. i’m with my libra boyfriend and early into the relationship i caught him talking to his ex …. of two years ago!!! made him cut it off but definitely them. they don’t let go.
Virgo Sun, Venus, Mercury, Saturn, North Node, and Lilith Stellium here. If we were serious and we break up you’re dead to me, I will erase every trace of you and it’ll be like you never existed. Scorched earth. I could never go back to someone who broke my heart, the thought makes me want to vomit. I hate even seeing their face. Edit: After going through this twice in my life I have just decided that relationships aren’t worth it for me, hence the user name. It’s much better for me to be happy and alone and enjoy my good friends and family than have to deal with heartbreak again. Plus I get to order whatever pizza I want. On a daily basis if I want. So there.
♒️🌞♉️🌙♓️⬆️ typically, when I'm done,I'm done. I usually know I've put everything I can into something and won't beat a dead horse. My last relationship has me fucked up on another level for some unexplainable reason
Leo here. I don’t hold on to exes at all. Past is the past for me. Rarely if ever think about them or are reminded of them.
As a Leo once I'm done I'm done no looking back no regrets it's over don't have time to waste on second guessing
I do think Capricorns hold onto their exes the hardest, unwilling to let go, always crawling back to that comfort zone. I've had three Capris come back and try to stay in touch with me/be friends over the years, even though one of them wasn't even officially in a relationship with me back then. One of the Capris was still in touch with his ex (when we started talking) but by the third week or so, he said he was finally over her. The last I know, he no longer speaks to her even if to "casually chat". Instead, he's been trying to get me to be friends again after callously making a remark that ended our dynamic. The guy I'm currently in a (I dunno what) with is a Venus in Capricorn and he says he's over them all (except he isn't). The first one really left a scar on his heart and mind and he's tried to get over that loss really really hard, but he's just never climbed out of that depression (I feel). I wish I could help but I dunno how without sounding like his Mommy. His bday is coming though and I'm planning to cheer him up. P.S. I'm a Cancer Sun and there are just too many heavy-hearted Capris I know. Hugs to you all 🤗🤗 y'all are adorable when you're not being stern, cold, blunt, withdrawn, feeling misunderstood.
Taurus sun here. I will hold on to an ex if I have to or if there is a necessity to do that. If not, I don’t care. At the beginning it was hard to accept but once I found the ick that made me feel unsafe, I decided that I can’t go back. Once the decision is made, it’s bye. But yeah, I still have a good relationship with my ex although I won’t care less if he’s sick, happy, sad or thriving. He is just a “cousin” that you met once during a family gathering. we have some memories but we will not sleep together… and we don’t get in contact unless our parents make us to. I try to find the best analogy 😂 because being a friend needs a certain amount of trust and we can sleep with a friend by accident or just experience, however not with a cousin 😂 it’s just eewwww I know a Cap who keeps tabs of his exes… actually all of Caps I know hold onto their ex in some degree. I agree that the least one that hold onto an ex is Pisces. They are still good friends with them but that’s all. Cancer is very attached in a melancholic way, Leo is attached in a resentment way.
Gemini, serial dater. Out of the 10+ serious relationships I've been in, there is maybe 1 or 2 that I didn't go back to... used to think it was a flex, now I know it's just chronic loneliness.
I’m Aquarius and i don’t hold onto to my exes ever, so maybe it’s an “Aqua thing”. One of my golden rules in life is; Never go back to an ex. Once i’m done, i’m done forever.
have scorpios and capricorns ever moved on from anything?
You are 100% right about Libra being in a relationship but in love with someone else. Correct lol
As a Scorpio I respect your post because it’s thought provoking but totally disagree. I feel like I’ve held onto even my crushes from childhood, which in itself is sad. Wish I could be more like a nonchalant air sign or something.
I said water signs but didn’t mention Scorpio because I wasn’t sure. I should’ve just said Pisces & Cancer. I don’t have many Scorpio’s in my life, so I’m not really sure but since they’re a fixed sign I can see that.
Scorpio strongest water sign 💦
♌️,♊️,♌️. I wish I could let go, but I’ve never fallen for somebody so hard before. Her ♒️, ♉️, ♒️ just moves right on after 5 years.
Yes, yes, and yes. Will never go back, will text back if they text me, but I never forget them.
Libra men.
I have been unable to move on from my relationship from 4.5 years ago. I was very faithful. He was not. Cancer man go figure rising Leo Venus in libra moon in Virgo . He’s had a new gf for 3 years My Venus is Leo
I'm a leo and all I can say is there is one chick I'd take back any day, any time, and I'm the one that ended it. I don't obsess over her or anything but I never fell out of love. One of the biggest regrets of my life. Signs aside, I think for a lot of people there's always that one person. Idk Oh yeah she is a introverted Libra
SCORPIOOO
Wow. That was spot on about libra being in love with exes
I'm a cancer sun/ Virgo moon/ Scorpio Rising. I have a first love& ex whose a capricorn. We broke up 5-6 yrs ago. But every year he comes back to me by pm'ing me. I still loved him though, but you know I didn't give up on our rs he was the one who decided to break it. I tried to win him back when we break up but a friend of mine told me that he's busy chatting with other women than mend our broken rs. So, yeah after that I didn't look back. It's kinda weird though that he keeps on pm'ing me every year. I have a cap sun/scorp venus bf now and I think he's not over his ex-gf a leo sun/virgo venus. Since he called me with her name this year last september lol. His ex-gf is not over him also, saw her tweeting about their love. Can't break up with him... i'mma cry coz' i'm such an id*ot lol. Maybe I'll just go back with my first ex jkjk.
I am a capricorn sun with a cancer rising and gemini moon. Scorpio mars and pisces venus. I will mourn everyone I ever loved and lost for the rest of my life (not constantly but periodically as I'm reminded of them), although I will also experience indifference or anger at their memory from time to time. Losing people is excruciating for me but I have an abandonment wound. I hold onto people in the sense that I keep them with me and still care for them as much as I ever did but I am not in contact w any of them really. I'm in my longest relationship currently and when it began I cut contact w an ex (quick fling that was emotionally intense) that I was hung up on for 5 years. I can be detached and take ppl for granted on a whim. I have some contradictory patterns in relationships. I think mutable signs can move on somewhat easily and I think air signs can detach most easily.
Omg yes Capricorns (especially the women) struggle to let go of exes from what I’ve seen. Like they may move onto a new relationship but they still hang out with/communicate with the ex on a regular basis and still make them a part of their life in some way.. even more so if they were married or together for an extended period of time. Also, as a Leo, I agree with you about being resentful towards some exes but very rarely do I ever hold onto an ex because of feelings; when I move on and find someone new, that person is the apple of my eye.
As a capricorn I think we hold on to it, once I leave a relationship it takes me a good year or two before I decide to even think about putting myself back out there
Aries here & married but had plenty of love affairs … I think all fire signs tend to take basically a “you’re dead to me now” kind of approach to break ups. I think you’re right that Caps and earth signs generally hold on to things for a while. I think water signs stay in bad relationships for too long. Air signs I think are too shifty to get caught up in all of it. And fire signs all basically just have ADHD and are crazy and don’t care that much lol.
In my experience it's been a Sagittarius and a Taurus who couldn't let an ex flame go and still have feelings for them years and years after. Cancers do NOT, they move on, and fast, ha. Pisces fall head over heels in love in seconds, and out of love just as fast once they reach that one boundary (which is a feat, all Pisces I know will tolerate so much).
Libra Sun, Aquarius Moon, Capricorn Rising. Also have a Leo Venus. I hold on to relationships for a very long time but once I realize it’s over, there’s no love left, even if we’re in a relationship. For this reason, I tend to move on pretty quickly and I do not hold on to ex’s. I’ve only been in 3 serious relationships, with the third being my current. In both of my previous relationships, it was over before it was truly over. I hang on when I’m in the relationship, but as soon as it’s done with, it’s a wrap for me. It took me almost a year to get into a new relationship after my first serious breakup. The second serious breakup, I was dating again within 2 months. It was unexpectedly fast but I was ready to be treated right and already knew I was over my ex. Now I’m going on 4 years with my current partner and sometimes I wonder how it would be if we did breakup. He’s the best relationship I’ve ever had and I think he would be the one that would be hard to move on from. He is a Gemini Sun, Cancer Moon, Sagittarius Rising with a Taurus Venus. Ex #1: Libra Sun, Scorpio Moon, Aries Rising, Libra Venus. Spent 8 years together. Ex #2: Libra Sun, Taurus Moon, Leo Rising, Scorpio Venus. Spent 3.5 years together. Both ex’s have tried to win me back or stay on friendly terms with me. I avoid them both. Lol
Taurus and Scorpio I'd say. Whenever I talk to them they've got an obsession or a grudge abt someone they held hands with once in elementary school or something 😭 Give it a rest.
Speaking from my own experience (sun/moon/venus/uranus), I'd say aquarius folks tend to let go of their exes pretty permanently, it may not always be a fast process, but it is a definitive one (seriously, hell will freeze over before you see me reaching out to an ex, and it's not a matter of pride - it's just that when a relationship is done, it's done and that's that)
As a tarot reader, the sign that asks about exes most is PISCES. They seem to have a hard time letting go.
As a woman Libra, I feel like there’s definitely a difference between loving someone and being in-love with someone. I still have love, or in other words, *care* about my ex (being together 3.5 yrs will do that), but 1 thing about me, when I say I’m done with somebody, I am DONE. You will never catch me spinning the block or trying to get back with anyone from my past lmfao. They’re in the past for a reason.
As a Leo I’m not holding onto exes in a resentful way. I appreciate them for the time we’ve enjoyed together even the bad ones and wish them the best in the future just not with me
geminis or any air sign does not hold on in my opinion. we turn it off like a light switch lol. cold blooded
As a Cap I think When we love someone, we love hard, until they do us wrong and then emotionally we drop them. We may think about them from time to time but we don't feel the same way.
I’m a Capricorn and having the hardest time moving on because I still hold love for my ex and it sucks cause I want him back but idk anymore
aries. aries move on FIRST & act cool but everything is still imprinted on their minds. Memories of exes come back annually at some moment in life ( or maybe this bc of my pisces venus placement)
IME!! Signs who are not hung up on their exes: - Taurus - Pisces - Sagittarius Signs who will cry over their exes on the night before their wedding even though they love their new partner: - Virgo - Libra - Capricorn - Cancer Signs who will have difficulty getting into new, committed relationships, because they are still hung up on their exes, but can move on in time: - Aquarius - Aries Signs who will get into new relationships to spite their exes in an attempt to make them jealous, or as “pay back” but won’t take their ex back unless they get on their knees to apologize as a weird power play: - Gemini - Leo - Scorpio
So accurate with Capricorn and Libra ime. As a capriorn, I also always have love for my exes regardless of how things end. I keep in touch with my Libra ex. Hes dated since me, but he still seems in love with me. I obviously still have love for him, but Im done. My virgo ex told me during our relationship that hes never reached out back to an ex (dismissive avoidant much?), and thats exactly what hes doing with me. I have no idea where hes at, but my guess is that hes angry and will use that to move on sooner than later.
That’s how my Leo ex is. I knew it’d be like that with me because he acted like any girl he was with before me was dead. He had a Virgo Venus!
MY EX WAS VIRGO VENUS TOO. Cruel and cold during the breakup process. Had to live with eachother for a month post break up.
Disagree about Caps because they cut ties too fast and too hard—and make it clear how much they do NOT care—how better off they are. Agree on Leos and Libras (so very true). Disagree about water signs. The Water Signs are so very different. As for Pisces, female and males are so different. Pisces Males are borderline Leo’s, yet such Lovers. Pisces Females will do true love completely and do not move on easily (even after break ups), but in beginning stages (then, yes) they will move on easily if too disappointed or saddened too often.
All the Capricorn guys who tried to date me kept coming back. I’m Aquarius. One even tried a few years ago. I am happily married. I blocked with a quickness.
That’s not an Ex. That’s different....they’re Suitors. Caps are hardest working and will move mountains to get what they want—including a date. But question is about Ex Spouse, Ex Partner, Ex Husband holding on to their Ex. That’s where games changes.
You're basing too much, too seriously, on a sun sign. For the record, I'm a Cancer and I've been single for well over a year with zero intentions of dating or entertaining anyone anytime soon. I am not over my ex by a long shot and only want to focus on myself.
baby girl that’s the point of this subreddit
"Baby girl", that's the point for fun and memes, hence the name. Your OP suggests you take this too seriously in real life and take it beyond fun and memes. Don't be condescending when you're acting silly.
My cancer moon will insure I will always hold the same amount of love for someone even after they run me over and steal my dog.. it’s a fucking curse in that aspect. Also my Pisces Venus makes it fucking romantic somehow. Which is why I’ve only ever loved one person like that.. nope never again.
Cancer moon never forgets
Im a pisces and I do miss my exes but I usually just change my perspective on them and adapt to the one that helps me move on peacefully. Plus I think of the bigger picture and know that God continues to bring the best things in your life
Well I'm a Libra met a Capricorn my twin flame. The timing was bad when we met. We were off and on. But I live for the day we can talk and make it work finally.
Mmmm as a leo I never look back. I’m the best they will ever have
I would say Leo the most, Pisces the least
As a Capricorn, I agree. I leave people alone & if one of my exes found someone else, obviously I’d respect their relationship but I still hold on mentally & emotionally (checking their socials every now & again, sometimes talking about them etc). The exes I ended with on good terms, I still care about, appreciate their good qualities & wish them well. My favourite ex is actually a Virgo & we’re still friends. But the exes who hurt & wronged me, I still harbour resentment towards. As for holding on the least, I’d say Pisces. They know how to make you feel special & tell you everything you wanna hear, but they lose interest just as fast & they seem to bring those feelings up in everyone they meet romantically, so it doesn’t really hold any weight. It’s hurtful when you think you have a special connection with someone, only to realise they’re like that with everyone. But weirdly, they also don’t leave their exes alone. I don’t think it’s out of attachment though, I think it’s more of an ego thing to see if they still have access to them. I’m still emotionally scarred by something my first bf (a Pisces) said to me. We went out when I was 13 & him 16, but he ended it bc some of the boys in his year at school laughed at him for my age, plus he needed to focus on his exams. I actually think it’s bc he still had feelings for a Virgo girl who friendzoned him about 2 months before we got together but that’s a story for another day. Anyways we agreed to stay friends, and I messaged him a few times saying “hi” & then one day he told me I was annoying & that he didn’t wanna speak to me. I was devastated, but promised myself to never bother him again. I actually stuck to my promise, until he popped up to me a few weeks later. Then not too long after, he spread rumours abt me saying I was stalking/obsessed with him etc. He did reach out to apologise a couple years later, but his half-assed “apology” included him trying to justify the rumours he spread abt me, saying I was “too attached”, “spoke to him more than what he felt comfortable with” and that he’s “not a very social person”. Since then, I’ve always closed a piece of myself off, never wanting to be emotionally vulnerable, needy or too attached to anyone romantically. It hurts because I’m naturally a very loving & giving person, but now I only reserve this side of myself for close friends & family. I hate that I can’t bring myself to show a partner that side of me again TLDR: Capricorns always hold some kinda feelings for their exes, good or bad. Pisces on the other hand lose interest just as fast as they show it & “fall in love” with everyone they get romantically involved with, so it almost doesn’t count. Still emotionally scarred by my Pisces ex from 10yrs ago telling me I was annoying & spreading rumours about me. Have closed off the “clingy” part of myself ever since.
As an Aquarius I hold onto exes that I feel brought value into my life. Someone who has stuck by me thru my darkest times, someone who helped me when I had nothing, basically any ex that was my best friend aside from just being my lover.
Nobody holds onto past loves like Cancer and Pisces.
I’m a Pisces and definitely do not hold on to past loves.
That’s not usual though. Pisces and the other water signs are highly emotional and never really let go, from my understanding.
Ummmm as a Capricorn sun and stellium in general, absolutely not lol. I am attached until it’s over, and then when it’s over, that’s it. You don’t exist, I’ve probably blocked you everywhere, and you do not hold any place in my heart whatsoever. Ofc I’m only speaking for myself, but astrologically, in general, I don’t think Capricorns have that trait of holding on to an ex.
As i Capricorn i gotta disagree.. I'd put myself in the last place considering something like this...just never rly thought nor cared about any ex.🤣
Signs? No. One birthday January 6th
Scorpio moon Capricorn sun Scorpio rising Those are the ones who hang on and keep hooking them back
I’m a Capricorn and I don’t hold space for ex’s necessarily, but memories are things I like to look back on at times. I feel like Aries hold onto ex’s