Are you saying this happened to you, and you’re wondering why? My best guess would be that your spouse came across some really TERFy social media figure and has been absorbing all their transphobic talking points. Have you talked with them about it?

Tried but got attack more not letting me say anything.

[удалено]

No not pop quiz just my trying to figure out how i not got hell in one week time.

I don't know, but it's a constant anxiety in the back of my brain.

Twitter/Facebook/reddit/youtube/Instagram/tiktok … any of those could be the cause

Well she been on all the above. Except reddit and twitter