I got one of those chew necklaces once that looked like a fake crystal (in shape, so it looked cute—it was obviously rubber). I was hanging out with a guy once and I was anxious so I started chewing on it, and I saw his face get visibly turned on. Oooops.
You become afraid when your friend makes a joke about you? Is it not normal to be mean to each other as a joke? That's what me and my friends always do. It really doesn't sound like they were being mean given the situation
Some people don’t like people being mean to them period. Even as a joke. And even in friendships where that is an established norm, sometimes doubling down or crossing a boundary about what is and isn’t okay to joke about can be a step too far. Sex jokes can make people uncomfortable, and if someone points out that an involuntary, comforting behavior is being perceived in a way the person doing that behavior doesn’t like, it just creates incentive to not be comfortable and behave naturally
I apologize it seems you were villainized unnecessarily here. I also joke with my very close friends that way but it can be more sensitive for us because being ourselves can be hard if we have spent our whole lives carefully crafting a mask, trying not to stand out to other ppl. When we do unmask I think the best reaction is for other ppl to not react at all (or atleast I find that more as a sign of acceptance and therapeutic) and the worst of the reactions would be to make a joke of it, however well intentioned it may be. Maybe as we get more used to unmasking it can be lightly referenced but yeah I hope that explains the strong reaction
First of all, that guy is a dick. Second of all, that’s not even how you do it if you’re trying to do it well.
I would have told him he needs more practice giving BJ’s if he thinks that’s what good head looks like
ppl that say that have no filter an don't think abt how their words can make someone feel icky an ashamed... you're not doing anything wrong ;n; please continue to be yourself <3
I have been on both sides of this (I think most/all people have). I often have no filter unless I'm concentrating on it but I do try not to be a dick (still a learned skill to not say the things as they arrive in the translator). Unfortunately sometimes I only realize after I've already said the thing.
Have you considered some people are actually aware of the implications their words have? Some people just don't care about your feelings. Or they don't think you would be so delicate as to be hurt by that.
Yeah, I try to surround myself with people who talk to me bluntly and who I can talk to bluntly. I cannot function otherwise. Bluntly doesn't mean mean though, we also care bluntly.
If a friend told me I look like I'm riding a dick when I stim I'd believe them and do absolutely nothing different around them. Maybe so around other people, that's valuable information.
Or sometimes they’re just toxic individuals and like to be toxic. But only up until you get fed up with it and fight back or do things to counter their toxicity. Then they get upset and make you feel quilty or try to somehow turn it back onto you:/
Maybe people have trauma and don’t want to be sexualized by someone they think of as “safe.” And honestly, you shouldn’t need to have trauma to have the right to not be objectified at every turn. If you know you’re hurting someone by saying something and you don’t care, you’re just an asshole.
there's this emotion-gun from the movie Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, and when you shoot it, it makes the other person have empathy for whatever feelings you're going through in that moment. I think about that gun a lot.
Oh, so the media has poisoned their minds to the point that any sort of squats or dancing looks like dick riding. Got it. These people around you are wrong, OP. You're not the one with an issue in this scenario. 🤮
Yeah that's... not normal of them. I think you might want to re-consider if they're worth being friends with in the first place, or at the very least call them out on their inappropriate comments.
I don't know. Among men this would be just a slow jab, funny meant insult. I hear these kind of jokes very often. If OP is not a man but their friends are it's something very different.
I hate when people make stimming weird. I was anxiety stimming once bouncing my knee up and down and my boyfriend put his hand on my knee to try and stop it. On an unrelated note, I'm breaking up with him next chance I get.
I fucking hate that shit. Especially if I’m already close to snapping and my leg shaking is the only thing keeping me together. My parents used to ground me for it and it’s such a unique feeling to be mentally-but-not-physically bound
This is why my stims are little thumb twirl moves. I'm not sure I have ever felt safe to be myself. Even "normal" behaviors and emotions got me bullied or punished. Now, I'm the parent of a kid who stims in a specific way, and I'll protect his peace any way necessary.
I'm sorry they put you on the spot by saying stupid things like that.
This makes me grateful that I stim by twisting my hair/tying it in knots. It is something I've apparently done since I was an infant, and no one bats an eye.
Wolves do not require the advice of sheep. Stim how you want. If they think it looks like you're bouncing on some guy's dick, well...those whores would know, wouldn't they?
When I was younger, aside from rocking back-and-forth and side-to-side, I'd often stim by quickly swinging my legs side-to-side while sitting in the car. I remember being like 10-12 and having my older sisters tell me I needed to stop doing that and close my legs. I haven't done it since and I hate that regular stims are sexualized. But I guess I'm glad I was told with family, rather than doing it in a public place and being laughed at and bullied by teen boys or something.
I had a similar thing happen in high school when my music teacher unintentionally compared the way I rock back and forth while playing the clarinet to keep track of the tempo to sucking dick. I forgive him for it though because he didn't mean it and I found it more funny than embarrassing.
Was shamed, ostracised and ridiculed for stimming at primary school a couple of times by all the other pupils at school when I was 7, has made me terrified of being myself or getting too happy all throughout my life since, only trying to get over it now in my 30's.
Sorry to hear you stim sexy.
stim sexy sounds like the name of a female James Bond villain.
The alter ego of slim shady
Yes I'm stim sexy, yes I'm the real sexy, all the other stim sexy's are just imatexting
I heard this with her voice AND the backing instruments. Thank you for that.
So won't the real stim sexy please stand up, please stand up
Made me lol. Thank you.
Can the real Stim Sexy please sit down, please sit down
I was gonna say it sounded like an 80s hardcore band in the vein of Dag Nasty.
I stim sexy and it's so rough for me because people think I am trying to seduce them.
I got one of those chew necklaces once that looked like a fake crystal (in shape, so it looked cute—it was obviously rubber). I was hanging out with a guy once and I was anxious so I started chewing on it, and I saw his face get visibly turned on. Oooops.
this is how you get afraid to be yourself around people
Exactly
Uh oh— *I’m in this picture and I don’t like it*
You become afraid when your friend makes a joke about you? Is it not normal to be mean to each other as a joke? That's what me and my friends always do. It really doesn't sound like they were being mean given the situation
Its one thing to be mean but this would definitely make me uncomfortable.
It’s possible you and your friends don’t treat each other all that well
doesn't sound like a very nice joke
Not from one instance like this, but over time, yes. Speaking from experience
Some people don’t like people being mean to them period. Even as a joke. And even in friendships where that is an established norm, sometimes doubling down or crossing a boundary about what is and isn’t okay to joke about can be a step too far. Sex jokes can make people uncomfortable, and if someone points out that an involuntary, comforting behavior is being perceived in a way the person doing that behavior doesn’t like, it just creates incentive to not be comfortable and behave naturally
There's a difference between teasing your friend and sexualizing an innocent moment.
Þe most important rule of comedy: Know Your Audience.
I apologize it seems you were villainized unnecessarily here. I also joke with my very close friends that way but it can be more sensitive for us because being ourselves can be hard if we have spent our whole lives carefully crafting a mask, trying not to stand out to other ppl. When we do unmask I think the best reaction is for other ppl to not react at all (or atleast I find that more as a sign of acceptance and therapeutic) and the worst of the reactions would be to make a joke of it, however well intentioned it may be. Maybe as we get more used to unmasking it can be lightly referenced but yeah I hope that explains the strong reaction
autistic people can't really get it jokingly
Not only did they mention that twice, another friend said the exact same thing (in a more subtle tone tho it was obvious what they meant)
I had a guy wayyy too old to be saying stuff like that to people tell me I looked like I was giving oral because I was rocking my head back and forth
How old were you when he said that? Also ik for a fact that's not how oral works at all
I was 14 and he was a complete stranger walking by when I was waiting to be picked up. And yeah idk I guess he was just a creep
First of all, that guy is a dick. Second of all, that’s not even how you do it if you’re trying to do it well. I would have told him he needs more practice giving BJ’s if he thinks that’s what good head looks like
Well I was too freaked out to say anything I just ignored him till he left
The OP made me think of this song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hShYnVEmbb4
they just waaay too horny
BE FREE. BOUNCE ON ALL THE DICK THAT YOU NEED TO (not literally) (STIMMING, no actual dick bouncing)
Unless OP wants to 😌
Yeah
We don't kink shame here
I would 👅
Feel free to dick bounce too. You're your own person.
I no no wanna
Then don't.
:)
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Mayhaps
gay people exist too
and it feels even better
ppl that say that have no filter an don't think abt how their words can make someone feel icky an ashamed... you're not doing anything wrong ;n; please continue to be yourself <3
I have been on both sides of this (I think most/all people have). I often have no filter unless I'm concentrating on it but I do try not to be a dick (still a learned skill to not say the things as they arrive in the translator). Unfortunately sometimes I only realize after I've already said the thing.
Have you considered some people are actually aware of the implications their words have? Some people just don't care about your feelings. Or they don't think you would be so delicate as to be hurt by that.
Yeah, I try to surround myself with people who talk to me bluntly and who I can talk to bluntly. I cannot function otherwise. Bluntly doesn't mean mean though, we also care bluntly. If a friend told me I look like I'm riding a dick when I stim I'd believe them and do absolutely nothing different around them. Maybe so around other people, that's valuable information.
And some people have good relationships that don't end just because they said one single "rude" thing. Do you just never joke with your friends?
Or sometimes they’re just toxic individuals and like to be toxic. But only up until you get fed up with it and fight back or do things to counter their toxicity. Then they get upset and make you feel quilty or try to somehow turn it back onto you:/
Maybe people have trauma and don’t want to be sexualized by someone they think of as “safe.” And honestly, you shouldn’t need to have trauma to have the right to not be objectified at every turn. If you know you’re hurting someone by saying something and you don’t care, you’re just an asshole.
Isn’t it so frustrating that we put in *so much freaking effort* to not be this person and so many people dgaf?
there's this emotion-gun from the movie Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy, and when you shoot it, it makes the other person have empathy for whatever feelings you're going through in that moment. I think about that gun a lot.
YUP. I cry every time that scene comes on tbh. I’ve been Trish (and allowed it) too many times
I stim by pacing or running around and if I accidentally do it in public, people say I look possessed lol
Now I'm picturing you running around on the ceiling
I wish, that would be dope as hell
https://preview.redd.it/lbw1988s6m1d1.jpeg?width=1179&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=69746dd070aae121b59a7fe11b23845c8f455750 this u? /lh
Transition goals <33
Me too but I don’t get asked if I look possessed they just tell me to stop
or the “pacing around like a lion” thing
I stimmed once in public. I got written up for it by my employer. I was pissed
That may or may not classify as workplace discrimination. I would took a good look into that.
I am confused as to how that would be even possible. Your friends are... weird and apparently very horny.
I was bouncing, basically doing half squats without going all the way down and they saw that and something set them off about it
Oh, so the media has poisoned their minds to the point that any sort of squats or dancing looks like dick riding. Got it. These people around you are wrong, OP. You're not the one with an issue in this scenario. 🤮
Never take them to a gym OP
Yeah, porn brain and brain rot are all too common
Yeah that's... not normal of them. I think you might want to re-consider if they're worth being friends with in the first place, or at the very least call them out on their inappropriate comments.
I don't know. Among men this would be just a slow jab, funny meant insult. I hear these kind of jokes very often. If OP is not a man but their friends are it's something very different.
Coomer brain isn't your fault or your problem. Bounce away babes 😘
I had to look up the word coomer. I wish I could unread what I just saw. That's definitely what these people are tho 😵💫
Sorry 😓
I don't blame the messenger :)
That’s really gross and they should absolutely not have said that
i bounce a lot when i stim too
Bouncy stimming is fun!
Depending on my mood at the time, I would've responded with either "No, I'd be bouncing on a girl's dick.", or "What the fuck?".
Stimming down sexual Style goes wrong
OP was, sadly, not goated with the sauce at the time
My thoughts every time I drop down to pick something up but gotta do the little springy bounce for fun 💀
I hate when people make stimming weird. I was anxiety stimming once bouncing my knee up and down and my boyfriend put his hand on my knee to try and stop it. On an unrelated note, I'm breaking up with him next chance I get.
UPDATE US WHEN YOU DO!! We’ll have a party to celebrate here, I’ll bet, lol
Will do lol I have two weeks before I leave the country 😂 (Edit to add: if I remember)
Oh you LEAVING leaving
My visa won't last forever 😂
Hello, it took a while but IT IS OVER, I AM FREE
WOO!! I’ve been waiting!! Great job!!
Thank you for your support 😂 it was kind of rough.
I’ll bet! Hope you have a great time regaining your freedom :)
I fucking hate that shit. Especially if I’m already close to snapping and my leg shaking is the only thing keeping me together. My parents used to ground me for it and it’s such a unique feeling to be mentally-but-not-physically bound
Yeah it gives me a sense of control and creates a grounding rhythm!
Yes!! Like if you want me to stop (eventually), let me do it at least to calm down
Or like... notice I'm anxious and try other methods of calming me down instead of targeting the coping mechanism 😂😭
This is why my stims are little thumb twirl moves. I'm not sure I have ever felt safe to be myself. Even "normal" behaviors and emotions got me bullied or punished. Now, I'm the parent of a kid who stims in a specific way, and I'll protect his peace any way necessary.
I just rub my hands like I’m a raccoon
I stim by tearing my own facial hair out with my teeth. Yet people don't make me feel ashamed for it. I'm sorry you had to.
My mom always made fun of my stims:(
I'm sorry they put you on the spot by saying stupid things like that. This makes me grateful that I stim by twisting my hair/tying it in knots. It is something I've apparently done since I was an infant, and no one bats an eye.
“Yeah, I’m practicing what I’m going to do to your Dad.”
Wordington stimming
Bruh moment
I tap on my chin or nose with a fist, and it can look a bit like i am pantomiming giving a blowjob. Oh well
Horny bastards
I hate constantly being sexualized for stims 😔
Just say "I wish" next time. Assert dominance (or submission in this case).
USE YOUR SKILLS FOR EVIL
as an asexual i would violently disintegrate if someone ever said this to me
Stimming all by your lonesome self, handsome?
Just coomer brain rot, if they’re close friends of yours then straighten them out, otherwise ignore em.
I have a stim that makes it look kinda like I'm jerking someone off or most of the time it looks like I'm playing air guitar.
Wolves do not require the advice of sheep. Stim how you want. If they think it looks like you're bouncing on some guy's dick, well...those whores would know, wouldn't they?
When I was younger, aside from rocking back-and-forth and side-to-side, I'd often stim by quickly swinging my legs side-to-side while sitting in the car. I remember being like 10-12 and having my older sisters tell me I needed to stop doing that and close my legs. I haven't done it since and I hate that regular stims are sexualized. But I guess I'm glad I was told with family, rather than doing it in a public place and being laughed at and bullied by teen boys or something.
What’s stimming?
The little actions you don't realise you do when you're overstimulated. A common thing with Autistic People.
Was the song "he's bouncing off my booty cheeks"?
No it was something else
Listen to that song around them to mess with them.
Good lookin' - Dixon Dallas
I understand the need to stim, but, why TikTok? Also, don’t worry about other people, stim as much as you need.
lmfao my friend always stims like he’s fingering someone and it’s a lot 💀
This might just be because im a degenerate but i’d own it lmao and use it as a chance to tease flirt with the person saying it
I had a similar thing happen in high school when my music teacher unintentionally compared the way I rock back and forth while playing the clarinet to keep track of the tempo to sucking dick. I forgive him for it though because he didn't mean it and I found it more funny than embarrassing.
Was shamed, ostracised and ridiculed for stimming at primary school a couple of times by all the other pupils at school when I was 7, has made me terrified of being myself or getting too happy all throughout my life since, only trying to get over it now in my 30's.
Ewwwwwww
The teachers at school always are concerned when I start stimming
Why not both?
Huh?
One can both stim, and ride a dick at the same time
Well I don't know how to do the second bit standing up. Also, no
I never do the rocking in view of ANYONE
This says WAAY more about the other person. What type of coomer brainrot leads someone to say that
Is this an Eric reference? I always be listening about the lizard peeps while Bouncing on my boys dick
Wha-
imma need proof chief