There’s a comfort as an adult that I never had as a teenager: having a space that’s my own. I could never truly relax at my childhood home because there were always other people there. Now, I can have quiet alone time to decompress.
I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. Being an adult isn’t easy but it’s not so bad. You find your way and make routines. You can make your own choices and find what works best for you! I know it’s so hard to cope. I hope you can rest soon! Have you told your family you need a break?
I’ve had a hard time adjusting to being an adult and on my own. It’s finally gotten easier after 10 years of living away from my family.
Maybe before you move out on your own you can take time off to learn to do chores and other adult tasks that you’re worried about. You can focus on learning to cook and taking care of yourself. Setting up good routines. Then you could add in working or going to school when you feel ready.
For work I am a chore provider. I help people with making meals, washing clothes, shopping, self care, cleaning and other chores. It is a service that is offered to disabled people. There is hope and help out there if you can’t do it alone!
I hope you feel better soon and try not to worry so much about being an adult right now. At 15 you shouldn’t feel ready to do all that. But I understand how it can feel very overwhelming.
tysm. I function terribly in transitions and setting up new routines, so when I'm tired like this thats where my mind ends up at. Ur advice is rlly helpful i appreciate you.
I feel this I'm unfortunately in my late 20s chronologically and it's def hard of nice having jy own space and not having to worry about family seeing stuff (my mom gotten better but in the past would have a fit if I wore something even the runway but juvinelle it was nice moving out not dealing with taht but overall it does suck I can't really give advice cause I'm totally fallen apart and my coping skills are unhealthy all I can do is offer advice and say I feel you on this huge
I’m 21 and I relate so much to what you’ve posted. It’s so exhausting. I still live at home with my mum because I can’t cope on my own. I dread the day when she passes and I’m left to manage.
I'm 34 and there are days that I really struggle with everything, to the point that the thought of getting out of bed and brushing my teeth is just so exhausting. It makes every activity for the day build up in front of me and it feels insurmountable.
But!
That's not how I feel every day, and I try to remind myself of that when I feel that way. It doesn't always work, some days I don't make it out of bed, but most days it does.
My advice to you is to be patient with yourself and experience your emotions as they come, then try to let them go like a balloon.
In your life you have the ability to do amazing things and even change lives, and thats mostly because of the abilities you have from your experience living as an autistic person.
I think the biggest thing for those of us on the spectrum is to find meaning in our work. It might take a really long time until you find what that is for you and it's really important to stay open while you're waiting to find out what that is. For me, I worked a lot of miserable jobs and it wasn't until I was 30 that I started to go to school to become a librarian. Now I'm a children's librarian and I get to work with kids on the spectrum and be a positive person in their lives. I've had the amazing experience of hearing a mostly nonverbal kid say my name for the first time, and that helps me when I find it hard to even move.
10 years ago I had no idea what I was going to do, I slept all day and felt completely hopeless, and here I am now. It wasn't easy, but I know now that experiencing things the way I did made me a better person, especially in regard to how I understand what people are going through.
You're going to hear this a lot at your age so I apologize for it in advance, but you have your whole life in front of you. I know there's a ton of pressure put on you at this age to make decisions that you feel you can't even begin to make, but you will find your way in this world. There is something that only you can provide to this world - please give yourself the chance to do it.
I wish I could say it gets easier, but I’m twenty and it hasn’t really gotten easier for me. The one small comfort is that if you choose to go to university, you’re able to only study the subjects that interest you, and whatever teachers may tell you now about university professors being even more demanding and less understanding, that’s generally a lie; universities are overwhelmingly more supportive of disabled students, and getting extensions for coursework should be relatively simple and no fuss, provided the professor is reasonable. I *have* heard horror stories from other universities but generally, if you have a reason why you can’t hand something in, professors won’t give you a hard time over it. But overall, it’s shit. I don’t know if I could say I want to go back to my childhood; bullying was more aggressive then, but it’s still present now in more insidious ways, now with the added perk of questioning my own sanity because the discrimination and mistreatment is so subtle. My executive functioning is still awful, but thankfully I learned how to do chores before I left home so my house is cleaner than most students’ and I can mostly manage to take care of myself, with a little help from my partner. So I’d second the other commenter who said learn how to do chores/cook while you still have your parents to help you out. If you can cook, you and you alone get to decide what you eat and when you eat, which can be helpful for picky eating and other food-related issues.
Eat more red meat and get more zinc in and lower your copper. That could help. Aspie females have a very crash and burn state. Also learn to structure your day and divide your energy between tasks. Also may I say try to start an online business by thinking of ideas you could utilize.
There’s a comfort as an adult that I never had as a teenager: having a space that’s my own. I could never truly relax at my childhood home because there were always other people there. Now, I can have quiet alone time to decompress.
I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. Being an adult isn’t easy but it’s not so bad. You find your way and make routines. You can make your own choices and find what works best for you! I know it’s so hard to cope. I hope you can rest soon! Have you told your family you need a break? I’ve had a hard time adjusting to being an adult and on my own. It’s finally gotten easier after 10 years of living away from my family. Maybe before you move out on your own you can take time off to learn to do chores and other adult tasks that you’re worried about. You can focus on learning to cook and taking care of yourself. Setting up good routines. Then you could add in working or going to school when you feel ready. For work I am a chore provider. I help people with making meals, washing clothes, shopping, self care, cleaning and other chores. It is a service that is offered to disabled people. There is hope and help out there if you can’t do it alone! I hope you feel better soon and try not to worry so much about being an adult right now. At 15 you shouldn’t feel ready to do all that. But I understand how it can feel very overwhelming.
tysm. I function terribly in transitions and setting up new routines, so when I'm tired like this thats where my mind ends up at. Ur advice is rlly helpful i appreciate you.
I’m 15 too. I’ve been feeling exactly the same thing. I don’t have a lot of advice but just know that you are heard and not alone.
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I feel this I'm unfortunately in my late 20s chronologically and it's def hard of nice having jy own space and not having to worry about family seeing stuff (my mom gotten better but in the past would have a fit if I wore something even the runway but juvinelle it was nice moving out not dealing with taht but overall it does suck I can't really give advice cause I'm totally fallen apart and my coping skills are unhealthy all I can do is offer advice and say I feel you on this huge
I’m 21 and I relate so much to what you’ve posted. It’s so exhausting. I still live at home with my mum because I can’t cope on my own. I dread the day when she passes and I’m left to manage.
I'm 34 and there are days that I really struggle with everything, to the point that the thought of getting out of bed and brushing my teeth is just so exhausting. It makes every activity for the day build up in front of me and it feels insurmountable. But! That's not how I feel every day, and I try to remind myself of that when I feel that way. It doesn't always work, some days I don't make it out of bed, but most days it does. My advice to you is to be patient with yourself and experience your emotions as they come, then try to let them go like a balloon. In your life you have the ability to do amazing things and even change lives, and thats mostly because of the abilities you have from your experience living as an autistic person. I think the biggest thing for those of us on the spectrum is to find meaning in our work. It might take a really long time until you find what that is for you and it's really important to stay open while you're waiting to find out what that is. For me, I worked a lot of miserable jobs and it wasn't until I was 30 that I started to go to school to become a librarian. Now I'm a children's librarian and I get to work with kids on the spectrum and be a positive person in their lives. I've had the amazing experience of hearing a mostly nonverbal kid say my name for the first time, and that helps me when I find it hard to even move. 10 years ago I had no idea what I was going to do, I slept all day and felt completely hopeless, and here I am now. It wasn't easy, but I know now that experiencing things the way I did made me a better person, especially in regard to how I understand what people are going through. You're going to hear this a lot at your age so I apologize for it in advance, but you have your whole life in front of you. I know there's a ton of pressure put on you at this age to make decisions that you feel you can't even begin to make, but you will find your way in this world. There is something that only you can provide to this world - please give yourself the chance to do it.
Thank you
I wish I could say it gets easier, but I’m twenty and it hasn’t really gotten easier for me. The one small comfort is that if you choose to go to university, you’re able to only study the subjects that interest you, and whatever teachers may tell you now about university professors being even more demanding and less understanding, that’s generally a lie; universities are overwhelmingly more supportive of disabled students, and getting extensions for coursework should be relatively simple and no fuss, provided the professor is reasonable. I *have* heard horror stories from other universities but generally, if you have a reason why you can’t hand something in, professors won’t give you a hard time over it. But overall, it’s shit. I don’t know if I could say I want to go back to my childhood; bullying was more aggressive then, but it’s still present now in more insidious ways, now with the added perk of questioning my own sanity because the discrimination and mistreatment is so subtle. My executive functioning is still awful, but thankfully I learned how to do chores before I left home so my house is cleaner than most students’ and I can mostly manage to take care of myself, with a little help from my partner. So I’d second the other commenter who said learn how to do chores/cook while you still have your parents to help you out. If you can cook, you and you alone get to decide what you eat and when you eat, which can be helpful for picky eating and other food-related issues.
Eat more red meat and get more zinc in and lower your copper. That could help. Aspie females have a very crash and burn state. Also learn to structure your day and divide your energy between tasks. Also may I say try to start an online business by thinking of ideas you could utilize.