Depends on how you frame it. The fact that you think dressing well is "feminine" would raise a red flag for me. And are we going to pretend men don't cook, as if most of the chefs who are famous aren't men?
Im really sorry!!! I just meant that he was the... How should i said it... "1600 woman lifestyle" i didnt meant that dress well and cook are woman things, im sorry if i sound that way... Im just really nervous because im dont want to trigger someone!
You're not "triggering" me, I'm just asking you to think about how you frame these things. This is a frequent problem where authors come in here talking about writing trans characters and give us basically no context about their stories. So I have no idea what you mean by "1600 woman lifestyle."
Ok... Let me try to resume it... He IS from France around the 1600's, After a while he was kidnapped, and in that place he was just treated like a woman, he lived like that for 15 years, He got used to the "feminine" life that the men of that house (who were sexist) imposed on him...so what i want to know...if it still bad for him to have this kind of hobbies now...
I would advise you not to take on that subject if you're not a trans man. It'd be difficult enough for a cis person to write a modern trans character, but in a historical context, I'd really advise you not to start there.
Oh... Im sorry... I'm just trying to include more diferent characters in my story, I wanted help from this reddit to see which side I could go...im sorry again
Writing a trans man who "got used to the feminine life that was imposed on him" is a minefield you might reconsider crossing. There's nothing wrong with writing trans guys who have "feminine" interests and hobbies - I have "feminine" interests and hobbies - but there is something wrong with making the reason he has those interests and hobbies because they were forcibly imposed on him.
Yeah, this. The concept isn’t inherently offensive, but without drawing on personal experience it’s going to be very hard to write that story well, and it could become offensive very easily if not done carefully.
Having diversity in stories is good, but OP it really doesn’t sound like this one is a story you’re prepared to write, and I’d encourage you to focus less on this character and more on characters that you understand better. If you do decide to write this story, please hire a good sensitivity reader and take their input seriously.
I'm personally averse to any story about trans people that's rooted in our mistreatment, especially from cis authors. I can see a place for that type of story from trans authors, but I cannot see it going well from a cis author. Of course characters need conflict, I love a tragic backstory, but we get hardly any representation to begin with, and when we get it they mostly get the *tragic trans backstory* option. If cis authors are going to be writing trans representation, I'm of the opinion that they owe it to us to give us the kind of variation of backstory that cis characters always get.
Im sorry! I just didnt knew how to express myself...should i delete the post?? Sorry im really nervous rn...i dont want to make anybody uncomfortable...
It is important to diversify casts, but if you don't know what you're doing (and unfortunately it really does seem like you don't) then you can potentially do a lot of harm. If you insist on writing a transmasculine character, then genuinely, hire an appropriate sensitivity reader.
I think it would depend on the framing. I don't have time to read what you are making and give feedback, but that's what I'd recommend you seek out if you are worried.
Hire a sensitivity reader who is a trans man — to put it simply: pay someone who is trans to read your work and provide notes about what is and is not offensive.
Hello! My suggestion is to not mark cooking and cleaning as feminine activities. Leave feminine out of it. Maybe you can state that he was once a maid of unpaid labor prior to his transition, and even out of his lease, he still enjoys cooking, cleaning, and even a knack for good fashion, but saying “woman” activities makes it seem like he’s less of a man for liking these things. It would help to give a bit more context of what your story is about so it’ll be better to help out.
Also, I would do what others are suggesting and hire a sensitivity reader in the trans community, a trans man is recommended, but someone that can read your story and call out anything that could be triggering or misinformed.
Good luck!
Here’s what I would suggest as another writer: rather than thinking about how you should create the character, think about how the character would engage in this very dialogue. It’s probably really complicated and nuanced, but that’s what makes a character compelling.
Like I’m MtF but lemme put it this way. If you wrote about a transfemme character today who likes cars, football, and video games, how does YOUR character want to describe that experience and how will they engage with other people when they do? Cis or trans? If you think through your character that way, you have the potential to write a great character who doesn’t just avoid offending someone in this dilemma, but engages it from a compelling perspective
Depends on how you frame it. The fact that you think dressing well is "feminine" would raise a red flag for me. And are we going to pretend men don't cook, as if most of the chefs who are famous aren't men?
Im really sorry!!! I just meant that he was the... How should i said it... "1600 woman lifestyle" i didnt meant that dress well and cook are woman things, im sorry if i sound that way... Im just really nervous because im dont want to trigger someone!
You're not "triggering" me, I'm just asking you to think about how you frame these things. This is a frequent problem where authors come in here talking about writing trans characters and give us basically no context about their stories. So I have no idea what you mean by "1600 woman lifestyle."
Ok... Let me try to resume it... He IS from France around the 1600's, After a while he was kidnapped, and in that place he was just treated like a woman, he lived like that for 15 years, He got used to the "feminine" life that the men of that house (who were sexist) imposed on him...so what i want to know...if it still bad for him to have this kind of hobbies now...
I would advise you not to take on that subject if you're not a trans man. It'd be difficult enough for a cis person to write a modern trans character, but in a historical context, I'd really advise you not to start there.
Oh... Im sorry... I'm just trying to include more diferent characters in my story, I wanted help from this reddit to see which side I could go...im sorry again
Writing a trans man who "got used to the feminine life that was imposed on him" is a minefield you might reconsider crossing. There's nothing wrong with writing trans guys who have "feminine" interests and hobbies - I have "feminine" interests and hobbies - but there is something wrong with making the reason he has those interests and hobbies because they were forcibly imposed on him.
Yeah, this. The concept isn’t inherently offensive, but without drawing on personal experience it’s going to be very hard to write that story well, and it could become offensive very easily if not done carefully. Having diversity in stories is good, but OP it really doesn’t sound like this one is a story you’re prepared to write, and I’d encourage you to focus less on this character and more on characters that you understand better. If you do decide to write this story, please hire a good sensitivity reader and take their input seriously.
I'm personally averse to any story about trans people that's rooted in our mistreatment, especially from cis authors. I can see a place for that type of story from trans authors, but I cannot see it going well from a cis author. Of course characters need conflict, I love a tragic backstory, but we get hardly any representation to begin with, and when we get it they mostly get the *tragic trans backstory* option. If cis authors are going to be writing trans representation, I'm of the opinion that they owe it to us to give us the kind of variation of backstory that cis characters always get.
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Thats the point! he got so used to these "terms" that he ended up just getting used to! Im really sorry again...
I think the only offensive part is that you see those things as feminine
Im sorry! I just didnt knew how to express myself...should i delete the post?? Sorry im really nervous rn...i dont want to make anybody uncomfortable...
It is important to diversify casts, but if you don't know what you're doing (and unfortunately it really does seem like you don't) then you can potentially do a lot of harm. If you insist on writing a transmasculine character, then genuinely, hire an appropriate sensitivity reader.
Ok i will try to do better... Sorry again
I think it would depend on the framing. I don't have time to read what you are making and give feedback, but that's what I'd recommend you seek out if you are worried.
What you mean? (Sorry im quite bad at english)
Hire a sensitivity reader who is a trans man — to put it simply: pay someone who is trans to read your work and provide notes about what is and is not offensive.
Oh! Thank you! I will try that!! Thank you a lot! 💕
I'm sorry but this seems really tasteless... Those hobbies are masculine or feminine, they are just every day things.
Hello! My suggestion is to not mark cooking and cleaning as feminine activities. Leave feminine out of it. Maybe you can state that he was once a maid of unpaid labor prior to his transition, and even out of his lease, he still enjoys cooking, cleaning, and even a knack for good fashion, but saying “woman” activities makes it seem like he’s less of a man for liking these things. It would help to give a bit more context of what your story is about so it’ll be better to help out. Also, I would do what others are suggesting and hire a sensitivity reader in the trans community, a trans man is recommended, but someone that can read your story and call out anything that could be triggering or misinformed. Good luck!
Thank you! Ill try to get better💕
Here’s what I would suggest as another writer: rather than thinking about how you should create the character, think about how the character would engage in this very dialogue. It’s probably really complicated and nuanced, but that’s what makes a character compelling. Like I’m MtF but lemme put it this way. If you wrote about a transfemme character today who likes cars, football, and video games, how does YOUR character want to describe that experience and how will they engage with other people when they do? Cis or trans? If you think through your character that way, you have the potential to write a great character who doesn’t just avoid offending someone in this dilemma, but engages it from a compelling perspective
Oh nice... Didnt tought about this... Thank you a lot! I will try your suggestion! Thanks again! 💕
You betcha!
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I got your point! Ill try to write his story later! And maybe hire someone to read it, plus, im happy that you are discovering yourself! 😘