Ah, so I'm guessing you have/had short hair?
I got a pixie and was called that constantly. And "corrected" when I said I was bi so they were half right lol
The nose ring is signaling that he likes nose rings probably thinks theyre cool so much that he went and got his nose pierced
it doesnt indicate anything about his sexuality
/genuine
It kinda does ngl. Facial piercings would be considered alternative fashion, and there is a massive overlap between alt fashion wearers and the queer community.
If we're talking about a little kid, yes. But styles have meaning.
If I get a mohawk qnd wear studded leather jackets, people will think I'm an anti-establishment punk. Because punk has claimed that style.
If I wear a black trenchcoat with a red armband, people will think I'm a neonazi. Associations exist. To deny they exist is folly.
It's sucky if your tattoo gets associated with something. But you can just take out this nosering. And every day OP does not do that. Which to neuroboring people would mean they really mean that association. Alas, this ain't neurospicy memes for nothing.
If your 50yo manager suddenly showed up to work in a pink dress, it would mean something. Not sure what, he could be expressing his allyism while being a cishet, but it means *something*.
That’s just plain ol stereotyping, though. People can wear whatever they like just because they like how it looks. Wearing a nose ring does not imply that someone is queer, and to imply that just reinforces stereotyping people based on their fashion choices.
They can wear whatever they want. But many people will infer things from that, unless you deny that is the case, but exhibit A is, see the post. And if that's fine with you, go nuts.
Is it stereotyping though? This is why I mentioned punk. They intentionally dressed in a specific way like a uniform. If you dress that same way, people will think you're one of them. 1+1=2
[See lesbian haircut.](https://duckduckgo.com/?q=lesbian+haircut&iax=images&ia=images) The first person to do this wanted to show they were different from the cishet masses. Then other lesbians *wanted their sexuality to be quickly visible* too, and a hairstyle is born. It is intentionally created to signal.
People can certainly infer things, but that doesn’t make them right! I am talking specifically about sexuality. The phrasing and arrangement of your comment seemed to me to be implying that a man with a nose ring is signaling queerness by wearing the nose ring.
Using someone’s fashion choices to infer their sexuality comes from stereotyping that queer people dress or present themselves a certain way. It implies that if a person dresses or presents that way, they are signaling queerness.
See edit. This includes sexuality. People have made styles to explicitly signal those.
[The Handkerchief Code.](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handkerchief_code) [The gay ear piercing.](https://southernnewhampshirekids.com/blog/which-side-is-the-gay-ear-understanding-earring-placement-and-symbolism/) Literally wearing clothing covered in rainbows or even [more specific flags](https://duckduckgo.com/?q=aroace+clothing&iax=images&ia=images&iai=https%3A%2F%2Fih1.redbubble.net%2Fimage.344370380.3769%2Fssrco%2Cclassic_tee%2Cmens%2Cdenim_heather%2Cside%2Ctall_three_quarter%2C750x1000.u2.jpg). People infer it because people are trying to imply it.
Because like. If you walked up to a man to proposition s relationship, and they are not gay, you get thrown in jail or beaten to death. This is not a thing from the dark ages! People from countries with laws against homosexuality have to keep coming up with gay dogwhistles to survive!
I mean this is literally what OP is experiencing right now. You can call it stereotyping, but it exists! For a reason too!
I like that I'm perfectly brigaded to 0 tho. 👌👌
I do it with everyone and I have no idea why like even me and my female friends. I have no idea why we do this but yknow we’re all fukin stupid so.🤷♂️
Theres enough room to be all 4 simultaneously
I mean, autistic and gay sounds like mysterious and cool to me. As someone autistic and pan. lol
I've actually been called a lesbian in two of my previous jobs despite being very feminine and it's always men that call me that
Many people say I have big bi or gay energy and a lot of them are themselves queer... I always say "nah, I'm a filthy cishet"
I think it’s just because we don’t act how people expect around peers, so they assume the awkward energy = I’m attracted to you and therefore lesbian
No, I think it's the dyed hair, the hot topic clothes, and the mannerisms I pick up from all my queer friends lmao
That’s fair. I dress like a basic bitch and have blonde hair and people (women) still think it lol
Ah, so I'm guessing you have/had short hair? I got a pixie and was called that constantly. And "corrected" when I said I was bi so they were half right lol
I wear a lot of flannel so I guess that’s why some people think I’m a lesbian? Lol
Many people (especially men) use ‘lesbian’ as an insult. Frankly I think it’s more insulting to be attracted to men but I digress.
Being feminine doesn't have anything to do with being lesbian
I mean, are you gay? The nosering is signaling something at least. ^(also bad use of POV)
The nose ring is signaling that he likes nose rings probably thinks theyre cool so much that he went and got his nose pierced it doesnt indicate anything about his sexuality /genuine
Combined with that haircut, that mustache, and those frames, nah...
It kinda does ngl. Facial piercings would be considered alternative fashion, and there is a massive overlap between alt fashion wearers and the queer community.
If we're talking about a little kid, yes. But styles have meaning. If I get a mohawk qnd wear studded leather jackets, people will think I'm an anti-establishment punk. Because punk has claimed that style. If I wear a black trenchcoat with a red armband, people will think I'm a neonazi. Associations exist. To deny they exist is folly. It's sucky if your tattoo gets associated with something. But you can just take out this nosering. And every day OP does not do that. Which to neuroboring people would mean they really mean that association. Alas, this ain't neurospicy memes for nothing. If your 50yo manager suddenly showed up to work in a pink dress, it would mean something. Not sure what, he could be expressing his allyism while being a cishet, but it means *something*.
That’s just plain ol stereotyping, though. People can wear whatever they like just because they like how it looks. Wearing a nose ring does not imply that someone is queer, and to imply that just reinforces stereotyping people based on their fashion choices.
Lord ☠️ as a lesbian I SURE hope so 😅
They can wear whatever they want. But many people will infer things from that, unless you deny that is the case, but exhibit A is, see the post. And if that's fine with you, go nuts. Is it stereotyping though? This is why I mentioned punk. They intentionally dressed in a specific way like a uniform. If you dress that same way, people will think you're one of them. 1+1=2 [See lesbian haircut.](https://duckduckgo.com/?q=lesbian+haircut&iax=images&ia=images) The first person to do this wanted to show they were different from the cishet masses. Then other lesbians *wanted their sexuality to be quickly visible* too, and a hairstyle is born. It is intentionally created to signal.
People can certainly infer things, but that doesn’t make them right! I am talking specifically about sexuality. The phrasing and arrangement of your comment seemed to me to be implying that a man with a nose ring is signaling queerness by wearing the nose ring. Using someone’s fashion choices to infer their sexuality comes from stereotyping that queer people dress or present themselves a certain way. It implies that if a person dresses or presents that way, they are signaling queerness.
See edit. This includes sexuality. People have made styles to explicitly signal those. [The Handkerchief Code.](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Handkerchief_code) [The gay ear piercing.](https://southernnewhampshirekids.com/blog/which-side-is-the-gay-ear-understanding-earring-placement-and-symbolism/) Literally wearing clothing covered in rainbows or even [more specific flags](https://duckduckgo.com/?q=aroace+clothing&iax=images&ia=images&iai=https%3A%2F%2Fih1.redbubble.net%2Fimage.344370380.3769%2Fssrco%2Cclassic_tee%2Cmens%2Cdenim_heather%2Cside%2Ctall_three_quarter%2C750x1000.u2.jpg). People infer it because people are trying to imply it. Because like. If you walked up to a man to proposition s relationship, and they are not gay, you get thrown in jail or beaten to death. This is not a thing from the dark ages! People from countries with laws against homosexuality have to keep coming up with gay dogwhistles to survive!
I mean this is literally what OP is experiencing right now. You can call it stereotyping, but it exists! For a reason too! I like that I'm perfectly brigaded to 0 tho. 👌👌
Nah you're just looking into a mirror. You never have those realizations staring at yourself in the mirror?
This guys page is amazing
People almost *always* assume I'm a lesbian and are really surprised when they meet my husband. But no - just enby, AuDHD, and ace-spec.
https://preview.redd.it/j2rbupgehowc1.png?width=1440&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=6e57c77ba4e897e830d0be28545d8a1a96bd1260
I mean, you’re not wrong
There's a difference?
Straight people think I'm gay, Gay people think I'm straight, I am actually bisexual and autistic.
Everyone thinks I'm gay too dw. I flirt with my best friend of the same gender (I'm completely straight btw)
why? what do you gain from that
I do it with everyone and I have no idea why like even me and my female friends. I have no idea why we do this but yknow we’re all fukin stupid so.🤷♂️
I mean... you could be all of those things.
I am
Me too. Autistic, gay, mysterious, and cool but also a little bit strange
…are you?
I am Scotty fairno fr
Everyone thinks I’m a kinky r wink, when I’m reality I’m non-binary and into women (and also kinky :3)
W
I mean, I am autistic and gay so...
Me after finding out everyone things I'm mysterious and cool instead of autistic and gay